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| 150 | How many men have actually given you orgasms? | NoMoreLVM | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 01:41 PM | |
| 83 | Siri show me a perfect example of narcissistic gaslighting | NoMoreLVM | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 10:21 AM | |
| 1 | Are Italian and French men always the sleaziest? | NoMoreLVM | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 06:39 PM |
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| 18 | Above all, FDS has taught me to value my time. Following FDS would have prevented this from even happening imoIt’s a shame she claims she didn’t mean it bc she made some good points | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 03:01 PM |
| 27 | He wants to move in togetherDon’t move in. People act like it’s casual but it’s like marriage in the sense that it’s a whole upheaval. If he’s for you then he’ll understand. If he gets mad then his motivation is not to advance the relationship, but convenience and to cut bills. Moving in with a man, no matter your intentions, usually ends up with a woman doing caretaking duties that will impede on your free time. Don’t play house with a man who you aren’t sure you want to commit to forever. Put all that energy into yoursel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 10:07 AM |
| 8 | This just in: man says show where a man stalks and murders women is too "liberal" and femme.The show is too biased to the female perspective, all while being entirely made from the male protagonist’s perspective…? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 11:54 AM |
| 39 | Strangest icks and dealbreaker?As someone who works in the creative industry men often ask me for free work. Like they find out that I draw so they ask for a free drawing! I “joke” and say sure if they pay me, sometimes they call my bluff and say sure (but I don’t take them up on it because obviously I don’t want to draw their stupid idea), something they really push it and try to make me draw them something. Either way it feels deeply disrespectful and opportunistic, honestly I think it’s a power thing. You wouldn’t ask some… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 12:03 AM |
| 6 | [deleted by user]He acts as if sex frequency is completely irrelevant to all other aspects of the relationship. They’ve been together for three years and he doesn’t know if she’s vanilla or not? He clearly doesn’t take any emotional or intellectual interest in her as a person, no wonder she doesn’t want to sleep with him. Good riddance | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 07:56 PM |
| 258 | They always tell on themselves, sometimes sooner than othersHe wants to share his finances but still wants something casual??! Honestly what the fuck? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 05:35 PM |
| 37 | I only read female-dominated subreddits nowLol I had a moment when I was scrolling through tiktok and whenever a video of an obviously straight man monologueing comes up I am much more likely to scroll past it than if it’s a woman or queer person talking. I realized this must be how misogynists are when women speak lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 07:20 PM |
| 26 | Let’s talk about choosing not to blockThe beauty of blocking is that who cares if they think you care too much? You’ll never know, because they’re now blocked and dead to you 😃. I honestly learnt my lesson in not blocking because they ALWAYS slither back. Months later you’ll get a “hey” message when he’s ready to waste your time again. It’s really not worth it. And of course I think men know that blocking shows that you care less. Leaving the door open for them to message you by NOT blocking shows that you are holding out some hope.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 02:00 AM |
| 94 | How much of an issue are "leagues" in dating?You’re overthinking. Leagues are no objective categories that exist. Sure, there is some objectivity when perceiving the attractiveness of others, but someone who is a 5 to some will be a 10 to others. I doubt LVM overthink their value and aim for a 7 bevause they perceive themselves as a 5 (unless they’re deep into red pill territory). Instead, they just try their best indiscriminately with those they find desirable and see what sticks. Go for people you find attractive, that’s it. Have a minim… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 11:59 AM |
| 30 | Always be ruthless, Always be vetting: a reminderIt’s all the same delusion as when they lie about their height. They think if they can just get you to meet them irl they’ll charm you with the personality. Unfortunately they have the personality of a wet sponge so it doesn’t work either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 09:53 AM |
| 19 | Current guy I’m talking to lied about his height on dating appIt seems small and men will try to gaslight you into thinking all men lie about their height, but it’s not true. Some are 5”9 and say they’re 5”9 because they have genuine intentions for a relationship and don’t want to start off on the wrong foot. Some say they’re 5”9 and are actually 5”4. It is indicative of his whole personality and attitude to truth. It shows a manipulative and dishonest streak. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 09:32 AM |
