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| 8 | I have a temporary order hearing today!Here’s another reminder that you are an amazing human being who doesn’t deserve being nickel and dimed - and the gaslighting on top of that where you feel the need to justify that it’s abuse is not needed. You know you were abused and treated terribly. And it doesn’t have to reach a crazy threshold to be abuse. He does not deserve you in any way and you don’t need to prove that in any way. I’m also going through a divorce and seeking orders so I am sending you strong vibes and getting them back … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 01:38 AM |
| 77 | Jimmy Kimmel segment where men struggle to answer the most basic questions about their girlfriends. Ladies, never settle for someone who doesn't take an active interest in your life.I don’t understand why people are laughing!! This made me so mad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 01:34 AM |
| 35 | Why I will never allow a gun owning man in my homeWhen I started dating my ex husband, my friend and I found an old Cosmo (yes we were huge pickmes then) and took the test as a “joke” about what kind of relationship I had with my ex, and one of the questions I keep thinking about is that one of them said that if he holds the back of your neck as you’re walking, then he’s controlling. He came off as such a “nice guy”, really nerdy, and never spoke to other women, and a self proclaimed feminist. It (and a bunch of other red flags and my intuition… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 01:42 PM |
| 9 | Have you noticed how much better the quality of your sleep is after cutting all contact with a LVM or simply sleeping by yourself?Yes!!! But this was because my ex husband would always grope me or try to have sex or do awful things while I was trying to sleep. I just thought I needed more sleep or I was just always tired but since getting divorced I have tons more energy and need less sleep than I did before | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 03:11 AM |
| 3 | Want kids but dread raising them?Yes - completely, especially because I want to have children on my own. And I always wanted to have a girl but you can’t control what child you have and know that I’d love a boy just as much. At the same time, I have a niece and a nephew and have been learning from my siblings (their parents are physicians) and apparently boys will take longer to potty train and develop? I always thought it was society that made them not want to wipe their butts but it’s something that I’m learning now that I’m … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 03:25 PM |
| 5 | How do you dress at home when living with an SO? Do you feel pressured to dress for his “male gaze.” Does he complain or suggest things? Y’alls experience?My ex husband used to want me to wear lingerie around the house and if I was ever naked he would grab at me and sexualize everything. Men who cannot stop their sick gaze are trash and need to be dropped right away. It can escalate to worse because that is a hop skip away from assault and then r*pe | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 05:21 AM |
| 16 | LVMs and their love for "alone together"Oh I also want to point out that it’s not just homebody pursuits because when he watched sports I’d also just be near him but also he had outdoor hobbies and I learned how to belay just so I could be near and join - or I would come along to be be near and sketch outdoors etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 02:25 PM |
| 62 | LVMs and their love for "alone together"That sounds and is terrible because I had a marriage like that. The truth is that you actually feel more lonely than if you were actually alone because then you are essentially condoning your partner to ignore you when you are around and cultivating a complete lack of empathy for your needs and interests - which is what ended up happening when my ex husband decided that being “alone together” was not enough for his extreme sports hobbies and that he would need to move to another country to live … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 02:22 PM |
| 4 | Know exactly what you want.I love this title and message - but not just for men, but for everything in life. I never realized how little I knew what I wanted for myself until I got divorced and then was (and still am) lost about anything that I want and prefer because society has taught me to always accommodate for other’s wants. Like even the smallest thing like what to order for office lunch when nobody else has a preference. It’s so important to know what I want and do it because a lifetime of just doing what others wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 06:48 AM |
| 6 | Are you doing the Pickme Backslide?I’ve been reading and thinking about this too how much more willing to entertain bs whenever I’m ovulating - but then I have a question, which is how do you tell exactly when you’re ovulating??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 01:45 PM |
