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Well you are the one who says "Unfortunately, those really are the only 2 options. With how the discourse is going. So...which one? And why do you leave us those only 2 options?" You tell us we have only 2 options and then ask us why we leave you only those options. I'd argue that those of us who wander into the desert are at risk from other predators. It's not just crocodiles to beware of. Also the desert and the swamp are extremes (do you think all women are feminazi sluts? - nice). The ecoton…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 11:05 PM
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Well how many times do you think women do this in real life? What % of women do it? Because I don't know any. Also "women typically insist that it has nothing to do with body shaming because "we're just talking about personality" but seem to fail to see how attributing the worst personality traits with men who have small dicks while also atteibuting the best personality traits to men who are well endowed." No women don't attribute the worst faults to men with small dicks. Women use the terms in …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 12:30 PM
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Ha, well my husband and all his mates used it to refer to men who were arrogant and conceited. And no it was NOT a compliment.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 06:18 AM
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AS I said, I don't and neither do the women I know in real life. I'm not denying it may happen very rarely, just that it's not common.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 06:13 AM
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I wouldn't say 'no women have ever done this' but certainly its not common in real world. It might be on-line.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 01:17 AM
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I don't talk about penises and I doubt most women do in day-to-day life. Maybe they do on-line. Also big dick energy and small dick energy don't mean best personality and worst personality traits. Big dick means arrogant, small dick mean insecure.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 01:15 AM
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Basically I'm agreeing with you. Same tactic women are using. Don't get too attached or too invested. Know what you want and what you can tolerate and walk away at the first sign of a mismatch. Saves you the effort and will make it easier for the women too.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 12:21 PM
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Women are now using the Burnt Haystack Dating Method because there are so many poor quality men on line, trying to get with them. If you can burn a man out of consideration early, it saves time and effort. Maybe something similar is happening in real life too?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 09:52 PM
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Generally men have someone lined up before they leave whereas women are more likely to leave and then look for another man. This is esp true if she has children to think about.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 08:08 AM
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A lot of women claim to hate being cold approached for the same reason, since they know they're approached for their looks. If some guy cold approaches you for a date (say you are both at the bakery section of the supermarket and he turns and asks you to go out with him), you've got to think 1 of 2 things. Either he's attracted to your body, or he's basically so desperate for ANY warm body that you being able to fog a mirror is what he is attracted to. Either way, he sees you as a sexual object.…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 11:18 PM
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Fair call!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 06:08 AM
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No, what are you going to give HER by way of reciprocation? Elevated commitment to your relationship with her? You've confirmed your relationship to the kid but in the process cast doubt on her relationship to you. (Personally I think paternity test should be compulsory part of the standard panel at birth, so the correct sire can be ID'ed and the registry be reliable).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 10:24 PM
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A paternity test proves who the child's father is. It proves NOTHING re the woman's sexual history either side of conception. A paternity test matters re finances going fwd next 18 years. So what is he worried about? That their relationship is good and she is honest? Or that he's going to be on the hook for $$ for 18 years? Or do you genuinely believe that if he gets one he doesn’t trust you at some pretty significant level and the relationship is doomed? Not necessarily doomed, but there'd be s…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 09:55 PM
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this must be an american thing - another dysfunction from the states
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 03:39 AM
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Missed the point, didn't you? My niece has also experienced her husband taking her savings and gambling them away three times. Those of us who've experienced financial abuse/Sexually transmitted debt do tend to become "obsessed with financial status", both our own and that of the men we let into our household. If men were less inclined to do this, we'd be less inclined to worry in advance.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 03:39 AM
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Missed the point, didn't you? My niece has also experienced her husband taking her savings and gambling them away three times. Those of us who've experienced financial abuse/Sexually transmitted debt do tend to become "obsessed with financial status", both our own and that of the men we let into our household. If men were less inclined to do this, we'd be less inclined to worry in advance.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 03:39 AM
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Well I was certainly obsessed after my first husband tried to take it all in divorce inc my inheritance. After I had contributed the bulk of the deposit on the house. And I certainly won't be getting involved with anyone who has less in assets than I have now. I'm not going to support a grifter.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 01:47 AM
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Random men are giving you money? For no reason?
