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DiscussionNyanpireeee/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 02:13 AM
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Men getting body shamed is awful but women also face genital shaming- there’s been a huuge rise in cosmetic surgery on female genitalia in recent years. So I just wanted to clarify, that although male genital shaming is talked about more publicly, women often face it too, often from romantic partners. Regardless, I have personally not met anybody who talks about the size of their vag. It’s a body part with somewhat “elastic” property that can change depending on the sexual feelings of the person…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 04:12 PM
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Is this really an advantage for women? The average age to start prostitution is 14. It’s not rich women being lazy. It’s women in poverty who are struggling to find better work. Yeah, pornstars exist and maybe make good money, but they also are statistically more traumatized people. Sex work is not something people should strive to participate in.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 04:27 PM
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I think women are taught to be responsible for the emotions of everyone around them, there’s this huge pressure to please everyone, and they then project the same expectation onto the people they engage with.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 04:00 AM
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I didn’t say it was immoral. I said it would be more moral to do the heroic act but not once did I ever say it was immoral to not put yourself at risk. Major difference!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 09:10 PM
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Idk why but as a 17 year old getting hit on by men who are 60 makes me scared and I don’t think that’s going to change when I’m 18. I mean the facts are the facts and men prefer younger women but I don’t want to be preferred.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 05:21 PM
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Well, yeah. Not every act is logical but they are moral. The logic in morality is less individualistic and more societal, because moral behavior benefits the society. Being moral benefits the individual in terms of social status ofc, but it’s more societal than individual I’d say. Acting moral means you contribute to a moral society, which you will benefit from living in. I don’t think anyone has a moral obligation to risk their life, but it’s a kind action that should be applauded. In terms of …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 09:50 PM
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I think I’m decently attractive, guys tell me I’m a 9 but it’s not exactly socially acceptable to tell someone they’re ugly so idk…Anyways I’d call myself a loser regardless because I am depressed and don’t have a social life. I WANT LOSERS! I like people who look funky and have issues. Makes me feel like maybe they won’t treat me bad if they don’t have many other options.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 03:06 AM
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I don’t think it’s exactly cheating unless it’s one of those wierd parasocial things like OF. I still think it’s bad for your brain and relationship for a lot of other reasons and it’s not unreasonable to ask. But if it becomes some major battle, just break up honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 03:00 AM
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As a girl, I would probably guess they assumes you don’t wanna hangout with all chicks. That’s why I usually don’t introduce my male friends to my female friends. All my friends are rad. I just don’t want my guy friends to stand around while we drink tea and have girly talk. I have more girl friends and we all hangout in groups whereas when I hangout with my guy friends it’s usually one on one and we just talk about philosophy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 02:55 AM
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There’s a difference between being friends and being in a talking stage/having a crush. If you’re really, genuinely, just friends then it should not matter AT ALL what she thinks of your physical appearance. If you want to be more than friends, that’s a crush. Someone can be a crush and a friend, but if you cut her off after she rejects you, she was never really a friend of yours, she was just a crush. Friendship is about enjoying time together without romantic strings attached.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 02:52 AM
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I don’t see how someone’s marital status relates to their value as a human or if they deserve to be saved. I wouldn’t expect anyone to risk their life to save mine, but it would be a heroic act that I’d appreciate.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 02:44 AM
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They don’t need to rise. I will have firearms when I move out.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 02:37 AM
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C is not totally right. Money=status and security. Those are things that people are evolutionarily attracted to. Whether for better or worse. Some women are superficial but I don’t think considering wealth as a factor in attractiveness is necessary a bad thing. Maybe a woman wants to be a housewife and have a family, something that can’t happen if she doesn’t have a husband who can provide for the family on one income. Maybe she wants security, or for her kids to have a better life. Maybe she ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 02:16 AM
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I think women who continuously choose bad men or choose men who are obviously bad have issues to work on. But it bothers me when all discussion immediately removes blame from the man and attacks the woman for choosing him as if he’s a wild animal who can’t help it and she should have known better. Plus wrongfully trusting someone isn’t unethical, abusing someone is obviously unethical. Also, abusive people in general are manipulative. Some are blatantly abusive in early stages yet still attract …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 06:12 AM
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Although I wouldn’t call myself a victim of abuse, I’m definitely targeted by people who are questionable due to my pushover nature and shyness and I don’t think it’s something I should be blamed for. (I have unfortunately filed a restraining order against an ex who stalked and bullied me.) plus I’m going off of what I’ve heard from therapists about women ending up in toxic relationships. I’ve never done the thing either but as a woman I think I can imagine why others don’t wanna do that casuall…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 05:15 AM
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As far as “choosing better” I think it’s a bit of an unfair argument. Nobody enters a relationship with someone they deem untrustworthy. Bad people tend to be manipulative and charming. If a woman continuously chooses bad men, then she should go to therapy to see if it’s the result of unresolved trauma and subconsciously seeking such men out. But I don’t think it’s her fault if a man is bad to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 04:44 AM
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Sex is usually a more emotional experience for women. This has been studied before. Plus, I’d imagine that if you are a woman looking for a long term relationship, and a guy who seems trustworthy says he wants a long term relationship, but dips the second he gets in your pants, you’re gonna feel lied to, used, objectified and frustrated. Also sex is portrayed differently for men and women. You’re told that men “get to have sex” and women “allow sex to happen.” The woman’s body is often perceived…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 04:40 AM
