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in my experience liberal women were easier to sleep with but more annoying to date. conservative women were harder to sleep with and also hard to even relate to. both suck when it comes to a relationship honestly, I prefer a woman that is somewhere around the middle.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 03:14 AM
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if you are flooded with matches its you have to filter by attraction, the bio, and interests and then once that is done filter by talking to them. its just so you dont have to talk to so many people just to filter.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 12:15 AM
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unless you find 1000s of people physically attractive it shouldnt be that many profiles to match with.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 11:43 PM
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How, exactly? I’ve never had thousands of matches, and it still took me a long time to filter. You have to read every profile, then have some conversations… it’s not an instant thing. It would take weeks to actually filter thousands unless you are just researching and chatting with men 24/7. What techniques do you use to filter the men who want only sex but say they want a relationship from the ones who actually want a relationship? What techniques do you use to filter the men who pretend they l…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 08:24 PM
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the women he knows could tell their friends or family which could negatively impact his dating life if he ever wanted to get with them in the future, the women he dates/marries could lose their attraction and it could cause relationship issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 07:49 PM
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then dad is gonna have to teach him game which is something most redditors would never be able to do 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 07:17 PM
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I would never buy my son an escort but I wouldn't keep him from meeting any himself, but I would warn him if he ever got with an escort to never tell any women he knows, dates, or marries because it will ruin his chances with getting with other women without having to pay.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 07:15 PM
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have you ever thought that you are the polar opposite of the men you are referring to?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 10:39 AM
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as long as women still crave sex men will be satisfied🤷🏽‍♂️ marriage and relationship are just a bonus not the the main course for most men, so I don't see anything changing, people that want kids will still have kids and relationships will still have kids and relationships, people that dont want kids or relationships wont have kids or relationships. and the world keeps turning
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 07:01 AM
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not really, out of 160 million men there is a handful that cause problems because they are lonely and sex deprived.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 06:55 AM
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people on the internet have always loved to "bully" and hurt others regardless of their gender but picking on gender specific issues makes the "bullying" easier. one minute it will be a childless older lady getting bullied the next it will be a young virgin guy getting bullied. everybody receives shit on the internet, don't take it to heart.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 04:42 AM
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there will be as much chaos at there has always been. no more no less.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 04:27 AM
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if that's how it is then that's how it is. some people would rather share a man than be single, some would rather date someone they find unattractive. and the world keeps spinning
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 04:44 AM
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you could just have a fwb situation instead of trying to date her though.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 03:23 AM
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this is how I see it I don't know why people are trying to redefine successful and failed romance even if it still ends on good terms it is still a failed romance since it is just a friendship and no longer a romance but this doesn't mean being together till you die is a successful romance either. I have seen people that hated each other stick together just because they didn't want to feel like they had a failed relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 12:32 AM
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they'll never understand this and if they do they will convince their selves that it isnt true.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 04:25 AM
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I dont think those type of men would mind paying for it since they have given up finding it naturally
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 09:10 PM
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I think that is OPs point if real love never existed for men like that before, why even try to find it in someone that is "old and unattractive" when you can just have fun with "younger and hotter" women. I personally think it's mutually beneficial, older women dont have to sift through men that prefer younger women and older men just get to have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 11:48 AM
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I think its fine when older men are just fucking and having fun, but dating is a bit too far imo. but fuck it, you have the money and you can live your life how you see fit. fuck everyone elses opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 11:32 AM
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they want sex in any setting but it's not as easy getting it until you are a foreigner for some reason. do you really think the men complaining about never having sex are going to travel and not focus on sex? you say "discover new cultures, meet people and learn about yourself" which is a Instagram influencer thing to say most men just want to travel to fuck, party, and have a good time.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 08:53 PM
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and everyday, one "wins" and one "loses" so should men use their free will to be the winner or the loser?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 08:46 PM
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are you talking about everything in life or are you talking about dating? I'm pretty sure a woman isn't going to care if her manager or boss is emotionally unavailable or not as long as she is left alone to do her job. the equivalent would be a bank that makes it hard for customers to take money out but easy for bank robbers to steal money, which is not the case at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 08:42 PM
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adults like to fuck, you dont have to travel for sex but most men want sex when they travel. please grow up
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 08:35 PM
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t's not really a useful thing to base your dating life on but if you keep getting turned down by women or not pursued by the men you want, its what gives you a general idea of what might be the issue and what your "league" might be this is the most important part of looksmatch if its only to give you a general idea if you are having dating issues, not the be all end all to dating you can punch above your weight all you want, but if you keep getting turned down or not approached by the men you wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 06:15 AM
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looksmatch only works with things that are generally objectively beautiful or handsome or objectively ugly and they are specific to gender a tall mans looksmatch is a woman that is shorter than him because on average women find taller men more attractive if you are a fat woman, men that are fat are your looks match because on average men don't find fat women attractive if you look tough, women that are more feminine and "fragile" looking are your looks match because women like to feel safe and b…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 05:05 AM
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mens standards are all based on how often women want them the less women want them the less standards they have because they can't afford to chase women away. the more women want them the more standards they have because they can afford to pick and choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 04:37 AM
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then why complain when men say what they like and don't like?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 04:13 AM
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the alternative is to flip the dating dynamic because it obviously rewards emotionally unavailable men currently. if you don't want to do that you have no reason to complain about getting what you asked for.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 04:12 AM
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so men should use their free will to lose?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 04:10 AM
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thats how they turn into passport bros tho. some sleep with hookers but most actual travel to sleep with normal women because they are more liked because they are foreign
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 04:09 AM
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the only thing that could ruin the womans reputation is if she sleeps with every single person she tries to make friends with, the damage is external for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 04:07 AM
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rejection from the things listed are not as extreme because you can always try again without it affecting how you are viewed. it's another thing to be rejected in dating by a woman because if other women see it or hear about it often they will think you are desperate or unwanted which will cause you to be rejected more often. comparing it to being rejected from a loan is more accurate, everytime you get rejected your credit score drops until eventually nobody wants to give you a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 06:20 AM
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so then why complain about emotionally unavailable men in dating when they are setup to win by women?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 06:14 AM
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if you have traveled you would know how much women love foreign men and how much men like foreign women. it only really turns into "sex tourism" because for some reason women are more likely to fuck a foreign guy than a guy that is the same nationality.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 04:36 AM
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uh huh. couldnt think of anything that made sense huh💀
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 04:32 AM
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most women that I have met that call themselves "lesbians" aren't actually lesbian but are as they say "homoromantic" and are actually bisexual
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 12:18 PM
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I didn't conflate legality and morality YOU DID all I said is if it is legal and you can easily make a different choice, it's not unethical. explain in your own words how paying an onlyfans model for content she made the choice to create and upload and sell is unethical? I would love a detailed answer please
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 11:27 AM
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pedestal means treating her like a princess. buying her flowers, gifts, sending love notes, coat over puddle, chivalry blah blah 🤮 basically the old people wooing tactics. I agree most women would prefer that from men they are into and not just any man though and some don't want that at all and think it is corny.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 10:07 AM
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the nude/natural look is what most men find attractive and reasonable because there is no contouring to change the shape of your face, but still makes you look like you take care of yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 10:01 AM
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well if you want to use other countries as an example then women leaving the house without their husbands and dressing in slightly revealing clothing is morally wrong too
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 08:19 AM
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if they traveled they'd probably turn into passport bros instead tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 08:06 AM
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the only advice that red pill gets right is become physically fit if you want to have more sex because more women will find you sexually attractive. become financially stable or successful if you want more relationships because more women will find you datable. what you say and how you interact with those women that will either keep their attraction or lose their attraction is completely subjective.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 07:59 AM
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anything that isn't paying for the other person is not "spending more on dating" anything you spend on YOURSELF is for YOURSELF, not a dating expense. this goes for both men and women. honestly from what I have seen modern dating is only terrible for people who are themselves terrible or make it hard on themselves without realizing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 07:50 AM
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it is not illegal to sell nudes in the US anywhere and no I am not confusing legality with morality, I just immediately knew you would use a ridiculous analogy so I specified non-illegal
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 06:54 AM
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"non-illegal"
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 02:02 AM
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what I have experienced is that women assume desperation when you are single or at the very least assume you are trying to flirt with them whenever you talk to them. you could mind your business and just keep to yourself and they will try to talk to you more often than if you tried to be friendly to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 06:07 AM
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yes the ability to walk away is what makes accepting a non-illegal service ethical.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 04:22 AM
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onlyfan creators are not being forced they are doing out of their own choice. so it goes against your other point
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 04:58 AM
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would it be alright for the boyfriend to pay for onlyfans that way he can see his fetish "ethically"
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 10:28 PM
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what if someone boyfriend buys someones onlyfans to see their fetish. would it then be okay?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 06:32 AM
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do you mean youthful looking or do you actually mean younger? if you mean youthful looking I understand because someone that is wrinkled with saggy skin and dry hair will always be less attractive than someone that has moisturized hair and non-wrinkled skin
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 04:54 AM
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I think of it as the hardcore bdsm people that like piercing their boobs and being hit in the balls or whatever weird shit they are into. it's a fetish and as long as you aren't forcing it on someone and the woman or man in the video isn't being forced into it there is no issue. you are coming off as one of those moms that is against violent video games and violent movies.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 04:27 AM
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"some yes, some no" I wish every questions about women and mens attraction would be answered this way because it's really the only answer
