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Eh? So you're saying I should treat my husband different to my children but I should do some things the same. So essentially there is just some overlap but mostly I should treat him different. So I should not mother him? And there is a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 11:20 AM
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Because if you were you would know it would be incredibly strange to treat your life partner the same way as your kids, to call it a false dichotomy
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 07:05 AM
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Are you married with kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 12:14 PM
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Not really, in most guys I know treat it like an ick.... Is it just the men in your life?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 12:13 PM
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I think this is probably a fair point. If you view all women as little girls, then how do you distinguish between younger girls who are just really are little girls and older women who are not
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 12:11 PM
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Yeah they're not. Neither are most men willing to do that for their wives. BUT there are some women who would want to do that. They are quite controlling. But I believe in you. You can find them
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 12:10 PM
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That's very black and white. Women dont always find a man to meet their needs. Needs that are met within a marital relationship is different to your needs in a parent-child relationship. No most men do not like fathering a wife in that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 10:54 PM
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This isn't even a gender thing. What man wants a little girl to look after?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 10:52 PM
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Ok, so as a mother I would treat my child like they have no idea what to do, and would have to do things for them like tidying, cleaning, but I would also restrict what they can do, they won't be able to make many decisions without me, and I would have a large say in their life. Same with my husband to our daughter (again we don't do this to one another). If that's what you want, then it's good to have that knowledge. There will be girls who prefer that
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 10:51 PM
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Often I find it's used to deflect an issue or talking point. If someone brings up the need for divorce, those on the red pill tend to say they should have chose better.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 08:08 PM
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It tends to be they didn't treat them like s*** they treated them amazingly or tapped into some psychological need that they desperately wanted. And then slowly introduce the abuse a little bit by bit an increase it. It ends up being like drugs, where you are chasing the amazing high you got at the beginning. The majority of people will leave if someone is abuse right at the beginning
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 08:07 PM
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Every time Taylor swift gets cheated on she hears a cash register go KACHING
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 08:02 PM
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Same with men. There are loads of men who will bring in a abusive woman into their kids life. Who will end up hurting them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 08:00 PM
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I kind of half agree with what everyone else is saying and I wouldn't really say it. I might instead say you should not have ignored the red flags, if they were red flags. But I agree with your point generally in that if you willingly chose to overlook issues to try and pursue a relationship with somebody who was Peter cheater or financially exploitative or something like that, or you constantly go for someone who has that and doesn't learn from it, then yes it might say something along those li…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 07:59 PM
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It could be more of a reflection on op and what he needs from a future partner. Maybe he does need mothering
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:06 PM
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That was a strange read. But To count to your point... Can I think it's more than possible to nurture and care for somebody in multiple ways. A mentor or a work boss does nurture and care for their employees, But that does not equal to parenting. The same way I would argue my husband definitely nurtures, supports and cares for me. But not in the same way that he would my daughter. Cuz she is a child and he needs to do more for her. Me on the other hand I am his partner, not a child whose entire …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:05 PM
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Well short guys do have a harder. But usually it's not stats that you're pulling out. I mean this study wasn't even a study it was a blog.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 06:37 AM
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... But it's not a study.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 11:36 PM
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Narrow but diverse?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 11:34 PM
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Maybe they're not going around chasing yourself, but I've seen and known lots of women chase men and they aint the same men
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 11:34 PM
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So women only desire the top 10% of men? Based off a blog?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 09:18 PM
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Ok Cupid study? Can you link? Is it peer reviewed?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 08:04 PM
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Do you have children?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 07:27 AM
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Oh my god more parroting.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 03:59 AM
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Do you just live in a world where having to prove you didn't cheat constantly is the norm?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 03:58 AM
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So would any woman who never cheated.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 03:57 AM