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I think women tend to have high emotional/social intelligence plus they’re raised to be very attentive to the emotions of others, as a little girl it’s basically seen as your responsibility to ensure the happiness of those around you. At least in my experience, that was heavily expected of me. I think when a lot of women see a man who doesn’t pick up on emotional cues- they read it as “he knows, but he doesn’t care that I’m upset.” To them, such cues seem too obvious to miss, but men and women a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 05:19 AM
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I’m not really involved in the dating scene but here’s what I understand from women who are. Lots of options ≠ good options. A ton of them only want casual hookups. Many are entitled, think they can buy the chick’s body for the price of a meal. Incompatible, egotistical, rude etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 08:35 PM
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Yup. Controllable factors don’t ensure the offspring will survive. Strength, status, intelligence, healthiness (which a lot of attraction is based on, healthier looking people look hotter) etc are all things that will increase the chance of offspring survival. Cool shoes aren’t going to do much for the offsprings survival. But that’s a very animalistic, baseline overview of attraction. There’s also personal preference, compatibility, and things that don’t have much to do with offspring at all th…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 07:44 PM
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You get called ugly and fat if you turn down a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 07:31 PM
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OHHHH. This is a repost of that red pill post but with the genders swapped as a little social expirament.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 07:24 PM
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I don’t have an issue with promiscuity per say, although I personally think it’s gross/shallow/unsanitary and wouldn’t date someone like that- if that’s what they want to do with their life then whatever. Manipulation however? I have an issue with that. I don’t really gaf if it’s legal. Legal and moral are not the same thing and manipulating people into being your sex toys is pretty fuckin horrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 07:21 PM
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And I hope you can afford child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 03:54 AM
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Do what you want except don’t use manipulation to coerce people into sex. That includes pretending you are interested in a long term relationship to get sex and then ghosting. That’s just like….evil. But if you wanna do one night stands w people who want the same thing. Whatever. Not my problem, just try not to get an STD.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 03:54 AM
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It depends completely on where I am, tone of voice, if I perceive him to be a threat, etc. age also matters because I’m usually approached by men 40-70 as a minor.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 04:47 AM
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Yup! Women “had it so good” when they were all STAHMs yet many had to be forced into it? But they’ll just say “feminism lied.”
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 11:24 PM
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HELL YEAH. Babies can’t consent. No piercings, no genital mutilation, no cosmetic body mods. I DON’T WANNA SEE IT. Leave babies alone! Baby boys and baby girls alike. They deserve better.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 07:22 PM
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1000%.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 06:08 AM
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A lot of women really feel violated by question because they feel it’s implied that they cheated but honestly, I think it’s a reasonable request. You can still love and trust your wife but want to be 1000% sure before you y’know- commit your life to raising a whole human being. I honestly wish they were mandatory to get rid of the arguing and prevent the inevitable heartbreak on some kid’s behalf because some people will always be liars and cheaters, regardless of gender- and I don’t want any ki…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 06:07 AM
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Honestly I don’t think facial features are that important. I’d say unattractive would probably be: poor hygiene, bad personality, bad teeth, severely overweight, bad taste in dress. I think pretty much any old guy can become a total catch by being intelligent, funny, well dressed, decently healthy (chub is cute, obesity is worrying), dressing well and practicing good hygiene. I prefer guys my height or taller (so 5’3+) but I’d date a shorter guy if we clicked. I personally think the hottest dude…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 05:27 AM
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That’s fine but I don’t understand why the expectations are different for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 07:54 PM
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That’s why I’m so turned off by 3. Every housewife I’ve personally known has ended up with a full time job and doing all the housework. At family functions I overhear women say “he lost his job so I’ve been working full time but- he just won’t seek out a job or help with chores! He plays video games all day and night.” Time and time again. I just don’t want that fate.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 03:26 PM
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You have the right to pursue a traditional dynamic and that’s fine. But is it so bad for me to want to not pursue that? I’ve always made allowances for peoples flaws which is why I’m willing to date someone with the others but I cannot be with someone who demands a lifestyle out of me that I know I am not compatible with. I don’t trust anybody enough to be my “provider”. I’ve seen it play out utterly horribly for the majority of women in my life. And I’ve been treated horribly by people I’ve don…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 03:23 PM
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Okay. A couple things. The post says pick one flaw to be a total dealbreaker. It’s not all of those at once vs 3. It’s one of those traits vs 3. It’s also clarified that the drug use is not to a highly destructive extent. 3 clarifies that someone is not willing to change. It’s not about fucking sandwiches. I’m happy to do nice things for a potential partner. If anything I’ve been too nice to the point of being obsequious which has caused me a ton of shit in my life. I’ve done far too many things…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 03:17 PM
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3 is the deal breaker. For 1-Some guys can be prettyyyy chubby and carry it decently or just have a great personality which makes them attractive regardless. I’ve had plenty of crushes on dudes who would probably be medically obese but not severely. For 2-Finances aren’t important in a relationship at all to me because I can care for myself just fine but I can’t be my own companion. 4… is not great but can probably change with persuasion. 5 is also not great but it’s clarified that it’s not a li…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 09:45 AM
