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Her cycle is all over the place, virtually untrackable.
/r/askMRP19/11/17 10:57 PM
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From recent oys: 5'9, 151 lb., 18% BF (Navy method); Stats | Weekly pic Been lifting 5 months now, first SL5x5, now Phrak's GSLP. Yes I've read NMMNG but apparently haven't internalized much of it. Daughter ate the same things as the rest of us. Yes, I'm a man.
/r/askMRP19/11/17 05:35 PM
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Why did the anger start? I wish i knew.
/r/askMRP19/11/17 05:26 PM
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I should read it again, then. So, should i maybe have just let her be when she walked out?
/r/askMRP19/11/17 03:14 PM
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Wait, seriously?
/r/askMRP19/11/17 02:44 PM
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Do you think those anonymous Chads are tying themselves in knots trying to guess what she wants? This is only one reason the vets here keep saying 'get out of her frame': you're responsible for your needs and desires, she's responsible for hers. Bending yourself to what you think she needs, is a perfect way to waste your life, sacrifice your own happiness, for no good end, and repulse her with your niceguyness in the bargain. Get out of her head.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/17 10:14 PM
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"And even if the Asshole in question is much, much bigger than you, and you do have a high chance of getting your ass kicked, the Alpha thing to do is to go ahead and get your ass kicked." ~ http://theredpillroom.blogspot.com/2012/08/the-male-social-matrix-back-to-sandbox.html
/r/askMRP15/11/17 07:06 PM
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Yeah, I probably heard abuot it from some PUA stuff and was just able to verify it with experience. Incidentally, I keep seeing the term "outdated" WRT to various PUA ideas. Obviously, if X-percent of girls have had someone run The Cube on them, then it's jumped the shark. But I can't see how core concepts like "statements vs questions" or "qualifying vs validation-seeking" would have an expiration date.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/17 03:41 PM
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Oops, omitted that: Reference interval is 250-827 ng/Dl. Edited in OP. Doc actually offered me the option to start with the 2-week clomid trial or go straight to TRT injections.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/17 05:15 PM
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I think the ideal of true outcome independence is a bit of a myth (after all, we do love our wives, right? So caring SOMEWHAT about how they react to us is totally normal) I've always kinda thought the same thing, especially in the beginning. It doesn't make much sense to "be OI about food" if you think you're starving. Fortunately sex is not food or air, so I've got time to improve me before I starve to death. For me, it became something like, "I'm going to have a great sex life, and I'm becomi…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/17 04:15 PM
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=================== OYS week 24 Six months. Doesn't feel like it. I thought I'd be farther along. But it's all up to me, regardless. Currently reading: Athol Kay's Mindful Attraction Plan. With my recent house-hunting leadership blunders, I'm seeing that I need to let progress happen in multiple areas of my MAP, rather than trying to force one issue just because I think it's supposed to work a certain way. MAP highlights this idea with its notion of "energy sets". It's unlikely that I'll see hug…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/17 03:36 PM
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I'm trying to hit one-half-to-one-pound per week, so 180 will be like in a 6-12 months, if I'm diligent with calories. Currently keeping it simple: around 1-gram-per-pound of protein, and fill out the rest with whatever. (Weight is measured consistently, daily, naked right after the morning piss, and gain/loss comparisons are based on a 7-day moving average.) I'll make it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/17 11:45 PM
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=================== OYS week 23 Things I think I'm doing right: Lifting: 5'9, 150 lb. Stats | Weekly pic Business: I've started with a business coach to look for ways to make this more of a company and less of just me freelancing and scrambling to keep up with deadlines. Health: Got blood work done for low-T evaluation, and have a doctor's appointment on Friday to discuss findings. Things I need to adjust: Nutrution: Current plan to 180 @ 0.5 - 1.0 pound per week, but this week I lost .5 pound. …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/17 05:57 PM
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Yeah, lots of fun at parties, too.
/r/askMRP06/11/17 11:54 PM
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I probably need to just trust my gut a little more. Life is "safe" when you think you have a playbook with all the "right" things to do, but by age 44 a fella's gotta realize life doesn't work like that.
/r/askMRP06/11/17 11:52 PM
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extra slowly, whats that about Can I ask you to elaborate?
/r/askMRP06/11/17 10:07 PM
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Getting us into a home that works for us is a big part of my mission. Of course, being an inconsiderate dickhead is not. So it seems to me I need to do a much better job of actually leading and getting buy-in, which probably involves slowing down, listening, and moving with a clear purpose. Is that what you mean?