| 52 | girl whatShe’s clearly just snapped out of a daze and realised that relationship was massively abusive. His entitlement, contempt, and complete disinterest in her is so blatant. How can you be so disinterested in your partner that you don’t notice they’re really successful? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 09:24 AM |
| 7 | How to tell the difference between love bombing and a man being into youA lot of people talked about nervousness and being personal being the main identifiers of genuine interest. I disagree, a narc is trying to gather information about you so will ask lots of questions to try and get information about you. My ex also seemed very nervous at the start, but that was literally all part of his act and a manipulation to try and make him less threatening. Love bombers are master manipulators, don’t underestimate their ability to charm and disarm you and seem vulnerable an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 12:40 PM |
| 46 | Early warning signs to spot "avoidants" and... avoid them?There’s rarely an easy and immediate sign but someone over the age of 30 who’s never had a long term relationship is definitely a red flag. Another one is if they come on really strong and pull away shortly after (hot cold like everyone else has said). People may also be temporarily avoidant/emotionally unavailable following a breakup or something traumatic, so don’t date anyone who hasn’t been single for at least a year. Also just listen to the way they talk about themselves - do they say they’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 01:53 PM |
| 24 | Basically they admit to everything FDS warns us about.Above all his conversation seems dry as hell | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 01:48 PM |
| 205 | Perfect example of men having issues with your pets being a red flag! And this queen response!!!This is the most pathetically fragile thing I’ve ever read | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 02:06 PM |
| 8 | Be aware of “holiday daters” looking for an entertainment while on vacation.I HATE this shit so much. I see so many guys “looking for a guide” in my city and some men will match knowing that they don’t live there and don’t reveal it until you’re talking. Such entitlement | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 11:16 AM |
| 37 | Scrotes have no idea what they're doing when they shame us as "female incels"Men just have no concept of what it’s like to be a woman. They think things are easy for us because they just imagine themselves as women with the sexual power we have, and none of the oppression. They imagine a world in which women want them the way that men want women, but they can’t imagine their sexual partners being a physical threat to them, wanting to abuse them, or even not seeing them as human. They also don’t understand how significantly less rewarding Hetero sex is for women and how m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 11:47 AM |
| 8 | If You're Single, Don't Be Sad During The Holidays.I’m actually so glad to be single this Christmas and the year before. No extra presents to buy, no picky eating manchild making not bothering to put in the bare minimum into spending time with my family. I just get to enjoy the people I care about in comfort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 11:32 AM |
| 30 | How do you show personality and let someone get to know you while still being private at the same time?This is a delicate balance with no easy solution, but my approach is always to show more interest in another person and only divulge information about myself when directly asked, or if it is relevant to the conversation without making me too vulnerable. Most men don’t even notice when they’re talking 70% of the time. Learn to ask interesting questions and step outside yourself. It’s not your job to impress them, you need to have the confidence that you are already impressive enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 05:00 PM |
| 9 | "Oh yeah, you want a man who brushes his teeth? I dated a guy who brushed his teeth and he kicked puppies for breakfast!"A common one is the myth that higher earning men are meaner or somehow worse than lower earning ones. They’re not. They’re the same men, but with money, so if you’re going to date any, you may as well date men with money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 03:53 AM |
| 23 | Dr Ramani has our back on setting boundaries and dodging scrotes. She calls it what it is, people enabling others by insisting on giving the 'benefit of the doubt'. Keep on raising your standards!!!She literally never misses!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 08:44 PM |
| 38 | Doesn’t it seem like men only value women who they think are out of their league?They don’t “value” any women, they’re just willing to bend over backwards to try and lure in a woman who they perceive will grant them “high status” amongst other men. They’ll discard, mistreat, abuse, and cheat on any women if they’re LV, no matter how beautiful she is. It’s not about the women, it’s about them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 10:13 PM |
| 767 | When we say some men are delusional, this what they mean. Your wife is not yet born is creepy! Calling women pretty young things is gross and dehumanizing.That first comment is so pickme. When I was 20 I thought men over the age of 25 were ancient, let alone men over 30. They were literally invisible to me because I was interested in a fair and equal relationship with someone I actually had things in common with. This is utterly delusion and terrible advice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 11:41 PM |
