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| 1 | Both men and women choose to be single, anyone could be in a relationship, it just won’t necessarily be with someone you want or desireYou literally just proved my point “A bond is broadly defined as a connection, a force holding things together, or an agreement.” Two people can agree to be together regardless of how attracted one person is to another Also why tf are you being so snotty with your comment of “maybe you should have looked into the meaning of words before posting”. I haven’t talked down on you in our discussion, if you don’t want to give me that same respect that’s fine but there’s no reason for us to continue a c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/26 03:57 PM |
| 1 | Both men and women choose to be single, anyone could be in a relationship, it just won’t necessarily be with someone you want or desireI mean what is the dictionary definition of a relationship? Or marriage? Or partnership? Does that definition encompass anything you described? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/26 03:25 PM |
| -1 | Both men and women choose to be single, anyone could be in a relationship, it just won’t necessarily be with someone you want or desireWhat you’re describing is an ideal relationship. You can still be in a relationship by its definition even if you don’t want them or desire them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/26 01:47 PM |
| 3 | Both men and women choose to be single, anyone could be in a relationship, it just won’t necessarily be with someone you want or desireBeing in a relationship is not comparable to any of those things tho you don’t need a relationship like you need the things you listed | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/26 01:46 PM |
| 2 | People are inconsistent about masculine traits and behaviorsThanks for sharing, you sound like an amazing mom. I made a post previously similar to what you’re expressing your comment. I talked about how we need to recognize both the positive and negative traits of the men who came before us and make a better path forward. So I totally agree with you cheering on positive attributes of masculinity. I could’ve described that better in my post. I just hate when some prominent men online use past behaviors to justify themselves. Like “it makes sense why men w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/26 06:00 PM |
| 2 | Aside from it being morally wrong, there’s no logical reason to be against recognizing the pay gap between gendersPay gap between race absolutely exists and that’s not something I want to dismiss but any post about race automatically gets removed in this subreddit which is why I didn’t address that. Pay gap between white women and black women and Latina women is absolutely real too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/26 04:56 PM |
| 1 | Aside from it being morally wrong, there’s no logical reason to be against recognizing the pay gap between gendersI might actually disagree with you, just because something doesn’t affect you directly doesn’t mean you shouldn’t fight for it But like I said in my post, women getting equal pay and equal opportunities in the workplace actually inevitably helps everyone | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/26 04:55 PM |
| -2 | Aside from it being morally wrong, there’s no logical reason to be against recognizing the pay gap between gendersRight, but isn’t that what leads to a pay gap? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/26 04:54 PM |
| 2 | QFW: is it important to you, whether or not a man “calls out” or reports other men in the workplace, who may be engaging in discussions that are disparaging towards women?Damn. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts but why you gotta be so harsh? I’ve never really been that person to report someone else. But as I’ve learned more and tried making an effort to become a better and more thoughtful person, I want to ensure I make the right decisions in situations like this. You could’ve just told me you didn’t think I should’ve cared so much, without accusing me of being insufferable or a virtue signaler. If I wanted attention, I’d just make another post asking women … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/26 06:19 PM |
| 2 | It’s not a bad thing to be focused more on the woman’s pleasure than your ownI didn’t even have sex if you only count that as penis entering vagina | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/26 04:33 PM |
| 3 | It’s not a bad thing to be focused more on the woman’s pleasure than your ownBased off of conversations I’ve had with men in this community, across the internet and in real life. That’s just my experience. Not every man feels that way but from my perspective a lot do. And I was trying to challenge that notion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/26 05:13 AM |
| 7 | It’s not a bad thing to be focused more on the woman’s pleasure than your ownIt could just be my own experience but yes I do encounter that. Whether it’s men in here, or (some) of my men friends who’ve taken on ideas from a certain ideology, they suggest you can’t just eat out a woman without her doing it to you. You can’t just finger a woman without you getting it. And you can’t be doing all of this and not actually get to hit. I was disagreeing with these assertions in my post. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/26 05:03 AM |
| 3 | It’s not a bad thing to be focused more on the woman’s pleasure than your ownWell I tried showing what I experienced to explain why I think it’s OK to just focus on what the girl enjoys. As opposed to only thinking you should get something in return. And I literally say at the end of my post you should do what’s best for you but this is what I think personally | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/26 05:01 AM |
| 14 | It’s not a bad thing to be focused more on the woman’s pleasure than your ownJust thought sharing my experience and having a fruitful debate and discussion about sexual encounters was relevant to the subreddit as it oftentimes gets talked about here. Like I said, so many men like to say you shouldn’t do __ for a woman if you don’t get ___ so I thought offering a different perspective could mean something | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/26 04:57 AM |
| 5 | It’s not a bad thing to be focused more on the woman’s pleasure than your ownI was just trying to share my experience as I thought it might be helpful to understand where I was coming from and what my thoughts were. I don’t feel like I have anything to brag about and I’m 1 of billions of guys who’ve been able to get some so not all that special. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/26 04:56 AM |
| 1 | I absolutely hate to admit it but the release of the Epstein files is exactly why people get anxious over potentially false claims of sexual assaultThis is not just about jay z or pusha t though, im only mentioning them based on the thousands of posts and comments and news articles im seeing about them. Im speaking more about the general cultural norm which is that we assign guilt to people based on accusations. I admitted in another comment that if someone has a history of accusations or multiple people accusing them that should be considered which I didn’t mention in my argument, and I apologize for that, but I don’t think it totally disc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/26 06:09 PM |
| 1 | I absolutely hate to admit it but the release of the Epstein files is exactly why people get anxious over potentially false claims of sexual assaultI mean both things can absolutely be true. And I’d even say your point is the more important takeaway, how one can get sucked into a sickening and despicable part of the world. But I don’t think that invalidates the point I was making in my post. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/26 05:26 PM |
| 1 | I absolutely hate to admit it but the release of the Epstein files is exactly why people get anxious over potentially false claims of sexual assaultNo I’m not discounting that, I’m saying there are people who are simply mentioned in the files like jay z, pusha t (who I mentioned in my post) and that’s the extent of it. There are claims made against them but nothing more than that. No photos, no other evidence. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/26 05:20 PM |
| 1 | I absolutely hate to admit it but the release of the Epstein files is exactly why people get anxious over potentially false claims of sexual assaultThere is not always proof though like for some of these people they’re just simply mentioned in a claim or email there’s no proof they actually went to an island | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/26 06:21 AM |
| 1 | I absolutely hate to admit it but the release of the Epstein files is exactly why people get anxious over potentially false claims of sexual assaultI agree with you completely. Did I say anything in my post that suggests otherwise? If I did, please let me know and I will correct it immediately. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/26 10:19 PM |
| 0 | I absolutely hate to admit it but the release of the Epstein files is exactly why people get anxious over potentially false claims of sexual assaultThe emails and testimonies absolutely hold weight. My point is they don’t serve as credible evidence on their own. Like you don’t indict somebody and assign them guilt just based on that alone. So I should’ve worded that better in my comment or clarified what I was trying to say better and I apologize for that. And I’m trying to make it as clear as I can that any victim who coms forward, whether or not they have any available evidence aside from their own statement, should be uplifted, supported… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/26 10:17 PM |
| 0 | I absolutely hate to admit it but the release of the Epstein files is exactly why people get anxious over potentially false claims of sexual assaultThat’s fair. If people were asking those kinds of questions and wanted to investigate a bit, I think that makes complete sense. But it’s not that, instead I’m seeing people just flat out say, with full confidence, that ____ is a pedo. And I think that’s a norm too pervasive in our society, even outside of the Epstein files or any other high profile case, which leads to people getting anxious about false claims of sexual assault even when false claims are such a minority. And the majority of wome… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/26 06:19 PM |
| 1 | I absolutely hate to admit it but the release of the Epstein files is exactly why people get anxious over potentially false claims of sexual assaultI completely agree with you and I should’ve mentioned this in my post. Someone’s history and whether or not they have multiple accusations does indeed make a huge difference. If someone has a claim made against them that is one thing, but honestly even 2 people or more does impact how they should be viewed, imo. That’s not to say they shouldn’t have a chance to defend themselves in court, everyone should, but I see no problem if people want to start labeling them a certain way or treat them a ce… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/26 06:16 PM |
| – | I absolutely hate to admit it but the release of the Epstein files is exactly why people get anxious over potentially false claims of sexual assaultReading through what you said, I don’t think a lot of what I personally believe or what I outlined in my post, goes against what most of your comment is stating. Do people, especially the wealthy and connected elites, get away with criminal activity far too often? YES! Have many individuals been complicit in other’s crimes, even if they personally didn’t do anything? YES! Should we be concerned when certain individuals are accused of wrongdoing, and they have proven close relationships with conv… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/26 06:10 PM |
| – | I absolutely hate to admit it but the release of the Epstein files is exactly why people get anxious over potentially false claims of sexual assaultWhat in my post suggests, that I don’t care about anything you just mentioned? Now, to consider your view, I truly can understand you, when you say that my post may come across as “tone deaf”. Reflecting on it, I definitely can see where I should’ve emphasized more how we need to focus on getting justice for the victims in the Epstein case, and holding the people involved in this accountable. And I didn’t point out the scope of this situation, the fact that it’s about a worldwide sex trafficking… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/26 07:38 AM |
| – | I absolutely hate to admit it but the release of the Epstein files is exactly why people get anxious over potentially false claims of sexual assaultThat is so unfair. My post isn’t just about jay z. It’s about the situation. The situation is = people are bringing out their pitchforks, pointing fingers and assigning blame, to people who have claims made against them that are COMPLETELY UNSUBSTANTIATED. Did I say the claims shouldn’t be looked into? No. Did I say Jay Z is innocent? No. Did I say anything that could be considered a “defense” for Jay Z, Pusha T, or any elite, and did I worry in anyway about their “wellbeing”? Absolutely fucking… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/26 06:30 AM |
| – | I absolutely hate to admit it but the release of the Epstein files is exactly why people get anxious over potentially false claims of sexual assaultYou really think that’s what my post boils down too? “But… but.. jay z”? You’re going to ignore all of the other points I made including how women oftentimes aren’t believed when they make a claim about sexual assault as well as how women deal with fear and embarrassment or etc when trying to seek justice? If you don’t want to have a discussion about my post because you think it’s offensive or worthless or whatever else, that’s perfectly fine, but you can’t just pretend that I didn’t put a lot o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/26 05:51 AM |
| – | I absolutely hate to admit it but the release of the Epstein files is exactly why people get anxious over potentially false claims of sexual assaultI can’t believe you. When did I say that insight being given into one of the largest sex trafficking cases in history wasn’t an amazing thing? When did I say the victims getting closer to achieving justice wasn’t incredible? When did I say anything in opposition to the Epstein files being released? What the fuck?? How am I detracting away from any of that?? Im making a post in relation to the MANY posts and comments I’ve seen today relating to guys like Pusha T, Jay Z and etc being brought up an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/26 05:40 AM |