/r/askMRP06/11/17 10:00 PM
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desperately tying to be alpha Yeah.
/r/askMRP06/11/17 09:35 PM
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I'm guessing there's some way to make this work. If I'm just fucking this up completely I need to adjust.
/r/askMRP06/11/17 09:29 PM
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Damn. Just when I thought I was getting the hang of this.
/r/askMRP06/11/17 09:25 PM
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=================== OYS week 22 Overall a good week, and seems like progress. House: Good: The plan is to sell this "eternal unfinished project that will never be what I want even if I finish every project" house and move into one I actually want to live in. The real estate agent came by last week, so now I've got a target sale price for my house, and can make intelligent decisions about how much to fix it up, if at all. I also realized that I have a half-forgotten savings account with enough fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/17 04:16 PM
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TRT is a possibility; still investigating.
/r/askMRP24/10/17 03:15 PM
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=================== OYS week 21 Things are "going well" but I have few objective measurements (er, because few measurable goals; hmmm...). Procrastination: A lot of my RP journey has been about making substantial changes in my own vision of who I am. Old New Keep the wife happy at all costs Make myself happy I'm just naturally skinny Mesotypes are bs and I'm getting back my naturally bulky self Victim of life I set my own course Those have mostly worked so far. It's time to add one more: Old New…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 02:54 PM
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Cool thing is, I can spend a ton of time looking for resources to help with procrastination; then I don't have to work.
/r/askMRP23/10/17 05:10 PM
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Jocko Willink Subscribed. Thanks.
/r/askMRP23/10/17 05:09 PM
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So no shortcuts? Damn.
/r/askMRP23/10/17 03:48 PM
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Much truth here. It's like a training ground for drunk captains.
/r/askMRP23/10/17 03:21 PM
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OYS is where it's at.
/r/askMRP23/10/17 03:13 PM
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Thanks. Somehow i recently got the impression that you and spt were the same person. Not so, i guess?
/r/askMRP23/10/17 12:18 AM
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This one isn't linked from the sidebar, is it?
/r/askMRP22/10/17 08:51 PM
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I'm guessing bf around 20%. Currently bulking to 180 (on your advice, actually), so not trying to get lower bf right now. Recent pic. It might be 5 or 6 months before I start cutting bf, but I'm in no hurry.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/17 03:16 PM
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=================== OYS week 20 Sex: I've been mostly uninsterested in sex the past couple of weeks, at least. It's odd, considering how even just a few months ago I was counting days from one encounter to the next. I've tried to figure out why this is. Is my wife just inherently unattractive? Have I just given up on it inside? Am I too busy in other areas of my life to make time for sex? Is my testosterone dropping off? (This last one is measurable; see below.) Then I ask myself: shouldn't I be…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 02:28 PM
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Everybody's different, but I was never able to get my head right when lifting at home -- getting out of her frame meant getting out of the house, and a gym membership meant so much more than access to proper equipment.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/17 10:47 PM
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Really curious here: Practice on hired guns seems equivalent to lifting with feathers. Have you found it actually leads to real gains?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/17 10:43 PM
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I agree, it sounds low, but indeed I'm gaining weight, about 1 - 1.5 pounds per week, on a 7-day average. Here's a chart of my weigh-ins. I'm weighing consistently every day (naked, after the morning piss) and consistently after every gym workout (different scale, in gym clothes). The linked chart shows weights, 7-day average, 7-day gain/loss, for both home weight and gym weight, and average difference between home and gym.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/17 04:36 PM
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how is your diet? Have you been cutting all this time? Daily diet is: minimum 140 grams protein (body weight is 151) and 2200 calories (almost always home-cooked foods and rarely a packaged sweet snack); this is gaining me around 1 pound per week body weight. Cutting (1.5 pound/week): June 27 to Aug. 22 Level out for a couple of weeks. Bulking (1 pound/week): Aug. 29 until now Also edited my OYS to note that I'm getting 8 hours sleep every night. I'm gonna post on r/gainit to see what they say.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/17 03:31 PM
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looking like an "operator" No, not the shoot me first vest. I'm okay to look a little rugged, but absolutely don't want to get pegged as a "gun guy." More like this: https://i.pinimg.com/736x/3e/38/ab/3e38ab992773a181c6d4e2616fe985e3--corey-stoll-gq-magazine.jpg gay Seriously? Are you sure, man? I can't imagine a place where there's a complete absence of tough old bikers, rockers or pool-hall ass-kickers, well dressed businessmen, dapper and tatted-up guys who know the value of a ring or a brace…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 10:26 PM
