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Agree 100%
/r/MensRights09/07/25 04:56 PM
2

I agree
/r/MensRights06/06/25 08:41 PM
1

What are you guys doing? Is this a place for women? Go back to the woman’s divorce group. Matter of fact I’m out of here.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/25 02:35 PM
4

You’re doing great my man!!!! Don’t forget that. Everyone’s situation is different and no one is perfect. Keep going. Your new life is just beginning.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/25 02:07 PM
11

This must be a woman who posted this
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/25 02:03 PM
6

So happy for you bro
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 10:50 PM
4

Strong man!!!! I’m proud of you. Stand tall!!!
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/25 12:39 AM
11

Yes
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/25 02:22 PM
7

Like anything else you get use to it and adjust. Starting over and change isn’t easy. You’ll have good days and bad ones. But it will get better over time. I moved to a new city and didn’t know anyone. No friends or family. And within a year I had a bunch of new friends and women. You’ll get there. Just keep going thru this process. Keep working on yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/25 05:17 PM
2

Congratulations glad it’s working in your favor financially and emotionally
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/25 06:32 PM
1

This is really what I need to bite down on. Wish I had a homie to motivate and work out with. But you’re right. I have to hit the gym
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/25 10:31 AM
16

Good they can go to a hotel. Nobody is kicking me out of my home
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/25 05:40 PM
1

No way fuck her and them kids.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/25 02:33 PM
9

I say this respectfully and hopefully you get the message…. Fuck your son, fuck your ex, and fuck everyone else…. It’s time to love yourself. To put yourself first. Stop paying your exwife. Go on a vacation, buy some sharp clothes, jewelry, cologne, buy a nice ride. Go get a new haircut. Go out on some dates. Call up some friends and have a guys night out on the town with some drinks. Smoke a little weed. Do things that you enjoy. In time you will start feeling better. But you have to love you b…
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/25 01:16 PM
12

You did well. Now heal, put yourself first and find things to be thankful for and happy about. You got this!!!
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/25 07:56 PM
1

I wholeheartedly agree with you
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/25 05:52 PM
1

Yeah both of you are crazy and toxic. I’m not judging because me and my wife were the same. But once you leave her and build yourself up any woman after that who crosses the line will be let go so easily.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/25 01:03 AM
6

I salute you brother. I believe you did the right thing.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/25 11:50 AM
9

I believe that. I also know that there are women in this group lurking. And yes they all want out of marriage. Women of today hate their roles as wives. I just love to hear the regret that a lot of them have once they divorce and reality smacks them in the face.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/25 11:47 AM
3

Yes we are very easily manipulated by women. That’s the nature of things. And when a man finally wisens up that’s when he sees it all. Usually it’s too late
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/25 06:04 PM
7

No way. As bad as you may want your family back you have to understand that she’s capable of these things. And please don’t do like me and accept a child that isn’t yours. Us men tend to think that’s the honorable thing to do (raise and care for another man’s child) but it’s not… it’s actually pretty dumb. On top of that you may have to deal with her new baby daddy. 🗑️ move on and find you a woman with no kids and learn to love yourself first even before your kids. ☮️
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/25 11:58 AM
16

Definitely I learned to never trust them
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/25 11:42 PM
7

Good luck brother
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/25 03:09 PM
27

Just stop dude. She’s right she can wear what she wants. Don’t look.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/25 11:30 PM
12

That’s why from now on I keep a stash of money tucked away so if my new girlfriend acts like my exwife did in this manner… I’m gone!!!! I will no longer ever take this kind of abuse. This is mental abuse, manipulation, gaslighting and narcissistic behavior at its finest. Been there done that.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/25 04:45 AM
3

Why are you in a divorced men’s group?
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/25 05:33 PM
3

There’s no power given I’d just be happy if she wasn’t breathing anymore and I have a right to feel that way.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/25 05:28 PM
1

Yeah me too
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/25 05:26 PM
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So you’re questioning your child about who mom is seeing… because kids don’t just up and tell that information to dad randomly. Stop interrogating your son and go on about your life.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/25 05:21 PM
6

All I gotta say is I wish my exwife had stage 4 cancer so I could decide to not go and see her and she would die without ever seeing me or hearing my voice ever again. I’d be super happy.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/25 05:18 PM
2