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 02:35 AM
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talk about fun things like movies, music, and experiences, but also know that if she gets mad about the things you listed, she is definitely not the woman you want to be dating. it's better to be the guy she ruled out than the guy she chooses and makes miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 05:57 AM
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would you prefer they date men they aren't attracted to?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 06:58 AM
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The issue with the dating view in this sub is that it’s based almost exclusively on the early dating phase: because a lot of the men here have never been in a relationship at all that lasted more than a few dates. its actually because dating in the beginning takes more effort and is filled with terrible people when you click with someone you don't complain about it or even talk about it because taking others opinions on a relationship that makes you happy is like eve listening to the snake.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 04:27 AM
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it would probably just be alot of bipolar women tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 06:02 AM
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because they are a terrible person.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 12:28 AM
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it's that and the fact that they only have a chance of dating the bottom of the barrel women that other men don't want.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 05:15 AM
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but now compare it to dating for average men the reason they didn't want to hangout with you was because they thought you were too weird for them but now they want to hangout with you because nobody else wants to hangout with them and to top it off they want you to prove to them that you'd be a good friend by taking them to the bar and paying for their drinks. does that sound enticing?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 05:11 AM
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ya if you got 1 million dollars there is no possible way these are your only options.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 04:48 AM
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thats true for all genders tbh. there are women that still expect a disney romance or to be treated like they are the only woman in the world by men on the 1st to 3rd date. some want to be the "special" woman that the guy who gets whoever he wants chases. alot of people aren't mature enough for dating a get hurt because their fantasy doesn't align with reality tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 02:56 AM
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I mean if they do the same stuff with their boyfriends or guys they are dating (aside from the things that involve more than one person) then they wouldn't be treated like they are radioactive.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 02:41 AM
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I mean... ya. why do you think men that have alot of casual hookups have an easier time dating? spoiler alert: it's because they can sleep with someone that they don't want to date which makes them look for a deeper connection with someone they actually want to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 02:26 AM
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expect the men they date to do more for them than the guy that just got a nut off, while putting in minimum or less than minimum effort to show that they also want the guy that is taking them on dates. you left out this part which is extremely important you can't expect romance if you don't give it during the early stages of dating
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 02:21 AM
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compared to men with 0 options at all he is still winning since he has a better chance of making something work, he just doesn't want or need to.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 05:48 AM
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it's more the fact that some women are pump and dumps for some men and expect the men they date to do more for them than the guy that just got a nut off, while putting in minimum or less than minimum effort to show that they also want the guy that is taking them on dates. you'd rather be the guy that just fucked her than the guy that was making an effort to show her you really want her since it's not really going to be reciprocated in the early dating stage most the time. it's completely depende…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 05:45 AM
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at a certain point you should just end the relationship because you are not feeling sexually fulfilled though because the only other option is an open relationship or cheating. and because I know there are gonna be annoying losers complaining about "what if he isn't sexually satisfying her" or "what if she has medical issues" and blah blah blah, THIS IS ONLY IF YOU HAVE MADE AN EFFORT TO FIX IT FIRST.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 03:07 AM
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it's the fact that they will still date men they find unattractive or atleast basic looking when they get desperate for a relationship. if women would just work harder to get relationships from the men they are actually attracted to instead of wanting the easy route you'd hear alot less men complaining about women treating attractive men differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 02:58 AM
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there is a difference between treating men and women equally and being consistent in your beliefs. like "I believe men and women should always be treated differently" is atleast being consistent if you are tradcon (which as of now I assume you are), but wanting equality without giving equality makes you a hypocrite.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 02:47 AM
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we are talking about the men a woman finds sexually attractive. you can find someone cute and build the sexual attraction over time but for a man, if he really wants to increase his chances with women, he is better off working on his looks and not his personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 02:27 AM
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this is gonna come as a shock to you, but most women will give guys they find attractive a chance even if they dont make a good first impression, because if it turns out they dont like his personality atleast he was hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 07:03 AM
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you can have an opinion just don't give advice unless it's for the most part, based in reality. the simplest and most accurate advice you can give to a man is "lose weight or gain muscle because physical attraction matters when approaching women" instead of "work on your personality" the only time the latter advice would work is if a man is consistently getting dumped, not when he never picks up women in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 06:42 AM
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well I'm not going to listen to someone who isn't consistent in their beliefs even though I agree that people who complain are annoying no matter what gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 06:33 AM
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just move to where I live. below average woman are the majority here with just a handful of beautiful women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 02:41 AM
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nah, I have seen guys that I would consider average to below average go after women that no other man pursued (and in my opinion were hideous) and still get rejected. just because a man lowers his standards does not mean below average women will do the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 02:36 AM
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the difference is men don't lie about how much looks matter by saying "you must have a horrible personality and thats why they dont want you"
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 02:28 AM
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this has been my experience too. the more effort I put in to finding someone to date or hookup with the less I got what I wanted but it was the exact opposite when I put in less effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 02:27 AM
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you basically just said the exact same thing he did.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 02:24 AM
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the fact that there are men that are assholes and misogynistic who are still in relationships while you are telling a man that is neither to stop being and asshole and misogynistic is why the advice isnt taken seriously. you have to ask yourself "am I just thinking of the men I personally wouldnt date or am I describing a man that I know for a fact EVERY woman would never date." before giving advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 02:16 AM
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would you say women complaining about how men treat them on dates and/or relationship, is also a moral failing?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 02:06 AM
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or because he talks about it in a funny or interesting way. in my experience it's not what you say but how you say it. "nobody loves me, so I have to love myself... thats why I makeout with the mirror every morning" is more entertaining and less annoying than "nobody loves me and I don't know why. I try to make everyone happy"
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 02:03 AM
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case and point right here. you immediately assumed the worse when in reality that is not the case for the majority of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 01:56 AM
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honestly, you are not consistent enough to have a valid argument ✌🏽
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 12:15 AM
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how would you know? you don't have sex out of relationship remember.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 12:09 AM
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we are back to square one again I don't think I can get a clear answer from someone that has never hooked up with a man they wouldn't date before. I have hooked up with women I would never date and I have hooked up with women I wanted a relationship with. I never made it harder for one and not the other because it wouldn't change anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 05:46 AM
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then why not sleep with the man you want to date faster than the man you dont since it's not that important? it feels like you are don't like the men you date as much as the men you fuck since you sleep with them faster.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 03:07 AM
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I don't think of them as weak, but I do see them as desperate and sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 06:10 AM
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I was abused as a kid, not once did I think "oh women that are assholes are the women I want."
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 05:43 AM
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I somewhat relate to this but im a dude the only difference I could say is that, when I havent had sex for a long time I crave it like most men usually do, but everytime I have sex I am disappointed and sometimes ashamed and regretful.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 04:33 AM
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mostly the things I have done fucking in a car without even going on a date or getting to know them well gangbangs just being treated like a sex object basically
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 04:03 AM
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have you ever dated a man at all? because the way you worded it is extremely misconstrued women that don't put men they date through tests in order to fuck > women that fuck other guys while putting men they date through tests
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 12:59 AM
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then you don't even understand what we are talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 12:36 AM
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so you knew men that you date want to sleep with you, but chose to only sleep with the men you dont want to date instead?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 12:22 AM
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it's well known that promiscuous women sleep with guys they wont date easier than they sleep with guys they will date. so you would be putting in more effort than somebody else had to.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 11:57 PM
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well now you also know the reason
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 11:43 PM
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he definitely hasn't but he isn't completely wrong either. he's right about it being messy, but the fights I got in were never painful till afterward because of the adrenaline, like you could feel them hitting you but, it didn't really "hurt", and it was not tiring also probably because of the adrenaline. from my perspective fights were just confusing, aside from the fact that you are trying your best to hurt the other guy bad enough to keep him from being able to fight you again if not knock hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 06:39 AM
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you would have to fight a man that doesn't care about holding back against a woman to know that you are wrong. please just by a gun, pepper spray, or a taser, and don't take chances.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 06:29 AM
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they don't have to agree with it, but it's the reason most men will try to run game on a woman just to sleep with her instead of trying to get in a relationship, because the other option takes more effort for less reward.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 05:30 AM
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because promiscuous women do degrading things and other people know it and putting in more effort than other men did for something they never would have wanted is embarrassing
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 05:20 AM
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you are overly obsessed with this "checklist" thing and aren't looking at the full picture of what I am saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 05:17 AM
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this has been the case for a while already. women throw themselves at my cousin who is 6'3 and ripped. he has never used or needed to use tinder because of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 07:03 AM
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it's actually reversed for most men. we choose the most attractive that wants to be with us for a relationship and sleep with whoever we can as long as they are not extremely unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 06:02 AM
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but in a mans eyes it's better to be the casual hookup instead of trying to be the man she wants to spend her life with because the casual hookup is getting sex easily and it can still develop into a relationship, while the man she only wants to date has to do more to get the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 05:56 AM
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alot of women lie about their bodycount until it slips out after you've been dating them for a while and I think thats mens biggest issue. it's like they basically wasted your time and potentially caused you to miss out on women that you actually match with because they pretended to be a false match.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 05:38 AM
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you don't have to be gay to have "wild, uninhibited, no-strings" sex, you just have to know where to look and how to convey you are just looking for a hookup (and in some situations lower your standards)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 02:52 AM
