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Yes, height, sorry, stupid phone auto correct. So after that, go silent, and confirm on Friday if we're still on?
/r/askTRP20/09/17 11:23 AM
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Just keep giving him positive reinforcement. It sounds as though he's sometimes insecure, and the only way past that is constant reassurance that no matter what he does, or what the consequences are, you trust him, support him, will abide by his decision, and will not blame him or cause him to feel bad should the consequences turn out less than stellar, or even negative. Once he has received enough reinforcement that he is allowed to fail and that you're with him regardless, his self confidence …
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 08:46 AM
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I'm sure sometimes it's just for a quick release but some days we've had plenty of sex and yet he might still spend a long time looking at pictures/videos. First, it doesn't matter how many times you've had sex that day. Sometimes men feel like wanking one out, whether it be the first time that day (if they've been busy and haven't had time) or the 12th time if it's been a very slow day and there's not much else to do. Second, there's a huge satisfaction in masturbating slowly for an hour or eve…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/16 09:43 AM
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I entirely agree. I especially wanted to see if others had had a similar experience, getting virtually flooded (when compared to other article genres) by such articles through various social media sites. I passed over the other 2-3 articles without saving them since I did not realize that there was a pattern here, but I'm seeing it more and more on my news feed without clicking on the articles, giving me the impression that some "greater propaganda" might be at work here.
/r/MensRights13/09/15 08:32 AM
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And you should learn how to talk to people if you want them to actually listen to you. You think taking that kind of tone would do anything apart from polarize me further to what you have to say? Yeah, good luck with that. I won't be making personal insults, but I hope you don't treat people in your personal life the same way as you do strangers on the Internet.
/r/MensRights06/07/15 08:23 PM
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I'll give 'em a look-through, much appreciated.
/r/MensRights06/07/15 06:37 PM
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Many thanks, stranger. Will give those links a look-over.
/r/MensRights06/07/15 06:37 PM
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Thank you, precisely the kinds of things I'm looking for :-)
/r/MensRights06/07/15 06:36 PM
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First off, you're making some incorrect assumptions. Please stop making them. I didn't ask to be lectured. To give some credence to the fact that you're making assumptions, let me give a little background: First, this is not a statistics class. I'm not setting out to prove anything. The essay is focused on a discussion of how and why from a socio-evolutionary standpoint females are favored over males in schools. Second, this is busywork. We've finished all the practical things, and at the end of…
/r/MensRights06/07/15 06:35 PM
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If they can get a handle on their servers due to the high amount of traffic they get, then I'd say yes. Reddit is a boat whose hold is filling with seawater, and the pumps haven't worked for a while now. It's sinking slowly. It just doesn't know it yet.
/r/TRPOffTopic06/07/15 12:47 PM
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The thing is, I think people are making a number of assumptions on my motives for posting this and the like. The primary reason I posted it was out of curiosity. I tried to find what reactions feminists had to MGTOW via google, but didn't come up with many pertinent results. So I posted it here. The interest only came up after I had decided to make the above decision myself, which is why I posted them in conjunction.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/15 11:28 AM
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Thanks for the words of encouragement, and for taking the time to reply :-)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/15 08:35 AM
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Thanks for the reply, I appreciate your words :-) Perhaps you're right. Maybe it's not entirely MTGOW. Perhaps the decision not to actively invest in or pursue a romantic relationship is different. I'm not completely sure. I think I'm done with that for the moment though, and I don't think a romantic relationship will happen unless the guy pursues it... though a large part of me yearns to be proven wrong, heh.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/15 08:34 AM
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Thanks for the suggestion! :-)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/15 08:32 AM
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Again, it wasn't regarding my particular case. I had tried to google Feminism's reaction to MGTOW in the past, and had come up drawing blanks, and so wanted to know how they felt about it. Thus the motivation for this post.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/15 08:31 AM
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Not sure what I have to gain from insulting random people who can do nothing for me or to me on the Internet...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/15 08:30 AM
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It hasn't really helped me, unfortunately, in the 10+ years I've been trying to socialize with women on a higher level :-(
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/15 08:29 AM
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Hey, if it reaches my inbox and is relevant, I try to reply _^ Eh, every time I try to reach out to someone on a romantic level, it ends being awkward and girls try to maintain as much distance as possible from me. Thanks on the weight! Still got a little more to go, but I'm getting close :-D
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/15 08:28 AM
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Probably not. It's more the decision to stop pursuing and investing in women. I think this will naturally lead to not having a relationship, as all my past experience points to this, though I may very well be wrong at some point in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/15 08:26 AM
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That's a good idea. I'll probably do it on my main account, as I tend to browse non-mainstream subreddits on this one and I don't want a link between this one and my real identity for fear of becoming a social pariah. Thanks for the suggestion!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 07:47 PM