| 29 | You should have a “hoe phase!”When I was in my early 20s I thought I would try a “hoe phase” and even though I didn’t have any miserable experiences, they were so hollow and unpleasurable. I’d never really dated much before (not due to lack of opportunity but because of a lack of desire) but I thought I’d be missing out if I didn’t do it. We need to stop pressuring young women into doing something that they wouldn’t even naturally be inclined to do. I didn’t gain anything from the experience whatsoever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 11:09 PM |
| 12 | "Have no expectations, then you won't be disappointed" and "Stop expecting so much" being thrown around like they'll help you.The thing about men is that you can have zero expectations but they’ll still find a way to disappoint you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 01:39 AM |
| 115 | Sex without intimacy is boring and low value.The only thing people (including myself) every learn about from themselves from these experiences is that they don’t like it. So many girls act like they’ve had an epiphany when they’re realise that they need emotional attachment to enjoy sex and claim to be “Demisexual” or whatever and it’s like no you’re just a normal human being not a sexbot | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 06:07 PM |
| 93 | If someone tells you that men are picky show them this!This is so mad, these men’s brains have been rotted by porn so much that they don’t realise this isn’t how women function at all. They see all women as free prostitutes. They cannot comprehend that pornsick aggressive sex is made for the male gaze only and is either hated or (at most) endured by women and it doesn’t occur to them that literally no woman is going to meet some stranger off the internet just to put her life in danger?? They think female sexuality is as depraved and unpicky as their… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 02:27 PM |
| 131 | A study found that those working in creative industries are 3 x more likely to suffer from mental illness, with 60% of participants reporting suicidal thoughts. Is this why men have targeted their brainwashing at liberal feminists in creative industries?As a woman in the creative fields I’d put down a lot of it to a connection of creativity with bad mental health being down to a sensitive temperament, as well as the increasingly low pay and high living costs putting pressure on everyone. I’d also add that there are plenty of “girlbosses” working in very corporate fields and saying the exact same stuff on their social media platforms. Lib feminism has infiltrated all parts of society and I think it’s popularity is because it doesn’t pose a threa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 07:31 PM |
| 48 | Let’s create a megathread: What is one of the best pieces of advice you’ve learned from this sub that has blown your mind or had the greatest impact on your life?Men are aware of what they are doing. Also, to stop explaining and justifying as that just gives them opportunity to gaslight and manipulate. Best of all, once you raise your standards you’ll be shocked how many people are willing to meet them, despite the myriad of voices that will try to tell you you’re asking too much. I’ve not had any issues with finding men who will take my to a restaurant on a first date and paying for that date and all subsequent dates. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 10:58 PM |
| 41 | The type of gold digging never talked about: men will date you to boost their careers, status and ultimately to make money.Yes, this is why doesn’t serve you to date a man less attractive than you. He won’t get any insecurities and think he’s unworthy of you and so should treat you better, he will just see you as an extension of his ego. He will just think he previously undervalued himself. He will “show you off” in his gross stained clothes and not for a moment consider how he looks next to you, because if you’re a kid showing off your shiny Pokémon card to your friends you don’t compare yourself to the card and ne… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 03:43 PM |
| 15 | "Sit down with him and have a conversation"This is a gaslighting epidemic, my narc ex would use this against me every time he was at fault. No matter what, somehow the issue would always be that I didn’t communicate clearly enough, or early enough, or whatever. It was always my fault for not communicating when in reality it’s shit you shouldn’t even have to communicate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 10:37 AM |
| 30 | Overweight men have shorter penises. (and my thoughts on obesity and body positivity)Oh absolutely, lib feminism has hijacked an original feminist principle of “hey, maybe women should be allowed to exist without every part of their body being critiqued at all times” and has turned it into “fat women can be palatable for the male gaze too!” That’s why body positive activists of the girl boss lib fem variety are always hyper feminine and dolled up, always in “sexy” clothing, trying to prove to men that they’re worthy of being objectified too. It’s still obsessed with women’s bodi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 12:41 AM |