| 10 | Mothers’ legal challenge to institutional misogyny the UKYeah I agree! Reading it, I’m thinking about the repercussions the men had (which is obviously nil) and then it seems very much blaming women for everything - getting pregnant, coercive mothers, the evil midwife who withheld pain meds. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 02:31 PM |
| 41 | Mothers’ legal challenge to institutional misogyny the UKI don’t think that the comment was literally discussing grammatical issues but is rather pointing out how the article is written without engagement to the role that men play in this whole thing and the larger systemic misogyny that gave rise to these human rights violations... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 02:07 PM |
| 42 | How would you ever be able to trust him again? Disgusting.D I V O R C E . . . Freedom!!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 06:23 PM |
| 4 | I have no words...Father likes that people think he’s dating his daughter🤮The answer is sperm bank | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 05:39 PM |
| 2 | If you weren’t convinced of how far men will go just watch this. This is why it’s advised to follow most if not all of the FDS rulesThis is exactly what men champion look like I’m Aladdin or Jean Valjean or Robin Hood. But if it’s a woman.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 05:34 PM |
| 6 | Men into extreme adventure sports/hobbies, red flag?The guy I was with was exactly like this and he left to go “find himself” aka do these sports exclusively without the risk of settling down in any way after 9 years of playing around that it’s just a hobby. Do not engage | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 05:26 PM |
| 1 | If you weren’t convinced of how far men will go just watch this. This is why it’s advised to follow most if not all of the FDS rulesExactly - I was actually talking about this with my girlfriends the other day because the Julian Assange case determined it was rape if you take off your condom and lie about it (sick right?) and if you recognize that lack of consent and deception to be criminal, it should extend wayyyyyy further to all the other disgusting toxic stuff that men do to force sex from women | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 02:29 PM |
| 5 | Finances in MarriageThis is the way that I would do it if I ever got married again. I ended up in a financially abusive relationship where he eventually left me during the middle of the pandemic with no job or money even though we started off “fair” because when we were both working, we put 50% of our salaries into a joint account. When I stopped working, the arrangement was still the same but I didn’t have anything for myself so my savings from working slowly dwindled down while I managed the joint account and hou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 02:26 PM |
| 1 | Another old man was being a creep and taking pictures of an 19 year old, guess who the internet blames. (Also love how Karen has gone from a term for racist customers, to a swear word for women who stand up for themselves)These comments are ridiculous. So when did being able to pay a couple hundred dollars for a camera (1) make you a “professional” photographer? And (2) allow professional photographers to trample on the basic concepts of invasion of privacy and consent. Ironically, professional photographers would actually have to obtain consent over their subjects. Just a sign of toxic trash men thinking “professional” means they can do whatever they want aka privilege whereas when women act professionally, it u… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 02:18 PM |
| 24 | If you weren’t convinced of how far men will go just watch this. This is why it’s advised to follow most if not all of the FDS rulesLawyer here - he just revealed that he doesn’t pay child support based on fraud. He’s stupid enough to literally admit this on video. The amount of back child support he will owe... I’m hoping the power of the Internet finds him and gives him the tiniest fraction of justice to make him accountable for that at least. At the same time, the fact that this type of behavior isn’t criminalized for rape or remotely even considered rape (he’s coercing women into sex under false pretences and they would … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 01:21 PM |
| 26 | What is femininity?Wow I love this post and your makeup post. I’m trying to figure out what I like and who I am, and I think the ultimate goal is to dig down deep and just find what makes me comfortable. I started wearing makeup and getting dressed up again, and I think it’s in response to my abusive ex having told me that he thought it was superficial and then having me feel ashamed about it. I do feel a lot of creativity and pride when I can present myself really made up - but I am questioning where that line is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 05:12 PM |
| 6 | Why scrotes hate single moms...You are their worst nightmare - a living breathing thriving embodiment of how unnecessary they are. I’m planning on being a single mom by choice, working hard and leveling up so I can have real love and family in my life instead of some trash man who wants to use me for his own gain, so hearing about other happy single moms is so inspiring. It really makes me believe that the change you make in this world is through the life you lead | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 02:52 PM |
