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In many ways my life is easier. But as a certified weirdo, people were much more open to my weirdness when I was presenting as a woman. Many behaviors I was used to getting away with were not tolerated once I started passing
/r/MensRights03/11/25 03:21 AM
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As a trans man, I love being a man. But it's definitely harder. Like I didn't realize life was on easy mode as an average looking woman until people started to treat me differently.
/r/MensRights28/10/25 01:21 PM
3

Just put headphones on without music. I do this a lot in public.
/r/MensRights11/08/25 12:33 PM
2

Feminist subs will block you because you once made a comment in this sub
/r/MensRights26/07/25 05:17 PM
58

Boy raped by female teacher? "the child asked for it!" Woman raped by husband? "You can't trust men!" I literally commented this yesterday on a different thread
/r/MensRights15/03/25 03:32 PM
2

It's not that big of a story but I've always been kind of conditioned to believe that men always want sex, so I felt like I was being weird when I rejected my gf, now ex. So I just did it even if I didn't really want it, I even started it without really wanting it just because it felt like I had to do that. In the end of the relationship, sex felt more like a chore I relate. This was me and my now ex-wife. She would question my masculinity if I wasn't interested in sex at the moment.
/r/MensRights14/03/25 03:45 PM
45

Boy raped by female teacher? "the child asked for it!" Woman raped by husband? "You can't trust men!"
/r/MensRights14/03/25 04:38 AM
34

This has to be satire, right? Right?!!?
/r/MensRights12/03/25 06:40 PM
1

Yes I agree
/r/MensRights11/03/25 02:49 AM
2

Part of criminal justice reform is making sure punishment for a crime is the same for everyone regardless of sex, race, nationality, etc. In practice that might mean harsher average sentences for some groups and lighter average sentences for other groups. I don't think how women are currently sentenced for violent crimes is typically harsh enough.
/r/MensRights11/03/25 02:38 AM
0

I like Aba and Preach. They aren't really activists but they do call out a lot of misandry, especially in social media.
/r/MensRights10/03/25 05:17 PM
1

I ask for sources for any outrageous claims. If they won't even bother with sources, I don't bother with them. Most won't give sources or will give very flawed sources like murder conviction rates.
/r/MensRights08/03/25 03:38 PM
2

Yes, murder in domestic violence is lopsided Is it? Or do women regularly get away with murdering their husbands?
/r/MensRights07/03/25 06:42 PM
2

Inequality in the justice system, the draft (US), inequality in education, blatant unchecked misandry in the media and news
/r/MensRights07/03/25 06:39 PM
33

Bigotry is bad except when used against men and/or white people
/r/MensRights04/03/25 06:15 PM
5

I ask for sources and then I tear those sources apart while including ones that support my position. Most people claiming men commit more crime only cite conviction rates. If it's US statistics, I usually ask if they also believe Black Americans commit more crime than White Americans.
/r/MensRights24/02/25 12:53 PM
1

Cool and now the whole world knows he doesn't have a penis. As a man without a penis, this is my nightmare.
/r/MensRights23/02/25 01:59 PM
0

I know you don't have any "evil intent" but I also believe that words matter. If this conversation was about the sexual assault of female students, I can guarantee the phrasing wouldn't be "how do you feel about male teachers getting away with sleeping with underage female students". The correct response by you would be acknowledging your mistake in phrasing and make sure you don't do it in the future. Not go on and on with excuses as to why you phrased it that way. Please don't take this person…
/r/MensRights16/02/25 10:35 PM
1

Teenagers are a subset of children.
/r/MensRights16/02/25 05:04 PM
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"underage" is not a set age group. Underage entirely depends on what you're talking about. "Underage drinking" can refer to 24 year olds or 12 year olds depending on the country. Anyone under the age of 18 is considered a child by the United Nations. Teenagers are a subset of children.
/r/MensRights16/02/25 05:03 PM
6

Teenagers are children under the law in most western countries. The United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child defines a child as someone under 18 years old.
/r/MensRights16/02/25 11:12 AM
6

If a woman commits a crime, something in her life or circumstances forced her to do so. If a man commits a crime, it's because he's a shitty person.
/r/MensRights14/02/25 10:57 PM
2

You mean "child rape"?
/r/MensRights14/02/25 10:56 PM
45

Also, what's up with "underage"? You mean children?
/r/MensRights14/02/25 10:55 PM
2

No I have not be surrounded by incels but I do personally know more single men than single women. Like at work, the only woman who's single just broke up with her boyfriend. Yes, I think most lonely men would be "better off" in the dating world if by "better off" you mean more sexual attention. In a larger, grander sense, no I don't think more sexual attention leads to a better or happier life.
/r/MensRights10/02/25 03:31 PM
4

I mean I actually used to be a "woman" before (I'm ftm trans). It was extremely easy to find dates and/or sexual encounters. I don't consider myself an incel at all but I also haven't had anyone around my age interested in me since I transitioned 3 years ago.
/r/MensRights10/02/25 03:21 PM
24

Personally I am against the concept of marriage.
/r/MensRights07/02/25 02:01 PM
5

It's a tactic taken straight from the narcissist's prayer That didn't happen. And if it did, it wasn't that bad. And if it was, that's not a big deal. And if it is, that's not my fault. And if it was, I didn't mean it. And if I did, you deserved it.
/r/MensRights11/01/25 02:20 PM
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I would say the vast majority of people lack empathy for anything that doesn't concern them. This isn't unique for women or men.
/r/MensRights22/12/24 04:16 PM
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I've been following the case. Her excuse was "battered spouse syndrome" and the thing that pushed her over the edge was when her boyfriend said "I can't breathe" while in the suitcase. They were apparently having a great time until that point.
/r/MensRights03/12/24 02:49 PM
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Any animal? Maybe I'm just being autistic but you do realize humans are an apex predator right? You don't have to be scared of spiders and mice.
/r/MensRights23/11/24 06:41 PM
2

Believe you and get sympathy instead of endless victim blaming.
/r/MensRights23/11/24 06:35 PM
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Not unpopular here. Conscription is forced labor.
/r/MensRights18/11/24 01:38 PM
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I'm just curious, do you know what race he was?
/r/MensRights18/11/24 04:52 AM
9

THIS. Exactly this! The ruling class wants us to argue about everything except wealth.
/r/MensRights15/11/24 07:39 PM
5

Are you against sobriety and addiction subs too?
/r/MensRights09/11/24 03:41 AM
6

All feminism is "real feminism"
/r/MensRights07/11/24 10:10 PM
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The real reasons is that they make a LOT of money selling foreskins to the cosmetics industry. WTF I didn't believe this. I couldn't believe this. But the cosmetics industry does use infant foreskins in specific products. And there are people out here acting like it's normal. https://www.vice.com/en/article/the-beauty-industry-is-part-of-a-baby-foreskin-flesh-trade-anti-circumcision-activists-warn/ https://qz.com/quartzy/1230002/sandra-bullock-and-cate-blanchett-had-a-penis-facial-its-not-that-s…
/r/MensRights07/11/24 02:36 PM
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I am super left and I'm voting 3rd party for president for the 3rd time. There is a long list why I won't vote for Harris (or Trump). I would never vote for Trump, nor do I want him as president again but a part of me rather have another Trump presidency than a Harris presidency because at least Trump makes the flaws in our country obvious. I'd rather the country totally fall apart than keep up the current lie.
/r/MensRights04/11/24 01:51 AM
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I mean it's a baby. I hate how obsessed society is with gender. Like for all we know the baby could actually be trans female or nonbinary.
/r/MensRights04/11/24 01:39 AM
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The draft is just slavery but with extra steps.
/r/MensRights31/10/24 06:14 PM
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The transphobia
/r/MensRights31/10/24 01:13 PM
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If you give all the men in your team/department flowers with that note it should be extremely obvious you're just being thoughtful instead of flirting. Any guy who's confused probably thinks the barista at Starbucks smiling at him is also flirting. I wouldn't worry about it.
/r/MensRights29/10/24 08:03 PM
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Yeah, as an environmentalist this reflects really well on men. Clothing is a huge source of consumer waste. We should all be wearing our clothing down to rags. In the "perfect world" people would only donate clothes due to weight changes.
/r/MensRights29/10/24 06:10 AM
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Yes. I've actually been to a Target that just didn't have a men's section. And the boy's section was fucking tiny, understocked, and just pure chaos compared to the girls section.
/r/MensRights29/10/24 05:02 AM
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Yes to all four. Only one person who abused me but it was for 4 long years.
/r/MensRights22/10/24 12:36 PM
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I don't hate feminism. I hate bigotry.
/r/MensRights22/10/24 12:05 PM
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Misandry
/r/MensRights21/10/24 06:12 PM
-8

Why is it uncomfortable?
/r/MensRights21/10/24 04:22 PM
-6

Why though?
/r/MensRights21/10/24 04:09 PM
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I am against all segregation based on immutable traits such as skin color, national origin, and of course gender.
/r/MensRights21/10/24 11:03 AM
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I was expecting it. Just not how exhausting it is. I'm also autistic so there's like an extra layer of anxiety.
/r/MensRights16/10/24 07:20 PM
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Hilariously, a lot of FtM folk will talk about how distressing it is to suddenly be treated like a monster after beginning to pass as male. Yep! I'm ftm and this is my experience.
/r/MensRights16/10/24 01:31 PM
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I just say I'm against bigotry and for human rights. If I need to call myself something, I call myself an egalitarian but I usually avoid so around feminists because somehow they think it means I hate women or something.
/r/MensRights09/10/24 02:22 PM
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Also, if we're busy arguing who has it worse, men or women, blacks or whites, etc, etc, we won't have time to realize it's actually the rich people who are the oppressors.
/r/MensRights09/10/24 04:03 AM
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Can't overthrow the plutocracy if no one thinks we're in one
/r/MensRights08/10/24 02:41 PM
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It's not a contest
/r/MensRights02/10/24 03:58 PM
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And even if he had been protected and had been treated amazingly, people seem to forget that he was a child when he was selling out arenas. That kind of fame and wealth alone would damage any child. You can't have a childhood while also being an international superstar. I feel like the general public is too harsh on children in the entertainment industry and we are just as much of a problem as the people behind the scenes.
/r/MensRights29/09/24 05:19 AM
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I was in highschool and saw a girls store in the mall selling merch that said "Boys suck. Throw rocks at them" with a cartoon of rocks being thrown at a boy. I remember making a comment about it to my mother how it wouldn't be okay if the genders were reversed. Her response was basically 🤷‍♀️
/r/MensRights20/09/24 01:24 PM
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Why wouldn't this be a space for me?
/r/MensRights12/09/24 06:31 PM
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As a trans man I'm glad they are expanding boy scouts to all genders. I really wish I was allowed into boy scouts. But I don't think boy scouts should cater or even change for girls. I think girls who are into typical "boy" stuff and are attracted to the tradition of boy scouts should be the ones who join. And vice versa for girl scouts. I'm sure there are plenty of little boys who rather make friendship bracelets and sell cookies than tie knots and go camping. I wish we'd just let kids be kids …
/r/MensRights12/09/24 01:46 PM
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I thought the man who created the store felt uncomfortable buying lingerie for his wife at the major department stores. I'm pretty sure Victoria's Secret was originally created for husbands to buy sexy lingerie for their wives. Yeah just came back from wikipedia. VS was created originally for men to feel more comfortable buying their partner a romantic gift.
/r/MensRights05/09/24 05:11 AM
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Agreed. Capitalism doesn't care about politics, it cares about profits. If the "women's" versions cost more, it's because someone realized women are willing to pay more for the pink version.
/r/MensRights04/09/24 02:22 AM
1

I consume a lot of true crime content, including stories from around the world. There are many stories of women/girls stalking male love interests in Japan. There's even a term a term for that type of perpetrator, "yandere". But I doubt there is any reliable crime statistics for Japan. Crime as a whole is massively underreported in the country.
/r/MensRights01/09/24 06:03 AM
1

When I'm feeling down from other's hate I think about these lyrics: This is for my fans who are suicidal (I love you so much) Why kill yourself when you can go and kill a rival? (why?) Why hate yourself when you can hate the opposition? (why?) Not that I'm condoning violence but I try to remind myself that suicide is what they want. And I don't want to give them the satisfaction.
/r/MensRights01/09/24 04:55 AM
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Extreme misogyny usually leads to far more rapes, deaths, and destruction than feminism I'm not comparing extreme misogyny to feminism. I'm comparing extreme misogyny to extreme misandry. Both are bigotry. Also, I'd counter than extreme misandry leads to just as many, if not more violence towards men.
/r/MensRights30/08/24 02:41 PM
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It's some feminist book that says that science on sex differences between men and women is "misogynistic" and that there's little to no sex difference between the two. You know what's even crazier? Most people who push this thinking are also "pro-trans". Angela Sani is supposedly a transgender ally. But if there were little to no sex differences between men and women, why would anyone transition? Particularly why would any man want to transition to become a woman? Since apparently society hates …
/r/MensRights28/08/24 03:46 PM
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Q. Why can't "extreme" bigotry just be labeled as terrorism? A. Because that would mean many feminists groups engage in terrorism.
/r/MensRights28/08/24 03:40 AM
2

