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1

Crazy girl sex is amazing. But yeah...its also unsustainable.
/r/TheRedPill03/04/20 02:32 PM
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Oh yeah. She likes it when I put my foot down and refuse shit tests. And its very obvious she likes it.
/r/TheRedPill03/04/20 02:31 PM
5

Nicely done. I had to take the same tack and just lay down the "no more shit food" rule as well. Feel better, leaner, more energy too.
/r/TheRedPill02/04/20 07:49 PM
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One day she will branch swing to another gullible fool. And he will stand there, fattened up at the station, with a long wait for a train dont come.
/r/TheRedPill02/04/20 07:48 PM
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That's pretty the stance I had to take. That, and do a lot if my own cooking for leftovers through the week.
/r/TheRedPill02/04/20 07:47 PM
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Absolutely true. They'll try and undermine your dominant stances in front of other women. Fatten you up. All manner of things.
/r/TheRedPill02/04/20 07:44 PM
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Or guys recuperating from injury, like myself. Guys whose appetites didn't slow down at the same rate the workouts had to.
/r/TheRedPill02/04/20 05:56 PM
1

Yeah, that's a warning alright.
/r/TheRedPill02/04/20 05:55 PM
2

Quality post. Thanks.
/r/TheRedPill02/04/20 12:58 PM
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Its tough, I admit. There are absolutely times when I miss that feeling of being really drawn to a woman. But I think RP has killed the old romantic tendencies I once possessed. And I am with you on tests. They start, I just...ignore them entirely now, and go do my thing. At this point, she will calm down and come to me. And if she doesn't, well, she knows where the door is. I am long past my heart breaking because a woman got bored of me. Its not personal; getting bored of men is what they DO.
/r/TheRedPill17/03/20 03:43 PM
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Oh I agree. I'm 40 now. Still decently fit. Good sex drive. But nothing turns me off like shit tests. The minute they start these days, I'm just done. Not angry. Just...done. Addendum: I was already in an LTR when I found RP, and some days, I think seriously of ending it. LTRs can easily devolve into a series of shit tests some days/weeks, and I just...cant be bothered. Shes a decent gal, but shes gotten complacent and a bit lazy.
/r/TheRedPill17/03/20 02:25 PM
1

Put like that, true enough
/r/TheRedPill14/03/20 05:00 PM
5

Exactly that. Logic doesnt work.
/r/TheRedPill14/03/20 01:10 PM
10

On the other hand...and I dont mean to take away from her achievements...she is not one the best pro fighters out there. I mean, sure, she might be, among women. The fact, though, remains: If I want to see the finest fighters - or basketball players or swimmers - in the world...I'm gonna watch mens sports. Period. Thats not sexist, its just the truth.
/r/TheRedPill14/03/20 12:45 AM
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Spot. Fucking. On. I mean, all women have some measure of unreasonable behavior somewhere in them. But theres a threshold beyond which I simply wont go. Ever. For anyone. And when the behavior hits that threshold, you walk. I wasnt always that way. But once you walk the first time...my god is that a liberating experience. We dont NEED them. Especially not any one particular one of them. And once you get past that bit of conditioning...its all downhill all the way to DGAF Station.
/r/TheRedPill14/03/20 12:43 AM
12

To be fair, "logically unreasonable" is pretty much the default state for women. Men should never, ever forget that.
/r/TheRedPill14/03/20 12:40 AM
15

Holy shit, I never knew that...but she is a pro fighter, and SHE didnt know that?
/r/TheRedPill14/03/20 12:40 AM
12

Spot on advice. There's a story told in the 48 laws of power, about a former Master of the Japanese Tea Ceremony who marveled at what he perceived was accidental beauty during a tea ceremony. He was later disgusted upon realizing his host had gone to extravagant effort not only to create the perception of accidental beauty, but then to try and hide his hard work. Contrary to popular belief, one can try TOO hard to impress.
/r/TheRedPill21/02/20 10:49 PM
3

Thats... a fair point. Bit of a confidence boost, that even coming off shoulder injury and at 40 years old, I'm still miles ahead of the pack...
/r/TheRedPill13/02/20 05:15 PM
9

Every woman has the potential. The penchant. Hence, AWALT. They're ALL "loaded guns." Whether any one pulls a trigger is still up in the air...but never think yours is the OBE that comes with a safety...
/r/TheRedPill13/02/20 01:30 PM
21

It's like I read on here months back: just not being fat in the US guarantees a woman is a 6-7 BARE MINIMUM compared to her counterparts, at this point.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/20 01:28 PM
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Women literally evolved to manipulate men into sticking around. For thousands of years, without a physically strong man, they lacked both protection and sustenance. So yes, manipulation of men IS ingrained not by culture but by nature. It literally HAD to be.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/20 01:27 PM
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Radical Acceptance has helped me. When I learned the combination of bulging discs in my neck and the partially torn rotator cuff tendons meant that I'd be sidelined from most physical activity for much of 2020, I was...not in a good place. But I've accepted it. Which lead to a new eating plan that ensures I maintain my weight. And the exploration of treatment plans. I then took a look at some new shows. And books. Found a PowerShell Masterclass on YouTube. Tried new recipes. I changed my activit…
/r/TheRedPill20/01/20 03:53 PM
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Wow...yeah. He'll hit bottom one day. Then he will go looking for a way back up.
/r/TheRedPill19/01/20 01:28 PM
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Deciding that you dont want to be with a woman because she isnt into isnt manipulation. I would not stay with a women uninterested in sex with me. No self respecting, healthy male would. But then, you had to insert a false, either/or fallacy just to try and make your point. So no surprise you do not, in fact, have one. You tacked on 'all the time' not me. If I'm a quality guy doing shit right and shes not into me, I'm moving on. That's not manipulation, that's self improvement.
/r/TheRedPill18/01/20 03:40 PM
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You're not wrong. And I knew. I wanted to try. But the results were...about what I expected. Sadly.
/r/TheRedPill18/01/20 01:17 PM
1

Ouch. Been there. It's tough, man. It really is.
/r/TheRedPill17/01/20 02:05 PM
1

Oh yes. Very much so. And that's very fitting.
/r/TheRedPill17/01/20 02:01 PM
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Absolutely true. Never thought of it that way, but...yeah, true.
/r/TheRedPill17/01/20 02:00 PM
1

Fair point there. Good advice.
/r/TheRedPill17/01/20 01:58 PM
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It's been an eye opener. A helpful one.
/r/TheRedPill14/01/20 11:03 AM
8

Fair point, this. Hopefully I did some small good.
/r/TheRedPill14/01/20 11:03 AM
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Gods own truth. Outside of a truly down and out, genuine offline friend in a one on one, I'll doubt I'll every try again.
/r/TheRedPill14/01/20 01:38 AM
2

Ahh, I see what you mean there. Fair point.
/r/TheRedPill11/01/20 02:42 AM
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True. But theres a subtle difference between the DGAF ATTITUDE...and really, genuinely not caring because you're so damned hurt inside that it literally doesnt matter...
/r/TheRedPill10/01/20 07:28 PM
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Or you have to simply, genuinely not care...which I think is the case with some of them. Comedy does often come from a happy place.
/r/TheRedPill09/01/20 04:52 PM
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That's so powerful and accurate a metaphor...holy shit...
/r/TheRedPill01/01/20 03:39 AM
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There are non psychotic feminists? TIL...
/r/TheRedPill01/01/20 03:39 AM
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True. A friend got his wrist broke. Eight weeks, no lifting...minimum. all for some drunk asshole.
/r/TheRedPill01/01/20 12:00 AM
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Wow, thats...yikes. I doubt I'd ever be able to do it, to be honest. But...yikes.
/r/TheRedPill31/12/19 11:59 PM
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I know my family history of cancer/alzheimers. That...doesn't sound so bad, by comparison. Least it was quick. That's better than my predecessors got.
/r/TheRedPill31/12/19 05:42 PM
1

Bouncer, if you're fit/can pull it off. Bouncers literally have to push easy chicks away, otherwise, you'll drown in them.
/r/TheRedPill31/12/19 05:41 PM
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Be busy, confident and aloof...and get fit. They'll approach you. Welcome.
/r/TheRedPill31/12/19 05:35 PM
2

Good choice
/r/TheRedPill17/12/19 07:43 PM
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The problem with science today is that it must, first and foremost, say what will bring it the grant dollars. Hence, the years long man made climate change hoax, with its endless inaccurate predictions, and constant doomsday predictions...always just a little too far into the future to impact or be proven/disproven by the current generation of researchers making the claims, mind,
/r/TheRedPill06/12/19 10:39 AM
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Solid decision, man. And nice job at assessing the person and situation. Social awareness is so important in the office.
/r/TheRedPill25/11/19 09:36 PM
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Smart fucking move. Well played. This is how I would have done it, too. Or simply told her I didnt need anything. But yeah, knowing they wanted to "celebrate" men in a mostly female office, the BEST thing you can do is NOT be there when they do it.
/r/TheRedPill25/11/19 08:07 PM
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My favorite Mens Day comment I saw on the web: Her: Men. Its your day. Why the silence? Why are you not out there, making noise? Him: We got up. And went to work. Like every other day. Hence, the "wage gap."
/r/TheRedPill25/11/19 08:05 PM
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"Lifting" is also a catch all term. Lift. Run. Calisthenics. Do what gets you fit and makes you more physically appealing. Do it. Dont talk about it. Brag about it. Contemplate it. And dont - for the love of the gods do not - wait until you feel motivated. Just. Go. Do. It.
/r/TheRedPill23/11/19 02:38 PM
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You can make yourself more than just genetics and luck. I'm only 5'6", and was a husky fellow at 15, who'd had sex with exactly 1 girl. I wasnt doing well. My sixteenth summer, I sat up late one night watching Rocky movies. The next day, I dug out my old weight set. Started lifting and cardio. That summer, I got a job, lost 20 lbs, got ripped. When i went back to high school my junior year, i discovered something: A young man with decent looks, a good physique and good social skills, is like a g…
/r/TheRedPill13/11/19 08:10 PM
3

Same here. Never even considered going. The one time former roommates drug me to a "gentleman's club" I was bored as hell. Left an hour, called what I realize now was a Plate and got laid.
/r/TheRedPill12/11/19 01:33 AM
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Top tier life tips here. All of them. Great post. I sometimes guilt trip myself over leisure time. Dont do that; in reasonable moderation its necessary.
/r/TheRedPill09/11/19 05:58 PM
1

The Ortho doctor thinks my biggest weakness is being a 40 year old who tries to work out like he's 20. He basically told me as politely as possible today that they are out of sympathy for my recurring pain, since every time i come in and they ask me, "How long since your last workout?" I hem and haw before admitting its bee maybe 48 hours. So...for the rest of the Winter, I am to do only rehab exercises for my formerly sprained shoulder. And rest. A lot. Give my body a break. Going to take a few…
/r/TheRedPill08/11/19 12:22 AM
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Thanks for the info. No ortho doctor, xray or MRI can find an issue...but I deal with constant muscle tightness and joint pain...even after rest periods, it never goes away. Going to look at diet next.
/r/TheRedPill07/11/19 08:16 PM
1

I am guilty of dairy. Daily, in my coffee creamer. I should try a day or 5 without it. See if anything changes. Thanks.
/r/TheRedPill07/11/19 08:14 PM
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I'm having major joint issues and inflammation. Recurring. I eat pretty healthy, but am wondering...what foods brought on your attacks? Thanks.
/r/TheRedPill07/11/19 05:56 PM
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Isnt it, though? It's a profound moment.
/r/TheRedPill06/11/19 01:56 PM
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I'm American. Never left the country. But fat and lazy is the norm here, yeah. Its pathetic.
/r/TheRedPill03/11/19 03:06 AM
1

