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Being a bully isn't the universal turn-off that people make it out to be. Not necessarily that it's an attractive trait, but it's not bad enough for an instant-rejection. Women tend to hate inexperienced men, and feel more comfortable rejecting and even insulting them, compared to abusive men. Women absolutely hate publically criticizing other women's preferences, even if they disagree or if those preferences are ridiculous. Seems like doing so breaks some sort of girl code or whatnot
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 06:31 PM
12

"You need 10 years of experience for an entry-level job"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 08:09 PM
19

I've learned this hard way as well. Feels like women hate virgins and inexperienced men more than they hate rapists and abusers, or at least they magically feel more confident and brave rejecting the former group
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 01:48 PM
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This was something I experienced more when I was a teenager, or in my first couple years of college where you're deemed a loser, and how dare you have the audacity to un-loser yourself. When I got older, it was kind of the extreme opposite, where my friends would try way to hard to get me with random women (key word: random, these weren't women I was attracted to or actually interested in) and it was super off-putting
/r/AllPillDebate04/11/23 07:01 PM
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Similar boat here: been making 6 figures for the past couple of years, and my own home and car, and I'm still a virgin. Don't get me wrong, having these things are great in other ways, but it's not the magic bullet with women that some people make it out to be. Your latter point hits the nail on the head: women really do prefer social skills, and (to an extent) nice bodies. While having a job and a home is better than being jobless or living on the street, you don't need six figures to impress w…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 09:05 PM
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They haven't. It's just a lot harder to meet then, especially for guys who started out towards the bottom
/r/AllPillDebate27/10/23 06:04 PM
3

Chads get away with it all the time. The only ones I've seen get false accusations (which are super rare, btw) are guys in really nasty breakups, or a teacher failing someone.
/r/AllPillDebate25/10/23 03:26 PM
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High school fucking sucked for me, so if anything, I more regret missing out on the social environment in college than in my high school years. I had a really bad first year, due to being in a really toxic dorm hall which really fucked with me and ruined my confidence, I also started out on academic probation and it took a while to fix my grades, and I also did engineering, which not only meant less women, but even less time to socialize with students outside of it. I did join one club towards t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 11:09 PM
10

Women can't sense shit. Don't believe their lies. What they're "sensing" are guy who make their misogyny very well known or are too open about it. For all this talk about humanizing women and not putting them on pedestals, they sure love giving them magical powers, too
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 12:43 AM
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I don't disagree. I do think the issues are: It's harder for people, including men, to fully work on themselves and become attractive, especially if they're starting from the bottom and didn't grow up with money, stability, or welcoming environments. Good social skills and hobbies/interests, especially at a younger age, are more often than not an incidator of privilege. Kids are fucking terrible to each other, and growing up without opportunities to socialize due that kind of bullying fuck with …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 10:03 PM
1

I get what you mean by hypocrisy. FME, these are things people would say to the rejected party after the fact; if they actually witness the woman rejecting the man because of his height, no matter mean or callous she is while doing so, they always side with the woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 04:20 PM
1

I agree about non-toxic confidence but arrogant self-delusion is still constantly seen as attractive confidence
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 05:11 PM
1

It's frustrating to see women say that they love bad boys and excitement...and then you'll see the most basic dudes have women crawling over them
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 04:13 PM
6

Yes, as it's harder for people, especially men, to work on themselves and make themselves more attractive and desirable. The world fucking sucks, and instead of changing expectations of men in terms of sexual experience and dating, instead, society just doubles down on the current expectations and still tells them that they're not true men if they're not having sex.
/r/AllPillDebate08/10/23 03:55 PM
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When women say they want nice guys they mean someone who won't be too much of an asshole to them. That's why a lot of them don't really care if they're assholes to other people. That's why bullies and abusive people in the work place don't really have issues obtaining sex or getting women attracted to them
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 10:25 PM
4

Think about it: it takes a certain level of (misguided) confidence to be a jerk towards someone. And confidence is attractive!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 10:14 PM
9