I'd only call the cops if I'm willing to risk being murdered by the cops.
/r/MensRights24/08/24 02:56 PM
6

I updated my comment with a quote from the article
/r/MensRights22/08/24 04:26 PM
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https://innocenceproject.org/women-wrongful-conviction-incarceration-facts-iwd2020/ Of the 3,478 people who have been exonerated in the last three decades, about 9% were women, according to data from the National Registry of Exonerations.
/r/MensRights22/08/24 04:23 PM
4

I mean my female rapist was bigger than me. But she didn't use physical force to rape me.
/r/MensRights18/08/24 02:12 PM
1

He also has the procedure done in his home country of Vietnam. That probably had a lot to do with it.
/r/MensRights17/08/24 02:49 AM
3

No, my point is that there are times where removal of the foreskin is necessary for medical reasons but it looks a lot different than circumcision for aesthetic/religious reasons.
/r/MensRights17/08/24 12:21 AM
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I briefly dated someone who got circumcised as an adult for medical reasons. His circumcision looked a lot different than others I had seen because they left as much foreskin as possible.
/r/MensRights16/08/24 06:14 PM
14

I think both are barbaric. Pierced ears don't easily close up after they've healed. And there's no medical purpose behind it. Plus, an ear piercing can cause lifelong issues if it got infected. Obviously forced circumcision is worse than forced decorative piercing but both violate a person's bodily autonomy. In an ideal world, both practices would be outlawed.
/r/MensRights16/08/24 01:11 PM
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"If my friends aren't racist, I don't want them. Also racism doesn't exist. But sometimes racism does exist but it produces no real harm. Except when it does, but they bring it upon themselves. Usually. Lmao" I've stopped calling people misandrists and their actions misandry. I just say bigots and bigotry. If someone says you can't be bigoted against men, I just drop the definition of bigotry. If they still continue (which they normally do), I block/report if online or avoid that person at all c…
/r/MensRights12/08/24 03:37 PM
7

Exactly!
/r/MensRights07/08/24 08:43 PM
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Exactly. I'm so tired of arguing which race, gender, sexuality, etc has it worse because that's what the actually privileged want. The actually privileged want everyone else to fight and bicker about bigoted bullshit, so we don't fix the real issues. Who are the actually privileged? The ultra-wealthy of course. Who do you think has an easier life? A homeless person who is white, cishet, and male? Or a billionaire who is black, trans, gay, and female? Why is it when the mainstream media talks abo…
/r/MensRights07/08/24 12:40 PM
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Feminists don't see this as a problem because they see it as just men facing the consequences of their actions. More men die in wars? It's only right since men invented war. More men die by suicide? It's because toxic masculinity prevents them from seeking help. How do you even respond to that?
/r/MensRights06/08/24 07:35 PM
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Aba and Preach on YouTube
/r/MensRights05/08/24 03:40 AM
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Or sometimes it's even more insidious A chore needs to be done Man does the chore Woman is unsatisfied with how chore is performed Instead of communicating expectations, the woman assumes incompetence (malicious or not) and now it's the woman's responsibility
/r/MensRights04/08/24 06:42 PM
1

Uh, so exactly which metrics were used to determine which countries had the "most extreme feminism"? Because the Five Eyes is an intelligence alliance between five English speaking countries.
/r/MensRights04/08/24 03:58 AM
32

This phenomenon is way older than DEI
/r/MensRights03/08/24 06:08 PM
17

Make your own! This is actually a great business idea.
/r/MensRights03/08/24 01:12 PM
1

No. The entire world is basically different flavors of plutocracy. Convincing us it's anything but that is exactly what the ultra wealthy want.
/r/MensRights03/08/24 03:59 AM
14

So what did he do? Was he just giving women flowers to give to a man in their life?
/r/MensRights02/08/24 06:17 PM
7

As a short guy, I fucking cringe at "short king". It feels so... infantilizing. Also, like 99% of the time when people say "short king", they mean anyone under 5'10". But the average height for men is 5'9" in America and 5'7" worldwide. So even if you're of average height, you're still considered short.
/r/MensRights02/08/24 11:41 AM
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/r/MensRights02/08/24 11:01 AM
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Surprised the child isn't getting charged for something
/r/MensRights02/08/24 10:49 AM
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I remember when feminists used to be against this sort of preferential treatment I wish they left the gender of the victim out of the story and simply referred to him as a child. Unfortunately some feminists forget that boys are children.
/r/MensRights02/08/24 10:44 AM
2

I'm sorry but I just don't believe your story
/r/MensRights31/07/24 04:01 PM
2

When was this? Because I make hate reports every week for years now and have never had any problems. Not all of my reports are even considered valid by reddit mods
/r/MensRights31/07/24 03:23 PM
4

Wronging someone because you were wronged leads to a path of pain for everyone Please tell the feminists that
/r/MensRights31/07/24 03:17 PM
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I'd say I have about a 50% success rate.
/r/MensRights31/07/24 03:16 PM
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Banned from what? Reddit? Sub mods don't deal with hate reports and there's no consequence for making a "false report". You just get a message saying the post was looked into and no action was deemed necessary
/r/MensRights31/07/24 03:14 PM
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Lol wtf do you think this entire post is about?
/r/MensRights31/07/24 11:04 AM
10

So how is TwoX any different?
/r/MensRights31/07/24 11:01 AM
8

Should reddit allow pro-Nazi subs to exist?
/r/MensRights31/07/24 10:41 AM
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Report as Hate. This way site mods, not subreddit mods see it. I've actually had a lot of success with reporting misandristic content on Reddit and have actually gotten users banned for it.
/r/MensRights31/07/24 10:39 AM
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Disagree. I'd say a lot of men regularly ignore female on male sexual violence
/r/MensRights31/07/24 03:17 AM
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Lol you realize how easily these types of studies and polling can be manipulated right? I'm sure I could also find 5000 pro-life biologists from around the world. So I'm guessing by your logic, IVF involves murder and slavery.
/r/MensRights29/07/24 11:03 AM
1

I don't consider a clump of cells to be a human.
/r/MensRights29/07/24 10:04 AM
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You stated you're pro-life because "life starts at conception". Pro choice people don't disagree with that. Sure, a fetus is "alive" but so is bacteria and mold.
/r/MensRights29/07/24 04:59 AM
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Bacteria is alive as well
/r/MensRights29/07/24 03:34 AM
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No, I mean they'll accept the statistic as fact but then claim that it's because lesbians are stressed out from being a minority or that "many lesbians are abused by men" which somehow causes them to be violent or they'll just straight up blame "the patriarchy"
/r/MensRights29/07/24 03:12 AM
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I could be convinced with reason and logic. But "a fetus is alive" isn't reason enough.
/r/MensRights29/07/24 03:01 AM
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You haven't put forth any compelling "pro life" arguments.
/r/MensRights29/07/24 12:29 AM
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No I'm still right. Secular Pro Life doesn't have a good argument.
/r/MensRights29/07/24 12:19 AM
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I've met feminists who have learned about this statistic and still find a way to blame men for it.
/r/MensRights29/07/24 12:16 AM
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Agreed. If you look at the gender of adults who commit violence against children, it's pretty much 50/50. Also, i would argue that women are just as effective at planned violence as men but not as effective at spontaneous violence. Women have access to poisons, guns, etc as well as using a proxy to commit violence (such as a hitman).
/r/MensRights29/07/24 12:13 AM
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Pro choice. There's no good argument for being "pro-life" except "a sky fairy told me so"
/r/MensRights28/07/24 11:40 PM
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"Trauma is an explanation for bigotry, not an excuse." And "I thought feminism was about equality for all"
/r/MensRights28/07/24 04:58 PM
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Uh that's not quite true. Jonathan Hutchinson is the reason why circumcision is so popular in America and he was a Quaker which is a sect of Christianity.
/r/MensRights28/07/24 04:24 AM
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If a man does something wrong: All men need to be supervised! If a woman does something wrong: There must be a REASON why she was COMPELLED to do it. But shouldn't feminists be against the infantilization of adult women?
/r/MensRights27/07/24 12:35 PM
1

What if I think meaningful change is impossible?
/r/MensRights22/07/24 01:39 PM
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I'm more worried about how every major presidential candidate since Jimmy Carter being a corporate shill only interested in furthering the wealth of the 0.1%
/r/MensRights21/07/24 10:11 PM
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A source on what?
/r/MensRights18/07/24 05:32 PM
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While yes, statistically there are less female rapists, they are still out there and it's still a problem. But that's the thing. Women aren't statistically less likely to rape someone. They are statistically less likely to be punished for it. I'm so frustrated and tired with the narrative about "statistics" when it comes to gender demographics and crime. Even people who are pro-men repeat this bullshit ad nauseum. Imagine this comment: "While yes, statistically there are less white rapists, they…
/r/MensRights18/07/24 03:02 PM
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One can be anti-feminism without being anti-women or anti-equality. I am not a feminist. I am an egalitarian.
/r/MensRights18/07/24 02:47 PM
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The best response
/r/MensRights18/07/24 01:31 AM
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The ONLY obligation random people have towards anyone is calling emergency services when necessary.
/r/MensRights18/07/24 12:45 AM
4

Another amazing presentation. Thank you for your commitment to men's issues.
/r/MensRights17/07/24 03:23 AM
4

But these are mostly conviction statistics. Of course men are going to appear more violent if women aren't punished for their violence.
/r/MensRights16/07/24 03:53 PM
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What sources do you have for this?
/r/MensRights16/07/24 03:30 PM
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And if it's online, report for hate speech.
/r/MensRights16/07/24 03:20 PM
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It's not almost always men though. Like where do people even come up with that? Oh right prison statistics. But if we go by conviction statistics, Americans should also be afraid of black people too. But if you suggest black people are more dangerous than white people due to prison statistics, you'd rightfully be called a racist. How is any different with men?
/r/MensRights16/07/24 03:18 PM
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Also, the way men and women tend to commit violence is different. Women are more likely to use poison while men are more likely to use physical violence. Historically, it's been much harder to solve a poisoning (or even realize the victim was poisoned) than a stabbing or a shooting.
/r/MensRights16/07/24 03:14 PM
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Lol at "it's always a man!" rhetoric. So no woman has ever committed a violent crime? That's just crazy talk.
/r/MensRights16/07/24 03:07 PM
3

Oppression Olympics have never served anyone except the Oppressors
/r/MensRights14/07/24 04:50 AM
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Sleep deprivation was a tactic my abusive ex-wife used to pull. It was basically the foundation of her abuse. You can't think clearly if you're chronically tired and this leaves you open to being taken advantage of and manipulated.
/r/MensRights11/07/24 11:10 AM
0

I mean the real orgasm gap is the opposite. Women can orgasm countless times during sex. Men generally can only orgasm once during a sexual encounter.
/r/MensRights09/07/24 01:16 PM
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I work in the restaurant industry and have a lot of bartender friends and acquaintances. Pretty much every male bartender I know has been touched inappropriately by female customers. And they pretty much all conveyed being uncomfortable by the situation although many downplayed their experiences and very few called it sexual harassment. I've definitely noticed that women get away with openly sexualizing a male bartender way more than men get away with openly sexualizing a female bartender.
/r/MensRights06/07/24 12:56 AM
3