Nope. We dont learn from history, so...some things are a cliche for a reason...
/r/TheRedPill02/11/19 01:16 AM
14

Wow. It...really is. Even down to potentially sleeping away her youth....
/r/TheRedPill02/11/19 01:06 AM
9

Holy shit. That's spot on. Well put.
/r/TheRedPill02/11/19 01:03 AM
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Yes, theres that, too. Good point.
/r/TheRedPill02/11/19 01:03 AM
21

Right there with you. Stopped porn myself, save the drive for the real thing. But lap dances and strip clubs? No thanks. Waste of time, pointless frustration.
/r/TheRedPill01/11/19 08:11 PM
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The inevitable end of feminism is eating itself. The old and jealous will either repulse or devour the younger women they need taking up the mantle. They will do this out of jealousy. Because if there is one thing a middle age and up woman hates...its a younger, prettier, fitter, trimmer woman who is also successful. They will tear her down with a smile and revel in the flotsam of her shattered existence. And this is happening younger and younger. Far girls live to tear down fit, beautiful women…
/r/TheRedPill01/11/19 08:05 PM
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It is an inevitable decline anyway. A pre determined occurrence. Because you cant remove greed and gullibility from human nature, you cant prevent the ultimate decline of a culture made dumber by the Herd mentality. It's a cycle. Like all things. And theres no stopping it
/r/TheRedPill01/11/19 03:19 PM
1

Spot fucking on. That "supercar" is fun. For a while. But you try and hang onto it too long, and the maintenance costs, paranoia and the sheer weight of the envious attention it brings, will destroy you. Enjoy it. Be satisfied you got to play in that league awhile, and move on.
/r/TheRedPill01/11/19 12:04 PM
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This absolutely works. And you can flip it. I used to get upset about her cold periods, with little touch and affection. Even tries to...GULP...negotiate for more hands on time. Then I found TRP Aand realized: she is bored with me due to over exposure. Rekindled some hobbies. Got quietly into my own stuff. Let her come to me. And it worked. Never give them as much together time as they want. They will just get bored. Keep your distance, your frame, your interests, always. They are a compliment n…
/r/TheRedPill25/10/19 05:35 PM
3

Was just going to say that I have no doubt this company teaches both sexes these things...its just that one of them whines about it.
/r/TheRedPill24/10/19 07:54 PM
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Any man marrying a modern woman in western society without a prenup, or cohabitating in a common law state, is an idiot. And arguably even with a prenup, there isnt much to gain in a monogamous relationship. And I say this, being in one. Sure mine is better than most I know...but AWALT, and I know it. If you're a self sufficient, high value, single man...just stay single.
/r/TheRedPill23/10/19 06:49 PM
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You misspelled "justifiable" there... I know its harsh, but this, is fucked...
/r/TheRedPill23/10/19 02:22 AM
12

Women would rather be miserable than bored. Basic TRP tenet.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/19 04:50 PM
3

Been through it twice. Still use the audio version a ton, to refresh. It's great on the way to work, to help focus.
/r/TheRedPill10/10/19 06:13 PM
5

That's the Law. Good advice. Wish I'd read it at 18, not 38, but better late than never.
/r/TheRedPill10/10/19 03:28 PM
20

So true. Knowing when to conform - polite laughs at old jokes in the office, told by a new face - and when not to - No, Mom, I DONT want kids, and I never will, get over it - is key. To personal power. To necessary social acceptance (as at work, to get along and rise in the ranks, to secure your future). Be you. Be authentic. But know when to blend in. As in the 48 Laws of Power, sometimes, you have to be a Chameleon.
/r/TheRedPill10/10/19 01:41 PM
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God doesn't bleed. That's TRP in a nutshell. A motto. A fucking MANTRA...said quietly, to oneself, of course. That's the whole shebang, in one concise sentence.
/r/TheRedPill25/09/19 06:02 PM
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As another post here recently stated, add in that 68% of American women are overweight and even average girls are so elevated in status that they're hit on constantly. Especially considering that most men believe women want the supplicant-suitor, politely groveling at their feet and reaffirming their every pathetic, attention seeking social media post.
/r/TheRedPill19/09/19 03:34 PM
1

Been there. AWALT is, to me, recognition that all women have the potential for the same behaviors...not that all women exercise that potential all the time.
/r/TheRedPill18/09/19 03:22 PM
3

And yet they wonder why men dont want them...
/r/TheRedPill17/09/19 06:32 PM
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Physical fucking effort is, for most American women, viewed as unfair punishment levied on them by the social expectations created by men. They're told things like "he wants you to look like a porn star" or "he should live you for who you are." It's all bullshit, but they eat it up.
/r/TheRedPill16/09/19 07:30 PM
1

That's a fair point, actually
/r/TheRedPill12/09/19 01:02 PM
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Except she specifically said that, no, she doesn't blame them. I mean, she outright said it.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/19 10:17 AM
10

One surprisingly effective way to reset the clock and keep her trying to tame you, as opposed to seeing you as tamed: Put your foot down. Do not put up with her shit. When my girl acted up, I used to talk to her about it. Gently. Compassionately. Carefully. Walking on eggshells, I would broach the subject of her non-participation, her complacence, her laziness. And every time, she would grow angrier, and find ways to turn things around, to make it my fault that she had withdrawn or grown lazy. A…
/r/TheRedPill31/08/19 02:15 PM
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Agreed. Concerns are fine. Let's talk. But not ALLOWED? Yeah...that's not gonna work for me.
/r/TheRedPill28/08/19 04:00 PM
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Had a friend, in the military, who did this for his wife. She divorced him the day she got her first job in the medical field. Left him for the guy she'd cheated with, took him for alimony and child support. Pay your own fucking way. My girl makes six figures, and after years together makes sure she pays for at least half our dinners out. Pain that she can be, she pays her own way in life, always has done.
/r/TheRedPill26/08/19 05:21 PM
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If you lift, regularly, even when you don't feel like it, in a disciplined manner...then you know why. If you dont, then go learn.
/r/TheRedPill25/08/19 11:58 AM
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I'm in PA. While my girl thinks we are Common Law, I've not yet seen fit to tell her that's not a thing here.
/r/TheRedPill23/08/19 04:49 PM
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If I hear the words "You're not ALLOWED to" it's over. Period. I dont like the gold digging, hypergamy obsessed hypocrite of a mother I did get stuck with. I damn sure wont tolerate having a second one. For all her flaws, my girl knows, bone deep, that telling me I'm not ALLOWED to do something reasonable is a one way, irrevocable ticket out the door.
/r/TheRedPill23/08/19 04:48 PM
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Most responsible teenagers in the room...now running the show.
/r/TheRedPill23/08/19 04:42 PM
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Just...never get married. As a guy in an LTR (though likely not for much longer) just dont. Learn to cook. Clean your own messes. Get fit. Dont get married. It's pure drain, no gain.
/r/TheRedPill23/08/19 04:40 PM
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Never rely. Never expect. Never, ever depend.
/r/TheRedPill22/08/19 07:07 PM
113

THIS is the sort of shit I come here for. I've a touch of adult ADHD and planning and focus are...challenging. Advice like this is pure gold to people like me. Forget 18 year olds with "field reports. " This is Red Pill shit here.
/r/TheRedPill17/08/19 10:55 PM
9

Exactly this. When you make relationships an unsafe disadvantageous, legal minefield for men, then men will shun relationships. They made the bed, they can lie in it. Alone, except for brief periods here and there.
/r/TheRedPill03/08/19 02:41 AM
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Its funny. Women love to harp about how porn is bad for me because it creates unrealistic expectations and dulls the libido. And thats fine, it does. On the other hand, they can watch Lifetime and Hallmark and Nicholas Sparks movies all fucking day long without anyone complaining, despite the fact that, just like the disney movies they grew up on, it has the same effect on them, that porn does on men.
/r/TheRedPill03/08/19 02:40 AM
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Much as I sometimes hate to admit it, if you're gonna have A girl...one with a six figure salary is nice.
/r/TheRedPill31/07/19 12:47 AM
121

And divorce means they get half your shit. Because, you know, they gave you the privilege of their presence in your life... Yeah...nope.
/r/TheRedPill25/07/19 04:59 PM
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That makes two of us. Why would you not just leave her ass? Telling you...with society at this point, young, self sufficient men would need to be idiots to marry.
/r/TheRedPill25/07/19 04:43 PM
9

This is the point. The heart of it: know when to shut up.
/r/TheRedPill25/07/19 10:10 AM
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I should clarify: be mindful of how much, and how often, where chit chat is concerned. "Never" is extremist, I admit, though it cuts to the point: to her, it should seem like never, or rare occasions, at most.
/r/TheRedPill24/07/19 07:25 PM
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It's a lesson I've learned the hard way, too
/r/TheRedPill24/07/19 06:41 PM
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This is important in an LTR. You might think, shes my SO, we can chit chat now. No. You cant. If women want small talk they've got other women for that. A man looking to make small talk comes off as insecure and desperate for attention. Call a friend. Get a hobby. Just leave her the fuck alone until date night.
/r/TheRedPill24/07/19 05:35 PM
1

When next I'm in that state I shall indeed. Shes told me to let her know when I come to visit.
/r/TheRedPill23/07/19 12:15 PM
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Could not agree more. I can vouch that, especially in groups of any size, American women are simply obnoxious. They really believe, down deep, that we are privileged simply to be in their presence. Even fat, slovenly girls think they're gracing us and we should feel good simply being allowed to touch or speak to them. Its disgusting.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/19 01:52 PM
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It doesn't help that fathers are now taught to raise their daughters like princesses. Dad used to be the anchor to realism. The grounding cord to reality. The tough but fair, gently demanding voice of reason that kept daughters grounded. Which is why a good dad/daughter relationship was once an indicator of a good partner potential. Not any fucking more.
/r/TheRedPill11/07/19 12:57 PM
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Two words: emotional. Porn. We all know how porn can warp expectations for men. Make real life sex less appealing. Artificially inflate or alter expectations. Well...women are fed a lifetime of "emotional porn" by their 18th birthday. Disney princesses. Sex and the City. Romance novels. Movies based on Romance novels. By the time they reach adulthood, and combined this with a lifetime of "have vagina, am snowflake" treatment...they're expectations are so out of proportion and over the top, mergi…
/r/TheRedPill11/07/19 10:13 AM
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Its staggering, the number of overweight, unattractive "like me for me" American women who cant fit into anything size 14 or below, who have to shop at special "feel good about being fat" stores to get clothing...and STILL think they deserve prince fucking charming by way of 50 shades of stupid...
/r/TheRedPill10/07/19 02:06 PM
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Spot on. That's similar to the conversation I had, in fact.
/r/TheRedPill04/07/19 04:52 PM
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I once had a woman pull this same shit. She was all about open relationships. Because "people like variety, right?" Sure we do. But of course, she thought I would have a hard time getting laid. So when I found a prospective new playmate before she did, she changed her mind real quick. Of course, so did I, and I dont particularly miss her.
/r/TheRedPill04/07/19 03:43 PM
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Can you imagine the shitstorm if you mens with women's in that sentence? Fucking hypocrites.
/r/TheRedPill01/07/19 09:48 PM
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Marriage never had any value for self sufficient men to begin with
/r/TheRedPill23/06/19 01:08 PM
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No problem. A lot of this comes from lessons I have learned from my LTR, to be honest. I used to think that once you get with that long term partner, you're best friends, side by side all the time. I used to think "but an LTR is DIFFERENT." Nope. No it is not. If you're LTR is anything more than a date night or two per week, between which times you live your life, in your frame, then you're losing her to other, more stimulating, mysterious interactions (be that other men, or other occupations of…
/r/TheRedPill08/06/19 05:05 PM
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If time with a woman is ever - ever - more than occasional compliments to your existence within your own frame, you've already lost your way. There exists a temptation, especially early on, to indulge them. Give them lots of time. Live according to their whims or desires. This is a trap. Such desires for your attention do not stem from the woman. They arise from the "hamster" of her fickle attention span. Stimulate her as much in the beginning as she wishes, and you grow too familiar, at which p…
/r/TheRedPill07/06/19 03:52 PM
2