| 0 | I absolutely hate to admit it but the release of the Epstein files is exactly why people get anxious over potentially false claims of sexual assaultI think the difference is not everyone knows what some of these men (Epstein, Weinstein, etc) were responsible for. Maybe those who were in their inner circle or worked with them closely. Like you’re not going to see me defending Trump out here despite there being no credible evidence that he was involved in anyway with Epstein’s crimes, considering how friendly he was with Epstein and how there are plenty of people who’ve accused him of assault and harassment in the past. In fact, you’re not go… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/26 05:18 AM |
| 1 | The only way for men to move forward is to recognize both the positive AND toxic traits of the men who came before us, including our fathersThat’s absolutely a great conversation to have it just wasn’t the focus of my post | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/26 10:41 PM |
| 1 | QFW: Women - we hear you on the orgasm gap and how frustrating it is. Is the solution for men to simply ask women what they like, and perhaps have the women guide them a bit, when in bed together?I’ve seen your comments on this sub before and I always appreciate you giving your unique perspective. I have to say though I’m really interested in what your ideal man looks like because it seems like he might go against the grain in some ways | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/26 04:08 PM |
| 5 | QFW: Women - we hear you on the orgasm gap and how frustrating it is. Is the solution for men to simply ask women what they like, and perhaps have the women guide them a bit, when in bed together?That… is quite depressing. I know there’s also studies that show how men benefit a lot more from marriage than women, and I think single women actually live longer generally? So, case in point - if I’m lucky enough to be with a woman, that all just motivates me to prove I’m actually worth something, genuinely show her how important she is to me, and she’ll be happy to have me in her life. Otherwise just seems like the woman would be better off 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/26 10:59 PM |
| 1 | QFW: Women - we hear you on the orgasm gap and how frustrating it is. Is the solution for men to simply ask women what they like, and perhaps have the women guide them a bit, when in bed together?Well there’s a lot of woman who have faked it and are completely convincing to the guy about that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/26 10:52 PM |
| 0 | QFW: Women - we hear you on the orgasm gap and how frustrating it is. Is the solution for men to simply ask women what they like, and perhaps have the women guide them a bit, when in bed together?Thanks for commenting. Do you recommend anything in particular when it comes to learning more about anatomy? Feels sometimes like whatever we learned in school wasn’t particularly helpful… and obviously porn can be quite harmful in this regard | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/26 10:51 PM |
| 2 | QFW: Women - we hear you on the orgasm gap and how frustrating it is. Is the solution for men to simply ask women what they like, and perhaps have the women guide them a bit, when in bed together?This all makes sense and thanks for sharing. Part of the reason I ask this is just because the guy might not know if something is good or not. Like maybe he’s not used to using his fingers or mouth or etc. Maybe that’s where the woman could step in and kind of communicate with the man and guide the man a bit to ensure he’s doing it right. Just my thoughts idk. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/26 10:49 PM |
| 3 | QFW: Women - we hear you on the orgasm gap and how frustrating it is. Is the solution for men to simply ask women what they like, and perhaps have the women guide them a bit, when in bed together?I hear what you’re saying. Can’t there be a middle ground tho? Like you try to show initiative but at the same time try to understand what the woman wants and what makes her happy? A lot of times the guy might genuinely just not know if they’re pleasuring someone or not. And the woman might feel hesitant to tell the man what she really wants for reasons mentioned in the other comments on this thread. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/26 10:48 PM |
| -2 | You shouldn’t be labelled as simp for wanting to spoil your partner and by showing a lot of affection towards themI think it not being reciprocated is part of the point for some people though, like you’re doing these nice things for someone, not because you expect anything in return, but because you love them. Like wouldn’t it be weird for you to take someone out for a nice dinner and then be like “ok, now what are you going to do for me?” Maybe the love in return is enough… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/26 05:05 PM |
| – | If you’re a teenager or young adult into the “red pill” pipeline or “manosphere”, there’s a strong chance you’re going to end up really regretting itAbsolutely agree on community being important but the red pill community does more bad than good. Like yeah focusing on building your career and taking on healthy habits such as going to the gym is very beneficial. But overall the ignorant and misguided views that come with the red pill could inevitably cause harm in your life and the lives around you by affecting the way you behave and treat others | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 04:41 AM |
| – | If you’re a teenager or young adult into the “red pill” pipeline or “manosphere”, there’s a strong chance you’re going to end up really regretting itI say preying because the redpill is targeting vulnerable people and leading them to believe hateful, harmful and derogatory rhetoric that actually affects the way they treat others and view the world. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 04:38 AM |
| – | If you’re a teenager or young adult into the “red pill” pipeline or “manosphere”, there’s a strong chance you’re going to end up really regretting itAgreed. I think too many men fall into this rabbit hole because they don’t feel like anyone else really cares. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 04:37 AM |
| -2 | On a moral and ethical level, we need to ensure women have fair representation in government and leadership positionsThat is an insane take when I’m a man, what exactly is appealing to me about female superiority. And I’ve posted multiple times in here about my desire for there to be more attention dedicated towards men’s issues. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/26 06:31 PM |
| 1 | On a moral and ethical level, we need to ensure women have fair representation in government and leadership positionsDo you think merit is a factor when there’s a significant disparity in gender amongst leaders? Do you truly think men in general just have more merit/competence than women? I would argue men and women are more equal and therefore if less than 30% of congress is women, we are not choosing people based on merit/competence alone | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/26 06:22 PM |
| 0 | On a moral and ethical level, we need to ensure women have fair representation in government and leadership positionsWhy does this only get brought up when we talk about women not getting the same representation as men? Like I swear I never see anyone post about the topic you mentioned. It only serves as a reactionary talking point when discussing sexism women face. And mind you I literally have posted multiple times in here and in other subreddits about men’s issues and how they need to be discussed more. Whether that be in regards to workplace deaths and injuries, lack of representation in higher level educa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/26 06:21 PM |
| 0 | On a moral and ethical level, we need to ensure women have fair representation in government and leadership positionsThat’s definitely a great and meaningful conversation to have it’s just not really the topic of my post. I’m talking about positions of power that make a huge difference in the lives of a significant amount of people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/26 06:17 PM |
| -1 | On a moral and ethical level, we need to ensure women have fair representation in government and leadership positionsWomen make up half the voter base but do women represent half of major political candidates? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/26 06:16 PM |
| 1 | If you’re not the most attractive dude and you don’t have the most “game”when it comes to women, being a kind and caring individual can maybe make up for thatI shared some below. Feel free to shut me down if I was too confident in my original comment lmao. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/26 05:15 AM |
| 2 | If you’re not the most attractive dude and you don’t have the most “game”when it comes to women, being a kind and caring individual can maybe make up for thatAppreciate it bro. I can stick to working out but I need to get the diet in check. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/26 04:58 AM |
| 1 | If you’re not the most attractive dude and you don’t have the most “game”when it comes to women, being a kind and caring individual can maybe make up for that<image> | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/26 04:49 AM |
| 1 | If you’re not the most attractive dude and you don’t have the most “game”when it comes to women, being a kind and caring individual can maybe make up for that<image> | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/26 04:49 AM |
| 1 | If you’re not the most attractive dude and you don’t have the most “game”when it comes to women, being a kind and caring individual can maybe make up for that<image> | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/26 04:49 AM |
| 1 | If you’re not the most attractive dude and you don’t have the most “game”when it comes to women, being a kind and caring individual can maybe make up for thatSure, happy to share half naked photos of myself on the internet, look in the comments under this one (too lazy to upload them all into Imgur or something lol sorry). I know I get to be anonymous on the internet but I try to never be an asshole or talk shit. If anyone ever feels like I’m a jerk though they can just always refer to my photos in these comments lol. Clearly I am a fatass and don’t have an appealing body so don’t take what I say too serious lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/26 04:48 AM |
| 1 | If you’re not the most attractive dude and you don’t have the most “game”when it comes to women, being a kind and caring individual can maybe make up for thatI was trying to point out in my post that this isn’t going to apply to every woman, and women value different things. But you’re telling me it does not matter at all how a guy behaves towards you? Like if a guy is trying to be genuinely kind and thoughtful towards you, and says the right things, that would not impact your level of attraction towards him in anyway? Your attraction is purely based on physical traits? I feel like it should matter. And I say that actually because I think every woman… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/26 01:35 AM |
| 1 | If you’re not the most attractive dude and you don’t have the most “game”when it comes to women, being a kind and caring individual can maybe make up for thatNo you’re right I absolutely need to lose weight. That wasn’t even what I meant by take care of myself. I meant that I don’t look and smell like a damn slob whenever I go outside. I dress appropriately, cut my nails, put on deodorant, shower, try to make my hair look good, etc. I don’t say this to brag in anyway because like I said in my post I do not consider myself an attractive guy, and again I need to lose weight, but I do work out and have decent muscle and you can see it in my chest and sh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/26 01:26 AM |
| -1 | If you’re not the most attractive dude and you don’t have the most “game”when it comes to women, being a kind and caring individual can maybe make up for thatYeah there might be more than one factor at play. I’m just using myself as an example because I don’t consider myself someone who’s noticeably attractive or good looking. Not even in the sense that I’m not like, you know, Brad Pitt, I might not be viewed as a 6/10 to a lot of women. But I try to make up for that in other ways. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/26 12:11 AM |
| -6 | If you’re not the most attractive dude and you don’t have the most “game”when it comes to women, being a kind and caring individual can maybe make up for thatPerhaps, the physical part definitely exists, but maybe women might find you more attractive if you come across as a good person to them and make them feel special | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/26 12:09 AM |
| 3 | If you’re not the most attractive dude and you don’t have the most “game”when it comes to women, being a kind and caring individual can maybe make up for thatI did follow up with these women today, I’m continuing to talk to them, and I did make out with them last night, I just didn’t feel the need to specify that in my post lol. Is a woman coming home with me the only indication of success? Not all of us are looking for a quick hookup. I didn’t really have the chance to do that regardless. I couldn’t invite them back to my place as I was staying at a friends house | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/26 12:08 AM |
| 1 | You can discuss the incredible feats of women athletes without having to say that men are stronger and betterKind of off topic from my post but when you say “that’s why men often use aggression, acts of violence or threats of violence”, are you saying that men in general often do that? Or just that men are more likely to compared to women? By the way, I’m not trying to discount your point about how men tend to be the aggressors over women and commit much more hostile and violent acts. That’s absolutely a huge, horrific problem and it needs to be addressed and dealt with. I also recognize as a man mysel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/25 06:45 PM |
| 0 | You can discuss the incredible feats of women athletes without having to say that men are stronger and betterWhy do you frame it that way? Why can’t you just say that semipro men are underpaid and can barely scrape by? Why do you have to compare them to women and then suggest that women don’t deserve the accolades and rewards they receive? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/25 06:37 PM |
| -8 | You can discuss the incredible feats of women athletes without having to say that men are stronger and betterI don’t get why he had to explain it the way he did though. Couldn’t he have just said the men’s and women’s games are different? He didn’t have to specify as one being better than the other. To me that just seems disrespectful. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/25 06:36 PM |