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/25 11:37 PM
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"Women openly mock men for their height, financial status, or even manipulate them in relationships," Never seen or even heard of this among my friends or even acquaintances. Maybe it happens but I doubt it happens often.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 11:35 PM
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Drawing a long bow there "Every woman inherently doesn’t like men at some level, the only difference is some are more willing to speak out about it. The vast majority of women walk around with a deep-seated contempt towards men, and are living a lie everytime they act positively towards them." Also in this matter "there is a larger variety of maternal DNA than paternal DNA in humans, meaning far more women reproduced in history than men". Yes. And you know why? Lots of women died in pregnancy or…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 11:14 PM
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Ditto for me wrt a potential husband. If he has a history of hookups and casual sex I would categorically dismiss him from any consideration.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 09:47 AM
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What exactly way she saying/doing "for the entire evening" that constituted disrespect? Was she openly laughing at you all night in front of a group of work contacts?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 09:43 AM
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Just like women aren't an homogenous mass.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 09:35 AM
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and how do we identify an 8 from a 5?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 09:32 AM
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So then don't complain. (what about a slim career woman?)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 09:58 PM
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I am showing that I was tolerant and genuinely committed and it MADE NO DIFFERENCE to the quality of the relationship or the outcome. So no it's not that "women have a very low tolerance for problems in relationships". Also note that I brought more to the marriage than he did and upon divorce he wanted to keep almost all of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 09:57 PM
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Nor am I talking about putting up with crap off women. No one has to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 04:05 AM
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"Child rearing is the wife's responsibility" That'd be enough for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 03:56 AM
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Ah see this is what I see too. Men are wanting mothers of potential children. Not so much a lifetime wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 03:51 AM
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so then don't complain if you divorce and have to support her and the kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 03:44 AM
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Does this happen now? let's say there are no kids and they are both working. They both are making their money. Why does he have to pay her extra when she's making her own money? Just because he has more? That's greed.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 03:43 AM
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My first husband wanted both houses, all his superannuation and a fair chunk of my inheritance. So he wanted my money - not just his but what I'd brought with me and what I'd contributed.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 03:39 AM
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I tried for 11.5 years and was nearly suicidal when I left. Emotional and financial abuse. Later I discovered he was closeted gay. Nothing I could do about that. Should I have not divorced him?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 03:36 AM
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It shouldn't if there are no kids. I'm not saying it should. BUT if a man deliberately chooses a woman with low income/low earning potential on that basis, he should realise what he's setting himself up for. If you don't want to 'lose a lot in divorce' then marry a woman who will contribute about equally during marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 11:00 PM
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So they are not supposed to be choosy then? I don't know the sub you're referring to, but why is 'being willing to have sex without being choosy' a solution to 'being alone forever'?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 06:39 AM
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Why do I want to have sex? I mean, why do I want to have sex with some guy, just because HE wants to? Why wouldn't I be choosy about who I have sex with?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 05:07 AM
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All women get approached. Men chase, Thankfully I do live somewhere that doesn't happen hardly at all. Since my husband died (over 4 years ago) I have 1 bloke turning up occasionally on the pretext of 'making sure you're alright'. "Yes I'm fine" and short of telling him not to come back I don't know what else to do to give him the hint. He was the odd job man when husband was alive and I've already explained I'm retired and have the time now to do the work myself. Last time I stood with my back …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 05:05 AM
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I know of some young women who are/were wife material. Clean living, well mannered, hard working in caring professions, modest etc. I also know of young women who are providing a home and financial support to no-hopers who are sponging off them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 01:27 AM
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That's what I said - he'd have to be a hell of a catch.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 01:23 AM
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We're talking about the Manosphere. ie MRAs, Incels, PUAs and MGTOW MRAs are about the only ones in the manosphere who might have experience of "paternity fraud, dead bedrooms, financial ruin at the hands of wives". Those guys might be "well balanced ,kind,empathetic" or they might not be. The Incels and PUAs definitely are NOT well balanced, kind, or empathetic. Incels are guys living in their mum's basement, who "hate on career women, claiming they are masculine and make bad wives or mothers. …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 01:23 AM
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Not talking about kids and a SAHM. Talking about the difference between a man choosing to marry a low pay/low earning woman vs a woman with a career and earning good money, and THEN turning around and complaining about the 50/50 split. You choose to marry her, you expect the consequences if you divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 01:20 AM
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Become a better PERSON. Well balanced, kind, empathetic. Better manners, treat others as equals, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 02:06 AM
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He'd have to be a hell of a catch. You want me to work full time AND do all the household stuff AND raise the kids AND be wildly enthusiastic about having sex three times a day AND all without any sort of commitment? What did your last slave die of?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 12:44 AM
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So either way, he is setting himself up for her to walk away.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 12:40 AM
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The OP is assuming all women begin a monogamous relationship and then switch to a dead bedroom. "The moment a man a man agrees to fidelity the chase is off for women. She no longer needs to worry about competition. ... This eventually leads to dead bedrooms." "keeps your female partner in the competition loop. She never knows for certain that you aren't banging someone else."