Exactly. It's so ridiculous but they keep saying it.
/r/TheRedPill16/05/19 03:06 PM
2

Aka, trying to fix the fact that non masculine men struggle to get laid. If only we knew how fix that...
/r/TheRedPill15/05/19 12:44 PM
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Exactly this. It's just like every other liberal "scientific" discovery: create a theory (in this case, women dont want masculine men). Then desperately bend the truth and flagrantly warp the data until it fits the theory. And once again, it isn't working. Fucking shocking.
/r/TheRedPill15/05/19 12:42 PM
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Exactly. This is the point of the affair.
/r/TheRedPill12/05/19 07:18 PM
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Imagine if she were the movie star and he modeled for Calvin Klein. Some said SHE should pay HIS debts. These same media outlets would lose their fucking minds over the sexist asshole. I hate hypocrisy.
/r/TheRedPill12/05/19 02:08 PM
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This is the brain dead "taxing the rich will fix everything" crowd, dont forget. Their relationship with critical thought is...not great.
/r/TheRedPill12/05/19 02:04 PM
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The feminization and weakening of men is important to their one-Muslim-world mission. You can foist patently absurd, antiquated, medieval religious views on a strong, thinking, informed population, after all.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/19 08:07 PM
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And thinking that you're something that you are, factually, demonstrably, not...sure. That's perfectly normal...
/r/TheRedPill11/05/19 08:05 PM
4

Exactly that. And the need for external validation.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/19 10:52 AM
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I really think it is. Because it enforces the mindset that is the lens through which one should view women. Not anger. Not bitterness. But an honest understanding of what they are. You dont get angry at a teen for being angsty, emotionally driven beings for whom reason nearly always takes a back seat. That's just...what they are.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/19 01:32 AM
15

My former fiance and I split because she thought she could change my mind about kids. Wrong. You knew I didnt want them from the start. Now she has 2 and is fucking miserable. Her husband is straight Beta bucks. She has cheated on him, and still tells me she cant wait for me to visit because she would still - 20 years later - fuck me, than him. Why? Two reasons: she is bored, and I was her darkest, naughtiest sexual chapter (right out of Uncle V there, it works). They only want the fantasy until…
/r/TheRedPill09/05/19 06:24 PM
27

It's like someone posted yesterday - women would rather be emotionally miserable than bored. I've watched 2 former female acquaintances and my own mother wreck their fucking lives...out of boredom. All 3 of these women had good men. Men who, while imperfect, cherished them. Provided for them. Did for them. And each one cheated. Walked out. Because "it just doesnt feel right." (Aka, I'm bored and the Hampster wheel is turning, let's go look for greener grass). This is a gender to.whom you can pro…
/r/TheRedPill09/05/19 06:20 PM
13

It's a Red Pill theory. Just Google on "most responsible teenager in the house." Explained so much of the shit I've seen and heard from women, I promise.
/r/TheRedPill09/05/19 06:12 PM
37

Nope. Dont. It's a fucking trap.
/r/TheRedPill09/05/19 05:13 PM
38

Most of them, in my practical experience, only want their little white picket fence dream life right up until they get it. For much the same reason that every woman wants a puppy or kitten, but not a cat or dog. They want their dream because they were spoon fed their "social duty" (marriage, kids) as a romantic dream, but were too damned blind to realize that the movies and the romance novels STOP there. Because past that point, it takes WORK. And as soon as that work becomes routine and uninter…
/r/TheRedPill09/05/19 03:17 PM
83

Most. Responsible. Teenager. In the House. Explains so much.
/r/TheRedPill09/05/19 03:12 PM
3

That's the funniest thing: they're creating what they hate, because THEY have made it socially unacceptable to admit what they really want.
/r/TheRedPill07/05/19 04:00 PM
10

I put it this way: Your neighbor has 10 dogs. He asks you to dog sit for 10 days while he is away. Nine of the dogs are sweet, loving and just happy to be cared for. One dog is hand biting, child terrorizing, aggressive murder machine whose activities the owner has seen the leftovers of countless times, but whom he can never catch in the act. All the dogs look roughly the same. Happy dog sitting.
/r/TheRedPill07/05/19 03:58 PM
4

Sage words right here, folks.
/r/TheRedPill06/05/19 06:30 PM
10

We do that here, it's called racism. Cant protect your culture (xenophobia, racism) and cant borrow or blend, either ("appropriation" remember. ) Our society is fucked.
/r/TheRedPill27/04/19 09:09 PM
17

100% truth. I tried keeping a close female friend during an LTR. But women are catty, jealous, insecure messes. Sometimes I still wonder why, at 40, I even bother with them at all.
/r/TheRedPill26/04/19 07:30 PM
4

Exactly this. I'm not overly concerned with the opinions of strangers. Like me, or dont and move on. It's no real difference to me either way.
/r/TheRedPill26/04/19 06:45 PM
5

Being Conservative in the NE US is a hard row to hoe.
/r/TheRedPill26/04/19 05:21 PM
10

Holy shit, I thought I was the only one to notice the slow, deliberate attempt to breed th West out of existence.
/r/TheRedPill26/04/19 05:15 PM
11

It's illegal in the US because it threatens the "get married, pump out factory workers" social structure we no longer need anyway.
/r/TheRedPill20/04/19 12:53 PM
27

Early exposure to my cheating, behavior projecting, grass is always greener mother convinced me by age 13: no kids. I knew early on that they're a legal Sword of Damocles...
/r/TheRedPill18/04/19 04:55 PM
36

I've been an orbiter, in my young and dumb days. She. Is not. Your. Friend. She just needs the confidence boost. You will never date her. Never fuck her. You're just an emotional tampon.
/r/TheRedPill12/04/19 05:33 PM
7

Judging by how tired and frustrated she is most nights, probably
/r/TheRedPill27/03/19 05:55 PM
16

Agreed. And these tales are coming from a woman. And it's still all catty behavior and gossip. Shes not even trying to downplay it.
/r/TheRedPill26/03/19 10:41 PM
112

I work on an all Male IT Team. Our days consist of dedicated work, with some talk and a pinch of cutting up mixed in. My fiance is a supervisor for an all female work team. Tales of her days are like soap opera horror stories of gossip, back stabbing, manipulation and oneupmanship...
/r/TheRedPill26/03/19 06:39 PM
2

It was the way I went about it, that caused the glaze over. I was basically asking her how we should fix the issue. That is...not the approach the take. When I switched to comfortably doing my own thing, and making plans then inviting her along, she was...more than responsive, lets say.
/r/TheRedPill15/03/19 12:20 AM
2

Exactly. Lessons learned. I was never very interested in an LTR, so a lot of this stuff, I am learning for the first time. Most of the time, I actually prefer doing my own thing. Now I tend to make plans and invite, as opposed to consult her about them. And she likes it more that way, judging by response.
/r/TheRedPill15/03/19 12:19 AM
10

Some of you know I'm (for some fucking reason) in an LTR. And it's not all bad. In fact, we have some truly great times, honest. But the past month was rough. She worked a lot. I did too. New year, busy careers. At first, I tried in early February to talk to her. Express concern about a lack of time together. See if we could mutually find things to do together and how I could accommodate her desire for closeness. Boom. Instant, hard shutdown. I could literally see her eyes glaze over as they dro…
/r/TheRedPill14/03/19 02:44 PM
19

And thats perfectly fine. Turns out, she didnt believe me when I said I didnt want kids. She thought she could change my mind. I moved on. She clearly didnt, at least not completely.
/r/TheRedPill09/03/19 02:44 PM
33

My ex fiance tells me, to this day, that her husband cant fuck her like I did. Not as raw, or passionate or as rough. We haven't had sex in 18 years...and she still says this.
/r/TheRedPill09/03/19 03:35 AM
6

Exactly this. I used to ponder how men in an LTR can walk the tightrope between being the guy she wants, and the one she needs. But you know...fuck it. The more time I spend in one, the more i think we simply are not built for an LTR. At least, some of us. And nearing 40, the degradation of my relationship seems to increase in speed toward some terminal velocity with every increasingly sexless month. Dont get me wrong. We arent dead bedroom. And as women go, i could do a lot worse. On the other …
/r/TheRedPill07/03/19 03:02 AM
18

I'm formulating a theory that women cannot be both attracted to, and comfortable with, the same guy. Cannot be. Evolutionarily the guy a woman needed would be a dangerous guy in high demand. Being comfortable means you lose him to other partners. To keep that guy meant being always worried about losing him. Which, back then, could literally be life or death. By trying to force monogamy women have undermined the competition for men that was the driving force behind their own attraction.
/r/TheRedPill06/03/19 06:33 PM
58

The Medium IS the message. Watch their actions, not their words. And never listen to their idea of the ideal guy. They're describing an orbiter, not a boyfriend.
/r/TheRedPill06/03/19 11:36 AM
10

2008 really drove this lesson home.
/r/TheRedPill21/02/19 05:32 PM
2

These seminars sound like the Lifetime channel for BP men. No thanks.
/r/TheRedPill21/02/19 05:31 PM
3

We are in the same boat. I'm slowly moving toward genuinely not giving a fuck...but I want to observe how my increasing withdrawal of attention alters her attitude about me and consequently her behavior toward me.
/r/TheRedPill26/09/18 07:20 PM
2

Plenty of people, probably. Certainly, in my case. Doesnt make our info any less true.
/r/TheRedPill23/09/18 02:20 PM
2

The norm? No. Doesn't mean it was hard.
/r/TheRedPill18/09/18 07:06 PM
6

Please. In High School, this is cake. Young, in shape, confident and just enough bad boy to get attention. Easy.
/r/TheRedPill18/09/18 05:28 PM
10

Good post. Succinct. Accurate. Fair.
/r/TheRedPill18/09/18 04:25 PM
1

For the most part, the best path to a healthy sex life, is to avoid an LTR. At least for men. Honestly, your guy has it right: give her just enough of you to keep her pursuing more. Because once she gets more than that, things start to decline.
/r/TheRedPill15/09/18 12:52 PM
2

It's even worse, when the "alpha" she is (symbolically) "widowed" from, is her (false, idealized) image of her deceased father. Try being THAT boyfriend. Ugh, the lessons we learn the hard way.
/r/TheRedPill14/09/18 04:44 PM
2

Oh, I have one...rather unfortunately for the most part.
/r/TheRedPill14/09/18 12:19 PM
2

Why is this so bad? We are discussing RP theory and observation.
/r/TheRedPill14/09/18 12:19 PM
2

Good on you for improving you. That has to he the focus.
/r/TheRedPill14/09/18 12:18 PM
2