| -11 | You can discuss the incredible feats of women athletes without having to say that men are stronger and betterI get what you’re saying, I looked at the transcript of the NPR interview. Again, I don’t think John is a bad person. In fact Serena doesn’t think that either. Serena literally responded to John by saying she respects and adores him. But I don’t see your justification for what John did. Like couldn’t he have just said the men’s and women’s tennis games are “different”? He didn’t have to explain that men are better and that women wouldn’t perform as well if they played against them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/25 06:34 PM |
| 2 | No one told men that good manners and good morals translated to sexual desire within most women.Understood. I guess I’m just confused by OPs argument. It almost seems from their post that they’re suggesting being respectful, being kind, being a good person, etc doesn’t have much, if anything, to do with being “sexually desirable”. I’m obviously not a woman so I won’t assume I know what all women want but that doesn’t seem based in reality to me. To your point of being respectful, are you suggesting that, while it is valued, it isn’t valued as much as other attributes? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/25 09:15 AM |
| 3 | No one told men that good manners and good morals translated to sexual desire within most women.Are we suggesting that trying to be a good person and kind, thoughtful and respectful towards others doesn’t make you more attractive and possibly lead to more attention from women? I know there’s outliers but I feel like genuinely speaking that’s something women value. But I also think you make a good point in that men may only behave a certain way just to get with women. Which is a shitty thing to do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/25 09:00 AM |
| – | A lot of young men are leaning conservative simply because leftists/liberals aren’t making it a point to speak directly to men, like they do to other groups, which conservatives take advantage ofI don’t think those groups get criticized by the Left because of the absolute lack of power they have in society and the systemic discrimination they have faced throughout history and up to this point in time | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/25 08:37 AM |
| – | A lot of young men are leaning conservative simply because leftists/liberals aren’t making it a point to speak directly to men, like they do to other groups, which conservatives take advantage ofI honestly can’t tell if this is a troll or not | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/25 08:35 AM |
| – | A lot of young men are leaning conservative simply because leftists/liberals aren’t making it a point to speak directly to men, like they do to other groups, which conservatives take advantage ofI totally get where you’re coming from and I appreciate you sharing. I respect you’ve at least tried understanding where men are coming from. I guess let me give you this perspective - you’re a man who has genuinely put in effort to be a productive member of society and you’ve encountered so many challenges. You weren’t able to support yourself throughout college. Or You weren’t able to find a job right after college. Or maybe you found a job but you were laid off. You recognize none of this stu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/25 08:33 AM |
| – | A lot of young men are leaning conservative simply because leftists/liberals aren’t making it a point to speak directly to men, like they do to other groups, which conservatives take advantage ofI get what you’re saying. I guess it’s interesting though how I felt like I saw a ton of posts on Reddit about how democrats spent millions of dollars trying to figure out how to attract young men… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/25 08:29 AM |
| – | A lot of young men are leaning conservative simply because leftists/liberals aren’t making it a point to speak directly to men, like they do to other groups, which conservatives take advantage ofI disagree that people who call out others for making sweeping generalizations about men somehow face social and political consequences. Maybe on the internet depending where you’re looking, but in real life that generally doesn’t happen. I mean can you give me some examples that suggest otherwise? Like concrete examples of men or women who’ve been seriously punished for criticizing women who hate men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/25 08:28 AM |
| – | A lot of young men are leaning conservative simply because leftists/liberals aren’t making it a point to speak directly to men, like they do to other groups, which conservatives take advantage ofThey don’t necessarily. A lot of men like me have voted Democrat and continue to do so. But I think democrats lose a lot of men because they don’t speak directly to them. The Democratic Party might have attractive morals and values but the message gets lost when they don’t speak to people directly. And I don’t want to dismiss the discrimination and misogynoir you and so many other black women unfortunately have to deal with. I totally understand when you say that no one speaks directly to you. B… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/25 08:22 AM |
| – | A lot of young men are leaning conservative simply because leftists/liberals aren’t making it a point to speak directly to men, like they do to other groups, which conservatives take advantage ofThere are programs, and proposed programs/legislation, that can help those men, it just doesn’t ONLY help single childless men, it can help different groups. Because there isn’t systemic discrimination against single childless men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/25 08:08 AM |
| – | A lot of young men are leaning conservative simply because leftists/liberals aren’t making it a point to speak directly to men, like they do to other groups, which conservatives take advantage ofI totally understand this POV. I just want to reiterate, I do not think any issues impacting men are comparable to the discrimination that more disadvantaged groups face such as women, LGBTQ, people of color, etc. Considering the power that men have had and continue to have. As a counter argument though I’ll say it’s possible to focus on more than one issue even if there are bigger fires to address. I feel like Mamdani did a fantastic job of this recently in NYC. He was able to address young men… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/25 08:06 AM |
| 0 | QFW: Assuming you’re talking to a man who is level headed, genuine, and wants to engage in an honest discussion, how do you respond if he believes that “women have it easier in society nowadays” and in turn, “men face way more discrimination”?I’m sorry, I really wasn’t trying to say men shouldn’t hold themselves accountable and they are not at fault for anything. I’ll just use myself as an example. I was an insecure, lonely, depressed, anxious teenager who fell down the rabbit hole of alt right, anti feminist and red pill content. This content has somehow gotten even worse and more extreme since I was a teenager with guys like Andrew Tate but for me, at the time, it was Steven crowder, Ben Shapiro, Paul Joseph Watson and more. I woul… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/25 07:16 PM |
| 1 | QFW: Assuming you’re talking to a man who is level headed, genuine, and wants to engage in an honest discussion, how do you respond if he believes that “women have it easier in society nowadays” and in turn, “men face way more discrimination”?If you felt this man wasn’t purely ignorant and close minded and actually could learn something from what you told him, would that change your mind? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/25 07:03 PM |
| 0 | QFW: Assuming you’re talking to a man who is level headed, genuine, and wants to engage in an honest discussion, how do you respond if he believes that “women have it easier in society nowadays” and in turn, “men face way more discrimination”?That’s fair but I also don’t think a lot of people acknowledge or realize how much society has benefitted from women achieving greater equality and working more closely with men. Like obviously gender equality is just the right thing to promote on a moral level. But having more women participate in the workplace and in research settings, start businesses, achieve leadership roles, be able to share and build upon their ideas, etc has helped everyone. If we only allowed men to have those rights, w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/25 06:55 PM |
| -1 | QFW: Assuming you’re talking to a man who is level headed, genuine, and wants to engage in an honest discussion, how do you respond if he believes that “women have it easier in society nowadays” and in turn, “men face way more discrimination”?I totally understand where you’re coming from and thanks for sharing.And I completely agree that 1. The opinion is ridiculous and 2 Men should be supporting other men in this regard. Speaking personally this is what I try to do with my men friends who unfortunately subscribe to hateful guys online like Andrew Tate, fresh and fit, etc If I could just respond to your last point - do you think some women may be invested in supporting men because a.) it could in turn help women prosper in society an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/25 06:26 PM |
| 1 | QFW: Assuming you’re talking to a man who is level headed, genuine, and wants to engage in an honest discussion, how do you respond if he believes that “women have it easier in society nowadays” and in turn, “men face way more discrimination”?It’s definitely not the only options for women and I apologize because I was not trying to frame it that way. I guess that really only applies to women who maybe participate in this subreddit or just online communities in general and try to talk about the sexism and discrimination they face. Like they’ll devote time and energy to posting and commenting and discussing their experiences online and how men can hurt them, which again, is absolutely a powerful thing as it can help them feel heard, un… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/25 06:20 PM |
| 0 | QFW: Assuming you’re talking to a man who is level headed, genuine, and wants to engage in an honest discussion, how do you respond if he believes that “women have it easier in society nowadays” and in turn, “men face way more discrimination”?No the responsibility should definitely not fall on women and women have absolutely no obligation to teach or guide men in anyway. I definitely was not trying to suggest that. And men who are trying to learn and grow should absolutely take that on themselves. Speaking personally that’s what I did after falling into that bullshit red pill pipeline when I was an insecure and ignorant teenager I’m just asking women specifically in this situation what they think they would do. I could ask the same q… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/25 06:13 PM |
| -1 | QFW: Assuming you’re talking to a man who is level headed, genuine, and wants to engage in an honest discussion, how do you respond if he believes that “women have it easier in society nowadays” and in turn, “men face way more discrimination”?Again im biased but i guess you’re devoting energy and effort to this anyways right? Either you: Devote energy and effort and time to voicing your frustrations with misogyny and men online (which can be a great thing, as it can help you feel more understood, relate to others, feel validated, learn how to deal with certain things, etc) Or Devote energy and effort and time to speaking with men who actually are open to learning and growing and taking into account what you tell them, which can then … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/25 10:51 AM |
| 2 | QFW: Assuming you’re talking to a man who is level headed, genuine, and wants to engage in an honest discussion, how do you respond if he believes that “women have it easier in society nowadays” and in turn, “men face way more discrimination”?Would you still do the same if you felt the man genuinely would learn from what you told him? Like not just that you would know how to respond, but he would actually be open to what you have to say? I understand it’s not a woman’s responsibility to teach anybody so I definitely dont think you’re under any obligation to do so and I wouldn’t fault you if you still chose not to engage in the conversation but I’m just curious if that changes your mind at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/25 10:07 AM |
| 4 | QFW: Assuming you’re talking to a man who is level headed, genuine, and wants to engage in an honest discussion, how do you respond if he believes that “women have it easier in society nowadays” and in turn, “men face way more discrimination”?I completely understand your POV and I obviously severely disagree wholeheartedly that women somehow have it “easier” considering how much discrimination and mistreatment and overall misogyny they’ve faced and continue to face. But I ask this question because I do think we should consider there are men who actually are smart, do well in school and potentially in tough subjects like in STEM, are not bad people to be around and can actually do a lot of good and be kind towards others, but they get… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/25 10:01 AM |
| 1 | QFW: Do you think it’s a bad thing that women are generally perceived and/or expected to be more “nurturing” and “caring”? Do you think it’s something men can learn from?I completely understand and I’m so sorry if I came off as disregarding or not acknowledging the pain and trauma that you and so many other women have been through, because that was not my intention at all. I wasn’t trying to defend the person above, or any other man for saying hateful, derogatory or deeply offensive things. I just thought if I explained how a lot of these guys are suffering in some way, and it’s possible they don’t have the resources to effectively deal with that, which then lea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/25 01:13 AM |
| 1 | QFW: Do you think it’s a bad thing that women are generally perceived and/or expected to be more “nurturing” and “caring”? Do you think it’s something men can learn from?Thank you for sharing. If it means anything. I’ll say personally, in my own experience, I don’t ever expect a woman to be that way, but a lot of women just assume that sort of role without even being asked. Like for example, in the workplace, once I got more familiar with women coworkers of mine, they shared advice and showed a lot of care towards different aspects of my own personal life without me even asking for it. Like perhaps in regards to me trying to find a partner, or dealing with growi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/25 03:16 PM |
