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A win is a win. If you can't be happy with a small success, then why would a big success mean anything?
/r/seduction29/03/26 05:24 PM
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100% better looks, women will approach men if they're very good looking. However, personality will keep them coming back.
/r/seduction11/02/26 01:55 AM
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In my experience, shy girls don't initiate. It can be very annoying.
/r/seduction03/02/26 09:25 AM
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Dating profiles are a perfect case of "a picture speaks a thousand words", a picture demonstrates you're doing well, rather than being empty words. The biggest way to demonstrate is travel photos to recognised landmarks, another is at least one dinner photo at a fancy restaurant. Finally, being well dressed and well groomed, demonstrates you've got money/time to look after yourself.
/r/seduction23/10/25 06:32 AM
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Shake My Vuvuzela
/r/seduction21/10/25 06:20 AM
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First thing is body language, specifically normal posture.
/r/seduction21/10/25 04:33 AM
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I'm going to disagree with "men focus on improvement" and suggest most focus on KNOWLEDGE, without even getting to the improvement point. This is like researching all the possible gyms, exercises, diets, and more without actually stepping into a gym to exercise.
/r/seduction28/07/25 10:45 AM
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With everything a little bit of education goes a long way and makes a big difference. You're at the first stage of awareness which is awarness of a gap, and often that comes with awkwardness. When you've picked up some tips on what to do, doing it is far less daunting and eventually it actually becomes exciting and fun when you've got some success. Coincidentally thee's great Instagram channels that teach you how to take good shots with your phone. https://www.instagram.com/mobilephotography_tip…
/r/seduction05/06/25 01:28 AM
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Compliments are free, give them freely. If you're giving them out with conditions attached or wanting something, then it becomes manipulative... then of course they sound forced. I've had many conversations spark just because I've given a good compliment. ~ A good compliment has EVIDENCE, a GREAT compliment has evidence provided by another party. Always aim to say "I like ______ BECAUSE ______". When there's evidence attached, it forces you as the complimenter to give a good compliment and makes…
/r/seduction02/06/25 03:13 PM
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TLDR "What gym membership will give me muscles?" WORKING OUT gives muscles, not gym memberships.
/r/seduction31/03/25 01:25 PM
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I've heard there's lots of sex workers there, and scams to catch unsuspecting tourists.
/r/seduction13/03/25 01:27 PM
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Yes, but don't waste your time with women like that. Firstly, sexual harassment lawsuits are a thing. So if a woman says "no" that's your cue to save your energy. Secondly, why would you want to be with a woman who's always doing the opposite of what she means, that level of communication is EXHAUSTING.
/r/seduction28/02/25 02:42 AM
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I've had sex in my car dozens of times, women often find it especially naughty. Obviously, this works for a "too hot to leave the venue" situations but won't work for longer term relationships. Also it's just nowhere near as comfortable as a bed.
/r/seduction23/01/25 07:12 AM
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You should always work on bettering yourself, dress sense, hygiene, fitness, etc. These will give you net confidence as well as give you more LIFE opportunities. Good dress sense can easily add +2 or more points to your overall attractiveness. You could be an invisible 5 but good hair, clothing and some flair will bring you up to an 8. I wear patterned dress shirts most of the time and women regularly compliment me on them, simple necklaces that cost me $3 on Aliexpress often get women fondling …
/r/seduction23/12/24 04:11 PM
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You've never encountered other men who make fun of those who dance? I feel like it's very common.
/r/seduction28/11/24 11:08 PM
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Dancing is one of the manliest things a guy can do. How many activities can you do, where women approach YOU, want to spend time with you and press their bodies into yours willingly? I find it ridiculous that men who make fun of dancing, are the ones standing in a circle with other men, holding beers trying to be cool. I couldn't dance but went to classes and suffered until I could (dance), not only will you meet many other women, but you'll build your confidence up around them.
/r/seduction28/11/24 05:43 AM
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If you like a thing, and someone else DOESN'T it's no loss to you, you've simply weeded out those uninterested parties. If you do things purely to try and attract others, then that's unattractive...
/r/seduction11/11/24 04:42 AM
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The weird thing I've noticed, is a lot of women stretch...
/r/seduction28/08/24 06:20 PM
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Gooooooooo!
/r/seduction15/08/24 02:22 PM
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If it's getting you numbers then it's working. However you could always learn a dance and you'd be EVEN BETTER.
/r/seduction28/07/24 02:24 PM
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If you think just having a gym membership will get you muscles, then everyone would easily pay the $50 a month. The reality is you need to spend time exercising, HARD and lots of it to actually get muscles. Everyone comes into this community looking for one bit of knowledge that will transform their life, but very few are willing to "work out" and build those new skills. Start small, no investment, just say hello to strangers. Then see if you can start a conversation. Keep building, don't have a…
/r/seduction09/07/24 10:59 AM
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My point is: if you see everything as a DISADVANTAGE, all the advantages in the world will help you.
/r/seduction08/07/24 12:42 PM
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You're telling me you have money, a career, probably your own place and aren't spending all your time on study/assignments? This is a disadvantage???
/r/seduction08/07/24 06:28 AM
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Something I'll add, is never ever tease a woman on her looks, physique or fitness. This is almost a guarantied "strike out" because women have deeply ingrained sensitivity to their appearance.
/r/seduction20/06/24 01:43 PM
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The first thing to identify is your style, what sort of look are you going for and does it work for you? From there I think choosing a shop is much easier. You could go into one of the many jewellery shops in your area, op shops, piercing places or more. Personally, I buy stuff from Etsy, Temu and Op Shops because I like stuff that's unusual.
/r/seduction09/06/24 04:39 AM