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Reasonable. But you should decide together if you want to know because that can mess people up emotionally.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 03:57 AM
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You. Are. Accusing. Your. Girl. Of. Cheating. It. Is. About. Her.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 03:55 AM
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You have been given loads of examples of when this doesn't mean that. But repeat yourself like a parrot. Engage in the conversation or step out.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 03:52 AM
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I can't be trusted? My boy, no one on this earth would trust anyone to raise a kid with anyone if they are that thickle. Also what's point of this point? You haven't engaged with any actual discussion other than repeat the same thing with no thought or real explanation. Take some time, live in the real world, and then come back with some original thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 03:39 AM
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Why do you have to assume she cheated?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 03:29 AM
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My baby is her daddy's, beyond unknown sexual assault (which how tf would that happen?), baby being swapped at birth or he's chrimera, all my kids are his. But if he asked for a DNA test, he better have a good reason or it's coming with divorce papers. Marriage needs trust. If you don't trust me without a good reason then we have an issue. Otherwise I might as well demand he take a lie detector regularly and say if he objects then I must assume he cheated Edit to add: reading your comments. I th…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 03:27 AM
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Ooh I see. You're one of those
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 05:59 AM
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I agree with everyone else, if you want to leave leave. But if you feel you want to leave over every small thing they don't do, especially when it has little impact on you directly (i.e., getting a tattoo) then it's unhealthy and comes across as immature. There's also other factors to think about. Someone you started seeing, fine. Buy Leaving your wife or husband because they won't do a specific sex act.... I think it's a bit immature. But go ahead. Threatening to leave, yes that's coercive. I w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 05:59 AM
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Depends on the situation. People change.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 05:50 PM
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I regularly hear women to stop picking idiots, and I believe lots of men do the same. But in red pill community i noticed when a woman says men can be x, y or z they said well you should pick better. But they themselves will complain women are whatever else.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 05:14 PM
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Really because every time a man tells a story about his divorce I have never heard a red pill man say you should have chosen better. But to be honest the answer is is a stupid thing to say for most of the time whether it's a man or a woman. Most of the time people change, or circumstances change. You know most people get divorced after having a kid... There is a very good reason for that and it's not because the person wasn't a great and loving person beforehand. It's a different situation. It c…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 05:06 PM
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Why don't guys tell other guys to choose better? If a woman taking you to court, taking your kids away, getting all your money, possibly not having your child.... Why are constantly about these women rather than saying choose better Generally curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 04:46 PM
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You are the fountain of knowledge I suppose.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 07:31 PM
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That's the context. You made her/him think it or knew that's what she/he wanted and were pretending to go with it. I generally agree if you didn't actually find out then it's kind of on you. But we're talking about someone misleading you
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 07:31 PM
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I wouldn't say 99% of the time. But I don't know how much of that is true or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 07:29 PM
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Not all consequences fall on men. You guys just make it a guy Vs girl thing. Girls emotionally manipulate men to, I've seen it happen loads where she's just using him for sex because it makes her feel better about herself, the fool falls for it thinking he's found the one. And the guy gets hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 07:26 PM
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I mean both is a dick head thing to do. But I'd rather be ripped off for food than someone get my hopes up that I found someone meaningful and then just use me for my body and fck off. But if you would rather that emotional rollercoaster, more power to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 07:25 PM
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Or she thought you were serious and legitimately trying to continue a serious relationship. Not that you were pretending. Sometimes you sleep with someone because you like them and feel it's going somewhere. But if someone was pretending.... Well. Then they were using them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 07:23 PM
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Yea that is frustrating too. It's because they're holding out hope you'd change your mind or playing it cool. People should just be honest and aceept the situation
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 07:21 PM
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Yea that's fine. But if you are purposely pretending you are looking for something serious and then ditching.... Then that's lying
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 07:19 PM
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Oh god that sounds intense. Literally just wait until a moment comes up, like... When you're talking about how long you've been dating for, you might ask "are you thinking of something serious". Like it's not deep. Guys ask me stuff like this on dates, I've been asked that by friends. Have you ever dated?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 07:18 PM