| 1 | QFW: Do you think it’s a bad thing that women are generally perceived and/or expected to be more “nurturing” and “caring”? Do you think it’s something men can learn from?Not to dismiss your extremely valid concerns and issues that you laid out about the type of posts/comments that get propped up in this subreddit, I totally agree that needs to be fixed and I completely understand where you’re coming from, but just FYI, a lot of men here may complain and use this as a “space to yell at women” simply because they’re hurting. And a lot of them may not be able to get the help they need for that. There’s a serious lack of mental health funding in the US and overall w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/25 03:02 PM |
| 1 | QFW: Do you think it’s a bad thing that women are generally perceived and/or expected to be more “nurturing” and “caring”? Do you think it’s something men can learn from?Absolutely, thanks for sharing. I guess a selfish part of me appreciates that, in a lot of situations I may find myself in, I can usually count on women to be there for me, and they’ll be a bit more caring and gentle, I guess since that’s how society expects them to be. But of course, as you said, not all women are like that or want to be like that, and men are definitely capable of being nurturing and caring too, and that should be encouraged. Plus I hate the idea of women taking on all the emo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/25 08:14 AM |
| 2 | Every woman should have high standards. Thats never a bad thing.That’s what I’m saying! Thank you for commenting because I feel like this oftentimes comes from the perspective of a man, but women can deal with it too. Like what I mean is, regarding your example about an unattractive person saying they only want supermodels. There’s men too who want a woman with a certain body type (petite, or thick, or etc). For a woman who doesn’t meet those standards - should they complain and attempt to force the man to reconsider his preferences? Should they shame the ma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/12/25 07:09 PM |
| -1 | Every woman should have high standards. Thats never a bad thing.Well of course describing someone as a loser just because you’re not attracted to them is just mean. But what if they’re describing them as a loser because of how they talk or what they believe in? Like I oftentimes see women describing men as losers because men try to control women so much in relationships. They don’t want their woman to talk or be friends with other men and they seemingly blame women for getting hit on. As a man myself I recognize men may behave this way because they could be … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/12/25 07:01 PM |
| -1 | Every woman should have high standards. Thats never a bad thing.No reason to laugh or put down others. And I know peoples reaction to that will be - but what about when women do it? When women make fun of a guys dick size? Or his height? Or his balding? Or etc. Well I’m not a fan of that either. I don’t think it’s right to make fun of other people in that way, whether it’s something that’s in their control or not (like body weight which is typically in your control vs height). I’m sure if you scour the internet you will find plenty examples of women doing th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/12/25 06:55 PM |
| 1 | Every woman should have high standards. Thats never a bad thing.Well of course not, I would think a guy who is a serial cheater and/or is abusive would be far from most woman’s version of “best” I’d say another big part of this when it comes to women that I care about and just women in general is knowing how you deserve to be treated, and not tolerating anything less than that Also I don’t think anyone would feel shame or guilt for having high standards and certain preferences. If you want a guy who’s at least 6 feet tall or at a certain level of wealth or e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/12/25 06:47 PM |
| 1 | Every woman should have high standards. Thats never a bad thing.Shouldn’t you feel OK with being single before even finding a relationship in the first place? Otherwise you risk depending too much on the person and forming an unhealthy bond? So yeah I think it’s reasonable to stay single and be OK with that until you find someone that doesn’t involve you settling for anything less than the best | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/12/25 06:42 PM |
| 1 | Every woman should have high standards. Thats never a bad thing.Absolutely, but tbh I personally don’t have a problem with people complaining about anything. My only issue is when that complaint involves advocating for something that infringes on someone else’s rights. Like for example I’m a short guy. I sometimes see taller women complaining about how they can’t find a guy who’s slightly taller than them. That’s something they may truly desire for whatever reason. Of course my gut reaction is like “why not try to adjust your standards and at least consider … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/12/25 06:39 PM |
| 1 | Question for women: Do you think it’s reasonable for a man to stick strictly to dating apps when looking for a potential partner nowadays?Absolutely, I’ve seen some other men comment on this post suggesting that women shouldn’t be speaking on a topic like this, and that my post is dumb, but my thought was I should go directly to the source (women) for a question like this 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/25 07:00 PM |
| 1 | Question for women: Do you think it’s reasonable for a man to stick strictly to dating apps when looking for a potential partner nowadays?Absolutely but I’d say, aside from it being suboptimal and imperfect, sometimes the situation in which you ask someone out or approach someone in public, could actually backfire on you in some way? I don’t think that’s necessarily likely but I do think it can happen. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/25 06:41 PM |
| 2 | Question for women: Do you think it’s reasonable for a man to stick strictly to dating apps when looking for a potential partner nowadays?Thank you a lot for commenting. I definitely relate to what you said in your post about being too afraid to make a mistake and therefore being passive. And I really appreciate you sharing your mindset on making people uncomfortable - basically, this is a part of life, it can happen, so you have to accept that but also take accountability when it does happen and apologize for it. On the “rapport” and “small talk” - do you think it’s reasonable for someone to be worried about getting the wrong ide… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/25 06:37 PM |
| 2 | Question for women: Do you think it’s reasonable for a man to stick strictly to dating apps when looking for a potential partner nowadays?Thank you for commenting. Would you be OK speaking more to how you met your current boyfriend? It sounds like he was approaching you while you were working? That’s just interesting to me. I always felt like I should avoid trying to talk to a woman (on a romantic level) while she’s doing her job. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/25 06:32 PM |
| 4 | Question for women: Do you think it’s reasonable for a man to stick strictly to dating apps when looking for a potential partner nowadays?That makes sense. I guess my thought is, at least I would know forsure if someone is interested in me if we match on a dating app. That’s not necessarily the case even with a referral or people trying to set me up. Because personally, I make sure to include a lot of relevant information on my dating profile. Like my job, what I’m looking for, and even shit like height because Im short (5’7) and I know that’s important to people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/25 06:20 PM |
| 3 | Question for women: Do you think it’s reasonable for a man to stick strictly to dating apps when looking for a potential partner nowadays?Thank you for commenting. I guess my worry is, the potential fallout of approaching someone in the community. What I mean is, if you get the “wrong impression” that someone is interested and you ask them out, they may no longer feel comfortable around you. And then they tell other people about it. Maybe that leads to you no longer being welcomed into the community. Or at least people don’t interact with you in the same way or could avoid it all together. I don’t know if that situation makes sens… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/25 06:16 PM |
| 3 | Question for women: Do you think it’s reasonable for a man to stick strictly to dating apps when looking for a potential partner nowadays?Thank you for commenting. It hurts to hear but maybe I needed to hear that straight. If it means anything, the reason I put so much thought into this, is because I can deal with shit like social anxiety, and feeling uncomfortable myself sometimes in certain interactions. So I’d hate to make anyone else go through that because I know how much it can suck. And like I said in my post I feel like I see online all the time, whether it’s Reddit or social media like Facebook and Twitter or whatever els… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/25 06:07 PM |
| 0 | Men shouldn’t be labelled as white-knights, or told they only care because they’re trying to “get with” a woman, when pointing out sexism or discriminationOn the point of disqualifying all men because of the actions of a few - I don’t think it’s that simple. I’ve voiced my frustrations at men and maybe generalized my frustrations, not because of a few man’s actions but because of all the men defending those actions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 03:38 PM |
| 0 | Men shouldn’t be labelled as white-knights, or told they only care because they’re trying to “get with” a woman, when pointing out sexism or discriminationI think the problem is women oftentimes voice how they get unwanted attention or advances regardless of how they look. Like it doesn’t matter what they’re wearing or how they’ve presented themselves. And continually asking questions about what a victim may have done that put them in a bad situation inadvertently ignores the blame that can be assigned to the perpetrator. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 03:36 PM |
| 1 | Men shouldn’t be labelled as white-knights, or told they only care because they’re trying to “get with” a woman, when pointing out sexism or discriminationOff topic from my post but since I came across your comment, I actually recently did a sort of AMA about my experience coming out of the alt-right and red-pill rabbit hole if you’re curious about that :D You can see it in my profile | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 03:21 PM |
| 1 | Men shouldn’t be labelled as white-knights, or told they only care because they’re trying to “get with” a woman, when pointing out sexism or discriminationI see men get labeled white knights solely for calling out other men and agreeing with women outright. Which is just wrong. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 02:19 AM |
| 0 | Men shouldn’t be labelled as white-knights, or told they only care because they’re trying to “get with” a woman, when pointing out sexism or discriminationUnderstandable, I mean I think everyone, whether you’re a man or woman, deserves kindness and respect. Some people may assume a “white knight” is only nice to a woman, but that may not be the case. They just have no problem calling out a man for their potentially bad behaviors. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 02:17 AM |
| 5 | Men shouldn’t be labelled as white-knights, or told they only care because they’re trying to “get with” a woman, when pointing out sexism or discriminationIt’s not really illogical though. You just have to force yourself to understand someone else’s perspective and be considerate of what they feel, and what they’ve gone through. Yeah maybe a bear has a much greater chance of harming you or killing you. But when you’ve lived a life where some men feel comfortable taking advantage of you, touching you inappropriately, making inappropriate comments towards you, making unwanted advances towards you, and you see and hear so many stories of women going … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 01:41 AM |
| 2 | Men shouldn’t be labelled as white-knights, or told they only care because they’re trying to “get with” a woman, when pointing out sexism or discriminationOf course women can and we should amplify their voices but that doesn’t mean men can’t speak up for them too. Based on what I see online and experience in my own life it seems women appreciate it when men advocate for them too especially when it’s an issue that doesn’t directly affect them like abortion | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 01:38 AM |
| 6 | Men shouldn’t be labelled as white-knights, or told they only care because they’re trying to “get with” a woman, when pointing out sexism or discriminationI would feel disgusted with myself if I tried defending women for the sole purpose of sleeping with them. So I’m OK with that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 01:36 AM |
| 4 | Men shouldn’t be labelled as white-knights, or told they only care because they’re trying to “get with” a woman, when pointing out sexism or discriminationDefinitely not, I just think dismissing someone outright without considering what they’re saying, because you think they have an ulterior motive, is wrong | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 01:35 AM |
| – | DEI can help everybody, including white men, and to demonize it is fighting in your own best interest.These companies aren’t being forced to hire specific people though. Like I said, maybe there are targets, but that’s not the same thing as “forced”. It’s about making an effort to eliminate bias and discrimination as much as possible, so people who could do the job well, aren’t unfairly passed on or treated poorly. Using your example, a hiring manager might be under the impression a person with a disability couldn’t do the job well and wouldn’t mix in well with the team. But they’re making assum… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/25 01:22 PM |
| – | DEI can help everybody, including white men, and to demonize it is fighting in your own best interest.Don’t you think it’s fucked up to not make an effort to hire people who’ve been historically discriminated against and had to navigate many barriers to enter the workplace and specifically take on leadership level roles? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/25 01:14 PM |