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Looking after yourself, shows you have your shit together. If you're dressed down in old clothing, rough hair, and unhealthy looking. You're basically advertising you don't have the energy to look after yourself, let alone survive in a relationship. Someone who has spent looking good, is advertising they've got "extra" resources. Assuming you're a guy, a little bit of extra flair makes a big difference. A nice watch, a necklace, pin or bangle is a small bit of flair that makes you stand out. Wom…
/r/seduction08/06/24 04:27 AM
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I'm sure if there was a demographics breakdown, IG would show up as primarily female users. What women want to see is what sort of life you lead: the things you like to do, the food you like to eat and the resources you have available to you. It's a good idea to cultivate a good IG because women low key love to snoop.
/r/seduction28/03/24 03:01 AM
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No, it's actually against the rules of service on most apps to show guns (it'll automatically get deleted).
/r/seduction07/02/24 03:37 PM
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Part of that challenge is the confidence to accept rejection without being there physically in person. If a person can't do that from the safety of the phone, there's no chance of it happening with cold approaches.
/r/seduction15/10/22 02:23 AM
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The aim is to dress a little above the standard to stand out.
/r/seduction06/10/22 01:34 AM
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Change GF to romantic interest and it makes your sentence more correct.
/r/seduction01/10/22 04:58 AM
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People conflate KNOWLEDGE with EXPERIENCE. Knowing that the gym will get you fit, is not the same as actually spending time at the gym getting fit. ~ I think most people come here for a solve all pill, take away knowledge without turning it into action that'll actually improve their lives.
/r/seduction22/09/22 05:26 PM
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If you're uploading photos under "dating" you'll get an attractive score as one of the three options. Furthermore, I'd suggest limiting the viewers to only your target sex as it's less likely to colour the results. In my opinion anything less than 7 is non competitive, people will want an attractiveness score of 8 or more. A profile is something that should be kept updated, as changing and updating the profile seems to change how the algorithm responds (getting seen as engagement/active profile)…
/r/seduction19/09/22 02:42 AM
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Was this an episode of Seinfeld?
/r/seduction05/09/22 03:06 AM
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The biggest thing is to find something with music you enjoy and classes that you can attend. I made this playlist to show the most common social dances out there, Salsa/Bachata or Rock'n Roll sound like they might suit you, because you don't NEED a partner to dance with. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL6g2VuaeS1I4iWpcZWu2uH33h6DjChGUM Once you've gotten proficient (takes about 2-3 years) it'll really open entire new worlds of social events and communities.
/r/seduction14/08/22 07:45 AM
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You can't expect free advice from a stranger to be the magic pill that fixes your situation.
/r/seduction22/06/22 05:26 AM
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Ooh, nice colour grading.
/r/seduction09/06/22 07:41 PM
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Remember that the photographer is working for you, but they can't take the right photos if you don't tell them what you want. This is why I suggest reading the following two guides, and forcing any hired photographer to do the same. Read this guide first is my suggestion: https://fixthephoto.com/how-to-take-a-good-profile-picture.html Then this: https://www.zirby.co/blog/online-dating-photo-tips The best photographers to look for would be Instagram photographers who have great people shots. It's…
/r/seduction09/06/22 07:39 PM
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This behaviour is unfair to you and callous of her. If her life is too busy to be dating, then she shouldn't be booking out your time which could be better spent on someone who HAS the energy to date. Set your boundary, put a time lockout and leave it in her court. "Hey it's obvious you don't have the time to date right now, how about you give it a month and contact me if things change".
/r/seduction03/06/22 06:38 AM
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It's not the subject but the energy and the ability to sense their shifts in attention that matters. My first point of call is to know enough about body language to sense uncomfortable posture and fidgetting. For example many men think a smile is a good sign but a tight lipped smile, with no teeth showing and thin lips is a polite uncomfortable signal Second, people naturally drop 'seeds" in their conversations about stuff they'd like to talk about. You might be talking about politics and they r…
/r/seduction10/05/22 11:41 PM
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Someone who walks around with a slump, shuffling along or dragging their feet, hands in their pockets, avoids eye contact, looks at the ground while walking and takes up very little space. Perhaps their face buried in their phone while walking or have their headphones in to isolate themselves. I'll go further and say someone who moves like this gets bullied, and is the target of criminals. I have a very clear image in my head because I used to be like this.
/r/seduction06/05/22 12:48 PM
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It's almost always a body language thing. Would you describe yourself as high energy/purpose driven/quick moving/get out of my way, when out and about or... I'm living my life/daydreaming/meandering/go with the flow/doesn't matter what happens/whatever/I'm tired when moving?
/r/seduction06/05/22 05:09 AM
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There's posts on each of the variables and what they mean in some of their "blog posts", trust is the metric you aim for if you're aiming for a relationship, however "attractiveness" is the metric you need to maximize for likes and matches in the first place. If you feel like you're hitting the max for attractiveness by doing the typical: Smile, look at camera, dress nice and groom, then it might be time to do the more drastic changes like working out, dieting, changing haircuts, changing fashio…
/r/seduction06/05/22 01:59 AM
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So if you're talking specifically about ATTRACTIVE I'm going to suggest learning to social dance. Not only is it super attractive, the confidence, social aspect, physical health, mental benefits and more are all huge gains for a single hobby. Once you start becoming good, you'll have the opportunity to move through out the communities, ensuring a steady influx of meeting potential partners.
/r/seduction05/05/22 06:52 AM
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I like warhammer, painting miniatures, playing dating sims and collecting antique water pumps. Why don't girls like me?
/r/seduction04/05/22 02:25 PM
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This is a situation where the issue isn't "what" but "how", do yourself a favour and record yourself and record yourself in a camera. For 30 seconds stare into the camera, notice how much detail you can notice about the lens. Then for the next 30 seconds relax your gaze and imagine expanding your vision so you can notice as much around your periphery while still looking at the camera. I'm review you should notice a stark difference between the two. When talking to someone be relaxed and use the …
/r/seduction27/04/22 06:57 AM