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I have learned that most of the opinions on here don't hold weight in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 02:31 AM
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because dating a promiscuous woman is embarrassing there answered your question
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 02:30 AM
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you've got to be trolling or something
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 02:26 AM
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I completely agree you don't have to empathize with someone in order to win them over if they are already throwing themselves at you by the dozens. it's like being waterboarded when you were only trying to take a sip.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 07:02 AM
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because they are people? not caring about someone just because they are unattractive is almost psychopathic.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 06:56 AM
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thats the immature disney way of thinking about relationships in reality there will always be something you don't fully like if not dislike about your partner because nobody is perfect. again I was using the "checklist" thing as a figure of speech
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 03:05 AM
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literally your first comment I responded to was asking "why are promiscuous men valuable while promiscuous women are trash" we just dont want to date promiscuous women women could do the same to promiscuous men but in reality the majority dont really care as long as they like the guy
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 02:03 AM
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I literally said it's NOT settling to be with someone who you think isn't perfect so we basically agree
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 01:58 AM
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I think it's a part of blackpill/redpill logic if you believe women are hypergamous then you also believe that you have no chance of dating unless you become "high value" which then the only answer is to date and marry the most beautiful woman since the average women wouldn't even want you until you become "high value". ​ in the real world you date who you can connect with which is just the people that you interact with. if you aren't getting dates, you aren't interacting with enough people or t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 06:32 AM
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acting out someones fantasy and actually being the one with the fantasy are two different things. if 10 guys run a train on one woman she is still freakier because the guys are interested in fucking her while she is fantasizing about being fucked by 10 guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 02:04 AM
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ok then stop telling men to not have a double standard when it comes to bodycount for men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 02:02 AM
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it was a figure of speech you can dislike things about someone and still be obsessed with them in spite of their flaws.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 02:00 AM
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ya, settling for anyone even if mutual is sad for both parties but I also think some women think men not seeing them as perfect is "settling" not every woman will check all the boxes and choosing the one that comes close enough out of all the women you have dated isn't "settling"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 06:38 AM
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ya, settling for anyone even if mutual is sad for both parties but I also think some women think men not seeing them as perfect is "settling" not every woman will check all the boxes and choosing the one that comes close enough out of all the women you have dated isn't "settling"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 06:37 AM
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well you didn't ask me but I will answer anyway been kinda boring, like shaking a rope here. do better people. me and OP have been working hard typing with one hand (which is no minor feat)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 06:16 AM
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ok, imma tell you like my ex told me. it "tingles" or "swirls", "there is pressure", she felt "filled", and it feels "like you are falling". that's all I got out of her and I tried to make it make sense in my head to no avail. if you get all that from shoving stuff in your bootyhole then maybe, but for me absolutely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 06:12 AM
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most men don't believe women are asexual or indifferent to sex. men just say that women aren't as horny as men and apparently some women can't accept that reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 06:04 AM
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"freakier" is a better word alot of women get up to some downright degrading things in college (and some out of college) that would more than likely cause their boyfriends to leave them if it ever got out.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 05:59 AM
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the women make the choice to sleep with us too you know. stop acting like women have no agency when it comes to casual sex that is only about physical pleasure. just because you don't enjoy it doesn't mean other women don't either.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 05:47 AM
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I mean... if they aren't getting casual sex in the first place do you really think they will ever have a partner to cheat on?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 05:36 AM
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this is the kinda debates the purple pill was truly created for.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 05:32 AM
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because most women will put the guy she wants a relationship with through a whole string of tests before she sleeps with him which is fine with men until they find out she fucked other guys that didn't have to put in half the effort to be with her. imagine a guy taking a hot woman with a boring personality on expensive dates and amazing vacations just so he will be seen with her. he doesn't expect sex or a relationship, he just wants people to see him with her. now imagine that very same guys re…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 05:30 AM
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no you didn't I asked "which one do you think men value" I never said who they value.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 05:14 AM
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Men don’t flirt with A so they must not value her. Men flirt with B so they must value her. I just reversed the genders you are the one who said it embarrassing that you want to be right so bad that you pretend you arent the one who wrote it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 01:03 AM
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finally you said it. now just apply that to promiscuous men and you will see why men say women value them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 05:37 AM
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you don't ask someone to buy you a drink unless they have already been eyeing you or they approached you. do you just go up to random people and ask them to buy you stuff?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 05:35 AM
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it's funny because the woman in your scenario still wanted the man to buy her a drink instead of offering him one instead. I'd be offended if I got turned down and a woman I wasn't even going for asked me to buy her a drink as if I was desperate to spend money on any woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 02:35 AM
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men only see the women that standout instead of blend in? color me shocked /s the thing about being average looking with all genders is that you have to do more than people that are "hot" because hot people don't need more than their looks to stand out. if you are "invisible" it's because you are not putting in the effort to get the attention of the man you want. getting dolled up and sitting at the bar hoping someone you are attracted to will look at you instead of looking at the woman with jaw…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 02:13 AM
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if this simple hypothetical doesnt make sense to you, thats a failure to understand on your part. men not talking to a woman at all means they dont care that she even exist or in other words "they dont value her" so I ask again which one do you think the men value?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 01:16 AM
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it's the fault of the person who makes no effort to fix it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 05:18 PM
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the question was "which one do you think men value more" you are trying to deconstruct a simple hypothetical just because you dont want to answer it and know what the answer would be.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 05:15 PM
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because most women never learned that not everyone will want them so they have a harder time accepting it when they experience it. it's the same reason men get called gay or weird for turning down women. they just cant accept rejection in any form.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 06:10 AM
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ok so you are just avoiding answering the question. cool we both know what the answer would be anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 06:07 AM
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I disagree with your main point, but there are some women that didn't "feel" that good to me and some that were boring in bed and I didn't want a relationship with any of them because the sex wasn't as enjoyable as I expected it to be. probably makes me sound like an asshole, but I think sexual compatibility is extremely important.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 04:19 AM
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it doesnt matter whether they know or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 03:39 AM
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On a side note, quite a lot of men pursue or implement a flipped version of what you're describing. They want to have a liberal woman with liberal values around sex...but with low n-count. A woman who works and brings home a paycheck, but also does more chores and childrearing. ​ and those men are called man-children or delusional
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 06:38 AM
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would make more sense if they were groups dedicated having fun events for their gender or sharing life advice for their gender..... but all they really do is bitch about the opposite gender all day.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 03:49 AM
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when people say this they don't mean it literally, what they actually mean is "I'll take the bare minimum" that means average looking (not attractive, not unattractive) boring personality average fashion sense or none at all etc... basically someone that matches you just enough for a relationship but not enough to be obsessed with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 03:34 AM
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apparently you don't understand let me give you a hypothetical if one woman earns a million dollars but never gets asked on a date and men rarely if ever look in her direction and another woman makes average income but is constantly being asked on dates and flirted with, which one do you think men value more?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 03:27 AM
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women are verbally aggressive with their boyfriends behind closed doors more than strangers because they don't know how a stranger will react while they know more accurately how their boyfriend will react, which is why you will rarely if ever see it, but men are more willing to be verbally aggressive with anyone anywhere because we accept that we might have to get our ass beat in order to not let someone walk all over us. they aren't less aggressive they just gauge who they can be aggressive wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 03:20 AM
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you are not understanding that even if they knew or not he will still be wanted by those women. women don't value him because he is promiscuous but in order to be promiscuous as a man you have to be valuable.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 03:06 AM
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that would depend on what your definition of "aggression" is do you mean physical or just verbal?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 11:51 PM
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he's not valuable because he is promiscuous he is valuable because women want him, so of course no woman is gonna say "he is valuable because he is promiscuous." it's like gold, on it's own it's not very valuable, but because people want it, it has value.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 11:35 PM
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if you use your own logic he is saying womens fantasies are not what they really want so women that have watch fantasy SA do not really want to be SA'd but you are saying the exact opposite so in basically you are saying women that watch fantasy SA want to be SA'd one of you has to disagree with your own logic and I am pretty sure it's going to be YOU.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 06:52 AM
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because it's fantasy/fiction/make believe/ pipe dream it's the equivalent of male romance movies having the manic pixie dream girl but in reality it's not something they would really want
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 06:46 AM
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no women are actually really aggressive it's just that when men get aggressive they do more damage because we are stronger.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 06:42 AM
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telling your kid the truth of the world is not the equivalent to child abuse are you going to keep your kids sheltered until they become adults and struggle to survive in the world because they cant handle how "cruel" it is?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 06:38 AM
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the only reason a women would even see a man talk about all his issues is if she begged constantly to hear them. tell women to stop asking men to be vulnerable, it's annoying and manipulative.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 06:34 AM
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in other words. you want him to make you feel special for giving you access to his body, but you also want other women to sexually desire him so it actually feels special for him giving you his body. this is where men and women differ fundamentally. we want women that WE find attractive. if other men don't find her attractive it doesn't change how desirable we find them. they are special to us and we dont need them to make us feel special.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 04:19 AM
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it's just that promiscuous men are valuable based on the fact that tons of women want them enough to just sleep with them while the average man is only able to sleep with like 1 or 2 women every few years. while being a woman it's not hard to sleep with tons of guys and she is more likely to have done embarrassing and degrading things. for a guy that is embarrassing to date a woman like that because it feels like you are the butt of the joke, you had to date her to have sex with her meanwhile sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 04:08 AM