| 2 | Yes you CAN be intimidatingly beautiful and that's why scrotes don't approach you (a blessing in disguise)!I know right! The judgment that people will make on how you dress is none of their business but just a means of policing women to externalize how OTHERS feel about their bodies rather than internalizing the beauty from how you feel INSIDE from what you wear!!! You wear a dress and someone accuses you of overdressing. You wear sweats and someone accuses you of not showing enough skin or being schlumpy. Instead now it’s just about wearing things that make me feel confident and dgaf - so also somet… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 02:47 PM |
| 85 | Yes you CAN be intimidatingly beautiful and that's why scrotes don't approach you (a blessing in disguise)!I like wearing a floor length maxi dress that is comfortable and flowing and always conveys stature and ease (you don’t have to be tall because I’m only 5’3”). Also always paying attention to the details, a ring, earrings, a necklace - as others have said, a piece of high value jewelry that shows you know that you deserve and wear your jewels on a basic everyday level. It’s not just special occasion. Mood for life and signaling that anything that is gonna ever tough your body has to have comfort… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 02:47 PM |
| 5 | tw: sexual assault(??)// A sexual encounter with my ex makes me feel sick to my stomach when I think about it nowThis is rpe. My ex is a rpist and he would always get off using my body when I was hungover because it is all based on power and objectification. When you’re hungover, you’re sick and unable to enjoy, feel pleasure, fend off, etc - you’re more vulnerable and predators will take advantage of that. Please be careful because he may also have been r*ping you while you’re sleeping or passed out. That is what my ex husband did for I don’t know how long. It’s ok to be vulnerable, drink, get hungover, b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 01:46 PM |
| 20 | keep your journalsCongratulate yourself for being so strong, thoughtful, and thorough. The universe is saying something for sure because I literally just did the same thing to document my ex’s abuse as well for a court pleading I need to submit by today. Best of luck with everything. Journaling is not just good for processing and grounding your present experiences, but also to trace the growth live has as a woman and keep the record straight without letting abusive power hungry men try to rewrite history. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 09:03 PM |
| 3 | Half of women 'have suffered sexual assault by a partner while asleep'Do not blame yourself and be careful about the therapist you find too because when it happened to me a a nd I told my therapist she had the audacity to tell me that we had a good relationship so I shouldn’t bring it up and that I should have pressed charges when it happened or else it’s not rape. It’s rape - he’s a rapist | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 09:13 PM |
| 6 | Half of women 'have suffered sexual assault by a partner while asleep'I hope that you pressed charges - and regardless I’m glad you’re sharing your story. My ex husband raped me and sexually assaulted me when I was passed out or asleep constantly but made me feel guilty for drinking or nOt ReSpEcTiNg HiS bOuNdArIeS when I told him he couldn’t touch me when I was sleeping. He convinced me to keep it hidden for 5 years because he was SuFfErRiNg from porn addiction. There are people out there doing depraved shit and thinking it’s ok - and the only way to change that … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 09:11 PM |
| 8 | Three officers resign after arrest of 73-year-old with dementiaUltimately fds exists because we’re on a misogynistic patriarchal society where men of any LV NV have power and therefore feel entitled. Throw institutionalized power like being given a gun and a uniform with very lax regulation and training - that man is gonna be out of control entitled. Have a woman in an all male industry, yeah chances are she’s a pickme because she needs to survive in her workplace that way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 08:21 PM |
| 8 | You are not a courtroom. You do not owe men the presumption of innocence.I am a lawyer and I know that the presumption of innocence is a bs principle anyways. It’s predicated on this belief that people can be judged objectively without bias and deeply ingrained cultural and societal prejudice. The basic stats on disproportionate conviction and incarceration of POC and lower socioeconomic classes is one indicator that the presumption of innocence is a false lie we tell ourselves to maintain faith in the “rational” and “objective” standards of the society we’ve built. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 06:51 AM |
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