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It just seems just seems like you're trying to throw it back on the other person. Just because you have a poor judge of character, or if somebody is trying to deceive you, doesn't mean you're not being used. It just means you can't tell you're being used.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 02:10 PM
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I think it is possible to use someone just for sex. And don't get me wrong some people like being used. But what I would think of it as is either being dishonest about situationship. For example if you're pretending like this is something you see in the future, being really romantic and playing the role of boyfriend or girlfriend. Talking about future dates and showing a super sensitive considerate side of you. And then Wham, as soon as you have sex you don't bother to even talk to them again. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 02:07 PM
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Quite a few people actually. Lots of people talk about what they're looking for when they go on a first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 02:02 PM
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You know... I don't completely disagree with this. However, I think I could tell you if you were doing something that put me off. So I think take the advice with a pinch of salt.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 10:26 AM
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I think it should depend on your position on gender norms. If you are a person whose values reflect that a man should be the provider and the woman should be the care or maintainer. Then it makes sense that you reflect those values and pay for the date. If you want a relationship where it's more equal contributions and you have I don't know more equal say or whatever then yeah you shouldn't be expecting somebody to pay. My position also is if you are the type of person who wants to date to marry…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 06:27 PM
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I find the competing with a top 10-20% of men stat a little bit silly to be honest with you, and misleading. Like This is only based on one study for how people behaved on one online platform. And it wasn't even peer-reviewed, It was just push out as some marketing. And even then they didn't even report how many people women we're actually contacting... Like to be fair on the study... I've actually seen something along these lines where one guy gets a lot of attention from girls... But those sam…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 02:46 PM
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Looking sexy ain't that easy... I've been trying for years
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 07:03 PM
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I mean yea she's a 6-month old lol she doesn't really know what I'm saying, let alone what a boundary is. Although even with boundaries I find depending on the child and what the child's needs are, for some kids helping them manage their emotions can be a draining and emotional task, Which is with it and necessary,. whereas other kids they take to it straight away.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 09:03 AM
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I think it depends on the person and what their skills are and what they enjoy best. For some people they absolutely love staying at home with the kids. For some people they love their job. I love my baby to bits. But Jesus Christ doing anything is challenging. If I try to tidy she comes in and interrupts me. I have ADHD. What was I doing 5 minutes ago? I don't know. I tried to do it but she just kept calling me back. Does she actually want anything? No she just wants me to sit there and then I …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 07:37 AM
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I feel like the people who actually are affected by this though, are the women who expected to be married by their late twenties. And usually those women were looking for marriage and a boyfriend to commit, very keenly mid-20s. The problem was they're so desperate by the guys went for girls who were a bit more normal probably. And I'm saying this as somebody who early twenties wanted to get a boyfriend straight away. Wanted to be married by mid to late twenties. And it just didn't work out for m…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 09:15 AM
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This is pretty much the answer. It's not that common to find it that hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 12:16 AM
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Go for it. What two consenting people do is up to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 08:40 PM
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There's a market for everything
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 08:47 AM
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AHH to be young and dumb on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 02:29 PM
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Then why are there loads of guys who rejected but aren't called nice guys
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 05:01 PM
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I disagree. I think men are more relaxed about standards. And there is a small group of men who will go for anything for various reasons..but most have a standard and get the ick too. I would say sometimes women's standards are a bit more, and need to chill a bit. But this is anecdotal
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 06:21 PM
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I think this is true on both sides.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 10:38 AM
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So you're saying the water isn't really a swamp?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 09:33 PM
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Another factor to consider into the stats as a covariate is how many of those are not due to adultery and cheating, but rather children being swapped at birth. Which is shockingly a big more frequent than barely ever. Also some of those who are confident maybe so because of the due date and estimated conception date may have given them a false sense of over confidence. They knew the woman had other partners but thought those figures prove it's theirs. When in reality those were inaccurate. I'm s…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 02:59 PM
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Just out of curiosity... Do you have a long term partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 02:32 AM
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I think that's more about being good looking than age. If it had the choice of anyone who was remotely attractive over someone who was unattractive, then I'd pick the first.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 02:26 AM