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Hah, it would be nice to be the one chased after, rather than the other way around ;-) Thank you all the same for your response :-)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 07:36 PM
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Thanks for the encouragement :-)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 07:32 PM
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Thanks :-)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 07:18 PM
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The country's culture I live in, and especially the city, is not conducive to nerdy things. Maybe things will be different if I move to a larger city with more people who are into nerdy things, but for now, yes, that is the case. I'd love to find a group to play tabletop RPGs with, but there isn't one in my city (I've looked), and people aren't generally fluent enough in English to learn the rules, giving up before we get engaged in the actual game.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 07:18 PM
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I've tried online dating (signed up to 8 different sites a few weeks ago), but I don't think I'm attractive enough to get messages or likes. I've also tried Tinder and Fiix with the same consequences. When people do talk to me, they don't want to meet face to face, and instead we talk for a while before it peters out. I've tried a few different approaches, including the PUA style of cocky-funny, but because I can't seem to maintain a "light" attitude, I come off as simply a jerk and it doesn't f…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 07:16 PM
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When I try to initiate with a stranger on a romantic level, they either show disinterest or entirely ignore me. With people I know who I've developed a friendship first, they tend to become distant almost immediately. I don't get called creepy because people get the feeling that I'm basically a good guy and don't want to hurt my feelings, but I can feel that the way I convey things is "weird", and they react in kind. I also can't seem to be "light" in conversation. I'm not sure how to explain it…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 07:13 PM
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I do have the social group I go clubbing with sometimes. One guy, who knows my general situation, is incredibly charismatic, looks great, and is always dancing with girls who are more than happy to engage with him. He's easy-going, cheerful, and simply draws people to him. I've told him that I envy him (in a good way) and look up to how he does things. Apart from that, my social circles online tend to be people like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 07:07 PM
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Thanks. That does give me some hope. Unfortunately, I haven't met any nerdy women my age. As I mentioned elsewhere, I live in a relatively small tourist-oriented city where most of the people are there on a transient basis, and where I'm almost a decade older than most of the people who come to work, only to leave half a year later. Add onto that, that while I'm fluent in the native tongue, it's not my mother tongue which makes come off as a little slow at times when I search for the right words…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 06:55 PM
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Yeah, basically. But I get nothing but negative responses from women regardless of how many times I approach them. I'll give an example. Last night I went clubbing with friends, and tried to initiate dancing with maybe a dozen different women. None of them reciprocated, or tried to move slightly away from me. Since there wasn't any talking, I didn't feel particularly creepy then, mostly because there wasn't any talking. But regardless, it's a little discouraging. And when there is talking, I fee…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 06:52 PM
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Thank you for the reply :-)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 06:49 PM
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I'm sorry if I come off that way. It's not the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 06:48 PM
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Hrmm... should I ask my male friends? I have decent number of those, but I don't have any close female friends except for people I'm entirely platonic with, and this doesn't really apply to them as I don't feel any sort of romantic connection to them, and never tried to start anything (and don't plan on it). The women I do have a platonic relationship with tell me I'm high quality, and that most of the people around are not of high quality, and try to encourage me. But after so long of trying, I…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 06:48 PM
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Thanks. On the whole, that's kind of true, and I hope that one day something will fall into my lap (though I don't think that's the case, and I think that one needs to put effort and work into starting a relationship), or I regain the motivation to initiate and invest in women romantically. But for now I'm going to mainly do things that make me happy at the moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 06:46 PM
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It's much more about understanding feminist's opinion about MTGOW in general, not about me personally. I've tried googling the subject, but haven't found any relevant material, and I was curious how they felt about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 06:44 PM
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Thanks, that puts it much more into perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 06:37 PM
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And here I thought I was "holding frame" and stopping you from using your womanly wiles to change the subject grins
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 06:37 PM
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I... have not... Thank you for the suggestion. I will try to ask one of the girls I tried to start things with if she felt I was at all creepy. I don't think she'll give an honest answer, but it's worth a try.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 06:35 PM
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I can feel that I'm being creepy. But no matter what I try to change, I can't seem to stop it when it comes to romance :-/
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 06:25 PM
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I am. At least for the time being. That may change. But I'm going to give this a try for now.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 06:21 PM