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Suggest NOT going to fancy dinners until you know them (like 3 dates in first). Also remember your dad comes from another time, when dating had different expectations. First, you're probably not in the position to be throwing that sort of money around? Plus the expectation being set could be an issue. Second, you shouldn't be PAYING for a persons attention.
/r/seduction25/04/22 07:42 AM
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Have you posted for a profile a profile review? So many ways to self sabotage, from red flag prompts, to poor photo selection and bad ordering.
/r/seduction21/04/22 12:52 AM
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100% this, if you're not getting matches, then the profile sucks. It's pretty common to be completely blind to the vibe you're putting out in your profile.
/r/seduction21/04/22 12:49 AM
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1: You won't want to make plans and be stood up, better to allow that resistance to be resolved before you waste a night. 2: When we think we earned something and it get taken away, we want it more.
/r/seduction16/04/22 12:09 AM
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I'm a pretty decent Argentine Tango Dancer, but I can also dance enough Lindy and Forro to have fun. Learning Bachata now as well.
/r/seduction04/04/22 04:17 PM
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Dancing: it's made me more social, extremely popular with both men and women. I've literally visited new cities and become popular just by visiting social dance events. I'm 100% sure I can visit any city in the world, look up social dance events and make a group of friends that night, I've danced with a lot of women I didn't even share a language with! Volunteering: there's a huge connection when working closely with a team of like minded individuals, you literally feel an emotional crash after …
/r/seduction04/04/22 01:51 PM
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Are you genuinely in a position to date? You don't want to make more friends Socialising drains you Your hobbies sound like solo activities. What are you expecting people dating you to do... sit around and watch you play chess all day? These are people with their own lives to live, it's unrealistic to believe someone would want to subject themselves to this... ~ Selling an introvert's life, I'd want to get AMAZING and maybe artistic photos. Showing the comfortable, peaceful life. Those photos (a…
/r/seduction03/04/22 01:22 PM
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Because most guys FAIL with online dating. If you fail to distinguish yourself, then you are effectively competing, and that only works if you're the best. That last thing you want is to to be like them
/r/seduction29/03/22 07:46 AM
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My tip for this question is to talk about responsibilities, because inevitably most jobs sound boring if you just talk about the title in most cases. I work as a mechanic in a dealership vs I maintain a fleet of vehicles for a company ~ However the other posters are right, this is social/conversational lubricant and is really more important for you to weave/lead the conversation to something more interesting and fun before the (typically boring) conversation burns out.
/r/seduction28/03/22 06:03 PM
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If she is avoiding eye contact when you're talking to her, I see that as a BAD sign overall. What are the signs she's trying to flirt with you?
/r/seduction24/03/22 11:32 PM
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You can't meet people hanging around the home, and if you could a loners life isn't going ro be very interesting to them. Plus getting out and about is important mentally.
/r/seduction22/03/22 12:53 AM
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If they're not clear, then you need to learn how to read them. Body Language by Barabara and Allan Pease is a great place to start.
/r/seduction16/03/22 01:53 PM
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Doesn't matter if male/female, there's a lot of hoops to jump through before "personality" matters.
/r/seduction13/03/22 01:10 AM
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There's pretty good guides out there on how to dominate online dating, but honestly so few people read them it's sad. This represents one of the best guides out there: https://www.zirby.co/blog/tinder-profile-guide In a nutshell it's about knowing what photos work and how to get them and actually putting in the work to get them. Online dating platforms are visual platforms, not having good photos makes as much sense as having a car that can't go from A to B.
/r/seduction12/03/22 04:22 PM
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There's plenty of dancing classes and locations all over most cities. I'd find one with a "free beginner class" and social dancing and start there. I made this playlist of common social dances you can research. A Facebook or google search in your area will find plenty of great opportunities. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL6g2VuaeS1I4iWpcZWu2uH33h6DjChGUM
/r/seduction08/03/22 11:20 AM
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To be honest, I've already done a hilarious amount of experimenting with Hinge, CMB and Bumble. I've worked out plenty of small improvements but I'm always interested in seeing how other people experience things. For example, I ran my profile with the same opening photo but on the second experiment, I trimmed the top of the photo (so the top of my head was closer to the edge of the photo) and it gave me 1-2 more likes a day.
/r/seduction06/03/22 06:41 AM
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You've only proven to yourself what we already know... What would be useful is if you could focus down on smaller bits of information that changed your results either better or worse. What words in your profile get more matches? How much does "travel" sharply increase your matches? How much does "cooking" What photos increase your matches? Do certain activities help? Portraits? With groups? Dogs Cats If you want this information to be useful you have to start being exacting and recording informa…
/r/seduction05/03/22 10:59 AM
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Eye contact is attractive
/r/seduction01/03/22 10:37 PM
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You won't exist until you do SOMETHING. Just standing there existing isn't ever going to be enough. Just ask a question based on something you noticed about them that day, "why you wearing a red tie? What's that keychain mean? Do you recommend that book?"
/r/seduction01/03/22 10:32 PM
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Think of it as a compliment, this is usually a woman's way of rationalising the events. You're great at escalating!
/r/seduction27/02/22 05:06 AM
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Just because you have the ingredients to make a cake, doesn't mean you have a cake. Know how is involved.
/r/seduction22/02/22 01:18 AM
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Hands up if you're going to argue that looks DON'T matter? Is it the end of the world if you're not good looking? No, unfortunately you have to try HARDER than your good looking peers.
/r/seduction16/02/22 07:46 AM
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It depends on how you wear it, some people with baby faces need facial har to make them look half decent. Others can't grow facial hair to save their life (spotty, uneven, wild). My general rule is, if you're not going to style it, then don't have it.
/r/seduction15/02/22 01:26 PM
1