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"but at the same time every single woman seems to have at least one experience of dating older?" How old? The oldest I've dated is 5 years. That was a bit much for me personally (ageism I know). Also having your shit together looks different at 21 than it does at 34, both are fine and attractive, but are different priorities.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 02:18 AM
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Cray Cray behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/24 11:05 AM
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My ex was massive, if he knew how to use it, he would have been incredible in bed.... But he didn't. And it was the most sexually frustrating relationship I have ever had.. I very rarely finished. It's like all show no substance The next one was I think about average size, maybe a bit smaller, but the best I ever had. It's not "the motion in the ocean" compensates or hides some flaw, it's more that it is the main event. I'd say the size is more like the baggy clothes in your analogy. I wish I co…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 09:55 AM
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Maybe
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 06:09 PM
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Women don't really get intimidated by a man career.... Unless it's like a war criminal or something
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 03:56 PM
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While I agree with you some people can be absolute dicks, and can keep people on the hook. That is keep someone around for attention... Some of your thoughts are why people say the friend zone isnt real. Your last paragraph you lost me... I agree if you find yourself having feelings for a friend and then get turned down maybe you need some space from them... But then it reads as though.... It reads as though you don't know if you were friends before or not. What normally happens is this person w…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 09:08 AM
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Alimony to protect people against issues which are happening with a lot of stay at home wives. They get married, stay at home and raise a family, don't work, they do what the red pill community says is their obligation. Only for years down the line be divorced and end up with no financial security or employment prospects. Some guys use this as a way of destroying their now ex wife so she's homeless and left to still raise the child and bear the cost for that child, so they can leave for a 20 yea…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 11:38 AM
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Fun fact, most of these posts are actually created by a small proportion of people, who often have multiple accounts. But they make most of these posts, so it seems like it's loads of people but it's really not.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/24 09:49 AM
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I think some girls like it. It's what you want that's forbidden, or often it makes you feel superior, better, etc. It's often less about the guy and more about the feeling of being on top or better... Not always but often. You might often hear of the other woman constantly putting the main one down, that's not always because they want to be better for the guy, but to prove they won the competition. But from what I've noticed you rarely get guys comparing themselves with the other guy (you may ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 08:44 PM
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You don't get wet for Benjamin Franklin's.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 05:26 AM
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What I consider a high value man is someone who have values, is trustworthy, and a partner... If you have 10 other baby mommas you are not those things
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 07:01 PM
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It usually is the way for how these stats get presented..I'm reading a book which describes how statistics get over simplified, and the author is trying to show the reality is more complicated
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 10:21 AM
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Does gender differences in political views really mean there's a war? I don't vote the same as my husband, we are chill. We're entitled to our views.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 10:20 AM
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Nooo.. no that's not true. There are four types I encountered: 1) I'm being nice to you because I fancy you and want to bang. It's an obvious type of flirting which is nice and respectful. If you aren't into that I will say thanks for your time and walk away. Whether you bang her or not, if you see her in need of help you will help, the same with a guy who you don't want to bang <- decent guy, takes rejection well. Sometimes they may even end up friends. 2) I'm being nice to you because I see yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 07:51 PM
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Yes, and it's the same the other way around. But that doesn't mean don't ever be vulnerable. Like show a small amount and increase it steadily as things get closer and more serious. As the relationship gets deeper you shower a deeper side.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 10:42 PM
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Dicks feel different, but lots of things can vary. The size, shape,.... More importantly how comfortable you are being you, chemistry (major), obviously being down to do it, respect for them, position, time of the month.... Etc. those things help. So those things help the D feel better.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 06:26 PM
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I agree with this! I do find certain feminist or women spaces do get in their own head about their victimhood and how they need to shut out "toxic" people, when they just disagree with them. I have my suspicions on that, but I also think many women are getting better on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 05:45 PM
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Jesus
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 06:45 AM
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Those are just swiped on dating apps. There's not that much evidence that it gets beyond that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 11:13 AM
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Also women are whores who give it up to a string loads of guys, despite most of them not being attractive???
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 11:09 AM
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I would have thought anyone on certain dark triad features would be more attractive regardless....
