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You gotta match with them first. They only see your charisma if they choose to match with you. In real life, you can approach who your want and your charisma is noticed immediately
/r/seduction26/08/22 02:21 PM
8

Because on tinder, the only thing they can go off is how you look. In real life, attraction is based off many more factors. Charisma being one thing that is much harder to deliver over text. Plus on tinder, there are too many men that swipe right on every girl so women don't have the time to respond to every guy. In real life, women usually interact with the guys that approach them.
/r/seduction25/08/22 02:11 AM
1

Maybe for you. Generally as men get older, they value peace more in their life and a chill older woman satisfies that.
/r/seduction12/04/22 09:25 PM
2

I'm late 20s and in a relationship but when I was dating, my lower for relationships was about 3-4 years younger than me. If I was smashing, 21 and up. Reason for the limit is because when I interacted with women that were 5+ years younger, they weren't where I was in life. They struggled to hold a conversation, they had limited life experience, etc. Most guys that get in relationships are gonna date a women that's closer in age to them, not a girl 10+ years younger. A 40 year old guy generally …
/r/seduction12/04/22 03:59 PM
2

I appreciate your perspective but I have found many of the women I've spoken to are much more okay with conversing on social media. To each their own.
/r/seduction23/08/21 09:03 PM
1

Might not even be your fault at all. Something could've happened that day. Bad day at work, family issues, headaches, etc. If it's that noticeable, call her out on it. There's nothing wrong with asking about it. She may share. If she doesn't and it's really affecting y'all's date, there's nothing wrong with ending the date early. Don't sit thru a bad date because you feel like you need to get laid or impress her.
/r/seduction22/08/21 06:57 PM
2

Why don't they bring on women that they would suggest their viewers to attract? Isn't the point of the podcast to make men better at dating? They don't because they're frauds. The vast majority of their viewers are angry men who aren't getting laid and therefore want to see some girls getting chewed out.
/r/ExRedPill19/08/21 10:43 PM
1

I said "most women". Most women aren't hot. They're regular people.
/r/seduction19/08/21 06:03 PM
2

Weird. Because when I've dated those chicks and when I look around, most women I see are dating regular ass dudes, like me
/r/seduction19/08/21 01:41 PM
1

Don't even bother, dudes probably a Fuentes fan
/r/seduction18/08/21 09:31 PM
3

Fyi this is the misogynistic type of attitude that was described in the post. Women's attitudes haven't changed that much overall. You're just ignoring a ton of women that are cute but not hot.
/r/seduction18/08/21 09:15 PM
3

Socks and sandals is a no no
/r/seduction17/08/21 01:03 PM
2

she was the kind of girls that too slutty and there are millions of guys who hits on her a day and she is willing to give her number to all of them, so I can't count on her since I'm not that rich. This is your problem here. Your attitude sucks and women can sense that. Next time if you're bored, go for a walk, play a sport, workout, or do a hobby. You've said elsewhere that you're not desperate but you do seem very outcome dependent. Try to meet women thru a shared activity like hiking or photo…
/r/seduction17/08/21 01:00 PM
1

Not every girl is a yes. Plus he doesn't find her compatible so it's fine
/r/seduction17/08/21 12:54 PM
3

Because it only takes one asshole to ruin a woman's day/week/year/life.
/r/seduction16/08/21 11:33 PM
8

Kevin Samuel's This name revealed everything about your mindset. And the fact that you reacted this way without knowing a single thing about this woman shows your character. Disgusting.
/r/seduction16/08/21 11:32 PM
2

Comment on an item of clothing or something going on in the vicinity. "Hey man, that shirt is awesome. Where'd you get it?" "You see that guy over there? He's really in a hurry" The main thing is don't worry about what they will respond with because they may not respond at all. But the more you make these random openers, it will feel genuine and you will become more confident. Then it will feel natural.
/r/seduction16/08/21 02:18 PM
10

Read books you find interesting then. Then talk about what you find interesting. Also ask questions about things people like. So hobbies, pets, activities, etc. Then listen while they're talking to ask them more questions about those things. If they say they like knitting, ask them how they got into it or what's the most extravagant thing they've made. If they have a dog, ask them about crazy dog stories. If they say they like hiking, ask them about a cool hike they went on. They should then sta…
/r/seduction16/08/21 02:14 PM
8

I agree, this is just as bad as agreeing with everything they say, just the opposite. Either way, you're doing it for the girl and not being your true self
/r/seduction15/08/21 09:25 PM
2

Most no girls will reject you outright. When you ask them out, they will always have an excuse. They'll respond to texts hours later with one word or terse responses.
/r/seduction15/08/21 06:18 PM
1

See how things have played out in the past year or so and you'll realize common sense isn't that common.
/r/seduction15/08/21 06:15 PM
2

Depends how the relationship ended and if he's healed up from it. Sometimes both people need to go their separate ways and avoid contact indefinitely.
/r/seduction14/08/21 07:21 PM
4

No it isn't. Blocking is healthy when it preserves your mental health. There's nothing wrong with blocking someone who behaves toxically.
/r/seduction14/08/21 07:20 PM
3

If you're not exclusive, I say give her some space to process and potentially start dating other women again. My guess is that her friends told her something but it could be anything and it's not really worth trying to figure out. It might not even be you.
/r/seduction11/08/21 07:16 PM
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Say something like this: "Y'all wanna grab drinks at a bar this weekend?" "Hey I found this event going on. Y'all wanna check it out?" "Anyone want to go to X sporting event this weekend?"
/r/seduction11/08/21 07:13 PM
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Sometimes the immature reaction is a guy getting aggressive or physical because he's angry. You gotta remember that women are dealing with men who are taller, bigger, and stronger than them. Most guys probably will react fine but it only takes one asshole to ruin everything
/r/seduction25/07/21 08:24 PM
7

They have to do that because some guys are idiots and can't accept no. Blame the guys, not the chicks.
/r/seduction25/07/21 08:23 PM
6

Waste what time? If you text her 12 hours and it's fake, what time has been wasted? Shouldn't be that invested in her in the first place, y'all would've just met for maybe an hour tops.
/r/seduction25/07/21 08:22 PM
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What difference does it make tho if you find out right then or later? Get the number, leave, and text em the next day. If it's fake, you'll find out.
/r/seduction25/07/21 07:44 PM
1

100% correct. Just trying to smash? Most guys will put up with a lot of shit. Looking for a relationship? Next this girl, this is a sign of what's to come
/r/seduction12/05/21 04:01 AM
2

Yeah, I can't believe the number of people that are agreeing with this post. Some dudes will let women walk all over them just to get laid.
/r/seduction12/05/21 03:58 AM
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Seriously, some people here will put up with anything for a sniff of some cat. Just because you think she's putting you thru a shit test doesn't mean you have to put up with it. Just like girls screen for guys, we gotta screen for good women. There's other women out there, we don't have to put up with nonsense.
/r/seduction11/05/21 04:41 AM
4

Could you provide me the study that shows LSD usage leads to schizophrenia?
/r/seduction08/05/21 12:42 AM
0

If you're paying, then you should choose the date venue. But I think you're overthinking it. She wants to dance on you and feel you up on the dance floor, just go with it. Plus you don't have to stay there the whole night, after a while you can move to a bar, grab some food, whatever.
/r/seduction07/05/21 08:17 PM
5