| 395 | Overweight men have shorter penises. (and my thoughts on obesity and body positivity)I honestly find the body positivity movements obsession with including men do be duplicitous and annoying. The point of body positivity for women is for us to be recognised as having value outside of being attractive. Men have ALWAYS been permitted to be fat but powerful, loved, rich, famous. Look at literally almost all male world leaders. Imagine if Boris Johnson was a woman and was fat (which he is by his own account) - that would be so heavily covered in media. I think this idea that body po… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 07:57 PM |
| 8 | "Division of labor imbalances in marriage are a form of spousal abuse...make him earn his right to stay married or divorce his ass."Yeah agreed, I only share FDS views in women only spaces. With men, I just let them speak. My social media is private. Once I started talking about it I noticed most women agreed with me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 02:19 PM |
| 176 | "Division of labor imbalances in marriage are a form of spousal abuse...make him earn his right to stay married or divorce his ass."Why?? Post it - it might give some poor woman in your circles the wake up call she needs! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 01:53 AM |
| 38 | A group of boys harasses and assaults a group of girls minding their own business.It’s baffling to me that misogyny isn’t legally a hate crime. They’re behaving that way because they simply hate women and do not see them as human. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 08:40 PM |
| 15 | This 👏🏻 is 👏🏻 why 👏🏻 I 👏🏻 have 👏🏻 trust issues!! Take them to the barbers on the first date. 💈 🪒When men have beards like that we know exactly what they’re trying to do. It’s so obvious. It’s so weird but every time I see such a sculpted beard of that length I immediately assume he is an incel for this exact reason. I wish these men would invest less energy into creating the illusion of a jawline and more energy into developing empathy and basic life skills | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 10:35 AM |
| 31 | Throw him away, you deserve betterThese are all the traits of narcissistic abuse. Endless gaslighting and lying and not giving her space. Entitlement and expecting her to do everything. He is a burden to her and does absolutely nothing to make her life better, she is trauma bonded to him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 01:10 AM |
| 25 | What kind of twisted thinking is this? „If Sex Work wouldn‘t exist, men would be even more violent to women“ I‘m so tired of this BS that libfems spread to justify exploitation of women to „prevent“ more violenceI wish they would for once extend that logic to “if men weren’t permitted and encouraged to be violent and dehumanizing to women, the concept of buying sex would simply not exist because men who actually value the autonomy and humanity of women” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 02:07 PM |
| 75 | Proof that scrotes never change, they just make empty promises and get upset when you don’t fall for them.This is the thing - men are told that they won’t age, their sexual value will only go up, they have plenty of time, and they just overestimate their value. Sexual market value of men doesn’t remain the same with the same age groups - it evens out between the genders as people get older, but 37 year olds with receding hairlines will never be hot to girls in their 20s. Men who are aware of this know to invest and hold on to the HVW early on and not fuck about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 06:19 AM |
| 16 | Can’t make this upNo, it comes across as entitled in a way only a spoiled straight man can be who doesn’t believe he owes anyone anything. I find that in gay men the “feminized” qualities tend to come across as being more considerate and conscientious as a human than most average straight men. Also none of my gay friends expect to be romanced, theyre also often as frustrated as many straight women because of this. It’s spoiled straight men who expect this much. I also think it’s a bit regressive to say if a man s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 03:08 PM |
| 25 | Australian women are ahead of the curb! This skit is just perfectOmg I don’t know why but “random cords” absolutely killed me, that’s so specific yet so true | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 11:59 PM |
| 2 | And here’s why we get our men ladies. 😬😬😬God this frightened me so much | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 06:48 PM |
| 10 | What are you an expert on? How have totally uninformed men incorrectly mansplained your area of expertise to you?I’m an animator and on a date a man explained to me how to make a Facebook filter, something I have already done. My fav is when men who have read one book on ww2 try to explain the history of the Soviet Union to me: a person whose entire family is from the Soviet Union. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 06:46 PM |
| 79 | UnReAliStIc mALe bEaUtY sTanDardS!!!Men are allowed to be attractive in ways that aren’t all about their physicality either, look at Benadryl Cucumber with his legions of fans and weird face. Men are allowed to be attractive because they’re funny, charming, successful, kind, anything - for women those are bonuses, but to be attractive she MUST be physically attractive. And in a world that values women almost entirely for their youth and beauty, then it follows for her to have value as a human being in the eyes of the patriarchy, s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 06:45 PM |