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between looking good and carrying my pistol I get you. I carry concealed 24-7; if I have a belt, I have a gun. I carry appendix; sub-compact taurus pt111 g2, so not a Glock 40. But anyway, same concern. This guy has some decent ideas: http://www.dapperconcealedcarry.com/ But yes, there's just not a lot of people asking "how can I look sharp while I carry concealed?" If you haven't yet, experiment with different carry positions. It can make a big difference. I've found nothing that beats appendix…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 09:58 PM
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=================== OYS week 19 This week was coasting, not really pushing forward on my mission. Frame: fuck-up and big distraction It's all good to keep a strong frame in the face of other people's petty shit, but in the face of my own mistakes it's a different matter. If I fuck up, and people get hurt, it's not so easy to act like a strong and confident man. On Tuesday I made a careless mistake that could have gotten a lot of people hurt. The way it shook out, there was no real damage, but I …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 03:00 PM
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. Paying no attention to her when she's behaving like a child has been working very well so far. Frankly, i think most of them want the freedom to have feelings without worrying how it will affect their man.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/17 04:50 PM
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=================== OYS week 18 I was out of town this week on business, so a good break in routine. Approaching / game / conversation / confidence: As expected, being in a big city, I had more chances to approach and strike up conversations with attractive women, and I'm fairly satisfied with my effort and results. Waiting on a bus, asking directions, whatever. I was happy to note that I could fairly easily approach attractive women, even in groups, and have a decent exchange without feeling li…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/17 02:11 PM
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When someone says something and you think over 3 different ways to answer it, he is onto something. Great little self assessment guideline, right there.
/r/askMRP01/10/17 03:10 AM
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Have oneitis for someone else which I'm working through Terrible reason to do anything.
/r/askMRP30/09/17 03:52 PM
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TBH, it's notable that she even asks; it means she's interested in doing well, whatever "doing well" means.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/17 01:16 PM
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Family brunch after church each week You sure you want to lock in a routine line that? Routines can get boring and still be hard to stop because they "mean something". How about committing yourself privately to making time for family and being creative with how that happens based on the needs of the moment?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/17 12:24 PM
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“yeah, it happens”. Gold.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/17 12:23 AM
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=================== OYS week 17 I had a bit of a breakthrough in the last week or so, mainly in the form of internally giving up on my wife (see my last OYS post and "beginner FR" post), which seems to have had the effect of shedding a lot of my covert contract thinking, and reminding me of my responsibilities to myself and my own mission. That I'm "on the right track" was at least partially confirmed by the events in that FR. Overall: I'm now working to continue staying focused on my mission, b…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/17 12:19 AM
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I'm traveling today, and pull out your book again on the flight. I actually had read up only to DL3 so far before putting it aside for MRP 101 material. Today I read through that very section in the discussion on DL4. Read it a few times, actually. Great breakdown of time/attention/affection/presence and when & how to remove them.
/r/askMRP26/09/17 11:57 PM
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Duly noted. Thanks.
/r/askMRP26/09/17 04:51 PM
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Didn't realize that. Okay, thanks.
/r/askMRP24/09/17 03:20 AM
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I think I need to add some distance too This, man. Look, she's fucking you and coming like a freight train every few days, you say. That's great. What guy would want to step back from that? What guy would want to make a single legitimate substantial action to change any god damn thing, if it might rock that boat? Guys with options would, if those options are a world full of hot chicks drooling over his awesomeness. But besides that world full of hot chicks, there are other options a guy can have…
/r/askMRP23/09/17 09:26 PM
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Still gotta read poon yet. Will keep that 2/3 in mind.
/r/askMRP23/09/17 06:13 PM
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I was actually advised by a minister, just before we married, to make a point of going to bed together; he didn't say why. I later thought it made sex easier, but have since found that routine bedtime sex is boring AF. Nice tip on the language of inviting her to come along, and similar notion of Those who come to me to say hi get an enthusiastic greeting, those who don't, don't . That's a big part of what I've been learning these past few days: "I'm going this way, fun people are welcome to come…
/r/askMRP22/09/17 10:23 PM
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do not ask, request, or otherwise verbalize your needs. instead command them Great advice. Thanks.