I've seen "women have great instincts about insecure and bad men" and other variations of it spread around. For all this talk about not putting women on pedestals, they sure love telling each other about these magical powers they have.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 10:09 PM
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No, they don't have a 6th sense, psychic powers, or any sort of built-in personality detectors. It's just a myth to scare off unattractive men. The men they supposedly have bad hunches about and all that are just so outwardly terrible that anyone can pick up how bad they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 10:07 PM
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I don't think that being kind or wholesome is a turn-off women. If anything, it's that being an asshole or toxic is not the women repellent that most women insist is the case. They're right that women love confidence, which isn't a bad thing at all. However, it's that women (and I guess a good number of men, too) still think that arrogance and being an outward asshole to people are signs of confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 10:05 PM
2

In the hierarchy of men, virgins and inexperienced men are way worse than known abusers and narcissists, just as long as they're "experienced." Don't get me wrong, there are some inexperienced men who are legit narcs and have abusive personalities, but IME women would rather assume that you're just a shitty person who deserves to be alone if you're a virgin, while they're willing to give experienced men chances, even if they're known shitheads.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 10:00 PM
9

Then you're one of those guys I mentioned that's in that first group
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 07:53 PM
2

ends with dumping all your trauma and shit on someone who doesnt have a chance to run away... For sure, that's therapists are for. Sucks that it's a huge pain in the ass to get access to one, and that's not even discussing the quality of said therapist.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 05:50 PM
2

Good for you, man. Wish other men (and other women) were like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 05:43 PM
2

True, although women aren't judged for being celibate/inexperienced like how men in a similar position would be. And there's not judgement for her if she's emotionally vulnerable with her friends; men rarely get those opportunities
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 05:31 PM
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Pretty much. Women express interest in men they like, and will even ask them out themselves. Just not with men like us
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 05:29 PM
5

Because women nowadays are willing to forgo romantic relationships completely, and also aren't judged negatively for being celibate and inexperienced or for being emotionally available to their friends, at least certainly compared to men. For all this shit currently going on the world that's making it harder for people to work on themselves and form romantic connections, they somehow changing their expectations of women, but are instead doubling down on the status-quo expectations for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 05:23 PM
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"You need 10 years experience for an entry-level job". lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 10:07 PM
2

I said that once, and she still didn't accept that
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 10:03 PM
5

They already do, they're just not going for men like us
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 09:57 PM
3

Basically my parents and other boomers, people on reddit and the general internet, even some of my own friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 11:29 PM
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Get a college degree, a house, a car, six figures, learn to cook, etc. even if it means putting dating at an early age, and even making friends, aside and women would come flocking to you no matter what. That isn't the case at all. Yeah, these are important, and even necessary things to have and do, but they shouldn't automatically result in sex and a girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 11:27 PM
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I don't disagree. I know I'm not fucking perfect or an attractive man. Like I mentioned in my previous comment, I just wish someone was honest with me about it at a younger age, or at least set me on the right path to achieve these traits, instead of just telling me to pursue other things for the wrong reasons, or ice me out completely, as if I don't deserve to improve myself
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 11:22 PM
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Women like you, especially on Reddit, insist they exist, but I have yet to find one out and about, and I live in a major metropolitan area. Women I've encountered here really care about experience, even if it's bad experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 10:55 PM
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I already know that they don't guarantee a relationship. I just wish other people would stop lying to me and other guys about it
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 10:54 PM
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but they will probably be few and far between and you’ll need to initiate it That's where the whole invisible thing comes in. I can't really my life with someone if they refuse to let me in to begin with. I do all the things they say they want, but it's never going to be good enough but I’ve known some shitcunt guys who were swarmed by women and it just reinforced the behaviour I'm not that stupid or naïve; I know that the hot guys get attention. Just pisses me off when people say that's never t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 03:33 PM
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On paper, I'm supposedly what women say they want: a homeowner who can cook, clean and take care of himself, pro-choice and leans left, doesn't mansplain, college educated, doesn't harass women or cheat, has hobbies, doesn't listen to alt-right and manosphere influencers, makes six figures, etc. but I'm either still invisible to women, or they find out about me being inexperienced and reject me over that (I've resigned to lying about this now, since women don't deserve the truth and don't realiz…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 02:37 PM
5

Nothing wrong with an older woman (I'm 31)...they just don't want me. I don't think I'm ready to date a single mom, and I hated being fat, so I don't want to date someone that reminds me of my lowest point
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 04:44 PM
3

