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| 11 | I'm a therapist and I can't do couples counseling anymoreI work alongside trauma specialists and psych relationship counselors, most of my patients come from places of abuse too. Day in day out, ninety percent of the cases we see are women or children abused by male figures in their lives. It's hard to stay positive towards men. There are "good men" out there, I work with plenty of kind male doctors, nurses, and counselors. Half my community gardening group are rather gentlemanly but out in public I rarely meet a decent male. Even in my department the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 09:14 AM |
| 9 | Remember: The only men complaining about your standards are the men who know they cannot meet them. Pay them no mind.Oh god high COL areas, I'm so sorry. My brother and his partner are looking at homes in Seattle right now and I do not envy them. All the homes they are looking at cost 800k-1.4 mill. These are just houses, not even luxury homes, like 3 bedroom houses. One of the houses they are looking at looks at lot like my home but it's going for over 1 mill? Like no, why? My sis who lives in the bay area is paying 5k a month rent for her condo, there's very low chance she'll ever buy a home in Cali. Don't l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 02:31 AM |
| 7 | Remember: The only men complaining about your standards are the men who know they cannot meet them. Pay them no mind.900k isn't even a lot for a home anymore, did this guy plan on staying in apartments forever? When I bought my home years ago, it was 700-ish but on the market today I have no clue it's going price. If 900k is the price of your dream home, in your dream local go for it. Find someone that will support your goals, not knock down your standards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 02:04 AM |
| 13 | Those poor women. Actually naw, they know the history.There's no one currently dating my last ex. He's a forty year old loser, still chasing get rich quick schemes, only works part time because he thinks "work is too hard", hasn't advanced his career in decades, hasn't left his moldy one bed apartment he moved to in college, and he's still just as lazy, messy, and gross. From time to time I'd see him and we'd chat since we work in the same hospital and sometimes same floor. I don't dislike him, I mainly just feel sorry for him. I do warn the other … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 02:45 AM |
| 1 | Can you imagine a world where we refused to sleep with men who didn't prioritize our pleasure and comfort?I honestly think I could be better, but thank you. The standards for men have dropped so low. They pick at women for having the barest of standards. I raised a point that no one should yell at their partner ever and a guy said it was impossible not to. Another women said she wanted her man to be hygienic and commenters decried that, saying only gay men had possibility of meeting such lofty standards. Like come on! It's not that hard to treat women/your partner as people. It's not that hard to co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 07:31 PM |
| 95 | Can you imagine a world where we refused to sleep with men who didn't prioritize our pleasure and comfort?This is so true! All my female partners and I are way better at using strap ons to pleasure our partners than all the men I've had in my life. Its depressing and deplorable. They grew up with this appendage, I had to buy it and learn how to use it. My current SO never had a male partner willing to go down on her, listen to her wants, do what she likes. It's so sad to me. It's been almost a decade of being with her and everytime I get her anything, she thanks me for it. Doesn't matter if I just f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 10:53 PM |
| 115 | This is straight out of a horror movie... being a woman automatically puts a target sign on your back. Please stay safe ladies ❤️My partner and I are both women, we live together partially in the woods. We don't like guns but we know how to use shotguns. Our yard has motion activated flood lights. Our giant pyrenees deters most people, we always take him whenever we walk or travel anywhere. It's a frightening world out there for women. Stay armed, stay safe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 11:20 AM |
| 95 | Cut my date short at the first sign of disrespectThere's so many men out there. Never give one the chance when it comes to your boundaries, your self respect, and your feelings. They demean/insult any part of you, drop them. Don't bother giving them more chances than one. Why give one another chance when it'll just eat up your time replacing them? You weren't unkind. Your friend is too forgiving. Forget this guy, and forget any guy who shows any sign of disrespect. I rarely have second dates with men but because of it but I found my one, been … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 10:42 AM |
| 7 | She is right, society pushes us to give “nice guys” a chance even if we are not attracted to themIf a guy doesn't meet your standards don't date him. Don't "change" him into the partner you are looking for, actually go and find someone whole and what you were looking for. Take it from someone who's fairly older. Too many of my friends married people who had "potential" and ended up leaving when he never met them halfway on finances, child rearing, home maintenance, home management, or mental/physical support. I wasted eight years to change a guy, he's now a forty something that hasn't chang… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 09:48 PM |
| 12 | Not sure if this is allowed here, but more women should know about comphetI've had an equal amount of male partners to female partners in my life. However, in college I had to undergo exposure therapy to men because of my almost irrational fear of men. Apparently I was "broken" because of my fear. I've been attacked, assaulted, and harassed by men ever since I was a child but no I had to be fixed, I was broken. They said how could I find myself a husband if I was afraid of men. This was back in the 90s I believe... it was a time. I hope that this type of therapy isn't… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 05:54 AM |