/r/askMRP22/09/17 10:14 PM
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Noted. And yeah, totally worth watching out for.
/r/askMRP22/09/17 10:13 PM
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Yep totally. That sort of came naturally in my first days of unplugging. It made me feel like a 70s soap opera star at first, but there was no denying the strength of it. But it's pretty hard to actually sleep like that for long.
/r/askMRP22/09/17 06:07 PM
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It took me some time to see what else I want to focus on, really, having made a habit for years of living in everyone else's frame but my own. Spending more time away from her, reading, and lifting have all helped. Hit that sidebar, brother. Edit: I see you've been at this for a while now. Keep it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/17 12:29 PM
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Yeah, and it's not just the sex either. It's living my own life again, and seeing who wants to come along.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/17 01:29 AM
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Thanks, man. It's finally clear to me (after 16 weeks of being told as much in this sub, and ostensibly "knowing" it myself) that there's no sexual energy between us; so I've just decided to stop pretending there is. Out with the old (us), in with the new (me).
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/17 04:33 PM
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Yes, of course.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/17 10:54 PM
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=================== OYS week 16 This week I had something of an attitude shift toward my marriage. I think I'm starting to see a direction for myself here. I took some time to write out what I want in various areas of my life (see below). These need more detail to be measurable goals, but I'm glad to have this much. The sexual relationship with my wife is not on the list. That's just on hold for now, and that's the attitude shift I'm talking about. I know, RP is a sexual strategy for men. Right …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/17 12:45 PM
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You may not care. Ultimately I don't care if you don't care. Not sure if you thought of this, but your reply is really valuable to new guys like me, putting some perspective on OP's heartfelt, if wrong-headed, personal "testimony" (as we used to call such things in church). So whether it's valuable to him or not, I'm glad you wrote it.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 04:21 PM
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=================== OYS week 15 This week has been marked by an odd lack of productivity. Odd because I kinda don't care about it while at the same time it worries me. Things I've been focused on: Good: Chatting up women who would intimidate the "old me", and making additional opportunities to encounter them (e.g., wandering the mall), with the aim to build confidence in interaction. Good: Shifting my business from a "selling my time by the hour" model to an "I run a company with efficient syste…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 04:05 PM
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=================== OYS week 14 Self-improvement: Still reading TRM Year 1. Rollo makes this great point that personality is malleable. This is encouraging, and I'm working on changing my own personality and self-identity, for example: I've always thought of myself as a naturally skinny guy, an "ectomorph", degrading to skinny-fat if not watching my food consumption. But now I'm bulking to 180 pounds. I thought it was hard to imagine myself at 180, but I've started trying to visualize that frequ…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/17 03:25 PM
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When I was planning this and told my wife How did you tell her? Was it an announcement as a courtesy so she wouldn't be taken by surprise, or was it a feeler to see how she would react? I just got back from a weekend of actual solo camping. I thought the wife and kids would balk at the idea, but they didn't. Maybe they just don't miss me, but I think it was the way I announced it: at dinner, here are some upcoming schedule things (ballgame next week, family camping the following weekend, school …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 10:13 PM
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Family/Leadership: doing the minimum School started this week. I've got daughter #2 for three classes, and we started off fine; I'm helping the older daughter navigate the local junior college, where she's taking her high school classes this year. Wife is handling the rest: other classes for daughter #2, and all classes for #3. I'd like to be leading her on that, but I've been completely handing it to her with almost no guidance for almost 10 years now; I've not even begun to break that habit in…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 02:11 PM
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Yeah, good point. I've actually made that point to others in my time. Also reminds me that acta non verba holds for me as well.
/r/askMRP23/08/17 12:19 PM
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=================== OYS week 13 Sidebar: Good Finished MMSLP. Will want to read it again some time, but moving on through the rest of the sidebar first. Started TRM Year 1, and got through the first section, "The Basics." I like the focus of a book more than a series of blog posts, but for the sake of structure I've decided to tackle the sidebar in order, so might as well do this now. But I'm also thinking of starting Marcus Aurelius too, thinking it will help me in building a stronger mindset. …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 02:21 PM
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The answer is always me.
/r/askMRP21/08/17 09:16 PM
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Ballsy. I can hardly imagine having a conversation like that.