Have you criticized the mods?
/r/MensRights03/07/24 03:56 PM
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I recently left that sub. Mods are on a power trip and silence anyone who disagrees with them, even those who consistently post high quality content surrounding men's rights.
/r/MensRights03/07/24 11:04 AM
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I consume a lot of true crime content. It's not uncommon for a woman to kill multiple people via poison before getting caught. So many cases of women murdering multiple husbands and only getting caught after the 3rd or 4th one. How many women have stopped after their first murder and never got caught?
/r/MensRights29/06/24 12:22 PM
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If he had died she probably wouldn't be charged with anything because she would have gotten away with it. Plus everyone would shower her with sympathy for now being a widow.
/r/MensRights28/06/24 11:31 PM
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You forgot the form must be notarized by a neutral 3rd party
/r/MensRights28/06/24 11:24 PM
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When a person flat out says misandry doesn't exist, that's my cue to avoid that person as much as possible. To me that's a conversation ender. If I'm online I block (and maybe report) the person. I don't have the time, energy, or patience to deal with that.
/r/MensRights27/06/24 01:41 PM
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It's a stupid idea. Non passing trans women get treated like men or even worse. No one will treat you like a woman simply because you have an F on your ID
/r/MensRights26/06/24 03:36 PM
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While I agree that most victims are women Hard disagree. Many men don't even realize what they experienced counts as rape (or would be considered rape if happened to a woman). I was regularly coerced into having sex by my wife at the time. It took me nearly a decade to realize I was being raped during that relationship. And I still have difficulty admitting to myself that what I experienced counts as rape. And forget about bringing this up in any mixed gender or women centric space, even anonymo…
/r/MensRights24/06/24 03:33 PM
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Yes thank you.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/06/24 12:24 PM
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Can you at least unblock u/thetinmenblog?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/06/24 03:18 AM
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Wow thanks. What rules are being broken so much that mods need to manually approve all posts now?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/06/24 09:00 AM
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What unwanted content? Like could you be more explicit in what the mods expect from the community?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/06/24 11:40 PM
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Why?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/06/24 09:13 PM
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https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Women%27s_suffrage
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/06/24 04:30 AM
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So what you're saying is there was only a short 50 year window between ~1840 and ~1890 where around 10% of men had the universal right to vote and zero women had the right to vote? No. Because certain women could vote in certain places before the 1890s. They just didn't have the universal right to vote.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/06/24 05:21 AM
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What most people don't realize is that the ONLY real group in power is the ultra wealthy. And throughout history the ultra wealthy have tried to keep their numbers as low as possible by any means necessary (can't be rich and powerful if everyone has lots of money). They pit us against each other to distract us.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/06/24 12:36 PM
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To add to this post, another similar thought experiment. Consider that on average boys experience more childhood abuse and neglect than girls. Childhood abuse and neglect are known to cause psychological problems in individuals. Start there and build your way up.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/06/24 03:54 AM
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EXACTLY it's no different than the reason why black people are overrepresented in American criminal convictions
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/06/24 01:30 AM
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Emmett Till was 5'4"
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/06/24 02:45 AM
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So basically you're saying shorter black men face less racism than taller black men? What do black men think about this?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/06/24 04:04 PM
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So trans men are our brothers, but perhaps similar to trans women, their upbringings taught them different lessons than us, if they were raised as their AGAB. Additionally, if they don't pass, it is likely that some of the immediate assumptions people make about men on sight aren't so prevalent against them. As a result, I'm not sure that we share the same level of experiences, because a lot of the (esp childhood) trauma, social conditioning from birth, and other negative effects are felt less s…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/06/24 12:34 PM
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I think some of it has to with the fact that trans people typically have lived as both genders, therefore most trans people can point to definitive examples on how gender affects their life.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/06/24 11:00 PM
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As if they weren't reduced already
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/06/24 03:44 PM
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It's not just online though Why do people act like online and offline are two completely separate worlds? The ONLY difference is that online people say the quiet part out loud.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/06/24 03:25 PM
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IIRC, Black cis men face far greater forms of sexism than black trans men. Do they? Source please. Because from my experience, passing trans men face the exact same sexism as cis men... because with clothes on, passing trans men are practically indistinguishable from cis men. What makes you think black cis men face greater sexism than black trans men?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/06/24 03:21 PM
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People will think anything if it's convenient for their ideology
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/05/24 01:48 PM
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Dolphins in captivity have been known to commit suicide. I can think of two dolphins off the top of my head, Flipper (show animal) and Peter (LSD/language research). Dolphins don't breath automatically like humans and can choose to just stop breathing. Both animals showed clear signs of depression before dying.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/05/24 09:49 AM
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The study was latched onto hard by people who have a vested interest in fields like evolutionary psychology being wrong because the prospect that humans aren't blank slates, that there's pre-packaged differences between men and women by virtue of natural selection and sexual selection, does not line up with core tenants of their ideology. And what's truly crazy to me is that these people are often very pro-trans. Like how do you marry the idea that males and females are exactly the same with the…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/05/24 09:38 AM
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My ex-wife weaponized gender stereotypes. She basically forced me to work 3 jobs while in college so she could stay home all day to watch movies and tv. During our entire 4 year relationship, the only job she held was the one she had when we met. Once she realized I was a push over, she quit her job so she could leech off of me.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/05/24 06:52 PM
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Oh yeah and most straight guys aren't allowed any women friends while dating. I'm a trans guy and when I presented as a woman, my guy friends would suddenly disappear and completely stop talking to me because of their new girlfriend.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/05/24 06:42 PM
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This reads like it was written in the 1920s or something
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/05/24 05:30 PM
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There's really only one real distinction when it comes to people and that's wealth. The only true oppressor demographic is the ultra rich. And they want to keep everyone else distracted by placating the masses and telling people exactly what they want to hear. We can't overthrow the 1% if we're too busy fighting about race, gender, and religion.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/05/24 04:44 PM
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I am a trans man who's spent significant amount of time living as a woman. I've been passing to strangers for over a year. I feel significantly more on edge in public now that I am viewed as cis male to strangers. I regularly walked home alone after midnight in a major city as a woman and never felt unsafe. I now will occasionally feel on edge walking during the middle of the day. And not just because I'm afraid of being attacked by other men but also because I'm afraid of women being a little t…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/05/24 05:29 AM
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I mean pretty much all bigots are hypocritical in some way. Bigotry and logic don't really go together.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/05/24 03:33 AM
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I am a trans man who was abused by a trans woman. I've learned to leave out the "trans" part when discussing my trauma, even in supposedly progressive trauma-safe spaces. Because if I don't, people suddenly turn openly transphobic and rewrite my narrative to fit their idea that amab=man=abusive and afab=woman=abused.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/04/24 12:11 AM
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Honestly surprised she got convicted at all
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/04/24 08:18 AM
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Yeah, it's called "human rights"
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/04/24 03:47 AM
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No. I also don't see black rights as part of the feminist movement
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/04/24 08:38 PM
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First off, thank you for not breaking out trans men and trans women into their own options. This is a huge frustration in the trans community. For most of us, we want to be seen as men and women first and foremost. I am a man with decades of experience living as outwardly female. I think being trans has been a major influence to why I belong to this subreddit and my viewpoint on how men and women are actually treated differently by society. I think trans and intersex people often (but not always…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/04/24 07:20 PM
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As someone who dislikes hugs from most people (including family), I actually like that people have started asking express permission. You might wait for the other person to embrace you but not everyone does. And there's a lot more social pressure to complete the hug when someone has already started the process (opening their arms). Many, many people get offended if you don't complete the hug. People don't seem to get as offended if they ask first and you say no. Not everyone likes being touched …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates31/03/24 05:44 PM
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It is sad because to me this is the best way to explain why men having a higher criminal conviction rate doesn't mean they're more prone to criminality. It's also a bit funny to be called a racist since my whole argument rests on the assumption that black Americans are not more violent than white Americans despite crime statistics.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/03/24 07:30 PM
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That is not a source
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/03/24 05:33 PM
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Yeah that's actually how most people respond. I've been banned from many subreddits for this exact argument. But this is the argument that opened my eyes to the craziness of claiming men are more violent due to conviction statistics. Also, if someone wants to argue that any type of bigotry is justified, I don't want to even bother talking with them. They're a lost cause in my eyes and it would be a waste of time to talk with them.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/03/24 05:31 PM
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I have experienced both physical abuse and emotional abuse within a romantic relationship. Emotional abuse fucked me up way harder than all the physical abuse combined.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/03/24 05:24 PM
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I have zero issue discussing that the majority of violent (i.e. severe physical) crime is committed by men. It's just a fact. Is it? Source please.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/03/24 05:22 PM
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Men are, by natural design, the more aggressive, predatory, gender. Source please
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/03/24 05:21 PM
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When people bring up crime statistics as some sort of "proof" that men are more violent than women, I always ask if they also believe black people are more violent than white people. Because in America at least, black people are overrepresented in being convicted of a violent crime. Most people realize this is due to a biased justice system that punishes black Americans more harshly than white Americans, yet they can't make that same conclusion when it comes to an overrepresention of men in crim…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/03/24 02:33 PM
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Ah yes, the continual watering down of previously useful terms. Hate crimes based on gender do happen but I don't think most crimes labeled as "gbv" are actual hate crimes. Just because it's a female victim and a male perpetrator doesn't mean gender had anything to do with it. It's like saying any time the victim and perpetrator are different races then it's a race-based crime.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/03/24 10:16 PM
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I've had loads of luck on Reddit with reporting misandry as hate and getting it removed
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/03/24 11:17 PM
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I am a trans man. I have lived over 30 years outwardly as female and only 2 years as male (how long I've been passing). I have lived in my current city for 6 years now. I never felt unsafe as a woman walking home at night. I regularly walked home after midnight. I carried mace but never even thought about using it. Now, as a tiny man, I am constantly worried for my safety while out walking. I no longer use headphones at night. I get nervous when someone is walking behind me. I get nervous when I…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/03/24 11:10 PM
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Why do you keep posting this exact same post here? We all know misandry is real. That's why we're in this sub.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/03/24 01:52 PM
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Almost everyone relies on work to live. If something is important to you, you'll find a way. Don't make excuses. This is one day two months from now. You have more than enough time to plan to take one day off for your mental health.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/03/24 06:49 AM
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But when people put it into practice, they completely ignore economics. This is done on purpose by those with money
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/03/24 02:21 AM
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Some women mistake equality as misogyny. For example, saying that women are just as capable of violence as men are. Or that for the same crimes, women's prison sentencing should be the same as men. Or that women should be included in the draft. Or that we don't need more women billionaires, we need fewer billionaires.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/03/24 11:19 PM
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Good for him but I'm afraid for my safety any time I go out. I'm a trans man who has spent more time living outwardly as female than male. When I presented as a woman I was never afraid of walking alone in the city at night. I regularly walked home after midnight. As a man however, I'm constantly on guard. I know I am far more likely to be attacked as a small dude than as a woman. I also see more women walking around my city with giant headphones than men. You can't be that afraid of people atta…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/03/24 07:15 AM
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https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intersex_flag
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/02/24 07:42 PM
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What are you even talking about? The circle is represents intersex people. It's from their own intersex pride flag. This has nothing to do with feminism. Not all gender and sexual minorities are feminists.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/02/24 05:28 PM
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I live in a major city. I really enjoy walking down alleys and taking photos of graffiti I find there. I only do this during the daytime. If for some reason work or any other obligation kept me busy during the daylight hours, I'd stop going down alleys. I wouldn't keep doing it after dark and then get surprised when I become a victim of some crime. Running is a hobby. It's no different than any other hobby. If you put your hobby over your personal safety, then that's on you.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/02/24 04:19 PM
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No one has to run outside
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/02/24 04:05 PM
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No I actually care more. I'm just realistic in my expectations of others and the political system. Others hypocrisy isn't permission for me to be a hypocrite.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/02/24 04:01 AM
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I consider myself an anarchist first and foremost and by anarchy I mean "without hierarchy". But when specifically talking about gender politics, I call myself an egalitarian. I would have no problem calling myself a mens rights activist if I actually considered myself an activist for the rights of men. But I don't. I'm not an activist. I just think all bigotry, including misandry is fucked up.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/02/24 10:01 PM