That we do. Children were never something for which I had either the desire, or the patience. More power to you for taking on the burden. Some find it fulfilling.
/r/TheRedPill14/09/18 12:17 PM
1

All women arent as different as the like yo claim. Neither are men, for that. Trends, tendencies, common desires and methods...they exist.
/r/TheRedPill14/09/18 11:18 AM
1

Never said dont date. I said don't date EXCLUSIVELY. And if you want the burdensome liability of children have at. I dont, and never did.
/r/TheRedPill14/09/18 11:18 AM
0

Sadly, there is a lot of truth to this statement. I mean, there is a lot of truth to many of the statements here. But that women in long term relationships see sex as almost purely transactional, on an instinctual level, is the absolute truth. A lot of them may or may not even realize they do this...but they do.
/r/TheRedPill14/09/18 09:59 AM
2

It's mainly an LTR thing, I believe. Women withhold sex, doling it out as a sparse reward in exchange for preferred behavior. Its basic Pavlov. But it only works in an LTR, as they cannot afford to withhold in open relationships/plate spinning, since they will "lose" to competition.
/r/TheRedPill14/09/18 01:40 AM
3

I have no trouble believing this. Because: I am trying to bring my LTR round to opening the relationship. There was a time when she lived and worked 1.5 hours from me. As such we only saw one another (most) weekends. And we had an undhabout weekday...well, plates, to use our parlance. And we were passionate. On fire. Despite being nearly 30. Weekends were hot sex, fun ventures in Philly or quiet weekends near central PA (her area). We talked, and cherished our time together...and sex was amazing…
/r/TheRedPill14/09/18 01:38 AM
11

This is fair. I came to TRP late. And already in an LTR. And while that LTR has regained some of its past luster thanks to TRP principles, there's a way to go, yet...or possibly not, as I am no longer certain this has a future. Right now, I'm working on me. I'm finishing up a degree, and having been cleared by my doctor following a shoulder sprain, back to working out. Self improvement is the focus for now. Once the degree is completed I will evaluate further. But while that's in progress it has…
/r/TheRedPill14/09/18 01:07 AM
75

Spot on. In all walks of life.
/r/TheRedPill14/09/18 12:59 AM
2

No. We are losing the battle. History says we may yet win the war...but the road is fraught with many more bleeding heart victories, and consequently a lot of hard times, along the way.
/r/TheRedPill13/09/18 03:20 PM
4

Had my first therapy session last night. I'm dealing with what might very well be chemical imbalances leading to bipolar, and as I approach 40, the up periods get shorter and less fun, while the loss get...very low. Dont knock therapy. Or psychology. It's a powerful, useful tool. Glad you found the light again, OP. Stay strong. This is no world for real men, I know, but hang in there. You're in a position to reach youth. To help. We need you, and we appreciate you.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/18 06:32 PM
7

Holy shit that's a gut punch of a statement...
/r/TheRedPill12/09/18 06:29 PM
51

Yep. Done even hinting at TRP knowledge anywhere else on Reddit. Also, we need a separate forum. Our own website.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/18 11:47 AM
1

Get in touch with your lizard brain...
/r/TheRedPill12/09/18 12:53 AM
1

It is. Damn autocorrect got me, guys. Honest it did.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/18 12:51 AM
-8

Sexual Market Value. NOT Social, sexual. Autocorrect got my first post, and I had to rush out for an appointment. Apologies. Sidebar is your friend.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 08:12 PM
14

I responded, universally, with the "sorry, I test drive cars before I buy them for a reason" response. And never, ever budged. But then, I'm not married. Which is fine with me.
/r/TheRedPill07/09/18 10:18 PM
10

I have literally had a girl who swore she would never do anal, literally beg me to fuck her ass. Another girl fell head over heels for me...despite only dating me in the first place for a chance to "take a player down a peg." When I asked her what changed her mind she told me - I shit you not - "women like a bad boy." So yeah...if you're listening to what women SAY they want...you are, as the internet would say, doing it wrong.
/r/TheRedPill06/09/18 01:14 AM
2

Duck bacon. I need to eat more duck bacon. Because this is fucking gold, and the OP is a Quiet Genius.
/r/TheRedPill05/09/18 10:00 AM
1

Just stay in your frame. Dont be an asshole and totally ignore her. Or neglect. Just dont get drug into her negotiation for sex, emotional decision making frame.
/r/TheRedPill05/09/18 09:52 AM
4

Build that discipline. But dont be afraid of test breaks. I used to binge on lifting. It got me a sprained shoulder, 9 months away from lifting and 4 inches of additional waist line I'm battling to get rid of. Dont do that. Rest is crucial to fitness. Still, start a routine that includes workouts. And cardio. Get lean and fit. At 23, lean, fit and financially independent...that's the dream, man. Do that, and stay in your frame, focused on you.
/r/TheRedPill05/09/18 09:51 AM
1

My relationship is much improved lately, thanks to Red Pill. As for family...I'm not having kids, by choice.
/r/TheRedPill05/09/18 09:48 AM
6

You arent wrong. But some guys get a confidence boost from the independence. That shows up in their behavior. You dont NEED it. But it CAN be a helpful tool if you HAVE it.
/r/TheRedPill05/09/18 02:14 AM
48

It works. Some here know I've had...issues...with my LTR of late. So, last week, before the holiday, instead of giving in and settling on the couch post workout/shower, I kept my distance. All week, I focused on me. Upped the workout intensity. Doubled my study time for me degree course work. Read books (including The Rational Male). By the weekend, she gotten that look back. That cougar "sizing up her prey" look. And by Saturday night she was on me and wouldn't get off until, well, we had both …
/r/TheRedPill05/09/18 02:12 AM
68

Lift. Get fit. Enroll in martial arts. The confidence you derive from being fit and fiscally independent will change you. Find a hobby. One that improves you. Aforementioned martial arts, perhaps? Reading? Travel? Adopt a mantra: There is no ONE. There are lots of fish in the sea. Dont settle for a small catch out of fear you wont get a better one. Lastly: Women are never the focus. They compliment your life, not become the center of it. If you make them the center, they see you as weak, and mov…
/r/TheRedPill04/09/18 11:53 PM
1

There are entire song lists I have deleted since I came here - including everything Daughtry ever wrote except Over you and Renegade.
/r/TheRedPill04/09/18 06:43 PM
169

Looking back, its funny. I was Red Pill as hell in my twenties. Did my own thing. Played the field. As I got older, I started to settle down. Tried to be the guy that women say they want. Got rejected, cheated on. Then I found Red Pill...and am rediscovering a lot of what I instinctively used in my 20's: Frame.. DGAF/distance. Women as a compliment, not a focus, ever. Sexual Market Value. Young guys: keep doing what works. Trusting a woman - any woman - to tell you what she really wants in a guy…
/r/TheRedPill04/09/18 06:40 PM
666

I'll say it again here, for the young guys: Do. Not. Give. A. Fuck. About her terms, her frame or her rules. Dont give a fuck. Not ever. Live on your terms. Lift. Get lean. Educate yourself. Build your life, live in your frame. Always.
/r/TheRedPill04/09/18 05:01 PM
25

That's the Rational Male, to be honest.. But I love it, too.
/r/TheRedPill03/09/18 02:25 AM
238

Never. Give. A. Fuck. Not ever. Date not replying next day? DGAF. Move on. LTR not responsive to sexual advances? DGAF. Do your thing, increase your distance and indifference. They're looking to put you in their frame. To force you to negotiate. In which case, they win. Lift. Get lean. Maintain space and frame. Caffeinate the hamster by making her wonder what's up. She will come to you...or you can move on. But whatever you do, DGAF about "their terms."
/r/TheRedPill02/09/18 12:56 PM
1

To feel good. To clear my mind. To relieve stress and improve health. Sure, there are other reasons. But those are bonus side effects.
/r/TheRedPill23/08/18 03:37 PM
18

My mom used to give me shit for working out "too much." You're doing it because it attracts women, she would claim. Well, yeah. Among other reasons, of course that's a factor. Hardly the only one, but a good.one. In fact she just didn't like to see effort succeed, because it made her lack thereof look bad.
/r/TheRedPill23/08/18 02:52 PM
37

Not to mention, if you do better through sheer effort, that means that their failure to do better isnt just bad luck. It's on them, and their lack of effort. They dont like that, and will absolutely try to drag you down to their level, to avoid this ugly realization. Source: the moment my fiance and I start dropping weight and looking good, her overweight mom and sisters start harping on our being too skinny and starving ourselves. All because they know deep down that with effort, they could ach…
/r/TheRedPill23/08/18 12:30 PM
22

That sub is a literal safe space echo chamber. Its existence makes is an embarrassment to humanity. I mean, the only place their ideas and philosophies "work" is an online forum where free speech and dissenting opinions are literally banned. It's a blue pill snowflake haven.
/r/TheRedPill21/08/18 04:19 PM
3

Helen of Troy as the ultimate Red Pill cautionary tale...
/r/TheRedPill21/08/18 11:40 AM
33

You know whats worse? The things they are trying to "fix" with tattoos could - at least a lot of the time - be fixed. By actual, proactive, constructive action in their lives. Guy gets fat. Loses self esteem. Stays up watching Rocky movies all night one night. Next day, he is dragging the weight bench back out and lacing up his shoes. Six months later, he's got necks snapping to look at him. Thats how men fix shit. Women get lazy and fat and start feeling bad? They go get a tattoo. Put it on vis…
/r/TheRedPill21/08/18 11:38 AM
37

You can get banned from those subs for saying literally anything not in line with the liberal agenda. Anything. Doesnt matter what it is, or how true it is. Another few years and masculine or conservative speech will be shadow banned throughout this country...especially for young people. I guess the internet are big fans of Venezuela and the Friend Zone...
/r/TheRedPill21/08/18 11:33 AM
16

Bingo! Came here to say exactly this. You nailed it.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/18 04:39 PM
22

This is fucking gold. Bookmarked, for the next time someone tells me "AWALT" is sexist.
/r/TheRedPill16/08/18 06:53 PM
8

Been thinking a lot about this lately. I've got a job with tons of downtime. But that changes on 8/27. Got a promotion - after crushing the interview - to the tune of $8k/yr increase. But these guys are busy. Non stop all day. From small issues to big ones, to projects, builds, testing...Server team for a big healthcare provider is no joke, all-go all day action. And this is going to require two things: focus (in the moment), and attention (throughout the day). Both of which will be much easier,…
/r/TheRedPill15/08/18 06:45 PM
2

I take AWALT to mean that all women possess the same drives, toward the same behaviors. Not all women will act on those drives at every slightest opportunity...but those drives WILL exist in YOUR woman...because...AWALT. What that means for men: Be a Rock. Dont whine, or give in to weak emotions, in front of her. Be a Captain, not a lazy follower. Be decisive. Give her the experience she craves, and you will keep her hypergamous drive at bay...or if you dont, then you can at least know you did y…
/r/TheRedPill13/08/18 09:24 AM
2

You're high value...or not.
/r/TheRedPill11/08/18 07:30 PM
1

Sort of. We have catty grandma who will badmouth our female Supervisor. (Seriously, if you ever want to lose the respect of your all Male IT Staff, take over a company and import a woman who has never done their job as a Supervisor). So grandma badmouths the Supv. But it's all baiting. Shes just waiting for you to agree, so the bitch can run back to the Supv and tattle. Meanwhile, all they do is talk, openly, about coworkers. Its disgusting, pathetic behavior. That's ok though; no one will speak…
/r/TheRedPill11/08/18 03:25 PM
7

