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| 28 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courage | article | NonZeroSumJames | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 13/07/25 02:16 AM |
| 13 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courage | Progress | NonZeroSumJames | /r/MensRights | 03/06/24 11:04 PM |
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| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageYes, I see what you mean "courage" is often framed in relation to "oppressive feminism" which is assumed to be the status quo by the likes of Andrew Tate. To this I can only answer that thinking critically is also important, as it always is. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/07/25 08:52 PM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageI've really had enough of having you falsely claim what I've written. This is from the post: Men are a group that poses risks to society, and yet they are an at-risk group themselves. 4 out of 5 victims of suicide are men Scott Galloway points out that, if this was any other group, we would talk about it in terms of needing better social programs and empathy. Again, the whole article is about men and boys it goes without saying that promoting policies that support specifically men and boys is co… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 16/07/25 04:14 AM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageI do accept that boys and me are people and not a problem. I never said they weren't a person.. these are words you've put in my mouth because you're apparently having an argument with an imaginary opponent. You're right though, there is no further point in this discussion. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 16/07/25 03:51 AM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageI'm not repeatedly running into this problem, you are apparently—your own words: We're all noticing it because it's an ongoing pattern Most people I've shared this with have found it positive, I've had loads of positive feedback on this article, even on this sub the upvote ratio is 87%. It just seems you and a few squeaky wheels here in the comments are intent or reflecting really poorly on your group, if that was your intention, you have done a stellar job, well done. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 16/07/25 03:48 AM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageI do know what I’m doing, I’m putting forward logical arguments, and advocating for policy change in favour of boys and young men. But yes when you refuse to accept reasonable points and instead respond with misquotes and character attacks then there appears to be little point continuing. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 15/07/25 03:21 AM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for couragePutting words I didn’t say in my mouth is the definition of bad faith | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 15/07/25 03:04 AM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageWhen did i say women are more important? Acknowledging that women also still face some challenges is just acknowledging facts. Women are equally important. You’re the one objecting to taking anyone else’s concerns into account. I’m taking the concerns of both men and women into account, this is called objectivity. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 15/07/25 03:02 AM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageI've explained why previously. Again the solutions help men and society, non-zero-sum. And when did I say we should ignore men? The article is about the issues men face, and proposes policies to help men. Do you realise that you haven't once in this entire discussion acknowledged what women have overcome or what they face today once? And yet you accuse me of not having empathy for boys even though I've acknowledged numerous times the difficulties boys and men face, and have promoted pro-male pol… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 15/07/25 02:42 AM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageAnd just some calibration of our empathy. The average man is 20% heavier, 8% taller and about 40% stronger than the average woman, so try to imagine the same situations you've been in yourself but with someone that much bigger and stronger than you. Now, there's a possibility you happen to have matched with women that are the same size and strength as you. But the average situation is the one above. And then there's 3x the chance of being killed by your partner while in a relationship or if you … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 15/07/25 01:53 AM |
| 0 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageIt you look in figure 2 you can see it is stipulated “attempted or completed”, the same statistic (10.7%—1in9), it’s just omitted in the previous title. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 15/07/25 01:25 AM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageI might need to tap out at this point, as this is distracting me from my work, sorry. I'd love to hear your thoughts though on other topics on the site, we'll probably find some areas of agreement in other realms. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/07/25 11:01 PM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageI might need to tap out at this point, as this is distracting me from my work, sorry. I'd love to hear your thoughts though on other topics on the site, we'll probably find some areas of agreement in other realms. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/07/25 11:01 PM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageI've actually gone to great lengths to point out that I'm advocating for male-focused policies, I haven't advocated for any explicitly female-focused policies. The reason I initially raised the issue of the threat of violence women face is because I wanted to point out that it's not as simple as women were oppressed in the past, men are oppressed today. I'm making two points. The oppression men face today is a minor over-correction compared with the oppression women faced historically (so our re… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/07/25 10:53 PM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageI'm not pushing feminism. I'm advocating for policies that benefit men, and also showing how they benefit society as well (which also includes men). I'm saying in the west we live in a post-feminism world where many steps have been made towards equality in one direction, some societies aren't. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/07/25 10:38 PM |