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I’m friends with other introverts who don’t “put themselves out there.” Regardless, men don’t really throw themselves at women as much as the media would have you think. Young men seem pretty shy honestly. I’ve been approached before but never in a very straight forward way. They’ll call you pretty but before you can respond they scurry off 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 12:54 AM
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I see what you’re saying but I think it’s more applicable for people who are looking to be in a traditional relationship. I don’t want to be a housewife, so I don’t expect a provider. I certainly don’t think women OWE men sex ever. But unfortunately, as a woman, in my experience, when you allow someone to do “kind” deeds for you, you often end up getting coerced, and violently threatened when you don’t wanna give “it” up. I am honestly quite fearful of many men and some other women because of my…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 12:50 AM
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I think cold approaching can be good when done properly. As a woman I can tell you now that we do not want to be approached in any situation where we have to worry about safety. Don’t approach a woman in an unpopulated area when she’s alone. Approach women in populated areas when they are with female friends. This alleviates feelings of danger and if she thinks you’re cute you’ll probs get a # or some socials.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 05:28 AM
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I want someone who trusts me enough to come to be for emotional support. But I personally wouldn’t pressure anyone to.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 05:26 AM
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Those are silly reasons to call someone creepy imo. I find it creepy when -I am approached by a man significantly older -I am approached in an odd or potentially unsafe situation (I don’t wanna be hit on when I’m walking alone in an unpopulated area, especially at dark. It’s possible that the dude has good intentions but If I am in a situation that could be potentially unsafe,I am going to be cautious of anyone who approaches me.) -someone is too forward too fast. Ex: I try to make a new friend …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 05:22 AM
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To me; above and beyond is thoughtful gestures without being asked. It doesn’t have to be expensive or huge. Things like remembering her favorite things and getting them on her bday or anniversaries. Cards. Planning dates. Stuff that shows you put thought into making her happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 04:59 AM
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I don’t believe the majority of prostitution is truly consensual because these women are often so poor that they feel trapped and forced into it. If men truly NEED sex- I’d argue that robots or some shiot would be infinitely better than making it women’s job to do. Sex work is an industry absolutely full of misogyny and extremely bad for women. Why are women always expected to solve men’s issues? And women are sexual creatures too. But nobody ever makes a big stink out of women getting sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 04:51 AM
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Great answer
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 04:43 AM
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I always believe you should date people because of who they are NOW and not who they could be.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 04:41 AM
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Unlimited options? Be for real. Do women get approached a lot? Yes. Do the majority of the men approaching them want a committed relationship? No. They want to get into the pants.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 04:39 AM
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I also like extremely fucked up hair. Like micro bangs and neon mullets with bald spots from excessive hair dye use. (Idk what’s wrong with me)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 04:36 AM
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I’m bisexual but I care most about -how much they care about me (I want to be loved) -their intelligence. I want deep conversations. Preferences? I like them chunky with some muscles but not too many. (Idk guys like that just look like they give amazing hugs) Or slightly skinny with no muscles because then they look like scrawny zombie boys. I like creepy looking boys. But overall I don’t care much ab that. I think the builds I described are attractive but I pretty much find anybody with style a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 04:29 AM
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Is it really so shocking to believe in a world of 8 billion people some are ugly and mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 04:22 AM
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I don’t think dating is easy at all. For men or women. Can women get sex much easier? Yeah. But most women don’t wanna screw some dude just because. They want an actual relationship. This is hard to find as a woman because many men claim to want a relationship but are only chasing sex. And they’ll ditch if they get it. Or if they don’t. I dont think dating is easier for guys AT ALL. I just wanted to point out that what many consider a pro of dating as a woman is actually a mega con. There’s a pl…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 04:21 AM
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I find most men pretty. Not necessarily in a sex way but I admire the human frame as an artist. I’m just saying, these guys aren’t getting to mistreat them because they’re attractive. They’re mistreating them because these girls are used to it. Granted, it’s hard to find anyone attractive when they screw your friends over. Ugly personalities kinda automatically make people ugly. But I don’t think it’s accurate to portray women as so shallow. Most women are good people who also want male companio…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 04:10 AM
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??????? Have you talked to a chick? Most of my attractive female friends don’t have standards high enough. They’ve been mistreated so much that they think the smallest gesture is the most amazing thing. And believe me it’s not because the guys are chads… they look like they snuck onto earth. They just treat my friends slightly better than the people who traumatized them.. which is still just… bad to be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 03:54 AM
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I think it’s 100% fine to want 50/50, but the problem is a lot of people want 50/50 on finances and 0/100 on labor which is simply not a fair division. In the vast majority of middle class families I’ve met- wife and husband both contribute 50% of household funds but wife does 100% of childcare, cooking, and cleaning. That’s just not fair- in reality that’s 25/75 because household labor is still work. True 50/50 means 50/50 funds, 50/50 childcare, 50/50 cooking and 50/50 cleaning. And if that’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 03:44 AM
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Thank you. Extremely well said.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 06:40 AM
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I’m gonna have to disagree on this one. Nobody is entitled to sex. Because you only get to have it if it’s with a consenting adult who wants it as well. Demanding sex makes no sense because you can’t make people who are consenting appear out of thin air. It doesn’t work like that. If we categorize sex as a male right- that’s basically calling for forced sex. Because there’s literally no way to get every man access to consensual sex. I don’t understand what you want us to do? Enslave women so men…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 06:33 AM