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women on here say it as a "get back" to men saying they don't like promiscuous women. in reality they don't really know or care if a guy was promiscuous before he started dating her. the men they imagine in their head when they say this is a man that cheats or ghosts women after fucking them, or just what you would imagine a dirtbag to act like. what they don't realize is that there are men that have slept with tons of women that they consider datable and they dont and never will know about thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 03:49 AM
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thats alot of crazy words have relationships really become this ridiculous?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 02:48 AM
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more people need to understand that personality means nothing at the end of the day if you aren't attractive. if you just want women to sleep with you just workout, dress better, (and for those that need to hear it) work on your hygiene. personality is only something that men that want a relationship need to worry about.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 02:40 AM
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most the venues I have been to have a bar outside the stage area so people can socialize and downtime between bands which gives people time to talk to each other. if you go to the bar get a drink and start talking to everyone and I mean everyone cause if you dont find a hookup you will atleast have a good time hearing crazy stories. eventually you'll meet someone that will make the conversation more fun and flirty and after you get to know them a little bit better just ask them what they are doi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 02:02 AM
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I didn't say a bully or violent men just aggressive men both are aggressive both are attractive to women
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 01:51 AM
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DONT YOU DARE BADMOUTH MY IDOL LIKE THAT
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 12:33 AM
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most men in the real world don't ask about bodycount we just hear about things a woman does from other guys and other women like if you were known for banging the whole football team, or getting caught sucking a random guys dick at a party or in their car, etc... its just things that would make it embarrassing for a guy to date you because it would make him look like he is just taking what he can get and not dating a woman he actually would be proud to be with. also it makes him look kinda pathe…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 05:32 AM
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I read this somewhere else but I completely agree with it uncle iroh he is kind and gentle, but can be tough, stern, and dangerous when he needs to be
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 05:19 AM
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they treat them like they are trying to court them (which they are) and that's not a bad thing imo, but for some reason people get offended that others wont treat them like they are the cream of the crop.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 03:28 AM
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this right here is why I think it's unexperienced and immature women and not mentally unwell women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 03:19 AM
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it's the personality that comes with aggression that they are attracted to not the aggression itself. they are more confident which attracts women and they are more willing to ask women out so they end up with more women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 03:16 AM
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have you tried going to concerts or events? thats where I've met most of my hookups because tinder is terrible for it unless you look like a greek god.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/24 03:05 AM
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wasn't there a study that showed that women were more attracted to aggressive risk taking men and that those type of men asked women out more often? can't really change what women are attracted to and can't really change the fact that aggressive men are attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 06:35 AM
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I think the issue is nice guys grew up hearing "just be nice" or "just be confident" and all these other things that have to do with personality instead of just hearing that looks matter the most when it comes to physical attraction and personality/romantic attraction comes after you meet the standard for physical attraction I think they would slowly change if everyone just admitted how important physical attraction is instead of blowing smoke up their ass and telling them the issue is just thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 06:20 AM
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if you don't mind me asking, have you ever had a relationship before?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 05:52 AM
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I think it is semi correct in the fact that men treat women they are sexually attracted to nicer (and im not saying they treat other women like trash just because they aren't sexually attracted to them) but also as you said its oversimplified men are EXTRA nice to women they like but are cordial with women they have no emotions or sexual attraction toward. and I mean extra nice as in he will put himself in less favorable positions to help her and will go out of his way to talk to her or be near …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 05:51 AM
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depends on what you consider getting ahead. I think women will pretend that certain actions, favors, or gifts can increase their sexual attraction to a man and the truth is that it has little to no effect on who they find sexual attractive and that physical traits matter way more to their sexuality than the things stated above.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 04:33 AM
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depends on the person you lie to and how close your relationship is already if it's just a one night stand, yes if it's someone you are getting to know or just recently started dating, yes if it's someone you have been dating for a while just tell the truth because they didn't care enough in the beginning so it's not going to change anything now other than that you don't have to say anything unless asked and even then you can lie
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 12:33 PM
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you have to look at it from the perspective of someone that wants long term relationships with the people they have sex with and not just meaningless sex 10 would be alot at 25 because because if you started dating at 15 that means you had a new partner every single year and no long term relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 12:11 PM
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men can crave love from one woman but want to only have sex with other women. honestly there needs to be a word for it because polygamous doesn't really describe it that well. mono-romantic polygamous or something 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 11:58 AM
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I don't think women keep men sex-obsessed (testosterone does that on it's own) my conspiracy theory is that women pretend what men do for them and how they treat them determines how sexually attractive they find him and that physical traits are as important to women as they are to men even though women say the opposite more often.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 11:30 AM
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no, there are definitely men that are arrogant, entitled, and have a bad attitude that are successful and arent considered creepy. I have seen it multiple times firsthand. I agree that the average looking or ugly guy isnt going to have success with a personality that is shitty, but what men notice that women don't is that attractive men will have success with the same personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 05:55 AM
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I think the issue is you are imagining a guy approaching you without the intention of having sex which is where ugly men and attractive men are treated differently for the same approach. one is considered creepy the other is considered charming.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 12:35 AM
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if you have been around enough women you would know that women also fight over men. sometimes passive aggressively and sometimes outright fist fights.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 06:32 AM
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there is one woman I will always remember because it was the best sex I have ever had and none of my exes even come close. I do compare the sex in my relationships to her, but it's not like I would leave my relationship just be with her or cheat on them with her just because she is really good at sex. I just think this alpha widow thing is kinda ridiculous in general
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 06:08 AM
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probably because most only consider the men they are currently dating, good men while everyone else is either just normal or a bad man.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 06:02 AM
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you really don't need to be married to have kid. being married won't change how you raise your children and a bastard is a kid that is unclaimed by the father, and if he wouldnt claim the child out of marriage would you really want to be married to someone like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 02:51 AM
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he said it was financially easier to be in a relationship I said it depends on the women you date since it obviously wont be financially easier with someone that earns way less than you. whats the issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 02:38 AM
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depends on the partner you got too for me I always seemed to attract women that had average paying jobs, low-end jobs, or no job at all and all of them weren't really level headed when it came to their emotions and they were way too needy so it's easier being single but if they had been the exact opposite I would have preferred life in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 05:32 AM
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there is a difference between wanting to have sex and wanting to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 03:05 AM
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women don't understand that 200 dates at any age is absolutely insane to men, because we don't date just any woman. meeting someone that you find datable that also finds you datable is extremely hard for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 06:27 AM
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so if you had a boyfriend you would be ok with him sending that in a womans dms for a selfie? there is a fine line between letting people live how they want and letting people do things that could negatively affect you. if the boyfriend had not been ok with it, OP could have gotten in a fight.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 05:01 AM
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most women where I live don't even use instagram... hell they don't use any social media except for facebook. I think I might live in the backwoods or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 04:57 AM
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this is what my ex told me.... I don't know if she was lying or not and I honestly don't want to ever find out.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 04:24 AM
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in my experience, your options increase when you get in a relationship. I don't know why but some women find men in relationships more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 04:21 AM
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but the word means involuntarily celibate to those men that mind their business so whether you like it or not you attack them along with the misogynists everytime you attack other men for women not wanting them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 04:18 AM
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by not being a cheater? it's more like the people that surround us are cheaters. the majority of people in general may not be cheaters but if all you see is cheating it's going to seem like it's the norm and not the exception.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 04:14 AM
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I think it's just peoples fear of being the one that got "played" so they always want a "backup plan"
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 04:07 AM
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that's what I mean by men being more trusting he'll take her excuses at face value instead of digging deeper.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 04:01 AM
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I don't think women are better at covering it up, I think men are just more trusting and don't go out of their way to look for cheating like women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 01:56 AM
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when I was younger I thought it was only a small amount of people that cheated but after working with enough people I realized a majority of people cheat and get away with it, women and men alike. it's honestly scared me away from relationships because I think it's just normalized to cheat, but it's also annoying because most women want a relationship or to be taken out on dates before fucking which is a complete waste of time and money.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 01:50 AM
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the reality is that women will fuck handsome men regardless of how shitty their personality is, just like men will fuck beautiful women regardless of their personality. this issue is women think men that have a hard time having sex have shitty personality instead of the sad truth that they are just unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 01:34 AM
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if the majority of incels were misogynists' then almost all male virgins would hate women. go outside and stop getting your opinions about men online. incel means involuntarily celibate, men that refer to themselves as incels are not the only incels
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 01:30 AM
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my comment was directed at the "the entire burden" and "typical for most women" lines. to make it more accurate it wouldn't be the entire burden it would just be flipping the script meaning the wife would do the lawn, maintenance, and repairs while the husband did the cooking and cleaning.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 01:19 AM
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idk about you but a majority of men do the lawn care and house repairs not the wives.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 04:49 AM
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the more people you meet the more you will realize we are all almost the same tbh it's pretty much how friend groups are made, you don't make friends with or even interact with people that don't match your personality
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 10:33 PM
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.... so you have an iphone now? 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 10:30 PM
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this is actually the first time I have ever though about that and it's oddly true the only women that I know that have owned an android have all been old women. never have I met a woman my age or younger that has owned an android.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 10:30 PM
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I think it's because most people that go to bars nowadays think anyone that talks to them is trying to sleep with them instead of just socializing(which is mostly likely the case), so you are immediately labeled as creepy because it's expected that socialization at the bar in this day and age is just for sex. in my experience you will get better outcomes when you let women approach you instead of doing the approaching.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 06:02 AM
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"the logic is based on the reality of racism in the world and the nonexistence of laws against hate speech and racist expression."