| -2 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageHave you read the actual report? The data is much clearer, and shows that even including made-to-penetrate, 1 in 9 men report attempted or completed made-to-penetrate, while 1 in 4 women report attempted or complete rape. 1 in 26 men report attempted or complete rape. I admit, the statistics are more even than I had expected, I still think there are qualitative differences between the cases that are material—but I'm not in a position to qualify them. An important statistic that's missing in this… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/07/25 10:35 PM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageIt wasn't the material suggestions you were making that I had an issue with Yes, but you were denying these by suggesting that I was proposing "nothing from that society in return". You were denying these because rhetorically it makes your point sound stronger (I assume). I think getting stuck rejecting anything that can possibly be interpreted as seeing boys as a problem to be solved is going to continue to be a barrier for MRAs connecting with the general population. The general population is … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/07/25 10:01 PM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageI was actually unaware of the made-to-penetrate statistics making that much of a difference, and I've looked into it and what you're saying checks out in this regard—I do find this difficult to parse as a male. A woman forcing a man to get aroused and penetrate her seems a very different experience than a man forcing himself on a woman. I'm entirely depending on my imagination here though. ... what you're proposing, to be honest: for men and boys to do their duty to help build society and expect… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/07/25 08:55 PM |
| -1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageI don't think women experience a greater threat of rape in society, they do. The need to try and cherry pick around this fact is baffling. You are right that my preconception about MRAs was that they were mainly motivated by conservative values, and obviously in this group of left wing advocates that is not the case. I'm not reflecting some traditional view when I describe women's fear of going out, it is a statistical reality that is consistent across the world. This is not a merely perceived f… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/07/25 07:13 PM |
| -1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageYou make a good point, I have only addressed this issue in a 'western' context, I think it would be difficult to deal with all the possible cultural differences across the globe in such a short article, not only are there areas where men face much greater threats but also areas where feminism hasn't pushed back patriarchy as far as it has in the west. My experience is necessarily that of a "middle class white man" and the messages I hear about this issue (on the other side) are also generally fr… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/07/25 06:47 PM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageI certainly have learned something about these particular sensitivities. The purpose of the post was not specifically to address this audience, it was for a general audience putting forward a logical argument, that works for everyone, I don't know what the point of writing an article suited only to one audience explicitly confirming their biases would be—which appears to be the article you'd prefer I had written. Perhaps you're noticing this pattern because it's absolutely normal to look at ever… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/07/25 06:35 PM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageYeah, the framing that if something is helping men as well as society (which includes all men) is "using" men, is pretty messed up, and sounds to the outside observer pretty entitled. It's like if you are the person who's job it is to do the dishes, and someone does the dishes for you because you were out and there were people coming over for dinner. Then you return and say, oh, I see you did the dishes... but you didn't do it for me, you only did it for all of us. That sounds pretty entitled, r… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/07/25 08:41 AM |
| 0 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageOkay, sorry I'm actually having difficulty understanding your point. But thanks anyway for reading. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/07/25 08:30 AM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageOkay, so you’re having an argument with a sort of amalgam of people who fit a narrative you’ve noticed. Well, that’s not me, which is why you have to keep putting words on my mouth, quoting things i haven’t said. You see how this could be frustrating for someone to engage with, right? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/07/25 06:18 AM |