I get that...my weight has fluctuated over the years so I'm dieting and working out again, but apparently wanting to get in physical shape is "shallow"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 04:43 PM
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Because the things they say they're picky about often don't align with reality. For all this talk about reproductive rights and wanting a man who has his shit together, why is that they always seem to keep giving chances to men who are anti-abortion, live with their parents, have no job or any ambitios to get one, listen to Joe Rogen and Jordan Peterson, or don't even wipe their asses? Then there's me, who's the opposite of all these things, who supposedly "clears the bar" yet I'm still invisibl…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 02:31 PM
1

They date, they just do their best to keep "undesirable" and below average people out of the loop as best as possible
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 01:24 PM
1

The way I see it, they know the world is fucked, and that it's hard for guys to properly work on themselves, especially for a "below-average" man to get on an average man's level. However, instead of changing their expectations of men based on that, they just double down on those expectations; instead they judge below-average, and even some average men way more harshly. This kind of mindset is contributing more to the rise of incels imo, and just creates a negative feedback loop Rules for thee, …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 01:23 PM
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The women who say that are being disingenuous. What they've describing as the bar is the bare minimum (supposedly), but there's way more that they want...if the bar was truly that low, why do so many guys who obviously don't meet it are constantly given chances over guys that do meet it? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 01:19 PM
1

I'm a 31 year old virgin man, and personally, wanting a virgin or inexperienced partner was never really priority for me. I just want someone to love me back and find me attractive, regardless of their experience, and not use my own inexperience against me. While I'll admit that I am worried that I might get compared to a partner's previous relationship, that fear has never made me only seek out other virgins. That being said, my own experience is that while not everyone woman hates virgins, the…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 05:50 AM
7

From my experience, women would rather have an affair with a married man than have sex with a virgin
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 04:55 PM
2

Interacting with women is easy. Dating them is a whole another story
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 06:07 PM
3

Women (or people in general) can't smell shit from a mile away. Some people just make it so obvious that anyone can pick it up. People should stop repeating myths about women having magical powers. For all this shit about how it's misogynistic to put women on pedastals, they also sure love to make themselves look like x-men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 06:06 PM
3

I've experienced this first hand. While I know that not every woman out there hates virgins or inexperienced men, women as a whole, even ones who like inexperienced men and think the stigma is unfair, aren't going to criticize women who virgin-shame men. This is especially true for Millennial and Zoomer women (from my experience, it's mainly Gen X and older women who will call out other women who virgin shame or place a huge emphasis on experienced men.) This is why I just lie now, until I get e…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 06:04 PM
1

No. People here just aren't average.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 12:56 AM
3

Because: It's hard for a lot of guys, especially younger and starting out, to get enough money and time to pursue those kinds of opportunities Even with women opting out of dating and sex and wanting to be willingly single, the stigma against men for being inexperienced and sexless still exists. Men are still expected to date and have sex, even with less opportunities to do so. Instead of just telling men that it's okay and that they shouldn't be judged if they're not having sex, it's the opposi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 07:33 PM
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That's the plan, moving forward
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 09:40 PM
2

Who gives a shit about your virginity (besides yourself)? Apparently the women who rejected me for it did 🤷🏽‍♂️ I was unaware that I was attracting so many women who were invested in my sexual experience
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 05:11 PM
10

Nobody's screwing you
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 05:09 PM
7

For sure. I get that more and more women are opting out of relationships and are willingly wanting to remain single, and that people in general are having less sex and losing their virginities at later ages. Unfortunately, instead of society changing its expectations of men because of these, instead it just doubles down; instead of saying "hey, it's okay if you're missing out in sex and dating, focus on other things instead and you'll still be worthy" it's now "there's a much higher bar to clear…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 05:08 PM
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Actually, I think you're right. Problem is nowadays, it's harder for men, especially ones who started out at the bottom, to become an attractive man
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 04:52 PM
1

All the swing/salsa/bachata classes in my area are either full of dudes are women who bring their spouses
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 01:54 PM
1

Maybe it's different over in the UK and Ireland, but I looked up the closest Scottish Dance Orgs to me, and they're full old people. The kilts look cool, but I don't think it's gonna expand my dating circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 01:51 PM
1

I think most average guys do well. Unfortunately, for whatever reason, men like us who struggle, are considered below average for whatever reason
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 01:43 PM
8

You mean, NOT screwed
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 01:40 PM
2

Until you find out how much the apps fuck your profile up and keep it hidden unless you pay. For some reason, married men and abusive dudes are ALWAYS getting matches (if women on the apps are to be believed)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 01:38 PM
2