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 12:39 AM
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Then she has to assume he's answering honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 12:33 AM
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Real work to improve their chances with women who might want to be with them, not have to be financially dependent on them (ie make themselves better husband prospects). You don't know what circle jerking is? Heck even I know what that is. You don't know what victimhood is? "circle jerk their victimhood into each others mouths" In this case it means reinforcing their own perspective; it's a form of group think.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 12:25 AM
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I agree. I have seen that too and I have pointed it out in other places (eg FB). Makes no sense to me. "She took half of everything I had." No, she took her half of your jointly earned assets. OR "I worked and she never contributed and now she wants half". Well, why did you marry a woman with little / no earning potential?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 11:49 PM
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In the old days, a man would ask his mother and/or sisters to hand make gifts for his future wife. It was a symbol that she was welcomed into the family. Oftentimes it would be lingerie or bedroom linen; personal items, not household items. You might not like it aesthetically but you should consider this a token of how she feels about you. She put time and effort into it. Be careful how you handle it; this is not about the ring.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/25 09:39 PM
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I know what the title is. The OP started the whole post with "Ladies, I'm interested in making this thread something that feels like an introspective conversation rather than a Redpill lecture. Now that that's out of the way, shall we..... Have you ever looked back at your dating history and noticed a shift in the kinds of men you were drawn to?" I had already given my direct answer but in keeping with OP's request I replied to yours because you said "There were also plenty of non-bad boy option…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 10:03 PM
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NO. The question was "Have you ever looked back at your dating history and noticed a shift in the kinds of men you were drawn to?" NO my preferences did NOT change. The OP is looking for answers to "have fun first, then settle later" and my answer is NO I did not chase bad boys and then change.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 09:40 AM
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The question asked of women is "Have you ever looked back at your dating history and noticed a shift in the kinds of men you were drawn to?" I am a woman and my answer is I did not. You then said "There were also plenty of non-bad boy options that women chose not to engage with .... they had to control themselves around the nice guys .... This is not at all how women select to date." My answer is I did choose not to engage with bad boys, and I did choose the nice guys and I am a woman and this i…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 10:20 PM
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Funny. I did in fact not date bad boys. It's how this woman selected to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 06:21 AM
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Might have mistaken her for Addings0 who IS a man. That's what I thought anyway. 0
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 06:17 AM
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I never dated any wild ones. Didn't really date at all as a teenager. Only went for sensible ones from the start. Don't do romance novels either so can't help you there either.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 06:13 AM
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Where these comments made here or elsewhere?