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headtilt Oh. I hadn't thought of it that way. Thank you for enlightening me. Unfortunately, I'm one of those who needs to motivate myself, and when others try to do so in this manner, I get defensive and resentful. That said, if you read this GLO, thanks for the encouragement if that was your point. I appreciate it, if that is your aim, even if you're not able to say so except in your own special way ;-)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 06:20 PM
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grins That got a laugh out of me, I'll admit. With that said, I still stand by my previous point. I don't think I started this thread as a pity party, but regardless, it's made me feel better, and more whole with my decision overall, so I don't regret making it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 06:16 PM
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And this has bearing on your personal stance of covering up mistakes with red herrings and changing of subjects how? Please stop changing the subject and respond to what I said. You made me out to be some loser who does nothing to help himself. I gave you concrete examples of how that is not the case. This is what I am talking about. Please take back your words.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 06:14 PM
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Re: Questions - I'm going to be 30 years old this April, and I don't really blame women for my situation. I know I'm socially inept. I can feel it when I talk to people, and I can feel that I give off "creepy vibes" especially when I talk to women when trying to convey my romantic feelings to them. This is a problem with me. And it's 100% understandable why women would be put off, and not want a relationship with someone who doesn't have strong social skills (and I can't seem to develop them, re…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 06:11 PM
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Because of the parent post saying that they'd have a problem if I posted such things often. I was giving an example of things I do post at times on FB when they crop up and are "soft" enough that I won't become a complete social pariah by most of my peers for posting them. Does that make sense?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 06:03 PM
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I agree with you that this may well be the case. But at this point, it feels like the logical next step to distance myself from the constant discomfort and lack of results of my current situation, when nothing else has worked. I'm committed to trying it, at the very least for the indefinite future... though people do tend to change their minds at times.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 06:01 PM
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I don't "care" about the opinions of feminists. I simply don't know what feminists think of MTGOW, especially now that I'm becoming one myself, and my google-fu did not turn up pertinent results. Which is why I made this post. This is the first day I've decided to go MTGOW. I think it'll last, but we'll see.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 05:56 PM
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Thank you for the response :-)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 05:54 PM
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Thanks for the answer :-)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 05:54 PM
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It was primarily to give an example of a belief I hold that most feminists would disagree with. It made sense at the time to give that example, though I've always been at fault for giving examples or analogies that were too extreme simply to illustrate my point, and getting shocked or dirty looks afterwards, which is why I'm trying to stop doing so IRL :-/
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 05:53 PM
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Hey Archwinger. You, along with GLO, are probably my two favorite posters on TRP. It probably comes off as facetious of me, but I want to honestly tell you that I'm genuinely honored that both of my favorite TRPers are posting on a thread I started. In regards to your content, I honestly wasn't trying to start a pity party. That said, some of the responses on here, or things they've linked to, have allowed me to feel that I'm not the only one going through this, which has made my heart easier, s…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 05:50 PM
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No woman has outright said it to my face, so I guess it's possible that it's all in my head. That said, I usually get ignored time after time, or they give some non-committal answer that indicates their distaste or disinterest, and when I go through the motions of trying to connect to someone else of the opposite gender in a romantic fashion, I can feel that I come off as creepy without meaning to.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 05:48 PM
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Thanks, was a good read. It's refreshing to know how others react to decisions similar to my own (though I'm happy for him that he found some measure of happiness). It also comforts me that I'm not alone in how I feel, and makes this a little easier to go through. Again, thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 05:44 PM
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You're right. It is my fault. I don't know why you're pointing out something completely obvious, and I think it is unbecoming of a gentleman and a scholar such as I thought you to be (and still think of you) to, instead of taking back their words when they're wrong, to try to cover up their mistake by heaping more criticism and trying to change the subject when their mistake is pointed out.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 05:42 PM
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Thanks :-) It's been a hard go of it, and there have been hundreds of times I wanted to just raise my hands, quit, and become a permanent dweller of basements, but I think this is the more worthwhile path, and it's proven to be so. That's part of the reason I'm giving up on having a relationship. With other aspects of my life, it may have taken years, but with hard work I saw results. In this aspect of my life, I just keep on feeling "creepy" whenever I try to interact with women on a romantic l…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 05:41 PM
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Pure, unadulterated curiosity of how my "dropping out of the race", so to speak, would cause those who believe very strongly in things I disagree with, would react. That's about it. It's not going to affect me personally or change anything about my decision. I was simply... curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 05:38 PM