Same time, you need good pictures, especially ones that show off having a decent social life. If you don't really have a lot of friends to help take pictures, you're fucked. And hiring a pro photographer to help is the lamest fucking thing I've heard in my life; are women going to be impressed when they find out??? I would think that their magical desperation-detecting powers would tell them to stay away
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 01:36 PM
1

Dance classes have either sausagefests, or were full of women that bring their spouses. Didn't find very many single women at any of them
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 01:33 PM
13

They never tell you where, even the most successful men won't tell you where, either. They really do want to keep a permanent class of losers, because they love spreading the idea that only "good" people have sex, and only "bad" men are virgins
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 01:30 PM
1

I don't really trust the foreign countries, especially third world ones. I feel Nevada would be a safer options, once I get logistics and all that sorted out.
/r/AllPillDebate20/08/23 07:57 PM
1

I've considered going to Nevada for a sex worker, just didn't have the money for it until now. Logistics are another thing. I don't really want to go to foreign country for sex tourism
/r/AllPillDebate20/08/23 07:29 PM
2

I wish therapy was a cheap and accessible as everyone else says that it is. I've been on waitlists for nearly a year, and you'll see people bragging about how they've cycled through half a dozen in a couple months.
/r/AllPillDebate19/08/23 04:44 PM
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I'm slowly reaching that point. I'm 31 and still a virgin, and I just don't think I have "it." Some delusional people will say it's PeRsOnAlItY but you see plenty of awful people who have no issues getting into relationships; some don't even hide it.
/r/AllPillDebate19/08/23 04:43 PM
1

Unless you live out in the sticks, most men won't get to that level of money/status that will automatically get women to be attracted to them. That being said, money can allow men to pursue hobbies and interests, and invest in themselves, which, in theroy, makes us feel fulfilled and attractive to others. Money and status can get you access to certain privileges that are fun and fulfilling, and are full of other attractive people. Unfortunately it's harder for guys, especially ones who didn't st…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 02:07 PM
2

So, women can't sniff out misogyny and smell insecurity like so many on here claim they're able to do? They don't. Just some guys make it so painfully obvious that they don't even have to ask women out in order to get rejected
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 03:47 PM
1

Women having a 6th sense is myth to scare off insecure men. Some guys are just outwardly awful and have such obviously unattractive and terrible personalities that it seems like women have a 6th sense when they're rejecting them
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 03:46 PM
1

The problem is that women prefer confidence and charisma And a lot of times, arrogance either gets mistaken for confidence, or gets developed because of misplaced confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 03:43 PM
1

Has a profession or trade that pays decently well. Yes Working or in school full time. Yes Is putting money away for retirement Have a few retirement accounts, but haven't contributed any money to them in over a year Will be able to afford a house Already own one Is loyal: won’t cheat Yes Doesn’t smoke Correct Doesn’t drink more than like a beer once a week, if at all Correct Doesn’t do drugs including weed m Correct Gentle Sure? Kind I try Manly Hard to feel like one when you're a 31 year old v…
/r/AllPillDebate27/07/23 11:11 PM
1

If people aren't dating or having sex as much, it's fine. Reality and current trends already show this. The problem is that, despite the acknowledgment of these trends, men are STILL judged based on their sexual and romantic experience. Those bullshit expectations are still there
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 03:08 PM
3

It's not that women have magical personality detectors; anyone who says otherwise is lying. It's just that some men are so outwardly disgusting and miserable that they become automatic turn-offs. And yes, good looking men, basically ones that meet Eurocentric beauty standards and all examples of the patriarchy or whatever, usually have huge fucking leashes for bad behavior
/r/AllPillDebate24/07/23 05:50 PM
1

I don't think he's incorrect. It's just that men like us aren't average, no matter how hard we try
/r/AllPillDebate23/07/23 05:39 PM
1

Thank you for actually responding, I mean it. At least you're willing to talk, unlike /u/operation-spot who ran away after I answered them But yeah, this shit is fucking hard at 31. Even when I try different groups on meetup, I feel even more lonely. Why even both going and looking like a desperate weirdo if nobody wants to engage?
/r/AllPillDebate22/07/23 02:50 PM
1

Awesome, thank you for not telling me how to find a social circle that will be openly accepting and not be clique-y and wouldn't ignore me every time
/r/AllPillDebate22/07/23 02:33 PM
2

