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join the knights of columbus or smth idk
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 12:44 AM
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i mean i didn't think you did, i just feel like--and obv idk you irl so i can't say for sure if this is true in your case--if you unironically think that sort of thing it probably reads to some degree in person even if you don't say stuff like that explicitly. like, when you have a vague little feeling about someone, and then maybe months or years or whatever after meeting them you learn something about them and you're just like "ah yeah that tracks, i knew it was something" but all along that n…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 01:50 AM
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> Given the amount of times I've been rejected and ghosted ngl my guy this one seems like it might be a you thing, maybe in part bc you think/say things like "women don't like men and aren't attracted to them"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 01:39 AM
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making friends in general is a good way to find a relationship bc you're getting to know people more deeply, forming social circles, developing a positive reputation, sharpening social skills, etc.; making friends with a specific person with a plan to later start a relationship with them is icky bc you're starting what they think is literally just a friendship while having an ulterior motive of which they're unaware
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 01:36 AM
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sublimation of anxieties regarding being the subject of sexual violence into sexualized forms which can be less stressfully engaged with go brrr (but fr this wasn't even a novel observation when that article was published in 2022 and there's already plenty of literature out there on the topic)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 03:51 PM
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i mean that's honestly super creepy but how did "progressive" come into it?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 06:25 AM
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big "the best things in life are free" moment tbh, giving up one of the most potent and significant forms of human socialization for cash honestly feels self-defeating if your ultimate goal is like having a happy/contented life
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 01:19 PM
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my preference is each person paying for themselves, maybe alternating on rounds of drinks, etc, but tbh i've meet more than a few guys who get big feelings about you not letting them pay so atp if they want to i don't fight it
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 08:01 PM
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No, you can't just handwave that aside; an insignificant minority of men doing something has no bearing on this conversation, unless you want to change the topic to why that insignificant minority exhibit whatever specific ratios of high libido to low impulse control which lead to high-risk fringe behaviors like you're describing. Also, kinda weird that you're not aware of (or maybe just not acknowledging) that the act of pursuing casual sex has certain intrinsic, non-negligible risks for women …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 08:18 PM
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...The vast majority of men don't do that, either 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 06:49 PM
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Look I'm all for being creeped on less but using 1984 as an instruction manual ain't it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 10:43 PM
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Genuinely not sure why promoting that should be women's job? Men have internet access, can engage with broader culture, etc. and are more than capable of collectively advocating for themselves if this is a thing that most of them actively want, just like any other group. That said, I feel like the main issue you'd run into if you attempted to do so would be the fact that the vast majority of people of either sex don't want to be single, at least not indefinitely (on which note, I'd point out tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 12:14 PM
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That's a matter of practicality, not conforming to social norms. Avoiding being harassed sounds pretty practical, idk
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 08:11 AM
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bro was so hyped for his ben shapiro larp that he didn't even realize he was talking to two different people
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 08:09 AM
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bro forgot to account for the fact that, while an attraction to things typically coded for one's gender identity is very much innate, that coding is almost wholly culturally informed and consequently fluid over time (unless fdr's mom kept his hair long and put him in a dress and cute little mary janes as a kid bc she was a radical feminist trying to fight the patriarchy or w/e)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 07:03 AM
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And there's no implicit threat in deliberately mistreating your partner? Something like, idk, "do what I want or I'll keep eroding your mental health on purpose"?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 10:22 PM
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People have every right to not talk to or have sex with whomever they want, but if they're doing so to manipulate someone rather than just because it's literally just not a thing they wanna do then that's pretty dark. Literally just talk to you partner. Ostensibly you have like a deep, emotionally intimate relationship with as well as empathy for one another, so why not just have an actual conversation if you feel your needs aren't being met? Or, if that isn't working out, go to couple's counsel…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 09:39 PM
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it may be It truly mayn't lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 09:31 PM
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No but like, during a strike the fact that a strike is happening is explicitly stated and concrete demands are made, after which direct negotiations take place. What you were describing is just ... being quietly shitty to your partner until they're anxious or sad enough that they'll have sex with you even if there are underlying reasons (related to the relationship itself or not) which would otherwise make them disinclined to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 09:30 PM
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I didn't say that explicitly stating interest is "less obvious" than flirting (the action), but if done at the wrong stage of flirting (the process) then doing so could be colored by social norms/expectations in such a way as to alter its meaning; e.g., if I went up to a male friend and was randomly just like, "I like you" then he'd probably laugh awkwardly because that seems like a weird joke, whereas if I did it after a period of flirting then that context would cause him to receive it in the …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 06:55 PM
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Because behavior is also communication? And, even within spoken language, tone, word choice, etc. also all substantively contribute to the actual meaning of what's being said? Like we literally had to invent emoticons/emojis and tone indicators like "/s" when remote, text-based socialization became normative because words by themselves can't accurately convey meaning in informal contexts.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 06:46 PM
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I'm genuinely not sure which part of my comment implied that I wasn't also talking about the first move, but I apologize if it was unclear regardless. I'll try to rephrase it: in almost any kind of social interaction, there are going to be both explicit/direct elements and implicit/indirect ones; flirting or gauging romantic interest aren't exceptions to that norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 06:35 PM
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This is gonna blow your mind, but human beings engage in non-verbal communication as a complement to spoken language in pretty much every social context (especially informal ones) and literally always have.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 06:22 PM