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I should have been a bit clearer. I don’t believe anybody is entitled to gaining anything such as time or affection because that requires someone else to give it up. But lying is is an action that blurs the lines of what both parties can consent to. Which I believe is wrong. I agree it’s wrong to pretend to like a guy for gifts etc- but I will say this. It gets confusing when you genuinely believe you have a platonic relationship and suddenly a guy says “well you HAVE to go out with me because I…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 05:21 PM
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Crazy eye makeup. A lot of guys don’t like it and will openly tell me I should take it off. But it can backfire- unfortunately because of the stereotype is that girls w crazy fashion are kinky.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 06:26 PM
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Girls who think you have to stay with them are assholes just like guys who think girls have to fuck them. Nobody is entitled to anybody’s time or body or affection. Everyone has the right to consent or to not consent to any action. Granted, If you say you love a girl and then disappear after she screws you, I think that’s a dick move. I’ve seen it happen time and time again where a guy begs a girl to give him her virginity when she doesn’t want to and when she finally gives in the dude just ditc…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 06:24 PM
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Fertility wall or attractiveness wall? Of course there’s a fertility wall but I think women still can look seggsy asf in their 40s. I mean I wouldn’t wanna bang an elderly woman but I don’t think women age out of beauty super fast either. A lot of people say women are hottest at 18, which creep us me out because im 17 but also, I look at 25 year old gals and think they’re way sexier. Girls my age still have baby faces imo. I have a huge crush on lady Gaga and she’s 38. I’m bi, that’s just my opi…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 06:05 PM
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I do believe the male suicide rate is a tragedy, and I definitely agree that we as a society need to be more supportive of men’s mental health, but I would like to clarify that women attempt suicide more than men by a factor of 3x. It’s not a black and white discussion and I don’t think it’s appropriate to write it off as men being more depressed. When looking at statistics, you’ll find that men use guns more often and women use pills more often- which is a huge factor in the difference of succe…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 12:44 AM
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I said I hear about it on a monthly basis. I go to a very large school. That should not be suprising.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 07:18 AM
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Well no shit. 1/6 isn’t a majority but it’s a lot, not even taking into account unreported rapes. Some stats even say 1/3 or more women are raped. Also- the stat blatantly says rape, not SA. SA stats will be different. Probably a lot higher, depressingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 07:10 AM
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“1 out of every 6 American women has been the victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime (14.8% completed, 2.8% attempted).” You don’t have to believe my experiences. But that doesn’t make them false. I’m
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 06:25 AM
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Wow haha it’s so funny that I would rather get no bitches than get catcalled and followed by men 30 years older than me. Silly me :3 My opinion is obviously so wrong and funny. Silly woman should know better! Obviously not getting dates is significantly worse than being harassed and ogled at by old men everyday walking to HIGH SCHOOL. While I hear a new SA story among the girls at my school on a monthly basis, knowing there’s a decent chance I’m next. 😙 But hey, at least guys want me right? Even…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 06:07 AM
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As a woman? Yes! Yes! Yes! So much of my anxiety is the result of being harassed trying to go outside. I’m shy I’ll admit but, if I wanted a relationship I’d find a way to work on myself, learn to cope with rejection. I’ve become more confident in flirting over the years so I think I’d be able to do it. I’m not desperate anyways, I kind of prefer being single. Id definitely be careful not to make anyone uncomfortable. I’d feel so much safer and I’d feel like a real actual person for once if the …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 09:23 PM
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This!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 08:37 PM
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I don’t get mad when a friend confesses feelings to me. They are entitled to their feelings and ideally, I’d say no in the politest way I could and the friendship would continue, or they’d respectfully say it’s too awkward. At least that’s a reason outside of “I only saw you as good for romance.” And don’t get me wrong, I feel guilty for hurting their feelings. But I get mad/sad when they lash out, threaten to physically harm themselves or me or act verbally abusive which has happened too many t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 08:33 PM
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I don’t know about full segregation but i think we’d benefit from having more men only and women only spaces. And just working to understand instead of blame.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 03:45 AM
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Electric Guitar, Collecting monster high dolls, drawing/character design, animation, I used to dirtbike when I had more free time, fashion, some video games, working on singing and songwriting, learning cooking, learning sewing. I go to the gym if that counts. Tried sculpting, resin, and doll creating but not enough time w highschool and a job :((
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 03:38 AM
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That’s pretty close. And gendered issues effect my life a lot so I want to be able to discuss them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 10:45 PM
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Do men lose value too or just women in your eyes? Cus men aren’t getting any hotter as they age either. I think saying anybody is worthless or unlovable just because they’re 30 is honestly disgusting. In my experience most people don’t even have a stable settled life and identity until their early 30s. Most young women don’t want older guys. I’ve had multiple guys tell me I’m gonna hit the wall in a few years and I’m not even 18. 😐 It’s borderline pedophilic.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 10:42 PM
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The post is about people not wanting to date older women as a group. Not about individuals. When you provide that as the reason men do not want women in their 30s at all, I’m assuming you are making a statement about women as a group, which implies that you’re talking about a majority. If men won’t date women in their 30s at all because of some individuals, that’s kind of a dumb reason and reveals that it’s not about emotional baggage. Also, OP listed multiple ways that redpill behavior causes e…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:30 PM
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If you think the average woman is getting gang banged you are delulu 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:20 PM
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I think it’s odd that (some) men say women’s standards are too high but then complain about women being “whores” or “not choosing better.” Like which is it? Be less picky or more? They want virgins who pick good men but they complain when women don’t pick them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 06:10 PM
