NoSleevesInSeattle Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	The closest I’ve been to another human since my divorce. There should be an extra nsfw warning for profiles like this. The current one just doesn’t invoke a sufficient sense of caution.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/01/26 05:09 AM
3	I’m at the start of my divorced life I’m glad you’re aware of the “best friends” line she’s trying to pull and how untrue it really is. With friends like that, who needs enemies? This is war, protect yourself and your kids. Her role is that of business partner, and that business is co-parenting or parallel parenting your children together until they are adults. Keep your cool around her, remain polite but maintain firm boundaries. Don’t get sucked in to any arguments or emotional bait she throws at you.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/01/26 10:55 PM
3	Sense of Loss It sucks and it’s hard to watch someone that promised to love and be with you forever, in front of God and all your family and friends, turn around and break that promise. Accept it, get through the divorce process ASAP, go low-contact to help yourself heal, and begin building the best life for yourself. Your relationship with her is now a business partnership, and that business is raising your kids. Your kids need you to be there for them and they need to see you happy. If you turn this into a …	/r/Divorce_Men	26/12/25 04:57 PM
9	Ex regrets separation/divorce, looking for advice. People will have different answers to this, and it’s totally reasonable for you to want to try again, counseling, therapy, etc. I’m of the opinion that in relationships that are multiple years long, by the time one or both people want counseling, relationships are usually beyond repair, especially when divorce has been initiated. If you think you’ll regret not trying again, then do what feels right for you, but don’t be attached to the outcome. If you try again and it doesn’t work, don’t look at…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/11/25 02:08 AM
5	How to find purpose after divorce Same boat. My kid is the main thing that’s kept me tethered to existence. I haven’t found much meaning beyond my child. I think you’re going down the right path. You’re doing the work. You’re reflecting on your life and your future. Keep asking those kind of questions and don’t give up.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/11/25 01:30 AM
8	Getting divorced, concerned about my children and need input. It’s usually because there’s another dude she’s bangin and she needs to paint you as the villain to shift blame onto you and justify her shitty behavior. She resents even having to be around you because you’re not him. Is this definitely true? No, but it’s a common theme in this sub.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/11/25 02:51 AM
4	Who followed the top comment advice and waited a year? How’s that go? My divorce took 3.5 years to finalize after separation. It was a long drawn out process. I started dating about 3 months after being separated. In hindsight, I was a train wreck and should have waited. Hurt people I shouldn’t have, and got hurt too.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/11/25 06:43 PM
12	Help me understand why my ex-wife cheated on me I was in a similar place mentally, 5+ years ago. I white knuckled the first several months post-separation, working out endlessly, staying busy. Eventually I drowned myself in risky, impulsive behaviors, alcohol, drugs, meaningless sex. don’t fall into that trap Stick with attempting to focus on what is within your control - your own mental and physical health. She cheated because she is a deeply flawed person. Rewriting the narrative is part of the cheaters playbook- they all do it. Cheaters te…	/r/Divorce_Men	03/11/25 07:40 PM
8	Divorcing Ironically, this could be financial abuse on her part. Make sure your attorney is aware of this. Judges frown upon those types of shenanigans.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/11/25 08:01 PM
3	Guys, I am still so messed up. Same boat. I like a good drink myself. Too much alcohol numbs but is not a long-term solution. Put the bottle down, find healthy outlets. As for your ex, there is no point thinking or worrying about her apart from logistics with your children. She doesn’t deserve your mental or emotional bandwidth, brother. Say the Serenity Prayer (google it if you don’t know it), take a few deep breaths, and keep building and living the life you and your kids deserve.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/10/25 05:42 AM
1	Custody and Work Schedule Here’s a suggestion: marital counseling.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/10/25 07:04 PM
12	Going to sports event with wife who ask for divorce If you 100% expect nothing from her, then continue as you are doing. Having a good relationship with the mother of your children is beneficial for everyone involved. Before you spend time with your STBX wife in any type of setting that doesn’t involve the kids, ask yourself - is this going to delay your grieving process or affect your ability to move on emotionally from the relationship?	/r/Divorce_Men	22/10/25 05:55 AM