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 09:04 PM
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usually you will find that those men are more aggressive and risk taking which also means they take the chance of approaching women more often and if she is having kids with these types of men, she probably isn't a top tier woman herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 07:00 AM
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both genders choose just at different points. men choose first since they do the approaching a majority of the time, then women get the final say after being approached. men and women that don't approach or get approached never get to choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 06:44 AM
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I remember a story about a man suing his wife because their kids turned out ugly and he found out she had plastic surgery. never heard of murder though.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 06:28 AM
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I would say it's better for men to avoid having kids with fat and ugly women and not that fat and ugly women shouldn't have the right to have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 06:25 AM
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this is strange logic. it's like saying "you made the choice to accept racism when you chose to live in a predominately white area"
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 06:17 AM
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I completely agree, but I also say these type of men should just indulge in the world of sex tourism and sex work since it won't change their chances of dating someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 06:10 AM
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so women choose to "squander their youth" by themselves. I don't see the issue here.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 06:05 AM
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"I want a man in his prime when im 20, but I don't want men in their prime to chase 20 year olds." and the circle goes around and around again and again.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 12:50 AM
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women say this but then get mad that older men in their prime chase younger women in their prime.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 04:57 PM
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I like hookup culture I just don't like that women think I should be required to date women that participate in it or I am a hypocrite.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 04:51 AM
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i'm responding to a guy who made it seem like everyone wants to trick others into dating them no he is saying abusers are tricking people into dating them, not everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 11:25 PM
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it's more like guys can mostly spot when other guys are bad but women can't see it, ignore it just because they look good, or are actually attracted to their bad traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 11:22 PM
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because peace is better than excitement most the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 03:48 AM
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I also know men in their 20s our person anecdote doesn't matter if the majority of men don't agree with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 03:31 AM
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you seem offended. maybe it hit too close to home?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 03:29 AM
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are you mentally ok?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 07:02 AM
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they can get one behind their partners back, but it's really about getting a DNA test before your name is on the birth certificate (which basically entitles her to child support even if you are not the real father) without letting her know why you are waiting to sign it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 12:44 AM
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probably because if you tell her beforehand it would just be like telling her you have an insecurity and not outright accusing her of being unfaithful.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 12:37 AM
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the only women that get offended about men choosing women that have a low n-count are women that have a high one or that are anticipating that they will have a high n-count which isn't really the type of women you should care about shamed by.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 12:29 AM
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would you tell a woman she is prone to choosing abusers if she ends up with a man that starts abusing her?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 12:25 AM
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if the government even cared enough to get peoples DNA I don't see what the issue is besides making it easier to catch criminals which isn't really an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 12:22 AM
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there is a large amount of narcissistic karens at clubs
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 09:49 AM
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either way he will still have sex so there aint really any way to change his opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 09:48 AM
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because you think you know how dating in your 20s works for men but you couldn't be more wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 09:47 AM
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you aren't going to hear about the relationships that worked out and have great partners because they are normal boring people that live normal boring lives. the internet will always show you the bigger, better, more exciting lifestyle and inturn you get shown the toxic people that live it because it's entertaining. in the real world most people that live boring lives get boring (but acceptable) results while people that try to live "exciting" lives get entertaining results.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 07:01 AM
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I was speaking more about people that don't have kids. I know once children come in there is not really any reasonable way to make the relationship egalitarian unless you can afford a sitter and a maid that also cooks. I don't know how much you earn or what your situation is but would you say you and your husband work the same amount of hours and pull in the same amount of money or close to it?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 05:41 AM
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when I first started I was making 23 an hour which is actually close to the average in my state but after 2 years after I worked my ass off I was earning 27 an hour
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 05:22 AM
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most men just want a woman that is hot and is good at sex and doesn't make it a annoying and hard task just to have sex with her personality only comes in if we plan to date her. the difference between someone that is conservative and hot and someone that is sexually free and hot is that the conservative one will put you through more just to have the possibility of having sex with her, but you won't know until weeks if not months of dating which could just end up in both of you going your separa…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 05:19 AM
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no they don't I am electrician myself and though I have had prior training almost all of the helpers I had, had no experience or certifications. the only certification they need was osha 10 and my company provided that for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 05:06 AM
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I think the issue is most women don't care about a mans body count, with some even finding a man that has alot of experience attractive since it means other women like him. so he may think women are "whores" for having a high body count but if they don't think the same thing of him or don't care and still "reward" him for having a high body count there is no real reason to change his line of thinking. the world is just unfair like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 04:47 AM
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will you also be adjusting for people that have only had bad experiences with the opposite gender and dating? because I have seen alot more people that are bitter and just want a place to hate men or women based on their own experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 04:37 AM
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thats the equivalent of saying "she has slept with 20 dudes and she thinks we should take her seriously when she complains about men not wanting to date her"
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 04:28 AM
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and your opinion is based on anecdote it doesn't mean your opinion is wrong it just means it only applies to you and not the vast majority of people until proven otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 04:17 AM
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ya, if women could tell the misogynist from the good men there wouldn't be any women getting abused, so I don't know where women get the narrative that they can somehow sense it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 04:15 AM
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walk onto a jobsite, walk over to the welder or electrician trailer and ask them if they have any helper or apprentice positions available and then work your way up to journeyman.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 04:13 AM
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you would think there was, but literally if a woman is mentally unstable and gets creeped out by your presence or feels intimidation from you for no reason at all, she will do anything to get control even if it means calling the cops on you. it's literally why the term "karen" was coined.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 04:09 AM
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I think this for both genders, when it comes to women that choose to be single or are only looking for someone that is tall, rich, and handsome single men will attack them saying "you will never be happy" or "you will die alone" because instead of looking for something to make them happy that isn't a relationship they want the women that don't want them to be miserable for not wanting them. this also goes for the women that attack passport bros and men that sleep with women in their 20s while th…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 03:13 AM
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depends on what you mean by changing something if you work 10 hours a day but only earn 20 dollars an hour getting a high paying trade will offer you close to the same hours with better wages after you gained enough experience. or you could try networking to get better wages and better hours college isn't a requirement in this day and age and most the time you are worse off if you don't pursue a degree in stem.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 03:05 AM
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never been in a relationship and got cheated on before huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 12:02 PM
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it depends on how you got that many partners and how old you are 3 man gang bang? definitely "fun time" 5 man train? fun time 7 guys in one day? funtime 15 guys by age 25? definitely fun time
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 11:59 AM
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it depends on how you got that many partners and how easily you gave it up to them vs me tbh if you made me work harder to sleep with you than a random guy that you met in college or at a concert, I'd feel disrespected. I know women date to find a relationship and not just a hookup, but I'd rather a hookup turn into a relationship than be put through a shit test while all someone else had to do was ask and she spread her legs. if you got 5 partners from getting a train ran on you, that would be …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 11:55 AM
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it's less likely as long as you maintain your health and build your wealth and pursue women in their 20s for sex as long as you don't make them think they will get a relationship out of it. them expecting a relationship without you giving them any indication is on themselves though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 11:29 AM
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what does that say about women if they will cheat just because they aren't willing to teach their man to pleasure them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 11:23 AM
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wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 11:22 AM
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this is my experience I dated a virgin and it was the worst sex ever and I had to teach her how to actually make it enjoyable, but I have also been with women that had alot of experience that are just as bad. it's really about finding someone that actually makes and effort to be better instead of just thinking you will enjoy yourself just from being inside them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 11:18 AM
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I guarantee most these men will mask their bitterness and anger just to sleep with a woman in her 20s
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 11:12 AM
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the women that are creeped out by it don't matter, it's the ones that enjoy it that they are looking for and there are plenty if you are wealthy enough and take care of yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 11:10 AM
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see the issue with anecdotal evidence is that it is more telling of your social circle than it is of the average person. you can say "all the men I know never smoked cracked" while someone else can say "all the men I know smoked crack" it's pretty much useless until a majority of people have the same experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 11:05 AM
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build your wealth and maintain your health so you can sleep with younger women while you date women your age. it accomplishes 2 things prevents you from thinking with your dick so you can correctly vet a potential partner instead of jumping into a relationship out of desperation you don't feel slighted since you are getting it somewhere else
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 10:50 AM
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you don't need education to make more money, you can always get a trade and work hard or network and get better jobs. it's always possible to make more money than your partner without adjusting your life some people just don't want to or don't know how to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 10:30 AM
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an egalitarian relationship would be encouraging your partner to be more ambitious so she earns the same if not more than you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 02:12 AM
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this is something that should be talked about more in the dating market. someone that has more debt than they can even afford should be automatically be a red flag regardless if it was for a degree or not unless you plan to never get married because if you do, you also take on all their debt.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 11:44 PM
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they'll try to explain this away but this is literally why men date in the same socioeconomic class and it's not because they care about a woman making the same amount as them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 11:27 PM
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yes people want the parts they enjoy and not the parts that require hard work I'm sure every man would be happy to have a non egalitarian relationship if it meant she worked and paid for everything while he just cleaned the house.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 11:19 PM
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women refuse to interact with them*
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 05:32 AM
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dating is complex women will date a broke guy as long as he is extremely sexually attractive to her but will not a date someone broke and only moderately attractive. men will start a relationship with anyone that isn't ugly regardless of financial situation. speaking from my experience, dating a broke woman is fine at first but you either find out their personality is the reason why they are broke or they expect more than they can provide.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 05:31 AM