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This is so condescending to women.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/02/24 09:42 PM
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True. I guess it just hits different when you are half white. I have heard "stop acting white" like statements said to white people but not as often as it's said to non-white people
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/02/24 10:16 PM
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Probably because then we'd have to have a discussion about racism against white people. Can't count how many times people have used "whiteness" as an insult to me or other non-white people around me. "You've been whitewashed" "Stop acting white" "You sound white" "Okay whitey"
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/02/24 05:26 PM
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Yes of course it's a thing https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Benevolent_prejudice
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/01/24 08:52 PM
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What's frustrating is that this kind of wording and phrasing means many men don't realize what they experienced counts as rape or sexual assault. I believe sexual violence against males is just as high as (or even higher than) females. And the underreporting is due to a variety of factors including denial by everyone that a sexual assault was actually a sexual assault. I was made to penetrate many, many times by my abusive ex wife. I never actually considered it sexual abuse or rape until fairly…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/01/24 05:26 PM
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Intersectionality politics have created this weird world where it's perfectly fine to be proudly bigoted towards white men. It's okay to say the most hateful out of pocket shit to white men because it's "punching up". But is it actually punching up? The ultimate privilege isn't being white and male. It's how big your bank account is. And deep down we all know it. No one actually thinks some white guy living in a trailer park is somehow more privileged than Will Smith's daughter Willow. But those…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/01/24 05:07 PM
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How is it unexpected? Gen z have been told that women=good and men=bad their entire lives.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/01/24 08:10 PM
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My thought process: if all people are equally horrible, why did you have to call out a specific demographic to complain about?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/01/24 05:04 PM
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According to the second link Online violence against women and girls can take many forms such as trolling, threats, abuse, unwanted sexual remarks, non-consensual sharing of intimate photos and messages, among many other examples and it disproportionately effects women.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/01/24 02:44 AM
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You misunderstand. I'm saying women as a group have a lower threshold of what they consider "violence". What is considered normal behavior by men is considered abuse by women. Many women want to be treated like men unless that treatment is harsher than what they typically face as women.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/01/24 02:40 AM
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I've had people tell me they would rape me/my mother, that I'm a fag, useless, a piece of shit, and that I should commit suicide. The crazy thing is I've had those things said to me as jokes before. I'm so desensitized to this way of talking that when I hear those things, my first reaction is to laugh.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/01/24 08:59 PM
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This is what happens when women demand to be treated exactly like men. Men experience just as much "online violence" as women except men don't view these interactions as "violent". I think it's because men are used to friendly shit talking while women aren't (and seemingly don't enjoy it the way men do)
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/01/24 07:56 PM
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It's crazy to me that the same person can see both gaps and then come to the conclusion that the justice system is unfair to certain racial minorities yet men are somehow inherently dangerous.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/01/24 02:35 PM
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A lot of modern feminism is just “let’s do what a lot of men supposedly did to women/how men treated women in the past and use those same arguments/strategies toward men and their issues” Right now, a lot of "leftism" in general is "let's do what X group did to us in the past but it's different now because it's 'punching up'". I hear blatantly anti-white and anti-cishet comments all the time from "progressives". Like we won't even be talking about race at all and someone will casually drop in an…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/01/24 01:58 PM
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And I doubt if MeToo really was a ‘long overdue’ ‘much needed reckoning with sexist norms’ as is always the myth about it. I think the MeToo movement was long overdue but I also think the general public ended up demonizing the wrong demographic. It was never about men taking advantage of women. It was always about people in power taking advantage of people with less power. But the people in power don't want us to figure that out, so they spin it any way they can.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/01/24 03:54 AM
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I don't let bigots or bigotry get to me. I've dealt with bigotry in one way or another my entire life. You can't reason with it. In my opinion, the best you can do is call it out and then move on. If someone actually cares about fairness and equality, they'll put in the work. They won't need to be convinced.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/01/24 02:28 PM
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Like I said before, I've had success on Reddit with reporting blatantly anti-men (and anti-white) comments as hate and having those comments removed and the user warned
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/01/24 01:49 PM
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I've had a lot of success reporting misandristic comments as hate and having them removed (and the user warned). Also you can't really get punished for reporting comments even if you are abusing the report function. Mods don't see who is reporting a comment. At most they can do is temporarily "mute" your reports.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/01/24 06:19 AM
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Downvote, report (as Hate), and block
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/01/24 05:48 AM
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This is what happens when any movement reaches critical mass. It becomes watered down to the point where people forget what the end goal was in the first place.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/01/24 04:59 PM
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I guess it's different in America because the last time actual war was on our doorsteps was like in the 1700s but we've been in plenty of wars since then.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/01/24 06:07 PM
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Uh what are you talking about? America was deep in war with Iraq and Afghanistan in 2014. I'm just trying to say that feminism has been watered down and end goals have changed. This probably has more to do with Me too movement and Gen Z becoming adults.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/01/24 05:56 PM
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I swear 10 years ago, the average feminist was also against "women and children first" because it's infantilizing women.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/01/24 05:29 PM
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And it's not just men I'm afraid of. I actively avoid walking near solo women (especially in the same direction) because I'm afraid of being maced or tased for being a "creep".
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/01/24 05:56 PM
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Agreed 100% as a trans man. I never felt unsafe as a woman walking in the city at night. I regularly walked home alone after midnight. But now that I'm seen as male, I sometimes get nervous walking during the middle of the day in the same exact neighborhoods. I'm a small guy and would make a very easy target.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/01/24 05:29 PM
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I listen to a lot of true crime, mostly non serial killer stuff, and I've noticed a few patterns. I can't find a source for this because Google sucks now but women are more likely to commit murder by proxy than men. Sometimes they hire a hitman and sometimes they manipulate a normal person (usually a man) to kill for them (usually by falsely claiming the murder victim was somehow abusive and dangerous). Women also seem to get away with murdering multiple husbands before getting caught while men …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/01/24 02:37 PM
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I work in the restaurant/bar industry and therefore have a lot of friends in the industry. Every male bartender I've talked to about these types of things has mentioned getting groped by a female guest. And most don't consider it sexual assault even though it made them extremely uncomfortable in the moment.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates31/12/23 09:16 PM
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And class inequality fuels other inequality. Rich people don't want other people to also be rich, so they try to restrict who can become wealthy.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/12/23 02:57 PM
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Since society still views women as helpless children who can't do anything for themselves. That is the reason why men are more likely to get drafted to wars, have longer prison sentences, and expected to risk their lives to protect women because they will be called a coward for not protecting a woman in danger. This is the crazy thing. I swear 7 years ago, feminists were also making this point and arguing against infantilization. They were arguing that women were more likely to get away with cri…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/12/23 12:50 AM
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Sidenote, this is what the true powers at be want, the general population to argue over shit like this. Get everyone fighting about gender rights, immigration, race, etc so the people won't unite against the true oppressors, the extremely rich.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/12/23 10:57 PM
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Thank you for posting. Saving this for the next time a feminist claims anything about sexual assault statistics
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/12/23 05:28 PM
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I never said anything about overpopulation. Also, it's not an "unwanted opinion" but a sincerely held moral belief. Some people don't believe in colonialism. Some people don't believe in the death penalty. I don't believe in creating new life for our own selfish desires. Remember, creating new kids effects more than just your life. Like remember that this is a new person you are creating. They aren't your pet or your mini me. The environment is collapsing. Shit is getting harder for each new gen…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/12/23 11:16 PM
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This is an appeal to nature, a logical fallacy. I might have an "absolutely natural desire" to have sex with every woman I see but that doesn't mean I have the right to have sex with every woman I see. Being able to control our actions in relationship to our desires is what makes us human. Personally, I am against fertility treatments and against purposefully and willfully procreating in this modern era. I don't think it's ethical to intentionally create more humans during environmental and soci…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/12/23 09:00 PM
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Are we talking about a particular country here or men's rights worldwide? delegalizing retirement age based on sex Can you expand on this?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/12/23 06:29 PM
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I wish as a society we could stop playing Oppression Olympics and just focus on the greatest source of inequality — the uneven distribution of wealth. Like be real, who has a harder life? A white straight cis man who grew up homeless or a black lesbian trans woman who comes from a family of millionaires and billionaires?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/12/23 10:07 PM
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Couldn't agree more. Originally emotional labor described a specific type of labor that's performed by people in the service industry. Seems kinda dystopian to use the term to describe actions within a romantic relationship.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/12/23 03:12 AM
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Yes. As someone who has to perform emotional labor at work (server), it absolutely grinds my gears when people misuse the term. Also it really bugs me when people use the term within the context of relationships. When did being emotionally supportive of your partner start to be considered labor? Like ugh empathetically listening to my partner is sooooo much work!
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/12/23 03:07 AM
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Honestly, I think most trans guys who complain about loneliness prefer to socialize in a stereotypically female manner. Not calling these guys less male or anything like that. Plenty of feminine cis men. Most times I read anything by a trans guy commenting that he's lonely and what he misses from female socialization, I think those are the exact same things I'm euphoric about. Basically shit sucks for most gnc people.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/11/23 01:35 AM
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I think men support each other more than women tbh I am a trans man (35) who passes for a young guy (18-25). I feel way more support and looked after as a "young" man than I did when I was presenting as a young woman. I especially feel this way from older people. As a young man, men older than me generally treat me as a little brother, nephew, son, their younger self, someone to look after and mentor. Older women either saw me as competition or a weirdo. Even guys my age and younger seem a lot m…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/11/23 05:25 PM
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Yep and if it's on Reddit then you get perma banned from that community (even ones that aren't about discussing gender politics)
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/11/23 06:26 PM
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Should I also be sympathetic of white people who fear black people as a group?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/11/23 07:32 PM
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Fucking EVERYTHING negative regarding gender is misogyny and because of "the patriarchy". I've heard MEN call their feelings of not being "man enough" as internalized misogyny.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/11/23 09:51 AM
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Oh I thought this was obvious Like I'd never go to "askconservatives" or "askracists" and expect a meaningful conversation
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/11/23 08:52 PM
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if they knew how to punch like a man and they had the weight to put into a punch like a man, would have a trail of partners lying in a bloody pulp. Ha! My abuser was a woman who knew how to punch like a man and had the body mass to do so. Because she was an early transition, 6'2" trans woman who used to constantly work out. I'm a bit surprised she didn't murder me.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/11/23 01:47 AM
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Feminism now is even different than feminism 5 years ago. I remember 5 years ago having discussions in twoxchomosomes (of all places) about how assuming men are more dangerous than women is sexist against women. Feminists were arguing that it's sexist against women to assume women are not capable of the same level of violence and destruction of men. Benevolent sexism but still sexism against women. This discussion seems to be totally forgotten now. While I don't blame Gen Z, I do think it's Gen …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/10/23 03:56 PM
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It feels like most people focus on the favorable positions when talking about "male dominated" jobs etcetera. It's not like people are complaining that men "dominate" the trash collection field.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/10/23 04:07 AM
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Auth vs lib is the social axis in the political compass view
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/10/23 10:12 PM
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What would be the others axes be besides social and economic? Also yeah some people don't fit nearly on the political compass because their politics are inconsistent and illogical.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/10/23 08:30 PM
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That's why I think the political compass is a better way of describing someone's politics. It has two axes, one about economics and the other about social issues. With the political compass, your friend would fall under the authoritarian-left quadrant.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/10/23 04:07 PM
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I honestly don't believe most people when they say they're a leftist. A few years ago, calling yourself a liberal fell out of fashion and now suddenly everyone who isn't a right-wing conservative is now a leftist. Nah, I don't buy it. People are the same as they were before. True leftists are few and far between.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/10/23 10:55 AM
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Maze Runner trilogy are probably my favorite movies from a left wing male perspective. One of the main themes of the movie is fraternity as in "the state or feeling of friendship and mutual support within a group." The main character constantly makes choices that strengthens the bonds within the group, often risking his life to do what he thinks is right. I love the movie because it's all about brotherhood, teamwork, and doing the right thing even if it's hard.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/10/23 04:08 PM
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Yeah there's nothing wrong with the idea that physical attraction is necessary for a sexual relationship but many women act like they are above this. That they aren't "shallow" like that. That they care about more important aspects of a person when dating. That's what problematic, the denial that women are just as shallow as men. We aren't that different from each other. We are all the same species after all.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/10/23 08:07 PM