The difficulty for women is retaining guys, not seducing them. That's their challenge.
/r/seduction07/05/21 08:14 PM
2

This requires nuance. I've gotten good advice from guys and girls and I've gotten shit advice from guys and girls. I've seen a ton of terrible advice on here from guys. The best thing to look at is the character and success of the person giving the advice and what you're looking to achieve. A girl who is self aware can give good advice. A guy who's successful with women can give good advice. It's up to you to determine who those people are and whether that advice works for you.
/r/seduction07/05/21 08:14 PM
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Adding to that, sex with an above average girl you have a connection with and loves you is very different than one-off sex with a very attractive girl.
/r/seduction07/05/21 07:56 PM
6

I don't do those substances but LSD and mushrooms should not be spoken in the same breath as crack or heroin. They are currently being studied for their helpful side effects.
/r/seduction07/05/21 07:50 PM
1

Not Austin tho
/r/seduction26/03/21 01:39 AM
3

Honestly I avoid office romance, too many potential downsides when it comes to my career
/r/seduction19/03/21 03:03 PM
3

Kickball is a great option too, lotta standing around gives you an opportunity to chat with folks
/r/seduction19/03/21 03:02 PM
1

As far as your example goes, that is a situation where I believe the guy should just go home alone and jack it. Messing with drunk girls at clubs can be a recipe for disaster. Sure, it's probably unlikely that she calls you a rapist, but it only takes one accusation to ruin anyone's life. I especially don't risk it because I'm a black guy and probably be going up against a white girl's word. Get her number and tell her that you'd love to take her home but she's too drunk. Protect yourself. Those…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/03/21 06:06 PM
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Well I wouldn't ask her how the party's going over text. Better to just ask her when y'all meet in person. Maybe hit her up the Monday or Tuesday after and ask when she's free. But yeah sounds like she kinda sucks. She wouldn't flaked regardless it sounds like.
/r/seduction16/01/21 03:36 AM
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The important thing for both parties is if there is truly a last minute issue that forces you to cancel, then the person cancelling needs to make a legit effort to reschedule the date for a specific future date. Stuff happens, we all gotta understand that: family issues, car trouble, work problems, getting sick, etc. So the rule should be that if she cancels and doesn't make an effort to suggest a better time, then yeah, you should chalk that up to a loss. Good: "hey something urgent came up, ca…
/r/seduction15/01/21 10:59 PM
3

Any pics or bio involving weed as their personality It's not just taking a pic of weed. It's doing stuff like wearing 420 shirts, hats with a weed leaf on it, pics of bongs & grinder set up, etc.
/r/seduction27/11/20 03:17 AM
1

Right but is that them making alcohol their personality? Enjoying weed/drinks isn't the same as making it their personality.
/r/seduction27/11/20 12:26 AM
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I agree with you but that's not what I'm referring to. Like you won't see too many people specifically advertise that they get blasted at clubs every weekend. However, you will see someone have multiple pictures of weed-related items.
/r/seduction26/11/20 08:23 AM
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I've rarely see someone take drinking to the same extreme as people take weed when it comes to making it their entire personality. If they do they're pretty much an alcoholic. Someone who's super into hiking isn't bad because that's usually a positive trait
/r/seduction26/11/20 04:41 AM
1

Accept that they're hot and see if they have anything else to offer. She knows she's hot, challenge her to keep your attention with something else.
/r/seduction03/10/20 04:25 PM
4

I would say yes, as she becomes family at that point
/r/seduction24/09/20 07:21 PM
1

Yo this game is everywhere lol
/r/seduction22/09/20 07:59 PM
6

Then that's on her. She's immature. A mature woman who sees her man cry will pick him up and put him back on track because when he wins, she wins. Men shouldn't be forced not to cry or hide their emotions. Crying over silly drama is one thing but if his mother died, he's fired from his job, or stressed how he's gonna pay rent? Understandable if he finally breaks down from the stress. The question is how he picks himself back up and gets back out there, and part of her job is to help him get back…
/r/seduction21/09/20 06:22 PM
2

You still have an attractive lifestyle, but it's just on hold. Obviously, you plan to continue salsa dancing once COVID ends, right? Most people are understanding that COVID threw a wrench in everyone's plans.
/r/seduction21/09/20 04:21 PM
9

That still doesn't change the fact that guys shouldn't chase a woman that doesn't like them.
/r/seduction19/09/20 05:54 AM
5

I empathize with your pain. One of the rules recommended here is that a man is always supposed to be honest with a girl he's pursuing or seeing. If he doesn't want a relationship, he should let her know that before they sleep together. Nothing should happen under false pretenses. So fuck that guy for lying. On the subject of "pulled it off" and "accomplished", I think the reason we talk like that is there is a lot of societal pressure for guys to be able to attract, seduce, and sleep with women.…
/r/seduction17/09/20 10:45 PM
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You got her because you're fucking awesome. Know your worth, king.
/r/seduction17/09/20 03:24 PM
1

Honestly, you're super young, I wouldn't trip about it. Nobody's expecting a 20 year old to be super experienced. This is a good time to figure out who you are and what you want. Join some clubs and find hobbies you enjoy.
/r/seduction09/09/20 07:38 PM
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Smart bro. You may want to avoid clubs because as someone else said, sober dude + drunk girl = bad news. A bar may be better because ppl usually aren't as drunk. Or better, join a club or activity so you meet them sober
/r/seduction05/09/20 04:44 AM
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I think he worded it poorly. There are absolutely women that have been ghosted, used, manipulated, lied to or abused by guys they’ve liked. And if any of those guys did that stuff intentionally, fuck them. There are also women that blame a guy for their own personal issues. For example, I've known several women that freaked out when a guy wasn't texting them when they wanted him too. When they ask us (the guy friends) what could possibly be going through his head, we told them that he's probably…
/r/seduction05/09/20 04:13 AM
1

I'm from Dallas and spent most of my life down South man, it's pretty common to say hello to people walking down the street. I'll grant you that you don't say hello to people if it's a crowded street. But if you pass a single small group, yeah you definitely say some sort of greeting.
/r/seduction15/08/20 07:56 PM
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Have you ever been walking down the street and some random person says hello to you? You probably thought that was strange and awkward even if you assumed it was innocent and meant nothing. We must be from two different places because in the South, it's offensive NOT to say hello to someone who walks by you.
/r/seduction15/08/20 06:40 PM
3

If you're 22, you're not an older virgin and are still learning in bed at your age.
/r/seduction02/06/20 08:49 PM
3

Well he actually kinda showed the problem with "your dream fish" in his parable. You end up waiting a long time only to find out that she's just like the other fishes and you wasted your time. So it covers your comment.
/r/seduction06/05/20 01:20 AM
2

Honestly just don't follow IG models. A lot of them are just posting on insta so they can guide you to their onlyfans so they can make money off you. And if you have female friends posting thirst trap type photos, maybe considering muting or unfollowing them. Personally I use IG to share memes and chat/snap with friends. All of my group chats are in IG because everyone I know has one. In order to avoid constantly being on insta, I set a timer to only allow 45 minutes a day. Usually I come nowher…
/r/seduction06/05/20 01:19 AM
2