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The homogenization running throughout this post is also the reason you're perceiving a contradiction here, tbh. A guy you're friends with who you'd want to date asking you out is awesome; a guy you're friends with who you wouldn't want to date asking you out is, yeah, probably ruining that friendship. Also, generally, the nature of those two cases of friendship are subtly different even before the asking-out happens. There's also just the fact that, no, not all women say that their relationships…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 06:19 PM
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Underlying traits have superficial manifestations; the deeper level at which "one's true thoughts/feelings" exist, such as it is, helps to shape the one which we present to the world (and, tbf, for some people there's not much distance between the two). Women who tell someone that their having certain traits is obvious aren't implying that they have like a preternatural ability to detect those traits, but that pattern recognition (conscious or not) over time has left them with some pretty strong…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 05:31 PM
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Tbf, the entire national ethos of the US is oriented toward idealizing the nouveau riche.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 06:18 PM
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No, I didn't; that's why I talked about both cases, where you do value the friendship and where you don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 01:34 PM
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There's a lot of entitlement in this post. "Why can't we just—" Because the other person didn't want to. For whatever reason (and the potential reasons are innumerable), that's not a kind of relationship that they want with you, and that's an intrinsically legitimate position for them to hold. It'd be nice if they explained why, but they're under literally no ethical obligation to do so or, tbh, even to have a concrete reason. The only constant or relevant "why" here is personal agency. If you'r…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 10:47 AM
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You literally just read a comment about someone being repeatedly and aggressively sexually harassed as a child by adult men (read: pedophiles) and responded to that with, "I don't know what she's bitching about, that sounds like a great problem to have." Like, what even is that analogy? A child's body isn't equivalent to a currency she can hand out to whichever grimy deviant she feels deserves it, the way one would give spare cash to panhandlers. And the analogue to the magnitude of wealth is ..…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 10:29 AM
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The apps themselves are problematic, though, because their offered service of getting you into a relationship is at odds with their commercial function of making money by selling ad space or premium packages or space for ads to be consumed specifically by single people. You can contrast this with, say, a bakery, where the offered service of providing you with baked goods is in line with the commercial function of making money by selling you quality baked goods. The incentive structure with datin…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 10:50 PM
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Tbh I don't really think this is a common thing? At least not after high school, or to the extreme degree that you just described. If something like that is enough to bother someone to the point that they don't pursue a relationship then the annoying trait in question is probably just the pars pro toto representation of a dozen "unimportant" but irritating things or just general undesirable vibes. It's even a romantic trope that if you do really like someone then you'll start to find mildly anno…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 10:26 PM
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I feel like it's important to note that a lot of the "leads" that women get have nothing to do with the image we put out, because a lot of guys are literally just shooting every possible shot and hoping to get a hit through volume of fire. Filtering out those types is sometimes easy, but sometimes a time-consuming process (e.g., having to go on two or three dates with someone before he stops being able to convincingly disguise the fact that he's just a really well-socialized vapid creep). And th…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 10:14 PM
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Most women tend to want to quibble and overemphasize on the margins believing it will change the overall outcome. I'm not actually sure what this is supposed to be saying tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 10:07 PM
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I'm so sorry, that sounds really difficult. Maybe you could automate the decision-making process by using them in a predetermined sequence? Or maybe, if you're feeling spicy, by using a random number generator to decide each time. Thoughts and prayers while you struggle with this <3
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 10:05 PM
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If I were making that argument and actually constructing the analogy properly, then it'd be something like: "Harvard's Admissions Office has a harder job than the Admissions Office at my local community college, which is partly why their standards are so much higher." Which is true, obviously, but not a particularly useful comparison since an individual screening for partners only has so much mental bandwith to spare whereas a university has the ability to budget for increased staffing, newer te…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 04:40 PM
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More "leads" objectively leads to a more difficult job of filtering; it requires higher efficiency, which leads to the stricter heuristics that a lot of men here complain about. Also, the consequences of misreading are normatively far more dire for women than men, which also contributes to the aforementioned strictness.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 03:40 PM
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Men aren't categorically anything, just like women. I'm in a relationship, which means that any kind of non-platonic relationship is off the table for everyone who isn't my partner, and I'm still friends with men because they—as individuals—are people I enjoy interacting with for various reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 10:12 PM
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Did you literally just say that victims of sexual assault are too dumb to not be assaulted?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 02:40 PM
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Why wouldn't it be polite for them to let you pay your half if you want to? Insisting to do so after you've stated that you don't want them to is what seems impolite tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 03:02 AM
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It's literally contextual. There's no way I could meaningfully answer a vague hypothetical about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 02:49 AM
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If that's what you got from that then yeah, probably for the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 05:39 PM
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Consider, perhaps, that what you're describing is ultimately just an early heuristic for general compatibility, and that if there's that much miscommunication right out of the gate then it might be a recurring problem if the people in question were to end up dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 04:22 PM
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they start with saying don't approach at work, but outside professional settings is ok, then we get but don't bother me in the park/library or while running errands cause its "weird" and they suggest bars and night-clubs, but then they're just there to enjoy a night out with their friends and really don't appreciate men hitting on them.... None of this is really inconsistent? Literally just avoid bothering people by understanding when approaching someone and what kind of approach is unlikely to …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 04:19 PM
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I love these rare wholesome posts in this sub so much