| 21 | Vetting/background research strategy to filter out HVMSo far everything you mentioned is the very bare minimum. What is he actually doing to make your life better? Is he actually, actively trying to make your life better, in a way where he would happily sacrifice something for himself to benefit you (time, money, anything)? Take a step back and figure out what you want in life and then figure out what sort of partner you’d need to help you fulfill that vision. A HVM isn’t simply one who is good looking and high-earning (in fact he doesn’t have to b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 02:03 AM |
| 7 | I'm sick of askingI know it hurts, I’ve been through it too. But know you can and deserve better. Leave and find a person who will do that without you even having to ask, and more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 05:08 PM |
| 69 | TDLR Scrotes is finally dumped but clueless why gf no longer wants to play mommy.Listen - you’ll achieve so much more when you’re not wasting your energy looking after a man who would never, ever do the same for you. Don’t underestimate yourself. Save and plan your exit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 08:57 PM |
| 6 | This is so fucking embarrassing watching things like this makes me want to off myselfGod this girl is going to feel so angry years down the line when she realised she could have spent that time doing things she actually likes, improving herself, or dating a man who actually pays attention to her when they spend time together. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 07:21 PM |
| 34 | Stop over explaining yourself. LVM don’t care about your feelings, and nothing you can say will change that.I was in this situation recently. A man who I had built trust with for MONTHS overstepped a boundary sexually - assault, basically, not violently but it was such a clear violation - and I was shocked and upset. I blocked him on everything even though I desperately wanted to send an angry paragraph. Instead I blocked him on everything - even costar and all the social media platforms on which we weren’t event connected. I’m so glad I did. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 03:18 AM |
| 1 | I keep coming back to the anger in my stages of GriefThree months is not that long. It took me about eight months to get past the anger stage. Give yourself time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 07:42 PM |
| 6 | One of my love languages is receiving gifts..This would really put me off too. Would you want someone making you feel guilty every time you buy something new? As someone who collects fine jewellery and has been a vintage collector for many years, i wouldn’t be able to deal with it - especially as my taste and style is something men say they’re specifically attracted to, and also because I have a perfect credit score and good savings! Anyone who makes you feel guilty for enjoying material things in a way that is still responsible doesn’t va… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 12:28 AM |
| 14 | What are some strategies and tactics to put off intimacy for as long as possible?Do not, under any circumstances, go to his apartment. Even if other people will be there - he will expect you to stay longer. Even if you go and don’t have sex, you would have established a precedent that you are comfortable being alone with him in his apartment - that’s a green light for sex. Always meet in public places. Don’t ever get into his car until he has earned your trust. Do not talk about anything sexual at all for the first month at least - eg what you find attractive, past sexual ex… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 02:01 AM |
| 11 | I think I found the queen of pickmesSo she prostitutes herself out for free?? Why????? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 10:52 AM |
| 5 | When things go right... Is it too good to be true?Hmm... this feels so self-congratulatory, the bar is honestly not that low for women to be shocked that a man lets her check his phone. My narc ex and I both knew each other’s passwords but it didn’t stop him emotionally abusing me and manipulating me. 🤷♀️ One green flag does not a good man make. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 05:49 PM |
| 13 | Not sure if this belongs here, but I can't take a man with bad spelling and grammarA man said “abit” to me yesterday, as in he thought “a bit” is a singular word. I was gone immediately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 06:14 PM |
| 116 | But if I say "respect me and don't watch porn" my standards are too high 🙄🙄“You knew you had it coming” Jesus Christ, wtf Also these sorts of lists are bizarre to me. How emotionally stumped must you be to think this will appeal to literally anyone? How can you put out a list essentially saying “I will offer you nothing and expect everything” and then actually think literally anyone will respond? This is the worlds stupidest abuser, doesn’t even have the sense to lovebomb and future fake first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 05:52 PM |