/r/askMRP21/08/17 06:53 PM
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Thanks for the link. Sounds like what he's saying there is that sexual "retirement" is an appealing escape for a woman who's seen sex as "work". So, is there really such a thing as ‘sexual retirement’ for women, or is it just a convenient way of casting off a woman’s Beta-husband need for ‘pleasure’ after a certain age?
/r/askMRP21/08/17 06:43 PM
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Not yet.
/r/askMRP21/08/17 06:29 PM
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I don't know if she ever was. Early on I think she was attracted to the idea of having a great husband, but not really to me specifically.
/r/askMRP21/08/17 06:09 PM
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vaginal dryness Good question. If she's ever attracted to me, that will be something to look into.
/r/askMRP21/08/17 05:43 PM
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Ok, I'm sold. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/17 05:03 PM
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Wow, I can't even imagine myself at 180. That's food for thought, man.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/17 03:47 PM
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No I'm lifting, as heavy as i think i can without risking injury. The question at hand is bulk or cut. Right now I'm cutting, and am considering accelerating that cut so i can get to my target bf% sooner and start bulking.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 12:36 PM
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Thanks man. This is working pretty well for me now. In previous "get fit" attempts I've had a hard time seeing progress. Now, several weeks into this cut, I'm feeling a lot better for having lost fat, and am getting some visible (to me) gains from lifting. Probably I'm biased by my own experience, which is that "more fit" for me has usually meant "thinner", and "less fit" has meant "fatter"; "more muscular" has never seemed like a possibility, so I'm habitually reaching for the easy progress of …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 10:13 PM
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=================== OYS week 12 Lifting & fat loss: I'm not heavy now (5'9", 149 lb.) but want to get down to ~10% body fat before shifting to a slight caloric surplus and focusing on lean gains. Good: Liting was great this week. No noise from the back injury, and steady progress back to pre-injury levels. Aiming for better form and less chance of injury, I've halved the weight increases in SL5x5 and am satisfied with the slower progression. Bad: On a one-night campout with the family, I chucked…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 03:12 PM
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I see. Yep
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/17 04:44 PM
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I see. yep.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/17 04:40 PM
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What CCs are you seeing there?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/17 03:00 PM
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=================== OYS week 11 Self-learning: Decided to back off of initiating for a while, as an experiment to see if it helps me get more clear about what I want and who I am, actually establishing frame for myself. I was surprised to find that this induced some dread in me: this feeling like, "if I'm not initiating sex, am I still a husband? Won't she be disappointed, won't she think less of me?" WTF? I also noticed that it's easier for me to get angry at her, apparently because I know I wo…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/17 12:55 PM
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Thanks. I'll back off for a while, see what I can learn. Also found this helpful comment from jack10 last night: Don't withdraw completely, but stop using sex frequency as an objective metric of improvement. Find some new metrics
/r/askMRP04/08/17 01:03 AM
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Fixed, thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 04:20 PM
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=================== OYS week 10 Good: Made time this weekend to flesh out some 6-month-to-1-year goals for myself in different areas: Sex & attraction: Handle rejection without frustration. Initiate based on game and escalation. Mind: Internalize these principles: My happiness is for me. My job is improving me, not improving a particular relationship. Social: Actual friends who matter to me Time spent outside of home and work on things I enjoy with men I respect Family time with other families H…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 03:16 PM
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It's a reasonable thing to try for guys who initiate sex in obvious or awkward ways, are bewildered or angered by rejection, or for guys whose wives recoil at physical contact. Great post, but can you elaborate on this point? Is "reasonable thing" meant to imply "helpful thing"? Because I'm that awkward, bewildered, recoil-inducing guy you describe. I could just stop initiating for a while, but how would it help me become any less of that?