Sometimes it definitely means being an asshole. But it needs to be done. I set boundaries early!!!!
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/25 10:34 PM
4

I don’t like bossy women. I’m the boss!!!!
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/25 10:31 PM
4

Get a lawyer, leave and no contact. Don’t look back no matter how it hurts
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/25 04:24 PM
5

Can’t tell anyone when they can heal and move on. But I will say you miss the thought of her and the good times. You have to understand that she’s not the same person and that relationship will never be the same ever again.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/25 10:17 PM
1

I’ve been divorced a year. I’ve been feeling better. I still have my moments of hurt but I’m doing better than I was a year ago. I hope that in year 3 I don’t even think about it anymore
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/25 10:14 PM
0

They are just over emotional and dumb. They’re not very smart creatures by any means
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/25 09:04 PM
2

I’m just glad I’m feeling better after a year of divorce. Not all the way healed but I’ve come a long way. Being alone isn’t bad.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/25 09:57 PM
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Don’t ever do that or allow that again. Walk away from the marriage with your pride. Trust me
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/25 06:08 PM
1

Kids definitely played a part in my divorce
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/25 08:21 PM
1

What
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/25 08:59 AM
2

I hear you
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/25 12:32 AM
5

Given a bad rap might as well live up to it.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/25 01:14 AM
-5

Simple. Either do activities alone with your kid or abandon the kid right along with the mother. For me it’s all about peace. There’s no more family.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/25 11:02 AM
1

I’m just goings say that some of these ex wives need some red rum
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 08:32 AM
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It’s in your head. You’re probably thinking about your ex or still traumatized.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/25 02:52 AM
8

Block her so you won’t see anything else. Personally I completely deleted all of my social media so I won’t get a wiff of what her or her family is doing
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/25 09:33 PM
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She doesn’t love you and she doesn’t care about your mental health, authority and well being. She’s against you. Show her what life is like without you. I had to do this with my exwife. I made up in my mind that I won’t help with the kids til the day I die. I know that she’s struggling with teenagers respecting her, grades, chores and listening. But when u was there enforcing these things she didn’t appreciate it. Now I pray she struggles with this until she dies. Fuck exwives.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/25 03:01 PM
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She’s not a good help mate. She wants a man to pay for everything while she has nothing but fun with her money. Get away from her as soon as you can. Fight for 50/50 for you kid so you won’t have to give her a dime for child support. Then move on brother. She’s not worth the trouble. And I’m willing to bet that as long as you two have been on and off with separation that she has slept with another man. Get out of that situation asap. Good luck brother
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/25 02:52 PM
2

Very common. Bottom line is most if these exwives could care less about us.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/25 07:46 PM
5

Fuck her bday. Live your life. Find things to do. Enjoy your life. We get so hung up on our exwives that we forget about our own happiness
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/25 05:40 PM
2

Women are really only good for sex, cuddling, cooking, cleaning, looking pretty and shutting up.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/25 11:21 PM
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Walk down that hill and fuck them all my friend. Sex is good. Have fun. You’re not committed to anyone
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/25 04:07 PM
1

Let it go. If one person doesn’t want it and if they tell you they are no longer in love with you then it’s time to exist. You’re only wasting your time worrying about saving it. Let her live with the regret later.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/25 03:23 AM
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All I can say is Redrum 😆 jk
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/25 12:27 AM
3

And I don’t be around to help or say I told them so.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 08:58 PM
11

My kids sided with their mom. Also they didn’t like the fact that I was hard on them, held them accountable, expected good grades and good conduct. I made them listen and respect their elders, I didn’t allow them to slack on chores. I made them get part time jobs at 15. Also I didn’t soft parent, I gave out ass whoppings when needed. Basically they hated my rules and discipline. So now that they are a little older and still living with their mom they get to smoke weed, curse, play video games al…
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 07:58 PM
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I haven’t and I won’t. Good riddance. The last words I said to my exwife was I’m living my life as if I never knew you. Asked her to delete all pics and vids of me out of her phone and social media although she chooses to keep them. I’ll never be understanding I’ll never reconcile, I’ll always stay away as if we never met. The end.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/25 07:24 PM
7