Yes, there's plenty of hot women in their 30s and 40s. They may not be attracted to me in particular, but they're not "used up" or whatever the fuck
/r/AllPillDebate20/07/23 11:44 AM
1

It already is mainstream, maybe not as extreme as your examples, but it's mostly true. We're all victims of it
/r/AllPillDebate20/07/23 11:42 AM
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None, there is no such thing as a good dating site, unless you're a woman or a REALLY attractive men. Hell, married men who are openly trying to cheat somehow are getting more matches and dates/sex than single men
/r/AllPillDebate20/07/23 11:32 AM
6

Having friends and getting invited to their homes and such Not getting bullied as child or at least only have it happen once Be up to date on pop culture and such, and not be judged if you missed something; some friends would even fill you in Be allowed to pursue certain hobbies and extracurricular activities. Be allowed to mess up a bit and embarrass yourself when socializing without harsh judgement. Easily fitting in and socializing with a new group Actually looking forward to the prom and goi…
/r/AllPillDebate19/07/23 04:30 AM
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I think it was a lot easier for men to work on themselves and become an attractive man and meet those patriarchal standards back then. Everything changed after 9/11 and the Stock Market crash in 2007/2008. It's much harder now, but the bullshit thing is that society as a whole still expects us to meet those standards and expectations from 20+ years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 01:38 PM
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Forreal. So many "normies" take their experiences for granted. I didn't get the same opportunities to learn and grow like normal people, and I'm paying for it. I also hate when they say we need to "practice." Like, holy shit, regular people don't like getting "practiced" on, why set us up for failure?
/r/AllPillDebate18/07/23 01:34 PM
1

Ok, but what about ones who do? The ones who've literally told me to my face that "virgins aren't men" and would even tell other women in our shared social circle to stay away from me because of my inexperience? Are you actually going to say something to them, or just remain quiet and instead put the onus on me?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 02:17 AM
1

Yeah I'm getting to that point. Even if she gets mad that I lied, at least I'm not a virgin anymore. It's not my fault that some people want to willingly enforce the patriarchy onto me. As far as I'm concerned, they don't deserve the truth. Sadly, I had a six pack a few years ago, but ended up losing it because of the pandemic and stress eating. Even at my peak, I still wasn't doing well with women. I'm not as bad as I was in the years preceding that, but I still have a long ways to go
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 06:26 PM
1

So keep lying That's the plan, unless it's someone I really trust, which is super rare Who cares? Apparently a lot of people do, including women I've tried to date But the real question is why are you still a virgin? Long story short, I'm constantly tired from working, still too fat and out of shape to attract women, and almost all of my friends from college moved far away or started families on their own and don't have the time. Everyone else grew apart because of the pandemic, and reaching out…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 06:19 PM
3

Im not sure what you went to jail for but a lady telling you that you should be at X point in your life is disrespectful. Funny how women, particularly millennial and younger, absolutely hate telling other women this. At least Gen X women won't give a fuck and will call younger women out on their bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 03:23 PM
1

This is needed or you will get hustled once your successful with no experience That's where I'm at right now. Even when I was younger, living with my parents, and broke, women still rejected me, or even humiliated me, when they found out that I was/am a virgin. Now I'm a homeowner with a six figure income that's still a virgin. I just lie about my virginity nowadays. As far as I'm concerned, people don't deserve the truth
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 03:22 PM
2

I'm "successful" and I'm still invisible to women
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 03:19 PM
8

They just spend their teens/early 20s sitting at home waiting and saving cash? Not going out and partying, not buying a coffee, not doing anything and wasting the best times of their lives just to "save up for a house". I ultimately ended up doing that. Was able to buy a home in my early 30s. All that's done is made me a 31 year old virgin who owns a house lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 02:40 PM
1

In a world where women are free to be with who they want, expectations and stigma against single men need to change. It should be considered the norm, because it is, our expectations are just still catching up leading to unnecessary frustration and feelings in inadequacy. For sure. It's bullshit how people are still more than willing to enforce the worst aspects of what the patriarchy expects of men, even though reality doesn't align with it. It took me until I was 30 years old to finally have e…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 02:37 PM
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I don't know how it is in other countries, but it seems there's this unwritten rule in the US in which women, especially millennial and younger, are not allowed to criticize other women's preferences or requirements for men, no matter how ridiculous or mean they are. Hell, expressing preferences, even in the most toxic and abusive ways possible, is encouraged. Speaking out is considered "pick-me" behavior, for whatever reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 04:23 PM
1