| 0 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageYou realise that without prison data over 90% of rape victims are women, the paper you point to reaches parity by including prison data. Last I checked when people are out in the street and assessing the threat of being raped, they are not walking through a prison. This is what I mean, these stats are accurate, but entirely misconstrued. 90% of rape victims are women. So, if you are a woman, that is the disparity in risk you face going out for a walk in the dark, rape in the prison system is irr… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/07/25 06:10 AM |
| 2 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageI agree the article leans toward taking responsibility, while advocating for policies that benefit boys. We should hug our boys because we love them, no one is arguing with that. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/07/25 05:56 AM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageI'm motivated by win-win games, I want to find solutions in all areas that have benefits for individuals and the collective. It is the entire ethos of my site—it's in my username. The solutions I've put forward have benefits for men in particular and society in general. I don't see what the problem is, can we not consider the interests of others when advocating for ourselves? I don't know of any movement that has succeeded sustainably without doing so. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/07/25 05:46 AM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageDoes that help some 14 year old who is looking at his future and seeing nothing but struggle? No, it doesn't which is why I am advocating for supporting those young boys. It does bring some perspective to how egregious today's issues are or aren't relative to history, so that our response can be proportionate, rather than the pure outrage of someone thinks everyone's out to get them. you just have to treat men as people instead of problems to be fixed so other people can get on with their lives … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/07/25 05:39 AM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageAnd there's no shortage of people willing to place their own interests their own group over others. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Slavery But an Uncle Tom's not really accurate because there's quite a lot of coercion going on there, a better analogy for what you're accusing me of is probably a... https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Race_traitor#:~:text=Historically%2C%20people%20have,of%20Sussex.[19] | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/07/25 05:21 AM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for couragebombarded with language describing them as a problem, or laughing at what they see as issues (like recent posts lamenting that more men aren't killing themselves during men's mental health week) Am I doing this? It is a bit like the child too, and I am advocating for embracing that child (in the article) but I'm not tippy-toeing around him going "please don't burn down our village when you grow up precious child" if he starts burning things I'm going to call it out. We can walk and chew gum at t… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/07/25 05:16 AM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageWhen I say "actual explicit prejudice" I'm not trying to be snide I'm trying to illustrate the profound gap between the prejudice men face today and the prejudice women faced in the past to draw attention to the false-equivalence and the double standard being exhibited here. Making personal attacks about my character or motivations does nothing to address this point. Neither do points about the expedience of my approach relative to those on the far-right. Critics of wrong-doing are not responsib… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/07/25 05:06 AM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageThanks for your thoughts, I generally agree. I also am not strongly wedded to masculine attributes, the post, and I think Reeves and Galloway too, is wanting to promote an alternative to the toxic masculinity that is being promoted to young men, who want to be seen as masculine and saying "not all masculinity needs to look like UFC". As for those not looking at masculinity as a defining characteristic, I assume they are less vulnerable to manipulation in that dimension of their personality, and … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/07/25 04:49 AM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for couragePolicies are for the good of society (including men) and need to be justified as such. But feel free to blame others for your behaviour, sorry for driving you to the right... give me a break. Grow up. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/07/25 04:08 AM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageI appreciate your fair tone and reasonableness in this discussion. But I've heard similar claims to these in the past and haven't seen any evidence for them that hasn't been entirely misconstrued, or actually makes a material difference—like for instance claiming that men are more likely to be attacked, doesn't take into account that we live in a world where women avoid going out alone (so they don't get attacked because they're at home), and disregards the woman's ability to defend themselves c… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/07/25 04:00 AM |
| 0 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageYou seem to have gotten distracted by trigger words and missed the point of the post. Everyone matters, and when some man (usually) murders someone, it's actually more likely to be a man who is murdered, so I'm saying it benefits society in general (including men). Sorry if I haven't phrased things in a way that appeals to your need to have everything only take your needs as a man into account and no one else's. Are you against prison reform? Or male teachers? Not sure what you're trying to achi… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/07/25 03:22 AM |