| 17 | No, thanks 😒I see this answer so often. I’ve even see “the first round is on me if... the first round is on you”? Which doesn’t even make sense! And I’ve seen other men respond with “it’s always on me!” which is much more appealing frankly. I do like hinge because I feel like they really expose themselves quick when they’re forced to write about themselves. Sometimes I think some of them forget that women will be reading their prompts and the intention is to attract them, not repel them! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 04:44 PM |
| 21 | A (male) professor admitted he never had any intention of learning his wife's first tongueGod this has triggered me. My ex simply never learnt my native tongue, never showed any interest, and blamed me for not teaching me after the blamed the language barrier being the reason why he never invested any effort into my family. I don’t understand why and how you would have a relationship with someone who speaks another language as a native and don’t see that as a fantastic opportunity to learn a new language. Instead its a chore, or at best a quirky thing about your partner that makes he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 06:49 PM |
| 35 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 7 2020I had a small victory the other night. I matched with a guy on hinge, all seemed fine, I googled him before we even matched and found him online and he seemed promising with a good job. He started off the conversation with a compliment. Then he replied to a joke I made with a slightly too mean comment... then he said made two more comments about my pictures that were weird and neggy too (he said they are “suspiciously aesthetic” and said one of them “scares him”). That last comment particularly … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 02:46 AM |
| 42 | Setting Standards for First Dates - OLDIf you’re in your mid 20s then mid 30s will be too old for you! I hope this doesn’t come across as patronising but mid 30s is a whole different ball park and the HV men in that age bracket will be looking for women closer to their own age because they’ll want to settle down. As someone who will soon be 30, I know the HV men I know in the same age group would rule out dating anyone more than 3-5years younger. Whether they admit it consciously or not, if they look for younger women it’s because th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 05:39 PM |
| 58 | Setting Standards for First Dates - OLDHow old are you and what age range are you looking in and what dating apps are you using? I sincerely doubt there are many men in their early 20s who would be able to step up so it might not even be worth investing much energy dating at that age. Ive had some success and some HV dates so far. Usually I have to reject the first idea which is drink dates and say I would prefer not to drink and I do not want to go to a pub. I will say so politely and say that pubs are too casual for me. The ones wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 05:08 PM |
| 14 | What else should be in the FDS Handbook?Yeah but that’s not a red flag, that’s just normal human bonding and pretty inevitable on a good date and that’s why all the other necessary steps have to be followed (evaluating, dating other men, not seeing or talk too often) as they are necessary to stop you from getting attached too quickly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 09:27 AM |
| 43 | Should I leave him or can we work it out?God I got to the bit where he calls you mean things and demeans you at home. That’s not love and not acceptable. That is not a small thing and chips away at you. You are asking us not if you should leave him, but if it’s reasonable to - here it is, here is your permission. These are completely valid reasons. You’re not getting anything out of this relationship, he sounds like a burden on you in all ways. Leave while you are still young. It’s scary, I know, but it’ll be worth it. Staying will onl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 02:26 PM |
| 42 | How many men have actually given you orgasms?It’s SO bleak! And porn addiction explains so many of my experiences, I can’t believe I ever thought it was my fault (I’m petite and work out and have modelled for Japanese magazines.... if anything I’m a fucking pornhub category myself). Whenever I feel lonely or tempted to sleep with someone before they prove themselves to me I just remember those mornings of waking up on some NVM flat pillow and washing my face in his gross bathroom and then taking the train home, wondering if the bad nights … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 01:59 PM |
| 125 | 🙄Going to leave this link and quote: https://www.forbes.com/sites/quora/2017/08/15/male-dna-is-often-found-in-womens-brains-where-does-it-come-from/ “Now, think about sperm. They’re haploid; they can’t function like normal human cells. They’re highly specialized, having evolved solely to compete to get to the egg. They don’t survive more than a few days, even in the oviduct, which evolved to store them. And most importantly, they can’t divide. So no, women don’t retain men’s sperm for life. That’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 01:51 PM |