I think you're kinda missing the point. The OP posted a quote from a book that is geared toward men who hesitate or don't take action. Most of these guys believe that women are just out to reject them and very few if any women will seriously consider them as a potential partner. The overall goal is to change the mindset of these men from a defeatist attitude to a confident attitude where they believe that they have a potential to date and have sex with any girl they desire. Again, potential is t…
/r/seduction20/02/20 09:56 PM
1

Ignore that dude
/r/seduction30/01/20 06:14 AM
1

Oh I'm not surprised he got rejected, just that he persisted too long imo. Didn't seem socially calibrated.
/r/seduction21/01/20 02:41 PM
1

I don't think he was close to turning it around. Props to him for approaching that group of girls but the issue to me isn't that he bombed. It's that when they asked him to leave, he didn't. It got to the point that the women had to get up and go somewhere else because he would not leave them alone. Judging by their body language, they looked very uncomfortable and probably felt unsafe. Once they asked him to leave the 2nd time, he should've taken the L, wished them a nice day, and moved on to t…
/r/seduction20/01/20 05:36 PM
6

There's actually been several articles written on this issue. Women tend to look for a guy they consider equal or above them. If they get too high up in terms of status then they have a hard time finding a satisfying mate.
/r/seduction16/01/20 05:28 AM
1

What competition? There's already other dudes in the group presumably going after the same women.
/r/seduction10/01/20 03:26 AM
1

Not necessarily true. Most guys would say yes to attractive women but I don't think the same thing would happen if they were propositioned for sex by average looking girls while sober.
/r/seduction01/01/20 01:26 AM
9

Why does this have so many upvotes?
/r/seduction26/12/19 04:49 PM
2

Yes. Most guys aren't getting laid constantly.
/r/seduction26/12/19 03:48 AM
1

Watch your favorite comedians, that's a good way to learn how to tell a story while being funny
/r/seduction26/12/19 03:47 AM
1

Honestly I wouldn't worry about girls knowing you're after them. You want them to know interested in them sexually. I think guys are brought up to stuff down that sexual desire and try to friend your way into sex, which won't work. You don't want to say "bby want sum fuk" but she should know why you're after her. The question in her mind shouldn't be if he's interested, it should be how much.
/r/seduction26/12/19 03:45 AM
8

Point 1 is especially important. Numbers have less meaning if it's a lot of terrible sex. Would you rather have unlimited Raisin Bran or one gourmet pizza?
/r/seduction25/12/19 10:46 PM
1

Hmm. Still don't think we know enough about the situation. I'm not quick to judge either one of them.
/r/seduction25/12/19 06:57 PM
1

How do you know what level of effort was put in? I'm not saying she should be receptive. We just don't know all the details.
/r/seduction25/12/19 06:20 PM
1

You're assuming he just walked off unprompted, we have no idea what the context is.
/r/seduction25/12/19 12:50 PM
3

He met her at the bar so she shouldn't be mad if he leaves. They didn't know each other.
/r/seduction25/12/19 02:51 AM
4

Think about it this way: If you had a choice, would you rather have unlimited raisin bran or one dope ass slice of pizza? That's what it's like being a girl. Yes a large portion of them can get dick whenever they want but there's so much bad dick out there it ain't worth the trouble for them. Ask your friend how many of those 15 guys were good experiences for her. Bet it's less than half.
/r/seduction24/12/19 11:58 PM
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The mistake then is leaving for an extended period of time, not the drink.
/r/seduction24/12/19 09:53 PM
8

Nah that's a bad mindset. You don't have to buy drinks to keep girls around, if they're feeling you, they're feeling you. I don't mind buying a girl a drink but she's gotta earn it.
/r/seduction24/12/19 09:34 PM
4

33 really isn't that old
/r/seduction24/12/19 08:34 PM
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1) He can't rearrange his schedule based on when she wants to have sex. And again, she may have just changed her mind. 4) He shouldn't have to buy her a drink to keep her attention. He should only buy a drink if he's feeling especially gracious. 5) It all depends. 14 Tinder girls flaked? Understandable.
/r/seduction24/12/19 08:24 PM
1

I mean in the sense that men approach first. That dynamic has not changed.
/r/seduction20/12/19 10:03 PM
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Men DO NOT follow this advice. This is the equivalent of showing all your cards as soon as the hand has been dealt in poker. She gets to see everything you have to offer (and if she had her way, every other guy) and then take her sweet time to pick which one was get favorite while you wait to be chosen. Waste of time.
/r/seduction20/12/19 09:19 PM
1

Why are you sliding into a girl's DMs? Have y'all meet in person before? It's not chasing to initiate, it's only chasing if she doesn't show interest and you keep pursuing.
/r/seduction20/12/19 09:15 PM
1

Alpha and beta are just outdated terms.
/r/seduction20/12/19 09:14 PM
2

There's nothing wrong with pursuing a girl but a guy shouldn't have to keep trying to get your attention just to go on a date. Initially yes he has to show interest but at a certain point she does too. There needs to be some level of reciprocation from the woman. I think this post is trying to instruct guys that if they have to initiate everything, it's probably not worth it. She's not better than you.
/r/seduction20/12/19 09:13 PM
1

Probably the coffee. Why? Because the in person interaction is a much more impactful experience than a few messages from some random girl's pictures on my phone. Most guys (myself included) have hooked up with girls they met in person that they'd probably ignore on Tinder. And that same dynamic works with women as well.
/r/seduction20/12/19 09:06 PM
1

The same dynamic still exists.
/r/seduction20/12/19 09:04 PM
1

A hookup implies that y'all have sex once or a few times and then go separate ways. Just because they hook up with you on the first date doesn't mean they want a hookup. They may wanna keep things going but aren't gonna play the 3-date waiting game.
/r/seduction18/12/19 09:07 PM
1

So how are millions of "unattractive" dudes getting girlfriends and hookups?
/r/seduction18/12/19 03:00 PM
5

This, man. You made plans twice and she backed out on both of them. Even if they were legit excuses, it's on her to initiate the meetup now. I'd let this one go and find another girl.
/r/seduction17/12/19 09:39 PM
1

I think that some of y'all are missing the point of the quote. If you listen to the episode, you'll realize that Dante is referring to things like the girl saying you can't hang out with your friends, you can't stay out late, stop working out, etc. Yes, some of the things girls suggest are good but at the end of the day, the guy has to evaluate what's good for him/the relationship and decide that he wants to change to improve himself. Not every suggestion his partner makes is going to be good. T…
/r/seduction17/12/19 03:02 PM
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What negative things are you seeing? The quote in the title is focused toward guys who think that they need to make sure their wife/gf/partner must be happy in order to have a good relationship. The mantra "happy wife, happy life" has been repeated too often and a lot of the guys in here have taken it to heart. The important thing a lot of guys here need to understand is that they need to have boundaries and not supplicate to every wish a girl has of them.
/r/seduction17/12/19 03:27 AM
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Because they're not doing it maliciously. Sometimes you think you know what you want but when you finally get it, it's not what you thought it would be. Let's say a girl doesn't want you to work out because she doesn't want you to be too attractive to other girls. So you stop. Now she's gotten what she wanted but she may now notice that you've put on a couple pounds and she doesn't find you as attractive either. Guys do this too: meet a girl at a club, end up in some kind of relationship with he…
/r/seduction17/12/19 12:06 AM
0