| 0 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for couragethere was also a privileged woman who was with a privileged man. What are you talking about? Only 150 years ago women couldn't vote, did a woman get her vote if she was with a wealthy man? I think you're getting privilege via general wealth mixed up with privilege via discrimination (the topic we're discussing). | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/07/25 03:02 AM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageThanks for your comment, I think your points are fair. I'd like to clarify that my lack of empathy is not intended to be directed at men and boys but rather what I see as a particularly entitled and self-serving form of men's rights advocacy that denies or ignores the validity of historical prejudice when considering what is just and fair in the world today, and seems to want to deny any disadvantages that women still face today (like being the majority of rape victims and domestic abuse victims… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 14/07/25 02:42 AM |
| -2 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageI appreciate your points here. And I take your point that the race issue is not directly analogous, but it is partially analogous. Although anecdotes are not data, it's telling that my anecdote is about a woman in her 40s dealing with grandfathered in bosses in their 50s and 60s and your anecdote is about new hires who are good at socialising (something that older employees have always said about younger employees whether they're male or female). And your repetition of "newly minted" also tells … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 13/07/25 10:47 PM |
| -2 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageSorry, I don't find any of those points remotely convincing, it just all seems a little unhinged. I've explained my points, I don't think you've considered them adequately to provide any meaningful rebuttal. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 13/07/25 07:21 PM |
| 5 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageI'll check them out, thanks. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 13/07/25 07:08 PM |
| -3 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageRather than repeating the exact comment, I think my reply to Logos89 answers the first section of your comment. When women have a problem, all of society has an obligation to help them. When men have a problem, well, that's 100% their issue, and they need to solve it entirely on their own. I think you're forgetting the stipulation "... a problem, that is, in large part, the result of 1000s of years of male domination, then all of society has an obligation to help them". This is the part people, … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 13/07/25 07:07 PM |
| 0 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageThanks for your comments, I actually agree with pretty much all of that block of text (dude.. paragraphs!). On your points of disagreement. To me the goal shouldn't be about creating some new healthier standard for masculinity. It should be about extending empathy to individuals who are male as humans in need of and deserving of help. Well, the post definitely advocates for "extending empathy to individuals who are male...". And I don't mean to suggest that we change the definition of masculinit… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 13/07/25 06:23 PM |
| 0 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageThanks for your comment, I think I can clear this up.. We aren't in a post scarcity society We aren't? I think if you spend a day living in basically any other time in history, I think you'd disagree with present day you quite adamantly. We also live on a very positive-sum planet which receives free energy from the sun every day (actually every day and night given it's daytime somewhere all the time). But specifically about the issue of allocation of funding. Funding is a constant-sum issue, as … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 13/07/25 06:11 PM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageHi Song of Pain, I really do appreciate your points, and have learned something from this discussion, I'd like to wrap this up though. So, I'll try to not be too argumentative.. Do you not think being held back a grade is stigmatizing? I have explained my position on this. Also, I haven't supported red-shirting in the post, or quoted Reeves about it in the post. I'm not in a position to argue on behalf of Reeves, he may have other reasons for this position. My statement that he focuses on, and c… | /r/MensRights | 09/06/24 08:22 AM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageI think you should consider the girls in sport analogy more seriously, try to look at it as if it were being employed not as a new policy. Your dismissal of it just seems like doubling down on your position. Your other objections are simply your opinion versus mine so obviously not much point following up on that. As for red shirting I’m not up to date on the discussion, but if that’s your reason for dismissing all of Reeves’s scholarship on the issue I bony agree that’s fair. But, again, you’re… | /r/MensRights | 08/06/24 07:09 PM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageThanks, I appreciate the kind words. | /r/MensRights | 07/06/24 03:58 AM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageIf we measured, say, black people, as having lower IQs than white people, do you think it would be stigmatizing to make a less strenuous educational track for them? Of course it would. Three points. Having a lower IQ and developing-later are entirely different propositions. One is stigmatising because it limits the person's abilities and condemns them to a