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 10:35 AM
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AND ONLY MONEY! THE MORE MONEY YOU HAVE THE MORE WOMEN WANT YOU, ONLY MEN WITH LOADS OF MONEY WILL GET A WOMAN. ITS PROVEN. Lol sorry I couldn't help myself
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 07:13 AM
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I have a very controversial opinion here... People with identity issues and poor mental health, are the most susceptible to these trends
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 08:14 PM
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Not really. There are loads of people who aren't the richest and are starting out, but have personality, life goals, values, honour, emotional support. There are loads of stuff you can do with an entry level job that makes you interesting. Go fo walks, be interested in art, read, be in university, have ambition. People are more than their money. Money isn't going to make you a good or interesting person if deep down you are a bore. Is this what you are telling young men? Not to work on their cha…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 06:44 AM
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Yea I don't think those things work as easy as you think they do. Loads of people with money have poor hygiene. I know more people with money who are immature than worldly... But even then I said personality, life goals and values. But hey, if you want to trap girls with cheese, go get them rats
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 09:39 PM
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It can help with those things. But even then it's not like you need millions to look good. But also it's not just money or beauty... It's personality, values, chemistry, humour, life goals
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 05:15 PM
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Depends, she may like his personality, his humour, she maybe passionately in love with him for reasons beyond his money. I can See Hamilton being the type of guy who gives more than just money. But if you are married to a guy you don't care about beyond the money... Well itches need scratching.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 03:20 PM
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It really really doesn't... If you use cheese don't be surprised when you trap only rats.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 03:12 PM
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I agree that the dating field is set up for women to be more selective, where men have to do more to attract women and women are a bit more selective. However, from what I've seen and know about dating preferences, this is a small part of a bigger picture for men and women want from relationships... To discuss your main assumption at your point, men seek to get laid and get upset when they don't have it. I agree, I think there are more men who want this than women, but men want much more than ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 08:06 AM
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Could there be another bigger factor here too... such as where you are in your life plus personality. Yes if you are not looking for much more because you are younger and have no desire to settle, then just hooking up, is fine. If you are older, then your priorities are more likely to be wanting stimulating conversation and affection.... Perhaps if you have had so many hook ups, there is a point where you do want relationships? To put it in your own words, it wasnt so much a hot streak but want …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 07:33 AM
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Aahhh wait I missed a bit when I wrote it. Hope it's better, but if it's personal just delete it. I just wanted to make the point other people could make mean comments about based on their behaviour, doesn't mean they should.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 03:39 PM
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Edited to remove you
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 03:25 PM
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"She's free to do whatever she wants and men are free to call her as the free hole she show to be" And I'm free to call you a loser, a virgin, insecure, bad in bed, Incel.... Etc. All the things you show to be. Should I? No. Why be mean to people?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 07:12 AM
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Agree there's no hard and fast tule, but I still think experience makes you more likely to be better. I would say being able to communicate is helpful, but having the opportunity to just go for it on someone who you don't feel like you really want to impress is also helpful. Especially experience with a few different people, who want different things, or themselves do different things .. it helps you know what you like, and how to adapt to it. Even learning what people need and communicate takes…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 07:08 AM
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I think it's mostly people who are inexperienced in dating or dating successfully.... Regardless of age.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 08:03 PM
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Tbf don't a lot of red pill people blame women for them being single?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 08:09 AM
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I find it weird that the same men who complain women aren't going for them seem to think they will get 25 year old women when they are old..... or are they different people? I would like this explained if you can help
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 08:04 AM
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Or maybe you are making assumptions and over simplifying about an experience you have not lived, while telling the people who have lived it they are wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 01:50 PM
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No one is telling you if you be nice you get a girlfriend... people are saying, don't be mean or be terrible people. Expecting sex or a gf because you are "nice"... What is actually happening is your boss is telling you how to just to be a generally decent colleague, you do it superficially and with bad intentions, the bad intentions show, and you ask why you aren't getting promoted.... Stating I did everything you wanted... then another person comes along, is nice to people because they are gen…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 01:07 PM
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Hmm that sounds like a lack of accountability to me. You are saying some behave in appropriate because women complain...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 11:10 AM
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Its fine, we've all been there but it's not an attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 05:48 AM
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I don't think that's an attraction but rather desperation... You don't like them, you just like that they like you
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 05:46 AM
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I think you missed the point... Or you legitimately think women stop complaining about men will solve all men's problems for them to stop complaining
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 05:45 AM
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Who needs a replication crisis when you can draw conclusions from wiki stats
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 04:39 AM
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I don't think guys are so shallow that they only want a 9-10 looking woman
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 05:39 PM