If simply seeing and talking to a dude that looks like Channing Tatum is enough to make this girl cheat, then you probably shouldn't be in a relationship with her.
/r/seduction17/12/19 12:03 AM
1

That's not loyalty. Loyalty is being able to go to those places and actively resisting other men because you've committed yourself to a relationship. Plus this sub preaches hitting on women almost anywhere. You can't stop your girl from leaving the house.
/r/seduction17/12/19 12:00 AM
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Probably a self-esteem thing. She may have thought that if you got in shape you would leave her for another (probably more attractive) woman.
/r/seduction16/12/19 11:58 PM
13

I'm not sure if you're familiar with Dante, but his whole mantra is that it's the guy's fault when certain things in the relationship happen. Dante's whole mindset is that the guy has to stay grounded to his beliefs and morals in order to maintain the relationship. So you both are actually preaching the same thing: stop finding excuses. Also it may be true that people can't change you, but there are people that will try to change you. And the guy changing into what the girl believes is her ideal…
/r/seduction16/12/19 06:31 PM
2

The only way I'd hook up with a coworker is if she worked in a completely different building. Once things eventually get weird, it can really mess up your career.
/r/seduction15/12/19 11:34 PM
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That's not what I'm saying at all.
/r/seduction14/12/19 02:02 PM
6

Two different things. A man should be able to convey interest without explicitly telling you he likes you. Asking you out on dates, flirting/touching, and making the first moves are signs that he's interested. IMO neither party can truly like the other until they've hung out for a significant period of time. Prior to that point, it's just interest. The guy should be able to show that he's interested while also giving off the vibe that it's no sweat off his back if you don't reciprocate, and at t…
/r/seduction14/12/19 01:31 AM
4

Yeah there's a lot of women hating going on in the sub. I don't like to say this often as it reduces the other guys' arguments to sexual prowess, but I'd guess most of the guys in that sub aren't getting laid much.
/r/seduction13/12/19 07:21 PM
1

I think y'all are associating some negative aspects of a player that Piper never mentioned. No one's talking about treating women like shit or leading her on by suggesting a relationship just to get sex. Really all the player vibe means is being fun, non-judgemental, and outcome independent while ensuring that the girl understands that you are interested in a sexual relationship of some kind and not bending over to everything she wants.
/r/seduction12/12/19 08:23 PM
1

I think y'all are associating some negative aspects of a player that Piper never mentioned. No one's talking about treating women like shit or leading her on by suggesting a relationship just to get sex. Really all the player vibe means is being fun, non-judgemental, and outcome independent while ensuring that the girl understands that you are interested in a sexual relationship of some kind and not bending over to everything she wants.
/r/seduction12/12/19 08:23 PM
1

I think y'all are associating some negative aspects of a player that Piper never mentioned. No one's talking about treating women like shit or leading her on by suggesting a relationship just to get sex. Really all the player vibe means is being fun, non-judgemental, and outcome independent while ensuring that the girl understands that you are interested in a sexual relationship of some kind and not bending over to everything she wants.
/r/seduction12/12/19 08:23 PM
1

You are extremely shallow Here's what's funny: in another post you told someone: Don’t pretend to know me But now you're assuming that this guy is shallow based on a few posts. Highly hypocritical. Not sure why you're coming in so hostile but it's not endearing anyone reading to your argument. Maybe try explaining exactly why the advice given makes you upset.
/r/seduction12/12/19 06:26 PM
2

I think the issue is not that he wants to get in a relationship with a specific girl, but that he wants to give off the correct vibe so he attracts the right kind of girl. He would still vet them at that point, but he'd be attracting the right candidates.
/r/seduction12/12/19 06:17 PM
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They matter the same for men and both equally. That much is obvious I really don't think this is true. Looks definitely matter to both but more to men. There's more of a psychological turn-on with women than men.
/r/seduction11/12/19 06:10 PM
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If you wear a good fitting black tee shirt and good fitting jeans with some converse, you're doing fine. I've had women say I dress well and all I'm wearing are sneakers, a tee shirt and shorts. But the key is they all fit well so it shows off the physique.
/r/seduction11/12/19 03:50 AM
5

Not nearly as common as it is for women to sponge financially off of men, let's be real.
/r/seduction11/12/19 03:47 AM
3

Give him a shave and and a haircut and he'll instantly get more attractive
/r/seduction11/12/19 03:45 AM
2

When I go on first dates, I'm trying to vet the girl to see if she fits my standards. Generally I like to avoid alcohol as it clouds my judgement. A coffee date is an excellent way to get to know someone without a huge investment. So in that sense, the date isn't purely about setting up sex.
/r/seduction09/12/19 12:13 AM
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Just something for everyone to keep in mind, this is one woman's perspective. I and many other guys can attest that meeting a girl at a coffee shop or doing a "free" activity like hiking are good options for first dates. Personally, I don't mind paying for drinks or coffee on the first date, but that's why I stick to those type of dates over something like dinner. Much less expensive.
/r/seduction08/12/19 11:44 PM
3

I go through the same thing. Some groups just need that one person who initiates everything. As long as the people in the group respond timely and actively help out, then it can work.
/r/seduction08/12/19 11:35 PM
1

This depends on what's being worn. Many guys are wearing oversized graphic tees, ill-fitting pants, and dad shoes with an unkempt head of hair. All this post is saying no matter what style you choose, whether that's street wear, preppy, young professional, etc., make sure your clothes fit your body and your hair is clean. Simply getting an edge up is enough to make a guy's hair look better.
/r/seduction06/12/19 01:11 AM
2

How is bumble any better? It's just Tinder but the girl has to initiate the convo.
/r/seduction05/12/19 11:40 PM
3

I think the takeaway is that being nice isn't enough to get a girl, a guy is gonna have to show interest and take initiative.
/r/seduction05/12/19 05:56 PM
4

Do they? You can't see what goes on with them behind closed doors.
/r/seduction05/12/19 07:26 AM
2

Just remember that the women who you are talking to are also talking to multiple guys. And as long as you're not exclusive, there's nothing wrong with talking to multiple women.
/r/seduction04/12/19 09:16 PM
1

