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No_Animator_6015/r/Divorce_Men02/07/24 11:35 AM
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I decided to pop into this convo, it’s been a while! I was in a 10 Year as well, it’s been 2 years being single and I’m actually really fucking happy with my life and what I am doing now. OP your message is very accurate 🙏🏻
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 11:15 PM
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Was on the same boat. It’s hard when you love them.. but then this is how they show love. I just break it down to a few things… they got to the point of flying alone, a conversation was had to be sneaky about it, they did whatever before to be comfortable with this.. and also she came home to you and pretended to love and be with you… It’s honestly sick what some people can do to you. Prepare yourself in all manners possible, then pull the plug.. just record and prepare everything in secret and …
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/25 09:43 AM
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They never own up to the truth, even the sweetest and nicest ones who end up cheating and then the crying starts to break your concentration. This is the backup plan, and it has already started without you knowing. Please please please don’t forgive, you will get bitten later down the road and it’ll hurt you a lot more.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/25 09:14 AM
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Hahah. Wow, I got the same line.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 04:56 PM
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The day she says she wants a divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/24 04:10 AM
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This is the end. Same thing happened to me. Not only is it rude and a slap in the face that you won’t be celebrating a milestone birthday, it will cause a resentment for all future birthdays. I would follow your gut, and do it now.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/24 12:08 PM
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Do you have any old back ups of your phone still? You can try and use a new phone and boot from a previous saved one.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/24 02:02 PM
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Glad to see you moving on in life! Always happy to see this!
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/24 09:19 PM
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Solid post. Agree with a lot of it!
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/24 10:48 AM
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She has been with someone else. What’s wrong with you. Have some respect with yourself?
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/24 10:06 PM
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Nothing. Silence.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 12:29 AM
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How you doing today?
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/24 11:30 AM
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One more thing: remember, this isn’t on you. Nothing you did or could have done would have controlled her choices or changed the outcome. Some people make selfish, hurtful decisions, and as hard as it is to accept, that says more about them than it does about you. The sooner you can see that the problem wasn’t you, the sooner you’ll start to heal.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/24 01:55 AM
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You’ve come to the right place, and trust me, we’ve all been where you are now. The first thing to do is to take a deep breath—literally and mentally. This moment is about you, and right now, your well-being is what matters most. Your health and peace of mind are essential, especially as a father. The woman you loved is now part of your past. She may have seemed perfect in your eyes, but if she’s hurt you and moved on so quickly, it’s clear that things weren’t as you believed. That’s a painful t…
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/24 01:52 AM
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Same
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/24 02:39 AM
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I totally get where you’re coming from. It can feel lonely at first, but trust that those people weren’t worth your time. You’ll discover new things you like about yourself, and eventually, you’ll connect with others who appreciate you for who you are. Just remember, you did nothing wrong. If someone cheats and tries to justify it, that’s their choice and their responsibility. It says more about them than it does about you. Over time, the way she handles things will likely lead to her own downfa…
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/24 11:19 PM
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You’ve got to put yourself first right now. If you’re still on the lease, consider getting your name off it immediately, it could end up causing more trouble for you down the line. Also, make sure to secure any valuables. I know it’s hard to hear, but you can’t change someone else’s actions or control everything they do. Maybe take a step back and ask yourself: why are you carrying this burden? Why do you feel responsible for someone else’s choices? These are tough questions, but they’re worth a…
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 03:32 PM
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I’m a year older than you and I made a very random one last week of stuff I remember from the radio and TV: Coolio - Gangsters Paradise Prodigy - Fire starter Fugees - Ready or Not Nine Inch Nails - The day the world went away !Snap - Rythem is a dancing Limp Bizkit - Break stuff Marilyn Manson - The Beautiful people Blink 182 - Adam’s Song The chemical Brothers - Block Rockin Beats Nirvana - Come as you are LIVE - Lightening crashes The Smashing Pumpkins- 1979 Bush - Machinehead Garbage - Push …
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/24 06:10 PM
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Making more money shouldn’t be something that makes you not to be with someone that you have a life with. Try improving yourself and also your family?