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Nobody should have to date someone who they aren’t attracted to. But they don’t have the right to demand that people who aren’t attracted to them date them. People who can’t find a partner who meets their standards can work on themselves or stay single. They could lower their standards too but I don’t rlly care what their do with their lives. They’re making it harder for themselves. I definitely have met some unconventional guys talking about “she needs a huge ass and under 100 pounds and 5’3 an…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 07:27 AM
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Hitting on someone your age (in a polite manner) once is NOT creepy. Continuing to hit on them after they are visibly uncomfortable or verbally express disinterest is creepy. Catcalling is also creepy. Hitting on someone significantly younger is also creepy. Pls get the 80 year olds away from me and don’t let them gr0pe me :(( I think people just need situational awareness and emotional intelligence and they won’t get called creepy. Don’t start a conversation saying overtly sexual things to some…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 07:00 AM
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“Withholding” implies that it already belongs to them. I wish people saw relationships as a privilege and not a right. I hate being screamed at, cussed out, gaslit, and threatened with violence when I “friendzone” someone in the politest most genuine way possible. While they were basically f*ck-zoning me the whole time, they never even saw me as a person, just a potential gf :(( So many people have acted like I don’t have the “right” to dictate my own body and life choices, or I’m robbing them o…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 06:48 AM
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The argument that men are forced to turn to suicide or crime is a little odd to me. First of all, women attempt suicide 3-4 times more often than their male counterparts- but are less likely to be successful due to using less “violent” methods, resulting in higher death rates for men. So if we are using suicide statistics to gouge how much each gender struggles- then the answer is not remotely black and white. Men statistically commit the vast majority of crimes. Obviously not all men, but since…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 07:20 AM
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I’m anti prostitution because: STDs, I Think the sex for money trade is manipulative, and whether or not it’s really consensual is debatable. If a prostitute has the choice between prostitution or getting evicted/not eating, are they really able to consent? They’re in a situation where they don’t have much of an option.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 06:48 AM
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Alrighty here’s my opinion as a bisexual gal. I’m going to frame it in the context of a straight relationship but it wouldn’t really change in a wlw relationship imo. I’d expect these things in a partner aswell. Alrighty. Minimum that I believe a woman must contribute in a healthy relationship; 1-Respectful (no, this does not mean being submissive) 2-Emotionally intelligent and able to communicate emotions and opinions effectively. 3-contributes something to the household, Whether it be “traditi…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 05:45 AM
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Alrighty here’s my opinion as a bisexual gal. I’m going to frame it in the context of a straight relationship but it wouldn’t really change in a wlw relationship imo. I’d expect these things in a partner aswell. Alrighty. Minimum that I believe a woman must contribute in a healthy relationship; 1-Respectful (no, this does not mean being submissive) 2-Emotionally intelligent and able to communicate emotions and opinions effectively. 3-contributes something to the household, Whether it be “traditi…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 05:40 AM
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I certainly don’t expect every guy to have a 1% excellence trait but I don’t think the majority of women expect such excellence. I guess we’ve had different life experiences
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 07:35 AM
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Yeah. That’s true- there is a catch in this specific scenario and I won’t deny that. But my point was that men tend to believe the standards are higher than reality because guys who don’t meet all the traditional “standards” still can be quite popular with the ladies. I’ve seen average dudes land gorgeous girls- there’s so much more to relationships than appearance. The narrative that girls only date 6 foot tall abusive millionaires chads is just not accurate. Not only is the narrative used to v…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 06:46 AM
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Hanging with the popular girls a couple of times- they’d DROOOL over this guy and talk about him non stop. Also, I’m 5’3 and the guy was definitely shorter by one or more inches so I don’t think I was misreading the height. He was a very pretty boy so it’s not surprising. I never understood why so many consider height a big deal when most women I know don’t really. I mean I’d prefer a guy slightly taller but it’s certainly not a dealbreaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 06:33 AM
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I’d also like to point out. Men who try to land dates with recently heartbroken women by manipulation are setting themselves up to be rebounds. Isn’t that the same thing as women “choosing” to date men who are mean/abusive? I’d argue neither person really knows that they’re setting themselves up for issues- because of rose colored glasses- but how can you blame women for dating abusive men when you mention a phenomenon where men are dating girls in rebound mode?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 05:17 AM
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I’m not sure if this is necessarily exclusive to men. A LOOOOT of women romanticize “fixing” a man with mental heath issues or depression, - basically the gender bent version of a man feeling like “saving” a woman who’s been treated poorly by other men. Regardless of the gender, I think the idea of “fixing” or “saving” someone is inherently flawed because helping someone should be out of kindness, and not a desire for a relationship. If you help someone during hard times only so that they’ll dat…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 05:11 AM
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Holy shit. YES! YES YES YES. How is anyone supposed to have a genuine connection- let alone form a relationship without being raw and open? Most of the guy friends in my life vent to me a lot. I make an effort to be accepting and supportive so a lot of people in general come to me. I have never said “oh this guys sobbing on the phone with me, how not masculine.” That would actually be insane. When a guy vents; I think “wow he’s so open with me. I’m glad he trusts me. He’s so brave for sharing su…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 10:58 PM
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If you think women are entitled because they control their own body, what they do with their own time, and who they associate with, you don’t see them as people. “Those silly women thinking they’re entitled to the word no!” Is what you sound like.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 10:02 PM
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Oh so women are the selfish ones for saying no when men demand access to their bodies? 😀
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 09:49 PM