I cheated on my wife before and throughout the marriage and I’m glad I did!!!
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/25 12:22 AM
6

For me it’s honestly when you get to a point of not giving a fuck and doing the things that benefit you and make you happy
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/25 06:46 PM
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This sounds like a woman’s post. I believe there are way too many women in here. This place is for divorced men. Not divorced women
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/25 09:52 PM
2

This is very real!!! Well said!!!
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/25 09:54 PM
8

I understand how you feel. 40 years is a long time and to just leave someone after all that time can feel very hurtful and cruel. Loneliness can drive ppl to do things they shouldn’t do. I’m guessing you’re an older gentleman since you’ve been married 40 years with kids and now grand children. You’re probably very stuck in your ways. You’re probably very use to the family dynamic. The only thing I can tell you to do is to pray for strength and happiness and take some of that money and get you so…
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/25 04:14 AM
5

Easy just date different women
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/25 04:08 AM
6

You shouldn’t even be in this group.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/25 03:51 AM
2

😆
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/25 03:50 AM
6

That sounds like something I need to learn to do.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/25 03:13 AM
7

I have done a little therapy and honestly therapy does nothing for me. They usually don’t tell me anything that I didn’t know already. And if it’s about venting then that’s something I’ve done with friends or family. Not sure how therapist help.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/25 02:50 AM
9

Maybe true. Maybe I am picking the wrong women. And maybe my view on women is flawed due to my trauma. But I’m feeling like women are only good for some cooking, maybe cleaning and some sex. After that things seem to get real iffy for me when it comes to them. It feels like when they aren’t around in my life things flow so smoothly.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/25 02:48 AM
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I hear you on that. I use to feel like being single was bad but I’ve learned that it’s really a blessing and peaceful especially when you’re at peace with yourself and taking good care of your self.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/25 02:23 AM
2

Agreed
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/25 03:30 AM
12

There is no handling it. You will be forced to accept it. Period. We don’t have control anymore. They don’t owe us any type of loyalty anymore. It’s a hard pill to swallow. Walk away and mind your own business. Do better for your self
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/25 11:50 PM
5

I will never be friendly, on good terms or a good coparent. We don’t speak at all. Child support sent, and good riddance. Nothing to talk about with her or the kid.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 12:08 PM
7

I would’ve never got married to that individual from the beginning. That’s where I went wrong and that’s what I would’ve done different. You’re gonna have to lawyer up and fight for your kids and your money.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/24 10:00 PM
4

It’s tough. Keep seeking keep living keep growing and when the time is right you will know. Your young. You got your whole life. Everything you feel is valid. The loneliness and missing companionship is real. Even missing the soon to be exwife is understandable. I’ve moved on but still miss my exwife or the thought of when things was good between us. I think it will always kind of hurt but we have to keep moving forward
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/24 01:49 AM
2

For me it’s all about bringing my biological children around a man that she lied about, cheated with, and had a child with while with me. I just don’t have the love to give them anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/24 04:51 PM
5

☝️ I agree
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/24 03:30 PM
5

Together over 20 years, married 9. Found out when the kid was almost a teen.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/24 03:27 PM
3

Yes and held it a secret, got pregnant by the guy, pretended as though the baby was mines.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/24 03:20 PM
14

Enemies 4 life. No contact at all what’s so ever. The hate is real over here. We will probably never speak again.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/24 05:04 AM
3

Sex is important. For mental health and health in general. It’s whatever are made to do. You may not want to remarry but not having sex ever again is crazy.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/24 06:42 PM
1

Agree
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/24 07:19 PM
1

Good advice
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/24 10:08 PM
1

Yes sir
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/24 11:22 AM
7

Why worry so much? Just pay your mortgage and live good. We don’t know how much time we have left on earth. While you’re slaving and denying yourself things to pay off 500k in 5 years what if you die a year later? God forbid. But you would have lived your last years miserable and denying yourself of life’s pleasures for a condo you can’t take with you. I’d say get the condo, get a nice vehicle, work hard and enjoy your life. Spend time with kids, have several women that you may date. Travel. Enj…
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/24 11:20 AM
6