First rejection then move on, because unlike the movies you don't look romantic when asking so many times, you look desperate.
/r/seduction15/02/22 01:38 AM
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I wasn't sure if she was interested, so didn't pursue further.
/r/seduction14/02/22 06:07 AM
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SOME effort is better than NO EFFORT. You're straight up being defeated at the starting point, it's like saying you want to lift 200 lbs but because you can't, you won't even start. You gotta build up first, you can't jump to your goal in your first try. ~ Initially I started with photos I pulled from Facebook and other friends, but then I used a tripod and took photos, until I got several good ones, eventually I replaced even those with better photos. It wasn't overnight (though it is possible …
/r/seduction13/02/22 07:10 AM
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You start with one, then move onto another, then another. Do it as many times as it takes to find something you enjoy or want to be good at. Personally, I focus on stuff I'm bad at (or have no experience in). My suggestion is to focus on stuff that gets you out and social, dancing, comedy, public speaking or such.
/r/seduction05/02/22 05:27 PM
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I'm going to point out, ALL Interactions from a cold approach are meaningful. If you DON'T approach, you get NOTHING If you DO approach and fail, you've LEARNT SOMETHING. If you DO approach and succeed, you've gained a hell of a lot!
/r/seduction23/01/22 02:07 PM
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You HAVE to give yourself space to heal (at least in my experience)
/r/seduction08/01/22 02:43 AM
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Don't bash your head against a wall hoping for one or the other to break. While tonnes of courage to stomach rejection is important, the point is to build up skill and resilience for the ultimate goal.
/r/seduction03/01/22 01:11 PM
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Generally a sign of trust or commaderie. However the context is important.
/r/seduction19/12/21 12:59 PM
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You set your boundaries with clear consequence if she crosses them. I'm surprised she would do these sorts of things without understanding boundaries, morals, and consent. You don't enter into a relationship with the intent/hope to mould them into the person you want, that's manipulative. "Look, I'm not here for you to manipulate. I'm not a project for you to fix and if you keep this up, I'm going to leave."
/r/seduction25/11/21 04:12 PM
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Photos with women are more likely to sink your profile than help. Women are going to assume exes, compare themselves and second guess. Better to avoid than use.
/r/seduction18/11/21 03:05 PM
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My shortcut is to ask your female friends to take photos of you while you're out and about. A large majority (at least women in the 20-30s age region) have a solid understanding of Instagram and how to take good photos. There are a lot of good phones with good cameras, you don't need a DSLR but it will make a difference. Funnily enough, most of my friends have been solidly enthusiastic about helping me get photos for my dating profile.
/r/seduction15/11/21 11:22 AM
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Many of my friends are happy to lend me their unsuccessful tools/toys/equipment, you can buy secondhand, you can volunteer (emergency services/animal shelters/event groups), you can hike, you can board game, you can join meetup groups, you can take photos using whatever phone you have, you can join reading groups, there are so many FREE activities out there it's crazy. I've been thinking of joining my local men's shed to learn metalwork and woodwork, they only ask $5 to cover tea/materials.
/r/seduction03/11/21 07:03 AM
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For every excuse you create for the possibilties you can have, is another reason women won't want to date you. Be the person people aspire to.
/r/seduction03/11/21 06:12 AM
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Have to agree, no need to mention it or talk about it UNTIL you're at the point you're going to have sex. For many women it's a redflag because it means "why were women avoiding you - there must be a good reason it's not worked out" Just so you know, many men seem to have their first sexual encounter around their mid twenties or even mid thirties, not all of us grew up with a good social upbringing. So you're not experiencing any unusual, even if people seem to pretend that it is. My suggestion …
/r/seduction29/10/21 12:27 AM
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Maybe she just takes the plane ticket, ditches OP and does her own thing the whole trip.
/r/seduction28/10/21 05:50 PM
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Have you already had sex? If it's just sex then how much is it to pay for a sex worker? Most of this tells me it's a bad idea but honestly it sounds like you've already made up your mind.
/r/seduction27/10/21 05:04 PM
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It's additive and should supplement your primary social networks (if you don't have any then I suggest you do something about it). The biggest thing is to do it RIGHT, lots of people I see just get 6 shots of themselves and bomb because they don't understand how to market themselves. These are three awesome guides for building a profile. A little bit of reading will save months of frustration. The framework: https://www.zirby.co/blog/tinder-profile-guide What makes a good dating photo: https://f…
/r/seduction24/10/21 03:27 AM
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You left a whole bunch of data without giving explanation for what they mean. What does 6/19 MEAN??? Got number? Had date? Likes dogs? Stores toilet paper flap towards wall? Eggs with toast?
/r/seduction23/10/21 02:47 PM
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I wouldn't say it's "normal" but it's ok, you like what you like and if both people are consenting, that's fine.
/r/seduction17/10/21 02:08 PM
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It's called the "push pull", you flirt by saying something nice you appreciate about them, but then retract by telling a joke. It gets people confused as to whether they actually are being flirted or not, but the joke relieves the tension of the flirt and prevents them from having an opportunity to react. So you have a person who's flustered by compliments, confused as to whether you actually like them, but can't stop thinking about you and will begin to wonder why they can't get you out of thei…
/r/seduction12/10/21 04:53 PM
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Only on very rare occasions have I found women to NOT to give off small signs they're interested, that being ones who are very socially awkward or perhaps on the spectrum. Honestly most men are just plain oblivious to the bodylanguage in my opinion.
/r/seduction07/10/21 04:51 PM
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I would argue that the 1-10 scale does exist, because if you mention it - pretty much everyone knows what you mean. I don't understand how or why you think people measuring things differently is an issue. Like most estimates it gives a BALLPARK figure. Similar systems are in use for measuring pain, success, good, evil, faith, talent, long, short, hard, easy, tasty, etc. We could easily argue all of these mean nothing or accept this is a person's ballpark measurement and compare it to our own mod…
/r/seduction03/10/21 04:38 PM
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There's definitely an "I wanna fuck" look, the best I can describe it is: a distinctive head tilt, where she peeks at you from the extreme corner of her eyes, always something with the mouth but it differs from person to person. These are a few examples I was able to find as reference. Example 1 Example 2 Example 3
/r/seduction30/09/21 02:01 PM
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Depends on the man. I think it'd be deceptive to think at X years anyone magically gains the skills, advancement and confidence needed to be successful. Some people peak early, some take time, some "lose it" and others NEVER become successful. It's a constant pursuit to be the best you can be, to constantly learn and APPLY, to suffer then succeed. You don't "get it" you fucking EARN IT.
/r/seduction29/09/21 09:11 AM
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Firstly you'll have to get over your fear/dislike of having your photo taken. Chances are you'll also be awkward for a while until you practice being relaxed, happy and can pose nice for photos. You don't need an expensive photographer but you will need to have a decent camera (many phones have good cameras now or you can ask a friend). So that's really not a biggie. The good thing is you don't need to get all your photos at once, you'll need to build them up one by one until you have a complete…
/r/seduction27/09/21 08:14 PM
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First thing might be therapy, pretty everyone has unaddressed issues that gets in their way of having positive interactions. Another thing that'll improve your confidence and comfort is to learn how to dance a partner dance.
/r/seduction26/09/21 04:58 PM
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I'm just going to point out that dating anyone with the intent of changing them is morally and logically flawed. Be the best you can be, either in or outside of a relationship. Being in a relationship should not be the end goal, one's personal motivations should extend much further than that. The reason anyone should want to be the best is because that simply means a better quality of life and the freedom of choice.
/r/seduction24/09/21 01:16 AM
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Maybe instead of booking something, go for an immediate short date (coffee, single drink at bar, food at McDonalds). This'll force some commitment and get both of you to realise if there's actually something.
/r/seduction01/09/21 12:54 AM
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Some people simply don't like to cuddle
/r/seduction20/07/21 06:42 PM
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Not even most, a small minority ruin it for the rest of us.
/r/seduction11/07/21 12:27 PM
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This is the playlist of common social dances around the world, if you learn one of these, you'll find people and events everywhere you go, Nothing beats landing in a foreign place, looking up social events, catching a cab and dancing within 5 mins of entering the venue XD Find something with music you love, seems like something you'd be comfortable with and looks like something you'd enjoy. Sometimes you'll have to try a few different schools because not every class/teacher is the right fit. Som…
/r/seduction11/07/21 04:59 AM
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Strongly suggest you learn to dance, many men have grown up avoiding dance because of reasons but the confidence and benefits of knowing how to dance is pretty healing. You'll be more comfortable in your body You'll meet new people You can travel the world and immediately make friends or find events You'll become comfortable around women and realise they're just people Approaching and talking to women is super easy If you persist you'll eventually have people approaching you and trying to start …
/r/seduction11/07/21 04:19 AM
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Stop, she now knows your intentions and is INTENTIONALLY stringing you along. She's ok with getting what she wants from you and has no real desire to take it further. Think of it like a job position, "if you ACT as the manager, we'll think about promoting you". Meanwhile, you're doing everything the manager is doing without the monetary benefits. Even if it's not at the capacity the company expects, they're still getting a massive benefit in commitment, time, work and energy. Don't fall for the …
/r/seduction11/07/21 03:33 AM
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The big issue is some people make it awkward or even dangerous if the other person says no (assault, insults, etc). Obviously, don't be a dick when rejected and extract one's self with grace, the less it means when rejected, the less perceived pain as well.
/r/seduction11/07/21 02:59 AM
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As mentioned, you've done well for yourself and have permission to enjoy yourself. Your success is a part of you and of course women will be attracted to you for it. This is where you'll need to sit down and write out a shopping list of values you think are important, then work backwards to identify how they'll manifest in a person. A few ideas I can offer are: If you ever message/call your date/girlfriend and they tell you they're in an area where you know there's a good food/snack, suggest the…
/r/seduction09/07/21 06:57 PM
2

