NotSoYoungMom Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	College with a long distant kid I’m a woman so feel free to ignore but as your son gets older, and especially once he is a teen, courts will give more consideration to child preferences, so don’t think custody is a no-go forever. With regards to college, I’d approach it as you will pay up to xx amount and he can then choose what college to apply to. Personally, my opinion is as long as those funds are going directly to the educational institution, it should be the child’s choice where they go to college. If the child chooses a…	/r/Divorce_Men	07/08/25 09:03 PM
3	Toxic Wife, Paternal Fraud Once you open Pandora’s box you might not be able ever to close it. You could reveal the ultimate source of betrayal… and you could also kickstart actions that lead to your son calling another man “dad”. If this was me, I’d only make the decision if I knew I was making the decision for son’s benefit and not to hurt ex spouse.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/04/25 09:30 PM
4	She gave me the death sentence. So I’m a married woman - and OP, you do not deserve this. Do not fight for her. Do not even respond to this text message. Consult an attorney and file immediately. Do everything that attorney tells you to do. This is a bullshit text where she tries to blame herself, you, and everything except take real accountability. This woman is cheating or plans to cheat. Let her go. And know the more you try to chase her, the more she will pull back. A real life partner is not going to blindside you with so…	/r/Divorce_Men	21/02/25 06:23 PM
8	Just clueless how to proceed So I’m a woman and not at all familiar with Germany / Latin American divorce laws, but from what you wrote, if your wife leaves the country with your kids - I’d say there’s a significantly high chance she’s not returning. I’d urge you to consult with an attorney before agreeing to letting her leave the country with your children.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/02/25 08:56 AM
5	I need a pick me up, men So I’ll be honest, I’m a woman and when I read through this sub, I often have opinions that differ from the majority of posters here. That said, there was no productive reason for your ex to send that text. It served no other purpose than to land a dig at you. Don’t let her text derail your time. Keep on having an awesome weekend with your son.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/01/25 12:13 AM
2	Child Support Modification Check with your state because some states may automatically open child support if a parent files for government benefits.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/10/24 05:06 PM
2	Son, 5 yo Not doing well with divorce A healthy explanation is that the marriage between mommy and daddy was not good. You both love him and will try to get through the difficult time. The 5 year old does not need intimate details of your marriage.. once you open that door you run the risk of your ex telling your son about all your faults. Rise above it and commit to raising the child as happy and well adjusted as can be and that includes having a solid relationship with both mom & dad. On this page you often read about women having…	/r/Divorce_Men	03/10/24 12:17 AM
2	Are there any success stories for staying involved with the family of the former spouse When my parents divorced my mom stayed very close with her former sisters in law.. in fact they came to her 2nd wedding. They remained close even after both my mom & dad were remarried. Once they got further out from the divorce, my mom and stepdad got invites to my my dad’s family functions… it took some time to get to that point. My parents also grew up together and came from a large family so there was so much overlap & history between the families.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/10/24 01:18 PM
1	How much will it trouble her ? Do you have children with your soon to be ex? If so, I wouldn’t encourage this path. Children pick up on things and I wouldn’t want my child potentially exposed to any allegations even if they’re untrue. It already sounds like a chaotic situation, I’d focus on rebuilding my life and leave the drama in the past.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/09/24 02:26 AM
5	How do you guys navigate your exp spouses parents passing away. You don’t need to console your ex but going to the funeral is a nice gesture for your kids. You can simply be courteous and respectful to your ex & ex FIL. When greeting the family in line, you can interact with your ex in a way you feel most appropriate (be that a hug or gentle hand/arm squeeze). Obviously there will be a million eyes on the both of you. Set the example to your kids and all the gawkers that you’re the bigger man. People will notice. Dress & look your best so you really leave th…	/r/Divorce_Men	20/09/24 07:46 PM
4	The rings Child of divorced parents perspective - if you have kids, might consider stashing them away for when your kids are older. One of my parents has passed and although they divorced & both remarried, I treasure their wedding rings. It’s a reminder for me that how traumatic the divorce was for all of us, there was once a time I was born because of love. It’s been decades since their separation and even though there’s been healing for all of us, as an adult child from divorce it still can be difficult…	/r/Divorce_Men	18/09/24 02:45 PM
1	Looking into calling it quits If he goes austere, it might give rise to a counter claim of financial abuse making the divorce settlement more favorable to STBXW. OP consult with an attorney now. There is alimony in TX it’s just harder to get but the duration of your marriage coupled with mental illness, might be enough to be eligible for alimony. Either way you’ve been married for 22 years and your wife doesn’t work, a divorce is going to be costly for both of you.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/09/24 03:58 PM