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/24 04:52 PM
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Number 3 is so important and I think a lot of people miss this.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/24 09:12 AM
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Move on. She cheated. No second chances to that one.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 08:45 AM
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Damn you sound similar to me. You need to tell your brain, you are not replacing what you lost. You are not rebuilding your past. You still need to figure out what you want (for yourself outside the relationship realm), also take some time to enjoy some freedom. Also don’t over think it, good nights are nice if you both do it. But also don’t think you need to be a husband for someone you just met, let it build over time, it’ll mean more and also it will show new cool things you do over time.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 12:51 PM
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10 years seems to be the mark. Mine found someone to move in day 1. So I feel you on this one (it’s been a year and a bit now). I just go heavily on that you can’t ever know what’s going on in someone’s head and use that energy to make yourself better in any shape or form.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 06:51 AM
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That’s a big no.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 05:27 PM
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Wow 5 kids and wants to find herself. Yikes selfish. I always say, the second divorce is mentioned, the person is now your silent enemy. Document everything, don’t cause any fights, prepare yourself financially and also mentally. Record, document, lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/24 11:09 PM
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Nope, it doesn’t mean anything. My ex cheated on me on my 10 year. So for me, I’ll forget that day forever.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/24 12:46 AM
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You need a break. You are forcing yourself to find intimacy to replace your ex. Stop. You need to reevaluate what will make you better : now , in a month, 6 months and a year. When was the last time you were selfish and did some thing only for YOU? Start small
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/24 01:50 PM
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She’s 18, she can hold onto her own passport now, she can also get a replacement. I’m not sure how your ex is, I just worry about bank accounts being opened and loans being taken out. (Since she has an account already). I’ve seen this happen before.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/24 11:07 AM
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I see a ton of defending her actions with excuses such as undiagnosed adhd (I have diagnosed ADHD) it does not give any sway for me to be an excuse at all, especially if you know you might have it and it is treatable. However it does not give any excuses to not be an adult or not to help around the house or to be a fair partner. I think it might be best to seek help for yourself and figure out where your head is at. You are on a divorced subreddit where we can all see how you type and that you l…
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/24 12:18 PM
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Don’t delay. I got this and it turned into another person day 1. Man up asap.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/24 09:24 PM
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It’s all in your head. Get over the “wasted” time. Learn from it and just aim higher. Don’t go down the social media hole and see every girl as potential. Get yourself in order first. With me, when I’m doing my best, it usually attracts people to come around.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 08:33 PM
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What’s stopping you being better now? They always say we age like fine wine. You can be incredibly fit at any age. Take care of yourself again and stop worrying about the past. It only gets better.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 08:30 PM
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It really makes someone more vigilant on seeing repeat patterns and red flags. I would build yourself up so you can trust people again. And I always try and remind myself that not everyone is the same. Keep trying at your own pace!
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/24 12:06 PM
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10 here!
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 10:59 AM
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That’s awesome!! Glad to see you still check up!
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/24 07:07 PM
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Hell yah! That’s great to hear it only gets better. Also going to steal that quote now 🙏🏻
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/24 07:06 PM
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Instagram is full of cry babies. Not sure how you haven’t seen that. Especially in North America. I’m not on TikTok anymore, it’s garbage.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/24 05:38 PM
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Hell ya! Feels great getting the body back and feeling good again!
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/24 02:48 PM
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Apologies for being unclear or using the wrong words. The false rumours were about why we broke up and her justification to have a new partner right away. Post breakup, I had a lot of self doubt on what I did wrong and hated myself for letting it happen. Hope that clears it up.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/24 02:47 PM
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Hell ya 👍🏼👍🏼
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/24 12:25 PM
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This page helped alot. 👍🏼
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/24 12:25 PM
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Get your finances in order like others have said. She has made it done already and you are going to torture yourself. Also don’t be hard on yourself for working hard and having life thrown at you. No one has it easy. Also you are in the mind set of just thinking about her (been there). What about you? Have you forgotten you exist as well?
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/24 11:06 AM
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I always believed the lawyers job is to make you look unhinged and a dick. The best way is to not let it phase you at all, if you turn nasty, you’ve lost. If you can walk away like it didn’t do anything to you, you’ve won.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 10:16 AM
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Survivor mode, trained to think everyone comes first. It’s super normal. Go get something you’ve wanted, go to a movie, go eat something you never could get. Do something haha. You got this 👍🏼
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 08:29 PM
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Your mind is sabotaging. Hell go buy non alcoholic beer to get the placebo. Just remember, you aren’t moving or getting better by doing this. One small good thing at a time, it adds up. You are going to have a lot of ups and downs. Back to basics for now, time to heal, time to rebuild. And time to give a shit about yourself. You can be selfish and do things for yourself as well. 👍🏼
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 08:25 PM
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Ditch the drinking some how. It’ll make things worse. Make the most mundane tasks to complete everyday so you have some “wins” in the day. No word of a lie, making my bed in the morning was the first “win” of my day. Then getting some fresh air, doing some work and then just pondering my next move. It’s been a year on June 28th. I’m way better off now.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 08:20 PM
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Starts with the small stuff honestly. Wake up, make your damn bed. Drag yourself outside and go for a walk or grab a coffee or anything that gets you moving. It gets better slowly. Sometimes you just gotta hit rock bottom to kick yourself into gear. You’ve got two young ones, some of us never had that blessing with our long term partners. Just appreciate the good things.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 08:03 PM
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She will just use the free ride till she finds someone else to jump to. Save yourself and get a divorce. Stop being the nice guy and suffering when you get blind sided.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 10:11 PM
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Lawyer up, document everything. Looks like she’s pulling a long game on you if she says she is scared of you.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 05:01 PM
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I was using Raya for a bit but everyone seemed to be a gold digger or just not dating material
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/24 04:18 PM
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Sounds very similar to how most of us come out of relationships (we think so highly about them, that they are the best and we will never find another). Trust me you will. The first thing you need to do is really find out who you are, your goals is not about finding someone else, it really should be about appreciating who you are by yourself first. I’m going on to a year soon after a very ugly break of 10 years (she was beautiful, popular blah blah speech bs speech). I have gone on a few dates (m…
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/24 11:14 AM
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She’s playing you. You need to snap out of this depression and showing any unstable emotions around your wife or kids immediately!!