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Or* wiki references
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 05:30 PM
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Ok wiki references
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 04:39 PM
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Jesus if the people on this sub were actual statisticians and academics the bar evidence and proof would be low First... What do you mean by the problem???? Be clear what are you saying from this?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 09:29 AM
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It may have worked for ops friend. Will it work all the time as op suggests. No. How do I know? Life experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 07:50 AM
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I think you are oversimplifying something that isn't all that. Also I don't quite understand your references, having less orgasms during casual hooks ups... Does that mean they don't get anything from them at all? And how does that mean they don't have much of a libido?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 03:08 PM
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I can confirm the last part is not true
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 09:43 AM
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I think it's both. I know people who fall deeply in love with someone who is average looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 07:19 AM
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If you want to you can. Just make sure the person you are with is also happy with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 07:21 PM
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I agree with that for the most part. If you are unattractive then you have to work on confidence, health, hygiene, and humour. If you can't change your face there is other stuff to work on
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 07:52 PM
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Maybe guys are looking for something else in girls these days, other than what you perceive to be attractive. I've looked at couples where I thought one was definitely punching, but they were madly in love. Who am I to judge?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 07:50 PM
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I think there's a lot of gaps in your view... In the article it says 20% of women are childless. About a fifth of them actively chose not to or couldn't have kids. But they didn't say why the rest didn't have kids. Maybe they were indifferent, like if it happened it happened, but aren't sad about it. Maybe it was their partner who couldn't or didn't want to. Maybe they aren't in a financial position too. Like... To say they probably want a husband (without knowing how many actually did have a hu…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 07:47 PM
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What is with red pill people over generalising.... you should NEVER do X because all men want this and all women want this....and if someone doesn't want that, they are an exception to the rule that should not be factored.... Based on views on a subreddit where people's views are limited rather than a representative population. How does it make sense??? Wouldn't a more helpful suggestion be, hey if you want to come onto a guy, just be aware he may just want to use you for sex. Not all the time, …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 08:55 AM
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Sometimes I think people make up random reasons for rules of how the sexes should live... like seriously, if you want to come onto a guy do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 08:49 AM
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Sometimes bigger isn't better
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 12:28 PM
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All men want is sex, and when they have sex they are detached, and any hole is a goal. They are basically sluts who will have sex with anything. It took years to realise that it was a massive lie. Men want to feel loved too YGM.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 12:26 PM
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Then I wouldn't say your are an AH to her, but maybe generally a bit cold? But your entitled to be cold if you like.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 04:34 PM
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As this is a CMV... Heres a question. If you weren't into her at all, like didn't like her, would you have said yes? But then in those other examples.... Who were they to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 05:00 AM
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Oh Jesus this is a lot text for victim Olympics... all I have to say is in someways yes and some ways no.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 05:01 PM
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Hmmm id say half maybe, and the other half were chasing 7-9's, when they were clearly a bit under average. Weirdly enough though. What settled it for me (but this anecdotal) it was when I was going back up. When I was starting to get attention again, it was not from the people who were average looking or lower than average (and yes I know looks is subjective but from a society perspective) I was getting more attention from people who were out of my league and super attractive. It's only until I …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 07:35 PM
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Hmm id have to ask around more. But I wasn't an uggo but I wasn't a stunner. I was maybe a 4 at worst a 3.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 07:29 PM
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Fair play. To her.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 05:14 PM
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I don't think I really cared if they were dumpster diving. Hell I've done that, you got an itch you got to scratch it. As long as they weren't throwing insults in my face it would be chill..... But you can't call it dumpster diving if you are punching above your weight or someone is the same level as you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 05:14 PM
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No.... They really weren't. And no, I really couldn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 04:48 PM
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There's a lot of assumptions in this response
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 04:47 PM
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No... I wanted to get laid. It was a struggle.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 04:46 PM
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I wish men were that easy.... It's easier for women I suppose, but it's not easy. When people say this what I think the reality is, is men who struggle to get laid see some average to attractive women who can laid almost whenever they want. Then ignore the women who are actually their level of attractiveness who only have it slightly easier then them, but in reality also struggle and cannot get laid very often. What people who say this really mean is more attractive women can be laid with any ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 03:41 PM
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That is a point. The red pill and general Reddit community like to make loads of a random untested theories in their head.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 09:39 AM
