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It also sounds like you're pretty boring I can understand why you'd say this based on what I've written, but we do have fun together and I do consider myself a fun guy by nature. However, you're totally correct in that, since starting MRP, I've drifted towards becoming an emotionless robot, since I initially thought that was what was meant by STFU. This is something I've been working on rectifying. she's equally boring but also a leech, and you do all the work - cleaning, cooking, shopping, iron…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 05:29 PM
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OYS 6 30yo, 5’10, 162lbs, with SO 8 years, no kids. Previous OYS Read - NMMNG, MMSLP, BoP, MAP, HoA’s 1st year of OYS, TRM Reading - Atomic Habits MAP - I’ve been ill this week, so I used the time to create a spreadsheet to keep track of all the books/posts I’ve read since starting MRP, some lessons learned from each, and the books/posts which are still on my reading list. I ended up re-reading a lot of posts, and having the lessons all written out in one place has helped to solidify some ideas …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 11:18 AM
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OYS 5 30yo, 5’10, 165lbs, with SO 8 years, no kids. Previous OYS Read - NMMNG, MMSLP, BoP, MAP, HoA’s 1st year of OYS Reading - The Rational Male Health & Fitness - Switched to 4 day/week full body split. Haven’t done a split like this for a while, so I’ll be able to reassess my strength on the main lifts. I’m doing Krav Maga once a week and football once a week for cardio. Pulled a muscle playing football on the weekend, so I’ll be taking it easy at the gym this week. Sticking to 2500 kcal/day.…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 08:35 AM
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Some guys look good with a bald or shaved head, but I'm not one of them. Same here. I'm certain I'd look a lot worse without hair. Have you experienced any sides since the first few weeks?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 06:05 PM
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Well said. My retarded ass needs to sit and think about this for a while. Thanks for your insight.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 03:39 PM
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If you're doing it from a place of giving with OI and not neediness This makes sense. I always used to be good at doing nice, thoughtful things for her with OI, but over the years, those acts of kindness got infested with covert contracts. Something to work on. Plan something you want to do, invite her along, if she doesn't want to come that's fine. This feeds nicely into my current goal of untangling my disgusting, needy tentacles from her. On both these points you're thinking how can I do some…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 03:38 PM
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I was already only taking 1mg 3x/week when the ball ache started, so I'm already taking a relatively low dosage, but I'm going to try 0.5mg 3x/week. Glad to hear it's working for you. I agree about doing what you can to save your hair. I've got a friend who says something to the effect of, "why bother when you're already with your SO?" I'm not doing it for her, I just want to look as good as possible.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 03:11 PM
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Elaborate here, right now, of what "good behavior" means to you. You're right, I hadn't fully thought it through. I suppose sex, but perhaps that's too limiting at this stage.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 03:03 PM
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Thanks for your insight, lots to digest here. I know I'm still too much of a pussy for some of this, because my heart rate increased just reading it. I'm going to save this comment, and keep returning to it as I continue to work on raising my SMV. Things I can work on for now: Giving feelz and comfort outside the bedroom when I feel like it (currently hard to know when this is too much). Naturally pulling my time and attention as I create space between us. During the time we do spend together, p…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 12:19 PM
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If it feelz like she's cuddling to make YOU feel better, you were butthurt and didn't know it. This is a good thing to watch out for. I don't think it was the case here though. One of the biggest differences I've incorporated since starting MRP is not acting like a wounded little bitch whenever I received a rejection. It already makes me cringe, thinking how I used to act just a few months ago. Nowadays I genuinely don't care either way, because I know that if it doesn't work out with my SO, I c…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 11:29 AM
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Would you be willing to tell me what your experience was like on finasteride? How long were you on it for? Did you experience and side effects?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 11:18 AM
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OYS 4 30yo, 5’10, 165lbs, with SO 8 years, no kids. Previous OYS Read - NMMNG, MMSLP, BoP, MAP, HoA’s 1st year of OYS Reading - The Rational Male Health & Fitness - I’ve set my calories to 2500kcal/day and will track for a couple of weeks to see how my weight changes. I’ve also now started a programme in the gym, so I’ll be more consistent going forwards. Apart from that, I’m doing Krav Maga once a week and will also be playing football once a week with guys from my building. Had my first game t…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 08:50 AM
