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Your english is great first of all, and your points are absolutely on the money. Attention may feel good, but it's pretty meaningless. You do have to respect yourself and believe that you are worthy of respect. Your passion for life, as you put it, has to consist of more than your passion for a relationship, even if that's what you want most, it can't be ALL that you want. Your passion for your career, eh, personally I say stuff the career, work to live, not the other way around, and worry about…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/18 12:48 PM
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This makes me so, so sad to read. The amount of irreparable harm that feminism inflicts on young, impressionable women is very disheartening. It's bad for men too, but women are just more likely to submit to this sort of peer pressure and herd mentality, and sometimes by the time they wake up, they've already wasted their best years. It's honestly just depressing. As a society, we have to do better. To your specific case: You haven't wasted all your best years, and even though you may feel like …
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/18 12:39 PM
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Huge waste of time. I agree with some poster who said if sexual variety is really something that you and your partner would BOTH enjoy, hire a professional, there are many escorts who are discreet and very skillful, although not cheap. One relationship is enough work by itself. There is more to life than trying to juggle delicate sexual tensions between multiple people within the bounds of your relationship. You said you're not interested in JUST sex, which is perfectly natural. Well, obviously,…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/18 12:12 PM
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I think that all points to things going well, but you should still only have sex when you feel comfortable that you are going to be monogamous. Hopefully you can determine that you two truly are on the same page, and I think it's more likely that to be the case since you are older. A 40 year old player is pretty rare, even for a guy, so just make sure you're the only girl he's seeing!
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/18 05:11 AM
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Pretty solid advice! And I would go ahead and add to this, the age of the man in question is very important. I know it's awful and unfair, but women have a very short period where they are able to have babies, generally 30 and under is best, 35 and under is good, over 35 is usually a really bad decision. But since men maintain their sexual peak for far longer, they are pushing back when they want to start families later and later. Plenty of successful men these days only settle down when they ar…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/18 12:13 PM
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TY. This is really important in my opinion. I have seen this so often with men and women who I both like as friends. It's just in guy's nature. A man can be a great guy, committed, fun, wants you in his life...for a time. But if he's not looking for children and stability, what are you doing with you life? Do you want a 4 year relationship, and then eventually it becomes a deadend and it falls apart? If this is an acceptable outcome, then go ahead and give him a shot. If this would break your he…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/18 10:28 PM
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You have to ask him. I'm sorry, but everyone here agrees. FIRST, you need to tell us how old you are and how old he is, what is your living and career situation like, and what's his like. This is of critical importance. Then, assuming what you do want eventually is to settle down and have babies, you just have to ask him. You don't want to be direct about this. That's masculine. You want to be subtle and playful, you want to be feminine while at the same time extracting useful information. Ask h…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/18 10:24 PM
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try killing the drama a little says one of the most dramatic posts I have ever read. I mean you sort of have a point, but on the other hand, she didn't say she's causing drama over it. OP is clearly highly neurotic, that's a trait of a large number of women. And when you're highly neurotic, SHIT BOTHERS YOU, and emotions are actually a real issue, for both women AND MEN. The issue isn't with the cleaning itself, it's about how it makes her feel: unwanted, under-utilized, un-appreciated. Now, all…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/18 09:58 AM
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This post sounds better suited to r/relationships rather than r/redpillwomen Your relationship, if you can call it that, sounds like more of a fling that you got super attached to. You have given far too little information. Of most importance: what the fuck does he have to say about any of this? Did you sleep with him? Do you speak regularly? Does he have a wife and kids you don't know about? This post just reeks, but I can't quite put my finger on it. Why would it be creepy for you to want to b…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/18 09:46 AM
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This in my opinion is where the rubber meets the road and is the absolute most difficult thing for a good woman to do in trying to meet and get into a long term relationship with a good man. The bottom line is this: There is no way to be sure, and you are running a huge risk. YOU MUST BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF and rely on your own judgments of his character. You've waited this long, so that's great. The question is, during this time in which you've been dating and he's been courting you, have you …
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/18 09:37 AM
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Great observation. Not much more to add, other than to say I agree completely. It's an extremely good idea to have a hobby that is completely unrelated to your man/any man/men in general. Even if it is "boring" or "not cool" - it's for you, not anyone else, so f 'em. Men find clingy women unbelievably trying. Being able to be happy and content with a hobby that you truly enjoy is wonderful, especially if it is yours and yours alone. Your man will be grateful he doesn't feel like he has to provid…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/18 09:26 AM
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nun-mode is a good place to be right now! Not immediately seeking validation from a new guy means you are emotionally strong and headed in the right direction. At some point, you're going to end up having to eventually take a risk on a new man, but this time you'll be doing it with open eyes and a better understanding of what you want and need, and hopefully how to get it. Best of luck!