| 11 | How to date men less smart than youOne thing I’ve realised is that “intelligent” is not the same as “having a PHD”. That said, I make sure men have an undergrad degree from a good university. My ex didn’t go to university and though he was intelligent his bad spelling and gaps of knowledge in culture annoyed me. I avoid men in academia because in my experience they have huge egos and think they’re incapable of misogyny because they know who bell hooks is but are completely incapable of accepting any criticism. I would say have a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 10:13 AM |
| 12 | I’m (19f) pregnant due to my lvm bf (20m) his reaction to finding out was so upsettingOh honey I’m so so sorry you’re going through this. Just know it will all be okay - I have so many friends who also had to have abortions, it’s not as uncommon as you think, and it’s not as invasive either. I hope you have a close friend to lean on and confide in during this time. You will get through this, and I hope you never speak to that POS again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 08:38 AM |
| 3 | Women sacrificing their last name and taking husband's last name indirectly treats the wife as a property of the husband. Are the ladies here in FDS still willing to take their husband's last name after marriage or do they consider last names mixing/blending as an option as a sign of equality?I think I was eight when I decided to never change my name. Firstly I have a very classic name for my background and culture, I think taking some common Anglo name would sound weird with my first name. Secondly, I’ve made a name for myself in my career and it is my brand and my job. It’s non negotiable. I suppose my children would have double barreled names but if a man insisted I change my name I would call off the marriage because he’s honestly non-negotiable for me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 08:32 AM |
| 8 | These are the kind of pickmes who are detrimental to other womenOh my god.... “men are just better feminists” - I’m sure that’s literally been used in satire of shitty “male feminists”??! Omg the delusion | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 08:49 PM |
| 18 | 100,000 toxic monogamists just hangin outGreat. Another leftist term that’s going to be co-opted by manipulative men to coerce their poor girlfriends into doing shit they want to do because they don’t want to be labelled as “narrow minded” or “exclusionary” or “toxic”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 08:48 PM |
| 17 | How to Avoid Getting Pavlov'ed via TechnologyThis is great advice, thank you! Im a younger millennial/on the cusp with Gen Z so maybe my use of Instagram is a bit different and less reliant, but I never follow any men I date on there. I have a main IG that I use as a portfolio for my creative work, it’s fairly easy to find and men are welcome to follow me on there but I don’t engage with them or follow back on it, as I only use it to follow other industry accounts. I have a finsta that is private and of my daily life, I would only allow a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 07:56 AM |
| 7 | Why do men have to make everything about them and why do so many people feed into their delusions?I sincerely doubt this is even true, I’m sure he just noticed that a few mentioned if gender happened to be to women and perceived that to be a lack of representation of men. Also, is it any surprise when statistically most narcs are men? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 07:45 AM |
| 87 | FEMINIST PORN DOESN’T EXIST and RULE 34 is a LIE. FIGHT ME LibFems and Scrotes!!Yes! I tried this as well and was shocked that literally the only difference was slightly more creative names that avoided degrading words or “step sister” but the videos were exactly the same. They didn’t even cut out the start of the videos that have voyeuristic montages of the actress posing and spreading her legs etc before she “gets fucked” - it’s so objectifying because it’s like “this is the sex toy we will be playing with today, it features 32C cups and a phat ass”. How is that supposed … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 07:30 AM |
| 9 | A small appreciation post for the hvm in my lifeThank you so much for sharing, this is so lovely it made my cry a little bit. What a sweetheart | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 07:16 AM |
| 12 | A 29 yo guy says “I’ve only had 1 gf”. What do you think?Trust your gut. If it gives you fuckboi vibes, that’s probably what it is. But we can’t tell you for sure. I have a friend with a very HVM who had been single for 8 years by the time they met (I think he was also 28/29 when they met) and had only had one gf. But he has a very sweet vibe. These things can mean anything, you have to judge the person individually and follow your intuition. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 09:15 AM |
| 11 | How many of you dated a narcissist who was into "ethical non-monogamy” and/or Polyamory?I did, he spent three years slowly coercing me into non monogamy even though I was never into it. We had a threesome once (which I think I totally emotionally switched off during, it wasn’t hot to me at all) and when I said I don’t want to do it he had an awful tantrum for days. Then he apologised and when I firmly said again I am sure I want to close the relationship he had another cruel temper tantrum. I’ve seen men on here refer to being “on the poly spectrum”, appropriating the language of q… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 11:36 AM |
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