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Not at all, and I do apologize if it came off that way. It was mostly to contrast the differences between the beliefs I hold dear, and those that I understand many feminists do.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 05:35 PM
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Thanks for trying to help :-)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 04:39 PM
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I have no idea. That's why I'm asking. Many feminists would say that I, and my entire gender, are by far the reason that "the Patriarchy" exists, while I suscribe to the belief that men are the oppressed gender in classic Western culture (specifically in the US) and that women hold almost all the power in the majority of social interactions due to my personal experience. I honestly had no ulterior motive before asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 04:30 PM
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My hobbies consist primarily of tabletop RPGs and computer games. Add onto that that I live in a tourist town where a lot of young people come to work for half a year and then leave, which isn't very conducive to building a lasting relationship and that I come off as "old" as I'm 29 and they're 20-21. Lastly, add on that the native language isn't my mother tongue and that it's a relatively small city whose non-transient population is very small, and it's hard to find people with similar interest…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 04:27 PM
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That's a good idea, thanks for the suggestion! EDIT: I didn't reply to your last post in the thread before because it would have been a continuation of your line of thinking, but I felt that doing so would come off as aggravating and troll-ish, and decided that it would be better not to post than to be irritating :-P
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 04:23 PM
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I suspect that will be the case, and I do regret the lost possibilities that I will incur as part of this decision. That said, I hope that eventually they lead to a greater, more lasting happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 04:22 PM
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Apart from the pretext, the posts are identical.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 04:21 PM
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Thank you, and happy hunting trails as well :-)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 04:19 PM
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Hey GLO. I love your posts on TRP. I hope you reread my post. I've been working hard to better myself, and have lost more than 70 pounds. Right now I'd like to lose around another 10-15 before I reach my ideal weight. On top of that, I've also gone back to school for another degree, and plan on becoming a teacher next Fall, along with a spike in my pay compared to where I am now, better hours, and better terms all around. I make enough to pay rent for an apartment solo, with enough left on the s…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 04:17 PM
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Ah, so not a reaction to my case in particular, but to cases such as mine in general? Would that be a correct assessment?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 04:04 PM
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Out of what motivation? Compassionate pity? Some logical end that I can see that the world "isn't such a bad place" if I find a meaningful relationship? Why? (Again, I honestly don't mean to "test" you or offend. I'd like to understand.)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 04:01 PM
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Probably not. I've made a decision to accept my fate, as it were, and continue on bereft of female relationships that might lead to romantic entanglements. It was very hard to make that decision, and I still mourn for what might have been, but I hope that in the long run I'll be able to find a measure of true happiness this way rather than feeling like a "creep" whenever I try to reach out to someone who's of the female gender. EDIT: That said, I would love to hear how feminists react to my deci…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/15 03:56 PM
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I'm not sure about every man. I know I wanted, and perhaps still want, to be a father. It doesn't appear as though reality will be kind enough to allow me that wish, though, as it would be even worse to raise kids alone.
/r/MGTOW16/01/15 03:46 PM
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You can't win no matter what you say :-/
/r/MensRights16/01/15 12:15 PM
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I'm with you on getting physically fit. But why do I need to do more than that? Why not do that, and apart from that just enjoy myself with hookah, masturbating, video games, and hanging out with friends?
/r/MGTOW16/01/15 12:13 PM
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Hah, that got a lol out of me. Don't know why the topic is being downvoted though, as I labeled it using flair as an example of (stupid) BP society... :-/
/r/TheRedPill08/01/15 12:15 PM
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I work in the hospitality industry, and experience much the same thing. The assistant manager is always yammering at everyone, "Smile and say hi and be nice to guests, it doesn't cost anything!" I don't have a problem with that. That's what we're paid to do. That's fine. But stop being so damn facetious about it. It takes a toll on us. It's emotionally draining. It's not "free". The part where he talked about our energy not being perpetual, and that we do feel drained after investing time and en…
/r/TheRedPill02/01/15 09:43 AM
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Very much looking forward to the next part.
/r/TheRedPill26/12/14 05:59 PM
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I might be thick, but I don't understand the point of the story. Could someone please spell it out for me? (Not being sarcastic, I truly, earnestly want to understand what the point is that others are praising so that I might deepen my own understanding.)
/r/TheRedPill26/12/14 05:53 PM
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One problem that I had growing up with a very authoritative father who was never there (he was the "punisher" whenever he got back from overseas if my mom complained about my sister and I to him), and another was that both of my parents were perfectionists ("You got a B? Why couldn't you get an A?") It's been hard to break free from their influence on me, and I still carry the trauma despite all these years of living away from them. They've also gotten better, and have openly said that they were…
/r/TheRedPill25/12/14 07:53 PM
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