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 02:21 AM
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Why even bother getting married at that point?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 11:11 PM
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> experiments Oh, cool, which journal did they publish in?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 02:03 AM
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Tbh the people I know who cook at home the most rather than eating out or relying on frozen meals etc. are also some of the more in-shape people I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 07:01 PM
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I think this one might just be confirmation bias, buddy
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 07:00 PM
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I mean a lot of ordinary women's clothing exposes the midriff to some extent, and that's not even counting swimsuits? It sounds like you're advocating for like a socially mandated norm of revealing clothing rather than women just having the option.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 06:37 PM
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Wow, unironically good advice on this sub? Truly, we're in the End Times
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 06:29 PM
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Sure you do. Iirc it's Paris Fashion Week rn, and high fashion is full of people wearing extremely revealing things; socioeconomically elite spaces, especially those oriented toward the arts, often are. But normal people are gonna wear normal things, just like we always have. We'll wear what's physically and emotionally comfortable and/or socially appropriate, and none of that is inherently incompatible with aesthetics or beauty but if people want to dress in comfy, utilitarian ways then there's…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 06:20 PM
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It really isn't. Her manner of dress was, unsurprisingly, considered extremely scandalous even at the time and was only emulated by a handful of wealthy and well-connected women in the royal court; she was only even afforded the ability to dress revealingly because her favor with the king precluded any kind of public reproach, let alone the disciplinary measures and stigma which would've fallen on literally any other woman. The history of fashion is well-documented, and I promise you that women …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 05:53 PM
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That's actually pretty wild, where are you from? Iirc the US average is 5'9
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 05:08 PM
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The way you sounded in your post made me think you were like 5'2 or something. 5'6 isn't even that bad, I guess unless you're living somewhere with an average men's height of like 6'.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 05:05 PM
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That's hilarious lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 02:14 PM
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Wait, are we censoring "Chad" now? Is "Chad" a slur?? Anyway, to answer OP's question: no lol ofc she shouldn't give people who previously rejected her a chance, and the idea that she would is depressing in terms of its implications about her sense of self-worth. Idk why she wouldn't give anyone a chance, though, unless she just doesn't want to date for whatever reason (which would obviously be valid).
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 02:03 PM
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Telling a partner to end friendships with unproblematic people whose company they actively enjoy because of your own insecurities is, literally, being controlling. And no, not really an assumption; a dramatic, hostile change in both behavior and temperament apropos of nothing is not indicative of someone having freely made a sound decision to change the way they socialize.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 12:58 PM
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100%
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 12:55 PM
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Perpetrators of CSA, whether priests or generally, aren't just ordinary people who succumbed to lust; it's a complex and often very contextual phenomenon that's ultimately predicated more on other, more psychosocial experiences of gratification (especially that of the exercise of power) than on an overwhelming need to get off. And no, attraction isn't a choice, but we're not talking about involuntary feelings; even if OP were attracted to her (which he says he wasn't and tbh doesn't really seem …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 12:55 PM
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I mean it kinda just sounds like she got gaslit into subscribing to her bf's boundaries. That said, OP didn't say anything to imply that he isn't leaving her alone, so.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 12:06 PM
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OP's religious, he's not trying to casually sleep around.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 12:04 PM
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That's not categorically "how boyfriends think", it's how schizoid ones think.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 12:03 PM
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Sorry that happened to you, OP. Her boyfriend's a Soviet parade's worth of red flags and tbh I don't think it's much of a stretch to call his behavior abusive (and that's just the parts you know about). Hopefully her family and remaining friends will eventually help her realize what's going on so she can get out of it. And good on you for being so level-headed through the whole thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 11:59 AM
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the left offers nothing for men, while the right does. Basing your politics on the dating scene is psychotic.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 11:31 PM
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Men are shamed for that because traditionally masculine traits are socially valued and the men in question aren't living up to them, whereas women are praised for not falling into traditional feminine roles because, again, it's masculine traits that are socially valued. The issue is society's overriding, categorical respect for masculinity and denigration of femininity — although, ofc, that's a generalization and there are plenty of exceptions, but imo those serve to prove the rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 07:54 PM
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I'm literally a grad student
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 02:03 PM
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...And then often continued to date those men for significant amounts of time?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 12:37 PM
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I mean ig it depends on what you mean by "neutrality" and "edge".
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 12:36 PM
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This is definitely not true lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 12:32 PM
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Dating, and tbh socialization in general, can definitely erode self-confidence, but it can also be built back up. Everyone has positive traits they can develop as well as negative ones they can deconstruct and mitigate, and trying to find a partner is (also just like socialization in general) more of a learned skill than a natural talent for most people. tl;dr categorical pessimism in this area is understandable in a lot of cases but not actually warranted even in most of those.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 11:56 PM
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No, self-confidence is literally just being secure in your own value, whether socially or professionally or just as a human being. Arrogance can easily mask as that, but not indefinitely and usually not even particularly well.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 11:31 PM
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Non-toxic confidence is a thing; it isn't intrinsically synonymous with like arrogant self-delusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 11:22 PM