It's never a date until you ask for a date.
/r/seduction07/07/21 11:07 AM
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Eh, if you're interested in her stare at her for a bit. If she's interested she'll stare at you back, hold your gaze, smile/preen then break it. If she's skitish, quick about her gaze, confused or doesn't show signs of attraction then it's a no go.
/r/seduction03/07/21 04:52 AM
2

Sounds like you found your gold mine, three lays in a single night is kinda ridiculous XD
/r/seduction29/06/21 03:33 AM
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Agree, quit porn. It really fucks up the sex life
/r/seduction26/06/21 10:19 PM
1

The difficult task is being able to follow up with a joke to release tension after a compliment. The true mastery of flirting is knowing how to compliment (pull) and then joke afterwards (push) to keep people guessing if you're flirting with them or not. It keeps makes people overthink your actions but also stops things from getting over the top too, (falling into the all too dangerous creepy vibe). https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0kaR6-MIV8k&ab\_channel=CharismaonCommand
/r/seduction26/06/21 09:59 AM
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Ultimately, you gotta work with the strengths you have. The question is whether you're in situations where you're meeting people you like and starting conversations with them?
/r/seduction26/06/21 09:48 AM
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There are situations where it can be. The biggest one is when it prevents them from "acting normal", like answering questions, shutting down, not showing any signs of interest, or figurativevely turning into a piece of wood.
/r/seduction21/06/21 03:34 PM
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It's not hard to understand why right? Experience is subjective, we could be having dinner together and I could love it and you could hate it. Same place, same time but our values/attitudes/etc could completely change things. On top of it some people lack self awareness or are incapable of finding the root causes for their success/failures, even more are terrible at describing the steps they took to succeed. As with everything, we need to find the advice that best matches our experience. My sugg…
/r/seduction20/06/21 02:08 AM
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It's not a red flag but it is an oddity, it really boils down to the "why", lots of genuine circumstances can get in the way of successful dating but there's also red flag reasons too.
/r/seduction18/06/21 04:56 AM
11