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You can be with a fit guy who looks like he should be in GQ. But if I can't have a conversation with you, I don't enjoy.being with you or you aren't at least somewhat capable.... Those looks get old quickly. It's the same with men on women. The red pill community talks about it as though all men want is looks. Yes for both sexes maybe that's what get you in. But it ain't what makes you stay. I know plenty of guys who'd kick someone who's attractive out the bed after a few nights, of personality …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 08:26 PM
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One woman's high value is another woman's low value.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 08:28 PM
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We don't live in a zero sum game.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 06:07 AM
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What you've been saying is your perception
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 06:02 AM
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Jesus
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 06:02 AM
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So you are saying im distorting events? Could I not say the same for you? You are distorting events. You have a biased out group perspective. Your perceived 'reality' and theorising is based on your own victimisation, because ultimately that is what you are drawing from. I'm just saying coming on here to dismiss someone's experience, but the complain about not being heard.... There's an in interesting level of cognitive dissonance here.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 05:02 AM
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So you are saying my experience is a lie?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 09:08 PM
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Pretty good and thought through answer. Yep I recognise those things too. It's really annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 06:56 AM
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Why can't it be?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 06:54 AM
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Which stat of women did I pull and when did I say men don't matter because of said stat?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 06:53 AM
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I think it's peaks and troths, if I have privilege now (which I totally believe I have a lot more albeit not completely) equality, it's because a lot of work goes into that. 10 -15 years ago completely different story. But if I want something to change im allowed to change it and work towards it. I'm hardly going to say im not going to get my broken toe fixed because it's small and maybe not a whole broken ankle someone else has am I?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 06:53 AM
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Hmmm? Could you not argue the same the other way? Men have evolved to dominate women at times of abuse? The reason im saying this is... The thing that strikes me in this sub is the amount of "WOMEN ARE HORRIBLY PEOPLE WHO DONT CARE ABOUT MEN" And you know I've learnt to adjust my view, to realise actually not only do I hear men dismissing my experiences but men hear it from women. Yet the much of the men don't seem to be taking that realisation, that actually the bashing is going two ways..... M…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 06:50 AM
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Tbf I wouldn't disagree that much. Since the last 10 years life has significantly improved for me. It used to be sh** but thankfully all that complaining worked. The main issues ar no longer much of a problem as they were before. There are still things which are not ideal but ya know. But you know I don't really listen to the opinion of someone who thinks they know something they have never experienced. Whether it's a man talking about a woman or the other way round. And I've learnt never to bel…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 06:47 AM
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You know those videos titles "insert name destroys insert name" and you watch it and realise they didn't. And you think... What kind of mental gymnastics did this person use to think the person was "destroyed". I have a feeling this is the case, but go on ill.engage..... Which bit was I proven wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 06:42 AM
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And When you do anything? It's women complaining of men which is responsible. Sorry couldn't resist!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 01:11 PM
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I mean... You're not wrong (unless you're talking about underage gaps then yea that's messed up for any gender). But essentially, yea I agree with you. Here's a weird thing that I see my fellow women do when they are dating an older man, is they feel their youth makes them better than their fellas ex. Like you're going to get old too.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 01:10 PM
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I suppose we share the feeling
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 06:15 AM
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Sure if you say
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 05:06 PM
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Sounds like you have an image of girls and what their interests are, as opposed to really understanding what their difficulties, experiences and wants are.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 05:37 AM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 05:57 PM
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My view that victim Olympics makes it harder to care about mens issues?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 04:10 PM
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I'm not going to lie that was a long response. But the first comment seemed a bit er.... Like you missed the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 10:58 AM
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Nope I don't think it is either. But I see it more being used as a way to undermine women issues than to raise awareness to issues of men. E.g. Stop complaining about x because men why z But yes there are bias which experience that should be addressed
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 10:16 AM
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Which view?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 10:11 AM
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What did I say that was misandry?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 10:11 AM
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My entire job is dedicated to one area of mens issues
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 09:47 AM
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Yes I agree online women can be dicks. I see it. And it makes it harder to address issues. I'm not sure about in person though. I find online is a bit of an echo chamber. Feel free to send me the post though. Happy to read.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 08:25 AM
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You know you did the thing I told you men do which makes it harder? Play victim Olympics? Again.. Do you want these things to change or are you using it so you don't have to care? Engage meaning fully in the post please.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 08:16 AM
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thanks to a lot of the recent feminist issues there's been a lot to undo the worst. Sexual violence is still a major issue (for me too albeit potentially less reported), however there have been great improvements. I don't know why people are so upset about the gender pay gap. Before my current role I worked in an industry where we compared it. We did find that there was a gender pay gap across three companies. It mostly affected women, but also affected men. Thanks to the exercise we worked to c…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 08:14 AM