| – | DEI can help everybody, including white men, and to demonize it is fighting in your own best interest.Sure. If you look at DEI groups in the workplace, they address issues about discrimination that could apply to working class white men, just not because they’re white men. Issues pertaining to disabilities, sexual orientation, religion, cultural backgrounds, etc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/25 01:12 PM |
| – | DEI can help everybody, including white men, and to demonize it is fighting in your own best interest.Of course, but the problem is historically people from underrepresented groups weren’t considered for jobs, even if they exceeded the requirements compared to their white male counterparts, and they were paid less for the same work while being discriminated against in different ways. Thats why DEI exists. But the point of my post is this could also happen to white men. You don’t think white men or any other demographic suffering from disabilities might be easily passed on for a job? Or maybe the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/25 01:09 PM |
| – | DEI can help everybody, including white men, and to demonize it is fighting in your own best interest.Well there’s a lot of evidence showing more diverse workplaces leads to better business outcomes and an improved work culture with happier employees which leads to them staying for the long-term. Giving someone a job doesn’t mean you are always taking away from someone else. Even when economic growth is stagnant. Because hiring people can then lead to the creation of more jobs in the future through business success. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/25 01:06 PM |
| 0 | You can’t expect women to take men’s issues seriously, when you point out inequities but never go into the context of itDid you ever stop to think about how you’re interpreting these conversations? Feminists are not saying men having higher suicide rates don’t matter. They absolutely do care about that and men’s mental health. They are just arguing against men saying that it’s only a male problem and disregarding the plight of women, by pointing out that women also struggle with it and attempt it more but men are more successful because they often do it through more violent means. Feminists are not saying murders… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/25 12:49 PM |
| -3 | You can’t expect women to take men’s issues seriously, when you point out inequities but never go into the context of itMy point is how these men bring up facts and statistics that seemingly show how men are at a disadvantage, but then never go into the “why”. Instead, they point their fingers and blame women, and try to show how men are just simply the victim. It’s not a bad thing at all to point out inequities on their own, in fact it’s a good thing because it can then lead to productive questions. Pointing out how women are attaining more education at a higher rate than men is important. But you need to actual… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/25 12:36 PM |
| 1 | You can’t expect women to take men’s issues seriously, when you point out inequities but never go into the context of itThis is so true in my experience as well. Not only in regards to education and learning, but actually speaking with professionals (doctors, psychiatrists, therapists, etc) is not prioritized. Having stable income, working out and being healthy, grooming yourself and etc are all also very important, don’t get me wrong. But that’s not the end all be all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/25 04:17 AM |
| -1 | You can’t expect women to take men’s issues seriously, when you point out inequities but never go into the context of itWell I can tell you why they are quick to cry injustice over any area where men are seemingly at a disadvantage —- it proves to them that they are in fact the victim simply because they are men. I know this because I used to be an idiot troll who subscribed heavily to red pill philosophies (not that I’m not saying all red pill men are idiots, I definitely don’t believe that, I’m just talking about myself specifically). Any chance I had to get a “gotcha” moment or provide a straw-man argument to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/25 04:11 AM |
| 2 | You can’t expect women to take men’s issues seriously, when you point out inequities but never go into the context of itAgain, this is not a “debate” or a “gotcha” on my end, I’m just wondering why you view women’s issues like abortion rights and men’s issues like mental health differently? Since women shouldn’t be expected to talk about men’s issues but it’s different for men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/25 01:18 AM |
| 1 | You can’t expect women to take men’s issues seriously, when you point out inequities but never go into the context of itDo you believe it’s reasonable for men to discuss women’s issues then, like abortion rights for example? Because I do. I think it’s totally fair for you to think the way that you do though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/25 01:12 AM |
| -1 | You can’t expect women to take men’s issues seriously, when you point out inequities but never go into the context of itWell I would consider myself a feminist so that is my world view. Is there another way you would recommend I voice my concerns on this topic? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/25 12:39 AM |
| 1 | You can’t expect women to take men’s issues seriously, when you point out inequities but never go into the context of itDo you think it’s reasonable to ask women, especially perhaps prominent women celebrities with huge followings, to post about men’s issues, like mental health or loneliness, when relevant, and bring attention to it? I’m not saying women need to focus so much attention on it or cradle men on that topic, but maybe at certain points in time. I’m genuinely asking you, I don’t know if that’s a reasonable expectation or not based off of your question. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/25 12:38 AM |
| 2 | You can’t expect women to take men’s issues seriously, when you point out inequities but never go into the context of itIt’s become increasingly more difficult in the digital age it seems. But the problem can also be the solution. Men can form online communities, support groups, and etc to tackle male loneliness, which does NOT involve dismissing women’s problems or talking down on them, which can then lead to in person events and meet ups, and from there, true friendships and relationships. Thats my thought anyways. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/25 12:33 AM |
| 1 | You can’t expect women to take men’s issues seriously, when you point out inequities but never go into the context of itI wasn’t aware of the other sub but thanks for pointing it out. I want to respond to your point about workplace incidents. I am most definitely not trying to victim blame and I apologize if I came across that way. The amount of men who die or suffer severe injuries in the workplace is horrible and needs to be dealt with. My point is that the answer is not to ignore all context and point the fingers at women and blame them for it. Also, the context helps provide an answer as to why there is an im… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/25 12:27 AM |
| -6 | You can’t expect women to take men’s issues seriously, when you point out inequities but never go into the context of itThat’s not my intention. I care about men and men’s issues greatly because… I’m a man myself who struggles with them. But when men bring up the issues I mention and their response is to ignore all context and simply point fingers and blame women, it hurts everyone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/25 12:24 AM |
| -2 | You can’t expect women to take men’s issues seriously, when you point out inequities but never go into the context of itWho is implementing these female-favoring affirmative action programs? Can you give me examples? Is it women in leadership positions who have the goal of replacing men with women in schools? Do you really think that’s what’s happening? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/25 12:23 AM |
| 1 | You can’t expect women to take men’s issues seriously, when you point out inequities but never go into the context of itYou’re right, women do take them seriously, but sometimes it may come across as women not really caring about them. But that’s not women’s fault, from my perspective. It’s because like I tried stating in my post, men don’t look at the context of these issues, they just want to blame women entirely. And yeah, when men only bring up these issues in a reactionary way, it comes across as them not caring much either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 11:35 PM |
| 0 | You can’t expect women to take men’s issues seriously, when you point out inequities but never go into the context of itMen certainly can and do. There’s just more women doing sex work because, well, maybe they have less options compared to men… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 11:20 PM |
| 1 | You can’t expect women to take men’s issues seriously, when you point out inequities but never go into the context of itI don’t know if there’s an agreed upon classification of this but I can tell you from my perspective! Men being sucked into online groups and forums because they don’t have the opportunity to meet and connect with people in real life anymore (or at least they feel they don’t). Since they’re just talking to strangers and anonymous people and can’t form friendships and relationships, it leads to strong feelings of loneliness. Thats why I feel like we’ve seen the rise of people like Andrew Tate. Me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 11:15 PM |
| -2 | You can’t expect women to take men’s issues seriously, when you point out inequities but never go into the context of itThose are questions though. And it’s not always a bad thing. But it’s good to be careful. Like for the question you had about Jews specifically, it would be wrong to ask that in an anti semitic or bigoted way. But being curious about the success of Jewish people ties into their culture and how they stress the importance of education and work ethic, which is something we can learn from, among other things such as, funnily enough, gender equality. Women being overrepresented in jobs like HR, teach… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 11:12 PM |
| 5 | You can’t expect women to take men’s issues seriously, when you point out inequities but never go into the context of itI want to address the last part of your comment —- isn’t that exactly how we should be responding to men’s issues? Taking the time to discuss them in detail, considering the nuances and different factors at play, as opposed to indirectly or directly just blaming women and feminists? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 11:04 PM |
| 0 | You can’t expect women to take men’s issues seriously, when you point out inequities but never go into the context of itDo you think feminists should as they are promoting for equal rights between both genders and sometimes the issues men and women face can overlap? I’m not trying to debate you with this comment, I’m genuinely trying to get your input. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 11:01 PM |
| 0 | You can’t expect women to take men’s issues seriously, when you point out inequities but never go into the context of itThat’s how you see feminism as a whole? Just women simply manipulating men? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 10:58 PM |
| 1 | You can’t expect women to take men’s issues seriously, when you point out inequities but never go into the context of itOn the topic of CEOs, why do you think men are overrepresented? Why are they offered that type of job more often? Why are they more likely to be in a position to take it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 10:54 PM |
| 0 | You can’t expect women to take men’s issues seriously, when you point out inequities but never go into the context of itDude, you see how in your comment, you blame women entirely for the issues men are facing? Women are “bottlenecking the education system” and trying to create less competition? Did you ever consider there might be more to the story? Also, we literally see prominent women politicians and leaders advocating for universal college and to cancel student loan debt for EVERYONE, not just women. Doesn’t that show women do indeed care about men having access to higher level education? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 10:53 PM |
| 5 | You can’t expect women to take men’s issues seriously, when you point out inequities but never go into the context of itThank you for replying. I’m sorry if you explained this in your comment and I just missed it, but could you go a bit further into the point of “when women have money, men don’t get money”? In my experience it’s the exact opposite. Women having money, means more opportunities for both men and women. Look at the WNBA for example. Women athletes getting money, has allowed both men and women to get money from coaching, management, the corporate side (finance/sales/etc), and more | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 10:45 PM |
| 0 | You can’t expect women to take men’s issues seriously, when you point out inequities but never go into the context of itMan, how can you expect women to have any empathy for us when you do not offer any in your comment? You are blaming women entirely for their shortcomings and not considering once how the way society has been structured, and is currently structured, can put them at a disadvantage. If you’re not willing to acknowledge how women can struggle in anyway simply due to their gender, and how some things are out of their control, why would they bother trying to understand where you come from? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 10:30 PM |
| 4 | You can’t expect women to take men’s issues seriously, when you point out inequities but never go into the context of itThanks for replying. Can you give me an example of men wanting help from women, and women simply dismissing them or providing no empathy? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 10:27 PM |
| 1 | You can’t expect women to take men’s issues seriously, when you point out inequities but never go into the context of itWell thank you for clarifying. Do you think there could be an opportunity though, for feminists or women in general to talk about men’s issues? I don’t mean men being the focus just as much as women are. That would be totally taking away the point of the movement. I just mean like, on occasion, bringing up points such as men’s mental health, celebrating moments like Father’s Day, addressing male loneliness, and etc.. I don’t mean men being cradled, or men getting the attention instead of women, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 10:24 PM |