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/25 10:40 PM
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Nope. Never have.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 10:10 PM
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You're weird. I never had a "pumped’n’dumped phase;" as you call it. Not every woman does, and if you assume such, you must be missing a lot of women. Maybe change your hunting ground to where the women you want actually are.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 01:11 AM
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Why not? Aren't I allowed to clarify a side issue that comes up?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 12:32 AM
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No I don't want to talk about the article.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 10:32 PM
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The OP was about divorce favors the male. They linked 1 old article. Why would I bother reading the old article. I did go back and read up to your original comment. I copied and pasted it in my other response.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 10:31 PM
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You asked "if women are getting such a raw deal in divorces, then why do they initiate close to 80% of them at least in the US?" and got the response "Because they’d rather be poor than miserable." One woman complaining in a 16YO article is hardly telling us anything about the vast majority of US divorces.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 10:25 PM
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I didn't read the article. I was responding to the poster and the comments above here.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 10:21 PM
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Who said they were complaining?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 08:36 AM
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I'm intrigued that you, a man, claim you have access to this "women's only spaces (like twoxchromosones)" according to malpaiss (below) and you are so heavily interested and involved in the content. I'm a woman and I don't do or want to do any of these things. I don't watch porn, or MSM of rough sex, or read erotic novels. Hair pulling, spanking, light choking, etc. would be an instant relationship killer for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 01:38 AM
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I'll tell you what you sound like to me. You sound like someone who is begging for agreement that women enjoy being beaten and I suspect that if you get that agreement, it'll turn up as your defense one day in court. "But Your Honor, I was told all women enjoy that sort of thing."
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 10:32 PM
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WTF is twox? Some women do but not all. Don't assume.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 10:28 PM
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As a woman, I don't want to be dominated, or experience rough and degrading sex acts. Some women do but not all. Don't assume.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 10:28 PM
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As a woman, I don't want to be dominated, or experience rough and degrading sex acts. Some women do but not all. Don't assume.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 10:27 PM
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I'm a woman and I don't care about Valentine's Day. A card and maybe a box of chocolates is all I've ever got and all I've ever wanted. My 2nd husband would have spent more of his money on gifts for me but I kept telling him No don't waste it, use it for something worthwhile.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 10:22 PM
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Diligent rope had said "I am a guy, and I do care, I have always been attracted to women who are educated and who are career women. " and then you replied “And much more expensive in a divorce, which, if I recall correctly, is more likely.” College educated folks are less likely to divorce but yes if college educated she has contributed more (than if not) and so they have more to split and so she should get more back than if not educated.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 07:18 AM
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They each get back what they put it. They halve the community property. I can't find the original comment I was replying to. Someone was saying in the event of a divorce she always gets back more than she should.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 07:02 AM
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Really? How does it operate?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 02:52 AM
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Obamacare was signed into law on March 23, 2010 and the major provisions came into force in 2014. It is a for profit, employer based, health care system that does not cover a significant percentage of its population. Australia has a single payer, universal health care system. It started in 1984. Australia also has a pharmaceutical benefits scheme which negotiates with pharmaceutical companies the price the PBS will pay for medications. This essentially reduces the price of medications in Austral…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 02:52 AM
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We are seen as a threat so we are stigmatised. And the word is marITal, not marTIal. Married mothers today are not so worn down but many women in 'the good old days' were. Those of us who are single and childless usually have more spare time and energy to put into questioning the status quo, and again we are thus seen as a threat, and thus stigmatised. Also you're not the OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 02:41 AM
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Most other developed countries already have those things. And have had for a generation or 2. We are often shocked by just how backwards USA is in many respects. WTH have the Democrats been doing all this time?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 10:39 PM
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Democrats only appear to be left wing in comparison to the Republicans. In fact, elsewhere in the world they'd be considered centre-right.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 10:03 PM
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The Democrats aren't a left wing party. They may be left of the Republicans but they aren't left wing. Anywhere else, they'd be a centrist right wing party. The Republicans are far right so it doesn't take much to look to be left of them. I didn't say childless unmarried women have enough clout to change the prevailing social order. Only that our existence is a threat to it, hence we cop some social stigma. I didn't say single/childless/unmarried women do a better job voting or behave more intel…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 10:02 PM
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I'm sorry, my mistake. I responded to the wrong poster. You may not notice it but others see it regularly. It's not imagination, it pops up regularly in some places. "Many single childless women, are seen as a threat to other women who are already paired up. As though I wanna sleep with their man...get real. No one wants your man. Men in general think we're old whores. Apparently our vaginas are all blown out from our high n-counts. Also, CHAD was our first. After that, everything went downhill.…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 03:31 AM
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Agree with that. But my point is the disconnect between what your headline says and what you have fallen back to now. You claimed "unmarried childless women way more stigmatised" and now you have backed off to just 'the wall is real'. Let's say the wall is real (for having babies it is). That does not translate to "unmarried childless women way more stigmatised".