I feel like if she’s willing to work things out it won’t hurt to see if you guys can fix it during the divorce process. If it doesn’t work then continue with the process, if it does work you can always stop the divorce. Atleast she’s willing to fight for the marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/24 08:02 AM
1

I agree I thinking I’m getting too far ahead of myself
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/24 08:00 AM
3

Probably the best piece of advice thus far. Thanks man.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/24 02:52 PM
3

You may be right didn’t look at it that way
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/24 02:51 PM
2

Great advice
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/24 02:51 PM
2

Good point
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/24 12:52 PM
3

Good point
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/24 12:51 PM
1

That’s real logic. Man why do things have to be this way.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/24 11:21 AM
2

Yes it did. Good point
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/24 11:00 AM
1

I hear you
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/24 07:38 AM
1

Great advice
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/24 07:19 AM
5

I get it. I need to hear that
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/24 01:46 AM
8

You’re right.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/24 01:46 AM
0

Great advice
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/24 12:47 AM
1

I think you’re right
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/24 12:31 AM
2

Great advice
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/24 11:49 PM
3

😆 I guess it kind of looks that way 🤦🏾‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/24 11:48 PM
0

Good thinking. But I don’t think it’s a rebound. I’m really into her
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/24 11:36 PM
2

The first few months was horrible for me. Especially after a 20 yr relationship and a 9 year marriage. But your young you will shake this
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 10:12 PM
6

Yeah man that’s the way they are. It gets better for us though. Believe in GOD. Focus on the betterment of you.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 08:47 PM
1

I agree I went through the same thing. Couldn’t express gore I terror without it being a problem however I didn’t give up on the marriage due to that resentment. She did. But I get it
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 06:07 PM
1

Don’t fight it. Give her what she wants and go better yourself
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 02:45 AM
4

I agree with you brother.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/24 07:00 PM
1

Yeah. It’s because it’s on our minds or in the back of our heads. But one day it will be no more. I’m sure if it.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/24 06:40 PM
1

I’m hoping that after 2 years I’m in a happier better place. It’s only been like 5 months since my divorce and a year since we’ve been separated and I’m starting to feel better. Accomplishing goals, meeting new women, sex, making more money, moved into a new luxury apartment, decorated it the way I want, planning on purchasing a 2nd vehicle and looking to do a lot of traveling with different women. Also I have no family or friend support. You can get past this when you’re truly tired of feeling …
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/24 06:25 PM
2

Yeah it sucked but I can say that me focusing on bettering my life and obtaining the things I want and value is making it better. I’ve gotten to the point where she can do whatever she wants. I’m not watching or inquiring anymore. What I don’t know won’t hurt me. Let her be. Meanwhile I got a new luxury apartment, decorating it as we speak and I’ve been dating several women. My job is going very well and I’m about to start my fitness and traveling journey. To hell with my ex. I have to be happy.…
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/24 05:46 PM
2

Atleast she’s running it by you. My ex brought her new bf which is her ex before me around our kids and didn’t blink. They’re going to do what they want. They owe us no loyalty. Some feel they don’t even owe us respect. So you have to try to eventually put your feelings, pride, anger and hurt behind you and do what you want in your life instead of sitting around worrying about what she’s doing or who she has around.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/24 05:36 PM
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Very screwed. You better tell her to get back to work and find yourself the best lawyer you can buy
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/24 12:32 PM
7

Get divorced and get the hurt and pain over with. Don’t have kids it will complicate things even more
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 11:15 PM
4

I deleted all of my social media altogether.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/24 04:27 AM
2

😆
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/24 01:30 AM
10

No way. Even though I cant stand most women’s mindset and I hate the way they do things I still love their bodies. I can’t see myself having sex with a man. Very hard pass!!!!
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/24 08:55 PM
-2

A man still needs sex
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/24 07:16 PM
4

Dude I was just about to make a post about how I feel when I go out on dates or sleep with a new woman. I would be getting ready for a date and call my friends and tell them that I’m not really feeling it and I didn’t really want to go. They would root me on to do it. I’ve had sometimes where the date went great and ended up having sex and everything was cool. But other times when I’m not really feeling the woman I start to think about my exwife. I miss my ex’s smell, soft skin and just her pres…
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/24 07:01 PM
5