That's it exactly: the women on our team do the bare minimum. That's all. Nothing more.
/r/TheRedPill09/08/18 07:29 PM
579

I have had female friends my whole life. Some very close. And 3 separate friends from different eras, who did not even know one another, all confirmed it: "Do you know what girls might out is?" Nope. "Its a bunch of drunk chicks, competing to see who gets the most Male attention from the hottest guys." That's from the horses mouth, I swear.
/r/TheRedPill09/08/18 04:33 PM
14

We brought three women into a formerly all Male IT team. Dont. Ever. Do this. They complain at the very idea of working. Get all indignant and angry when you won't remind them.daily how to perform every little task. Refuse to read procedure, then get made when the boss calls out their mistakes, offering up excuses like "well, I asked so and so, and they wouldn't help me..." And they gossip. The boss is mean. Read: he calls out my screwups. So and so is an asshole. Read: he is sick of reminding m…
/r/TheRedPill09/08/18 03:09 PM
9

Thanks. I think it just might work. I certainly want it to. For all her faults (they arent many) she hates shopping, refuses to have a credit card balance, only using the one for a discount and paying it off each use. She works hard, makes very good money and will watch a Superhero/Action movie marathon over romcoms any day. And she is both attractive, and intelligent. So maybe she is just bored. And that could be on me, to be honest. Time to get to work, before I give up...because I could do wo…
/r/TheRedPill02/08/18 03:20 PM
16

This is gold. I WILL be applying this, starting now. It's common sense, but easily neglected. Thanks for the reminder. With this advice, going to try one last time to rekindle things.
/r/TheRedPill02/08/18 03:04 PM
6

"Pickup" insinuates the use of falsehood to pretend at high status/value. Its context. There's nothing inherently wrong about picking up a girl while being who you are. It's the use of lies to pretend at being who you arent - using "pickup" lines/strategies to play at status you dont have - where it gets creepy.
/r/TheRedPill31/07/18 12:02 PM
1

Splitting up financial intertwining peacefully, and simply focusing on the degree. I need this degree for job advancement, and while I am doing it, I am not going to have much of a life anyway. So why not just get it over with before rocking the boat.
/r/TheRedPill29/07/18 11:56 AM
3

Neither of us can have kids, actually. Thats not a concern, thankfully. But a good point, if it were.
/r/TheRedPill29/07/18 11:55 AM
5

I'm thinking "Finish my degree, and bail." Thats what I am thinking. This degree is my primary focus right now anyway, so, its not as if I have tons of free time I could be using for other stuff. Once its done, I will be more than happy to upset the apple cart.
/r/TheRedPill28/07/18 11:11 AM
27

My fiance is a poster child, congratulating herself for her help around the house. Oh, you mean the one meal you cooked. Sometime last week. They think talking about effort is the same as putting it forth. It's the Facebook "I Support XYZ" generation. News flash: typing on Facebook isnt supporting shit.
/r/TheRedPill27/07/18 07:29 PM
7

Thats it. Thats how you do it. Accept the things you cannot change. Adjust your outlook accordingly. Dan Millman said it best: When you ars ooushed, pull. When youre pulled, push. Go with the flow, instead of railing against it.
/r/TheRedPill24/07/18 10:45 PM
3

Circles of Influence are important. Dont waste time, or create stress, we worrying over whether Yellowstone is gonna blow. You cant ro anything about it, so, worrying beyond the bounds of your influence is largely distraction, beyond awareness of the world necessary to cope with it.
/r/TheRedPill24/07/18 03:18 PM
3

That's fair. Just make sure you know.if she has one...and what's on it.
/r/TheRedPill20/07/18 02:35 PM
3

If they post cryptic little "look at me" Facebookposts, or even HAVE an Instagram account, they're worthless as LTR material.
/r/TheRedPill20/07/18 02:20 PM
7

Whether this was the intention, it IS the effect. Absolutely, 100%.
/r/TheRedPill20/07/18 02:16 PM
1

I read the whole thing, but yeah, that was enough right there...
/r/TheRedPill20/07/18 02:15 PM
6

Also, Siddhartha, for the realization.
/r/TheRedPill17/07/18 07:28 PM
2

So true. For all that she does have flaws, my girl also has a successful career, healthy family relationships and is great fun in the sack. She also never posts selfies. Ever. Or cryptic little "pay attention to me" comments. Or those stupid "sassy quotes for immature girls" reposts... Successful women comfortable with their own lives dont do this stuff.
/r/TheRedPill16/07/18 03:55 PM
3

Constant, instant attention drip feeds from Social Media are "female porn." All the false expectations, the dilution of the effect of REAL attention and interaction...same symptoms, different source. If shes a regular selfie poster, drop her. Edit: especially if she attention whores with cryptic little statements like "feeling down" and "just seeing whose paying attention." Fuck. That. A normal level of interaction will NEVER compete.
/r/TheRedPill16/07/18 03:51 PM
2

Actually, the one more year is all about me: Time to finish my degree, in a financially sound situation, without the pressure of hunting for a place to live while trying to tackle school. Its not as if I am going to have a robust social life with ample opportunity to meet people while putting in 40+ hours per week at work, and another 20+ for school at the same time. And while this sounds like rationalization - i get that - its also necessary. To be honest, I think its reaching a point where its…
/r/TheRedPill14/07/18 12:55 PM
2

Got to be honest: I fail to see now why ANY financially stable guy, making it on his own, would ever so much as live with a woman, more less marry one, in this society. Too much risk, for too little potential reward. But if you do it, do what my girl and were at one point talking about: pre nup, clearly stating "no alimony, for any reason, ever. For either partner. Period." At LEAST do that.
/r/TheRedPill11/07/18 11:50 AM
2

Agreed. And the sprained shoulder is healed. Cleared to lift 60 days ago. Already down ten pounds and nearly one full waist size, while she lives off pizza rolls and chips.
/r/TheRedPill11/07/18 10:49 AM
9

I had a good one, once. I really did. But back then, I was young and dumb enough to think that "ready" for an LTR was a magical thing that just...happens...one day. Ready, is something you make yourself. By growing up, and doing what needs done. Even if that is no longer gaming women at the club because you found one that gives you all you need.
/r/TheRedPill11/07/18 10:48 AM
5

You nailed it. Just discovered Red Pill recently, unfortunately. But its pushing me to be better, and it's not too late...not even quite forty, yet.
/r/TheRedPill10/07/18 06:32 PM
14

She will. When.this first started, I took some time away. I should have stayed away. But someone totalled my car for me, and she offered me rides to work for the rest of the week...sort.of a necessary thing. She was very interested when we lived apart. Soaking wet for me. Then.we got back.together, and...this. Honestly, I dont think they can even.help.it.
/r/TheRedPill10/07/18 06:02 PM
14

It's been on the downhill side the past 3 years. Since she really started staring 40 in the face it's gone to shit. One year. Give or take. With current financial commitments I should need about one year to be walk out the door, never look back ready. And my state, does not do Common Law Marriage. I checked.
/r/TheRedPill10/07/18 05:31 PM
20

Exactly. But have a back up plan. Because unless you have a low libido and value days spent in awkward, inattentive silence, you're going to need it. There are two ways to really, truly know a woman, and neither of them involves dating. Dating is a stage play. If you want to know the REAL her, either: Be friends. JUST friends. No expectation, no benefits, no flirting. Sibling like platonic friends. After a few months, she will slowly begin to reveal the real her, for better or worse. And even th…
/r/TheRedPill10/07/18 05:28 PM
40

Mind you, we are 38 and 40. Mine is distant, detached and uninterested. She insists she is giving me her all and I have no right to complain. Which is shit; the only thing she gives her all, is her tablet or cell phone and the stupid, mind numbing games shes addicted to. She barely talks. Has ceased working out. Never initiates sex. Meanwhile there me. Still working out. Down 10 pounds in a month and still trimming. Reading, trying to learn and do new things. Sharing in house work, a considerate…
/r/TheRedPill10/07/18 05:05 PM
44

Which is why, more and more, I begin to see my LTR for the bullshit sham it is. Men, if you dont have kids with her, dont move in with her. Ever. Because when you do, the chase is over, and it's the chase, not the conclusion, that turns her on.
/r/TheRedPill10/07/18 04:46 PM
11

Feeling you. Returning to college to finish my bachelors in IT. Put it off because my current job was "good enough" and I didn't want to lose time from my girl. But given her increased disinterest in anything other than her mobile devices, its time to get back to me. I'm late doing it in my mid thirties, but better now, than not at all. With fifteen years IT experience, the degree and the certs from my degree program classes, I should really be in good shape and ready for something better - both…
/r/TheRedPill10/07/18 01:00 PM
-1

Ahh. Thats different. You didnt cheat on him, then. There may well be hope.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/18 11:55 PM
10

Except...he won't trust. Not completely. Not ever again. I'm not trying to be condescending; it's just the truth.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/18 11:06 PM
8

Oh yeah, hes just an insecure control freak who lacks the confidence to keep you by being a person who adds value, so he tries to control your time. Run. Fast. Dont look back. Edit: do you know what I tell my fiance, when she says shes gonna stop at her Dads after work? "Tell him I said hi, see you when you get home." That's it. Which is how it should be.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/18 05:08 PM
2

Let's try analysis, perhaps: What time do you get off work? Do you usually go straight home? How often other places, and for how long? How's the division of house chores? If the answer to all of those questions is reasonable, he is just an insecure control freak you're better off without.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/18 04:19 PM
5

This so succinctly sums up everything a guy needs to know about dating...well said.
/r/TheRedPill09/07/18 01:30 PM
18

Unless, as a guy, you really want children of your own, marriage - for a financially stable, independent guy - is all risk and little to no reward. Such is the society we have built. And having kids? These days? No thanks.
/r/TheRedPill08/07/18 02:17 PM
3

My father is a mans man. If it breaks, he can fix it. If it can be built, he can build it. Tough, stoic, life experience smart. Quintissential Red Pill. Except where women are concerned. His "cookie lady" is his third wife. Younger. Attractive, when he met. Into all of his hobbies and interests, from hiking to kayaking to nature photography. Even ok with not having kids despite being 10 years younger than him. And all that lasted right up until marriage. At which point, she lost interest in ever…
/r/TheRedPill26/06/18 05:38 PM
1

Could be in to something here. To be faur i have met both men and women who externalize too much. Even did it myself when younger. Its important to own your mistakes and realize life is tough, and making the most of it means hard work.
/r/TheRedPill20/06/18 09:42 PM
11

This book should be required reading for every highschool junior. Then a second time for seniors, and a third for college. It's that useful.
/r/TheRedPill20/06/18 05:30 PM
1

I don't get lonely easily. I have lots of interests. No trouble making friends, including with benefits. And as the below states...it's pretty lonely being alone in an LTR...
/r/TheRedPill20/06/18 11:33 AM
1

We are not married though. And we aren't going to be, before I finish school. We actually plan on a prenuptial that precludes alimony in the event of separation, since we both make decent money, though. This is assuming, of course,vthat we go through with marriage. There are warning signs cropping up, but I want to try and work at it before just jumping ship.
/r/TheRedPill20/06/18 10:54 AM
24