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 03:23 AM
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Ha ha ha you must be joking! traditional society doesn't expect much from women beyond looking good and having kids, so she's viewed as deserting one of her very few assigned duties. Women do vast amounts of work in traditional society - cooking, cleaning, child bearing and raising, farm labor, field labor, fabric manufacture, clothes making, community rituals and social cohesion, etc. One of the reason so many joined the great nunneries and abbeys in historic times was precisely because the lif…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 02:49 AM
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and in the rest of the world? The greater part of the world where 'Dem' doesn't mean anything, and all the conservatives are like the US right wing party The Democrats. Unmarried/childless women are a threat to the economic and social order that prevails. We aren't worn down by childcare and marital labor, so we are free to think big and think systemic, and we vote accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 02:42 AM
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and yet you're doing it - you imagine we are being bullied mercilessly "unmarried childless women bullied mercilessly all the time"
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 02:35 AM
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So what you really mean is 'the wall is real', and your headline "unmarried childless women way more stigmatised" is actually hyperbole? The wall only matters if you want to have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 02:31 AM
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There are lots of memes on FB like that, true.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 02:27 AM
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this ^ the best course of action for average men is to work on being boyfriend material, strictly pursue low maintenance women, and reassess their needs for women who are 10’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 12:59 AM
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Right from year 1, memorise and forget was NOT a thing. Yes you were expected to know some things, yes you had to memorise the details eg of the nervous system, plant cells, the ATP, but these things weren't just regurgitated in exams. You had to interpret eg what you saw down the microscope in a prac exam, or what the situation was, or what the problem was, eg what characteristics of a plant you had to design for desert environment in an exam. None of it was regurgitation; you had to know the s…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 11:01 PM
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Definitely. Guys on FB saying they don't care, they just want a hot young fertile thing working a low pay job, because "her career doesn't matter" - have a look at who they are. Nobody, with no prospects and the photos they put up of the hot young fertile thing working a low pay job who they claim all men want to marry - she won't look twice at them because she has much better options. I wish I could find that FB post now.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 09:58 PM
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No, she has contributed more so they have more so she gets more back. Higher % of divorces in the college educated are initiated by women, but lower overall divorce rates among college folks.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 09:41 PM
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Tell me you nothing about university education without telling me you nothing about university education. "Just cause someone memorized a bunch of bullshit and regurgitated it on some test 500 times."
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 09:38 PM
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So you'd prefer a gold digger / potential gold digger then?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 09:37 PM
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Didn't you just say "in the west lower socioeconomic status is more associated with promiscuity and drug abuse"? So now you say "Less maintenance, less investment, higher success, more likely to adhere to traditional gender roles"
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 09:36 PM
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But there simply isn’t enough abuse and cheating to be explain the drop in marriage rates and general abstention from the dating market. Oh yes there is. Too many stories of women who thought they were in a happy marriage to find out he cheated a lot, and too many who eventually realised they were being abused, albeit not beaten up. DV is sadly common.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 10:23 PM
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This^. I'm not a people person, I like my own space and peace and quiet. I didn't enjoy my childhood because I had to share with noisy siblings in a noisy house. Living like that didn't change me, it just stressed me out and I had a miserable childhood, though not abused. I have been able to fix that as I get older. Not be becoming a people person but by arranging my life and living situation to suit who I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 10:19 PM
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I read it slowly and carefully twice. 1 You're assuming women are a monolith. 2 You're conflating chivalry with 'treating women well'. 3 Valentine's Day means nothing. 4 Consumer surveys mean nothing. 5 Benevolent Sexism is BS (yeah that bit is right).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 01:15 AM
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You're connecting dots that are not on the same page. Your post makes no sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 11:27 PM
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what tf?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 11:09 PM
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friend-zoned =\= friend. This is what men don't get. A woman may have a guy as a friend but the guys all think friend-zoned.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 10:56 PM
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So stay single. Plenty of women are choosing to stay single because we aren't impressed with the men available (I'm past marrying age too).