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I literally can't count the number of times I've heard women say that kindness toward a waiter, child, pet, etc. on a first date was a huge green flag and contributed strongly toward their feeling comfortable with and interested in a guy, or the same regarding him having a positive and healthy relationship with his family, etc. I personally agree with this, too. But just being like baseline polite while having no other aspects which appeal either to women modally or a specific woman they're inte…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 11:21 PM
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Except that, per the analogy if it's being followed properly, it wouldn't be "because they are all a bunch of thugs" but rather because you need time to establish who is or isn't a thug. That doesn't really hold up, though, which is why the comparison is flawed; there are a million sociocultural cues which help to convey whether or not someone (of any race tbh) is a "thug", whereas that is absolutely not the case when it comes to perpetrators of sexual violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 09:57 PM
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Every society, from the most oppressed and poverty-stricken sprawl of shantytowns to the most developed social-democratic postindustrial state, contains sociocultural phenomena by definition. Furthermore, no society is homogenous.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 09:46 PM
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> This was in sweden, so no, not a sociocultural phenomena what does this even mean lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 08:37 PM
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This isn't true lol, all the things you're saying make dangerous/"Chad"/etc. men good at getting laid easily, having multiple partners, etc. also make them terrible at--and terrible prospects for--LTRs.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 08:30 PM
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The phrase "[s]tatistically, zero percent" when talking about something as subjective and varied as attraction is kind of an analytical red flag tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 08:27 PM
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Obviously being conventionally attractive is a major plus in terms of having people find you attractive, but any time spent people-watching in basically any public place is enough to dispel the idea that it's categorically necessary. Probably the most important thing, tbh; I've both personally experienced and seen as a third party interest in an objectively attractive guy fizzle into apathy either because he's just kinda dull to be around or a simple lack of enough shared interests led to intera…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 08:26 PM
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Gifts can be nice! It just depends on the context etc. Like a thoughtful gift that shows that they listen to you and/or know you well, given on a holiday or special occasion or just for no reason, is lovely; a boilerplate gift given to make up for something, personally, isn't really something I appreciate. These are obviously opposite extremes and there's whole spectrum between them wherein which most gifts fall. It also makes me uncomfortable when someone's gift is wildly disproportional to wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 08:13 PM
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Could there, perhaps, be other variables at play, here? Could the phenomenon of people being into serial killers and that of "lesser criminals" having sex actually be different sociocultural phenomena?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 07:32 PM
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Kinda just seems like you're conflating what is, tbh, an extremely small subculture of serial killer fetishists with literally all women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 07:30 PM
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Approaching isn't weird; approaching weirdly is weird. Read the room, don't interrupt friends hanging out or her doing something intently, etc. There are exceptions to this, ofc, like when my current bf interrupted me doing homework at a library, but that was compensated for by an extremely witty joke about a pin on my backpack etc. and him just generally acting/treating like a human being instead of a frightened alien dog or something. Literally just be socially competent, the bar is very low.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 05:54 PM
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The point of laws like this (i.e., the Nordic Model) is to reduce prostitution overall by making soliciting those services a high-risk activity while redirecting people who provide those services toward job placement programs and, in cases of trafficking etc., shelters and law enforcement.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 02:50 AM
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It is literally not. What part of that even implied that his standards are "too high"? What metric was proposed or implied for determining what is or isn't too high? My comment was about how we perceive our own experiences, not a prescription for the kinds of experiences we should be having.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 07:09 PM
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It's literally not about your standards lol it's about your perception. No one cares about your standards, just about the fact that you're trying to present your subjective experience of reality as being an objective assessment.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 07:05 PM
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The military's bloated as it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 05:42 PM
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They're not saying that your standards are too high, but rather that your standards act as a filter which informs both your immediate everyday experiences regarding women and your memory thereof. If someone doesn't stand out to you (for whatever reason, sexual or otherwise) then the space they take up in your head will be both less prominent and less lasting; the set that you're left thinking about will seem comprehensive even though it's actually just the subset which your mind found relevant e…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 05:13 PM
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Truly a touch grass moment
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 05:05 PM
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Okay, we should raise the minimum enlistment age and it's creepy for older people to want to date an 18 year old. Happy?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 04:48 PM
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...This planet? It's literally just a common thing that people say -- and so is "literally" as a way of adding emphasis. Also, this dull hyperfixation on presentation at the expense of addressing my actual earlier point (i.e., that something being "human nature" doesn't inherently justify it) is really validating your username.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 04:23 PM
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It's a turn of phrase, not an expression of mystery or ambiguity; obviously the feeling in question is resentment because that's literally what you were talking about and I was responding to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 03:55 PM
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since feminism started in 1848 Olympe de Gouges, Mary Wollstonecraft, et al. spinning in their graves rn
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 03:48 PM
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Tfw when you highlight women's lack of participation in parts of society that we've been systematically excluded from until extremely recently (and, in many cases, continue to be to some extent and degree of formality or another) as evidence of women not being good at those things 🙃 Also, if you properly understood the Freudian idea of penis envy (and you very clearly don't), then you'd probably also know how extremely dated and out-of-currency of a psychological concept it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 03:32 PM
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It's natural to feel some kinda way about any perceived personal shortcoming, failure, or unfair treatment, but it being reflexive and easy doesn't make it something healthy or helpful to just accept or--as some people ultimately start to do--revel in.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 03:20 PM
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idk why "white collar professionals tend to marry white collar professionals" is getting so much pushback in this thread when it's literally the case