/r/askMRP30/07/17 03:32 AM
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The "cowards glance" I mentioned in my last OYS has become enemy #1. Yes. This is what I was addressing in a previous post, aiming for "denuding eye contact." That "cowardice" seems to be more a fear of myself than of anything else. But to put that aside, to be there, fully present, open and uncovered and shameless, that's powerful.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 07:03 PM
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Neat trick. I've often wondered WTF is wrong with people, the way they "talk at" their kids future world. Impressive that you've made any impact at all.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 06:48 PM
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Tell me more about this "kids" thing. What do you call them?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 06:19 PM
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=================== OYS week 9 Lifting/Health: Back Injury, dammit: Injured my back putting in a garden at the house. carrying bags of soil and compost must have tired my back more than I realized, and out of nowhere one of those lifts just did me in. I rested for a couple of hours and finished most of the project, slowly. I thought a good night's sleep might fix me up, but the next morning at the gym I couldn't squat the bar without feeling a little pull; same for OHP; didn't even bother with d…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 12:43 PM
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Goals are basically: get bigger lats, get stronger for no practical reason, brag about how many pullups I can do. Probably in reverse order.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 05:59 PM
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Going to exhaustion 2 or 3 times a week has consistently gained me 1 rep per month, ie.., 6 months ago I could barely do 2 good reps. You think more frequent small sets will beat that?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 04:43 PM
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OYS week 8 Family/leadership: Needs work: I could be more pro-active in planning family stuff. Example: Sunday, the kids finished up another community theater show, after which we usually go out for dinner to celebrate. After the show, the wife asks me, "So are we going out tomorrow?" I had no idea what she was talking about, so I said, "Actually I don't know what you're talking about." (I've found that it works much better to be frank and unapologetic about this, reather than other methods like…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 12:06 PM
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framing my goal as practice ... observe her reactions and gather data for your own improvement. Perfect, thanks. Added this as a goal for the week.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 02:40 PM
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she maybe had a choice in the past when she claimed she didn't. AWALT, no?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 02:31 PM
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OYS week 7 Family/leadership: Good: Started being more assertive in small decisions. Example: Out with the family to community theater show, talking with friends afterward, I think it's about time to go home; instead of starting with a question to the wife, "You about ready to go?", I find the kids, tell them we're going soon, and then tell the wife, "We're going soon." Things go so much smoother this way. Getting there: Really inspired by The biological step-mother post, which reminds me to kee…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 12:01 PM
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Everybody here is a mechanic. Difference is, most of us are fixing up ourselves, because that's the one thing we can't trade-in.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/17 11:11 PM
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OYS week 6 Family/leadership: I'm starting to see just how much my wife is leading this family day-to-day. I mentioned that kid #1 was invited to go out with friends Saturday night, and she said, "Okay, that's fine." Apparently she assumed I was asking her permission to let the kid go out. I count this as one of many indications of my lack of leadership over the years. I make all the money, but this woman runs the house. Need to start shifting that paradigm, probably by being more present. Goals…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/17 01:07 PM
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Owning my shit, week 5: Frame: I heard this voice in my head a couple of days ago. "Is it possible she's just not going to change? Has she just lost her sexuality altogether? So where will that leave me a year from now, after doing all this self-improvement for her -- fuck." Yeah, "for her." Well, at least I noticed it. Still trying to understand what it means to be "in her frame." I'm getting the feeling it means: basing my actions on my perception of her emotions, rather than on my own desires…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/17 02:51 PM
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I haven't had a real shit test since I knew what one was Noob here myself, in a similar boat. I think she gave up shit testing long ago. It'll actually be nice to see it start up again, whenever it does.
/r/askMRP23/06/17 12:56 AM
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Picked. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/17 01:36 AM
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CCW: I found the best way to carry regularly is to carry always. Home or away, if I'm wearing a belt, I'm wearing a gun. Putting on the gun becomes just part of getting dressed. Never have to remember or take time to get strapped before going out. Carry always or guess right.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 09:44 PM
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Newb here. I say, post in OYS and take your lumps; you'll surely get them, and they help.
/r/askMRP20/06/17 08:12 PM
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"The stay plan is the go plan" I don't understand this one. Can you elaborate?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 06:14 PM
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Owning my shit, week 4: I have a lot to learn This week I got a humbling education when I posted my newbie-awesome FR and got a serving of hard truth from MRP vets I respect. Four weeks in, some of the "new and shiny" has worn off of my RP, and I'm coming to see that this stuff really is hard. My motto at the moment: "I have a lot to learn," "Rome wasn't built in a day," and "Results count more than my feelings do." Health and fitness Still lifting, and working on proper form at the bench to sav…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 12:09 PM
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Eye contract usually makes me feel nervous and awkward, and i tend to avert my eyes quickly; what i mean here is a level of eye contact that isn't trying to hide behind anything, and that aims to see through that awkwardness.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/17 04:17 AM
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New Guy?
/r/askMRP15/06/17 05:38 PM
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Thanks man. I'm learning.