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Its ok to be uncomfortable or a bit insecure. Do most men feel that way? In my experience they encourage it more than me. But I agree if you're uncomfortable then you shouldn't be forced to.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 05:18 AM
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Yeah the last point is a big one. I think dating younger used to be easy but now with this economy, you need a 2 income household just to afford rent in many places I live near. But I think it's the type of person as well. We all click differently too. As much as I would never want to date someone 5-10 years older than me, if I was to be completely honest, if I met someone that age who connected with me the same way my husband does (who is 1 year older, and when I was single) then I would say ok…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 05:03 PM
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Maybe I don't personally know those guys, most I know go for people their age, but if they do good for them. I wouldn't want them I still find them borderline annoying. But different strokes for different folks.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 04:57 PM
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Yeah you have to wonder about the women too who go for these guys... Like I don't want to shame either but its like they live in a fantasy land sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 04:54 PM
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My Dm's seem to agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 04:53 PM
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I don't think many women in their 30s ignore that. From my experience they painfully know. But also in my experience guys don't want 20 years olds. I don't want be mean to you ladies... But I work with a lot of great and mature 20 year olds, they still got some growing to do. Not saying that won't be great mom's if they needed but.... It might be better to wait until later. Also as a 30 year old surrounded my 20 year old men and women... I'm ok thanks. I'll stick to my age group. I also find tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 05:26 PM
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I couldn't get laid for over a year if I gave it away.... I think your stats are a bit off.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 05:17 PM
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I've got a 20+ plus. Is that high? Both me and mine have the same when we met, and now we're engaged in very satisfied with just one another. I notice you keep calling it an exception to the rule. When you have to say that repeatedly is it really an exception ? For most people it's just a case of they had a period of being single, and without being blunt they had an itch that needed scratching. But it was hardly a... I need to have sex with everybody and anybody, and some super unhealthy person.…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 05:45 AM
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Especially when your bills go up the older you get
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 11:18 AM
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I mean this question applies to women to. Lets say a super hot dream guy, everythinv you fantasised about, turns up wanting you. What would you do? Ill say tge same thing mine would say about me If you are the type of man who leave me be after making a life long commitment and forming a life together, all for something you wish you when you were younger, then you are the type of man I would hold the door open for so you leave chasing something superficial.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 11:16 AM
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It honestly never affected me and im not a prude. Most guys don't want n numbers is the over 50s but don't want someone low and don't know what they're doing. It's about the person more than anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 05:32 PM
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I see what you mean.... The honest answer is probably not the best but that's ok. Being empathetic will make your first time better for them and maybe you, than if you weren't. I guess because you can adapt to them. But even knowing how to respond and pick up from cues takes a little practice. Plus you may not want to do the things they want you to do, or your natural vibe may not be theirs and that's ok (like you are important too). You may finish a bit early depending on how long you've been h…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 07:31 PM
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Again depends on the person. What's enjoyable for one isn't enjoyable for another.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 07:14 PM
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When I was growing up... Yeah. If you are a moderately attractive guy my girl group thought you were a sex obsessed boy who didn't really care about his girlfriends. Then I made some male friends and boy was I wrong with the problems they came to me with. Turns out, guys have loads of girl issues and aren't that detached from sex, and aren't having casual hook ups wherever. Go figure.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 06:40 PM
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Women don't want someone more interested than them..... I think most women (and men for that fact) don't want someone who is desperate or wants them a 10000x more than you want them. There's a balance. That if what I would find creepy. Most couples usually go through ups and downs of who's into who the most. But usually it doesn't matter... When you are in a healthy relationship of course because you both want no one else. Men are much more interested in sex than women... We its more of a distri…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 06:37 PM
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I see what you are saying by women don't want to be the only thing in a mans life... But I feel like you took it to a whole level with the side piece thing. I think in most relationships people don't want some loser who has nothing going from them. They want someone competent. I vaguely remember some study finding people become more attracted to their partners when they are doing something they are competent in.... But I don't think that's gender specific. Also being someones everything is exhau…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 06:32 PM
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I thought it was the fake super hot guys
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 06:27 PM
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Who would enjoy sex that isn't mutually enjoyable?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 06:27 PM
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They had a strange dick pick they randomly sent me. Nothing wrong with thier penis. The expression on their face and posture was haunting.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 06:25 PM
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Depends on your definition of enough. Also people have different approaches to sex so even if you are great for the next one you maybe bad. So the answer is... Maybe but it's a lot less likely.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 06:24 PM
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Women are abusers too.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 06:21 PM
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Yes this is am issue. I knew a woman who moves her bf in after a month, and was like "I deserve a life too". Like yes! Yes you do! But not at the risk of your children.
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