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Hey let’s face it. Kids are expensive and I love my adult children. I was a deeply involved father between coaching, scouts and parenting. These are things I have never regretted. But when I got divorced in my early 50’s there was no way I wanted to accidentally get some romantic partner pregnant. No birth control is 100%, and my ex was the one who was “fixed”in the relationship. I did it 3 weeks after moving out and she gave me crap for it since the surgery showed on our insurance. I just laugh…
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/26 12:05 AM
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You might not like this, but it is time for you to move out, if you can afford it. Get counseling to help you processes your grief and loss of your partner. Make new friends. Join Meetup, I did during my last divorce. Meetup.com. They have tons of interest groups from biking, hiking, pub crawls. Check it out Check out https://www.divorcecare.org/. This another great place to learn about how to navigate divorce. I met some people here I connect with. Good luck
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/25 04:08 AM
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Hey, you kind a know what to do. Your kids come first especially now when they are young. Your first priority is as a father. I learned to only dated women who had children. On top just dad duties, I also coached and did scouts on my off weeks with my boys just to spend additional time them. Good luck
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/25 06:21 PM
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All service based. Thx
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/25 04:08 AM
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Chief Marketing Officer.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/25 04:06 AM
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Buddy work on your mind, spirit and body. Therapy for your mind. Church/ divorce support groups for your spirit plus do things you enjoy. Connect with old friends. Take joy in the simple things like sunsets, flowers what ever. Spend time with family. Body is exercise. Start working on this even if you are still under the same roof. You could also checkout DivorceCare. https://www.divorcecare.org/ Give it time. Grieve the loss, reflect on how you can do better next time. There are two sides to ev…
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/25 01:29 AM
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Thx for the clarity.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/25 08:13 AM
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Your point is valid, thx .
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/25 06:41 AM
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Our finances have never been combined, since we have our own adult children. We both said that was not needed.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/25 06:40 AM
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Thanks for the edit. Shows you where I am right now. Could not change the title, so made it the first line an add on.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/25 06:39 AM
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I know the pain. The only way out of it is through it. You need to focus on one foot in front of the other. There is no magic wand to get through it, just us here, counseling and support. You will survive and come out stronger for it.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/25 07:42 AM
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I know the weight of it all is crushing. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt. Separated from the ex and into new apartment, 5 months later I got laid off from my job when the company got sold. It was rough, I was crushing under the weight, then I remembered one thing. I have no control over the universe or other people. But I do have control over myself. I started a routine that included working out, getting together with friends and looking for a job. I only spent 2-5 hours a day looking, so…
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 08:02 AM
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Welcome to the divorce diet! Went from 230 to 192 during first 8 months in my last divorce. This divorce 6lbs 200-194 today, it has been 14 days since she said she was done. I am sure more weight will fall off, I am 6’4” already thin, can’t afford another 40lb loss, but eating is hard now. No desire for food. Told my son today, I am not cooking for Christmas so we are going out. New one for me on Christmas, in 60 years, but hey up for a new experience I guess.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/25 04:46 AM
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Xanax. Then focus on being a dad. Then work on your mind, spirt and body. Mind= Therapy. Spirt=Religious/Meditation/Similar/ Divorce Support Groups. Body=Exercise ( what you like, walk the dog, gym) . Talk with family and close buddies/friends Keep all of your kids out of it they are to young to be any support. Time, give it time. I am at the start of my third divorce which we said would be our forever marriage. 4 years later she is done .ugh. I am going back to my last playbook to use for help,…
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/25 04:32 AM
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Happy to spark and idea for someone ! Make my gloomy day brighter.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/25 03:32 AM
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Ouch, that sucks. You with no family close, do you have a couple of friends you can lean on during this time? Church? I know how you feel, going through the same. Have you looked in to a group called DivorceCare? They helped me going through my 1st divorce, I am going through another one ugh. Here is the url https://www.divorcecare.org/ Find a group close by, could help. Just take it hour by hour. You are already down the road on this journey. It gets easier. Reflect on what is going well, even …
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/25 02:36 AM
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I hear this a lot from fathers, splitting time with the ex over the kids. Just a thought it might work for some of you. I raised three boys, now all adults. But when I separated from their mother I was already coaching my boys in sports and also a Scout leader so even when my boys were not with me the other 50% of the time, I would still see them a lot during my “off week” So if you want more time, figure out a way to be involved in after school activities and weekend sports through coaching or …
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/25 09:13 PM
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Ya, I’ve heard that before. Need to embrace the knowledge that a lot of women don’t know how to look inward. Is to emotionally for them, to look inward takes reflection. Reflection is less about emotions and more about honesty with yourself and taking ownership of your part. It takes 2 to tango.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/25 03:25 AM
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I have been reflecting back on my STBXW and our relationship. I realized earlier we had some communication issues. Those issues moved from a partner to partner style of communication to Parent-child communication style when she did not like what I was doing in my career, business or financially. I sought help for us. 3 different counselors over 7 years. Either she thought we didn’t need it, she didn’t like the counselor(so I told here to find one for us she liked, she never did), or it was to mu…
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/25 01:14 AM
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Everyone is talking about getting a lawyer which is something you need to do. Your feelings are real. Divorce sucks. My STBXW springs on me on our way to a celebration with her kids she wants to file for divorce and I should expect it soon. I park the car and we start walking to meet her kids, I told her right there on the spot I am out. I ordered an Uber and went home. She went on to her kids. It is painful, you just need to accept the emotions as they come. When she just starts to act like eve…
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/25 06:53 PM
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Dude you said it. “ No contact “! If you have kids only talk about what the kids need. If you have not kids, “No Contact!” They don’t see or care about your point of view. Get a puppy if want to talk with someone who will listen. Plus they will distract you, which is a good thing. Good luck on your journey, I know it is tough, been there got the t-shirt, mug and hat to go with it.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/25 03:31 AM
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You are right, the only one who will believe in you, is you. It just seems it takes forever to make it work.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 07:40 AM
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You are right, everything works out….. over time. I am not sure it is the money, even when I am making money she not happy with what I am doing. I sure hope I am in not in the 4th quarter, I feel I still have about 1/2 the game left. I just need to stay healthy for the 4th quarter. 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 07:37 AM
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Thx, you are right about the abuse. I called her out on it. She thinks this all my fault. I have gotten to know her fist husband, and he told me something just in passing not about her specifically but I saw the patterns in her and our relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 03:43 AM
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Called it love, ugh
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 03:40 AM
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Didn't think about that! Thx
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 03:39 AM
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