I hear you loud and clear. Everyday is a battle for me not to call, try to reconcile, to not check her social media etc. I’m just at a point where I’m just telling myself to leave it alone and it hurts like hell. After 20yrs and all that we’ve been through I can’t believe it’s over. But I will say that even though I’m still grieving and hurting that it has gotten a little bit better as I don’t hurt as bad as I did in the beginning. I’m just hoping as more time goes by it goes away completely. Go…
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/24 02:39 PM
4

The fact that she was a liar from the beginning and I kept overlooking it and forgiving her. 🤦🏾‍♂️ dumbest move I’ve probably ever made.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/24 10:06 PM
8

I think my exwife is living her best life with lots of friends and family support. She seems to be doing well financially, mentally and physically. Me on the other hand I’m depressed and trying to bounce back from the financial strain this has left on me. Really sucks.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/24 12:36 PM
2

That’s the way women are. Can’t trust them and it sucks that we invest so many years into them and things end like this. Like for one second have they ever thought that there was times that we was unhappy but we held on to the marriage and family? We could’ve just decided to leave as well. But I’ve learned my lesson. If I’m not happy I’m leaving right away just like they do. Why stay and try to hold on when things aren’t making us happy but when they are in the same situation they will leave wit…
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 12:04 PM
6

I hear you and deeply sympathize with you. I’m hurting and struggling as well. Sometime I feel I’ll never get over this. I just try to go to work everyday and take care of my finances. I’m hoping within the next couple of months I’ll be able to be in a better situation financially atleast. Dating does suck and what’s worse is I moved to a new state for a good job and I have no family or friends to support me. It’s really hard. I feel like I’m trying to survive. And yes I feel ashamed, hurt, angr…
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 11:30 AM
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Don’t trust women. Don’t get married. Nothing last forever. Ppl change. Ppl lie. When things aren’t right don’t have the “I’m gonna hang in there and work towards it to make it better” get the heck out of there at the first sight of a red flag.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 11:00 AM
9

Every single day. But it had to happen. But I hate it. I’m still hurting.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 02:45 PM
1

I’m so sorry I feel your pain
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 04:21 PM
4

Well she won’t respond and if she does it’ll be an argument, deflection, gaslighting, lying, disrespect, no accountability plus screaming and yelling all on her end. So I don’t waste my time reaching out. I’ve decided it’s better to hold in what I want to say and how I feel. Just let her live her life so that I don’t have to deal with the above things mentioned and that way I won’t get upset, disrespected or angry. I’m just letting go as best I can.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 04:20 PM
2

I wasn’t eager at all but it had to be done. Even after the fact we are divorced I still am hurt and upset about it as I didn’t want a divorce. But like I said it had to happen.my exwife wouldn’t do paperwork and the judge still went through with the divorce since I did everything in my end.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/24 05:52 PM
7

Just don’t have the motivation. Stuck in depression and trying to get things back together financially 🤦🏾‍♂️
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/24 12:07 AM
1

I miss having consistent sex. I always had a high sex drive. I feel like I want it more now although I’m single with no potential partner.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 09:46 PM
1

Yes sir
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 09:43 PM
6

I’m happy for you just be smart and don’t get too comfortable remember your ex made you feel the same way early on. Things and ppl can change. Good luck
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 05:13 PM
5

Yes divorce and things in the marriage have left me with mental health issues like depression and abandonment issues. I’m just lying to myself daily saying to myself that everything is going to be ok. Until it’s a reality.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 05:10 PM
3

Both of you can do better. I can see her frustration but she went way too far. You can do better to keep up with yourself for your wife. Also words like that can be a deal breaker so if you chose divorce I understand. Bottom line is marriage sucks on so many levels.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 05:07 PM
5

To never trust a woman and to never get married
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 03:23 PM
7

Leave her and watch how she regrets her words
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 10:43 PM
3

You’ll see that with someone new after going through divorce it’s so easy to break up with them. To protect yourself and not deal with anything that reminds you of the past. I’ve been there. Dated a really nice girl for like 3 months. Thought she was the one but when I started seeing her ways I instantly got turned off and eventually ended things. At this point I have to protect myself. It’ll probably be this way for a while until the right woman is met or when we fully heal. Either way keep on …
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/24 11:42 PM
2