Edit: you know what man, think whatever you want. It's your life.
/r/seduction04/12/19 09:09 PM
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Some of y'all haven't been around drunk women (or people) I assume. Drunk horny people say some goofy ass shit. I have no reason not to believe him and from my own experience his story is well with the realm in reality.
/r/seduction04/12/19 08:59 PM
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Exactly. Drunk girls say and do a lot of crazy shit, even shit that you might consider a turn off. I had one girl reach up to grab my face out of nowhere and ended up removing my contact in the middle of a dark bar so unfortunately I couldn't find it. She probably thought she was being sexy grabbing my face but I just ended up not wanting to talk to her.
/r/seduction04/12/19 08:01 PM
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Ah ok, I hadn't seen your other comment. I think the danger with some methods is that inexperienced guys will misunderstand the way to go about it. For example, challenging the girl. An inexperienced guy may think that he needs to disagree with everything she says in order to establish himself as a "alpha." But the reality is that guys just need to realize that being a doormat doesn't get you laid. If she says something you don't agree with, ask her to elaborate and start a discussion about why …
/r/seduction04/12/19 07:58 PM
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You would let her know prior to anything getting really serious where you are at mentally. Never lead her on. That way she is one making the decision to continue or end things based on what you said. So if you're interested in casual sex with multiple women, you let them know that you are not interested in a relationship or in being exclusive. They can then evaluate what they want and make a decision.
/r/seduction04/12/19 07:49 PM
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I would actually like to hear more from women about why they don't like this kind of approach. Seduction is an evolving science and so knowledge is gained through experience in real life and what's passed down by others. Like I said in another comment, there are several issues I have with the OPs post but there is no perfect way to do this. If it works for him, it works. But one of the best things in order for all men (and women) to improve would be to discuss exactly why some take issue with wh…
/r/seduction04/12/19 07:44 PM
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I'm sorry, this kind of advice doesn't work. Just saying be emotionally compatible and be yourself isn't enough. Most of the guys here have heard that for years and have nothing to show for it. Let's be real, being an honest person is 100% good and in my opinion the best way to interact with others. But some insecurities are off-putting to a woman. I'm not in full agreement with this guy, but there are some good things to pick out: don't agree with everything she says, have a spine neediness = n…
/r/seduction04/12/19 07:34 PM
1

It's not semantics. There's a huge difference between acting in an honest fashion and saying whatever will get you what you want regardless of the consequences to the other person. Telling a girl you love her just to sleep with her and ghost her is manipulation. Telling a girl that you're only interested in casual sex and risking the potential of her not sleeping with you is honest influence. If she still sleeps with you, she knows the rules of the game.
/r/seduction04/12/19 07:18 PM
1

I wouldn't go that far. There are definitely girls who will say these kind of things. Now should it be expected on a regular basis? Absolutely not.
/r/seduction04/12/19 07:13 PM
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How are you gonna deny someone else's experience? He even said that she was overtly and directly sexual, which is rare and shouldn't be expected.
/r/seduction04/12/19 01:43 PM
3

He didn't say the guy was banging models. He could be but he's also could be banging 6s and 7s, which isn't bad.
/r/seduction04/12/19 02:16 AM
2

I think the saying is more that a girl cannot drag you from being miserable to happy. She can absolutely enrich your life but if you're already sad or depressed she won't be able to fix that.
/r/seduction02/12/19 11:18 PM
1

Congrats on the sex. Seriously. Always wear a condom with new partners. I don't care if she says she's on BC, you wrap up. If she ends up pregnant you have no option but to do what she wants. And sex is worth getting an STD. For the ED, stop jacking it as much. The recommendation in Models was to jack it once a week to girls you know that you haven't fucked yet. Don't have to follow that routine but the best thing you can do is stop jacking it to porn. This will make irl girls more appealing.
/r/seduction02/12/19 11:13 PM
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I used to watch this guy but I kinda got the same vibe: too much of a disdain for the entire female sex. I believe he went through a pretty messy divorce so it gives context to why he says what he does.
/r/seduction02/12/19 11:07 PM
4

Jeez those are two awful subreddits
/r/seduction30/11/19 07:45 AM
4

That's a terrible analogy
/r/seduction29/11/19 05:34 AM
1

I honestly wonder why some of y'all are even here.
/r/seduction26/11/19 07:12 PM
1

Chad gets those dates because he doesn't worry about what other guys are doing and doesn't care about the outcome. If she doesn't show up, he still has a good time. Again change your mindset and become the good version of Chad.
/r/seduction26/11/19 07:11 PM
1

Well most people don't go on dates with people below their standard and I wouldn't expect them too.
/r/seduction26/11/19 07:10 PM
1

"High status" what does this even mean? I mean, y'all can't believe this stuff when you see chicks regularly sleeping with dudes that aren't making a ton of money or under 5'7". It's just a copout. Improve your attitude and you will get laid. I believe in you bro.
/r/seduction26/11/19 07:06 PM
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I agreed with the first part of your statement, a lot of dudes here only want to get the hottest chicks. However, y'all are really underrating 7s and 8s (and 6s). Seriously, how is an 8 ugly? Or a 7 for that matter? A 6 is an above average chick. A lot of those girls are better at sex than the 9s and 10s too. But at the end of the day, if you look at them as people rather than sex objects, y'all would probably find them more attractive. Seriously, most dudes will sleep with a 6, 7, or 8.
/r/seduction26/11/19 07:04 PM
0

And if they were all below your standard, would you go on a date?
/r/seduction26/11/19 06:56 PM
1

If a girl finds you attractive and feels comfortable around you, there's a strong chance she's already thought about having sex with you. No love necessary.
/r/seduction26/11/19 06:55 PM
1

Honestly some girls are intimidated by ripped guys, makes them feel inadequate
/r/seduction26/11/19 06:54 PM
1

At the end of the day, women will very rarely initiate directly. It's a much bigger hit on their ego to get rejected by a guy than it is for us to get rejected by women. They have been taught through media that guys are always wanting sex so if the guy turns her down in her mind she must be repulsive. Guys already know most women aren't gonna have sex with them so it's less of a blow. However, what they will do is give you cues. And one of the best things to do is watch out for them. Eye contact…
/r/seduction26/11/19 06:53 PM
2

Would you go on a date with just any woman?
/r/seduction26/11/19 06:40 PM
1

Eh, imo there's nothing wrong with seeing a girl for just sex as long as you let her know that there's no possibility of a relationship. If she agrees to it, then you're in the clear. Problem is some fuckboys lead women on.
/r/seduction26/11/19 06:37 PM
1

I've gotten responses from girls who let me know they weren't interested in proceeding forward. It stings but at least I know I can take the L and move on. But whether she sends the text or ghosts, it's really the same. I understand that some dudes handle rejection poorly so I get why she would ghost tho.
/r/seduction21/11/19 02:55 PM
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This isn't really true. If a girl is really into a guy it doesn't matter if he's a 10 or a 4, she's gonna be upset. If she really did have 200 10s waiting for her on tinder and she only cared about numbers, she wouldn't have gone out with the 7 in the first place. This is an overly logical way to think about an emotional situation. In fact, if the 6 or 7 guy rejects her, it's possibly going to affect her more because she has those 9-10 matches and will wonder how a guy that's lower could possibl…
/r/seduction21/11/19 02:50 PM
1

Respect has nothing to do with rejection. Someone who treats you well deserves respect, but they don't deserve a relationship or sex.
/r/seduction21/11/19 02:39 PM
9

More girls need to do this instead of complaining that guys are bad at sex. Communication fixes most issues in a relationship.
/r/seduction21/11/19 02:36 PM
1

I don't think you did anything wrong, sometimes girls do weird shit. This girl sounds like an attention whore, might not be a girl you wanna get involved with.
/r/seduction20/11/19 10:17 PM
1

If you never met up with her, then you don't truly know her. A lot of what you think you miss about her is projection: you added all of these good qualities to her in your mind that she might not even have. The reality is she probably isn't as good as you think she is. The solution to oneitis is always to talk to more women.
/r/seduction20/11/19 10:12 PM
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I mean, what difference does it make? Whether a girl is not into your conversation or wasting your time, there's no point in continuing the conversation. It's better to just move to the girls that have shown some interest.
/r/seduction20/11/19 03:57 PM
1