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Did you even read my comment?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/10/23 05:26 PM
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I honestly think that's because most people aren't ethical or care about ethics. I truly believe most people actually want to be oppressors. They want that power, that control.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/10/23 02:53 PM
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Cis people really need to stop speculating on this and just ask trans people who transitioned later in life. The reality is [in America and similar countries], no gender really has it better or worse. Each gender has its own challenges. Misogyny and misandry are equally as bad. My two cents is that sex is probably not even one of the most important factors in predicting how easy/hard one's life will be for someone. The most important factor is material wealth. And those with the most wealth want…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/10/23 02:20 PM
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I truly believe part of the feminist movement exists just to help women get away with abusing boys and men. Female psychopaths and sociopaths exist. They are intentionally not teaching boys and young men about abuse by women so that they can later be abused by women.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/10/23 01:32 PM
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I sleep with an extra pillow and cuddle with it. I used to sleep with a stuffed animal I had since I was a baby but it's getting old now, so it's just on display now.
/r/MenSupportMen12/10/23 12:42 PM
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using traditional gender roles as a means of control I was especially susceptible to this when I was in a transhet relationship (both of us are transgender and we were in a heterosexual relationship). I was manipulated into taking on a very traditional male role, meaning I was the provider and did pretty much everything in the relationship. She was a stay at home wife who was "too weak" to vacuum and refused to do any errand outside of the house. I was constantly told that men to this and women …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/10/23 04:06 PM
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I'm so tired of listening to my friends problems. I feel like some of my friends use me as a therapist because I'm a good listener and know how to ask the right questions (I was in talk therapy for 10+ years). I keep telling them they need a real therapist and they agree but then never pursue it. I feel like I have to hold back the shit I'm going through because I know how to manage it and thus it's not really worth talking about in comparison to the issues my friends are dealing with. Like mayb…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/10/23 11:31 AM
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"You resent being forced into actions which you would be perfectly happy to do of your own volition." Right and? That's like super normal. Most people don't like being forced into anything, even if it was something they'd normally otherwise do freely.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/10/23 11:19 AM
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Does she expect 100% availability and disrepsectd your own time/chores. Does she automatically assume the role of the one budgeting commmon finances without prior discussion. My abusive ex wife demanded I wait on her hand and foot while also going to school full time with two part time jobs and while also supposed to cook everything from scratch for a specialized diet that was constantly changing and also expected to finish a mile long chore list every week. She made up a rule that you had to fi…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/10/23 10:59 AM
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LMAO okay
/r/MensRights30/09/23 04:01 PM
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Is calling a trans woman a "man" not transphobic? https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/16vozik/comment/k2scpxc/
/r/MensRights30/09/23 07:40 AM
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I'm saying calling a trans woman a "man" is transphobic. Having that comment not be downvoted or removed is a sign that this sub has a transphobia problem. Edit: oh wait, it's the top voted comment in a post about transphobia https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/16vozik/why_do_feminists_hate_transgender_people/
/r/MensRights30/09/23 07:35 AM
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This sub has some issues (namely transphobia) but it's mostly spot-on for men's issues. Menslib doesn't have the same issues with transphobia etc but isn't that great for actual men's issues. I highly prefer r/leftwingmaleadvocates except it's not as active as this sub. Edit: this is what I mean by "transphobia" https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/16vozik/comment/k2scpxc/
/r/MensRights29/09/23 11:27 PM
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That's the point
/r/MensRights27/09/23 02:10 PM
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Or maybe some people don't just blindly follow a script...
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/09/23 02:00 PM
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50 years ago was 1973 And I'm talking about individual racism, not structural racism. Individual racism eventually leads to structural racism though. I don't think it's very leftist to constantly disparage any group based on an immutable trait, regardless of history. Two wrongs don't make a right.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/09/23 01:59 PM
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Yeah this is usually my strategy when discussing men's issues and misandry — compare it to race and racism. I honestly think most people aren't actually interested in ethics or morality in general but only in the ethics and morality that directly affects them. Sadly bigotry seems to be the default and the only reason why society has moved away from certain bigotries is because of social pressure to be seen as moral and ethical. Racism is a good example. I don't believe Americans are significantl…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/09/23 04:53 AM
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Women do go through a lot of bullshit. But so do men. And nonbinary people. We all deal with bullshit sexism. It's just that women think the sexism they face is somehow worse or more dangerous than the sexism men face.
/r/MensRights24/09/23 01:49 PM
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Oh god it's even worse if you're a trans man. "All men suck. Oh but not you. You know what it's like to be a woman." Uh wtf, no that's not how shit works.
/r/MensRights22/09/23 05:00 PM
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I was sexually coerced countless times my by ex wife during our 3 year marriage. Fuck it. I was RAPED countless times by my ex wife during our marriage. This happened nearly 10 years ago and I'm just now coming to terms that I was being sexually abused by my wife at the time. I think it's interesting that the comment in these slides asks if the woman was stronger than the man in a way that implies women/girls are almost never stronger than men/boys. What about adult women vs boys? What about abl…
/r/MensRights22/09/23 04:50 PM
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That's funny because that's what I was told as a woman.
/r/MensRights22/09/23 11:40 AM
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I normally walk away from these types of people but occasionally I actually feel like discussing this type of stuff with a feminists. I usually just ask a lot of questions and point out any contradictions or falsehoods within their argument. I also use analogies to other immutable traits (usually race). So for example when a feminist claims that men are more dangerous than women because of crime statistics, I ask if that also means black Americans are more dangerous than white Americans because …
/r/MensRights21/09/23 01:52 PM
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I agree with you. I'm just pointing out a major flaw in feminist logic. Feminists can't argue that women should be allowed on elite military squads but also that all women are weaker than all men
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/09/23 04:44 AM
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I honestly don't trust teachers by default. I know good teachers exist but nowadays they are extremely rare. Especially teachers with any sort work experience. I've met so many racist, sexist, just horrible people teachers. Seems like the career choice attracts a lot of power-hungry people who couldn't make it in the private sector.
/r/MensRights21/09/23 04:25 AM
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Not surprised. I'm a trans man but worked as a software developer for 2 years as a female. I got a lot more recognition at work for simply being perceived as a woman in a "male-dominated" field.
/r/MensRights21/09/23 04:20 AM
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It's like these people can't imagine any situation where a woman might be physically stronger than a man.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/09/23 10:28 PM
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Often times when I bring up misandry, it's like the other person thinks I'm insinuating that misogyny doesn't exist or shouldn't be addressed. Sexism isn't a zero sum game. Misogyny and misandry can both be problems and really it's not difficult to address both misogyny and misandry at the same time.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/09/23 11:27 PM
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Something that's super frustrating to me is when you point out that this sort of attitude is called bigotry, they'll say "well statistically blah blah blah". And then when you ask for sources, they either deny you sources ("go google it yourself"), give you questionable sources, or give you things like prison statistics. The last one is especially funny to me because feminists think prison and conviction stats are like the most damning piece of evidence that men are more violent. Even people who…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/09/23 11:25 AM
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Sometimes it's difficult to listen to my roommate's "girl problems" when I haven't had a date in over 2 years. The only women who seem to pay any attention to me are drunk cougar types and they aren't really interested in anything beyond flirting. (Not like I'd be interested in dating someone 20 years older than me anyway)
/r/MenSupportMen11/09/23 03:05 AM
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Not every convicted rapist is actually guilty. Innocent people get sent to jail all of the time, especially innocent men.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/08/23 08:42 AM
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I'm not interested in debating but fyi, your perspective on this issue is not left-wing
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/08/23 12:08 AM
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Actually there is something wrong about wanting to fix the "bad habits" of your partner. Everyone has bad habits, no one is perfect. It's unreasonable and unfair to enter into a relationship with the expectation that you will "fix" your partner. If a bad habit is such a big deal, you shouldn't have entered the relationship (or should have left when you discovered the habit). Trying to fix your partner (without them specifically requesting it) is manipulation.
/r/MensRights28/08/23 11:35 PM
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This is why I don't get personal with my coworkers. I might say something like "I'm feeling a bit down" if someone asked but I would never elaborate. You're coworkers are not your friends and they are definitely not your therapist.
/r/MenSupportMen28/08/23 11:28 PM
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Do you think it's okay to murder rapists in jail? I thought prison itself was supposed to be the punishment
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/08/23 11:19 PM
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That teacher is straight up sexist. See if she will put any of this in writing and then report her. If a male teacher said these things about women and girls he would be fired.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/08/23 02:19 PM
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36 Why do our ethnicities matter? Seems like such a weird combo of demographic information you to want to know. Or did you mean nationality?
/r/MensRights21/08/23 04:18 PM
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Treat every experience as a learning opportunity. If you learn something from your fuck up then you can grow from it. If you grow and mature from the experience then it wasn't completely negative.
/r/MenSupportMen18/08/23 04:06 PM
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I often think the problem with ideas isn't so much the thing itself, but the potential fallout when those ideas are misunderstood and then run with by extremely stupid people. There are a lot of those about. I should know, being mildly stupid myself. Not even just extremely stupid people. Even average and smart people will misunderstand an idea and run with the corrupted version, especially if they are only mildly interested in a topic (basically the dunning kruger effect).
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/08/23 09:42 PM
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I mean it is technically misogyny but you never hear people call benevolent sexism towards men as misandry (or even sexism).
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/08/23 12:34 AM
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I am trans male and only recently started transitioning. I presented as a cis female for my entire time in computer science (college and 2 years full time professional). I did not feel like my gender as a woman ever negatively effected me in the workplace or school. If anything I got more positive attention and stood out more to both professors and managers when compared to men who performed similarly to me. Maybe it was a type of sexism but I definitely benefited from it.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/08/23 02:31 AM
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I originally commented this under a link to this in a different sub but wanted to repost my comment here as well since I have a different but not that different experience regarding this topic …........... I'm starting to come to terms that my ex-wife also abused me sexually by pressuring me to penetrate her during our failing marriage. Like I still don't know if I can call what happened to me as "rape" but it was definitely unwanted and pressured sexual performance. My experience with sexual co…
/r/MensRights12/08/23 04:06 PM
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I'm starting to come to terms that my ex-wife also abused me sexually by pressuring me to penetrate her during our failing marriage. Like I still don't know if I can call what happened to me as "rape" but it was definitely unwanted and pressured sexual performance. My experience with sexual coercion is a bit different than typical but I definitely don't think it's unique or extremely rare either, especially nowadays. I am a trans man who was married to a trans woman. I still had my natal genital…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/08/23 04:19 PM
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It's because men always want sex and if a man says he doesn't want sex he is either a liar or a failure of a man.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/08/23 03:52 PM
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Yeah I've been called a conservative for saying I follow egalitarianism. It's hilarious to me when this happens. I'm so left, people think I'm on the right. I've taken the political compass test many times over the years and I always score in the very bottom left hand corner, meaning my ideology is extremely left libertarian and falls under the umbrella of anarchy (here meaning "without hierarchy"). I mean I'm kinda used to it. I've been called authoritarian for arguing for animal rights. Most p…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/08/23 01:48 PM
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Honestly I feel like the "male gaze" is a trap. I live in a liberal area and the amount of women wearing super revealing clothes during the middle of the day is shocking to me (especially since I'm originally from a conservative area). I once went to a regular restaurant and my server literally had a bikini top on. Everyone else was wearing normal clothes. Recently at a tattoo convention there was a woman walking around in just a Tshirt and thong and she didn't even have any tattoos on her butt/…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/07/23 11:25 AM
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I just call them bigots because that's what they are. According to the dictionary bigotry is the "obstinate or unreasonable attachment to a belief, opinion, or faction, in particular prejudice against a person or people on the basis of their membership of a particular group." I like to narrow the definition even further to "membership of a particular group based on an immutable trait" to keep the conversation more focused. No one gets to choose their gender/sex just like no one gets to choose th…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/07/23 02:04 PM
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-man is not a signifier of adult human male, it's just that the special word signifying adult human male is long lost so all we have is the generic. You know that and I know that but the general public can't wrap their head around that -man is the generic English suffix for humans. Sometimes it's better to be understood than to be correct.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/07/23 04:14 PM
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And yes, a good number of them were abused by their fathers Right and who's to say those fathers weren't victims of childhood abuse as well?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/07/23 09:48 PM
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This is exactly what I think but articulated way better than I could ever say it. I watch a lot of true crime stuff, old, new, well-known and not. Having a difficult childhood is super common with perpetrators. Many violent criminals were neglected and abused as children. Boys seem to be more prone to childhood neglect and abuse than girls, probably because girls/women have traditionally been seen as more fragile while boys are more disposable. It seems pretty obvious to me that if we reduce chi…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/07/23 02:44 PM
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I feel like society somehow needs a Boogeyman to blame all of their problems on. Sometimes it's "the Jews", sometimes it's immigrants. For "progressives" that Boogeyman is men, particularly white cishet men. Humans as a whole aren't logical or reasonable. I will always fight for what I believe is right and ethical but I don't ever expect anyone to actually listen to reason or behave ethically. I expect people to just go with the flow and parrot whatever is considered the norm at the time. The on…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/07/23 12:04 AM
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Congrats. This sub is dead now.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/07/23 08:20 PM