The water does make their pizza and bagels taste a lot better than on the West Coast
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 04:20 PM
4

Funny because 180 cm is closer to 5'11 than to 6'0
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 04:19 PM
11

I noticed that it's shorter American women in particular who were LOUDER about their tall men fetish. I felt that above average height and taller women weren't as bad about it, and were more open to dating men that were or average height or shorter.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 04:18 PM
2

in theory and on average, therapy is supposed to help. Problem, a lot of people aren't aware of some of the drawbacks and such, like how hard it is to access or the costs. For example, I've been on waitlists for over a year, and this is with insurance. People act really shocked when I tell them this. It also doesn't factor that not every therapist out there is perfect. Sometimes you need to shop around for a decent one if your current one isn't helping, or is even an asshole; people also get sur…
/r/AllPillDebate11/07/23 03:58 PM
-5

Honestly, if they really were living life on easy mode, they wouldn't be on OnlyFans, Twitch, IG, etc in the first place
/r/AllPillDebate05/07/23 02:03 PM
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I didn't start making $100k until about a year ago. And at the time, my weight ballooned due to stress eating, so I was like at 4/5 for a while. Lost some weight but I'm not at my ideal spot, so the 6/7 thing is more of a recent thing
/r/AllPillDebate05/07/23 04:42 AM
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Probably 6/7. I can probably push up to 8 once I lose a bunch of weight and get my 6-pack back
/r/AllPillDebate05/07/23 01:12 AM
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Thanks. What also helps motivate me is now being able to pursue hobbies and interests that I couldn't previously afford to or do when I was still living with my parents. I think the biggest mistake people make is that assuming that having a good career, your own home, car, etc are automatically going to result in lots of sex or relationships. Maybe that's the case if you're a pro athlete or an A-list movie star, but it's not the case at all for someone like me. And this isn't just redpill bullsh…
/r/AllPillDebate04/07/23 07:13 PM
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I have a decent career and currently have a job that makes six figures. I'm still a 31 year old virgin. It took years of missing out on sex and relationships, living with my parents and taking jobs that paid under-market to get to this point
/r/AllPillDebate04/07/23 06:23 PM
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Yeah, some people are all for dismantling the patriarchy, but are more than okay with enforcing some of its rules against men. That being said, I do think GenX and older feminists, from my experience, are more likely to go against virgin shaming of men and will even criticize women for doing so, but certainly not Millenial or Zoomer feminists
/r/AllPillDebate04/07/23 12:48 AM
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I'm a 31 year old virgin and I'm getting closer to thar realization. Whatever it is, or whatever I do, I don't think I'll ever have what women find attractive in other men. I've seen shittier, uglier, dumber, boring, poorer, etc guys have no problems having sex or entering relationships, so clearly something's missing. I just want to live my life and be happy, even if it means being a virgin for the rest of my life. Maybe the right woman for me comes around, or maybe I'll just pay an escort for …
/r/AllPillDebate03/07/23 09:27 PM
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I don't think women have "bad personality" detectors at all, it's just that some dudes are so outwardly terrible and disgusting that it turns everybody off from the start. I get that some awful men are good at lying their way through, but at the same time, women would rather badmouth and warn other women about inexperienced and unassuming dudes, than the secret assholes. Maybe it's because they don't see men like me as threats, or as men at all, while the charming assholes, and NiceGuyTM type of…
/r/AllPillDebate03/07/23 03:38 PM
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While I think passport bros are lame, and that women aren't a hivemind, they certainly talk. And the frustrating, and even hypocritical, thing is, they rather badmouth virgins and inexperienced men instead of rapists, abusers, or adulterers. I've been on the receiving end of this. One woman in a former social circle found out I was a virgin, and she told EVERYONE else, and she made it her personal mission to make sure that I remained one. Meanwhile, she and the other people remained quiet about …
/r/AllPillDebate03/07/23 02:06 PM
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You're not the only one, but I'm not really angry or jealous about it for them; that should be reserved for the more successful men. That being said, our anger should be directed towards Tinder and the other dating apps, shit's fucked.
/r/AllPillDebate25/03/23 05:19 PM
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