life of being considered lesser based on a metric many find important. The other is not-stigmatising because it has zero implications for one… | /r/MensRights | 06/06/24 11:13 PM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageHi again, At the ground level, the bias is anti-male This is merely an assertion, not an argument. it's only affecting 1% of women The fact that lucrative, high status, high power jobs are dominated by men doesn't only affect 1% of women, it affects all women. Really, are you capable of thinking about this issue from a perspective other than your own self-interest, surely you can see that women seeing men in nearly all the positions of power is going to make them a little circumspect about liste… | /r/MensRights | 06/06/24 07:07 PM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageSo you were a teacher? | /r/MensRights | 06/06/24 07:13 AM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageOh right, I didn't mean to be on the "video games are bad for you" train. I literally make video games, it was more about withdrawing from real life experiences. | /r/MensRights | 06/06/24 03:49 AM |
| 2 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageHi Clemicus calories Never mind, litigating analogies is no fun :) it's not clear who or what you're referring to (in the paragraph that ends with "may have been misguided"). Well, grammatically it's me that was misguided. I've actually edited that paragraph now to be less offensive. The way I was viewing it was you got your impressions of the men's rights movement from someone else or something else than a poster on here. Like a Youtuber. Perhaps, though my experience on this thread, instead of… | /r/MensRights | 06/06/24 03:24 AM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for couragecollective guilt Or inherited advantage. I'm just saying it's a bit difficult for the group, who are still facing discrimination in all the lucrative, high status aspects of society, CEOs, pro-sports, Presidents etc due to historically inherited disadvantages to have sympathy for MRAs when they communicate in such an aggressive and simultaneously self-pitying way. If the game was positive-sum, then women helping men would be seen as good in and of itself. This is actually a good point, and I thi… | /r/MensRights | 06/06/24 02:14 AM |
| 2 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageThanks, I see, it looks like the book is an answer to the term from the Manosphere perspective so to speak. | /r/MensRights | 06/06/24 01:18 AM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageThank you for your apology. I appreciate that. You said that I should feel ashamed I'm not sure what's going on here, but you seem to be quoting something I didn't say. I never use the phrase "should be ashamed" I think shame is wholly unproductive. You may have misread someone commenting to me, as I have, at least once, on this thread, been told that I should be ashamed. Can you think of any other group where you would think it fair to say that members of that group who suffer violent abuse sho… | /r/MensRights | 06/06/24 01:10 AM |
| 2 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageI was just trying to answer your questions briefly instead of trying to tackle everything your blog post tried to cover. Thanks, please don't feel the need to address everything in the blog :) doing your best to handle things civilly Thanks I used to argue unproductively on the internet a while ago, and it just raised my cortisol levels, now my key aim is to connect and understand. So looking for win-wins or non-zero-sum thinking, is fine, but the main issue is it ignores some of the underlying … | /r/MensRights | 05/06/24 10:24 PM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageHi again my friend I would question the "history of male dominance" ... really? Are we having a serious discussion or are we playing games here? The issue is we're very aware that we're up against people who think the situation is zero-sum & it is zero sum Is a perfect illustration of why I'm writing the post, two sides who both see the issue in zero-sum terms. I'm pointing out just the things that are non-zero-sum about the issue, that's the scope of the post, that's the purpose of nonzerosum.g… | /r/MensRights | 05/06/24 09:53 PM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageWhat did we start? I believe you were saying that the lack of sympathy for MRAs came before MRAs started communicating in a way that would lead to a lack of sympathy. I was saying that the history of male dominance through history, and the suppression of women's rights leading up to feminism probably didn't engender much sympathy in the feminist movement for Men's Rights when it came on the scene. I guess I'm saying gender inequality didn't begin as a result of feminism, the pendulum may have sw… | /r/MensRights | 05/06/24 09:00 AM |
| 0 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageWoah there, I wasn't winky-facing you to be passive aggressive, I thought you said you hadn't read it yet, I was meaning it might not be what you expect. As I've explained to others the preamble about my previous impression of MRAs was a set up to make the point that I was mistaken (which I do in the same paragraph). I admitted I was wrong and I changed my mind—don't make me change it back! (jokes). No wolf in sheep's clothing here, mate. I'm just a guy trying to think things through out loud. I… | /r/MensRights | 05/06/24 05:37 AM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageI've never had this impression of feminists... it would be weird to make the claim they are regressive or playing the victim. And even now after I just published an article advocating for men's rights, and asking feminists to have empathy for men, who do I get aggression and vitriol from? MRAs... not feminists. Not once in the post did I say anything positive about feminism at all, not once did I say people should deny their masculinity, or be more feminine. And yet you're still not happy. I hav… | /r/MensRights | 05/06/24 04:59 AM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageany criticism of Feminists seems to require a preamble I don't see you making any such effort. In fact if you look at the post and my comments here you will see that I have been bending over backward to be polite and courteous. Then have a read through yours and other comments and see if you've done the same. I believe in equal rights for both men and women, if you choose to call that feminist then that says more about you than it does me. The post advocates for men's rights in a way that might … | /r/MensRights | 05/06/24 03:48 AM |