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 03:37 PM
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Like you have to consider wealthier men date wealthier women because wealthier people spend more time and energy on their looks. Throwback to Jamila Jamil's "I'm pretty because I'm rich, actually" Tweet lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 03:32 PM
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Yeah exactly!! And tbh sometimes I feel like the mild, but aggregating, frustration of dealing with those kinds of one-dimensional but super confident takes is actually making me less inclined toward nuance lol. But yeah, this was a very pleasant break from that even though I'm sure we disagree on bunches of stuff 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 04:18 PM
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Tbh at this point I don't even know what "incel" means anymore, and if we're going with the basic definition of literally just "person who can't get to fourth base" then it's lowkey kinda wild that there's a specific term for and extensive discourse surrounding that. Anyway, it's always unfortunate when people are left feeling unfulfilled, inadequate, etc., so (again, going by the above basic definition), even if I disagree with their perspective, they definitely have my empathy and sincere well…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 03:39 PM
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What agency? Can you explain that part? If Jane has made the decision to be in a monogamous relationship with John and then John cheats on her, then Jane's agency--as expressed by voluntarily entering into that relationship--has been undermined because that act of infidelity has turned the relationship into which she voluntarily entered into a fiction that exists solely in her own mind; if her conception of the relationship being made to align with its reality would cause her to end, or at least…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 03:06 PM
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Sure, but I feel like "can keep a steady pace up two flights of stairs" is probably what's meant in an extreme minority of cases where people claim to want an "active" girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 02:39 PM
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You're definitely right that there's a lot nuance, and yeah, even if we talk about individual characteristics here irl flirting will always be a dynamic, contextual, multivariate process that's complex enough to be difficult to discuss hypothetically and settling into a steady relationship even more so. I just feel like a lot of that nuance, whether flattering or not to men and/or women, tends to get swept under the rug in this sub unless it's being used hyperbolically as a rhetorical bludgeon. …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 02:37 PM
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Having control v. not isn't exactly an unimportant factor. And idk about "most guys are into middle type girls" because it seems--from cultural observation, talking to other girls, and personal experiences from when I was stick-thin--that most guys' ideal body type for women is one that's more or less lacking in any noticeable muscle and, at most, just resting precipitously on the lower edge of a healthy BMI. There are couple other commonly desired body types, but they tend to not diverge from t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 02:29 PM
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It's not quite just expressing a preference, though, or they could literally just state their preferred body type in a partner; "active" makes an additional implied statement about things like physical effort and upkeep, diet, etc. as being traits they'd want her to have and, in this case, it's further being used in a way that's intended to negatively filter out certain body types (I assume invariably heavier ones) rather than, imo, positively seek out others (toned, lean, muscular, or whatever)…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 02:13 PM
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Well the average woman is under 200 lbs. but the average guy is not 8 ft. tall, so it sounds like you're probably better off sticking to girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 12:55 PM
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Tbf, and this is just based on guys I'm friends with, but I feel like if the guy stating a preference for an "active" woman is active themselves then they probably just want a partner who'll want to hike/swim/go the gym/run/whatever with them, and that's actually super wholesome and I 100% get it; if they're not an active person, though, then I don't see how it can be anything other than the most thinly veiled (and likely hypocritical) kind of body shaming. But, at least in my admittedly limited…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 12:44 PM
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And that completely makes sense in terms of subjective experience, but something being an understandable feeling doesn't make any given action upon that feeling ethically or morally valid. Like, if a third grader steals a classmate's favorite toy and the second kid kicks the first kid in response, then I think that most people would understand and even empathize with the second kid feeling justified in lashing out while still ultimately knowing that both kids need to be disciplined because (a) i…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 11:59 AM
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There are multiple different stable configurations of what a family should look like, but it's important to remember that they're stable in their own sociocultural context. Seeing one that you like and then unilaterally transplanting it into a society where it's, at best, very much not the norm isn't going to go as smoothly as that arrangement might work in its original setting, where it is the norm rather than a source of ambiguity and friction. It's not unlike basically every other social cust…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 10:57 AM
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Okay, so literally just go to couple's therapy and work through it in an open and honest way that ultimately strengthens the relationship rather than undermining and sabotaging your own marriage because you couldn't help but cater to your own insecurity (and in an actively spiteful way). And, if it's something that bothers you so much that you'll lie to your spouse and break solemn vows to address it, then why not ask about their history before getting married? Like that's actually a super norma…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 10:15 AM
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But like once you desecrate it, as in like literally make it into something not sacred or set apart, then what's even the point? Why not just cohabitate indefinitely and eventually just slouch your way into the legal benefits of a common-law marriage (if you're even in one of the handful of states that still recognize the origination of those)? I just genuinely believe that, while the individual is the basic unit of society, the family is the a socially indispensable composite unit, roughly anal…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 10:04 AM
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If he didn't get paid after "work[ing] like a slave making extra hours and someone else work" then idk how to tell you this but he wasn't working like a slave so much as he was actually a victim of enslavement by his employer and should probably send a strongly worded email to HR with "URGENT"--or, maybe, "I'M GOING TO SUE YOU"--as the subject line.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 09:44 AM
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Okay, but the thing the person you cheated on thought they were doing with a consenting adult was being in a committed, exclusive relationship. If you're deceiving them about that then you're compromising their agency in that respect, whereas if you just don't cheat then your own agency isn't compromised at all because no one forced you to be or remain in that relationship. This is a pretty one-to-one virtue-ethical translation of the classic political-theoretical maxim of "your rights end where…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 09:35 AM
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Not to tradpost or anything but this kind of tendency to let immorality get its foot in the door is exactly what happens when people stop treating marriage like a sacrament and start treating it like just any other kind of relationship we might have in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 09:28 AM