| 1 | All measures to fight bad men unfortunately end up hurting normal menWhat do you mean by women have the sense to evaluate those apps? I just have to trust that other women won’t believe lies about me or other men? Do you not think it’s worrisome that my photo and personal information can be uploaded to a space where people are free to talk about me in any manner that they please, without my knowing or consent at all?? What if a man in your life ended up on this app because of someone who was trying to get revenge? Would that not concern you? But at the same time,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 02:42 PM |
| 0 | All measures to fight bad men unfortunately end up hurting normal menYou’re completely right in that women have every right to be cautious of men, especially considering the power that men who are absolutely predatory and evil have held. And of course, there are plenty of other men who support them. I’ve had so many male friends who were also fans of Andrew Tate and even when I confronted them about it they still found ways to defend him. But do us “normal” men have a right to be scared? Like, is it not a reasonable fear of mine that someone could just post me on… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 02:34 PM |
| 1 | All measures to fight bad men unfortunately end up hurting normal menEveryone should of course be cautious, man or woman, and be proactive to stay safe in any situation. But to blame the victim is absolutely horrible. Saying it’s the woman’s fault for being or staying with an abusive man is awful, at least from my perspective. Anyway though, regardless, this tea app could absolutely be a great resource for women to not end up with men who may hurt them or do something worse, and to prevent other women from potentially seeing dangerous or otherwise terrible men. B… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 02:23 PM |
| 3 | Women, how would you feel about a guy who told you he is inexperienced and wants to take things slow?Well thank you so much for commenting. Tbh I’m still trying to figure out what taking it slow means! I’ve never been in a relationship, it’s all new to me. But yeah, maybe it is more about building a true connection with someone on an emotional level, and ensuring I can trust this person. I also want to be able to provide that to the person I’m with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/25 03:13 PM |
| 3 | Women, how would you feel about a guy who told you he is inexperienced and wants to take things slow?Thank you so much for sharing this and offering advice. I feel like an important thing I should’ve clarified in my post is, I couldn’t care less about the sexual history of a potential partner. Like if a woman I’m with has slept with 10 guys, 1 guy or 0, it doesn’t matter to me, or if they’ve been having sex for 10 years, 2 years or never. I would just hope a woman would be understanding of my situation and be willing to take it slow. I do totally get that not all women are into that, though per… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/25 01:58 PM |
| 1 | Women, how would you feel about a guy who told you he is inexperienced and wants to take things slow?Thanks so much for sharing. I’m wondering how you even found out about your husband being a virgin? Did you ask him or did he honestly tell you on his own? Did you feel any different about him once you found out? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/25 01:51 PM |
| 1 | Women, how would you feel about a guy who told you he is inexperienced and wants to take things slow?Thanks a lot for commenting. I’m so glad you and your partner found each other. I could definitely see myself doing the same thing that your partner did when it comes to intimate moments, like pulling myself away or retracting a bit. I’m wondering if there’s anything your partner did specifically to work on that? Maybe it just got better as you and him spent more time together? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/25 01:49 PM |
| 11 | Women, how would you feel about a guy who told you he is inexperienced and wants to take things slow?Thank you so much for commenting. I need the reminder that not everything I see online is representative of the greater population. I do have a lot of awesome women in my life. But frankly, I’m too embarrassed to ask them about something like this. And I’m too embarrassed to ask any men too. Maybe because I feel like I should already have something like this figured out at 24. It’s easier to ask a bunch of strangers online who don’t know who I am and I won’t feel their judgement as deeply. But p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/25 03:09 AM |
| – | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵I understand. I just meant the whole archetype of the tall, strong, dominant man. Like a Jason Momoa type. It seems that is what so many women are still attracted to. It just confuses me that desire has not changed when so many other things have. Women know they don’t have to live to just be the caretaker (not that theres anything wrong with being a stay at home mom, just saying women now know that isn’t the only option for them). And women aren’t afraid to get muscle and show it off, and they a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/25 02:22 AM |
| – | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵I won’t lie, I do get confused about women still having a strong preference for taller, bigger men in this day and age. Like, there’s so much incredible female empowerment going on, at least from my perspective. Being in the US, I see all these major artists like Beyonce, Megan thee Stallion, and more just being absolutely praised and adored by many women. And I’m starting to see more woman athletes being promoted in the media like Ilona Maher, Caitlin Clark and etc. And I think all of this is g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/25 01:56 AM |
| – | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵Obviously, there are a ton of posts in here that ask really unfair questions about women, make a ton of ridiculous assumptions about women, and paint them in a horrible light. So I gotta say, I really, really appreciate all of the women in here who still make an effort to show sympathy and care towards men and their struggles. I don’t think anyone would blame you for not doing that, I certainly wouldn’t expect it, considering how mentally taxing that must be, but it really does mean something. A… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/25 03:16 AM |
| 1 | If feminist pages and women in general talked more about different issues that men face, that would help get men out of the red pill / alt right / anti SJW rabbit holeI don’t think that’s fair because there are actual issues affecting men more specifically, like higher suicide rates. I’m not saying that’s because of women or any marginalized group, I’m just saying they exist. What kind of issue does a white person face that black people don’t on a higher scale? Also I would absolutely consider myself an ally and a feminist (and supporter of Black Lives Matter). I’m not saying you need to talk about white men to get my buy in, I will always advocate where I ca… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/24 08:55 PM |
| 1 | If feminist pages and women in general talked more about different issues that men face, that would help get men out of the red pill / alt right / anti SJW rabbit holeWell I think what you’re saying is very valuable and holds a lot of weight. But if it means anything, as a man myself, I don’t align with that mindset at all now. I loved the Barbie movie that came out last year and it was great when I saw Margot Robbie and Greta Gerwig discuss the film and also talk about feminism. They mentioned how feminism includes men and it’s all about equality. On another note, I was already anti Trump obviously, but I became really motivated to vote for Kamala when she t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/24 06:44 PM |
| 1 | If feminist pages and women in general talked more about different issues that men face, that would help get men out of the red pill / alt right / anti SJW rabbit holeYou’re right. But like I tried saying before, feminist pages and content still reached me, even when I was sucked into redpill nonsense, because of their huge reach and the millions and millions of followers they have. So, if those communities were willing to acknowledge men issues at certain points (not by giving men all the attention, not by cradling them, etc) I think that would lead to some change. Not all men would be onboard. It wouldn’t erase sexism overnight. But I do believe it could he… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/24 06:24 PM |
| 2 | If feminist pages and women in general talked more about different issues that men face, that would help get men out of the red pill / alt right / anti SJW rabbit holeIf it means anything I don’t agree with the person you replied to. I don’t think they’re a bad person or anything, but I do believe that people from different groups working together can lead to significant change. You have no obligation as a woman to help men and I would not fault you at all for seeing it as a waste of time and for being offended by it considering all that women go through, because of men. Though I do believe that women acknowledging the issues that men face (NOT by giving them… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/24 06:21 PM |
| 2 | If feminist pages and women in general talked more about different issues that men face, that would help get men out of the red pill / alt right / anti SJW rabbit holeI agree with you. Like I stated in my post, I believe men need to do a better job at speaking up on men’s and women’s issues, and as you said, advocate for themselves. I just also think that feminist pages and communities with huge platforms could offer some acknowledgement of men’s issues. If they showed that level of understanding, they might not get everyone onboard, but it may help a lot of men not get sucked into redpill / anti feminist nonsense. Women are unfortunately torn down when they … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/24 06:15 PM |
| 1 | If feminist pages and women in general talked more about different issues that men face, that would help get men out of the red pill / alt right / anti SJW rabbit holeThank you so much for sharing your insight here, I really appreciate it. This helps me get a better understanding of where people are coming from on this topic and I totally see why you feel the way that you do. If I can offer any perspective to you, do you think it’s possible for women to not cater so much to men’s issues, but to simply acknowledge it at certain points, and encourage men to feel welcomed? Like I don’t want feminists or women to feel like they have to constantly talk about those… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/24 06:11 PM |
| 1 | If feminist pages and women in general talked more about different issues that men face, that would help get men out of the red pill / alt right / anti SJW rabbit holeI apologize, that’s not what I meant. Womens rights should absolutely be the focus. Women are the ones being discriminated against on a large scale because of their gender, not men. And feminists and women celebrities speaking up on that is so impactful and should be promoted. I just think it could help if men’s issues were acknowledged. They don’t need to be the center of attention by any stretch of the imagination. They shouldn’t be constantly posted about, and they shouldn’t be cradled. I jus… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/24 06:07 PM |
| 3 | If feminist pages and women in general talked more about different issues that men face, that would help get men out of the red pill / alt right / anti SJW rabbit holeWell I apologize then because frankly I’ve tried following a lot of feminist spaces on Reddit and on different social media platforms and I haven’t seen much attention dedicated to men’s issues. I completely understand why and I’m not saying feminists did anything wrong I just think it could be useful to do going forward. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/24 05:14 PM |
| 1 | If feminist pages and women in general talked more about different issues that men face, that would help get men out of the red pill / alt right / anti SJW rabbit holeWell being blunt about myself, I was an idiot. I didn’t actually question anything I was watching online, I was being fed this propaganda and I ate it up without using any critical thought. You’re completely right in highlighting how stupid that was, because if I took a second to see what I was actually experiencing in my life, I wouldn’t have been duped like that. But that’s just why I think it’s important to have other sources that talk more about mens issues. It felt like that was the only so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/24 05:12 PM |
| 1 | If feminist pages and women in general talked more about different issues that men face, that would help get men out of the red pill / alt right / anti SJW rabbit holeOf course not, it was all complete bogus. But thinking reasonably (and with compassion) did not occur in my insecure and depressed teenage mind. I was very impressionable and fell into the hateful redpill ideology, because it felt like no one else was recognizing my struggle. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/24 04:49 PM |
| 1 | If feminist pages and women in general talked more about different issues that men face, that would help get men out of the red pill / alt right / anti SJW rabbit holeWell I don’t mean to be rude but you’re making a ton of assumptions. I won’t claim to speak for all men but I’m a 24 year old white guy myself. I definitely deal with mental illness and it can be hard seeing a light at the end of this tunnel sometimes. But that doesn’t mean I want to make anyone else’s life worse, in fact I want to help others where I can and show to others that they matter so they don’t have to feel the way I do. Thats what made me feel so motivated to vote for Kamala actually.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/24 04:47 PM |
| 2 | If feminist pages and women in general talked more about different issues that men face, that would help get men out of the red pill / alt right / anti SJW rabbit holeI apologize, I may have not explained my thoughts in my post as well. I DONT think women should center on men in their discussions. I DONT think men need all this attention and have to be cradled. And I DO think men should also do a better job at talking about men’s issues and women’s issues. I’m referring to feminist pages and women celebrities who have huge fanbases and use that to fight for women, which is amazing and noble. Their impact is huge and helps so many women. Women are the ones bei… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/24 04:38 PM |
