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I don't want to be objectified by anyone. Objectified = you want access to my body and are not particularly concerned about who it's attached to. Which is why I never appreciate sexually suggestive comments from anyone that I'm not actively in or mutually building toward a sexual relationship with, and a good looking man who oversteps in that way reveals that the only value he's offering me is sex. A truly "high value" man interested in connecting with me on a deeper level won't risk offending m…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 04:56 PM
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For healthy people, it usually doesn't get to that until they have already asked nicely/reminded gently several times and the other party didn't act (which is very disrespectful).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 04:14 PM
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Woman here weighing in that you're the one making "stupid" arguments in this specific thread. Just like women are not a monolith neither are men, and SOME men saying one thing does not make it true for MEN generally. Your sample in this sub is skewed more than the general population toward men with toxic attitudes towards women, is definitely not representative of the population. Edit: are you trying to explain that your question is targeted at the specific men who do think this way? If so that …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 02:55 PM
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...No, trust me, I find men physically attractive. And looks do matter in a sexual way they just aren't everything/enough. You are trying to map your experience of physical attraction into women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 01:58 PM
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Aahh yes I see, thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 03:45 AM
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It depends very much on the woman, but even women who come relatively easily/consistently might not every time especially with a new partner who isn't yet familiar with their specific body. There is a lot more variability between women in what they need to get to orgasm compared to men and it typically takes us longer to get there.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 03:37 AM
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You've got it backwards. You only have your experience as the same man fucking multiple women. The question is about how much the woman's attraction to one man vs another man affects how easily she cums, where she is attracted enough to both of them but one more than the other. You can't possibly know how her level of attraction to you vs someone else is impacting her ability to orgasm. At this point, it's not about arousal, she's aroused in both cases. It's about how comfortable she is (in all …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 03:25 AM
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I don't know what BP is ("blue pill" doesn't seem to fit what you're talking about... Did you mean RP?) but a woman is more likely to have repeat sex with men who please her, so while it's not required there is still selection pressure. The evolutionary purpose of female pleasure in the first place (I'm speculating) is to incentivize the female to have sex not the male; he's after his own pleasure.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 03:06 AM
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No, none of this, you are projecting. Looks matter but so does his personality, character, emotional capacity, maturity, safety etc. I need to be attracted to him as a whole man, not just a male body. I can think "he is attractive" and have no actual desire (or willingness) to sleep with him. And I can have real passionate sexual desire for a man who isn't particularly good looking if I'm attracted enough to his other qualities. A man I've been dating, who is an amazing lover and I was primally …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 02:50 AM
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Or, short men often have a complex about it and that's what is unattractive but they blame it on the part they can't control
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 11:49 PM
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My comment was in response to the post which has nothing to do with what you said. Of course there is a baseline we can mostly agree on like not abusive. That's not inconsistent with what I said. Some women would even be fine with a man that can't have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 11:44 PM
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No, not the same women. Source: I'm one of those women, married (and divorced) a short man, never thought twice about it. It bothered him much more than me. The only thing that registered on my radar at all about his height was his insecurity about it and him not wanting me to wear heels around him.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 02:33 AM
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It's almost as if women are not a monolith that all want the same things in a man...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 02:23 AM
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If you don't want a relationship don't have one? Most humans do, regardless of gender. I very strongly disagree that women on average get more than they give in long term relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 12:25 AM
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I think yours is a very healthy and reasonable expectation of reciprocity AND there are a lot of loud men on this sub who say that's not enough, she had sex sooner with somebody else in her past so she is "treating him worse" than that guy and must just be after his resources.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 02:20 AM
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I feel the opposite, from a woman's perspective. If you're not soft and gentle you better be hot enough to make up for it. But if a man really can't be soft I don't want him no matter how hot he is - he's emotionally repressed and I want a deep, emotionally attuned man.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 05:32 PM
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It would not bother me as long as he's not having sex with her while "waiting" with me. Potentially different if I'm the one wanting to wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 06:02 PM
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Gross
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 09:51 PM
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Reciprocal effort basically. Planning dates, initiating contact, paying for things, small thoughtful gifts etc. And blue pill is just a rejection of what we see as the toxic limiting beliefs of red pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 09:24 PM
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This is funny because... I legit do have sex dreams that trigger me to reach out 🤷🏼‍♀️ good to know it comes across as a line and everyone is doing it. Guess I'll keep those dreams to myself going forward?