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I have to disagree with this. you are allowed to want something you don't exhibit the qualities of. if a woman wants a rich man and she is not rich herself, would she be wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 05:22 AM
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he's saying alot of women talk about being egalitarian online when it comes to dating, but in the real world only a small minority actually participate in it. it's like saying "I have a mansion and Lamborghini" online but in reality they live in an apartment and drive a car from 10 years ago. he's not looking for proof, he just wants you to accept the fact that most women are not looking for an egalitarian relationship and that's including the ones who talk about it online.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 05:18 AM
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let's flip it and take it as a woman that has "hit the wall" and a man that has made it to his "prime" somewhere around late 30s and early or mid 40s the women now experience getting no attention. some love it because they are finally getting left alone when going about their day, some hate it because it ruins their self esteem. men experience getting more attention (if they maintain their health and build their wealth). some hate it because they are mostly getting pursued by desperate single mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 05:55 AM
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the topic was dating so using context clues anybody would have been able to figure it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 05:25 AM
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that doesnt say anything about CEOs, that is a reference to dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 05:23 AM
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I can name 5 women in my life that not only have slept with "emotionally inept" men but went on to have kids with them. I'm starting to think women that say this are actually just complaining about the men they've been hurt by and not the average man.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 09:35 AM
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who said anything about CEOs?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 09:28 AM
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honing social skills is the stem and not the root of the complaining men just need to be taught that they are fine being alone and shouldn't seek approval from others.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 09:26 AM
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winter kills plenty of people every year so you can't tell me "nobody had died from being outside"
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 09:21 AM
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I completely support both men and women that choose to be single because the dating market is horrible for normal people right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 03:52 AM
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you just proved his point you called American men lazy just because they have chosen to be single or don't have enough experience to have social skills that would attract a woman. life is not about getting other people to like you and everyone needs to stop pushing that idea because it creates men and boys that don't know how to stand up for themselves which is worse than having no social skills. a man should only do things that make him happy and not go out of his way to make sure strangers are…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 03:46 AM
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if the problem can easily be fixed by not participating then it is a problem of mass hysteria and not actually a gender problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 03:22 AM
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2 of those you would never be able to do. if you stop working you become homeless there is no way to completely shut yourself off from racism or sexism unless you somehow learn how to survive in the forest. the last one is completely right though the difference is you don't need to date. your life will not be affected any differently if you decide not to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 03:17 AM
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most the articles are written by bitter women that suck at choosing partners and blame men for their own bad choices. it's like a rich man calling all women gold diggers when he exclusively went for gold diggers.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 02:35 AM
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all I said was for women to stop giving men dating advice because they do not and never will understand what dating is like for men
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 12:30 AM
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I have done fine without taking womens dating advice
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 06:05 AM
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so then why do you think men have a victim complex?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 02:11 AM
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dating advice based on statistics is the most useless dating advice because there are more things that go into it than "you have this percentage of chance to meeting a person if you do X" do you guys even live in the real world?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 02:06 AM
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I told you your male interaction is only online which is why you think every man has a victim complex then you listed you husband and friends as examples of real life interactions implying they have a victim complex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 01:43 AM
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I would have believed this if my family members didn't back up the redpill by giving me real life examples. but also it was probably because you were in college instead of having your life together. the attraction to older men comes from them being put together and not still wondering aimlessly through life.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 03:57 AM
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there is a small truth to it, but because the women that say it don't notice they are more accepting of the same advances from someone they are more attracted to they generalize it. what it really is supposed be is "don't be sexual to women that don't want to be sexualized by YOU." basically treat women like any other person until you they give a clear sign they are open to you being with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 03:17 AM
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it does you just dont understand what a cuck is.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 02:59 AM
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so your husband has a victim complex and alot of the men you know have a victim complex. nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 02:58 AM
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I live by the rule that people have examples, positive reinforcement, and other reasons for why they are the way they are. I have friends that some would consider sexist, but they get women constantly and even those women that they get mock "white knights" while at the same time the "white knights" don't get anyone. so either the "sexist" men know something that white knights don't or women really don't care about sexism as much as the internet leads men to believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 10:18 AM
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there doesn't need to be an incentive to help people if you are a good person, there just needs to be little to no drawbacks to doing it. like every good man would help an abused woman, but the reason they don't is because more than likely the woman will take the abusers side and even goes as far as helping the abuser attack the person trying to help her.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 10:08 AM
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it's not about understanding it's about accepting that they don't and probably never will understand and to stop acting like they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 09:52 AM
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yes
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 09:50 AM
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in my experience women that aren't very sexual are terrible at flirting because you need a bit of sexual tension in order for it to be enjoyable and they just make it seem like more work than fun and that's what makes dating them hard combine that with the fact that there are women that sleep with random men while making the man they date wait and then lying about it and you get a net negative to dating someone that has a low sex drive.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 06:59 AM
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I am looking out for young naïve men that don't have alot of dating experience to know that most womens dating advice is shit and gets you nowhere or hurt. congrats your personal anecdote still does not change the fact that women need to stop giving unsolicited dating advice to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 06:46 AM
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yes she is infact a cuck, have you never heard of a cuckquean?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 06:04 AM
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spoken like a woman that gets all her male interaction from men online instead of irl
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 06:03 AM
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yes if your wife fucks any man that isn't you, you are in fact a cuck you can tell yourself you are not a cuck all day long, it doesn't change a fact. if you enjoy being a cuck don't let me discourage you
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 05:59 AM
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if that's what you have to tell yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 05:53 AM
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this is what we are talking about. your advice is useless for men and pretends there are no other options than making shitty men, not shitty. in reality this is only and issue for online dating and approaching women irl will always turn out better than normal men fixing shitty men just to have a chance of dating. advice for men that live in the real world would be teaching them how to spot when a woman likes them, how to avoid manipulative and shitty women, how to be more charismatic, what do wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 05:51 AM
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so they can stop giving men advice on something they don't understand and saying things like "women understand women more than men do, so listen" because women more often than not have never had to pursue women or pursue in general. it's like a poacher asking another poacher advice on how to track, find, and kill a black rhino and an anti-poaching ranger starts giving bad advice and then saying "listen to me I am around them everyday"
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 05:29 AM
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a sugarbaby is a woman that requires a man to pay for her or the relationship ends. it's not about the amount he spends it's about if she expects him to spend money on her and bases the relationship off of that expectation.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 04:57 AM
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an engagement ring doesn't have to be expensive and if the person requires an expensive ring, they aren't worth being engaged to.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 04:53 AM
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you do you, just know you are not the norm. most men aren't into being a cuckold just like most women aren't into being used like a cumdump by men they don't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 04:50 AM
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normal women aren't ignored because men don't want them, they are ignored because they don't know how to give men signs that it is okay to approach them. the women that are loud and attention seeking know how to play the game and get the men that participate in the game.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 04:41 AM
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and they think a man like that is a pushover.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 02:42 AM
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it would depend if he met her before becoming a multimillionaire or after. most men after becoming a multimillionaire would not settle with anyone less than 10/10 or even the 10/10 because most the time it's assumed they are just after the money while someone that meets their spouse before becoming rich can assume they are with them for other reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 02:33 AM
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" My ability to get dates has gotten better as I age, but that ignores the quality of the dates" this is the issue that I have found too when you get older you care less about relationships, other people, and what other people think and just want to make yourself happy which for some reason is attractive to women, but you then get stuck in a dating pool with the women that weren't wanted or are divorced (possibly even multiple times) so the ones who want to settle down become extremely desperate…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 01:33 AM
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this is why you don't approach women unless they give you an opening if no one gives you an opening you just have to accept that you are not attractive to most women and either do something to change it or just live your life to make yourself happy. not everyone gets, needs, or deserves a relationship contrary to what society tells you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 01:17 AM
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so kevin hart
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 03:08 AM
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what kinda man are you attracted to? if you say "I don't know" then you are not mature enough for this conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 04:16 AM
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I think the main issue is financial. we basically live in a world where it's almost required to have a girlfriend that helps pay rent and other bills unless you have a good job or career. if prices shot down I guarantee this wouldn't be considered an issue because people could afford to live happily instead of stressing all by themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 04:42 AM
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absolutely not, nobody has to fix the opposite genders problems and thinking otherwise is entitlement and imo pathetic. people need to fix their own problems and shouldn't look to the other gender to do that. if the other gender wants to fix it thats fine but it should never be expected.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 04:30 AM
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sexual orientation wasn't the topic
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 03:28 AM
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" Just over half (55%) of marriages today have a husband who is the primary or sole breadwinner " from your statistic earlier 130 million * .55 = 71 million and you just brought up statistics that only refer to couple married with children again instead of all marriages.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 03:26 AM
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you have to meet objective standards before you even have the chance to meet subjective standards. men have to atleast be taller than the woman and women have to atleast not be obese, then it becomes subjective.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 11:46 PM
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then why make it about gender?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 11:43 PM
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to a point. nobody wants to be with someone that is obese, has bad pockmarks, or is just weirdly proportioned in face or body.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 07:02 AM
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you are on the right track but you missed the mark of what he was saying. he was more referring to a persons looks instead of a persons sex like most women are attracted to tall men that are masculine and fit and most men are attracted to well proportioned women that are feminine and youthful. basically saying that men and women can't control that they are not attracted to every single woman or man.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 06:57 AM