/r/askMRP14/06/17 06:16 PM
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I think you mean about my wife's mental health. So, i agree, overall mental health is within my area of concern. But moment-by-moment emotional stress levels are not. At least that seems true for where i am right now. Otherwise i wind up freaking out over every little wrinkle in her brow, and that seems like one of the things I'm trying to change. Probably when I'm stronger I'll have a more subtle and mature view of this.
/r/askMRP14/06/17 06:07 PM
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It's served its purpose well so far. Maybe I'll try coffee shops too, why not?
/r/askMRP14/06/17 05:55 PM
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Yep, i thought exactly that. It's embarrassing. I have a long way to go and will keep going.
/r/askMRP14/06/17 05:13 PM
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Thanks. This is both hard to hear and a valuable critique.
/r/askMRP14/06/17 04:51 PM
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+1 for fisting midgets.
/r/askMRP14/06/17 03:10 PM
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Restating, you mean, "now is not the time to make it a background activity; spend the time to get it right, now." ?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 09:29 PM
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Hadn't thought of targeting a specific weight or %BF yet. Honestly have been focused so far on "just lifting" and putting brainpower into developing other aspects of frame (business, OI, NMMNG stuff).
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 09:19 PM
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Awesome. Bookmarked. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 08:07 PM
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Can't recommend anybody yet. Just searching for terms like "kino touch", "kino flirting", "pua infield". Bench form: good point; I'll go back and check my form.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 07:05 PM
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Owning my shit, week 3 Work: For me, the works struggle is always about time management. I work for my clients and have no boss, so my time is my own to manage or abuse. This week I've been struggling to keep up with deadlines. Twice in the past few days I've given up my regular tech meetups in order to cram for a deadline. These meetups aren't money-makers or commitments to anyone else, but they're chances for me to build and maintain relationships in the tech community and to keep educating my…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 02:43 PM
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For a few years i was only using a straight razor with soap and brush. Felt pretty cool, but damn it just takes forever. I've got more important things to do with my time. I'm back to the disposables now and liking it just fine
/r/askMRP11/06/17 05:39 PM
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Don't suck in your stomach. Why not? You mean don't do it in general for some posture reason, or don't do it in the pic because it makes the pic dishonest?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 05:58 PM
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I almost decided not to write here because I don't have much to report. But a frank report might help me improve, so here goes. Lifting: I've been at the gym religiously, M-W-F for SL5x5. It's early in the morning and really enjoy the quiet atmosphere as well as the fact that I'm waking up and out of the house for something productive before the wife and kids are even out of bed. Makes me feel like a man just doing it. I've noticed some pain in my shoulder, not just when lifting but when putting…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 04:06 PM
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Yeah I'd love to read that.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 05:11 PM
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... which makes me think: I've definitely taken actions in the past that have shaped my present situation. So I can definitely take actions now to shape my future situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 03:56 PM
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Yep, totally agree. Perfect example: Very early on, I actually praised her profusely for having the strength to say no. Jesus. Anyway, i made my own bed; now i want to be strong enough and wise enough to remake it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 03:02 PM
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Total newbie here, just learned about TRP and MRP a couple of weeks ago. BACKGROUND: 44M married 17 years to 47F. Three kids, daughters age 9-15. Recovering lifelong nice guy aiming to start doing what I want again (which I'm still figuring out too) and hoping wife will want to come along. Sex has been slowly declining over the years, down to around once a month or so for a the past year or more. READING: I'm still working my way through the sidebar. Mainly reading SALSM and NMMNG concurrently, …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 01:48 PM
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Okay thanks guys. For now it feels right to stop "initiating as a routine", mainly because it's a tired routine with crappy results, but also because the hopelessness of it saps my strength at this stage when I'm really trying to get my own shit together. I'm not trying to "make" her feel or do anything, just trying to get my own head on straight and establish my own frame and my own plan.
/r/askMRP29/05/17 03:00 PM
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Edited the OP to note that I'm pretty much just a clumsy groper, so yeah, weak on kino, game, flirting, etc.
/r/askMRP28/05/17 10:43 PM
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I think you mean this one? On Absence in the relationship https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/3vswuf/on_absence_in_the_relationship/
/r/askMRP28/05/17 08:52 PM
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Done, thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/17 07:16 PM
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You mean just copy/paste this on askmrp?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/17 06:49 PM
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