/r/seduction09/02/26 02:53 AM
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What about the culture in the USA and UK make you say you wouldn't want a relationship there?
/r/seduction08/02/26 05:52 PM
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Do I also get the option to not bond to the person if I don't want to? If the social stigma is removed does that mean he's guaranteed to not judge me for making the same choice that he did? If those things are a yes, then I would be much more likely to be open to that than I am. I'd still need there to be a vibe though. It's so far from reality that is hard to imagine.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 08:20 PM
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No I would not do that or be ok with that - exclusive means you are exclusive that makes no sense
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 10:42 PM
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Are they still hooking up with the FWB while seeing the person they are "delaying"? If so... Without more context I would say that's probably weird/sketchy depending on how long they've been seeing the person they are "delaying". If it's brand new and they haven't reached a certain level of comfort/trust/connection yet maybe ok? And of course it's always valid to not tolerate that on the other side (as in, not everyone is a match and you can let this one go if you're uncomfortable with it)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 10:04 PM
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What are they pretending, that they want a relationship but really they just want a connection/vibe first? I agree there's no good reason to lie about that, lots of people want that. AND, people can want sex and have valid reasons they only want to do it in a relationship. I really wish I could be more flexible about it - I love sex and I don't have space (or the desire) for a traditional serious relationship right now (recent divorce still causing drama, young child, career, getting settled in …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 05:06 PM
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No. I had a 3+ year LTR with a man that I did not think was good looking (he was kind of ugly if I'm being honest) but I was VERY sexually attracted to him and the sex was daily when we were together and amazing. His body was fine but also not particularly attractive on its own - kind of shapeless despite being an avid runner. If you showed me his picture and asked if I found him attractive I would have said no. But he had an allure. He was confident, flirtatious, intellectually curious, adventu…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 10:13 PM
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Yes you must be attracted, but attraction does not always require you to think someone is good looking
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 06:17 PM
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I don't understand your train of thought at all? And I'm successful in my own right thank you very much. Also I'm in a public service industry, the more successful I am the better the public is served. But even if I weren't, you can be successful without being selfish. I don't understand how those things are related unless you're using people as step stools.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 08:52 PM
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It's not that rare. You are here calling multiple women with lived experience in this liars and calling into question their attraction to their partners... What makes you think you know more about our relationships than we do? Some women affirmatively don't want to see their man cry. Some women affirmatively do. It's not really that hard to figure out which type a particular woman is either, just ask her. Or you can keep believing all women are terrible manipulative gold digging soul suckers and…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 05:08 AM
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We have different definitions of ambition and what it means to be unselfish.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 04:50 AM
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You can be unselfish and still have ambition.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 08:32 PM
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Even if that's true, that doesn't mean they are looking for that now or that they didn't mean it when they say that aren't looking to hookup.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 06:41 PM
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Which women?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 06:37 PM
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I've seen every man I've been in an LTR with cry and continued to be attracted to them for years soo believe what you want ... 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 06:15 PM
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Unselfish doesn't mean weak. But a victim mindset is weak.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 05:24 PM
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People who filter for this are doing you a favor - you do not want to date these women anyway!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 05:20 PM
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Discussing your priorities around travel/how/how often you like to travel is definitely something you can talk about on a first date. I've also been asked, on a first date, if most of my friends are married/have kids. Seemed like a totally normal thing to talk about to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 05:17 PM
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My dad is a crier. Like cries at sad movies, songs, books etc. My mom says the first time she saw him cry she knew she wanted to marry him. I've always seen a man who can cry as an emotionally in-tuned man, a man who's not afraid of vulnerability or big feelings. I want to know my man feels his feelings instead of stuffing them in a locked box.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 05:07 PM
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I find it extremely attractive and such a green flag when men can be emotionally vulnerable and yes, even cry. Every one of my LTR boyfriends has cried with me and it very much increases my feelings of connection, which increases my attraction. I don't expect this level of vulnerability early in a relationship but a man who says he would never cry in front of a woman, or never cry over a woman (especially this one), is a red flag for a man who can't be vulnerable even with someone they love. If …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 05:02 PM