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I think it's better that the dating market doesn't get "fixed" because it weeds out the shitty people. I'm not looking for 100s of women I just want 1 and making shitty behavior seem normalized makes it easier to find that 1 since the other women will be more comfortable acting shitty while the good ones are just innately good and not pretending just to fit in with what's considered normal in the hopes someone will pick them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 06:16 AM
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there is no benefit to marriage and children for anyone. it's not necessary and isn't a good deal for men in general. it's just something you do if you really really "love" a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 02:13 AM
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and 71 million don't care
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 01:58 AM
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I don't think any man really expects to be "loved for who they are" they just want people to stop expecting it from them but not giving it in return men get shamed for not wanting to date or stick in a relationship with fat women, promiscuous women, women that party, women that seek attention, women that have a low libido, etc... but it's completely fine for women to avoid men that struggle financially, low ambition, that want a simple life instead of wanting a big house and nice cars while taki…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 06:56 AM
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55% of men being the breadwinners while only 16% of women are says otherwise
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 05:35 AM
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my point was men do not care if a woman is financially stable or not more often than not men are the breadwinners so a woman being financially stable doesn't matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 12:43 AM
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it's just reality. just like people divorce for their spouse not giving them enough attention, people can divorce for not getting enough attention in the bedroom. if they really didn't think sex was that important they would let their spouse sleep with someone else, anything else is just trying to be controlling. for your grammar read " if so I will fuck who else I can" back to yourself and see if it sounds right.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 10:26 PM
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by the fact that the relationship will end if one of the spouses chooses to sleep with someone else. if sex isn't important to a marriage then sleeping with someone else to get your needs met isn't a marriage ender either.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 10:20 PM
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"The share who are stay-at-home parents differs between men and women: 26% of mothers and 7% of fathers." from your own source again and your statistic is only for parents and not for marriages with no children
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 10:05 PM
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saying this is like saying "god exists prove me wrong"
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 04:09 AM
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yes there are plenty of other ways to show intimacy but sexual compatibility is very important to a relationship if you aren't sexually compatible there is no point to staying and making yourself miserable. it's starting to seem like you are asexual and think that it's the norm
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 04:07 AM
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judging from your first comment grammar doesn't seem to be your strong suit. leaving is having regard for their bodily autonomy. as I said elsewhere, you can't have a relationship without intimacy anyone who tries to keep someone else in a sexless relationship is being controlling.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 04:02 AM
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by the fact that there is no intimacy and without intimacy there is no relationship. she isn't in the wrong for not wanting sex because that isn't something most people can control most the time, it's just that there isn't any sexual compatibility which you can't force anyone to stick in a relationship like that or else you are being controlling.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 02:39 AM
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tbf, who wouldn't fuck someone else if their spouse stopped having sex with them? at that point divorce really is the only option.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 02:31 AM
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"In 29% of marriages today, both spouses earn about the same amount of money. Just over half (55%) of marriages today have a husband who is the primary or sole breadwinner and 16% have a breadwinner wife." this is from your source it literally proves my point. a majority of men do not care about financial stability from their partner
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 11:52 PM
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this is one of the reasons I think we have such a divide between the sexes currently (online atleast) women refuse to admit they like aggressive men and men refuse to admit they like extremely sexual women because those traits are tied to abuse or cheating and by admitting you like those traits you are accepting the fact that you actively looking for a redflag to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 11:17 PM
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most men do not care if a woman is financially stable or not in the real world. most women I know and have met have average looking husbands that are financially stable, so we will never agree on that since my real world experience disagrees with your word.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 08:39 PM
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for me personally I just feel if they got divorced once they will be more likely to get divorced again so I wouldn't want to waste my time and take the chance of seriously dating someone like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 08:36 PM
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so then you agree most women care about finances more than looks when it comes to marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 06:01 PM
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I'd be extremely hesitant to seriously date someone that has been divorced, but that's just me tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 11:34 AM
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I don't know if I would outright write off someone in their 30s that is unmarried but I would definitely question why they are still unmarried and would probably be hesitant to take the relationship seriously. I probably wouldn't date anyone younger than me though because I dated an 18 year old when I was 22 and it was a terrible experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 11:29 AM
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life has shown me otherwise. your words mean nothing to my real world examples of women settling with the average man that is financially stable. the only women that end up with handsome man that is financially stable are the real 10/10 women
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 12:18 AM
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for young women that don't want to settle down yes but again most older women want to get married and settle down so they are not going to marry the man that is attractive, but doesn't have his life together, they would rather settle for the man that is average but is earning enough to live comfortably.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 11:03 PM
1

it depends on the woman an older woman that is trying to get married cares more about financial stability than a young woman that is just spending her time dating casually and having fun. no amount of money will make you more attractive physically but as long as you are average you are more of a dating prospect to gold diggers and women that want to settle down.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 02:01 AM
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exactly, you should get rich because being rich is better than being poor, you shouldn't try to get rich to attract women because then you will only meet gold diggers which is fine if you just sleep with them, but money will never find you a wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 01:49 AM
2

depends on what you consider common there are supposedly 240 million 911 calls each year nationwide.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 06:06 AM
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that was not a good comparison at all. men "need" hookers as much as a dog "needs" a squeaky toy. a better comparison would have been police and nurses. everyone needs police just like everyone needs nurses.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 05:57 AM
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"Rather than taking any semblance of accountability, women would still just try to place all blame on men." aside from the generalization this line describes the woman in your comment perfectly if you haven't had much success and alot of bad experiences more than likely YOU are the problem. as the saying goes "if you meet and asshole everywhere you go, YOU are the asshole" just like incels complain about all women but in reality they are the main problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 04:16 AM
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I mean at that point you might as well just buy high end escorts if you just want casual sex instead of wasting time taking a woman out on a date in the hopes she will sleep with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 04:41 AM
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it depends on the type of women you are trying to date/ sleep with. a woman that has had her fun and is trying to settle down would rather date a man that possesses one or more of these qualities, but will sleep with the guy that is tall and handsome while she is still trying to find the man she wants to settle down with. a woman that has no direction in life or doesn't care about settling down won't care if a man possesses these qualities or not and will just sleep with or have a casual relatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 03:48 AM
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in my experience women only have 2 hard standards and it's only for men they meet for short time and those standards are be rich or be tall. if you meet one of these standards you can pursue pretty much any woman and the response to you flirting with her, asking her out on a date, or trying to sleep with her will almost always be positive. if you don't meet these standards you will have to build a connection with her over time, so if you are not often around the woman that you want to date or sl…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 01:53 AM
1

imagine a guy has spent alot of money taking beautiful women out on expensive dates, expensive gifts, and vacations. he was just having fun at the time and most the relationships weren't to find love. he is now wanting to date for love and realized he doesn't like expensive dates and doesn't like traveling. he chooses you because you are average looking but have a great personality so you are the safe bet that probably won't use him for his money. he takes you on inexpensive dates (picnic, hikin…
/r/AllPillDebate28/09/23 10:38 AM
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because they use the phrase "where are the good men" instead and the rest of the sentence will be something along the lines of having a job, taking care of themselves, and just doing things a normal person would do but expecting themselves to stand out to a "good man" for god knows what reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 12:05 PM
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the thing is being single and hoping the perfect man comes along is not a problem it's the being single and complaining that the perfect man has not come along that is the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 09:56 AM
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it would be fine and dandy if women stopped complaining about how "shitty" men are because the men they choose to date are shitty. it's like a Sprint customer yelling at a Verizon employee because of the shitty phone service they chose.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 09:51 AM
4

flat chested and well endowed
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 09:48 AM
8

my 2D girlfriend could beat your 2D girlfriend up.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 09:47 AM
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plausible deniability, and gas lighting my friend. got to say something that she will most definitely interpret as you wanting to sleep with her and work with how she responds but at the same time if she responds negatively it leaves you leeway to pretend she interpreted it wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 01:36 AM
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it's not about what I think, it's about what happens. there are older men that get tons of younger women. I could think that women aren't really attracted to them and just want them for their money but the reality is they are sleeping with these women so it doesn't really matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 01:30 AM
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I being a man even find it hard to tell people they are ugly. I just won't respond instead of giving them false hope which is what I think causes the problem. why even respond at all if you know it's just cause they are ugly. I would understand telling the person to workout and lose weight, or to start doing some skin care, or to change their hair, but telling them "take better pictures" is such useless advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 10:42 AM
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god damn you are handsome and that hair is fucking majestic. I aint gay, but...
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 10:37 AM
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them being their healthiest without no wrinkles or saggy skin is what makes them attractive. sure you can have that when you are old but you're more likely to find that in women in there 20s. don't blame me blame biology.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 10:19 AM
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neither but people mistake me for being spanish all the time no idea why
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 10:15 AM
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in both scenarios you are hoping that she will like you it's just one is make more of an effort in the hopes she will like you. I just don't see the point in making an effort to start a conversation with a woman that isn't interested in you with the hopes that she will become interested when you can instead have a conversation with woman that is clearly interested and get a better response.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 10:14 AM
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could be men not wanting to marry could be women not wanting to marry. the world will never know unless someone funds a study (which I doubt anyone cares about it that much to study it)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 10:00 AM
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um idk about you but most men like casual sex. you puritans can have your own opinions but you should only apply them to yourself and the people you date.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 09:57 AM
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yes, but you are thinking of a relationship, the gold diggers want the relationship but the rich man only wants the sex. she has to compete with other gold diggers in order to have a chance to lock him down and because there are thousands of gold diggers for every one rich man she ends up having to sleep with him or he will move on to someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 05:21 AM
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gold diggers are completely fine just for sex, though. just like a hot loser is completely fine for a fling.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 05:17 AM
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it depends. I don't think any man should date women significantly younger than him, but if they just want to have sex then by all means do that. if he didn't have sex very often or with women he found extremely attractive when he was younger he should not be forced to settle with someone just because he is older.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 05:10 AM
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that's the point though, your values aren't the same as someone that is mature so stop complaining about the men and just realize you are young and dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 05:05 AM
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just want to point out that divorces rates are declining but the rate of marriage is also declining. not saying correlation is causation but...