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I like kind, moral, and genuine people. Which is different than just being nice. Nice is a behavior. Not always a reflection of one’s morals. And, call me greedy I’d you’d like, but I’d like a little more than simply being a good person in a partner. Mainly I care about if they love me, but I’d also like intelligence, affection, someone I’m attracted to (which tbh literally just means dressing cool, idgaf ab weight or features), and someone with a compatible lifestyle/personality. I know I’m not…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 07:45 AM
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Hold up. Nobody is being “forced”. At least I hope not. That’s SA. Do I have to call someone? Jk. I know that you mean guys being left with only non virgin opinions in dating. Regardless, if that’s not good enough, they can always just be single. It’s really not bad. I like being single because I don’t have to have anxiety ab partners. I would also like to point out, that unless one dude has been screwing literally everyone, or all these non virgin women are screwing other women, men have been m…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 07:28 AM
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This. It applies to men too. Men can be selective. If a dude wants a girl hotter than me, who cares, I want someone who’s happy with me anyways. Id die inside if someone “settled” for me. Attraction or lack of it is natural and people don’t owe you sex because they’re “in your league.” Most people want outside their league and that’s okay. They might not get it but they don’t have to lower their standards. Also. I see a lot of guys use the “natural order” to say it’s normal that men are polyamor…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 07:05 AM
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Yes and no. I believe media consumption impacts people a lot. But most movies and tv shows have a “good vs bad” thing going. It’s not just romanticizing violence against people who are innocent or even who you love. Some do. But the majority no. And those who do romanticize uncalled for violence have been occasionally quoted in diaries of criminals. It depends on age, morality, sanity, how easily influenced someone is etc. but media does impact people.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 06:22 AM
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I think hiding emotions definitely is a form of emotional labor in men that should be talked about. I think the kind of emotional labor women refer to when talking about women’s issues is largely the expectation to be a free therapist. Lots of guy friends throughout my life have been utterly repulsed by therapy and would call me at 1:00-5:00am every night weeks in a row to vent. Don’t get me wrong, I love helping and I’m flattered to be trusted, but when dealing with depression, highschool, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 05:34 AM
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Yes. I believe it does. And I think the reasons I provided as to why I believe that are logical reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 05:10 AM
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Correlation is not always causation. That phrase encourages critical thinking and avoiding jumping to conclusions. Like if a statistic says “more people eat Icecream the same time of year more people drown”, don’t assume ice cream makes people drown- it’s just summer and people are swimming. However, that phrase doesn’t mean just ignore every statistic ever. Statistics can be informative! Just don’t jump to unreasonable conclusions. Men consuming violent sexual media correlating to violent behav…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 05:05 AM
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Some of them, but not when it’s not discussed before hand. Consent, Consent, Consent Porn tends to fetishize a lack of consent.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 04:54 AM
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I disagree. Porn harms people mentally. Statistics show it makes men more insecure, less likely to interfere when witnessing violence, more likely to commit violence, and more likely to have a negative perspective on dating and the opposite sex. I don’t care if people wanna wank it or fantasize. But porn is a toxic media that uses shock value, people get into kinkier and kinkier shit to get that shock value, and often end up fetishizing straight up immoral actions. A lot of women who date men th…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 04:50 AM
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I don’t think banning it is a solution necessarily because I believe in freedom. However, it’s undeniably a problem. It affects women a lot more than most realize. Statistically, porn consumption is associated with with an increasingly negative view on women, a higher pressure to be “masculine”, increased violence, decreased likelihood to interfere when witnessing violence, and worse treatment of women. A lot of women have spoke out about being smacked and manhandled during intimacy without any …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 04:42 AM
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You are insinuating that simply using the word entitlement is some kind of blue pill propaganda. So I am assuming you consider actual entitlement a just emotional because you are attempting to describe it in a way that sounds sott
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 08:12 PM
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This very much screams "i don't understand consent!" Wanting a girl is fine. Believing a girl owes you "a chance" just because you want her is NOT FINE. Chasing her after she said no or attacking her for saying no- NOT FINE. Wanting something is allowed. Everyone wants things. Expecting people to give in to your all wants because you believe the world “owes” you something? Toddler behavior. The world owes you NOTHING. Huge difference between wanting something and expecting to receive it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 01:22 AM
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Wanting a relationship is very normal. Strongly Yearning for a relationship is also pretty normal. Or at least common. I think it becomes entitlement when you hold resentment about being turned down. The idea of being mad at someone for saying no comes off as being entitled to their body and time. Obviously, rejection hurts, that’s normal, but if you start ranting about how the opposite sex doesn’t wanna screw you, or you can’t maintain a polite attitude after being turned down, that’s entitleme…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 01:08 AM
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I’ve seen this frequently go both ways. I think it’s understandable with young kids when responsibility of care should be divided. But even then, both parents should get occasional weekends off where the other will be in charge of kids for the day. If there’s no kids or grown kids, I think it’s ridiculous. Obviously one partner has the right to be annoyed if the other is constantly partying and having fun with friends to the point where they’re not helping out around the shared house, or making …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 01:03 AM
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I think women should not date immoral men, because I believe people in general should not associate with immoral people who will inevitably negatively influence them- but they are not REQUIRED to date moral men. This gives major nice guy vibes. Women don’t owe you sex, their bodies, time, or attention just because you are “moral.” And if you are using morality to claim you are entitled to any of the above; you’re not moral!! You’re just manipulative.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 12:48 AM