| 31 | Scrotes don’t like being told to do their hair ☹️ wah wah wah 🍼What I don't understand is the standards for men were pretty high back then. Men had nice suits that fit, just a dab of cologne, combed and brushed their hair before going out, and while it was never on the same level of effort as women in the past or women today, it was an effort. Men looked rather handsome then. Where did that go? One of the last men I dated came stepping up to me in a holey jean jacket, stained t-shirt, unbrushed greasy hair, untrimmed/unwaxed beard, chapped lips, and worn ou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 02:07 AM |
| 11 | Man’s idea of clean is actually super messy. Avoid men who cannot take care of their living space, even when nobody else will see it. His home should be kept tidy regardless of whether a guest is coming over.My ex was like this. I stayed with him for most of my younger twenties unfortunately. He kept our place somewhat tidy when I was home so I was unaware. However when I left for a contract (it was maybe 13 weeks to 15 weeks long) and came back, I couldn't recognize our apartment anymore. He leaves for similar contracts too and I always kept the place organized but as soon as I left, its like he completely stopped maintenance. All the dishes were used, my ceramic pans were scuffed, clothes were on … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 12:41 PM |
| 28 | HVM story found on r/tumblrSatin or silk pillow cases keep your curls and so you don't wake up with tangled, messed up matted hair. It's for a certain hair type like braided, wavy, weaved, or curly. My girlfriend has long thick curly hair so she sleeps on a satin pillow case, sometimes with a hair wrap for her curls to stay put and not get frizzy. Without her pillowcase, she looks like a lion when she wakes. If that sounds like you, it could be beneficial. The curlyhair and curlygirl subreddits speak more about it though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 11:31 PM |
| 6 | Do men chase after women with specific occupations?It's TRUE in my situation. I was a waitress before I went into healthcare work. I was in a longterm relationship with a male nurse that worked part-time, because work was "so hard" and he constantly wasted our funds on MLM schemes since he wanted a certain "lifestyle". We had the same job but he would always complain that people made him lift heavy patients more because he's a man, which is a lie because we used Hoyer's lifts for heavy patients all the time and he was my height. No one will ask … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 08:02 AM |
| 24 | I feel like society blames us for men's issues, because mothers are put in charge of regulating everyone's emotions. Which is impossible, we cannot be put in charge of how you feel.Emotional intelligence is such an important characteristic. Empathy, understanding, and the ability to support someone's emotional well-being was the only standard I had when dating men because so rarely did they pass this. Most men who passed this one standard of mine worked in healthcare. It was my most important standard. It was the defining line between dating an emotionally stunted man child to an actual adult. A man that could control his rage, quell anxieties in others, and calm himself s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 10:19 PM |
| 74 | A sermon I’d attendI hate social norms that dictate that you should have zero standards and expectations towards men. Saying you want a hygienic man with his own job, and car is seen as controversial when it's the lowest bar. I hate social norms that dictate that we should never be high maintenance and that high maintenance is negative when all it means in reality is that you are seeking quality and you are quality yourself. A woman was asking if she was high maintenance for having a budget for an engagement ring.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 06:40 AM |
| 8 | People who say their partner is HV before 6 month in, and people in here supporting it?I agree! LV Men can pretend for up to 3 years. They manipulate and lie so that they have your guard down enough to get married to them. I've seen it happen with my friends. She knew him for 3 years, got married on the 4th year in, and their relationship rotted. He began drinking heavily, started yelling at her, tracking her everywhere she went, yelled at her for grocery shopping, throwing her stuff around, breaking her things, yelled at her for spending her money on spa treatments she got with u… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 09:33 PM |
| 28 | No such thing as too pickyThis. This to infinity. Keep to your standards and don't settle for anything less than your standards. Its better to live a good life on your own than stuck to an uncaring partner who drags you down. I used to lower my standards to one desired trait, "understanding". I went on roughly 5 dates a week for years trying to find one man that fit that one standard. Could not find one truly empathetic man at all. Found a lot of fake feminists. When I expanded my standards to someone my equal, I found m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 06:23 AM |
| 30 | This was a man’s response to another man crowing than women with standards are often single. Even men know their class ain’t shit!Actual men, not fake nice guys or scraping the bottom of the barrel type men, absolutely know how crappy the majority of the male population is and are appalled. It's not hard to see. Whatever action we do we are judged. If we stay too long in an abusive relationship we are blamed for either not fixing it, not fixing him, not compromising, victim blamed for choosing him in the first place, or blamed that we were too compromising. If we decide to give nice guys a chance and get burned, we are als… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 12:46 AM |
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