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If you're willing to do that to someone then why would you marry them in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 09:26 AM
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I feel like everyone knows men who are below average in terms of being conventionally attractive and who are, nonetheless, in relationships. I also feel like I've literally never seen someone get the "no it's your personality lol" treatment who hadn't said or done something to merit that tbh. Yes, obviously someone finding you attractive is an advantage with regard to getting to go on a date with them and their finding you unattractive is a disadvantage in that respect. That doesn't mean that pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 08:35 PM
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I don't support any of it but, tbf, those are all a lot safer (both physically for the woman and for everyone involved in terms of STDs/STIs) and less conducive to human trafficking/exploitation by pimps than traditional prostitution. Those platforms also all do age verification, which is also a historical problem with in-person sex work. [edited for punctuation]
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 08:26 PM
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Women perform femininity in courting/dating, everyone performs their employer's preferred brand of professionalism in the workplace, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 10:26 PM
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Honestly, it sounds like you've got some significant self-esteem issues and, whatever your other problems are, those'll keep you from making any progress on them because you'll feel like failure in any such effort is already a fait accompli. You definitely have good qualities; everyone does. And yeah, just being genuinely nice by itself isn't enough, but it's still extremely important and shockingly uncommon. Self-improvement is arduous and non-linear, but I believe in you :)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 10:25 PM
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Yeah, the ND/mental health stuff does make everything harder. Even for girls, not usually in terms of getting dates but definitely when it comes to the longevity of a relationship. As for not being into the "red pill 'alpha male'" thing, that's probably for the best because isn't their conception of masculinity basically just psychopathy and narcissism? With regard to performing a healthier version of masculinity, though, idk sometimes you've just gotta be performative to at least get your foot …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 09:33 PM
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Hot take: modern dating is broken because people stopped treating dating as something specifically intended to help you find a spouse. Pretty much every problem I've seen people whinge about in this sub is because of the open societal acceptance and proliferation of "casual dating", FWBs, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 09:26 PM
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Well, why do you think you're "pretty fucked"?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 09:18 PM
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So I'm not in a knitting club, per se, but I do semi-regularly knit/sew/embroider/etc. with friends and if one of our guy friends wanted to join us then I genuinely can't imagine anyone complaining, but I also don't think I could even pay any guy I know to do so. It's been my experience that there is, generally speaking, a profound disinterest among men regarding traditional female hobbies like that. I feel like there's genuinely only one guy who I know for sure can even darn a sock, and that's …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 08:15 AM
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this is literally the second time in as many days that someone on reddit has asked me if something i said is a reference to an internet person i don't know lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 08:25 AM
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fellas is it childish to healthily socialize
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 08:00 AM
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Imagine a world where men blamed women for making them want to have sex with them. So ... our world? That happens literally all the time, even in this sub; women using our "power" over men to fleece them, dressing in ways which exert that power over men more forcefully, deliberately keeping men tethered in the "friendzone" but hopeful of getting out of it for our own personal gain, etc. Like, men blaming women for men's own sexual desires is a genuinely ancient phenomenon and at the root of thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 10:13 PM
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The standard answer, and the one that I'm most sympathetic to, is that girls growing up tend to be shamed or repressed to some degree--a lesser one today, afaik, but still not a negligible one on average--in terms of sexuality; the lack of consent in the fantasy allows indulgence without culpability. Fifty Shades, for example, where the main sexual dynamic is characterized by what is, at least in terms of authorial intent, a consensual disparity in agency is just a softer version of that same tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 05:00 PM
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Huh, wild. Still, though, that doesn't change any of the rest of what I said, and actually supports my point about the longevity of those relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 04:52 PM
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Whenever people bring up the Dark Triad, they seem to gloss over the fact that one of the three is literally Machiavellianism and the other two are good at simulating desirable traits like confidence. Girls who get manipulated into thinking a guy's cool and self-assured aren't falling for him because being an egotistical psychopath is just so irresistibly attractive to women; they're falling for them because they're being manipulated. And while that might be enough to get some short-term partner…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 03:35 PM
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(idk what that second part means or how to do it)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 03:16 PM
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I know plenty of girls who'd identify or be characterized by others as "trad" and, yeah, they've virtually all given up entirely on trying to meet partners outside of like parish activities, family/mutual friend introductions, etc. specifically because there are so many guys out there who want that archetype but have zero interest in fulfilling the complementary one and dealing with that is a pretty disenchanting and dehumanizing experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 11:22 AM
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I guess anyone can be a SAHM irrespective of their sociopolitical views, whereas "tradwife" implies a certain dynamic in terms of male headship etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 06:46 AM
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Lol I'll throw that in a footnote sometime and see what happens. Maybe it'll become famous like the "This was revealed to me in a dream" citation.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 02:08 AM
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There's a lot of hard historical/anthropological claims being made there, care to share some of your reading material?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 01:57 AM
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Idk, are they also more willing to be platonic friends with neuroduvergent women than women are with neurodivergent men? Because, if not, then it's just a desperation/standards thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 02:11 AM
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...Accountable for what? Your own lack of emotional intelligence and social graces? And big [citation needed] on the idea that a "growing majority" of men are sharing your apparently insurmountable difficulties approaching women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 12:12 AM
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All I'm saying is that your line of reasoning is giving off massive Principal Skinner energy, and maybe you should look into that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 08:24 PM