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I disagree that autism is a big deal- however I think EVERYONE should accept that people have the right to not want to date them. Everyone needs to handle rejection. Nobody is entitled to another person’s romantic attention 💯
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 12:38 AM
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I don’t think I’m ugly. But I don’t like it. I’m 17 and it’s wierd when full adult men pursue girls who were just at my house watching Barbie movies and giggling with their teddy bears. They were kids just a second ago. Now they’re closer to being adults but they still don’t act like adults maturity wise. All the girls my age that I know only care about collecting new stuffed animals and getting the prettiest dresses. They don’t talk about boys much at all. And I certainly don’t like when men in…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 07:57 PM
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Idk but it makes me uncomfy because I’m 17 and the girls my age that I know still have all their teddy bears and dolls. Not to mention just a few years ago they were 100% kids. Now they’re bordering on adult but honestly they don’t act like adults at all. Not the girls I know at least. They’re far more concerned with pretty outfits and collecting plushies than with dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 07:52 PM
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“Nearly all research concludes that males dominate gang membership. Some studies have indicated that females represent less than 10 percent of all gang members, and one recent study estimated the figure as low as 3 or 4 percent (Curry, Ball, and Fox, 1994; Esbensen and Winfree, in press; Miller, 1982). Other studies have reported that the proportion of females in gangs is much larger, ranging from approximately one-fourth to one-third of all gang members in urban adolescent samples.6” https://oj…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 02:16 AM
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I think women want it just as bad (if not more because holy guac my friends are rabid animals who won’t stop talking ab it) but there’s more consequences. Women are more susceptible to STDs because sex organs are internal. Plus pregnancy falls on the woman. Also; men are physically stronger. A man could kill a woman if he wanted to, so logically women are weary of who they let in- especially given a high percent of female murders are perpetrated by male lovers. There’s also a big difference betw…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 01:11 AM
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I think it depends on the extent and context. If your partner doesn’t want to have sex for a month because they’re severely depressed and you leave for that, I think that’s a MAJOR dick move. But if your partner has a significantly lower drive to the point you cannot both be satisfied at once and you struggle to find a medium, that’s kind of understandable. It seems like both individuals would have their needs better met by someone more similar. I would not date an asexual person, personally. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 01:00 AM
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Yes! I mean not if you bedrot all day but if you have a social life yes. However, this is not the blessing men might think. You continue to be asked out when you are not looking for a relationship- and often times rejection is met with hostility, anger, aggression, and the threat of violence. A lot of friendships ended that way. They see you as a potential girlfriend and not a person. Although not having to seek out a relationship is nice, I would rather have to ask people out then constantly tu…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 12:54 AM
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Studies show that women are three times more likely to attempt than their male counterparts but men are four times more likely to be successful. It’s less about who’s more miserable; more about the difference in strategy. Studies show Women tend to use less extreme methods of suicide- which are also less successful. In my personal life I know a lot more women who’ve been hospitalized for attempts. Though of course, my life is not the only experience. 14% of American women are raped vs 3% of Amer…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 11:41 PM
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I wouldn’t blame you for a fear of women given your experiences. I understand as well that if a perpetrator is female, a guy is less likely to get Justice. I fear men because I know that they are statistically more likely to be a perpetrator and in my experience, it’s been almost solely men who’ve harassed me. Except for one ex girlfriend (bi.) Even her as an exception; she was persistent in harassing me but she never was physically aggressive and she never made me fear for my physical safety, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 07:12 PM
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I think it’s important for me to “get carried away” with other comments. Reading a variety of perspectives will help me form an informed opinion. What level of fear do you consider bigotry? I feel like I will always experience some level of fear. Knowing how many women and girls in my life have been SA’d I will always carry pepperspray. I also feel like being aware of the men around me can protect me. If my cousin hadn’t payed attention to the men speaking in a different language that she happen…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 07:05 PM
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I think race and gender are very different attributes. Assuming someone is more likely to attack you based on skin tone doesn’t seem logic based to me. But I’ve noticed a lot of men are raised in this culture to feel kind of entitled to romantic attention. I’ve had quite a few cussing screaming fits after rejecting guys. Race hasn’t really made a difference in how the men in my life have treated me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 07:00 PM
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I’ve had criticisms from people on both sides. I’ve had right leaning people call me a misandrist and a crazy feminist. But left leaning people also criticize me, calling me a bigot. The left leaning political figures in my area have banned pepperspray and other self defense weapons so technically I would be in trouble with the popo if I was found carrying that. Regardless, I don’t think this particular issue is particularly divided based on red or blue, mainly it’s about personal experience. My…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 06:57 PM
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Yeah, echo-chambers are validating. I joined this sub to make sure I’m not in an echo-chamber. I think looking at opinions on both sides will help me recognize what is truly moderate so I can form a logical Opinion. That’s why I join subs that are feminist and non-feminist. I wouldn’t say 90% of the men in my life are good. I assume that 90% of men in general are good because I have faith in humanity but about half of my male friends I’ve had throughout my life have threatened harm to themselves…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 06:52 PM
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Yeah, I did make that post. I made it the day I found out my friend got raped :( I don’t feel that extreme generally, I was in a particularly bad mood after an old guy at the bus stop touched my shorts and called me a pretty young girl + finding out my friend got raped. It’s not right I know but after so much mistreatment I resent the fact that men are safer than I am, and that they won’t have to feel like a prey animal when they go outside. I don’t hate them. But I’m jealous.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 06:47 PM
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I found them validating because a lot of women shared experiences I’ve had..
