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Here’s where you don’t get it… this sub isn’t about complaining, it’s about understanding the issues that men and women trying to get partners deal with on the daily and putting it under a magnifying glass to see what’s really going on. Oftentimes, we come to the conclusion that there is no “getting over it” and that any attempt to do so will inevitably end in vain. Sure, many people use this sub to complain, which I will admit I am guilty of, but the overarching purpose is analysis.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 08:17 PM
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focus that energy into something that will actually get you laud or on a date. you’ll be off to a good start. What are these things that will work? People typically turn to the DMs because they aren’t high up in social hierarchies either in their college or hs or in any other environment. Typically, they’ve tried every other option many times over and it just doesn’t work. So, understanding that they just don’t have whatever it is to win women over irl, what would you suggest their next step is?…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 04:33 PM
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they refuse to accept they are ordinary and can’t pull the virgin who resembles their favorite porn star I take issue with this. I agree that this is accurate for your typical incel, but many men on here touting TRP don’t have these expectations. They just want a relationship PERIOD, yet they can’t seem to get one. Many men here have lowered their expectations to absolute zero and still can’t seem to get with anyone, and all that they can fathom is that women are the ones with high expectations.…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 04:14 PM
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The issue here is that you’re associating the term “average” to nearly every attribute that a man can have. The vast majority of the time, someone who may be average in looks is above average in at least something else. If you don’t have above average looks, perhaps you excel in intelligence, or you’re more athletic, and so on and so forth. The reason that we immediately associate “average” to offering nothing is for the very reason that the red pill and black pill have been saying this whole ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 04:06 PM
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There’s also the factor that the perception that a 30 year old virgin is a boring person and even if it isn’t true, that very concept of an older virgin being boring is probably a barrier in itself that most other people dont have to deal with
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 12:24 PM
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I know that I’m kind of circumventing the question but it would be nice if women would at least give some sort of hint that they’re attracted to a guy so he isn’t just going in blind and playing the numbers game. However, I think that when it comes to asking out it should still be men doing the asking because it would show that he takes initiative.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 04:42 PM
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Literally anyone who takes care of themself and isn’t miserable to be around in terms of personality
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 01:17 PM
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How do you think that past experience affects people’s ability to enter relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 12:25 PM
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Interesting. It seems like experience would work the other way around. I would expect that experience would help in maintaining a relationship since you’ve already seen what does and doesn’t work. So based on what you believe, you would say that prior experience is an important factor when a woman is evaluating/choosing a man and vice versa?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 02:10 AM
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In other words the man is expected to do the heavy lifting, both literally and figuratively
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 02:24 PM
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I understand that it’s not a good idea for OP to generalize all women, but at the same time who is a man to blame if he has spent years upon years improving himself constantly and yet can’t get a date? If he doesn’t have a clue what he’s doing wrong and he’s improved to the point where he can’t even find flaws in himself other than natural flaws like physical appearance, then certainly he can’t blame himself for not being good enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 02:47 AM
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I don’t really think you get it… What OP is saying is that many men are physically incapable of keeping up with modern standards and are condemned to a life of loneliness and he’s looking for a long-term solution to the loneliness aspect. He doesn’t believe that prostitution is a particularly good solution per se. While I don’t agree with his assessment of how many men can’t keep up with standards, I do agree that it’s an issue that’s getting out of hand and there needs to be a solution to the i…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 01:38 AM
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If any women see this: if you were attracted to them, would you drop some sort of hint to then that you’re attracted or would you simply hope in the off-chance that one of them would approach you?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:12 AM
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Okay so I know that this is going to sound like I'm disagreeing with you just to disagree with you, but I want to pick your brain at a few of these subjects. First, you say that you've done alright without worrying about being masculine - when was your first relationship if you're alright with me asking. Also, you say that I'm not done growing, which I agree with, but there isn't any indicator that things are going to get any better in terms of appeal for relationships. it's not the end of the w…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 12:01 AM
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I would agree but the only issue is that being myself and being confident in myself hasn’t worked once in the past 16 years, and it isn’t like there’s some majorly wrong about me like not taking care of myself, not being smart, dressing like I’m homeless, etc., but the one thing that I don’t really have going for me is that I don’t have as “masculine” of a face as most other people. At this point, I’m not really looking for the love of my life, especially in high school, but I want to make sure …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 10:50 PM
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See that’s the issue though. Guys like me who have no clue what they’re doing wrong will ask what they can do better and they either get advice that doesn’t work in practice or they don’t get any advice at all, leading us to believe that regardless of what we do, there’s some underlying aspect that keeps anything from working, and the only reasonable explanation that I, along with many others, can come up with is that natural inequalities like height, facial symmetry, facial structure, facial fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 03:05 PM
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For high schoolers what do you think you can change to make yourself more appealing. Also I work out four days a week already so ig advice other than working out lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 02:17 PM
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Sorry im late to this. Do you have a link to those charts?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 11:24 PM
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I wish more people here would be willing to have an open mind. I’ve seen it go both ways, I’ve seen blue-pillers call men rapists with no basis and red-pillers call women sluts and tell them they’re going to hell. If people would be actually willing to have a discussion both ways then perhaps men would be less hostile towards women in general and women would be more introspective and see how they may have biases that are unfair for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 12:18 AM