Spot on assessment. I cook. Clean. Take care of myself. Our rescue pets. I work, make decent money. It's not enough. Shes reaching a point she'd rather pkje at her tablet and scroll through Facebook than look at me. She's only 42, by the way, but man, it's like she's turned 60. She's gained weight. Doesn't "feel sexy." So I get punished. Fuck that. I start back to finish my BS in Computer Science in September. I put it off to not take time from us. But no more. Going to finish it. Transition to …
/r/TheRedPill19/06/18 08:57 PM
45

That's actually more on point. It's funny. People ask me, "Why don't you want to get married? Don't you have friends and family who are married?" Why yes. Yes I do know married people. They are the reason, that I'm not married. I've still to meet a couple where the wife has not advertised one thing and given another, turning marriage into one long shit test that leaves the guy caught between incel and alimony check.
/r/TheRedPill19/06/18 08:50 PM
46

The LTR part. To be honest, I'm starting to feel like the product I was "sold" differs significantly from the one I've been asked to live with. The ad included a tight, pretty well toned gal with heat and passion. The longer term package is... somewhat lacking...now. It's been a slow transition, sure; but it's all been one direction, and it's not upward.
/r/TheRedPill19/06/18 07:08 PM
230

It's getting to the point marriage is like a hostage situation. Once you marry her,she is free to give you nothing but shit tests, take what she wants, and destroy your life if you try to leave her...or if she just up and gets bored with her own lack of effort. And people wonder why, even though I have an LTR, we aren't married...because I live with a woman who does not put much stock in paper commitments, we both make enough to support ourselves independent of.one another...and my state, does N…
/r/TheRedPill19/06/18 04:49 PM
1

You aren't wrong. It's entirely possible to be empathetic and relate, without slipping into gullible pushover territory.
/r/TheRedPill18/06/18 03:02 PM
3

Learn to think about food in terms of how eating it will make you feel, as opposed to how good it tastes. Our boss brings in candy constantly. For the last two months, whenever I see it, I remind myself: that's the stuff that's so terrible for you, they have to make it taste good, just to get you to eat it. I am at the point now where when I see candy dishes or cookies, my brain just sees garbage.
/r/TheRedPill18/06/18 12:46 PM
4

Interesting... though, to be honest, I don't really watch much porn. I mean, I'm not gonna lie and claim I never have/do...but it's pretty rare. Still though...that's food for thought. Have to work at n erasing that conditioning, however it got there.
/r/TheRedPill07/06/18 12:10 PM
2

You know...that's a fair point, since, her being my SIL, I see her at casual get togethers where she isn't even "trying." All done up, both sisters are good looking girls, though, the sil is also carrying a good bit of extra weight these days.
/r/TheRedPill07/06/18 12:08 PM
7

My girl is probably about 7. Her Twin outweighs her by...well, it's considerable. Also, my girl is amazing in the sack, has a great career with good security, neither has not wants credit cards and her favorite movies are all action flicks. She'd take Avengers over Sleepless in Seattle any day and frequently tells people that Thor Ragnarok and Guardians of the Galaxy are her favorite movies. Also, there was the time she bought us tickets to Jimmy Buffet. For his Labor Day Weekend show. Also, we …
/r/TheRedPill07/06/18 12:06 PM
7

My sister in law is a testament to this. She's a 5, maybe a 6/10. Until she puts on her eye makeup. She used to be a professional with the stuff, went to school. She puts on eye makeup and I can't look at her without getting hard. She's got the "bedroom eyes" down so perfectly, it changes her whole look. Doesn't help, that her and my girl are identical twins...
/r/TheRedPill07/06/18 09:32 AM
3

I agree. I meant that, while the post might SOUND sexist, it REALLY is simple honesty.
/r/TheRedPill05/06/18 10:59 PM
1

Just wanted to rephrase it so it sounded a little less provocative. To make it something you could share for the wisdom and honesty it contains, even with outsiders. Sure, it's a very transactional view of relationships...but then, relationships are all about adding value.
/r/TheRedPill05/06/18 01:50 PM
3

Whoa there. I said it SOUNDS sexist...but is in fact just truth. Should have been more clear on that. Differentiate better.
/r/TheRedPill05/06/18 01:42 PM
8

The Most Responsible Teenager in the House...
/r/TheRedPill04/06/18 07:09 PM
48

This SOUNDS sexist as hell. But it's truth. Let's say it this way: relationships exist to provide mutual benefits to all involved parties. Assuming - as this advice does - that you're an upstanding gentleman of some worth to your lady - which you are, of course - then it simply stands to reason that a good woman will likewise be of value to you. If said woman is of no value to a good, upstanding gentleman...why engage with her? Said attention is literally rewarding bad behavior. Which you of cou…
/r/TheRedPill04/06/18 05:21 PM
7

Never, ever put a woman on a pedestal. She will come to expect her ass to be kissed, and when she falls off - and she will fall off - and her crown breaks, revealing that she is, in fact, just a flawed human being, it will be YOUR fault, not hers. Besides, it's hard to respect a person, when you're constantly looking down on them. Told to me by a former female friend. She was a brutally honest chick. Pity about the un- recoverable daddy issues, but she was pretty smart when she cared to be.
/r/TheRedPill04/06/18 04:37 PM
6

That could be. It really could. I read somewhere that mobile games hook mostly middle age women. That's definitely a Dopamine thing. So, yeah...maybe...
/r/TheRedPill01/06/18 12:12 AM
71

Women mistakenly see the "don't give a shit" mentality of their "bad boys" as confidence, and read it (incorrectly) as strength and fortitude. They think these guys act the way they do, Because they are strong, confident and sure, while the truth is that they do not, in fact, actually give a shit. It's only when they realize this through hardship that they go crying to friend-zoned emotional tampons who they use for stand-ins between Chads.
/r/TheRedPill31/05/18 06:10 PM
66

Woman are conditioned - or maybe even hard wired, or both - to Take. Your protection and Security, from an evolutionary standpoint. Your money, from a modern societal survival standpoint. Your time and attention, to secure these other goals and minimize your exposure to potential rivals. As such - and this is the Crux - women only really want, what they do not HAVE. Between the evolutionary need to OBTAIN protection from men - and the subsequent NEED to secure, and hold, their attention in order…
/r/TheRedPill31/05/18 05:58 PM
2

Almost any guy who halfway lifts and has half a brain is a Chad somewhere on the Social Value ladder. You might be a Hard Pass to 9/10's (as I mostly am at 38 and only 5'6" in height. But find me a natural 7 value who is on the short side. Natural 7 might now be a super model...but she isnt sometimes scoff at, and she will likely value you higher than a woman further up the ladder. Use this to your advantage. Be honest about where you fit and either improve yourself or be content there.
/r/TheRedPill24/05/18 04:38 PM
1

Not to mention, said girl may well have no template for a successful relationship or any idea what she wants from a healthy one. Also, if you meet her dad, and he's a good guy...and they don't get along: run.
/r/TheRedPill24/05/18 03:39 PM
4

Most Responsible Teenager in the House. Once i read that, womens behavior made so much more sense. Never expect anything from a woman that you would not expect from a somewhat mature teen. Behavior, attitude, perspective, follow up and accountability...keep your own expectations in check, and suddenly, they make so much more sense.
/r/TheRedPill22/05/18 06:59 PM
1

Its funny. Alcohol never got me. I couldnt care less about it. I dropped smoking when I was 18. Cold turkey. Dont miss it, even get sick when I smell it now and couldnt possibly want to do it LESS. Tried pot once, as a teen. Made my sleepy and hungry, and working out already handled those plenty well. No draw whatsoever. But goddamn CCG games? I Loot Grinders? I start playing those games and I swear to god I become a brainless, gibbering addict who cant shut up or stop thinking about them in two…
/r/TheRedPill22/05/18 05:03 PM
6

There are some games I had to give up. And a recent relapse cemented my NEED to let go of any game that: Involves RNG Gambling. Even just non-monetary RNG loot items. Chasing metas/tweaking builds/decks/loadouts, to use gamer parlance. These games get into my brain. Waking, sleeping...they take over. Kill my drive to do, well... anything. And they murder creativity, too. Even one DAY "off" this "drug" feels like being awake after days of half comatose shuffling through brain fog. The wrong kind …
/r/TheRedPill21/05/18 04:53 PM
1

I'm 38 now. Took me too long to learn some lessons. But now I think on it, I was probably around 31 when I said my last goodbyes to that final friend zone chick. She had daddy issues anyway. Idolized this false ideal version of a deceased father she couldn't reconcile with. It was bad.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/18 12:41 PM
1

I know exactly when I broke it. I was all in on this girl who kept me as an emotional fill in between boyfriends. We'd started as truly great friends, but...progressed toward more. She'd say she loved me. Would get right to the edge of making it official. Then back away again. Only to have a new boyfriend a day later. Then one morning...I was over it. Clear eyed. Focused. She called me. Said she was really ready this time. Honest. I should come over. I told her I'd think on it. That was more tha…
/r/TheRedPill10/05/18 09:38 AM
1

Sounds like you're making progress. One of the biggest hurdles I ever jumped, was realizing that it was my fault I kept attracting such lackluster company. Once I got there, things improved.
/r/TheRedPill09/05/18 05:53 PM
1

That could be a warning sign. He might have been abusive or neglectful, and you are not her therapist. Or, he might have been a good guy who was not overly fond of a daughter who insisted on the "little princess" fallacy. In which case...run. As for your mother and fearing intimacy...when next you meet someone, if you find yourself immediately comfortable with her...beware. You have probably found someone who you know, on some level, is just like Mom. Been there, done that. It sucks. Try and get…
/r/TheRedPill09/05/18 09:35 AM
9

Exactly that. Its a ruleset that works for her, and her alone. Like all rules women implement.
/r/TheRedPill06/05/18 02:37 PM
10

Oh, she is going through something, alright. She is rebounding from her last bad boy, and looking for her next. All while obtaining all of the emotional validation she needs from her in between stand in. Trust me. Been there, done that. That what she is most likely "going through:" Her little black book of Chads.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/18 09:20 PM
21

This works. Went through this with my LTR not long ago. She was completely distant, indifferent. Felt my time was always readily available to her, I wasnt going anywhere and she could always just tune in "at some point." Some point that never seemed to arrive. So I started doing other things. Different hobbies. Got off the couch, put a stop to cuddle time - I'm not getting what I need, and so, you arent going to get more of what you need, either - and began making phone calls from other rooms. T…
/r/TheRedPill04/05/18 09:18 PM
5

Women who exhibit paranoia about cheating and their partners use of their time, generally are cheaters themselves. Its projection 101. And while Freud may well have been full of shit in a lot of areas, he nailed Projection to a tee. Ready any liberal news site to see more examples.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/18 09:12 PM
2

I keep telling the new to dating teen in our family that that is where he is headed, with his non stop texting of his paranoid, controlling older girlfriend. Chick is 18 and he basically has to make hourly and daily reports of his time, how he uses it and with whom. No thanks. Chicks did that to me when I was a teen, they got gone. Fast. They were aware, from the outset, that if you're looking for serious and committed, keep walking; 16 was too young for that shit. And I am beginning to wonder w…
/r/TheRedPill04/05/18 09:11 PM
112

I had a girl tell me she wanted things open. That she valued variety, and understood that, as a guy, I not only value it too, but am biologically engineered to crave it. To go out and find it. I'm thinking, "Holy shit, I found a Unicorn." No. I didnt. Because...say it with me: AWALT. So she is going on about us having an open relationship. Even tells her sister that we have one. And why. Her sister was...skeptical. At best. First warning. So I put it to the test. Know this cute coffee barista wh…
/r/TheRedPill04/05/18 09:07 PM
20