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I've done that but now I prefer low stakes casual first meets like a coffee date, because it sucks to do the vetting/text flirting thing for a while and then when you meet it's immediately obvious that there is NO chemistry, or they don't look like their photos at all, or they chew with their mouth open or whatever. Meeting a person for coffee that you've had little prior interaction with isn't likely to immediately trigger judgement-clouding feelings in my experience but it's a good vibe check …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 07:12 PM
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Ok keep believing what you want because it fits your victim mindset 🤷🏼‍♀️ . Lots of women aren't interested in hookups, with Chad or anyone. Sex exposes women to a lot more vulnerability (both physical and emotional) than it does men, and a lot of RP men seem to not grasp that many women want connection first because they can't really relax and enjoy sex if they don't feel totally physically and emotionally safe, not because we're being manipulative. I am a woman who has used OLD and put similar…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 05:10 PM
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Seriously. So many RP men have a death grip on their narrative that if a man isn't Chad women don't want him/want to have sex with him... because it's easier to be the victim than to make yourself attractive in other ways that you can control 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 04:42 PM
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... All those phrases you mention ("no hookups", "dating intentionally" etc) are in the profile to screen out Chad (and anybody else with different dating priorities from them). It's not a trick - they are not looking for hookups with Chad and if Chad just wants to hookup he should swipe left. What about this is confusing to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 04:28 PM
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... Are your girlfriends/wives starfish? Did the sex start out great and decline over time or was it never great? I know this happens but I'm surprised by the "don't know a single guy" part. I've had several LTRs and only in one did the sex get stale and we were never truly sexually compatible to begin with. The others were hot start to finish and two of them should have ended sooner but we couldn't stop having sex 🙃
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 09:51 PM
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This is a bad and toxic take
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 09:03 PM
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You're misunderstanding. I think what somebody looks like (i.e. physical attractiveness) is less of a factor for women in terms of whether they find a man to be attractive than it is for men. But someone considering a hook up does not have much other information to go on than looks, so it's going to weigh more heavily than if she had the opportunity to get to know him better and appreciate his other attractive qualities.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 05:20 AM
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"Attractive" is subjective and for women not always as rooted in physical appearance as it is for men. For me, as long as I don't find a man physically repulsive, what he looks like isn't super important to my attraction if we have chemistry and connection. Yes I'm more physically attracted based on looks alone to some men than others, but I've had very high desire for years for a partner who would probably be considered below average physical attractiveness (and at the time, when I was 21, I'd …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 05:05 AM
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I disagree. For me, the stronger our connection the higher my libido and I think this is common. So if he stops prioritizing connection with her because he already "has" her after commitment, that's the real cause. I have only ever "lost attraction" in a relationship once and it happened after he started taking me for granted and I didn't feel fully desired as a whole person anymore. This is what is happening when women point to lack of support/partnership as a reason for their loss of attractio…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 04:17 AM
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You just posted an AI Overview as if it were facts and then accused women of not coming in good faith to these convos...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 04:33 AM
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Not liking random dick pics doesn't mean we don't like dicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 04:09 AM
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I have never once heard a real life heterosexual adult woman say she thought male bodies or male genitalia in general were gross. I'm 39. They might think some male bodies/genitals are gross, or that dick pics are gross, or that it's gross when men do/say [x], but if you think male bodies are gross you might not be attracted to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 03:57 AM
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The disgusting part is that someone sent it to me when I didn't ask for it and expected that to go over well. It's not that the actual dick in question is necessarily disgusting in and of itself. I might really like that same exact dick pic if I had requested it. It's the entitlement. The audacity. The involving me in a graphic sexual exchange that I didn't consent to.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 03:48 AM
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That commenter is bisexual. I am a heterosexual woman and do not find photos of female genitals arousing, nor am I visually attracted to women's bodies. I am very visually attracted to men and male bodies, although I have no interest in a disembodied penis unless it belongs to a man I am actively in a sexual relationship with (which assumes I'm attracted to him as well).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 11:31 PM
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I think you're thinking about this backwards. The general wisdom around here seems to be that men are willing to lower their standard of physical attractiveness for a hook up but not for a relationship. Women are not willing to lower their standard of physical attentiveness for a hookup, but might for a relationship with a man with other good qualities that make up for it. And I don't think most women are settling for the guy "most likely to commit" - obviously being unlikely to commit would dis…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 02:09 AM
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