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/18 11:52 AM
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Well you're probably not going to like hearing this, but not wanting children is going to exclude a very large portion of serious relationship minded men. You should absolutely be 100% upfront about this, it's a very big thing especially if you're going in knowing you want something longterm. There is not usually much negotiation on this point, so you have to be honest. You're not going to like hearing this either, but you'll probably start feeling different around your early or mid 30's. It's n…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/18 11:23 AM
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No, it isn't about equality in a partnership. It's not a partnership. It's a relationship, in which each party has a role to play. The masculine role and the feminine role. A healthy relationship between a man and woman is often described here as a Captain - First Mate dynamic, and whether or not you agree with the analogy, no one would say that the Captain and First Mate are equals. A relationship need not be a 1:1 exchange of services and time for it to be loving, respectful, and healthy. SMV …
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/18 10:44 AM
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That is in no way the basis of being a RPW. You are totally off base. Your SMV as a woman only needs to be a baseline level of acceptable in order to attract a good man(yes, a good man, not top .1% men, I fucking know). Think healthy body weight, doesn't dress like a slob, etc. RPW is about cultivating all the other intangibles that modern society and horny men pretend don't matter and are irrelevant. They are not irrelevant. Men looking for sex just want a warm wet hole. Yes, we know that, yawn…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/18 07:25 AM
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Breaking up with someone that isn't good for you is indeed the first step on a long, long road to finally being able to love and respect yourself again. So congrats on achieveing that! Many women AND men just stay in awful relationships for decades and it eats away at their souls. You didn't do that, so you deserve some applause for figuring out what wasn't working. But remember, it's only the first step. And it's a big step. However, the next steps are even harder, and they involve changing you…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/18 07:11 AM
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generosity, kindness, always thinking the best of people, taking compliments well, making people feel comfortable. A feminine woman doesn't necessarily have to be a beauty, but she takes care of herself, she dresses to suit her own style and she doesn't look like a slob. She looks neat, and generally wears tasteful makeup when in a social situation. Not cursing excessively, not arguing very often or loudly, generally being soft-spoken, and demure are signs of a feminine woman. The women I have s…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/18 01:05 PM
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I can agree with most of this, especially in the case of like the top 1 or .1% of super high performing men. I don't think that's all that relevant to most people however; I mean shoot for the stars, by all means, but a big part of RPW is about, well, facing reality and realizing everyone doesn't get a perfect 10/10, because they probably don't deserve one, and realizing what is TRULY important to them. But you're right that in some contexts it would be of great value basically to validate yours…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/18 11:36 AM
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Very well said, with less words than I usually need. Not-so-subtle-yet-still-feminine-and-submissive initiation is generally perfect. And if it's just a stress issue, or hormonal issue, you can talk about it in a supportive, understanding fashion, and it will most likely pass given some time.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/18 11:23 AM
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It sounds like you're really pretty much firing on all cylinders there, and if you're able to gauge his mood well, then you're doing it great. There is absolutely nothing wrong with anything you said, so long as you aren't then annoyed if he wants to just go to sleep/relax afterwards. In general, I would say, if you're going to give him a BJ to completion, then you can't really expect anything after that, and you should only initiate that if it's coming from a place of love and giving. If you're…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/18 11:19 AM
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that last part doesn't entirely make sense, but I do understand about having a lot of masculine energy. Some women are higher T than others, that's just a fact, and if you are it's a struggle to not act like a man sometimes. Hey, it happens. Sometimes grown men act like bitches too, and that's also not attractive -_-. Overall, you should be aware of it, which obviously you are, and if you're with a guy or trying to vet someone, realize the power of APOLOGY. If someone has any interest in you at …
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/18 11:02 AM
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Pretty much directly contradictory to redpill theory. And I definitely believe that there ARE men who say that and MAYBEthey even believe it themselves, but history and a vast amount of evidence of extremely successful, powerful men marrying absolute nobodies indicates that it's probably not a hard and fast rule. High quality men absolutely would prefer a high quality woman, no doubt about it: educated is great, sophisticated, all that. Into art, sociable, sure, these are great things. Obviously…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/18 10:48 AM
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you're saying initiating blowjobs as if that's...not sex? I mean, you aren't just giving him blowjobs to completion, and then being frustrated that he's not reciprocating correct? Because if you are doing that, you are way, way off base. I would hope you're initiating in that way and that's leading to the good ahem penetrative sex, etc, etc, etc....That's what you should be doing. Sorry if I was too personal, I just wasn't sure.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/18 10:37 AM