| 2 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageJust an aside, can you point me to an online definition of the manosphere that is more neutral, I'm looking, but seems over-run with the term used as a pejorative. | /r/MensRights | 05/06/24 01:29 AM |
| -1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageI still don't agree with the feminist concept of toxic masculinity Yep, one of the first quotes in the post is... "We've conflated toxicity with masculinity" - Scott Galloway So, yeah, perhaps read the post ;) | /r/MensRights | 05/06/24 12:55 AM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageHi, just like to reiterate that I'm trying to advocate for the men's rights in the post, and don't hate men or boys... I am a man. Redshirting boys isn't saying that boys are intellectually inferior, it's saying they mature later—which they do. Galloway talks a lot about this issue, more so than Reeves, you might find his style and manner more accomodating. I don't find the term "patriarchy" very useful, and generally don't use it. I don't think it's in question that our history has been dominat… | /r/MensRights | 05/06/24 12:50 AM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageHi Clemicus, thanks for your lengthy and considered reply. Apologies for the rant No worries :) We can still be friends. I do feel like the post has been misinterpreted as an attack on Men's Rights when in fact it advocates for them. We are on the same side... I think. Could you give examples of these individuals you were listening to and the reasons why they gave you that impression? I can't go back in time and find examples I'm afraid, but I have noted one in this very thread that gives the ba… | /r/MensRights | 05/06/24 12:37 AM |
| -1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageu/Clemicus does this comment (above) qualify as one that might give people the impression I originally had of MRAs? It has 4 upvotes... so there is some approval, even in this group. By the way guys friendly fire... the post is advocating for men's rights. | /r/MensRights | 04/06/24 11:26 PM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageHi again WhereProgressIsMade, I do cover in the post why courage is somewhat protected against abuse, defining it as "doing something difficult because it's the right thing to do" or clarified by Christine Emba "for the good of others". In this way for something to be courageous the intent at least needs to be good. I don't mean this to be flippant, but have you read post itself? So far you seem to have only addressed the title. If you haven't, I recommend reading it, it is really a case made to… | /r/MensRights | 04/06/24 11:22 PM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageHave you listened to any of Scott Galloway's talks on this? He hasn't written a book on it yet, but has a lot of productive things to say about how we raise boys and how to help them cope with their differences, and addressing classroom inequities (like low numbers of male teachers). I think he and Reeves are both very concerned with making the early years of boys' lives more conducive to their natural inclinations. the lack of sympathy comes first I'm not really concerned with who said what fir… | /r/MensRights | 04/06/24 11:07 PM |
| 1 | Why do Marxist feminists not allow men to discuss loneliness?I wrote something about this today, the zero-sum mentality of men's issues. | /r/MensRights | 04/06/24 07:32 AM |
| -2 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageHi Lucifer Londonderry, I appreciate your input. I realise that paragraph is pretty confronting. I hope it was made clear at the end of that paragraph that this was an attitude I conceded... ... may have been misguided. The characterisation was meant to be a caricature that I realised was flawed. I concede further that on Reddit, on a well-moderated group like this, toxic masculinity in defence of 'men's rights' is kept pretty well in check. But you must be aware of how the group has, in the pas… | /r/MensRights | 04/06/24 05:10 AM |
| 2 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageTotally agree as mentioned in the post here... ... and can be adopted by anyone of any gender. and here ...will make you feel more like a master of your own will, more of a leader and more masculine, regardless of your gender. and here I want my daughter to have this sort of courage The idea of non-zero-sum games is that we can allow for both sides to thrive. The reason I singled out courage as a useful attribute is because I can imagine many men who value masculinity, and feel it is threatened … | /r/MensRights | 04/06/24 04:38 AM |
| 1 | MASCULINITY ~ a case for courageThanks for your comment, I agree that every man needs to be their own solution to this issue. The post is not meant to be prescriptive, rather to make a case for courage as sort of touch-stone for measuring one's masculinity, rather than many of the more anti-social metrics we are offered from different media avenues. Do you think courage is an important attribute of masculinity? | /r/MensRights | 04/06/24 01:01 AM |
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