An obstacle you've imagined for yourself :p She literally has no one else to compare to.
/r/seduction18/06/21 04:50 AM
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You'll be 40 yourself one day and you're forgetting that dance is a global language. You'll meet people at clubs, halls, festivals, cities and more all over the world. I'll litterally visit a new area, look up events, turn up to them not knowing anyone, make eye contact with a lady and be dancing with them on the floor in about 30 seconds. You're seriously going to freak out over women being 40 stop you from trying classes? These women probably have daughters, friends, nieces and more, who are y…
/r/seduction18/06/21 01:31 AM
1

Agreed, it's a great feeling to be a good dancer!
/r/seduction16/06/21 04:53 PM
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Little steps Find what classes are available in your area Find out times and costs Go to classes, PERSIST WITH CLASSES Practice at home Start going to socials (you can usually start after 3 months) You'll be decent after a year, very good in about 3. It doesn't matter how good/bad you are, classes will take you from total zero to as far as you're willing to grow. All that matters is you have the will and can swallow the ego, EVERY PERSON GOES THROUGH THIS.
/r/seduction16/06/21 04:52 PM
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I wouldn't lie about it, because there's two outcomes. You suck at sex and girl is turned off by you (and you will suck because it's your first time) Girl realises you're a virgin and is turned off by you because she realises you were lying to her or being deceptive. This isn't something you blurt out on first date, more when you're getting intimate and reaching that level of intimacy (leading to sex). Just going to put it out there, women really don't care. They might if they're after a hookup …
/r/seduction14/06/21 06:14 AM
2

"If you buy the first round, I'll buy the second" It makes them commit and you recognise yourself as the one with status/power. If you buy first you appear weaker and there's every opportunity for them to just take the drink and walk away. They refuse and it's obvious they were only trying to play you anyway.
/r/seduction13/06/21 03:54 PM
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It's not the muscles, it's the fitness and the mentality of improving oneself/taking care of oneself (I would argue).
/r/seduction12/06/21 04:59 AM
1

Eh, if it works. Use whatever advantages you have available to you.
/r/seduction10/06/21 01:41 PM
1

Imagine a world where all our dating is via ONLINE DATING -_-
/r/seduction10/06/21 09:15 AM
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You can diagnose yourself using WebMD You can repair your car yourself using Youtube You can retile your kitchen using webpages You can get free exercises from TikTok instead of a gym trainer ​ Would you be motivated? Would you get the results you want? Would you get the expert advice that will help you succeed? Would you get the correct, tailored plan you need? Would you get the expert opinion that will work for you? There's a reason why we don't do our own plumbing. Sometimes it's just easier …
/r/seduction05/06/21 12:33 PM
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As an Asian man with Asian parents... I don't want MORE Asian parents XD
/r/seduction05/06/21 08:30 AM
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I think you should draw up one of those flow chart diagrams, it'd be a perfect situation for it. Some people have a clear idea where they stand on this, this post isn't for them. Others have trouble drawing the line and I totally agree that shitty dates or ones where the woman is obviously trying to dine/dash should be split. Thought this was a valid and useful post!
/r/seduction03/06/21 10:00 AM
1