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/24 10:58 AM
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I’d set boundaries or at least talk about it. The more it happens and you accept this behaviour the less argument you have. But if you feel this being a problem in your gut, I’d follow your gut.. you don’t want to be guy who gets cheated on and ignored all these red flags.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 05:30 PM
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About £500k. Lost all my assets we got “together” after all my things I had prior to relationship had been thrown out or given to her family members. I had to pay off our debt (we always used my credit because she didn’t have one)… it’s taken about. Year to almost get back to positive. At the end of it.. money is money. And I’ve made it before and I’ll make way more without her in my life.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/24 09:32 AM
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People who cheat often try and make things worse to make you react and be the bad guy. She doesn’t deserve my hate or pity because that in the end is all she wants. Some people just want a reaction and they are satisfied. My revenge is to do better than her and move past it and onto better. 👍🏼
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/24 09:17 PM
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Always! I felt like I was in a horror movie. Being woken up at 2am after (just needing some space) she brought new partner in and slept in same room. It was one of the worse moments of my life. Especially with our anniversary the next day. It took everything in me to better myself and prove I am better. It’s fucking hard.. but worth it 👍🏼
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/24 07:48 PM
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My ex brought her new partner into our house the first week of our separation (that we were still talking about). So I feel you on the confusion. These type of people don’t want to heal or make themselves better and would rather continue being horrible and jumping to someone else… it’s honestly the long game here, just sit back and watch it explode.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/24 07:41 PM
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I was the same. After ending a 10 year relationship because she cheated, I was 38 almost to the date. I had the major struggle and anxiety I’ll never be a parent. Just know that as a man you can have a kid at any age and you don’t need to put the pressure on yourself right now. Once you heal and rid yourself of the picture you painted with your ex and how it should have been, you’ll be a lot happier. Now it’s your time 👍🏼
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 12:18 PM
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It’s all good man. This happens to all of us. Our mind plays the worse tricks on us and we’ve all been there. At this point you’re stuck. Start super simple. Take a breathe outside, go for a walk. It’s the dumbest thing in the world and it sounds very cliche, but it’s alright to take it easy and be good to yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/24 07:03 PM
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Similar situation. Went for a lesbian who convinced her that men are evil but in reality wanted to life her life and use her for a nice place in our city. It’s horrible to see your partner and best friend treat you like an enemy. I’ve taken the time to heal, back to being healthy and quickly realized who was my friend and wasn’t. It was a journey but I am a lot better off now.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/24 05:26 PM
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This is amazing news!! Bring this to your lawyer! And congrats on the abs 👍🏼
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/24 12:25 AM
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File first. The person you married is not the same person you thought she was. She also cheated on you and this can not be overlooked.
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/24 07:19 PM
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I’m coming up to one year. I have her engagement ring burning a hole in my desk (was the price of an expensive car) she has the GIA certificate so I’m not sure what to do with it.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 05:03 PM
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I’ve dealt with similar issues. And I learned to take my time and choose my battles. The one thing I noticed was anytime I made a suggestion on the relationships with her family, she always got into defence mode. What you need to do is make her support her family and always be positive about it. When this gets over whelming and no arguments are coming from you, she will start to realize how heavy a burden they are on her herself.
/r/Divorce_Men29/02/24 01:06 PM
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I guess it will depend if she wants your dog or not. I had a 10 year go flop and she started dating someone day 1. She also took our dog and gave me zero choice on it. It’s been 10 months now and I have accepted it might be for the better. I will get another dog one day, but now I have more freedom to go do things without worrying about my dog being bored at home. I know it really hurts a lot, but your dog is safe regardless. (I hope).
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 11:15 PM
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This is the way
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/24 10:07 PM
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I’ve been in this spot. It’s been over a year now and I am so much happier. My ex decided to bring a new partner 3 days after we ended it. Had them sleep in our spare room.. so I have felt the pain and rage and the disrespect. It took me a while to realize that I painted the perfect picture of who she was (she wasnt), I made excuses for her actions and ignored them… when you get hurt by these crazy actions, it’s hard not to feel the pain because it’s something YOU wouldn’t do (so why would she).…
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/24 09:48 AM
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The classic “you’ll never find someone like me”… I think that’s the point 😅
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 03:02 AM
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Very similar to my experience. I had to block and remove myself. Ignore all the showing off another partner in all our friends faces and all the bad stuff said about me (she is the one that cheated and I busted her). I realized after being single for 8/9 months that my boundaries had disappeared because of her crazy behaviour. I agree being a man is important, and putting the foot down and protecting your mental health. Cheaters are always cheaters.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 02:33 AM
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I don’t really respond to Reddit. But I saw this and it felt very similar to me. I was with my ex for 10 years. She came from a very broken family and horrible parents who cheated/divorced many times. My ex was a closet alcoholic and also a very big narcissist. I would say that I never saw a day without her in it and we went through so many crazy and hard things in life that I could write a book. It’s been 9 months now and the first week of our break up she moved in with a new partner (took all …
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 02:11 AM
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