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166	Experience as a (left-wing) male victim of domestic abuse (by a woman)	discussion	NothinginParticul8r	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	09/05/26 04:30 PM

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2	Experience as a (left-wing) male victim of domestic abuse (by a woman) Thanks for sharing your story. I'm so sorry for what you have been through and I hope you & your children are in a safe place presently. "I think it was more humanist motivated than feminist/male savior, though I can't say 100% so, but I enabled her abusive behaviors. She had suffered a ton of childhood trauma, and I was too understanding and forgiving of her behaviors. I'm very certain she has undiagnosed Borderline Personality Disorder." This all rings true for my experience. I would consider …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	11/05/26 09:10 AM
2	Experience as a (left-wing) male victim of domestic abuse (by a woman) Thank you to everyone who has commented / engaged with this post.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	10/05/26 06:42 PM
3	Experience as a (left-wing) male victim of domestic abuse (by a woman) Thank you for your comments, I appreciate it; and my sympathies to your own experiences. In my case, I was completely unaware of things like narcissism and cluster-B traits when I went into this relationship. Or, at least, I was unaware of the terminology and conceptualisation around such things. But even if I had more awareness, I may well have gone down the same path, out of optimism and generosity. I suppose it is difficult to hold on to an idea that the spirit of care and generosity was a go…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	10/05/26 06:31 PM
3	Experience as a (left-wing) male victim of domestic abuse (by a woman) Thank you very much for this comment. "These feminist, communally active, narcissistic women find safety in left wing spaces (bc they're women) and use that safety to extract whatever they can out of anyone and everyone." I have been dealing with this for a long time now, trying to understand it, speaking to who I can speak to. Your comment here is one of the most accurate/insightful things I've heard. This is hitting the nail on the head. I really appreciate this because it's something I have b…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	10/05/26 10:33 AM
9	Experience as a (left-wing) male victim of domestic abuse (by a woman) Thank you for sharing this, my best to you too. I don't have time right now to respond to specifics, but I appreciate your reponse & wish you all the best.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	09/05/26 10:40 PM
6	Experience as a (left-wing) male victim of domestic abuse (by a woman) Thank you again for this. Sorry to hear about your own experience & I wish you the same. Self-respect is so important. I think there are questions to consider about the general level of societal respect that exists for men who are not of high status, which the experience of male victims can highlight.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	09/05/26 10:17 PM
10	Experience as a (left-wing) male victim of domestic abuse (by a woman) Thank you for your comment, I appreciate your respect and good will. Regardling 'masculinity', I think it can be complicated. I am posting in this sub specifically because I come from a left-wing (perhaps you may call liberal) political background. My situation was complex. I think there were some ways in which I was, if anything, 'too' masculine, in the sense that it in traditional culture, it is masculine to respect and protect women, regardless of the circumstances. I was perhaps too willing …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	09/05/26 09:34 PM
8	Experience as a (left-wing) male victim of domestic abuse (by a woman) So sorry to hear this, it sounds like you have been through some truly harrowing experiences. I hope you are in a situation now where you are able to gain support.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	09/05/26 08:52 PM
18	Experience as a (left-wing) male victim of domestic abuse (by a woman) Thank you for sharing this & you have my sympathies and solidarity. I agree with your point. I think there are strange and contradictory aspects to the cultural response to such behaviours. Cruelty by women to other women, including these behaviours, is sometimes culturally acknowledged; but it can be done so in a way that infers it is ultimately inconsequential, perhaps something that younger women 'grow out of', or perhaps something indicative of low social class. Perhaps it is ignored that wo…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	09/05/26 07:40 PM
7	What actually is the patriarchy? It's heartening to read people here who recognise that women are proactive in enforcing patriarchal roles upon men. This is so obviously true in reality, and the inability to reckon with it in the discourse, can render everything a hall of smoke and mirrors. I think one thing to consider is the Western dependency on the normative heterosexual nuclear family as a crucial site of personal, cultural and moral meaning, against which capitalism can extract all manner of costs. For all people to be va…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	09/05/26 05:10 PM