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Being a safe space was never our goal even here, except being a safe space for civil discussion. Well I guess I misunderstood the purpose of this sub. Or maybe you misunderstand why the members of this sub joined in the first place. There's a reason why I don't bother with other subs regarding men's issues and that's because I'm not interested in interacting with feminists and MRAs more than I have to. I already deal with those more mainstream viewpoints in literally every other sub. It's nice t…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/06/23 04:59 AM
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I feel like the community name is way too broad and attracts ALL men including feminists and conservatives. The level of conversation there is nothing compared to this sub and is being watered down by having to explain shit we all take for granted here (like for example women can rape men too). How is anyone supposed to have any meaningful conversation when we have to also continually explain that misandry exists? Why can't this sub just go private or nsfw? Either that or make a new community on…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/06/23 03:23 AM
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I mean this is exactly what people said about reddit 15 years ago: nobody knows about it, small user base, weird layout Reddit won't last around forever. Nothing does, especially shit online that requires regular user engagement. Eventually something better will come along and most everyone will make the switch. It won't be overnight. It won't be over months. But it will happen eventually.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/06/23 03:10 AM
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I think you misunderstood my comment. I meant that men fighting against the term "toxic masculinity" risk becoming ostracized, especially if they are more progressive or left-wing in politics.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/06/23 04:08 PM
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Defend what term?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/06/23 04:06 PM
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Men aren't blind to it. But it's easier to shut up than it is to fight it because if you fight it you risk complete ostracization.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/06/23 03:06 PM
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We're teaching them that the Future is Female and Masculinity is Toxic. Apologists are quick to say "But we're only talking about the Toxic parts of Masculinity" Yes, and that's the problem! If that's the ONLY type of masculinity that's talked about in the media&schools 24/7, why would anyone even think Masculinity is something good? Also these are brand new humans with basically zero life experience. How is an 8 yo supposed to understand the context of phrases like "toxic masculinity" and "the …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/06/23 11:13 AM
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Acknowledging there's an issue is the first step to change. All oppressed groups went through a period where the non oppressed group denied there was any issue to begin with. Like a lot of white Americans in the 1950s honestly believed "separate but equal" really was equal. White Americans denied there was systemic police brutality against black Americans until everyone started carrying a video camera in their pocket. You can look at any oppressed group and find a period in time when the vast ma…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/06/23 05:33 PM
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I mean the vast majority of people only care about issues that directly affect them, their loved ones, or their community (in that order). It's not surprising nor should we think we are better than these people (because we're most likely just the same).
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/06/23 05:02 PM
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I'm well aware. No movement is perfect because humans aren't perfect but I think there's a lot of validity in feminist movements in the past when women couldn't vote (and in countries today where women are actual second class citizens). Yes 1st wave feminism had a lot of issues but they were also fighting for their right to vote. It's easier to forgive the flaws within 1st wave feminism.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/06/23 09:07 PM
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You can hate modern feminism and be disgusted by most modern feminists yet still not be anti-woman. It's really frustrating when people think that just because someone has issues with modern feminism that it means they are bigoted against women.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/06/23 01:06 PM
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Men used to be able to have their own community but then society deemed it sexist to exclude women from this community
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/05/23 10:26 AM
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From personal experience I found it way easier to stand out from the crowd as a female computer science student and then later worker. I was good at the subject but not a superstar, however teachers and later management would treat me like a superstar because I was female and better than average. Men who were just as talented as me weren't recognized to the same level as me.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/05/23 02:03 PM
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Yes it's extremely common and even encouraged to look up men before meeting them. And not just Google or one of these groups. Like run extensive background checks. Also this is nothing new. Check out this scene from the 1987 movie Amazon Women on the Moon, https://youtu.be/p0GFaGjKqh8
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/05/23 12:23 PM
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As someone who works with the general public, it absolutely grinds my gears when people use the phrase "emotional labor" to describe something within a personal relationship. Emotional labor was originally used to describe the unspoken work service industry people do when they're expected to be cheerful on the clock. Pretending to be happy while on the clock is emotional labor. Listening to and emotionally supporting your partner is just being in a romantic relationship.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/05/23 12:46 PM
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I'm saying you can't be a bigot against feminists or pagans since they are not immutable traits but belief systems. I think someone can be prejudice against people who follow a belief system and I also don't think that prejudice is necessarily justified in all cases.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/05/23 02:50 PM
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Great job per usual. On slide 6, I would swap out "murderers" for "serial killers". Average people murder others all the freaking time. Also murder is the "unlawful, premeditated killing of someone", meaning that what counts as murder varies by location. The definition of a serial killer doesn't change by location.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/05/23 02:16 PM
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You can copy behaviors without copying people
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/05/23 05:07 PM
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In my opinion there are no "good role models". Every person who was ever born has flaws, some which are not seen as flaws until much, much later. How is someone who is "adrift in an ocean of competing ideologies" going to 1) find a "good" role model and then 2) know which behaviors to copy and which behaviors not to copy from that particular model? I'm theoretically okay with fictional, intentionally written role-models but then again most fictional characters are only written by individuals, al…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/05/23 04:59 PM
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Society does push the idea of role models though. We ask questions like "who's your role model?" and call people our role models. We push the idea on little kids that they need to choose someone to model their behavior after. I don't believe humans are hardwired to pick out people to model our behavior. There's a difference between mirroring a behavior vs mirroring a person. And even if choosing individuals to model our behavior was "natural", it's not something that should be encouraged or prom…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/05/23 04:46 PM
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I don't believe that we should model ourselves after others, especially real people. I think society should stop pushing the idea that we need role models and instead push for ideals instead. People should strive to be more empathetic, caring, independent, whatever instead of picking out a celebrity to follow and then being disappointed when this person isn't perfect (or worse, emulating negative traits simply because the role model has them).
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/05/23 12:47 PM
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It's the exact same core issue, paternal erasure, the idea that only mothers take care of children.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/04/23 12:16 AM
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I watch a lot of feel-good, cute animal videos. Many of them feature animals taking care of baby animals that are not theirs. I cannot count the times male animals have been described as "mothering" or "mothers" in these videos. Very, very rarely do people refer to these male animals as fathers. And people NEVER describe a female animal as fatherly.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/04/23 01:47 PM
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I've never heard teachers say that out loud but definitely saw boys getting into trouble for suuuuuper minor things that girls didn't really get in trouble for (like talking for example). The first time I witnessed blatant misandry was in 2003/04 at a store aimed at girls. (https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boys_are_stupid,_throw_rocks_at_them!_controversy) I remember asking why this was okay to print on shirts and getting shrugs in response. I was 15.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/04/23 08:50 PM
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Yeah I don't think society should condone hate against any group because I think that's dangerous, but I do think as a society we can dislike certain groups. The difference between bigotry and non-bigotry is if you are targeting an immutable trait. Like you can't be bigoted against rich people because wealth is a mutable trait. I think it's completely acceptable to dislike wealthy people as a group. But no one has a say on their sex, gender, race, age, ability, country of birth, etc. You can abs…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/04/23 01:50 PM
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Trans man here. I've noticed that the trans guys who have the hardest time accepting their gender and sexuality are former lesbians. Mainstream lesbian culture is extremely toxic and bigoted against straight men. Many straight trans men express feeling completely rejected from their former community. Some lose all of their friends. Some however never break out of their programming and would rather identify as a lesbian than a straight man.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/04/23 05:15 AM
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Not who you replied to but I'm a late bloomer, trans man and I was aware of misandry in elementary school, way before I was aware that I might not be female. I have pretty much always been aware of the hate masculinity gets and I think it's because I've always related to masculinity more than femininity. I've always envied males and never thought there was anything wrong with masculinity or maleness.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/04/23 05:01 AM
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Internalized bigotry is a thing
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/04/23 04:54 AM
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That's how I've been banned from multiple subreddits, by speaking up against misandry. These people aren't going to change their minds via mod reports.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/04/23 04:53 AM
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No worries. Thank you for being open to change
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/04/23 04:50 AM
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Not really surprising tbh. The LGBTQ community in general hates straight cis men.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/04/23 03:56 AM
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Because the mods often don't see bigotry against men as an issue
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/04/23 02:05 AM
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It's "trans man" btw. The space is important.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/04/23 02:04 AM
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Yeah same. Apparently never learn anything about your heroes.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/04/23 11:47 PM
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Apparently Carl Sagan helped popularize the phrase in the early 90s. Sagan was also a vocal advocate of the controversial notion of testosterone poisoning, arguing in 1992 that human males could become gripped by an "unusually severe [case of] testosterone poisoning" and this could compel them to become genocidal. In his review of Moondance magazine writer Daniela Gioseffi's 1990 book Women on War, he argues that females are the only half of humanity "untainted by testosterone poisoning". One ch…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/04/23 07:25 AM
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I wanted to add that a lot of this is simply a internet thing and not so much an irl thing. People on the internet exist "in real life". The reason why you encounter these opinions more online than offline is because people are freer to say what they actually think while anonymous.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/04/23 01:32 AM
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Dax Shepard on his podcast once said something like "we need to teach boys they are full of what is basically poison." In reference to testosterone. Reminds me of something a lot of trans women say, which is fine in reference to your own body but many trans women refer to testosterone as poisonous to everyone. It's actually a problem in some shared trans spaces, especially ones that skew younger and cater more to trans females.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/04/23 01:26 AM
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This is why the phrase "believe all victims" is actually bad. Sometimes it's not clear who the victim is.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/04/23 11:22 AM
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Most professional athletes are black. There's a stereotype that black people are more athletic than any other race. Also, if biological sex was such an important factor in being able to defend oneself, then why are most victims of violent crimes men? We aren't wild animals relying solely on brut strength and bullets don't care what gender you are.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/04/23 10:57 PM
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https://time.com/6183881/gun-ownership-risks-at-home/
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/04/23 05:59 PM
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https://time.com/6183881/gun-ownership-risks-at-home/
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/04/23 05:58 PM
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The problem is the probability of being killed by a gun is lower than that of dying from heart disease. And the probability of being killed by a gun skyrockets as soon as you start living with a gun. If you actually wanted to be safe from gun violence, you wouldn't bring a gun home.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/04/23 03:11 PM
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This current fear of men is no different than the historical fear of black people. It's straight up bigotry. I'm so tired of people defending women who are terrified of all men. Would these same people defend white people who are scared of black people?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/04/23 03:05 PM
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I don't believe we've ever lived in a patriarchy (at least in America). I truly think it's always been a plutocracy (ruled by the wealthy). Yes, in the past wealth has been limited to certain groups but it's always been the rich in power. Being super rich only works if most others aren't. That's why the super rich and powerful need us to fight about shit like sexism and racism. It keeps us distracted from what the actual people in power are doing.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/04/23 11:38 AM
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I feel like people ignore these facts and statistics because they believe men deserved whatever abuse was inflicted on them. There's this crazy notion being pushed that women are only violent for self defense or because they are responding to past trauma. Men are violent because they can't control their emotions.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/04/23 05:25 AM
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I also feel like with the growing transphobia and TERFism, many of that is rooted in misandry. The idea that men are disgusting, perverted and dangerous are all common stereotypes of trans women because transphobes view them as men. People never freak out about trans men using the men's bathroom but they do about trans women using the women's room. Which I find funny because many women feel entitled to using the men's toilets if the female one is busy. The only difference between TERFs and moder…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/04/23 08:54 PM
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I've had a lot of success with reporting hate content as long as it's undeniably anti-men. I'm not sure if "incel" or "slut" should be categorized as hate speech though...
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/04/23 01:25 AM
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There are many, many black and other non-white feminists in America. Some of the most egregious feminists I've personally met have been non-white and have actually promoted bigotry against white people, particularly white cis men.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/04/23 08:55 AM
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This reminds me of something I recently witnessed. So I live in an area with a lot of homeless. The other day I went out the back of my apartment building to take out the trash and some rough looking black man was like organizing his backpack. He immediately started apologizing and saying something about just getting his stuff back and then leaving. I'm thinking, why are you apologizing? I tell him I don't care what he's doing and just shrug. About an hour later I go to take out more trash and o…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/04/23 03:55 AM
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Men who are abusers typically come from abusive homes. Not an excuse to continue that abuse towards someone else. I hate the games feminists try to play. It's like they refuse to take any accountability for their actions. There's this weird sexism that modern feminists like to push. Women are too innocent and pure to ever be violent without some tragic backstory. If a man is violent, it's because he wants to be. If a woman is violent, she is just responding to her situation. Feminists are stripp…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates31/03/23 04:21 PM