There are definitely girls on OLD that are "time wasters". I've talked to several of my girl friends and many of them told me that sometimes they just talk to guys for the fun of it, not for anything serious. Tbf guys do it too, just not to the same extent.
/r/seduction20/11/19 03:55 PM
3

Your advice is completely unhelpful. At least this guy put something out there that will improve someone's state of mind. Even if they don't get girls they will be happier.
/r/seduction17/11/19 07:15 PM
4

When did the therapist say any of that stuff?
/r/seduction15/11/19 03:36 AM
3

You don't need to shit test, but you should qualify her. Watch how she treats waiters and bartenders. Listen to how she talks about her friends. Is she passionate about anything or does she just work and watch Netflix? Is she a responsible drinker? These are the kind of things you should look out for.
/r/seduction11/11/19 04:47 PM
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Yeah, you can turn em down once or twice and they might still pursue. A third time and they'll move on.
/r/seduction10/11/19 05:44 PM
2

I think you're right. It's all about the delivery and timing. Yeah we're all here because we do want to sleep with her but I guess what I'm thinking is some guys treat as transactional: "if I keep giving her compliments, then eventually she'll sleep with me". Kinda like "if I spend enough money, she'll come home with me." And I try to avoid that outcome-based thinking and opt for acting honestly. So imo, if I think she looks hot, I tell her. But this time, I'm telling her because it's a raw, emo…
/r/seduction08/11/19 12:29 AM
5

Did the girls live in Nashville? Could be because they were from out of town, ready to party.
/r/seduction07/11/19 11:33 PM
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The same girls that turn us down on Tinder are very attracted to us in real life. I think part of that is dudes generally don't take good pics while women will take 50+ pics to find the best one. I've noticed a lot of women on online dating apps using IG/Snap filters on their photos and pretty much all of them soften facial features and remove wrinkles.
/r/seduction07/11/19 11:30 PM
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Sending the occasional meme through IG is a good way of communicating because she gets your sense of humor and you get a chance to understand hers. And usually I end up sending that meme to other friends anyways so it ain't that big a deal.
/r/seduction07/11/19 11:22 PM
2

Honestly it depends on the girl. Some girls will take offense if you only use texts to set up dates and nothing more. In her mind she feels like you only want her for sex and that's a turn off for some. On the flip side, some girls don't mind. I usually just "read the room". If a girl reaches out to initiate a conversation, I'm not gonna ignore her. I respond until the conversation gets stale. And I only respond when I'm free so if I'm busy with work/sports/hanging with other friends, then I res…
/r/seduction07/11/19 11:20 PM
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Nah, girls will assume that you're not interested. You don't have to text them all the time but like the first guy said, if they start a conversation I'll keep it going until it gets boring.
/r/seduction07/11/19 11:12 PM
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Yeah it's simple: don't compliment her with an ulterior motive. Compliment her because it comes from an honest place. If she looks beautiful, it's ok to tell her that. The reason people say not to compliment her all the time is because most guys are doing it with the intention of convincing her to have sex. Edit: also try to compliment her on her personality, not physical characteristics. This shows that you're paying attention and taking time to understand who she is.
/r/seduction07/11/19 11:09 PM
1

But you wouldn't know that until you started dating. And if both of you are in debt and have a plan to get out, then you can hold each other accountable without feeling guilty. It's pretty common to have student loan debt so it's probably not a deal breaker for most people.
/r/seduction06/11/19 07:28 PM
1

There should be discussion about finances before getting into a serious relationship or moving toward marriage. But for casual dating, I can't see why student debt (or any debt) would be a concern.
/r/seduction06/11/19 07:08 PM
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Is that all you are? 100k of debt and no future (which is debatable)? Every single person is a complex human being with varying desires, skills, and traits. Plus how often is student loan debt coming up in normal conversation?
/r/seduction06/11/19 06:51 PM
2

Yeah that article's dumb. There's nothing wrong with being friends with attractive girls. I and several others here have hooked up with girls that are just friends. It's only when romantic feelings become involved that being "friends" becomes an issue.
/r/seduction03/11/19 10:37 PM
3

The message of the video is not "don't have friends who are girls". It's "You put yourself in the friendzone. Don't pretend to be friends with someone you're romantically interested in."
/r/seduction03/11/19 10:03 PM
1

That's fair, but then if one feels romantic feelings brewing, they should make a move as soon as possible.
/r/seduction03/11/19 10:02 PM
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It's not a perfectly good friendship if one person is constantly pining over the other. He actually makes a second video where he shows that people who are in the friendzone do not act like their true selves but rather a facade of what they believe their crush will like. So it's a fake friendship. If someone's truly in the friendzone, I think the better move is to just date other girls and distance oneself.
/r/seduction03/11/19 10:00 PM
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It's not just women. There are tons of dudes that will choose to date a "crazy" chick because she's more exciting and there are higher highs as a result of the lows.
/r/seduction01/11/19 11:10 PM
0

If you wanna avoid the question of "why aren't you drinking", there's a few options. Tell them you don't drink. If they have a problem with that, then it's probably a personal issue with themselves. Anyone who doesn't drink probably has either a good degree of self control or a strong reason not to do so. Also it's none of their business. Bring a tea bag or Mio with you. Grab/order a glass of water and steep the tea/mix the Mio. Boom, now you look like you're drinking. An easier option is to ord…
/r/seduction01/11/19 06:30 PM
1

Can I see the study you say shows a rise in the number of sexless men? And a huge reason for the increase in sexless men if probably the proliferation of the internet and as a result access to porn.
/r/seduction01/11/19 01:22 AM
1

Read that guy's username and it will make sense why he's posting what he does
/r/seduction01/11/19 01:10 AM
3

Fair enough. I don't agree with that mindset, but I can respect it.
/r/seduction31/10/19 08:57 PM
2

Does that same logic work for men? If a girl goes out with a guy for three dates and sleeps with him and then he ghosts her, is she a slut? And if it happens multiple times in a year, is she a slut?
/r/seduction31/10/19 08:55 PM
2

Exactly. It's the same as all guys wanting to get the hottest girl. After a lack of success, the guy either needs to improve himself or look for a woman in his range.
/r/seduction31/10/19 08:54 PM
3

How do you know that ALL women who sleep with several men are not relationship material? Did you talk to all of them? Again, there's a difference between you having a dating preference vs. saying ALL women who sleep with multiple guys are unworthy of a relationship from anyone. I don't care if there are other double standards because in most cases, they are wrong. Men shouldn't be judged as creepers just for saying hi to a child and we should work to fix that. In the same vein, we should recogni…
/r/seduction31/10/19 08:50 PM
1

If that's what you want, then you probably need to hang around a church, mosque, temple, etc. Better chance of finding a girl there that hasn't been with any guys. At the same time, ask yourself this: do you plan on sticking with the same girl your entire life? Or do you wish to sleep with multiple girls, experience multiple relationships, etc. Because if you want multiple relationships, you need to let this mindset go.
/r/seduction31/10/19 08:43 PM
2

Tbf there's a lot of women out there that also suck at sex but guys generally care less.
/r/seduction31/10/19 08:38 PM
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That's what I'm saying. This is a garbage post and reeks of a guy that has no idea what women go through in the dating world. And I say this as a guy who has very little idea what women go through in the dating world.
/r/seduction31/10/19 08:38 PM
5