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lol this isn't the just-world fallacy at work, it's just you not being as good at reading "indicators of interest" and/or approaching people as you're apparently convinced that you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 08:13 PM
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I like makeup; it's fun and can let you dabble in being a little artsy while also feeling pretty, and both creative expression and contentment with one's appearance are nice things to experience. I don't like the social expectation to wear makeup, like how if I didn't wear makeup any makeup at all to my internship one day my coworkers would think that something was amiss or how demonstrably better I'm treated by strangers when I do wear makeup. Like I'd genuinely never even consider going into a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 08:06 PM
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If men think that women have the same drive and desires as them, they'd start looking for random hookups and harass women I mean yeah, solid point, thank God that's not already a thing. Like could you even imagine?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 07:33 PM
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That's true, although it's a pretty funny thing to say in the specific context of a post about Dark Triad types lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 09:29 AM
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The cat was here first.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 03:38 AM
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True, if by "noticeably absent" you mean "explicitly present": (Just going to include that yes there were a couple of men that I did not find physically attractive. We all have our preferences, right?)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 04:26 PM
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well congrats on being exceptionally lacking in thirstiness, i guess
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 04:25 PM
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men arent that thirsty have you met men
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 04:21 PM
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From late middle school until my sophomore year of college, pretty much every time I dressed in revealing, form-fitting, etc. clothes it was for either utilitarian (e.g., for exercise or at the beach) or social (i.e., teenage and some early-twentysomething girls are really mean and conformity to cultural norms which you personally find uncomfortable is often a worthwhile tax to pay if it means avoiding the social costs of standing out in an uncool way) reasons. The small remaining percentage of …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 10:58 AM
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I've never said this nor heard literally anyone else ever say it irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 07:46 PM
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As a woman who's currently dating a guy and is friends with people of both sexes who are themselves in relationships, I'm so confused by this comment because that's exactly how dating works? You each tell the other person that you like them and then start putting more effort into developing your relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 07:06 AM
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OP discovers that studied, accomplished liars are more likely to be able lie successfully, more at 11
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 10:26 PM
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I mean as long as your gaming isn't like to a genuinely unhealthy point, why not just look for a partner who also likes video games?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 10:21 PM
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It varies wildly depending on where I am, how I'm dressed, what I'm doing, etc. If I'm just like doing errands or on campus then I'm probably pretty focused on what I'm doing and have on whatever clothes are comfy and big, leave-me-alone headphones, so if necessities are all I have time for then idk maybe once a week. If I go on a night out with friends or just for a drink by myself or something then that goes up.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 06:17 PM
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Try to politely express disinterest if they're being flirty, and interact with them like I would anyone else who's saying whatever they're saying if they're just being friendly. And idk, I'm not single rn so anyone of any level of attractiveness approaching me doesn't impact my dating life. When I was both single and open to dating, I guess it impacted it by making it so that I only potentially dated people I found attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 05:03 PM
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I feel like anyone, of any gender, who uses the word "sapiosexual" unironically is probably gonna be more frustration than they're worth.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 01:07 PM
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In most of these cases the criminal had a massive emotional investment on the victim for months and the subsequent rejection caused a limbic emotionally triggered rage. [citation needed] It's super common for men to react poorly to rejection after a "cold approach" (or to misread the situation entirely) and, while this doesn't always translate to physical violence, it does usually translate to some level of fear, anxiety, and discomfort, and why should anyone voluntarily go through that or roll …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 07:47 AM
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What does this even mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 11:45 AM
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Yeah, it's all very contextual. In that case, it was a pretty narrow building and so the line to get to the bartender was basically squished up against the people actually sitting at the bar, so since we were speaking at a normal volume it'd have literally been impossible for him not to overhear us and his cutting in was thus able to read as more serendipitous than creepy or impolite. The fact that he prefaced it with like a "sorry to eavesdrop" or "I don't mean to listen in" or something like t…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 07:05 PM
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Entirely possible, but the fact that either seemed plausible at least let us give him the benefit of the doubt and thus let him get his foot in the door. But it was more than just a better grasp of social norms and graces; that icebreaker of his established that he was witty, pretty knowledgeable (at least regarding the specific thing we were talking about), had interests similar to ours, and was capable of interacting with women the way one person interacts with another rather than the hunter-q…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 06:53 PM
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In certain sociocultural contexts, successful criminality (which tends to involve violence, or at least the threat thereof) is a source of status in and of itself due to a whole suite of underlying political-economic factors that I'm not going to get into here, and women do generally find status attractive ... which makes sense, since someone being broadly esteemed within any given community or subculture indicates that they possess character traits which the group(s) in question--of which we ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 06:18 PM
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It's just about how it's done. Like my friend dated a guy who we met at a bar for about a year, and it started when the two of us (while sitting at the bar, not a private table or in a booth) were talking about our research/trading dept. gossip and he--after organically overhearing us while waiting for the bartender--just chimed in with something informed and funny, which led to the three of us all talking and then to hanging out with him and his friend for the rest of the night and then everyon…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 03:32 PM
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How are you meeting people in your 20s who are more arbitrary and judgemental than the people you knew in high school?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 07:54 PM
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No like, his continued research disproved his earlier research. He literally calls the idea "outmoded".