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I don’t have any advice for anyone having that kind of bad luck. That’s where I got it from. Perhaps I misinterpreted it, just how I read it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 07:26 PM
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Just to make sure, it’s your philosophy that dating success is purely predicated on luck or is there something to it that you can control?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 04:47 PM
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If that’s the case, do you have any suggestions? And if we don’t know precisely what women want then is it not true that advice like that is meant to send men on their way to increased success with women, and what increases success with women, whatever it may be, is simply a byproduct of carrying out that advice?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 04:30 PM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 02:44 AM
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Is that your response?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 10:17 PM
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So if you arent “born alpha” then how is a man supposed to succeed in the dating world rather than just give up and live a lonely life?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 11:31 AM
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Based on who I am - yes. I’m smart, funny, somewhat decent at cooking, and a little bit athletic but I don’t obsess over it. The difference comes into play when we start talking about if someone were to date who others think I am, which I would not be happy with that. Also I think this thread is kind of interesting because it’s more so asking whether or not you align with what you think a woman should look for in a man than if you align with what women currently want in a man. Not sure if this w…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 03:21 AM
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Yeah, I love that ppd is non pc. Literally when I leave myself to my own thoughts I sometimes develop highly irrational beliefs and this sub tends to put me in my place lol. Without the ability to have such a discussion im worried i would really just become a hopeless misogynist lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 01:48 AM
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To be honest, my debut comment here was a 1318 word vent (yes i put it into a word counter), but I don’t think that’s what I’m really here for, especially since after I vented I was really focused on getting some of my questions answered and getting some different perspectives on my issues. My goal here is mostly to try and rationalize my introspective thoughts. I have some beliefs that I would probably defend, but I’ll also present beliefs that I don’t agree with just to see how different peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 01:38 AM
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I can’t really speak for him, but since he mentioned the nerdy type, I feel bound to say that he doesn’t. Us nerds often don’t come here to spread an ideology but rather to present ideas and receive push-back and try to apply that to our current library of knowledge. He probably currently has opinions that align with one pill or another, but he’s not worried about spreading that ideology but rather testing his own beliefs and the beliefs of others. That’s all assuming that him and I think the sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 01:24 AM
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The issue that I see with your claim is that you assume that the alternative to being yourself is by faking a personality or a lifestyle - this isn’t the case. Generally speaking, the predominant alternative (at least as far as what I’ve seen on this sub) would be to fundamentally change who you are to fit what women want all the way down to your thought process. That way it’s not like you’re putting on an outwards appearance but rather changing yourself so you don’t have to live with faking it.…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 01:19 AM
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Yeah, this is why I feel like I’ll do much better in a college environment. Next year, I plan to join NHS, Model UN, and a few other clubs, so hopefully I’ll do better there. I’m not so worried about making friends in college as I am about keeping them. I remember seeing a post in here that mentioned that for men you kind of have to get in at least some experience in high school (going on a date being the bare minimum and expected being that youve lost your virginity), and that if you are below …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 09:34 PM
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Thank you for this. I like what you said in the first paragraph and I’ll definitely try them. About my wit, I do have a pretty good “on-demand” wit, but the problem is that my school’s administration loves to escalate self-defense and be in favor of the perpetrators. I know you’re probably wondering how they only reprimand the victim, and I can’t give you a clear-cut answer. My guess would be that when bullying is the norm, any deviation is bound to be viewed as taking it too far. In your third …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 08:37 PM
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The thing is that I do write a lot, and I read a lot, I just don’t know how to draw attention to that. Any ideas?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 05:01 PM
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Thank you for your response. I do want to clarify one thing - When I said 0-15 and 0-20 that was for my whole life, so 15 was including the one or two the year before and 20 was meant to mean that in the next year I only asked out five. I honestly wonder where to go from here. My thoughts have been to wait until I get into college and move forward, but even then I’d be at a disadvantage and I would be in a playing field full of experience where I have none, but at least it’s something. Thoughts?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 12:12 PM
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lol this clocked in at 1318 words. Longest rant about my romantic success (or lack thereof) by one word lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 02:54 AM
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100% true. I had a friend who ran an anonymous survey last November and over 60% of both boys and girls said that they wouldn’t date anyone, regardless of how interesting or how good of a personality they had, if they were under a 5 in looks. Looks will continue to matter more until you have no control over if you’ll ever be in a relationship or ever get sex. When I saw the results my heart just sank to my stomach since if it keeps going faster then my chances of getting into a relationship ever…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 02:30 AM
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Basic details: 15yr 11mo male in a high school as a sophomore. tl;dr at the bottom No clue but I can make a few guesses. The first is that I don’t try to warm up to women until she shows interest in me, and I can typically keep a good eye out for women who have at least a slight interest in me, and there’s none. As for why there’s none, again, I have no clue, but I can make some guesses. My first guess would be social status. My social status has always been affected by me being the “nerd.” I’ve…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 02:04 AM
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I’ll probably just spend another day sulking and wondering why I can’t manage to attract people even though I don’t know what I’m doing wrong, but worse as everywhere I look will just be a reminder of that reality. Other than that it’ll probably just be another normal day tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 12:45 AM
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