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 04:26 AM
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Yeah. Definitely had a lot of that :(( My lesbian friend was asked for a threesome when she was 13 out with a girlfriend. It surprised me when I started experiencing it because my area is known for being a good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 04:25 AM
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I feel okay being friends with men. I’ve had a few bad experiences with cussing and aggression upon rejection but at least half of the guys I’ve been friends with have been nice and none have done me physical harm. I do feel fear around stranger men though. I never feared men until these experiences with catcalling and then learning how many of my friends have been SA’d. I appreciate your insight and your comment is validating.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 04:21 AM
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Thank you, I thought this sub would be unbiased since it’s purple- I figured it must have both feminists and MRAs
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 04:19 AM
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Thank you for your comment. My parents say the same. If anything my dad is actually more cautious, buying me pepper-spray and telling me to be aware of my surroundings. My mom got catcalled and harassed a lot growing up so she has a more “it’s not gonna kill you, get over it” attitude. Though she still encourages caution and after hearing about my friend’s recent SA she offers to drive me places so I don’t have to walk.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 04:18 AM
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Thank you for your insight. My dad said the same thing. I cant help but worry a bit though. I really don’t want to be bigoted, though I know some level of bias is normal in most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 04:16 AM
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I appreciate your insight manly man. (I love ur caption lol) I definitely don’t think every man is a r*pist. I know 90% of guys r good people. It’s the fact that I don’t know who’s who. Like murder mystery.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 04:15 AM
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I am in therapy for anxiety which probably contributes to the agoraphobia. I did also somewhat have a level of agoraphobia prior to being scared of men specially. I did homeschool for a large portion of my education. So that might be worth mentioning. The supermarket has become a specific fear of mine because I’m often catcalled. The fact that I only go twice a month and it’s a 10 minute walk, yet I have so many experiences that really really scared me so I feel like it’s very likely it will hap…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 04:14 AM
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If it is misandrist, I’m not sure how to fix it. It hasn’t impacted any of my relationships with men but I do feel scared of stranger men. I get catcalled about 1/3 of the times I go out. It feels icky. After so many of my friends have come forward as SA victims I’m not sure how to not feel scared around men I don’t know. Is it okay to be scared of specifically men I do not know or do you consider that misandrist? I know logically most of the men I interact with are good but because I can’t tell…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 04:11 AM
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I am capable of dealing with strangers pretty well I think. I smile at everyone regardless of gender and since my job is a cashier, Ive learnt to maintain conversations pretty easily. I actually really love talking with this one particular dude who does doordash. I don’t feel anxious around him, especially since he’s mentioned having a daughter. I definitely do feel anxiety internally though, around men who I’ve never met. Mainly walking alone when others are not present because that’s mainly wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 04:08 AM
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My father tells me it’s rational and he encourages it because “men are almost always the aggressors and they’re biologically more aggressive”. So I guess that would make him bigoted too. He’s not a feminist and gets annoyed when men are stereotyped but he simultaneously encourages me to be more cautious around male strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 04:02 AM
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It also might be worth mentioning I don’t feel this way around guys my age. Usually they’re shy and polite and mumble something about how I’m pretty and I find that flattering. The words of older men tend to be more dirty. Plus, I feel wierd when older guys are showing interest in me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 03:57 AM
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I suppose that’s true. It’s not really impacting anyone given I treat men and women the same. I still smile at everyone I don’t know regardless of gender and my pepperspray is hidden. I’m worried about the morality behind my thoughts though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 03:53 AM
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Thank you. I appreciate your insight.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 03:51 AM
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I am in therapy for anxiety and depression but I haven’t talked much about this specific topic much. The agoraphobia could be attributed to my anxiety. I feel it around socializing with men and women but I feel a bigger fear of being assaulted when it comes to men. I don’t think I have a bad impression of men as a whole but maybe I am not self aware. I think 90% are good people and my best friend is a guy, but I also think men have a greater capacity to harm me than women, being physically stron…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 03:48 AM
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I don’t. I know 90% of the guys I run into are probably good people- but I can’t tell who’s who and it makes me scared :((
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 03:26 AM
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I’m not worried about it impacting my relationships because I don’t feel like this at all around men I know. At least not ones I’m close to. My dad is actually the one who told me to always palm the pepper-spray especially after he found out what happened to my friend. He said it’s useless if you can’t reach it fast. I know I might be a bit extreme but it’s hard because I have an experience that scares me around 2x a month and given I only go on 20 minute walks 2-5x a month (outside of my job) I…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 03:24 AM
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I figured it would be unbiased since it’s purple
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 03:17 AM
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I think it’s an act of commitment. If you’re going to be lifelong partners, may as well. Since divorce is so much hassle- I see it as a “I plan to stay with you” because nobody plans to get divorced.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 01:52 AM
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