There is no settling for less. If a woman thinks that she should be dating more attractive guys but those guys don't pay attention to her, then she needs to reevaluate her social standing.
/r/seduction31/10/19 08:35 PM
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If you don't want to date her because she's slept around a lot, that's one thing. If someone says that ALL women who sleep around are no longer relationship material, then that's definitely slut shaming. If someone thinks it's ok for men to sleep with multiple women, but don't think the opposite is ok, then that's a pretty bad double standard.
/r/seduction31/10/19 08:33 PM
1

That's an huge oversimplification but ok.
/r/seduction31/10/19 08:26 PM
3

But the game isn't the same anymore. We have condoms and birth control so now women can sex with fewer and much less serious consequences as well. It makes sense that they would have more sex with the top guys when there's relatively little to risk.
/r/seduction31/10/19 08:25 PM
2

That's good for you, but most guys are not good about slut shaming.
/r/seduction31/10/19 07:58 PM
1

Maybe we shouldn't be blaming women for sleeping around and instead ask why attractive men are lowering their standards.
/r/seduction31/10/19 07:42 PM
2

That's not what the second study says either. All it says it that the top men are having more sex, not that less men are having sex in general. The number of men having sex is still the same, but the amount of sex is what has changed. And that isn't necessarily a bad thing. It's very possible that the mid-tier men are having sex with 1-2 women rather than 5-6 women. Anyways, none of the studies say that only a few men are having sex.
/r/seduction31/10/19 07:38 PM
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Slut shaming isn't going to make all women stop having sex. It will make them feel bad for enjoying something they think they shouldn't. It's like if people told you that you shouldn't jack off ever. Even though you enjoy it, you're always gonna feel guilty about doing it.
/r/seduction31/10/19 07:34 PM
3

Your Washington Post study doesn't say that few men are having sex with multiple women. The only thing it says is that 33% of men didn't have sex in 2018. Which means that the majority did have sex.
/r/seduction31/10/19 07:28 PM
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It's really sad how far this sub has fallen. Instead of trying to improve oneself to be the version possible, people are posting comedy bits about why it's ok to consider women who sleep around a lot sluts. Is it easier for women to get sex? Yes, but that's not their fault. Also, get over it, that's just how the world works. If men worried less about how many women they slept with and spent more time thinking about having quality experiences and relationships with women, they would be much happi…
/r/seduction31/10/19 07:25 PM
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Guys are not good about slut shaming. A lot of the guys who engage in slut shaming do so because they are not getting laid by the girls they want. If anyone perpetuates the idea that women who have slept with several men are no longer relationship material simply because they slept around, then they are slut shaming. Period.
/r/seduction31/10/19 07:17 PM
3

Clearly I meant both. I'd rather regularly fuck a 7 that's fun to chill with than a 9 that makes me question reality and stresses me tf out. That's why the quote goes "For every hot chick out there, there's a dude who's tired of fucking her."
/r/seduction29/10/19 02:32 PM
8

I mean, I guess you can only chase 9-10s, just seems silly to only focus on looks when a lot of hot girls suck. There's a ton of 7 & 8s that are fun to be around.
/r/seduction29/10/19 05:17 AM
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Just because a girl isn't "hot" doesn't mean there's no point. There's a lot of really cool chicks out there that aren't gonna make you do a double take but are still really cute and fun to hang out with.
/r/seduction29/10/19 05:08 AM
2

Well what do you have that the "better looking" guy doesn't? Also realize that most women aren't perfect, even the hot ones, so her just being hot isn't gonna get her a stud dude that hangs around permanently. You'd be surprised at the number of hot women that have been dumped by "regular" dudes because they got tired of the chick's shit. Personally, I think this sub focuses way too much on looks. If you find a cool 6.5-7 chick, don't ignore her because you think you need to get a 9 or 10 that m…
/r/seduction26/10/19 06:50 AM
1

You should not take any life advice from the characters in Always Sunny
/r/seduction26/10/19 06:45 AM
2

You're very correct. Not everything done to improve oneself is about attracting women. For example, someone may learn a skill that allows them to gain a promotion or access a new job with a higher salary. And that higher salary allows them to upgrade their living situation to something more comfortable, purely because they wanted to live somewhere they preferred. That has nothing to do with attracting women.
/r/seduction26/10/19 06:43 AM
2

Might have more to do with your approach.
/r/seduction21/10/19 07:17 PM
2

If I were you, I wouldn't send that last part, seems really try hard to me. Just invite her out for drinks with a simple "Hey, let's get drinks on <pick a day>, I know a great bar with blablabla"
/r/seduction21/10/19 03:21 PM
11

The recommendation I saw in Models was masturbate once a week, no porn. Obviously some people can jerk it more often if they're able to still get out there and talk to chicks.
/r/seduction21/10/19 03:17 PM
3

You can but in the meantime I would keep talking to other women. That way you're not overly invested in this girl.
/r/seduction18/10/19 10:49 PM
3

Yeah. DO NOT take her to an expensive dinner. It's completely unnecessary.
/r/seduction18/10/19 10:48 PM
4

Like the other guy said, if she's cute then yeah. But I'd be careful hooking up with roommates, it can easily lead to a difficult situation.
/r/seduction18/10/19 10:45 PM
7

Move on. She couldn't even give you a straight answer even after you reminded her that she hadn't responded.
/r/seduction18/10/19 10:43 PM
1

There's a comment that straight up says "Screw women" and bunch of others talking about women only like rich, hot dudes.
/r/seduction17/10/19 07:16 PM
6

Good shit. Plus having all these hobbies will give you a ton of things to talk about because of all the different experiences and stories that come along with them.
/r/seduction16/10/19 06:48 PM
11

Is this sub getting flooded by incels? I swear, the number of women-hating dudes in here is ridiculous.
/r/seduction16/10/19 06:45 PM
7

You don't need to go to yoga necessarily to meet women. Your goal should be to feel comfortable around women, especially in female dominated spaces. Yoga is great for your mind and spirit, and it can be a great way to de-stress and unwind. Getting used to having small brief conversations with women in a friendly space can lower anxiety when you're out at a bar, club, festival, etc. This isn't necessarily for you, but to anyone reading that may discouraged by the fact that a yoga studio isn't the…
/r/seduction16/10/19 06:38 PM
1

Nah this just seems like someone who's over invested and butthurt. Just reply "No worries, another time" and move on. Maybe she really did have something come up. This wouldn't be an issue if you were talking to multiple women.
/r/seduction14/10/19 08:43 AM
2

This hurts me bro because it's exactly what I would've done at your age. It seems like the most logical thing to do. "Oh, you're tired? No worries, I'll just catch you another time". Like the other guy said, if she says she's tired, invite her over and give her a massage or say y'all are just gonna watch a movie.
/r/seduction11/10/19 07:59 PM
2