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This is sort of bordering on manipulation, but it could work, potentially, but that's an awful lot of trouble to go through just to try and get your man to bed you. I don't know, maybe I'm just getting old, but it seems like that's a lot of your life to revolve around seducing your already boyfriend several times per week.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/18 10:27 AM
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Men have hormonal cycles as well, not like periods of course, but they absolutely do, and at certain times they may be up for sex 6 times a day, and at other times they're just not feeling it as much. If you think he's losing interest or falling out of love with you, that's one thing. If the relationship is great otherwise and he's just not performing as often as you'd like, well, my honest advice is to back off a little bit. Like women, sometimes guys just don't feel like doing it. UNLIKE WOMEN…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/18 10:25 AM
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I just get the feeling you're cruising for a bruising here emotionally. There is not enough info about how he feels and what he wants. You're over here fantasizing about a life together, and he once mentioned that he wants you as part of his future? Well I'm sorry but that's just a bunch of shit. What is his future? That is so vague as to be meaningless and of course you are just filling in what YOU think it will entail, because it's what YOU want: marriage, kids, a life-long commitment of love …
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/18 10:01 AM
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I'll go ahead and say career doesn't matter. At all. Not one tiny iota, not unless your man is looking to mooch off of you. Men care about WHO YOU ARE, not what you do for money, if anything. I mean I suppose if you're a sex worker or something radical like that that's going to cause some issues, but if your concerns are simply being the best self you can be....then there is absolutely no functional difference in the eyes of a potential mate if you were waiting tables or working for NASA. He wil…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/18 09:44 AM
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you can judge this decision too, and you may judge it acceptable, but really I don't. I mean I don't think you should be ostracized from polite society, but yeah, it's a sign of failure in my opinion. Having children is what all of us, men and women, were put here to do. I judge women who have lots of cats the same way I judge loser incel dudes and their real dolls or whatever: overall failures, despite their other achievements. Only in very rare circumstances is someone's contribution to overal…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/18 09:18 AM
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He's said that I can stay here as long as my heart desires, but he"ll do what he has then you make your peace with that, support him, and don't let him walk out of your life because of your fears. If you manage to convince him otherwise, you'll both be unhappy, guaranteed.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/18 07:43 AM
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Not my area of expertise, but it isn't wrong to be shy. Being shy can be considered quite feminine and attractive in and of itself as long as it's not CRIPPLING shyness. You shouldn't fight who you are at the core, rather try and play to your strengths and downplay your weaknesses. Maybe big crowded parties aren't your scene, and you aren't comfortable dressing sexily. There is nothing inherently wrong with that. Opening up to people in general takes time for shy people. Get to know them. Try an…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/18 07:19 AM
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from the Mexican government moving to America, or to Mexico? Also Silicon Valley is about the friendliest place I can imagine to be an overseas tech worker. You asked a question, "How can I make my husband have crazy fear from Trump like I do and keep him in Spain for the next 3-7 years?" But i'm afraid the correct RPW answer to your concerns has nothing to do with Trump and your fears, but with trusting your husband and letting him make decisions in his life. That is what you should do. You sho…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/18 06:56 AM
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I'll piggyback this to say that hoping for someone to accept you as you are is wishful thinking...if what you want is a solid, loving relationship that will last years and result in children who have both parents around for the duration. If what you want is just a random guy with good aesthetics to buy you dinner, fuck you, and say he loves you, hey, there's about 18,583 right around the corner just waiting to disappoint you. Who you are right now is not acceptable to marriage-minded men. You ha…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/18 05:41 AM
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The statement: "we shouldn't judge women for how they choose to conduct their lives" is about as full as bullshit as a statement can possibly be. So if a woman is a thief, liar, terrible mother, we shouldn't judge her, because woman? If she's a violent, abusive alcoholic, we shouldn't judge her, because woman? If she's just a generally unpleasant person who uses people and has no respect for anyone around her, and lives her life as a total leech, sucking from everyone and feeling no gratitude an…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/18 05:23 AM
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So your husband wants to move back to America for work, and you don't want him to because you're afraid of Trump? This is not the dumbest thing I've ever heard, but it's somewhere in the running. I mean seriously, if Barcelona is your new home forever, fine, great, but if your husband wants a good job and to move back to California, then umm, do it? I mean play this out in your head, what is the absolute worst case scenario that is in any way reasonable or likely? His visa will get rescinded bec…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/18 05:00 AM