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 12:54 AM
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Men can feel all those things too and still have to approach Men can feel all what things, sorry? not physically unattractive, like walking question marks, lower sex drive ???
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 12:38 AM
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True. But how many child-free women are SAHW? Today most women work because the family needs the money, so most divorced mothers both need the money and contributed to the asset base.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 12:34 AM
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True. But often they don't have aspirations, they just kind of drift along and are surprised when a pregnancy happens and then they're married and wake up one day and find there's 3 kids and a spouse and no money and no obvious future and panic and divorce. Not a good marital prospect.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 12:29 AM
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and her career never recovers and she will take 'half of everything that's mine' if they divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 01:18 PM
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The men will then complain you've friend zoned them, not realising you are maybe sizing them up as a potential partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 01:16 PM
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And this is why Fancy Statistician is right about divorce stats. Often a marriage happens cos someone got pregnant to the guy she knew in school, they have no money and no plans and no coping skills and divorce seems the better option all things considered.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 01:14 PM
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True. But a lot of these discussions involve men who whine that they supported her financially all through the childbearing and child raising hence 'she took half of what i had'. The discussion needs to be defined first up as to are we talking primary earner/ SAHM or DINK?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 01:11 PM
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The prenup is made before marriage, in anticipation of marriage. You specify BEFORE you marry how you will split stuff later IF you divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 01:07 PM
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Choose better. It's not hard to figure out which women make good marriage prospects if your divorce payout is what you're worried about. The problem is those women are not ATTRACTIVE to most men so we are overlooked. The ones men want to marry oftentimes are high maintenance and going to spend $$ on clothes, make up, hair, whatever. Choose better.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 01:05 PM
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Some women. Not all women. Again with the 'women as monolith'. Why would I ask a man out, ask a man to marry me or buy him a wedding ring if I'm happy alone? When I was engaged I told him not to waste money on a ring as I don't wear them and don't want one.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 12:59 PM
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Who is 'they' in this situation? Heterosexuals? Men? Women?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 12:47 PM
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As I said up further, the problem isn't time, it's the mode used. OLD meeting is very different from IRL meeting.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 12:17 PM
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True. But then again they might be relevant. And also not everyone is dating online.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 11:43 PM
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So we DO have to be experienced on-line dating gurus to have anything worthwhile to contribute.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 08:53 AM
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Well that is what I do. Speak from experience I have. You said "I would venture to guess has never randomly dated someone, they just met through work and social circles, started dating a few people in then end up in a long term relationship." That implied to me you were focused on online dating because of your ref to "randomly dated someone" as opposed to "met through work and social circles".