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 07:52 PM
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As adults, maybe, but that's not really how I remember high school.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 07:26 PM
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"You Belong with Me" is literally just gender-flipped "Teenage Dirtbag". Neither is really mocked because both are marketed toward like 7th-10th graders and they're expected to be self-centered and low-key toxically romantic, it's part of that phase of development. Grown adults identifying too strongly with either song out of anything other than musical nostalgia is super cringe, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 05:19 PM
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The biologist who originated the alpha wolf thing later debunked his own work.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 11:14 AM
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I mean, agree to disagree ig
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 11:03 PM
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I feel like there's a fundamental teleological difference in what we're talking about. I'm saying that there are people--men and women--for whom dating is explicitly to find a spouse, not just a fun thing where finding a spouse is a potential secondary benefit. And, imo, the proliferation of the latter approach is the cause of most of the sociocultural issues between men and women that keep cropping up in this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 11:44 AM
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There are still plenty of people who see dating as how you find a potential life partner rather than just as recreation in and of itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 11:19 AM
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How is safety being important not real?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 11:12 AM
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If it's not mutual engagement then she's probably not interested. I've definitely been both of those people--the one leaving most of the responsibility for carrying the date to the guy and the one contributing equally to it--and in the former case it's because we just weren't really vibing, whereas in the latter I participated more actively because he was interesting so I actually wanted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 11:47 AM
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username checks out
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 10:38 PM
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I mean there's infinite things that could conceivably make someone unappealing, but it was mostly the misogyny and implied pedophilia; he could literally be Prince Charming otherwise and that'd still be enough for the hardest possible pass. I guess you could've also like made him racist or something, or just like really mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 08:54 PM
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I'd be making garlic tea and dropping whole bulbs in all my cooking for weeks
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 08:19 PM
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I mean I wouldn't be attracted to the woman, but I'd be actively unattracted to the man, so if it's a gun-to-my-head choice then #2; it'd end having been a completely neutral non-experience rather than something that leaves me feeling like I need to spend the rest of the day in a steaming bath, feverishly exfoliating the flesh from my bones.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 06:25 PM
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I feel like the salient threat is less about potentially bearing an untermensch into the world and more about being harassed or assaulted after turning them down.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 11:50 AM
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Also I live in a country where approaching people in public is very socially unacceptable There you go lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 11:32 AM
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I mean not in the later stages of pregnancy or immediately after, but otherwise for the most part yeah. The main limiting factor was usually social, with women not being permitted to engage in certain forms of labor; in situations where this wasn't a factor (e.g., farm labor) you generally tended to see a lot of parity. Like, biological differences are obviously a thing, but overstating their relevance isn't any more helpful than pretending that they don't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 09:58 PM
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In agricultural (i.e., the vast majority of people for the vast majority of history) societies and urban working-class (i.e., the vast majority of non-agricultural people for most of history since the start of industrialization) communities, men and women have, out of necessity, generally both contributed income/non-domestic labor to significant and similar degrees. A firm division between women as unpaid domestic laborers and men as outside-the-home breadwinners was a relatively socioeconomical…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 09:32 PM
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I 100% agree that precedent should be established early that neither person is ever expected to pay for anything other than their own stuff, and go out of my way to pay for myself on first dates. This actually has the double benefit of preventing a transactional dynamic from developing and seeing whether the guy's sense of self-worth is so vested in his capacity for financial contribution that he freaks out about not being allowed to pay.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 04:40 PM
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I mean I'm not disagreeing in terms of money specifically, although that's more or less a holdover from periods when women tended to just never be financially independent whether they wanted to be or not, but women are absolutely expected to treat their male partners as special, sacrifice for them, be entertaining, etc. It just manifests in different ways. But if you're in a healthy relationship then those externally imposed expectations kinda fall to the wayside and you tend to just enjoy being…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 04:17 PM
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If your partner doesn't see you as special, do things to make your life easier, spend money (or time, energy, or whatever finite resource) on you, and try to have fun with you then you--regardless of your gender--should probably try to find a new partner because it low-key sounds like they don't really care for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 02:11 PM
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I could see women facing less sexual harassment on one hand, but on the other hand there would be a lot less guys simping for women. So a win all around, then?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 12:52 AM
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...No? Confidence is attractive, but arrogance isn't; nor is an inability to distinguish between the two. Selfishness definitely isn't, and narcissism and low self-control are actively repulsive (and that's when the latter isn't terrifying instead). Patience is probably a neutral in this respect, but sweetness (if, by that, you just mean being considerate etc.) is attractive, and kindness and selflessness exceptionally so. A healthy understanding/display of those positive traits correlates to, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 05:35 AM
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I just don't understand why you'd be with someone if you thought that they were the sort of person to be unfaithful due to literally nothing besides having an opposite-sex friend. Like, that's obviously a pretty selfish person, so why be in a relationship with them in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 04:01 AM
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Society lets women work any job a man does and is then more generous when viewing the effort of their work. I was tentatively, conditionally agreeing with you until this point. Women's work is consistently devalued compared to that of their male peers, to the point that, for example, a lot of female academics try to minimize the potential for unconscious biases negatively impacting assessments of their work by publishing under their first one or two initials and their surname rather than their f…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 09:46 PM
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You say that sex isn't food, but you also don't seem to be able to articulate the nature of struggle-as-sexual-deprivation except by analogy to food (e.g., fish) or other basic material needs. Have you considered that, maybe, approaching the issue as one of quantity rather than quality might be part of the problem? Do you really think that the people who have endless strings of meaningless one-night stands are happier than those in committed, loving relationships? That indefinite promiscuity isn…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 07:31 PM
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Even if you look at Buddha as like some unreachable ideal, Aurelius and Lewis were just very regular but cool and smart dudes who experienced hardship, deprivation, and tragedy just like everyone else. And yeah, someone on the brink of destitution is definitely probably struggling, but it's because they are on the brink of destitution, not because other people aren't (unless you're talking about like systems of political-economic inequality, but the subjective experience of "struggle" as that wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 06:47 PM
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Sounds like the issue is letting your metrics for contentment be wholly defined by external factors beyond your control. Everyone from the Buddha to Marcus Aurelius to C.S. Lewis could tell you that there's never going to be any meaningful satisfaction found by that road. You really have to set your own goals for yourself, based on what you value and want to accomplish, and you'll find lasting contentment in those accomplishments because their meaning for you will be intrinsic rather than compar…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 04:01 PM
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even if you were a plumber making $100k a year, women probably wouldn't be lining up to date you because of the stigma surrounding your job. I mean, plenty would, though? None of the guys I knew in high school who ended up going into the trades seem to have had any issues with finding a partner, and I'm sure that the highly stable and non-negligible income (plus lack of student debt leading to just an overall solid financial situation) have at least something to do with that. Like, "union electr…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 03:25 PM
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