| 2 | If feminist pages and women in general talked more about different issues that men face, that would help get men out of the red pill / alt right / anti SJW rabbit holeBecause instead of talking about genuine issues affecting men like suicide or prostrate cancer, they instead talked about how women and marginalized groups are attacking men, specifically white men, and that’s why I felt horrible about myself and why my life sucked. They were still recognizing the fact that I was dealing with something but going about it in a way that negatively impacted others. They could’ve validated my feelings while not blaming anybody and actually talking about things like … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/24 04:33 PM |
| 4 | If feminist pages and women in general talked more about different issues that men face, that would help get men out of the red pill / alt right / anti SJW rabbit holeI apologize, I am not trying in anyway to say that women should serve men. Perhaps I didn’t do a good job at explaining my thoughts in my post. As you said, women have faced sexism and discrimination throughout history, and that unfortunately bleeds over into today’s world. We should be focusing on ways to fight against that and dismantle the patriarchal power structures in place. I’m just wondering if there’s a way to do that while just simply acknowledging and supporting the men who are strugg… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/24 11:54 AM |
| 1 | If feminist pages and women in general talked more about different issues that men face, that would help get men out of the red pill / alt right / anti SJW rabbit holeI apologize, I was not trying to convey that message at all. Just wondering if it’s possible for there to be some middle ground. The discrimination and misogyny that women face is so much more than the issues men deal with. Their fight should absolutely be the focus. I’m just wondering if it’s possible to show men that you don’t need to turn to hateful groups to receive support, you can be acknowledged and cared for elsewhere. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/24 11:52 AM |
| 1 | If feminist pages and women in general talked more about different issues that men face, that would help get men out of the red pill / alt right / anti SJW rabbit holeWell we all look for validation right? Like when I see popular male celebrities or people with big platforms talk about abortion rights, I also see comments from women talking about how they appreciate the fact that they’re being acknowledged and supported. Or when those men call out others for bullying women because of their size or looks, it helps others feel seen and heard. I think young men are in some ways looking for that too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/24 11:48 AM |
| 5 | If feminist pages and women in general talked more about different issues that men face, that would help get men out of the red pill / alt right / anti SJW rabbit holeThat would be amazing. That’s why I tried pointing out in my post that, men need to do a better job at advocating for women’s and men’s rights too. I was just saying in regards specifically to these feminist pages, they have millions and millions of followers with a huge impact globally. And they already use that to support women and their fight, which is incredible. I’m just suggesting that maybe giving some attention to men could help. Not most, or even close to all attention, just enough to w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/24 11:45 AM |
| 2 | If feminist pages and women in general talked more about different issues that men face, that would help get men out of the red pill / alt right / anti SJW rabbit holeThank you for commenting. I completely understand your frustration here but I hope I can give you some perspective. I am not absolving myself of blame, I hated who I was back then and deeply regret the things I said and did. But I will say, I wasn’t recommended content on mental illness and effective ways to deal with it. I was however being recommended content on anti - feminist and anti - sjw stuff that had a big impact on me. I had a “clean slate” and easily fell into that rabbit hole, which … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/24 11:40 AM |
| 1 | If feminist pages and women in general talked more about different issues that men face, that would help get men out of the red pill / alt right / anti SJW rabbit holeThanks so much for commenting and I identify a lot with what you said. If I can offer a rebuttal; don’t you think it’s a little bit different for “black lives matter” to discuss issues that white peoples face? I say that because, there are no large scale issues that white people face specifically because they are white. They are not being rejected for jobs or from schools in mass because they are white, they are not being targeted and killed because they are white, they are not being thrown in j… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/24 04:09 AM |
| 0 | If feminist pages and women in general talked more about different issues that men face, that would help get men out of the red pill / alt right / anti SJW rabbit holeThanks so much for commenting, I think you make a lot of great points. If it means anything, I tried stressing in my post that, women of course have much more to fight against and their issues should definitely be more focused on. I was just thinking, maybe there could be some middle ground? You don’t have to post or talk about men’s issues all the time, but maybe enough to where they feel cared about? Such as, encourage women on “international men’s day” and “Father’s Day” to show appreciation … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/24 04:01 AM |
| 3 | If feminist pages and women in general talked more about different issues that men face, that would help get men out of the red pill / alt right / anti SJW rabbit holeThank you so much for sharing that subreddit, I was unaware of it. I really like how they highlight that the issues men face can come from existing power structures and systems in place, not from women or marginalized groups. Ultimately, men aren’t facing wide spread discrimination because of their gender. But that doesn’t mean just because you’re a man, that you’re not struggling or going through a difficult situation. I think it’s important to recognize that, and it seems Menslib does a good j… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/24 03:54 AM |
| 3 | If feminist pages and women in general talked more about different issues that men face, that would help get men out of the red pill / alt right / anti SJW rabbit holeThank you for commenting. Do you mind sharing what opinions they have that you believe I don’t agree with? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/24 03:43 AM |
| 3 | If feminist pages and women in general talked more about different issues that men face, that would help get men out of the red pill / alt right / anti SJW rabbit holeOf course, and thank you so much for commenting and sharing your experiences. I must say, your compassion and understanding is incredible. As someone who (unfortunately) participated in those communities and knows first hand just how toxic and disgusting they can be, I would not blame any woman for staying far away from them, and for even hating the men who contribute to them. I certainly hate that version of myself who use to say such mean and nasty things. But having women who are willing to a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/24 03:42 AM |
| 2 | If feminist pages and women in general talked more about different issues that men face, that would help get men out of the red pill / alt right / anti SJW rabbit holeI apologize, I tried stressing in my post that I don’t think men should get all the attention, but maybe I didn’t do a good enough job of that. Women and women’s rights should absolutely be the focus. Men’s issues are in no way comparable to the system discrimination and misogyny that women deal with on a day to day basis, especially following the recent election in the US. But there could be some middle ground here, right? Like feminists and women don’t need to give attention to men’s issues ev… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/24 03:31 AM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS AND LOADED/LEADING🐕🦺 QUESTIONS⁉️ GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADOk, I don’t really feel you directly addressed my original question, but let me ask you another one. How would you respond to someone telling you they got slapped by their partner because of an argument? This could be man or woman. A friend or family members of yours. Someone you’re close to basically. How would you respond to the situation? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/24 03:57 AM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS AND LOADED/LEADING🐕🦺 QUESTIONS⁉️ GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADOf course I care when it’s a woman hitting a man. I’m asking you specifically about how you would feel if your father hit your mom, because that’s what the person in the video was saying, and what my comment was about in the first place. Why aren’t you answering that question? Why are you trying to change the topic of discussion? And I made that claim based off of all the studies and research I have seen in the past, whether that be from my own curiosity or from my schooling. But I’m not a profe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/24 03:17 AM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS AND LOADED/LEADING🐕🦺 QUESTIONS⁉️ GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADOk, sure. I agree somewhat with your sentiment about comments. But how can the passage of those laws happen when power is heavily in favor of men? Men have more money and capital, more political positions, more leadership positions, etc etc And I’m happy to call out people as individuals. I literally did in my original comment. However, the group I’m referring to in this scenario are the people supporting / joking about the “women deserve to be slapped” statement. I can’t call out every single c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/24 03:13 AM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS AND LOADED/LEADING🐕🦺 QUESTIONS⁉️ GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADI understand what you’re saying, but is there any power to my comments? Like you say I’m being a very bad person to these innocent victims —- what consequences will they face? Am I calling for them to be put in jail? Am I calling for them to be burned at the stake? Am I saying they should lose their jobs and be outcast by their families, friends, etc? Of course not! I’m just trying to make a point that too many men hold beliefs that seriously negatively affect women and we need to call that shit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/24 02:52 AM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS AND LOADED/LEADING🐕🦺 QUESTIONS⁉️ GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADI’ll be sure to look into that link you sent, I’m not too familiar with the topic. But on another note, my man, do you really mean it when you say “it’s not a big deal”? You gonna say it’s “not a big deal” if your father slaps your mom or sister in the face? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/24 02:44 AM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS AND LOADED/LEADING🐕🦺 QUESTIONS⁉️ GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADI agree with you, I’m just saying I can get why women hate men when too many men make statements like the one in that video I shared, or try to justify it / joke about it. I don’t hate men or think all men are bad. I’m a man myself and I want to do what I can to be a good person to the different people in my life, whether they be men or women, and help encourage others to do the same. I hope we can get to a point where women don’t feel the need to hate all men. Maybe we can do that by calling ou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/24 02:42 AM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS AND LOADED/LEADING🐕🦺 QUESTIONS⁉️ GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADIs it fair to say that, even though the video itself is old, the likes / positive comments are pretty recent, and that while slapping someone because of an argument is never ok, women do it on a rate far less compared to men? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/24 02:29 AM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS AND LOADED/LEADING🐕🦺 QUESTIONS⁉️ GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADThanks so much for commenting. I have to say I agree with you. Not sure if you have any perspective to share in this regard based on the men in your life, but I just want to say, I don’t know why men can be so resistant to admitting that they’re wrong or genuinely confronting their own beliefs. Like for example, I have a bunch of male friends who I think can actually be great guys, but they’ve unfortunately subscribed to assholes like Andrew Tate who say and do the most hateful shit. And when I … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/24 02:14 AM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS AND LOADED/LEADING🐕🦺 QUESTIONS⁉️ GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADI can come across certain radical feminism or “femcel” beliefs, and of course, as a man myself, I might think that they’re not really being fair towards us men, or they’re unfairly generalizing. Then I come across a video / tweet / social media post / etc that makes me reconsider all of that. For example, I stumbled upon this video: https://youtu.be/_YDqm7LXt2g?si=xJ-yE4jm0jIesMk- I don’t know if I’m missing some sort of context but the dude is literally validating his statement that women can d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/24 01:39 AM |
| – | THIS WILL ALWAYS♾️ BE🐝: POSTS📮 WITH AFFIRMATIVE✅ CLAIMS AND LOADED/LEADING🐕🦺 QUESTIONS⁉️ GET MARKED WITH "DEBATE"🗣️ POST FLAIR DAILY🌞 MEGATHREADI know I’m a huge asshole for this, but I gotta be honest, I roll my eyes everytime I come across someone new on LinkedIn and it’s the same old script about how that person “advocates for women” or “champions for women” in the workplace. I get it - I’m not trying to deny that women have faced centuries of unjust systemic sexism and have had to overcome many barriers when trying to carve out a professional career, that men like myself haven’t had to deal with. I know it’s important to recognize t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/24 02:26 AM |
| – | Assuming somehow, someway, your concerns are alleviated, do you have anything against an AI/Robot girlfriend?Thanks so much for the comment. Honestly, it feels like I already will never get a true relationship in the future, because of the things I mentioned in my post (short, fat, awkward, etc). Maybe an AI girlfriend is pathetic, maybe it isn’t real and has no value, but the way I thought about it is that, if it makes me feel even slightly less alone, then it’d be worth it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/24 01:41 PM |