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 05:02 AM
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I would also say women should stop being angry at men for being attracted to younger women. it's annoying when people get angry at others for what they are attracted to. just let people live, jesus christ.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 04:54 AM
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I'm starting to think this is projecting or manipulation from women that can't get a man like there is nothing there to imply or even insinuate she is using him for money and doesn't find him attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 03:31 AM
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and american men are not average by their standards. I think that's what they are implying.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 03:24 AM
3

time to hop on Duolingo and learn some German.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 03:16 AM
2

why do that when you can go for women that are already interested in you though?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 03:02 AM
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I say it would be social suicide to seem desperate for anything that walks your way.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 02:31 AM
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the phrases you are using are ambiguous being more present and in the moment could be anything from not thinking of someones past actions before spending time with them or how you interact with them, drinking and partying without thinking about work tomorrow, not working hard so you can take it easy in the future, having fun without thinking of how much money you spend, etc.. if you mean it this way then living in the moment is not work, it's easy to live in the moment it's hard to deal with som…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 02:29 AM
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it's not hard to doubt when you write rage bait like this that sounds like it was writtten by a femcel that wants to make all men look bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 02:10 AM
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I had a coworker that struggled because he was introverted as hell (he was homeschooled) and since electrical work is male dominated he had little to no contact with any women, and refused to go anywhere or do anything social except work, company events, or when he would come over to my house or I would go over to his to hangout. tried to get him to download tinder but he thought it would be embarrassing to be on there. I have seen multiple women flirt with him but he just doesn't know how to re…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 11:08 AM
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Double standard: the women who engaged in our casual sexcapades are damaged and unworthy of love but the men are fine. you write it with the specific purpose of it sounding negative when in reality it's just this ​ standard: I don't want to date a woman that has had sex with too many different people. I don't care about how much sex a man has had because I don't plan to date a man. it's also completely fine for a woman to not want to date me if she thinks I have had sex with too many different w…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 10:46 AM
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you only thought of food (which is not cheap at all when it comes to a teenager) but you neglected to think about entertainment, sports, a car, car repairs, insurance, medical bills (they are almost guaranteed to get injured), clothes (I know when I was a teenager my clothes didn't last for more than a month), saving for college, etc... all a baby needs, is food, clothes, and a place to keep warm and sleep.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 04:36 AM
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as long as they have that as a preference and don't complain about women not being chaste but just won't date them I don't see the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 04:05 AM
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whining is what changes you from you being a person with a preference to you being an annoying woe is me person this goes for both genders. stop complaining about the opposite gender not meeting your standards and dating being hard because of it because you are just annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 03:59 AM
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I think getting money is way more fulfilling than changing your personality to appease other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 03:53 AM
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I highly doubt you are a man and if you are you are just weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 03:50 AM
2

also women cosplaying as men
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 03:49 AM
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for toddlers and babies, sure (aside from paying a mortgage, utilities, car payment, insurance, and medical bills from the pregnancy) but once you get to teenage years you better have atleast 500+ extra every month.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 03:27 AM
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to add too you your point it sucks to be single and alone for both men and women but it sucks for women when they are also ugly and it sucks for men when they are also broke. if you got money you can always supplement that loneliness with temporary happiness (sex workers, vacations, outings, expensive hobbies, etc...) if you are hot as a woman you can always supplement that loneliness for temporary relationships (fwb, strangers wanting to talk to you, and flings)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 03:01 AM
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better to be analytical and use your intelligence to get money than to change the way you think to appease a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 02:45 AM
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because when you are young and hot you will have more men approaching you, meaning there is a higher chance you will meet the guy that fits your standards and your personality matches up with his. when you are old and average or below average, men are less inclined to approach you meaning you have a lower chance of finding someone that fits your standards and matches up with your personality. now couple this with a boring, annoying, or toxic personality (you would be able to get away with these …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 12:46 AM
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one of my family members was one and she had childhood abuse, she never used any drugs besides marijuana (once),from what she has told me she was never abused by her clients, and she actually enjoyed doing it, and she wasn't desperate for money (far from desperate in fact). so she checks just one of those boxes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 01:05 PM
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I have a handsome friend and I whole heartedly agree that there are men out there that don't have any need to pay for dates, gifts, or be good at talking to women in order to get sex but at the same time people like my friend are not the norm which is why most guys pay in some form or another for sex
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 12:52 PM
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who's telling them that? if I told a woman she looks ugly without makeup I would get torn a new asshole and the same goes for every other man while at the same time it's completely acceptable to tell a man his personality, status, and looks are the issue. I don't think it's wrong to tell the truth but it shouldn't be only one gender that gets to hear it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 12:46 PM
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I can agree with you on point 2 and 3 but I draw the line on point 4 but there is some leeway on point 1 but I would never date someone that is financially irresponsible ever again. also my job is exhausting so I would also avoid someone that wants me to stay up late with them unless it was only on my days off.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 11:50 AM
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the economy is still on fire but if you have a career, that time put into it translates to experience which translates to more money (depending on which career you picked). you will eventually make it to a point where you make more money than you know what to do with even if it's not millions or hundred thousands of dollars. the career I chose I have 5+ years of experience in and most jobs I apply for, I get almost instantly and that's with way less experience than most the people I've worked wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 11:36 AM
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the reality is that unless you are above average you are most likely never going to get a hookup and will probably have to find a relationship before you ever have sex or just pay for sex workers if you don't feel like having a relationship at the moment. the personality standards are extremely low when it comes to hookups for women because it's almost completely based on your looks. they may say "just be nice, respectful and upfront" but the guy they are imagining asking them for a hookup is ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 11:06 AM
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this is exactly it. I have a lower bar when it comes to personality and interests for dating women that are above average because they already stand out with their looks, but I have a higher bar for dating women that look average when it comes to personality and interests because they don't stand out when it comes to looks so they have to stand out in other ways and I don't have any bar for someone I don't find attractive because I don't plan to ever date them. women that complain about the bar …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 05:11 AM
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black women inheriting the allegations
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 03:09 AM
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she lied about something minor before we were even in a relationship we were just dating. how does me not wanting to date a liar make me an asshole?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 03:08 AM
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"she'll date dogs" white women really not beating the allegations.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 02:11 AM
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"Can we finally admit that women who find men unattractive, that they are openly mean to them, or simply don't think they exist?"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 02:10 AM
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just buy hookers and cocaine 🤷🏾‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 01:44 AM
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it amazing me that people think I don't know this happens to women, when the fact that it happens is the exact reason I used it as a comparison. imagine a women stopped sleeping with men before being in a relationship because of this exact scenario. should we tell her "it's disgusting that she uses sex as leverage to get a relationship"? or should we say she needs needs to do what's best to protect herself? this is what men are doing but we get told we are wrong for trying to protect ourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 01:14 AM
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lying to someone you want to be in a relationship with in order to get the relationship or to get them to sleep with you does indeed make you a bad person a woman I was dating at the time lied about not being a virgin, and pretended she was amazing at it... the sex was terrible and afterwards she admitted that she was a virgin, I stopped taking her on dates and asking her out after this. she made the situation worse by calling me constantly and yelling at me like I was the asshole, after I told …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 01:06 AM
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I wouldn't compare myself to the guy she fucked easily if she was ok with me putting in as much effort as he did. that means no wining and dining or doing anything more than flirting and chatting with her. or I could just not date them based on their body count then I would never have to compare myself. that would make it easier and less time wasted for the both of us. the warning sign is that she fucked a random guy she didn't want a relationship with faster than she would fuck the guy she want…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:22 PM
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if she had a "dry pussy" then she shouldn't be dating the man it's as simple as that. the only reason she would be dating him is security, comfort, and company.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 02:19 PM
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if I told a women that was used for sex that if she wants to avoid situations like that she should "try learning about signals that people give", that's also reasonable too right? because by your logic, that's the problem and is the main reason why they get used for sex. it's not the men, it's them not being able to read the signals. body count matters when it comes to protecting yourself. if she has had ONS and hookups her body count is more likely to be high therefore if she doesn't hookup wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 02:17 PM
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using him for the security, comfort, and company. you'd be shocked how many women do that instead of just getting in a relationship with someone they are sexually attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 01:55 PM
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holy shit, turns out it was actually a gay relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 01:52 PM
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well your argument fails based on your own logic then if you think mens chances of meeting a liar are slim, then we don't need to worry too much. Therefore, the argument is pointless. but if you think mens chances of meeting a liar are high, then you also imply a majority of women are liars. rock and a hard place right there.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 01:40 PM
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I wish women could see the world from a mans point of view. only then would they see the fucked up dating market they put us through. if you have a high body count this most likely means you participated in no strings attached sex meaning ONS and hookups and then you turn around and start attaching strings to having sex with you when it's a guy you want a relationship with (this is absolutely mind boggling). imagine you've been having sex with a guy you met on tinder regularly for a week. you kn…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 01:15 PM
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guys just need to stop dating people seriously just because they want sex if it is just to have fun just participate in casual dating and let it be known upfront and if you are dating seriously don't get with someone that doesn't have the main goal of putting their life together or has immature main goals like traveling the world instead of buying a house. what I see a lot in the modern dating world is men also desperately looking for someone to date instead of letting it just happen with someon…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 03:12 AM
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