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 01:51 AM
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How do you think birth control pills and IUDs work? Medical intervention. Tube tying? Medical intervention. Or are you wanting to be daddy to numerous kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 01:46 AM
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So do we have to be experienced on-line dating gurus to have anything worthwhile to contribute? Widow, last relationship 16 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 11:36 PM
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Its just a snip of the vas. Doesn't destroy anything. Still produce Testosterone. Women prefer vasectomy to their ongoing responsibility to tamper with their body/menstrual cycle. All those chemicals and internal devices.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 11:32 PM
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Your first source is also questionable, in my opinion. "The sample (n = 1,392) of adults in the United States was collected using Amazon Mechanical Turk and included a much wider age range (ages 18–73) than in typical pornography research. Using all modalities of pornography, 91.5% of men and 60.2% of women herein reported having consumed pornography in the past month." That seems a small sample and I'm not familiar with AMT (crowd sourcing?) as a collection method. I can't access the full artic…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 11:16 PM
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Well your second source is dubious. For one it's from an anti-porn site and it's critiquing research done by a pro-porn site into customer numbers. The original research is to normalise porn, the critique is anti-porn. Neither is uninterested. "the site’s total porn viewers are comprised of 23% women and 77% men" "women are more likely to watch porn—especially the more hardcore categories—when they have suffered sexual assaults and psychological violence at the hands of their families." So we mi…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 11:06 PM
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It is a well known fact that around 60% of women watch pornography and are more likely then men to watch degrading and rough stuff like gangbangs. In fact, women are 113% more likely to seek out rough pornography then men. Source?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 09:42 PM
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You asked me "Don’t you think that women are innately hypergamous?" If it's innate, it's not created by modern society. So my age is irrelevant. Also what about those "young UN attractive women in the West, I can tell you they are picky as hell." Maybe the attractive ones are picky but many can't afford to be picky. You even go on to say yourself "less than 5% who qualify but young women don’t care because they have their hypergamous standards" implying it's all young women, not just the attract…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 10:14 PM
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Yeah it's like all the blokes who complain they can't find a woman with low body count on Tinder. "You think maybe you're looking in the wrong place?"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 03:16 AM
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They might not tell me that's what I should look for but they'd bloody talk about it! No I don't think that women are innately hypergamous. I think women - now we are free of economic restrictions - are happy to find a bloke who meets their expectations eg a decent paying job, good manners, well behaved, etc. Some women have specific requirements eg some women want to move away from their hometown, etc but most would be happy to find a decent bloke who treats them well.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 03:14 AM
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Agree. People talk about 'women' and what they say does not resemble in any way any woman I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 11:49 PM
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I follow very few people and that is based on their interests, their posts and comments - nothing to do with looks, sport, dancing or such like.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 11:49 PM
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Honestly I have never had a conversation with friends where that was said. Or family. Family always advised to find someone you got along with and shared interests with. I do know one friend who had a conversation with someone she thought she knew who said she would never date a tradesman, she wanted someone 'better' than that. My friend was appalled but that was not why their friendship ended. I'm high IQ so no point in me looking for someone smarter than me - I do expect people to be reasonabl…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 11:32 PM
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Awareness of physical and financial threats is the reason I won't remarry. You think I'm gunna put all this at risk, just for a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 11:22 PM
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Government scientist (20+ years), published author, self funded via investments, retired and living on historic estate. Conservationist and habitat restoration.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 11:20 PM
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Why would I (irl) answer those questions? I'm not telling some stranger those details. My n count is 3 (1 bf and 2 husbands), I never date (I met all 3 through contacts) and WTF does "choices in dating in general" mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 11:16 PM
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No, plenty of men say they don't care if a woman has a career or not, all they want is young, pretty and fertile. Time and time again I've read this.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 11:13 PM
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The Disparity in Relationship Expectations: Women today are more empowered, and while that’s fantastic, it has shifted relationship dynamics. There’s often an underlying notion that women are “expected” to find someone wealthier, taller, smarter, and more successful than them. Meanwhile, men are expected to accept partners who don’t meet these same societal standards. This imbalance makes it even harder for men to navigate relationships without feeling inadequate. I never got told this when I wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 11:08 PM
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Well how would YOU tell me apart from them?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 09:24 PM
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I'm a woman, fit, with a house, retirement fund, modest salary. Body count of 3. Not triple digits, just 3. Where are all the men who don't want gold diggers?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 12:16 AM
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I still want to know where the 1-10 levels are defined.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 12:13 AM
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I thought I was going crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 11:55 PM
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This ^ I see it a lot on Facebook pages too. But too many men on here go on about how she took half HIS stuff in a divorce and I’m sitting here like…well half was hers so…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 11:47 PM
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It's one of the first things I learned about women with autism, about 20 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 11:59 PM