Just don’t do it because you know you will regret it.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/24 09:33 PM
1

Great words!!!!
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/24 07:17 PM
3

I feel your pain as I go through the same exact thing. It’s really hard and even though I’m where you’re at I’m constantly trying to tell myself with nothing being sacred anymore it’s now my chance to be selfish and do very well for myself. All the things I sacrificed for my ex family is now an opportunity to do for me. Financially, mentally, and physically. I hope that we don’t stay in this drought forever as I know that we both miss and still want our wives and family even though they’ve done …
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 09:01 PM
1

Me too
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 01:55 PM
6

Leave now!!!! I hate divorce but if you’re not happy don’t stick around. You have to be happy and healthy in order to be there for your child. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/24 08:42 PM
1

I hear you and wish you luck. Divorce is horrible and until you’re going through it and after it’s over it feels really bad. But yes there is hope.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/24 04:40 PM
2

Oh man you’re probably going to regret this
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/24 07:56 PM
3

Spot on
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 11:56 PM
1

Good luck
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 06:00 PM
4

Just don’t get married at all. I wish in would’ve thought like this before I got married.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/24 03:04 PM
2

I’m just glad that I don’t have to pay child support and no alimony. All my money is my money although I had to clear up hers and my debt that we shared together because she wouldn’t help. I tend to think of how wrong she was and the fact that I don’t have to spend a dime on her or her kids. Starting to make me feel better about the divorce. Good days and bad days.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/24 09:19 PM
1

25k
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/24 10:10 AM
6

Women’s selfish mentality when it comes to their “happiness” they fail to understand that in a marriage it’s about the betterment of the family as a unit. It’s not always going to be about my nor her happiness all the time. They don’t truly believe in til death do us part. So no remarrying for me, unless she’s a different type of woman than what we see and deal with today. Plus the heartache and financial loss is not worth marriage these days. It’s worse than playing Russian roulette
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 07:02 PM
4

There are some but not many
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 10:42 PM
2

Atleast you’re hitting the gym. I hear that helps a lot. Seems like you’re going through the normal motions. I say keep up the good work and if anything find more ways to make more money. If your finances, credit are 100% together then you are winning. Especially if a divorce is coming want to make sure you have everything financially squared away because the divorce may cost you. Other than that the feelings your feeling are normal and you have to go through it. Unlike you I need to hit the gym…
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/24 10:42 AM
4

Mostly lies, secrets, growing apart, different view and honestly don’t think she really ever loved me.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/24 01:24 AM
2

When they are mad they treat you like someone off the street.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/24 01:10 AM
7

Nothing. I don’t like being divorced at all. I miss companionship. Having someone to have your back. Making memories. Someone to depend on. A friend. Someone to talk to. I don’t miss the bullshit. But the good parts of a marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/24 01:08 AM
3

Yeah this is my first Father’s Day without my family and it hit me hard. I decided to work ot on Sunday to try to keep busy. No calls, nothing.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 09:53 PM
4

I feel the same way. My exwife picked a huge fight with me so that she could justify leaving. It’s a mind fuck. And like you when I asked for marriage counseling she denied it and held on to our argument. Bottom line is they were done. They just needed an out and blowing things way out of proportion and our responses gave them that out. I really hate that my family has been torn apart as well. Like you I crave companionship. Not a marriage but true love and companionship. A partner that truly lo…
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 06:11 PM
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I haven’t found happiness. I try to work as many hours as my job allows and accomplishing all of my financial goals that were stopped do to the divorce. I’m just working towards putting my life back in order financially after all of this. Hoping I can get back to the fun guy I used to be after everything is handled. In the mean time there is no happiness for me just work and go home.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 10:13 PM
4

I’m in the same situation. What I’m learning is there’s nothing that can be done about it except to think about it. Which sucks as well. Eventually you’re gonna have to just understand that it happened and there’s nothing you can do about it. That’s where I am and it hurts like hell. So you’re gonna have your moments where you feel bad depressed and sad. Times you’ll cry about it. But bringing it up to her will get nothing done. Ppl don’t like to hear how they did someone wrong. That’s how ppl i…
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 10:08 PM
0