I HAVE BEEN that guy. And yeah...he is just an emotional fill in between "bad boys" she is really into. I am willing to wager a decent sum that they cuddle up when they hang out. That she hangs on him around other women. That she tells him she likes him - maybe even loves him - and that he will be first to know when she is "ready for something real." She is playing him. Period. She will never be ready for something real with HIM. Because SHE IS ALREADY GETTING what SHE wants. She doesnt NEED any…
/r/TheRedPill04/05/18 09:01 PM
1

Being in the moment helps me face it straight faced and without undue emotional reaction. Keep expectations at Bay and accept each moment as it really exists.
/r/TheRedPill27/04/18 12:17 PM
1

It's possible your girl will expect the same. It's what she knows. It's also possible she has taken on another role model. Friend's dad, or parents, as a relationship model. Even - and I hope not - fictional models, from shows, books or movies. I'd watch for clues as to either. Try to assess her expectations and where they might arise from.
/r/TheRedPill27/04/18 12:16 PM
1

Wow...a powerful example of how parental lessons shape our lives. I hope your sister settles things. Maybe learns to break with her template and form a new one. Its hard, but it can be done. Best to you all mate.
/r/TheRedPill27/04/18 12:01 AM
1

Hypergamy is real. Especially if a woman has not hit or neared her wall. And prior to that point, at least, AWALT. Maybe always, but for sure pre-wall.
/r/TheRedPill26/04/18 11:57 PM
1

It helps if i dont "expect" outcomes. Or if i separate my expectations from feelings. Take life as it comes. Without expecting anything other than what you get in the moment. And whatever that is, make your peace with it, do what needs to be done and move on. A lot of people weigh every moment as it exists, with the moment as they would like it to be, in their ideal world. And when the two do not match up - and they rarely do - it fosters misery and anxiety. Live in the moment as it exists, expe…
/r/TheRedPill26/04/18 11:56 PM
1

This seems harsh, but its a solid, sure way to protect yourself.
/r/TheRedPill26/04/18 11:52 PM
1

Much of this comes from practical life experience. Which, when you think about, doesnt say much positive about my history with (not so) lengthy relationships. At least for the most part. As for the rest, i agree with you. We all like validation. Good fathers make you earn it, bit give it when you do, albeit only rarely enough for it to remain genuine. Too much validation becomes flattery, and that gets no one anywhere good.
/r/TheRedPill26/04/18 11:49 PM
1

I dont know that that makes a big difference. Its all about the lessons learned, and her idea of a proper man.
/r/TheRedPill26/04/18 11:44 PM
1

Amen brother. Amen. Heed this, young men. Heed it well.
/r/TheRedPill26/04/18 01:12 PM
2

It's an issue with my relationship. My girl SAYS she doesn't like how emotionally closed off her father is. That she wants to know my feelings. But, any expression if negative emotion is still seen as whining (losing frame). We have talked about this, but lately, I go elsewhere with emotional concerns. Friends. Family. Women don't care about our emotional state, as having to do so, undermines their confidence in our strength. It's not right. It's not fair. And I think it's less true of younger w…
/r/TheRedPill26/04/18 01:11 PM
1

Check the relationship between mom and dad. Others havave said it here, too, but ask yourself whether you could live his life. Because it's very likely you're going to, if you stick around. Unless if course she had another male role model and forsook her beta father as one.
/r/TheRedPill26/04/18 10:50 AM
1

Exactly. I agree completely. This just helps you see how you match up.
/r/TheRedPill26/04/18 10:47 AM
2

Nailed it. This is spot on, solid advice.
/r/TheRedPill26/04/18 10:47 AM
1

Exactly. And that's key: any early male role model.
/r/TheRedPill26/04/18 10:46 AM
2

I'd wonder if the cheater was abused/traumatized by a guy at some point. I had an ex like her: perfect family, great life. But I didn't learn for years that she was abused by a guy, and her coping mechanism was sex. She had it forced on her, and she coped with stress, depression and anxiety by having it on her terms, whenever and with whoever she could. The good girl here may just be an anomaly. But keep in mind that she may still lack a template for her ideal guy and her wants may change freque…
/r/TheRedPill26/04/18 10:45 AM
2

That's very true. And a much broader view of the underlying influence driving her behavior, and her wants. Thanks for expanding the perspective.
/r/TheRedPill26/04/18 10:42 AM
2

I agree. This post isn't about emulation. It's about making sure who you are, us a match for who she needs you to be.
/r/TheRedPill26/04/18 10:33 AM
1

Weeeelllll.... technically, it COULD be seen that way. I mean, I'm just offering the info (tool). How you use it, on the other hand, is up to you.
/r/TheRedPill24/04/18 07:15 PM
2

If you're looking for an in road, I guess that might work.
/r/TheRedPill24/04/18 06:54 PM
16

Thinking back...I've seen evidence of this.
/r/TheRedPill24/04/18 06:53 PM
4

You could be onto something with forming your own templates there...with my shit mom, that could explain a lot of my early relationship disasters...which mirror your own experiences pretty closely. Right up to the crap endings.
/r/TheRedPill24/04/18 06:52 PM
1

Those probably lack a clear understanding of what they want in a guy. Barring another early, positive male father figure, of course, they likely lacked exposure necessary to form a template of the male they wanted in their lives. No fault of their own, it's an extremely unfortunate scenario. Worse still, are the ones with a terrible father, who don't know he's terrible. You may have met one: give her everything she asks for, yet, she runs off with abusive, "bad boy" assholes who excite her...onl…
/r/TheRedPill24/04/18 05:56 PM
2

Thanks. Good points yourself. You know...my girl does use something of her mother's tactics from time to time. She likes to make others approach her, and tends to control interaction through distance and a lack of action, making others come to her. It's something she is working on.
/r/TheRedPill24/04/18 05:50 PM
13

It's tough. I was indulged as a child. Given too much attention for whining over hurts, and not enough for good performance. (God that hurts to admit). This isn't an excuse; just an explanation. I am overcoming that background now, with time and effort. But it's hard. I'm learning to hold frame, and actively studying Stoicism. It helps. Men aren't raised to be men in America, any longer. We are raised to be soft, politically correct, bleeding heart shadows thereof. And then the women who encoura…
/r/TheRedPill24/04/18 05:15 PM
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Thanks. Hard as it was to admit my own mother was a toxic presence, it was also the final clue in all of the above reasoning. So, a very trying lesson. But a lesson, all the same.
/r/TheRedPill24/04/18 05:10 PM
11

You sound like a stand-up guy yourself. One of the hardest things that faced in life, was admitting that some things I was into spending time on are just shit wastes of it. Still, everyone needs down time. So long as you are neglectful of real needs, it should be ok.
/r/TheRedPill24/04/18 05:08 PM
10

I've learned to change myself to be stronger and more stoic. It's hard, it takes discipline and it requires focus in the moment to intercept that stimulus/reaction pairing. But it's worth it. It helped me gain confidence and grow. And as a result of that growth, to hold onto a good LTR partners with a solid head on her shoulders, a successful career and a reasonable expectation from a man (most of the time). Neither of us is perfect. Buts I've seen worse. By far. It's been a challenge, but it's …
/r/TheRedPill24/04/18 04:31 PM
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That is a great insight. Very good point. In such a case, learn about the male role model that "replaced" the father figure in her life. Good point.
/r/TheRedPill24/04/18 04:27 PM
1

It's not about pretending. I'm not advocating that you pretend to be like her dad. I'm saying knowing her father can tell you where you're a good match for her. Especially relevant in considering LTR partners.
/r/TheRedPill24/04/18 04:25 PM
1