Just laugh it off. You messed up. Guess what? At some point, so did everyone else. There's a ton of guys out there that do embarrassing stuff but have you noticed that girls still hook up with them?
/r/seduction11/10/19 07:52 PM
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Just to clarify, because I see I got downvoted, I was asking an honest question. I know girls who have been honest about some interesting things that scared me off. For example, revealing that they are into getting heavily drugged up before going out to bars. Not something I want to be involved with. Now in your case with the recent guy you mentioned, he probably just wasn't really into getting serious and wanted some quick sex. And when you stuck to your principles and didn't have sex with him,…
/r/seduction11/10/19 07:43 PM
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I don't think I would listen to a 19-year old girl's thoughts on dating. I wouldn't listen to a 19 year old guy either. But the mindset and actions are important. If she's being completely honest, she's giving a perfect description of how a young girl's (18-26) mind works when it comes to dating prospects.
/r/seduction11/10/19 05:38 PM
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Here's the key: what are you honest about?
/r/seduction11/10/19 05:36 PM
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Yeah, it's a good read. It accurately described a lot of the things I was doing and discussed ways to quit those bad habits. It goes beyond just dating and deals with a lot of interpersonal relationships.
/r/seduction10/10/19 09:28 PM
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Some things don't change. Being assertive and not putting others before yourself are timeless traits to have.
/r/seduction10/10/19 09:24 PM
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I know a ton of chicks that usually don't hook up or make out in clubs. For them it's fun to dress up and show off their outfit/body while being out with her girls. Think about it, they spend so much time looking for the perfect dress, where else are they gonna show it off? Plus there's the potential for free drinks.
/r/seduction10/10/19 05:29 AM
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Bro, I just gotta say, I respect your honesty. Lotta dudes being real immature about it in here, makes me think that this sub is full of high schoolers.
/r/seduction09/10/19 09:34 PM
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I'm not white and I've had girls approach me.
/r/seduction09/10/19 07:06 AM
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Nah it's never too late. I've heard of guys losing their virginity in their 30s and then crushing it with women.
/r/seduction07/10/19 06:15 PM
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Why do you have such a self defeating mindset? That's what keeping you down.
/r/seduction07/10/19 06:00 PM
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Speak thoughts into reality. If you think you have a good personality, you're gonna exude a good personality. Be a guy who has fun and is outcome independent and it will attract all kinds of people to you.
/r/seduction07/10/19 05:55 PM
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Doesn't matter how big your dick is if you make her feel good, especially if you make her cum.
/r/seduction07/10/19 05:53 PM
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If you're a charming goblin, they will like you.
/r/seduction07/10/19 05:51 PM
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Nothing wrong with the smile, you should be happy to ask out a girl you like. Practice saying it in the mirror so you get used to the sound. Most importantly don't worry about it. Getting in your head will make you mess up. Just like the other guy said "1, 2, 3, go"
/r/seduction01/10/19 03:11 AM
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Think of it this way: you don't necessarily like her, you just think she's attractive. And a lot of dudes probably do, so you aren't really revealing anything personal about yourself. Girls are almost never direct about who they like. They'll show you signs but sometimes those are completely vague. That's why people recommend just living your life and having fun. Girls (and people) are attracted to people that just have a good time. But pay closer attention to those around you.
/r/seduction01/10/19 03:10 AM
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Within the first few times you meet. If you hang out one on one for an extended period of time, definitely ask her out in that instance. If you hang out one on one too much, she may start considering you a friend. "Hey I think you're cute. Let's grab a coffee sometime."
/r/seduction01/10/19 03:05 AM
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Let them know early on that you're interested in dating and not just being friends. Then she'll let you know if she wants to date. If she does, cool. If not, your can cut it off without getting overly invested.
/r/seduction01/10/19 02:58 AM
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Of course you like em, if you didn't you wouldn't approach them. Can't be afraid to lose.
/r/seduction01/10/19 02:57 AM
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Yeah, I wouldn't hang with her one on one anymore. She just showed you her hand: she's just looking for a simp to give her attention. And you just told her that isn't gonna be you. You 100% did the right thing.
/r/seduction24/09/19 08:18 PM
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What white joke? The basic white girl joke? That's not a "white" joke. It's making light of the fact that there's a subset of women, usually white, that drink White Claw, pumpkin spice lattes, buy UGGs and white low top converse.
/r/seduction23/09/19 06:27 PM
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Don't see why it would be a turnoff. Pretty sure a lot of friend groups have people that have hooked up in them and no longer do/only on rare occasions.
/r/seduction23/09/19 06:24 PM
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Yeah, this is something guys need to understand. Girls have egos too. And that's not necessarily a bad thing. If she had to settle, that means she had to pick a guy lower than what she thought she could get. And that means that she overrated herself. If she was as high value as she thought, then a better guy would've chased her. But none of them were. So she had to marry the guy near or at her level.
/r/seduction20/09/19 09:49 PM
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I mean, if he wanted a relationship and she just wants to be friends, it's not healthy for him to be friends with her. Like I said, after some time away he may be able to come back to being friends with her. OP said he couldn't just be friends. Honestly I don't care if she thinks he's lame or not, and he shouldn't either. Just like he's not entitled to reciprocated feelings, she's not entitled to a friendship. They don't even have the same goals, so the friendship is already on rocky footing. Wh…
/r/seduction20/09/19 06:15 PM
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What? This has nothing to do with women not being able to sleep with everyone who's interested in them or letting "them sleep with whoever they want for whatever reason they want". It's in the guy's best interest to "clear the air" because without doing that, he has no idea if the girl likes him or not. There's a possibility that she's hanging with him because she does like him and is waiting for him to ask her out. There's also a possibility that she just sees him as a good friend. But until he…
/r/seduction20/09/19 05:29 PM
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It's painful to lose the friend but it's more painful to be friends with them and watch them fall in love with someone else. The friend who doesn't have feelings will lose but it's better for the person who has feelings to get themselves out that situation, it's not healthy. It is possible that after some time apart, the friend with feelings either gets over them or finds another partner. And then they go right back to being friends with the person again.
/r/seduction20/09/19 05:17 PM
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Yeah I was with that poster until that point. A guy doesn't need to tell her everything that's going on or talk to her every second, but it's still a good move to just hit her up during the week.
/r/seduction18/09/19 06:32 PM
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Nah, the train is at the station waiting for you. Girls that are friendzoning you do not talk about masturbating to porn with you one on one. You're in the , brotha.
/r/seduction18/09/19 01:15 AM
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You should be excited to find out that he chose you over other women. I would hope that both mature men and women would be sincere when they say they're exclusive and if they no longer want to be, they end the relationship before pursuing other partners. But the idea in this subreddit is that a guy shouldn't overcommit to one woman during the dating/courting phase. A lot of the guys here used to pursue one girl for months and then get heartbroken when she ended up with another guy. Talking to mu…
/r/seduction18/09/19 12:03 AM
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What if after y'all got exclusive you found out that you beat out all the other women in his life to be his girlfriend?
/r/seduction17/09/19 11:24 PM
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I mean, he shouldn't be talking to other girls in front of you. Maybe he's going on dates with other women but I don't think anyone here is recommending a guy actively hit on other women while he's with you. At most, he may post a story on IG where he's hanging with female friends but that's it.
/r/seduction17/09/19 11:22 PM
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That's exactly what they want you to think. She made sure she didn't look like a threat so you wouldn't perceive her as one. I don't know 100% that she's a shoplifter, but her look shouldn't factor into the chances of her being one.
/r/seduction13/09/19 09:43 PM
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