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This backs up my theory that women are just as violent as men but the reason why women seem to be victims more often than men is because women are typically weaker than men. If strength wasn't an issue, we'd see the exact same rates of IVP within heterosexual relationships.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates31/03/23 04:06 PM
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women mostly do IPV out of self-defense. Just look at IPV within lesbian relationships to see how flawed an idea this is. If the above statement was true IPV within lesbian relationships would be extremely rare. lesbian women were more likely than gay men to report having been in an abusive same-sex relationship (41% and 28% respectively) https://aifs.gov.au/resources/practice-guides/intimate-partner-violence-lesbian-gay-bisexual-trans-intersex-and-queer So how can 41% of lesbian women experienc…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates31/03/23 11:00 AM
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"you can't be sexist against men"/"misandry is a myth" You can't even claim bigotry towards men exists. Many, many people like to claim it isn't bigotry if you're "punching up", so it's therefore impossible for a anyone to be bigoted towards a man.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/03/23 11:11 AM
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I once went to a Women in IT conference (around 2010) and someone was passing out literature about the demographics of women in IT and claimed non-white women were even more underrepresented by pointing out only 4% of Americans in IT were ethnically Asian women. I realized at the time that only like 5% of the total population was Asian, both men and women, so in reality Asian-American women were overrepresented in IT. I pointed it out to several people and no one seemed interested. Many people w…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/03/23 11:06 AM
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stop associating with anti-masculinist leftists altogether. You can call them bigots.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/03/23 10:55 AM
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Feminists hate the term "egalitarian" and equate it to being anti-women. I've been called a bigot and banned from a subreddit unrelated to feminism for calling myself an egalitarian and not a feminist. I've seen arguments online claiming "egalitarians" are actually right-wing conservatives.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/03/23 10:48 PM
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Nice work. I watch a lot of true crime videos, mostly stuff that's not about serial killers. Women are way more likely than men to get a 3rd party to kill their partner. I've learned about cases where the wife only gets convicted of conspiracy to commit murder while the hitman gets convicted of murder (conspiracy gets you far less prison time). I've heard of cases where the wife doesn't get any jail time because prosecutors couldn't prove beyond a reasonable doubt that she convinced someone else…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/03/23 02:13 PM
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When someone does pull out the "but that's different!" card, I ask them to explain how it's different and then go from there.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/03/23 01:23 AM
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Yeah no doubt capitalism is a major problem. But I honestly don't think there are any good systems that will work on a large scale due to human nature. For example, communism in theory is near perfect but communism in practice never works because humans are greedy and selfish.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/03/23 01:30 PM
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I mean wikipedia has a good definition Left-wing politics describes the range of political ideologies that support and seek to achieve social equality and egalitarianism, often in opposition to social hierarchy.[1][2][3][4] Left-wing politics typically involve a concern for those in society whom its adherents perceive as disadvantaged relative to others as well as a belief that there are unjustified inequalities that need to be reduced or abolished.[1] According to emeritus professor of economic…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/03/23 12:38 PM
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thinking that all the world's ills are due to who used to be visibly in charge. I mean, most of the world's ills are due to those visibly in charge but people get wrong the demographic that's in charge. It's not white people or men. It's the super rich.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/03/23 04:18 PM
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Some people blame capitalism for anything and everything and claim there would be no problems in the world if there wasn't capitalism.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/03/23 04:13 PM
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Most "leftists" are not actually philosophically/politically left. I don't believe most people when they say they are leftists. There are even regular commenters in this sub who I wouldn't call leftist. Being a leftist is in vogue. Being "ethical" is trendy now. People love proving they are morally superior. There's this notion that if you aren't Fox News right-wing, then you are automatically a leftist. You can thank conservative media for that. My question is rather simple, why is it that the …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/03/23 04:07 PM
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Aba and Preach is my favorite channel for male content. I don't 100% agree with 100% of everything they say but that's just being a human. Even they don't agree every single time. I like how they can make really insightful comments while reacting to "dumb" social experiments. They have serious videos but it doesn't feel like they're lecturing you like some other channels.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/03/23 11:45 AM
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If you meet those two requirements, you are very much a man in my book. So disabled adult males don't qualify to be men?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/03/23 11:38 PM
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I saw this post yesterday and just couldn't stop thinking about it. Let's ignore the imagery for a second and look at the actual messaging. Pretty much every image is about "self care" and being kind to yourself. As someone who suffers from a serious mood disorder and who has family members with even more serious mental health issues, I was hoping for more from "leading" mental health organizations. How does taking a bubble bath help someone with schizophrenia? How is receiving an email filled w…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/03/23 04:55 PM
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Yeah for real. I have a major mood disorder that is due to a chemical imbalance in my brain. I didn't need more "self care" to fix my issues. I was already watching loads of TV, tidying, taking naps, and hanging out with friends. None of this stuff is actually helpful for people with serious mental issues. Like how are any of these images helpful for someone with schizophrenia or bipolar disorder? People seem to think "mental health" = "take time for yourself".
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/03/23 11:01 AM
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I find that piece to be the most interesting. Do you think it was because, among the lesbian community, there is a different status attached to butch lesbians? Not OP but in my experience, western lesbian culture is super toxic. Anti-male, especially anti cishet male sentiments seem to be a core pillar in lesbian culture for the past few decades. The hierarchy goes women > afab nonbinary > amab nonbinary > feminine men > masculine men.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/03/23 09:12 AM
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Not OP but also a trans man. I've made the observation that most people, even "good" people, don't care about general ethics. They care about themselves, their loved ones, and their community in that order. Not putting any moral judgement on that, just making an observation. So to answer your question, if I was hypothetically cis female and had remained in the feminist echo chamber, the most likely thing to break me out would be if I saw a loved one being personally affected by systematic misand…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/03/23 05:01 PM
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Same. To me it's so obvious. Like what did people think would happen when you demonize an entire demographic of people based on an immutable trait? People like to bring up "historical" issues, as if that's a proper excuse to discriminate against people today. Children have no historical context to place phrases like "men suck" or "kill all men". They hear that shit and internalize it. It seems like too many people's answer to "the patriarchy" is to impose a matriarchy. I've even met self-proclai…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/03/23 12:40 PM
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Yep, I've been banned from several subs unrelated to feminism for saying that modern feminism has issues.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/03/23 04:21 PM
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Realizing that different people have different levels of intelligence isn't elitism. Not everyone is capable of logic and reason. There's also such a thing as a "lost cause". Like would you try arguing for human rights with Hitler?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/03/23 04:43 AM
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Do you argue with dogs? Or do you realize that dogs aren't capable of reasoning on a human level? That's how I approach people who deny reality.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/03/23 03:47 AM
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I don't admire people. I admire qualities in people. I think trying to find real-life male heroes is a folly and will only lead to disappointment since no one is perfect. There's a reason why "never meet your hero" is a saying. I admire a lot of men throughout history but wouldn't call any of them heroes. Benjamin Franklin was a great scientist but also owned slaves. MLK was a great activist but was also unfaithful to his wife. Heroes are for comic books, not history books.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/03/23 01:08 PM
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Women's day means different things to different people. For some, it's to bring up women's issues. For others it's to celebrate being a woman. For me, it's to show appreciation to the good people in my life who happen to be female. Women's day can be about whatever you want it to be about.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/03/23 03:02 PM
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But i still fail to see how treatment of trans people and men are connected. Transphobes treat trans women the same way the general public treats men. If people weren't afraid of men, they wouldn't be afraid of trans women.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/03/23 05:40 PM
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Most people don't actually care about broader ethics and equality. They care about themselves, their loved ones, and their immediate community, in that order. Most people who call themselves leftists are not actually leftists. They just want to be viewed as being "on the right side of history" regardless of actually being ethically right or wrong. I'm extremely left and libertarian. On a political compass map, I land on the very bottom, left corner. Yet I've been banned from multiple "leftist" s…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/02/23 06:10 PM
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Regardless of what people say, most people aren't as "left" or progressive as they think they are. I personally don't consider today's feminism to be leftist or progressive. I mean I don't consider it a rightwing movement either. It's neither in my opinion. Mainstream feminism promotes "girl bosses" and women owned businesses. We don't need more female millionaires and billionaires. We need to get rid of the wealth class, not just change the demographics. Ultimately the truly wealthy want us to …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/02/23 01:29 PM
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If Trauma is a you problem, shouldn't that mean that there should be no segregated shelters, and that men and women should be able to use the same shelters at all time? That's exactly what I'm saying. No, because one of the main argument of women only shelters is that due to having been abused at the hand of a man, they should find a safe space free of masculinity. What about all the girls and women abused by other women? Where is their shelter that's free from feminity? Are masculine women allo…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/02/23 11:05 AM
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What if my trauma is related to black people? Does that mean i have the right to demand a black-free space? What about a space that is exclusively set up to help people? Do I have the right to decide who gets help based on my own trauma? I don't know where you're from but America has already tried a "separate but equal" policy which delivered on separate but not so much on equal. Trauma is ultimately a "you" problem. It's understandable why trauma victims have certain reactions but that doesn't …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/02/23 04:54 PM
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I've met plenty of feminists who acknowledge that men also experience SA. These feminists just claim that men are not as affected by it since men are strong and powerful, implying they enjoyed it if they were SA by a woman. Or worst, some feminists seem to think it's only men who are the attackers, so any man who is SA must have been attacked by another man.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/02/23 04:40 PM
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Whereas the trans-women-are-women type 3rd wave intersectional type would oppose the Rowling shelter and support the men's shelter. Not in my experience. Most 3rd wave intersectional type of feminists I've met actively dislike men and masculinity.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/02/23 10:28 AM
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"well if men don't like restrictive gender roles, they shouldn't have made the patriarchy." I think we obviously don't live in a patriarchy anymore, so when people say shit like this I just check out of the conversation. Like imagine a white poor person talking about systemic poverty only to be told to shut up because white people control the government. I think it's pretty freaking obvious that we live (and really have always lived) in a plutarchy, that is wealthiest people are in control of th…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/02/23 07:57 PM
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Again, rich people serve in the military way less than regular people and often when they do join it's through a private military school when they leave as an officer
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/01/23 02:29 AM
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Rich people serve way less jail time than regular people. Look at who is actually suffering and who is actually benefiting in life.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/01/23 07:07 AM
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I think the thing most everyone misses is it's not men who have the most power (or white people or cishet people or whatever), it's the people with the most money who have always been the ones in power. Yes, historically wealth has been limited to certain people. But that's not really the case today. It might be harder for a black woman than a white man to become truly wealthy but it's not impossible. Like do people really think some random cishet white guy working at Walmart has more privileges…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/01/23 04:36 AM
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I have heard the argument that the reason why we don't have these agencies for men is the same reason why we don't have national white history month in America. In my gut I feel like this is a bad comparison but I don't know what to say when I hear this argument. Any advice?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/01/23 08:20 PM
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I've served as both an attractive girl and as a not so attractive guy at the same restaurant (I'm trans ftm). My tip rate has stayed the same (average 22%). I work at a bar/restaurant that specializes in beer and whiskey. Regulars are actually more friendly to me now that I'm presenting as a guy, especially the ones that have zero idea that I'm trans.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/01/23 03:02 PM
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Per hour I make twice as much now as I used to as a software developer. I truly love my job and never want to leave the industry. I get more flexibility, autonomy, acknowledgement, and satisfaction than I've gotten in any other job (and I've tried many different things). Just because working at a restaurant isn't what you want to do doesn't mean it's the wrong choice for everyone. My life has improved tenfold since I started working at a restaurant.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/01/23 02:22 PM
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Wtf are you talking about? Have you ever even visited a restaurant? Sounds like you want to have a victim complex. Most of my male friends and male acquaintances work front of house. I know way, way more male bartenders than female. I've had many, many male managers as well.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/01/23 02:16 PM
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Some would even argue that overcoming adversities actually makes one a stronger person. Some of the greatest figures in history overcame major adversities. Heck, pretty much every prominent activist ever had to overcome adversities that seems unimaginable today. Hopefully one day our adversities will also seem unimaginable.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/01/23 05:11 AM
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Some fields have no apparent gender majority. Maybe look into a career field that's relatively gender neutral. I have worked in the restaurant industry (front of house) as both a female and now (trans) male. I have never felt like my gender mattered or that there was a favorable gender. Ofc this will vary by restaurant and hiring managers but in general the front of restaurants seem pretty gender neutral (back of house is usually male dominated but I don't feel like women are usually hired just …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/01/23 05:02 AM
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As a trans man who presented as female until my 30s and I can say with with absolute certainty that I'd have some sort of juvenile record if I was AMAB. I was a straight up bully in certain situations and always got the lightest punishment in the group because I'd play the innocent girl card. I once helped pushed a kid out of a tree house and didn't get punished at all while the other kids got in serious trouble. The kid was fine but the incident really seared into my mind that if I act innocent…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/01/23 07:26 PM