8	Meeting AP, & How soon did you start dating/hooking up? Everyone works through grief on different timelines and it’s not linear. That could mean anywhere from a few months or close to a year before you start seeing other women. Finalize the divorce, take some time to work on yourself and get your head on straight before you start dating or hooking up.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/10/25 03:49 AM
2	How do you deal with anniversaries and relationship milestones after leaving? It’s sad and it sucks, but you just get through it. (35M) and I can tell you it doesn’t completely go away but you get better at handling it. Major dates coming up, been 5 years since and I will try to stay busy, do something physical to keep me occupied and tire myself out. I have a girlfriend that stays with me a lot, so we’ll probably hang out on those days. If I have nothing to do on those dates and I end up by myself - I’ll get through the day, have a good workout and go to sleep early.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/09/25 04:14 PM
10	Anyone else ever feel like they just want to punch the AP? These days I remind myself that he’s not worth my emotional bandwidth. I held on to so much anger for so long, a lot longer than I should have. All it did was poison me. At the end of the day, they are cheaters. How you get them is how you lose them. He may be a shitty dude, but this guy had no obligation to you. Your wife made vows to you, and your anger is really due to your wife’s betrayal. Find a way to channel that anger and get it out. Holding on to anger doesn’t serve you.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/08/25 09:03 PM
6	Second divorce has broken me I’d stay out of relationships for a while. Hook-ups and FwB are fine if you don’t get attached. Right now it’s time to focus on yourself, work on yourself, and become happy with yourself. Do whatever you can to keep your mind off your ex. Accept what has happened, stay healthy, make healthy habits, and build the best life that you can for yourself. Any woman that comes into your life should just be a bonus, not a necessity.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/08/25 12:58 AM
2	A road I haven't thought of? You may love your wife, but does your wife love you? What has changed in the last 9 years? Women will do almost anything for a guy that they’re into… People are allowed to grow and change. If her tastes have changed, that’s one thing. Still sad, but understandable and it makes sense to part ways. If she was never really into that stuff (or you) to begin with, that is much more problematic because it’s dishonest on her end. And it means you’re probably in for one hell of a divorce experience.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/07/25 10:12 PM
1	Looks like im joining the club I never wanted to be a part of…im heartbroken and not sure I’ll ever trust another woman again. Within your first couple of paragraphs I knew where this story was going. Stay clean and sober, take care of yourself physically and mentally so you can be a present and positive parent for your children. If you find a good lawyer, listen to them.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/06/25 03:18 PM
2	First meeting with divorce lawyer, left me feeling deflated and unsupported My lawyer sucked and one of my regrets about my divorce is not firing him. They will bill you into oblivion. Find another.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/05/25 06:17 PM
5	I truly hate being divorced Going on 5 years now…still in it. Everyone heals on their own timeline. Figure out what works for you. I will say that I don’t hate being divorced. I hate losing the one person that meant the world to me. I hate that her actions make me feel less than. It shattered my ideas about love and commitment. The world can be a cold place. Anyway, alcohol, drugs, meaningless hookups, and other forms of degeneracy are only a temporary salve to those emotional wounds. Do what you can, find what works.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/05/25 06:14 AM
-6	Mediation is over… Lawyer has a vested interest in continuing to bill you for $$. You and the ex almost had this worked out and it seems you felt OK with the deal. You make the decision. Not the lawyer.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/05/25 02:41 AM
4	Almost Got Killed Last Night Went through a similar experience, still have bullet shrapnel in my head from it. I remember wishing it happened differently so I wouldn’t have to be here. The world doesn’t stop turning. Nobody’s going to save you. Some people may try to take you down. You got kids that need you. Don’t give up on life.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/04/25 05:44 AM
2	My wife wants a divorce and we’re still living in the same house. I feel like I’m losing everything. It’s one thing to be age appropriate with children about what’s going on, but this is absolutely not the way. My dad put me in the middle of him and my mom splitting up and it damaged my relationship with both of them. It took years for me to realize that and to this day I still resent them both. OP, please don’t say shit like this about your kids mom. She might be an absolute POS in your eyes, but to your kids, that is their mom. Be honest without being manipulative and insulting. And in some c…	/r/Divorce_Men	15/04/25 11:48 PM