I think this covers a good many basics besides "a good photo", you need your photos to sell a fun lifestyle. https://zirby.co/blog/online-dating-photo-tips#strong-and-weak-link
/r/seduction29/05/21 06:04 AM
1

I always recommend "Body Language: By Barbara and Allan Pease" the insights will help you pick up on clues it sounds like you're missing.
/r/seduction25/05/21 04:04 AM
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Most of my sex has come from making out, I'm not even sure if I actually intended most of the time to go as far as it does but just the distraction of kissing and groping that seems to end up with the women too excited to keep their clothes on. My suggestion is to just start kissing, progress to kisses on the neck, nibbling on the neck/ear, keep going and see where you end up. Another alternative is to tell the lady to lie down and you'll give her a massage. Straddle her back and put some of you…
/r/seduction25/05/21 04:01 AM
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Dance of Argentine Tango 6 years, women LOVE DANCERS. Not only will you have a group of friends anywhere in the world (you can travel the world and visit a social dance for instantaneous friends) but you'll also become super comfortable with women. Salsa isn't the only dance out there (there are many), so my suggestion is look for something that seems fun, with music you'll enjoy so the learning process is enjoyable and effortless. Here's a playlist of the common social dances you'll find around…
/r/seduction24/05/21 01:46 PM
1

I don't know man, I can't tell. She might be interested.
/r/seduction24/05/21 08:34 AM
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You don't need to be the "Alpha", being in a group helps but if you're all just tripping over each other you might be hurting your chances more than helping. The irony is if you're all fighting for dominance, it actually shows how weak you are, needing perception and acceptance. In my opinion someone who's confident doesn't need to demonstrate it, but there's more than one way to show confidence. It kinda depends on where you are and what you're doing. I'm always a proponent for knowing how to d…
/r/seduction24/05/21 06:01 AM
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My favourite is "Body Language: Barbara and Allan Pease" Entertaining and easily digestable
/r/seduction24/05/21 05:18 AM
1

I suggest you hop on Youtube and find any channel where women review Tinder profiles. Pretty much 90% of women vomit when they see the topless selfie, it's so ridiculously the majority it shouldn't be ignored imho. However, I am of the belief that people should gear their profiles to their niche, rather than making them generic.
/r/seduction23/05/21 02:17 AM
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Not a woman, but I can tell you that women straight up swipe left/skip on profiles with topless selfies in them. Occasionally you might get woman who are specifically after sex based on your topless selfies (which may be what you want) but few who are interested in you as a person or after a relationship. Unless you're wearing baggy clothing then your muscles will probably be obvious anyways, but it's also in a combination with how you move and your body language. Definitely head over to /malefa…
/r/seduction22/05/21 03:57 PM
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Screams insta D-bag
/r/seduction22/05/21 03:46 PM
2

For some people, that talking and interaction is what they need.
/r/seduction22/05/21 05:55 AM
7

Girls love him, guys hate him. This one weird trick has gotten hundreds of matches!
/r/seduction21/05/21 02:04 AM
2

Take up hip hop classes, most of it is choreo but individually you'll learn moves, that if you can use as pieces you'll be able to look like you can dance. You can also get away with shuffling if you're dedicated enough to practice heaps and every day. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3t4upk2NthU At least of dance is 70% confidence, the last 30% musicality/technique. As I mentioned before, if you're on a higher energy level, people gravitate to you. ​ I think EVERY man should know how to dance, I…
/r/seduction17/05/21 02:55 AM
10

Two tips If you're on a higher energy level than them, they'll gravitate to you If you know how to dance, they will hunt you down I'm not in the night clubbing scene, but I'm pretty sure if I wanted to kiss a woman I'd go the path of flirting with her physically. Eye contact Increasing levels of touch Waiting for mirroring, then slowing down the dance into something more intimate when I see it (isolating out distractions) Eye contact that flits from staring into their eyes then staring at their …
/r/seduction16/05/21 01:20 PM
1

The biggest issues with breaking this rule are when: You see this person often and it gets awkward When knowledge of the relationship can lead to legal problems like harassment, quid pro, assault, rape allegations, favouritism. You're in a position of authority If these issues don't apply to you (and it sounds like it might not) then maybe you might be isolated from the issues.
/r/seduction16/05/21 02:32 AM
1

Nothing to do with age, it's when you're willing to get out of your head and focus on your existing qualities that matter.
/r/seduction15/05/21 08:08 AM
2

So here's a playlist of the common social dances around the world. Right now you can look at dances you like and research clubs/schools/events in your areas. Some dances even have basics you can start practising via online videos before you even start. Once the options/chances become available hopefully you can come flying out the gates with all the other dance starved people. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL6g2VuaeS1I4iWpcZWu2uH33h6DjChGUM
/r/seduction14/05/21 09:21 AM
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If you're able to in your city, start learning a social dance. This'll have you meeting people and it will (in my experience) will completely melt away most fears around being with/around beautiful women. Take up some comedy, public speaking, theatre courses until you're speaking confidently and can dance with conversations.
/r/seduction14/05/21 08:52 AM
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Body Language by Barbara and Allan Pease Simple, entertaining and useful. It changed my life in many ways.
/r/seduction09/05/21 03:18 AM
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Improving my body language has been the biggest life changing adjustment I've ever implemented. I don't specifically remember when I consciously changed it (probably slowly after years of martial arts) but when I read a book about body language I became acutely aware of things I HAD been doing in high school and why I got bullied so much. Basically, I used to walk with my head down, shoulders slumped, hands in pocket and shuffle around. Now I stand tall, keep my head up, my eyes scanning my surr…
/r/seduction09/05/21 03:01 AM
2