This is a fair point. And I agree. On the other hand, though, it's possible to meet a relatively stable woman, only to realize later, you don't match up well. Knowing her father might afford you time saving insight into whether you match up, reasonably early on. Especially if you can tell from early description of him, that she adores him and you aren't anything like he is. That's a good sign it's time to either relegate it to Plate status or move on.
/r/TheRedPill24/04/18 04:23 PM
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Glad to shed some light. My own mother never knew her dad. Had horrible relationship with her foster father. Never saw him as Dad. She is 58...and the grass is STILL always greener somewhere else. Always. She left a good man in my father. Then, two abusive men. Then another really great husband, who gave her everything. She was "bored." Her accusing my father if infidelity her whole life, it turned out, was a desperate attempt to justify her own. When she left her last husband after cheating for…
/r/TheRedPill24/04/18 04:15 PM
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That's a great suggestion. Thanks.
/r/TheRedPill24/04/18 04:11 PM
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Thanks. It's been my practical experience over the years. Especially, as I posted below, with small town women. I had a really bad Experience once (or twice) with a girl getting everything she wanted from me and still feeling like something was off. According to her I was just like her father, and she could not understand why she didn't feel comfortable, as she adored him. Then, i met him. And found out I was nothing like the emotionally vacant, distant dude who was over his "little princess" an…
/r/TheRedPill24/04/18 02:50 PM
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All of this is true, of course. (You can tell much of my life was spent in smaller towns, as well). When you do reach that point where LTR concerns become relevant, if they do, this might prove useful nonetheless.
/r/TheRedPill24/04/18 02:46 PM
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I suffer from this same issue. My Beast is a risk taking, gaming/escapism crazed sex addict. Not so much a problem n my young, fit 20 something days. No shortage of time, or outlets. But now, at a youthful but responsible 37, in an LTR...the Beast stirs, and bad shit happens. I neglect my diet. My workouts. I binge on games, only to drop them days later for good...and the craving for sex putsme off my frame, bad, which decreases my level of attractiveness to my LTR Partner, which makes sex less …
/r/TheRedPill24/04/18 01:35 PM
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Years ago, a stranger approached my girl in a bookstore. Put his hand on her ass. Squeezed hard. She nearly broke it for him. Cops were called. He was hauled off. Year or so later, at a rock concert, she's bragging to me that the skeezy, drug head lead singer of a shitty "rock" band (read: pop singing wannabe) was groping at her during a picture, and it was "sort of hot." He didn't get under her clothes, but apparently, he wasn't being shy about where he put hands on top of them. I lost my shit …
/r/TheRedPill24/04/18 12:03 PM
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This is what happens, when you take a group who may never really mature beyond, say, late teens...and put them in charge of adults.
/r/TheRedPill06/04/18 11:18 AM
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This is incredibly accurate. I mean, tbis is the party that thinks you can just increasr minimum wage by $5/hr ovwr night and the rest of the economy will just...stay the same...
/r/TheRedPill25/03/18 10:04 PM
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That last paragraph. It explains SO much. My LTR girl has had an EASY life. Good parents. Good schooling. From a young age, she started on a career at which she excels and never changed. She has literally never struggled. Except with me. And with men. In general. And.more and more I think it's because she - and maybe ALL humans to some degree - feel as if, without struggle, without fight, we haven't earned what we have. So we look for fights and where none exist in relation to the things we want…
/r/TheRedPill15/03/18 03:59 PM
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Difficulty processing rational explanations for undesirable but sound reasoning is basically what women DO...to be fair.
/r/TheRedPill15/03/18 03:47 PM
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Teenagers - even responsible ones - often lack sufficient maturity to achieve this level of self awareness. I swear, that Most Responsible Teenager theory REALLY explains a LOT.
/r/TheRedPill15/03/18 03:44 PM
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"She just dropped the subject and walked..." Once proven wrong, or caught in their own trap, well...AWALT.
/r/TheRedPill15/03/18 03:42 PM
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To be fair, she was being sarcastic, not serious. Also, her friend was hot. And being short has never bothered me in the least.
/r/TheRedPill15/03/18 03:29 PM
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I'm going to grab that book. Should have read 20 years ago...alas, Young is pretty much the antithesis of Wise. Edit: pleasant surprise of the day, I already own the book. Bought in a Kindle sale right before my old phone died, promptly forgot about the purchase. Might be the best $4.99 purchase I ever made.
/r/TheRedPill14/03/18 07:03 PM
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This shit works. I'm 5'6" barefoot and in younger, fitter years, crap let me this worked a charm. One chick (6'1") says to me, "How'd you end up so short?" "Had to make it fair for the other guys somehow." Her cute 5'2" friend ate that shit up, for whatever reason.
/r/TheRedPill14/03/18 06:57 PM
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Believe me, a 15 year old can handle "mom is cheating, lying bitch who can't be trusted." They might not LIKE it...and.coping with it might be hard...but they CAN do it. Source: Been there, done that. Exactly that.
/r/TheRedPill14/03/18 11:53 AM
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My mother left my father after cheating on him. With his best friend. Some friend, right? The guy was a nomad, worked six.months a year and my dad gave him a place to stay while he was in town, off work. And how did he repay my father? By consciously undermining his relationship. Then, my Mom invented a story about how my dad cheated, spent 15 years with one, then another neglectful, abusive guy. She finally married a good man. Gave her the world. Let my deadbeat, do nothing sister (not his kid)…
/r/TheRedPill14/03/18 11:49 AM
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Oh I'm not pining any longer. I'm over that. Have been for a while now. This is more an open acknowledgement that I had something good and lacked the understanding to seize the moment. Though, thinking about it now, I am forced to admit that she had a BAD case of "grass is always greener" syndrome, so...maybe it ended well for me after all.
/r/TheRedPill11/03/18 02:28 PM
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Right on. Reminders with proof are always nice. That really helps it hit home. Endures we never forget. And gives young men still learning the evidence they need to overcome Beta Pill conditioning.
/r/TheRedPill11/03/18 02:25 PM
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AWALT. Sadly, this is neither news, nor surprising. Still, OP, glad you posted the story. Especially with the text. It's just more proof and reminders never hurt.
/r/TheRedPill11/03/18 02:00 PM
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Women in our society are conditioned, almost from birth, to believe two things are absolute truth: Men should feel honored and/or privileged that they have "shown up" or choose to remain in our lives. At all. Hence, the friend zone exists at all. Thus, women believe, deep down, that just showing up, or being there, is enough. Enough to call it contribution. Enough to turn us on. Enough to keep us interested. It does not, in their mind, matter - at all - whether they DO or OFFER anything after th…
/r/TheRedPill11/03/18 01:14 PM
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I had a female friend for years - i should have married her - that could see threw any BS or put onmor front. Every. Single. Time. But i didnt know then what i do now. I put her on a pedestal. Elevated and worshipped when i should have simply been grateful and contributed equally. She wanted a best friend and i couldnt get past my awe of her, and so could only ever offer hwrnyet another mouth agape, awed worshipper instead. So i lost her. One day she stumbled off that pedestal i placed her on. A…
/r/TheRedPill06/03/18 11:14 PM
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Thats a fair point. I think what gave me the perspective of it being childish isnt so much the craving...as it is the giving into the craving. But yeah, you arent wrong, thats for sure. Especially considering that research shows valuable benefits of leisure time and the way it can boost focused, deep work.
/r/TheRedPill06/03/18 10:54 PM
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This pretty well sums it up.
/r/TheRedPill05/03/18 11:05 PM
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Very well said. I will put some serious practice into zooming out. Seeing where else I'm vulnerable to being lead astray. Excellent insight. Thanks.
/r/TheRedPill05/03/18 07:29 PM
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Question everything. Not like some rebellious teen with no goal but rebellion. Rebelliousness for it's own sake is sad, and comes off as a try-hard. Question everything to ensure you are living a life authentic to you, instead if impersonating popular culture or ascribing to templates others deem acceptable. Only when you're life is authentically yours will you possess the confidence to live it without regret or hesitation. And that confidence will lead you to live without excuses or expository …
/r/TheRedPill05/03/18 05:26 PM
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Funny you mention it...I used to play games to kill time. I thought I was having fun, in the moment. Sure felt like it. But then I'd stop...and I just felt miserable. Run down. Like I'd wasted a day, or a good part of it. Games we're leaving me miserable, and that's one reason I dropped them, for the most part. Now I've discovered the other benefits to getting those hooks out of my system...it's like waking to a new world, and I like it. Judging by her...reaction...this weekend, my fiance does, …
/r/TheRedPill05/03/18 05:15 PM
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I find myself moving in this direction. Between great books, good Netflix shows and date nights/quality time with my fiance and family/friends, gaming is a rapidly decreasing fraction of my time. And I find I like that. I'm more alert, more focused, more driven. More in touch.
/r/TheRedPill05/03/18 04:19 PM
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Agreed. The trend toward utter deference to Islam shown by so many Western nations frightens and troubles me. Religion us a fantastic foundation for a brainwashing tool (they tried deep South Southern Baptist on me, but it had the... opposite...if the intended effect). The slow, gradual spread of the religion worldwide, coupled with the incentive to increase populations dependent on government for assistance, seems like stage 1 to me. Getting both the tool, and a gullible populace, in place. Sta…
/r/TheRedPill05/03/18 02:28 PM
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This pet theory stems from a conversation with my LTR Partner regarding gaming. Specifically, games I used to play. Since I quit playing 99% of the games I once played (if it features addiction triggers, I dropped it) I've been more positive, more responsible and less grouchy. Not to mention, my libido has gone from relatively normal, back to it's slightly overactive (normal for me) state. Her words. I mentioned to her that I no longer felt cravings to play. Ergo, I didn't get irritated by thing…
/r/TheRedPill05/03/18 02:21 PM
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That's why they love...a certain religion...so much. Because it breeds obedience. It infects every aspect of life, eradicates independent thought and creativity and leads to servile populations. When religion tells you how to dress, how to speak, how to walk, when and how to pray, right down to the frequency per day...it slowly undermines independent functionality, eradicating personality in favor of an off sort of group think. Calling it now: the globalist future is a certain religion, with bit…
/r/TheRedPill05/03/18 02:02 PM
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Video games can compromise your ability to maintain frame. I am not saying they ALWAYS WILL DO. Only that they CAN. Some games, or types of games, are built to deliver a steady dopamine drip feed. This stimulation can leave you with a craving for more when you are not playing. Especially when you have to quit abruptly, or for reasons you'd rather not, this craving can overpower your self control. This can lead to frustration and bitterness toward tasks that infringe on gaming. Tasks that need do…
/r/TheRedPill05/03/18 01:51 PM
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Was just going to say: I wonder if the "BP" guy is actually gay. He may well be. But yeah, dont try and rescue others. I have learned the hard way that trying to rescue a metaphorically drowning person, usually just gets you caught in the undertow along with them...since it was usually their own actions that created the undertow to begin with.
/r/TheRedPill09/02/18 04:55 PM
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Bam! Nailed it! This is EXACTLY how this is going to play out. The BP dude is basically a moron.
/r/TheRedPill09/02/18 04:53 PM
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It's sad that this is true. But it absolutely IS true. One hundred percent, unbridled, no bullshit truth. Anyone claiming it's sexist or BS isn't paying attention.
/r/TheRedPill01/02/18 08:23 PM
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Not necessarily. Never underestimate behavior conditioning. Decades and generations of Disney princesses have no doubt had a powerful effect on society and how it looks at the feminine. Of course, Evolution might have played a part, too. Once upon a time, men competed for the attention of females, to mate. So she could choose the strong. Something had to stir a desire to enter into that competition. Hence, the princess always needing rescued... usually by violent means.
/r/TheRedPill01/02/18 06:51 PM
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And yet those of us willing to admit what we are, at the fundamental level, are demeaned. Those willing to look past culturally acceptable pretense and into the eyes of the primate in the mirror, who deal directly with the truth of the self serving beast...are called selfish, brutish, sexist and, of course, selfish. That last, as always, is true. Because it is the nature of the beast we are. But heaven forbid we admit as much.
/r/TheRedPill01/02/18 06:47 PM
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This may be unwelcome here and if so, I apologise. But trust me: there are men who really like passionate, intelligent, informed women. If your man is intimidated by the fact of your passion or intelligence, it's a bad fit for you and his loss. This isn't sucking up or scoring points. It's just honesty.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/18 06:33 PM
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If this is "as reported by students" I hope they allowed for the possibility that the sort of kids who bully and manipulate are always going to claim lots of sex... whether they're getting it or not. Just a concern.
/r/TheRedPill18/01/18 05:01 PM
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I feel obligated to mention that the guy had no right to grope her and that's not something to condone. And I fully understand you are NOT condoning his actions. On the other hand... yeah: gonna be lots of drunk, stoned young men, but sure...go topless. What could possibly go wrong? Yep. Not a smart decision. He had no right to try and make her a victim. But she didn't have to make herself so vulnerable, either. I'm not condoning his actions...but she perhaps should also have considered her own …
/r/TheRedPill17/01/18 06:45 PM
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Amen. I know the feeling. I cannot sleep with a dumb girl. Cannot. Of I can't stand to hear you speak, it's an utter turn off...
/r/TheRedPill15/01/18 05:26 PM
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I made the tragic mistake of asking for clarification in a Blue Pill post. A woman spied on her husband. No reason given. Found he was reading TRP and confronted him. Now, she's mad because he won't apologize for his anger at her spying on his phone...even my girl thinks this is crap. But TBP? Nope. I ask her to clarify why she spied. Why he deserved it. And I was immediately villified. Told that wasn't the issue, that it didn't matter... These people are sick. If you think your spouse is exhibi…
/r/TheRedPill15/01/18 05:18 PM
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Or as others have said...maybe...not go home with him to begin with? I mean...you already felt rushed through dinner. Why the hell would you go home with him?
/r/TheRedPill15/01/18 05:11 PM
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What about frank, honest education. Truth about social worth, how it's evaluated and how to increase it? From early adolescence, I somehow came to understand that Social Hierarchy, Status and Value are very real. I developed a knack for assessment of my own approximate value, how it compared to Plates I'd try to spin and how I could use that understanding to select friends and partners that were likely to spend time with me based on their own evaluation of my worth. Matching my real worth in as …
/r/TheRedPill14/01/18 03:48 PM
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Know that you aren't alone. After seeing divorce and separation from an early age, and the manner in which children became commodities to be bartered over for fiscal gain, I determined early on that I would never participate in such a system. I am also a big fan of psychologist Peter Gray, who argues that the only difference between school and prison, is that, while inside, prisoners have rights, while students don't. I still remember the expectation to ask permission to "please be excused" to u…
/r/TheRedPill14/01/18 03:37 PM
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On the other hand, if you're contributing to amazing sex WITH him, he won't desire to check out other women nearly as much. I still remember an ex (that I should have kept) who was smart, sexy and amazing in the sack. I didn't even want to check out other girls. Didn't feel the need.
/r/TheRedPill13/01/18 01:14 PM
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I don't agree with everything TRP says... But this? This is GOLD. I saw a man whose wife chose to quit her job for school support her while he was in deployment. She got her degree, and immediately divorced him. Got alimony and child support. I decided right then: never having kids. Gives others too much power over my life choices.
/r/TheRedPill11/01/18 01:28 PM
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