| – | "you are not entitled to sex. It is not a necessity" is a bad argumentI think you make a lot of really strong points. I do have a question though - if there are women willing to do it and are not being forced or coerced, what’s wrong with men simply using sex workers to fulfill their sexual “needs” if they can’t otherwise obtain it? Like I agree masturbation is an option, and you should surround yourself with a good community of family and friends, but if you feel that you “need” something more, I don’t understand why sex workers can’t be leaned on for support. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/24 10:31 PM |
| 1 | Assuming somehow, someway, your concerns are alleviated, do you have anything against an AI/Robot girlfriend?Got it, thank you…. It seems like this is something you’ve thought about and dealt with personally… how did you become comfortable by yourself? Anything more than therapy? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/24 03:44 AM |
| 1 | Assuming somehow, someway, your concerns are alleviated, do you have anything against an AI/Robot girlfriend?Again I’m really grateful you took the time to write all of that… I’m so uncomfortable with having this conversation with another person in real life, even my therapist, so I get wrapped up in my own thoughts on the subject and didn’t consider other viewpoints until I read through your replies…. You don’t have to bother responding again I’m just curious about your point regarding needing to be secure alone. Do you think it’s important to have that before you even try looking for a relationship? … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/24 03:15 AM |
| 2 | How do women respect each other?This is interesting. I would consider myself a more passive man. I tend to avoid conflict at all costs and be welcoming/understanding towards others. I think that benefits me in some ways but more often that not causes a lot of negative consequences. So I wouldn’t ever advocate for people to be that way. I would encourage anyone to stick up for themselves, especially women considering all the bs they put up with in their day to day lives. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/24 04:59 AM |
| 1 | Assuming somehow, someway, your concerns are alleviated, do you have anything against an AI/Robot girlfriend?I agree with you but I don’t feel like they’re honest with me. Like of course if I ask a woman in my family, or a woman that I’m friends with, if height matters, they’re not going to want to hurt my feelings, so they’ll say no. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/24 08:41 PM |
| 2 | Assuming somehow, someway, your concerns are alleviated, do you have anything against an AI/Robot girlfriend?Well I appreciate you saying that then. Maybe I just get a twisted view because I feel like you see online all the time about how a woman wants a guy 6 feet or taller. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/24 08:24 PM |
| 2 | Assuming somehow, someway, your concerns are alleviated, do you have anything against an AI/Robot girlfriend?I’m not saying reject I mean is you can choose between a 5’7 guy and a 6’0 guy who do you think they’d choose. From my perspective it’d be the 6’0 guy. And I completely understand that, not faulting women at all for it by the way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/24 08:16 PM |
| 1 | Assuming somehow, someway, your concerns are alleviated, do you have anything against an AI/Robot girlfriend?I guess, but if you are not attracted to either I wouldn’t really see the point | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/24 08:13 PM |
| 1 | Assuming somehow, someway, your concerns are alleviated, do you have anything against an AI/Robot girlfriend?Isn’t that all dating is anyways though. Finding someone who meets your preferences. I can continue trying to meet people but for some people it just doesn’t work. I’m probably one of them. Which is my own fault. But it is what it is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/24 07:47 PM |
| 1 | Assuming somehow, someway, your concerns are alleviated, do you have anything against an AI/Robot girlfriend?Obviously a real girlfriend would be preferable. I talk about in my post how I tried getting that. But it didn’t work out for me. So it’s not so much a substitute but an alternative. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/24 07:46 PM |
| 1 | Assuming somehow, someway, your concerns are alleviated, do you have anything against an AI/Robot girlfriend?I understand you having an aversion towards it but I don’t get why you want to make men who desire an ai girlfriend feel worse about themselves by calling them pathetic and sad. Of course we’d prefer a real girlfriend. I tried that. And it hasn’t worked. And I’ve tried changing myself. I failed. I don’t blame women at all for that, it’s completely on me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/24 07:44 PM |
| 2 | Assuming somehow, someway, your concerns are alleviated, do you have anything against an AI/Robot girlfriend?Of course, thanks for sharing. Can I ask, do you think Hispanic and Asian women would still prefer a taller guy, even if they’d settle for a shorter one at 5’7? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/24 07:41 PM |
| 2 | Assuming somehow, someway, your concerns are alleviated, do you have anything against an AI/Robot girlfriend?I really appreciate you taking the time to write all of that. That made me understand a lot better where you’re coming from and some of the issues with my way of thinking. That was very helpful. If you were open I had another question for you. Do you think it’s better to be “alone” or have an AI girlfriend? Like do you think it’s more damaging to have an AI girlfriend as opposed to nothing at all? I know you said it can be numbing, but even that seems preferable to the pain you feel by not havin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/24 06:22 PM |
| 2 | Assuming somehow, someway, your concerns are alleviated, do you have anything against an AI/Robot girlfriend?I’m sorry I don’t know if I fully understand your question. I interact with many different women everyday as a part of my job and personal life, and I treat them exactly as I would a man. Kindness and respect. I don’t expect them to provide anything to me ever. To your other point, I think having an ai girlfriend is better than having no one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/24 05:30 PM |
| 2 | Assuming somehow, someway, your concerns are alleviated, do you have anything against an AI/Robot girlfriend?I can but I also don’t see how I’m hurting anybody or affecting anyone else by having one | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/24 05:26 PM |
| 2 | Assuming somehow, someway, your concerns are alleviated, do you have anything against an AI/Robot girlfriend?Considering 99.9% of women I interact with regularly don’t provide any of those things to me, and I would never for a second expect them to, I have to say I disagree strongly with your assertion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/24 03:01 PM |
| 2 | Assuming somehow, someway, your concerns are alleviated, do you have anything against an AI/Robot girlfriend?I’ve tried, and failed to find a real human girlfriend. I do see my friends and family, but it doesn’t fill that void. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/24 12:50 PM |
| 1 | Assuming somehow, someway, your concerns are alleviated, do you have anything against an AI/Robot girlfriend?I mean sex is a part of any relationship, sure. But what if I felt like I could make a deeper connection with an AI, since I haven’t had much luck attaining that with a girl in real life? Like it wouldn’t just be there for me when I’m horny. I don’t really understand what you mean by power or control either. I would want a developed AI that is capable of telling me they’re uncomfortable with something or that they don’t like something. I’m not saying that what you’re suggesting couldn’t be the c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/24 12:26 PM |
| 2 | Assuming somehow, someway, your concerns are alleviated, do you have anything against an AI/Robot girlfriend?Can I ask what you think is pathetic about it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/24 11:13 AM |
| 1 | Assuming somehow, someway, your concerns are alleviated, do you have anything against an AI/Robot girlfriend?That concern could translate to anything though right? Like let’s say I got a real girlfriend and we really fall for each other at first. Eventually they could get tired of me, or vice versa, and the novelty wears off. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/24 11:11 AM |
| 2 | Assuming somehow, someway, your concerns are alleviated, do you have anything against an AI/Robot girlfriend?Can you please tell me more about how you think I view women? Because I specifically described in my post all of the different relationships I have with women in my life. I’m not perfect but I think I do the best I can at treating all of them with kindness and respect, as I would anyone else regardless of gender. And I’ve never gotten the impression from them that I view them in any sort of negative light. I apologize, I don’t mean to come off as rude, I just genuinely want to know your thoughts… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/24 11:10 AM |
| 2 | Assuming somehow, someway, your concerns are alleviated, do you have anything against an AI/Robot girlfriend?Thanks a lot for continuing to reply. I think you made a lot of great points and your comment about dreams was particularly meaningful to me. This is just me complaining with no valid excuse, but honestly I don’t think I’ll ever succeed with fixing myself. Losing weight, being more sociable, etc etc, I’ve tried changing and I’ve failed every time. That’s no one else’s fault but my own of course and I know it doesn’t make me a desirable potential partner at all. I also know I shouldn’t be so conc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/24 02:42 AM |
| 2 | Assuming somehow, someway, your concerns are alleviated, do you have anything against an AI/Robot girlfriend?I really appreciate you continuing to discuss. I’ll just say as a blanket statement I don’t think it’s a weak mindset to not want to change since people may be dealing with debilitating mental illnesses. But I completely agree for myself it is a weak mindset since I do not have a good excuse. I don’t know if this is a healthy way to think but, knowing that in the future an ai girlfriend could exist, gives me some semblance of hope. Since I really don’t feel like I’ll ever find something else tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/24 01:19 AM |
| 3 | Assuming somehow, someway, your concerns are alleviated, do you have anything against an AI/Robot girlfriend?Would you at least agree, we’re much closer to that reality now of making a well developed AI partner than ever before? Even if that reality isn’t in the immediate future? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/24 01:02 AM |
| 3 | Assuming somehow, someway, your concerns are alleviated, do you have anything against an AI/Robot girlfriend?Honestly? I apologize if this comes off as whining, but wearing higher shoes would make me feel worse. Like the way I look at that is, it’s not enough to be my height, I have to make myself look taller just to attract others. And I wouldn’t be surprised if I somehow was lucky enough to get a real girlfriend, they wouldn’t want to wear heels because they’d be embarrassed, and they’d lower themselves down in photos. At least an AI girlfriend, theoretically, wouldn’t care about that. Again, I’m not… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/24 01:00 AM |
| 3 | Assuming somehow, someway, your concerns are alleviated, do you have anything against an AI/Robot girlfriend?Maybe, but let’s say they become a thing in the next 10-20 years. I’ll be in my 30’s/40’s by that time. These days, there’s a lot of people in that age range who are either still dating, or are now just getting married anyways. So I don’t agree with you when you say it’s a cop out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/24 12:51 AM |
| 4 | Assuming somehow, someway, your concerns are alleviated, do you have anything against an AI/Robot girlfriend?I think you make a lot of great points, however I disagree with your argument that 98%-99% of the population will never encounter this. It’s talked about all the time how lonely men are. I feel like I see a post every other day about it. You don’t think any of them would be interested in an AI girlfriend? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/24 12:46 AM |
| 3 | Assuming somehow, someway, your concerns are alleviated, do you have anything against an AI/Robot girlfriend?Thank you for sharing, I don’t know if this is a good response, feel free to object, but the way I see it, emotionally investing in anything can get you hurt. Whether that be a human or not. But you know, as they say, “it’s better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all”…. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/24 12:43 AM |
| 6 | Assuming somehow, someway, your concerns are alleviated, do you have anything against an AI/Robot girlfriend?Thank you for sharing. From what I’ve seen online in these sorts of discussions, at least from my perspective, it doesn’t seem like women are worried that men they want will choose an AI girlfriend over them, rather they believe men will become desensitized since they could treat the AI girlfriend however they wanted, and that violence could carry over into real life. But the way I see it, I think an AI girlfriend could do exactly as you described, provide men like me with some happiness and com… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/24 12:26 AM |
| 7 | Assuming somehow, someway, your concerns are alleviated, do you have anything against an AI/Robot girlfriend?Thanks so much for commenting. I agree with you, but you gotta keep in mind, some things can’t really be fixed. Like for example, I’m 5’6-5’7. I would never lie about my height either. That automatically rules me out for a lot of women. And I completely understand why, I know a lot of women prefer taller guys and there’s nothing wrong with that. But that’s why it’d be helpful if an AI girlfriend was available. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/24 12:15 AM |
| 3 | Dating is easier for women and it's men's faultI see what you’re saying but from my perspective it seems hard for both men and women. Like I see women vent frustrations about being single all the time already. Communities like “forever alone women” exist. It just seems like women aren’t always taken as seriously as men when they talk about those things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/24 08:52 PM |
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