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No I did not say that. Frivolous spending is one of the ways autism is expressed in (many, not all) autistic women. Frivolous spending is over spending on products which they then regret and often want refunded the next day. Shoes, handbags, etc. It does NOT include consumer spending on necessary items like groceries, health care etc. Women often do the bulk of shopping for necessary items but that is NOT frivolous.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 11:51 PM
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You said "The vast majority of people who violate norms are ... scummy lowlife criminals and dropouts." I know plenty of people who don't have kids who are not "scummy lowlife criminals and dropouts". What is your understanding of "vast majority of people"?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 01:41 AM
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Speak for yourself. I am high intelligence, community-minded, law-abiding, retired early and never wanted kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 01:04 AM
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autism in women is often a cause of frivolous spending.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 12:45 AM
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Lots of nuances. My brother is estranged from us. He is probably lonely. It was his choice to cut contact because he would not behave reasonably and we could no longer stand his irrational behaviour. I have 3 friends with similar relationships with their respective brothers. All of us experienced obnoxious domineering behaviour where his concerns were all he would talk about (ad nausem), and he wanted all the money left by the last living parent (in 1 case, before she even died). In my case he h…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 12:42 AM
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agree, that's my successful option
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 12:34 AM
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Start living in group houses.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 12:32 AM
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Well what do you want me to do about it? I don't wear make up and I don't use online dating apps. I'm only telling you what has been reported re men's online profiles. A lot of men shoot themselves in the foot. Maybe you just have to accept most women like most men aren't in whatever is the top 10% and go with reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 06:44 AM
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If you are talking about online engagement, many men fail themselves by not having a decent photo on their profile. This has been looked at by researchers. Clean, tidy, pleasant, head and shoulders, taken for this purpose - not one of your guitar or car or dog or looking unkempt or a blurry one with the boys on a fishing trip etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 11:19 PM
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So you expect women to just engage for dating by you randomly approaching them? You see a woman on the street and just approach her? She might be involved already, she might be a lesbian, anything else. Many women won't be interested until they get to know you better. That's what you call BS. Sorry, I have no good news for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 11:17 PM
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Of course we know attractive guys can be creeps - most are TBF.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 11:14 PM
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what is Title IX? what is the Duluth model?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 05:22 AM
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Oh well I didn't think I was. I was asking how the 1-10 classification works. Maybe I used looks as a part of that? I don't remember, all the post is gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 02:40 AM
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Ha. At 62 a cute selfie is out of the question.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 02:39 AM
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Nah. I disagree. Not my experience at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 02:36 AM
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are you quoting someone here?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 02:34 AM
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at different times yes, all or none or any of the above
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 02:29 AM
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"Why would a woman engage nowadays for dating with a guy she is not physically attracted to" IF she is on a dating app, you might be right. For the rest of life, no. We meet men in lots of ways, and engage with them, and it's got nothing to do with how physically attractive they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 02:27 AM
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very true its why I find these convos so confusing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 02:24 AM
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Eveleaf said "It's far sounder to make a lot of friends and get to know them" and yet many men keep saying they aren't interested in being friends with women, they just ghost woman as soon as she indicates she's not "offering sex to" him as DenyDefendDepose_117 said up higher. Also note many of us end up getting to know a guy through day to day life, not through romantic fishing. If we don't like him, we don't like him. If we do like him, he becomes a friend and maybe later a romantic partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 02:22 AM
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AGREE
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 02:17 AM
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Agree, except I don't start with looks. I want to hear his thoughts, values, POV on various things etc. The way he treats me and other women esp older women in his life. Is he knowledgeable in the ways the world works? Does he have tunnel vision? Can he bring new POVs to my life?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 02:12 AM
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AGREE!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 01:59 AM
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"close friends with countless women" BS
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 01:56 AM
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Myself and my 2 closest female friends - no to "FWB or sneaky link", but we are all 60+ so maybe its an age thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 01:49 AM
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No one tells me I'm brave. Never have. I built it all myself, against the flow.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 01:41 AM
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Nah. Not me anyway. I like being alone, my MH has skyrocketed since I retired. I don't get opposite validation from my social circle cause all my friends are women. No men out there that are the least bit attractive to me. One guy turns up periodically 'to check on' me supposedly I guess cause my husband died 4+ years ago but I never liked him and keep trying to give him the hint I'm not interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 01:40 AM
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Funny, on the women's pages they all say dick is in abundance ...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 01:35 AM
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How do I contact the admins? I put up a carefully worded question and it seems to have been rejected and I'd like to know why.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 10:15 PM
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