You’re right but when you really love someone you do stupid things like try to hold on to them. And I was wrong. I realize that I should’ve put myself first instead of having the mindset that ppl aren’t perfect and to mindset to fight for her, my kids and family no matter what. I failed. I learned a lot of lessons. I feel bad enough and I beat myself up about it daily. So I get it.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/24 12:58 AM
2

It’s gonna be tough bro seriously. Seems like a new adventure now but the second you guys actually separate it’s gonna feel real bad.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/24 12:15 AM
6

Have to stop being so available to her.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 09:28 PM
6

Great logic. And honestly you’re making me believe that remarrying isn’t the way to go. But this is the thing. You can’t argue with a man about his life. He wants to risk it all for love and marriage he has that right. If you’re his friend you warn him of the cons and support whatever decision he makes based upon his wishes. I can imagine the man is lonely and hurt that his wife passed away. He may feel that he needs a wife again. I feel that way but the way these women are today, I’m not sure I…
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 05:15 PM
0

I understand exactly how you feel. I’m still at the beginning of my divorce and it sucks. I’m hoping it gets better for the both of us.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/24 04:47 PM
1

I hope you’re right because it seems like hell that I’ll never get over this.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/24 11:22 PM
4

I had that coming
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/24 04:28 AM
1

Thanks man great talk
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/24 01:07 AM
4

Yeah major weakness on my end
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 08:10 PM
2

Yes sir thank you
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 07:24 PM
6

No child support. The divorce actually went very smooth. Thankfully
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 04:48 PM
9

I agree. It’s my fault. Should’ve had the balls to leave from the beginning
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 12:37 PM
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Yeah that’s exactly how I feel but I won’t stand in the way. The other guy is the biological father and if the kid and mom wants him in their lives I’m going to accept that. It hurts because the kid is 13 now and he acts like he doesn’t even know me. I guess his dad will be put on the pedestal even though I was the one to raise and take on responsibility. Good guys finish last
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 12:27 PM
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No. She didn’t play dirty in divorce court. Not even on child support for the biological children we have as I’ve always did my job.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 11:20 AM
3

I’m in the same boat. Everyone tells me it’ll get better later. Been divorced 2 months now and for me it’s not really getting easier. Maybe it’s different for different ppl. I’m just trying to keep pushing and focusing on my career and having a relationship with my son. I really don’t know what else to do. Not sure on even how to heal. I’m just going day by day. This sucks.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 11:14 AM
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I said we broke up in 2008 and she slept with the guy. Not saying she didn’t cheat I think she may have. But I never caught her. She lied yes
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/24 10:55 AM
2

I got you find the strength to leave her and I hope she gets with the other dude and I hope he makes her life a living hell!!!!
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/24 02:36 AM
1

We all just need to get in our heads that women are dilusional ppl. And what we need to do is play along with what they believe to get what we want which is sex and then leave them. We are at a point in society where hopes for a successful marriage, love, fairness, honesty, respect, longevity is at an all time low. It’s not even worth wanting a relationship these days.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 10:39 PM
1

I hear you man. I’ve been there with my ex wife. We was separated 9 months then we divorced. I came back around about 2 months after our divorce to see her and my son. I was hoping that we would still show that we atleast loved each other. Nah I see that she doesn’t love me anymore. I knew that when she first left me. I’m in your same boat. I guess we just gotta find a new woman that will love us the way we want to be loved. Then hopefully we can move on and let go of the women that we so desper…
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 09:04 PM
1

I’m here for the advice. I still can’t fully let go of how my exwife did things that crushed and devastated me.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 01:32 PM
1

Your best bet may be to leave that house. I know you live your family but you can’t be there for them if your in jail, beaten badly or worse. Time to get out of there for the safety of yourself and everyone else.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 03:00 AM
4

Unfortunately you have to find a way to move on. It’s not worth it to make a big fuss about this. I know it hurts but it shows her, and everyone that you’re still hurting and that you still want her because you’re checking up on her. I know it’s still a very fresh wound but for your own sanity try to let it go and find you another woman.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 02:55 AM
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