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You'll find lots of things like that about yourself especially as you go through your 20's, maybe even early 30's for some people. For myself personally, I suppose I relate to this because I was so convinced I wanted a degree and a serious career, and even though I'm clever enough, motivating myself for college was pure hell. It took me a long time to realize I despised college and no sort of degree or career was worth it to me. Most especially, if you decide your are primarily interested in bei…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/18 04:55 AM
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edit to say, not that server money is like sufficient for providing for a family or anything, but to support yourself or help out around the margins, with lower effort or energy than pursuing a "career" it's certainly fine.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/18 04:12 AM
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In my opinion this is subjective to each individual, but I believe 5 years of uni is highly overrated in general. You can get a decent job in a coffee shop or as a server and make very respectable money, think $20+ per hour waiting tables, and there is NOTHING WRONG or shameful about that at all. If you would really like to teach or something, of course you'll need a degree, but believe me you don't really have to have a shiny piece of paper and countless hours writing papers to be educated and …
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/18 04:11 AM
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to transition from career woman into home maker. It's a perfectly natural transition and most every women who does it successfully is happier for it. Many(not all) women finding working in the real world and having a career to just be a giant chore, while their true inclination is just to be in the home and making that place better for everyone. You don't have to pursue a "career" but you do have to handle your own finances until you meet the man wh…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/18 03:06 AM
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No problem, and I know I came off as very harsh, but the tone of your post was that of someone rationalizing a really shitty decision, aka a hamster in overdrive I believe is the less than flattering analogy. In my opinion, you are both in a difficult transitional time right now, and I can only take your word for it, but from what you are saying you trust this guy completely and have full confidence that he wants to marry and have children with you. If that is true, then you have to work ON YOUR…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/18 07:25 PM
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it's really shocking the amount of ra-ra, you go girl posts in this forum. "honey you're perfect, you do you" is sort of antithetical to rpw advice. Looking at yourself and the world honestly, and looking at what you can do to better yourself and your place in the world is purportedly the go-to advice. OP says she doesn't necessarily want to marry the first GOOD guy she dates. WHY WOULDN'T YOU WANT THAT. That's exactly what this forum is supposed to encourage the aware, family-minded women to do…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/18 07:09 PM
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You sound unstable and extremely ungrateful. He's better off without you. Go find some old rich guy to make miserable and don't make him feel guilty about your relationship ending, as it's clearly all on you. Your complaints: He's in school, working, saving, doesn't have enough money yet. But he's young. Most 24 year olds have a negative net worth and few prospects. Oh, and he he's not 'funny' enough. Man, what a loser this guy is. I'll throw in an edit here in the off chance you're actually loo…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/18 12:17 PM
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if that's really true, then be patient, and stay the course then. Bring up kids and tell him how important it's going to be for him to be working when you get pregnant in the hopefully near, or at least somewhat near future. I also really don't believe in divorce, even if he never becomes everything you were hoping for, but I think you have to give him every opportunity to be the provider that you want.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/18 12:51 AM
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Just to respond to this, I guess I wasn't clear when I suggested you should get pregnant. I meant you should get pregnant with his full knowledge and support, and let him know the clock is ticking on him stepping up and providing. 9 months is a pretty long time. I'm saying that having dependent children is a hell of a motivational factor, and if you're in it for the long run with this man, then this is probably your best shot at having the life you want together and being able to be care for you…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/18 10:28 PM
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How do you know it doesn't end well? Sometimes it does, sometimes it doesn't. You have said that you are absolutely unwilling to consider moving on or moving past him. Are you lying or is that the truth? If it's the truth, you don't really have many options moving forward. Humans are a pretty resourceful creature, when challenges arise, we rise to meet them. There is no motivation in his mind right now to provide since you do a fine job of it and there are no children in the horizon. Some people…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/18 10:17 PM
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How old are you? If I'm doing the math....met at 15....married 11.5 years...you're at least 30? about 30? 29 or so? Time is running out. Just get pregnant. Get pregnant and make it clear to him it's his responsibility to provide. We didn't use to have all these fancy options like birth control and condoms; when you became pregnant, a man had two real options: Be a father, and be a man, or be a deadbeat piece of shit. Some men aren't naturally going to go into that provider role without a good re…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/18 10:49 AM
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