Rules of the Game I reccommend.
/r/seduction29/04/21 01:28 PM
1

Bro I love this!
/r/seduction29/04/21 05:10 AM
1

2 would be good if you cropped it, relaxed body language, smile towards the camera, nice lighting, slight tilt in body to add visual interest. Crop to just above the knees, so it's a torso and face shot. Upload to photofeeler.com and see how people rate it. I didn't give you a link so you could keep asking me because I'm one person, I gave you the tools so you could become self sufficient. You could have feedback from 30 people in a few hours.
/r/seduction29/04/21 02:53 AM
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I've done my own experiments with my photos and I've done the exact same pose/setup/etc with the only difference being a smile. The reaction of viewers is night and day. The "same" picture with me smiling gets 8+ (50 votes) points in all categories, while one doing my "stoic" face gets me 5-6 points. This was an experiment where I was rated by women, so something to take pretty seriously. Seriously, post your photo up on photofeeler.com and you'll get feedback pretty quick. It's an invaluable to…
/r/seduction28/04/21 10:01 AM
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My opinion is not good, the only good photo in your set is the third one because it has you doing something interesting, is well shot and makes you look cool. First shot is awkward and does not make you look attractive. Your expression is too intense, conceited and front on. The second shot is even more awkward, wtf is the story behind the stick. It MIGHT get some questions but generally, it makes you look pale and unhealthy due to the light. The tip is to think that every photo, should be desig…
/r/seduction28/04/21 06:21 AM
3

There's a few ways, the sexiest way is to build anticipation. If I was in your shoes, I'd put it on underneath your clothing and send cheeky close up snaps of only part of the clothing all through the day and send them to him in anticipation. Don't let him see more than parts of it at a time. If you're really cheeky, while out on a date you can flash him parts of it, like unbutton part of your top and show him while at dinner. Drop a fork and ask him to pick it up and flash underneath your skirt…
/r/seduction27/04/21 09:52 AM
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I have an activity to share from when I did my public speaking course, one of the things they train is to do speeches without involuntary movement, so all speaking during a speech is voluntary. What this means you can remove all your nervous ticks and use your body language purposefully to tell stories on stage (and more). Setup a camera (or mirror) and stand with your back against a wall, make sure you have as much of your body against the wall as you can, but the most important parts are head,…
/r/seduction26/04/21 02:28 AM
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You can't smile with your eyes, it's only possible through actual happiness because those muscles aren't consciously engaged. Just aim to be in a good mood and higher energy than the people you're with.
/r/seduction26/04/21 02:09 AM
2

But the titjobs where the girl lets you thrust into her mouth or when she licks your tip is hot, hot, hot!
/r/seduction23/04/21 05:56 PM
6

Has she given you a reason why? I know some women are self conscious or feel like oral is really "dirty" so getting them somewhat comfortable with the idea might help by reciprocation.
/r/seduction23/04/21 05:55 PM
6

My previous girl loved to give head and oh my lord was she good at it. I never asked what she liked about it, but it was always mindblowing. I always consider it basic manners to wash, trim and clean around that area. If I was expecting her to do it, I'd visit the bathroom and wash my privates just in case. I really enjoyed giving her oral too mind you.
/r/seduction23/04/21 03:22 PM
4

If it bugs you, my man gave a way to deal with it.
/r/seduction23/04/21 05:56 AM
0

Initially, but it gets easier the more you do it. Driving a car, going to school, cooking, going out at night, swimming and bunch of other things were scary once remember.
/r/seduction09/04/21 06:33 AM
2

Darn, would've been nice to hear a happy ending for this one. Glad you mustered up the courage, that takes balls.
/r/seduction07/04/21 01:23 AM
3

That guy was just pure dickhead, good thing he announced that to the world so everyone in the bar knew to avoid him. If you've been working hard at your weight, good on you. Not everyone will support you on your journey but remember you're not doing it for them. If you had stayed home that night, you wouldn't have a great story to tell people. Now you have an embarrassing story to share if the conversation ever turns across dickheads/bars/weightloss and people will love you for sharing your stor…
/r/seduction07/04/21 01:21 AM
1

I know, most men have been shamed into NOT dancing because other men couldn't get past their own shame. Learning to dance has been one of the most life changing experiences I've ever had. I consider myself shy but when I'm out dancing I have no problems asking any stranger to dance with me. For myself it completely moved my perspective of women, it humanised them and I stopped being afraid of them. When you get good at dancing it's healing, you make eye contact, give them a nod to the dance floo…
/r/seduction07/04/21 12:29 AM
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A basic salsa, bachata, kizomba class will get you on the floor but if you can persist, through all the awkwardness the reward is worth it. Knowing how to dance is hugely confidence building, gives you a great excuse to approach and when you get good enough (about year 2) you'll have people approaching you for dances. Watch videos 1,4,5 for examples of mentioned dances but feel free to check out the other ones. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL6g2VuaeS1I4iWpcZWu2uH33h6DjChGUM
/r/seduction06/04/21 07:46 PM
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