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There is no such thing as "positive masculinity" without enforcing societal boxes on what's considered manly and what's considered womanly. Like I thought as a society we wanted to move away from stereotypes.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/01/23 12:10 AM
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What if she called him a slur? Do you think the tweet would still be as popular?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/01/23 02:29 PM
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??? Like I'm trying really hard not to say something snippy but like the definition of some of those terms are literally someone who suffers from "overinflated egos, disproportionate aggression, always overcompensating for something". Here's another term that works even better: "inferiority complex"
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/01/23 01:11 AM
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Same thing with body shaming anyone because they "deserved it" — if you make fun of a serial killer's acne you're not just making fun of the serial killer. That sort of thing. That's honestly why I stopped watch Last Week Tonight and most liberal/leftist content is because of all the body shaming and cattiness in general. Going off of your example, if the most clever/compelling/interesting thing you can say about a serial killer is making fun of their acne, what does that say about you and your …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/01/23 10:54 PM
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boaster braggart egocentric egomaniac egotist narcissist self-aggrandizer self-centered person
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/01/23 10:42 PM
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A lot of time when trans men do say something, people say "we don't mean you" and then you ask them to explain and they'll start alluding to female socialization and start tip toeing around some transphobic language about how you aren't the same as cis men. Heck, many people are absolutely clueless in what trans male genitals look like and assume nothing down there changes. If they don't go that route, they'll just go the mainstream feminist route, that they aren't actually talking about you bec…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/01/23 10:29 PM
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Are you even a-spec? Feminists will literally use the word "virgin" as an insult. There is nothing men can do that will make feminists like us.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/01/23 08:58 PM
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I hang out in asexual subs (I'm aromantic). Even if these insults are only directly at straight men (I question this), asexual men still get insulted over this. And again, many people including feminists don't believe a man when he says he's asexual.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/01/23 08:32 PM
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I mean people are already mocking trans men with all this "small dick energy" talk. ALL trans men have (or had) micropenises. Not all pre-hrt trans men call their junk a penis but the vast majority of trans men on hrt call their genitalia a penis. Clitoral enlargement is the first visible affect of testosterone for most trans men. My dick looks like an infant's penis. The only trans men without micropenises are those who went through phalloplasty which is no where near as common as vaginoplasty …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/01/23 08:27 PM
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Feminism is not great for asexual men. Feminism and society in general still uses "virgin" as an insult. Women will accuse asexual men of being liars or secretly gay.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/01/23 08:17 PM
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Yep. 90% of the time when I speak up against misandry, I'm called a misogynist. Sometimes I'm called racist, transphobic, and other things for using metaphors to show how hypocritical society's reaction to misandry is. I think it's hilarious because I actively work towards being as egalitarian as possible and believe I am much more egalitarian than most since it actually important to me. I'm also trans, mixed race, and neurodivergent, so there's another layer of wtf for me. I always feel like th…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/01/23 08:10 PM
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You can't just body shame one individual though. If you make fun of one person for being fat, then you are making fun of everyone who is fat.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/01/23 08:02 PM
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We don't and really never have lived in a "male dominated society". We live in a wealth dominated society. The more money you have, the more power you have. Yes there have been times when financial wealth has been limited to certain groups of people but that's not the case today. And while legacy racism might slow/prevent financial wealth for non-whites in America, the same cannot be said about legacy sexism. Wealthy fathers can easily pass on their wealth to their daughters. There's nothing sto…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/01/23 11:07 AM
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I think there's something everyone kinda misses or fails to see is that the reason women have a lower "kill rate" than men is because the average woman is physically weaker than the average man. If physical strength wasn't an issue, I'd argue we'd see the exact same rate in the perpetrators gender of homicides. I mean you can actually see this when looking at homicides of children. Women are just as likely to kill children as men. "Angels of Death" (when health professionals kill patients) are c…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/01/23 01:52 AM
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But I feel like a lot of the younger generation of boys and men are really feeling the crunch and asking questions. Also I noticed trans men of all ages are asking questions too. More people than ever are transitioning now due to less medical gatekeeping. The misandry conversation happens almost daily on /r/ftm and /r/ftmmen, the two biggest subs for trans men. Not all trans men think misandry issue but it does seem like the general consensus is that misandry exists and is an issue that needs to…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/01/23 10:55 PM
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I think men knew this all along but have been afraid to speak out due to fears of being labeled weak, a liar, and/or a misogynist. I have talked with several women who automatically sided with Heard until it was impossible to deny the abuse she inflicted on Depp. Like to these women, it seemed like this was the first time they even considered that a man can be a victim to a woman.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/01/23 08:44 AM
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Honestly I feel like the Depp vs Heard case did more for raising attention to men's issues than all of those other examples, at least for the general public. It seems for a lot of people, Depp was the first male victim of domestic violence by a female perpetrator. Like it opened a lot of feminist eyes that a woman can be the bad guy too.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/01/23 08:06 AM
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Emotional labor is a real thing. Unfortunately like most named social phenomenons, the definition has been widen and changed to a point where the term is now meaningless. The general public sucks at nuance. A term becomes trendy and then suddenly everything is "gas lighting" or "toxic masculinity" or whatever.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates31/12/22 12:38 PM
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Original definition: the management of one's emotions in order to present oneself and interact with other people in a certain way while doing a job. Feminist definition: the mental activity required to manage or perform the routine tasks necessary for maintaining relationships and ensuring smooth running of a household or process, typically regarded as an unappreciated or unacknowledged burden borne disproportionately by women.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates31/12/22 12:28 PM
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You can write people off without resorting to body shaming. Like the worst thing you can say about Andrew Tate is that he has "small dick energy"? Nothing about how he's a womanizing, slaveholding pedophile?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/12/22 04:50 PM
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Yes, very true. "Bad" women do get body shamed (one of the comments here mention people body shaming Ben Shapiro's sister) but it's not nearly as common as body shaming men. Plus, it seems like people are more likely to back down when body shaming a woman when someone points out how wrong it is but the same people will double down when someone points out they're body shaming a man.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/12/22 04:05 PM
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“It’s not okay to body shame, even if the people involved are the scummiest imaginable, because that just normalises body shaming as a whole.” It's not even that. Body shaming one person actually body shames everyone with that characteristic being shamed. If you make fun of one person for being ugly or fat or bald or whatever, you are making fun of everyone who is ugly or fat or bald or whatever. If Andrew Tate having a small dick means he's a womanizer, then you just called everyone with a smal…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/12/22 03:51 AM
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Stop calling it "d shaming" and call it what it is, body shaming. The mainstream thinks insulting someone's appearance is perfectly fine as long as it's a "bad person" but honestly it just makes your argument look weak as hell. Like you can't think of anything more clever or compelling to say about Jeff Bezo than he looks ugly? Also I'm tired of people arguing that it's not body shaming to say "small dick energy" because of the word "energy". Like what if people started saying things like "ew I …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/12/22 03:40 AM
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Oh man, my whole existence was shook once I realized humans are ultimately selfish and only concerned about things that affect them, their loved ones, and their community, in that order. Even this sub is proof. We care about male issues because the vast majority of us are male. The few times I've seen people mentioned they're women, they're trans women who have previously lived life as a male. How many members are cis women? Are there any cis female lesbians in this sub? How did I make peace tha…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/12/22 03:53 PM
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What do you think we can do to improve that situation both as individuals as well as a movement? Well the obvious answer as an individual is to reduce consumption. Yes it may be near impossible to avoid all rechargeable batteries but you also don't need a brand new phone every year. Buy second hand whenever possible. Try doing shit analog whenever possible. Repair electronics and buy repairable electronics whenever possible. Take care of your existing electronics and try to use them for as long …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/12/22 04:19 AM
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I feel like there's a generation of boys who've only heard of masculinity as a negative and tied to "toxic masculinity". I remember when the phrase had a concrete meaning that everyone who used the term understood. And then just like every other nuanced discussion, the phrase totally lost it's meaning once the general public got ahold of it. "Gaslighting" is another example of a phrase that's become meaningless. It's almost like the general public is too dense to understand nuance...
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/12/22 12:53 PM
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and apparently sometimes transmen I would say trans men are especially disparaged from these misandry type statements because often time "except trans men" is added to "men suck" statements implying trans men are less men than cis men. We get the double whammy of misandry and transphobia.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/12/22 02:31 AM
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As a trans man, I have felt my manhood most disrespected by LGBT and feminist leftists. I have had people from these communities tell me directly to my face that "men suck" in response to one man doing something "bad". I've had these people say things like "I hate men [except trans men]". I've heard "leftists" online call for making men essentially second class citizens. These people seem to think the answer to the patriarchy is to replace it with a matriarchy. As a gay man myself I started noti…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/12/22 02:21 AM
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I mean you do save children because they are weaker and cannot save themselves. And I disagree that sexism = hatred of a sex. Saying "women and children first" implies women are as helpless as children and need to be saved. There is a prejudice against women's abilities to help save lives during a crisis. (Eta: and I believe in "positive misogyny" and "positive misandry" just like there is positive racism. Saying "all Asians are good at math" is still racism. Saying "all women need to be protect…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/12/22 09:32 PM
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The reason, the why is misogyny though
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/12/22 07:14 PM
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I've seen feminists call the historical practice of evacuating women and children first as misogynistic but not misandristic. In reality it's both. "Women and children first" implies women are helpless and men are disposable. Misogyny and misandry can't exist without each other. They are two sides of the same coin. Right now the pendulum is swinging the other way when it comes to acceptable sexism. Hopefully society will eventually come to the conclusion that someone's sex/gender (and all other …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/12/22 04:59 PM
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I know this isn't scientific at all. I watch a ton of forensic files and other true crime shows that focuses more on crimes committed by people who knew the victim (so not serial killers, mass shooters, etc) and it honestly seems pretty 50/50 on the gender of the aggressor. People love to bring up how men are naturally stronger than women but forget that we live in a society where "equalizers" exist, especially in places like America where it's perfectly legal for a woman to own a gun (or fuckin…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/12/22 04:14 PM
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I watch YouTubers Aba and Preach and one thing they said that really stuck with me is that when a guy shoves or hits a guy, it's a last resort and they are mentally prepared for the other guy to return with violence. However for women, they don't expect the guy to respond with violence, so they'll pick fights with people without considering the consequences of that person fighting back. I truly believe the average male knows how to deal with anger better than the average female and I say this fr…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/12/22 11:39 PM
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I honestly wouldn't be surprised if maled suffer more domestic abuse from their female partners due to society treating it as less serious or even unworthy of note. All men have been taught not to hit a woman. The same cannot be said true for women. I have talked with a lot of guys who admit to being in a relationship with a woman who would slap/hit/throw things at them and even they didn't think it was abuse
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/12/22 05:10 PM
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I agree with you. I still identify as being a leftist (and libertarian if you look at the political compass) but I see myself as far, far more left (and libertarian) than most. Also, I truly believe most people aren't interested in ethics or rationalism but instead are primarily interested in issues and outcomes that directly effect them, their loved ones, and/or their immediate community. When an self-proclaimed "anarchist" promotes misandry or any sort of bigotry, one of my first thoughts is "…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/12/22 08:34 PM
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I really, really dislike unnecessarily gendered items, ESPECIALLY kid items where the target audience most likely didn't make the purchase themselves. I'm not even thinking about this from a boy vs girl's perspective but from a transgender perspective. I wouldn't want a "boy's version" of that book as well because what about nonbinary kids? What about closeted trans or questioning kids?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/12/22 06:03 PM
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I really believe that how the left/progressives/liberals discusses men and male issues are pushing young cishet men into alt right spaces. I think if I wasn't an older trans male and was cis male and young, I'd definitely be pulled into right-wing MRA and MGTOW spaces. I don't fault young men being seduced by the rhetoric of the right.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/12/22 04:02 AM
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for example, expressions of sympathy that often imply the victim should be a broken individual after what they endured might have the unintended effect of furthering the sensation of victimization or helplessness I joined a message board for abuse survivors after leaving an abusive ex. I eventually left the message board because I felt like the users promoted the idea of being a broken victim who will stay broken forever. Some people had been members for years. I know healing is different for ev…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/12/22 02:50 AM
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I just wanna say that I just found this sub a few days ago and it's already one of my favorites. I keep thinking "wow, I'm not crazy" after reading comments and threads here
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/12/22 09:52 AM
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I'm new here as well because I commented in another sub that r/Menslib supports misandry and will ban anyone who is critical of misandry. I was called a racist and sexist and then perma banned for saying that women shouldn't be afraid of men anymore than white people should be afraid of black people.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/12/22 09:47 AM
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Yeah. This whole sub is filled with dumbfucks.
/r/MensRights07/01/19 08:38 PM
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The person who responded to your comment, u/NullableThought is the same person who called me a Nazi for supporting Trump. NullableThought is a radical extremist. Here's my post showing it: https://www.reddit.com/r/CringeAnarchy/comments/a03hny/retarded_reddit_mob_mentality/ Lol, I think you're confused because that wasn't me that called you a Nazi for supporting Trump. It's a bit insulting to Nazis. edit: Yeah you're an idiot
/r/MensRights07/01/19 05:19 AM
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