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/u/protoworm said something similar to me in my last OYS: Guys here get caught in in 'being alpha' and I get it because we all come here as little bitches but the most alpha thing is to be unapologetically you. Find out what you want and go for it. If you look close enough, you will see that most of your unattractive actions are driven by neediness etc, its not really what you want and it's not 'the authentic you' or any other bullshit. This place is more about letting go of neediness, fear etc …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 08:30 AM
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You give too many fucks about her feelings. You're probably right about that one. What do YOU think the appropriate response to her hamster should have been instead of puking YOUR problems, and thus completing the cycle she wanted that reaffirmed you're weak? This is what I need to figure out. I'm still a complete fucking retard trying to figure this shit out as I go. Currently, I'm more focused on improving the red areas of my own life, rather than creating dread with my SO. All I can do for no…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 10:01 PM
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Yes, you literally listed DHVs as one of the main reasons for doing this. Stop thinking about DHVs... shit do you think some silverback is wondering how he looks and if his pose is alpha enough? Guys here get caught in in 'being alpha' and I get it because we all come here as little bitches but the most alpha thing is to be unapologetically you. Find out what you want and go for it. If you look close enough, you will see that most of your unattractive actions are driven by neediness etc, its not…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 09:50 PM
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You're 100% correct in that I live more in the moment and not overthink things so much in general. However, in this case, the side effects of finasteride aren't trivial. I'm not going to jump on a medication that I'd potentially have to take for decades without first educating myself of the risks.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 02:04 PM
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So get on one. Stop using changing gyms as an excuse for laziness. Well said. I'll start one this week either way, and then adapt if I change gym. Dance monkey. Do you mean I'm seeking external validation here? Fair fucking point. I suppose DHVs should ooze from your presence naturally, and not be something you have to pre-plan. That depends, over thinking it with alpha/beta game certainly isn't the answer. If you genuinely were just distracted then thats one thing but I suspect thats just what …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 11:31 AM
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OYS 3 30yo, 5’10, 165lbs, with SO 8 years, no kids. Previous OYS Read - NMMNG, MMSLP, BoP, MAP, HoA’s 1st year of OYS Reading - The Rational Male Health & Fitness - Lifted several times. Still no programme yet, but I’m pushing myself each time. I might be changing gym soon (my building is opening a free gym which I might join if the equipment is good), so I’ll begin a proper programme when I know what equipment I’ll have available. I also did Krav Maga this week, which was less exhausting than t…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 09:21 AM
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OYS 2 30yo, 5’10, 163lbs, with SO 8 years, no kids. Previous OYS Read - NMMNG, MMSLP, BoP, MAP Reading - /u/HornsOfApathy’s 1st year of OYS Health & Fitness - Went to the gym a few times last week, and did some unstructured workouts to get back into it after a couple of weeks off. This week I need to get back into a proper routine. I also started Krav Maga last week, which was exhausting, and left me with extreme DOMS in my entire back for a couple of days afterwards, which prevented me from doi…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 08:41 AM
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Yes, which is why one of my goals for the week is to initiate more during the day. I'm currently reading your OYS (up to 35), and it sounds like you were having great results at bedtime. From what I've read, it seems what worked for you was increasing your SMV, increasing passive dread, becoming OI, passing tests, etc. This is all what I want to work on to get to that level.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/21 10:57 AM
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I do go caveman on the occasions when we have sex, but the current issue is getting her into bed for sex at all. She usually gives me the bored-sounding "I'm not in the mood, I'm too tired, I just want to go to sleep, I'm too full, etc." and kills it before anything starts.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/21 08:06 AM
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I've considered this, but my job requires me to be talking constantly, so I'd be loud and disruptive in the coworking space.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/21 07:41 AM
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OYS 1 Read - NMMNG, MMSLP, Pook, MAP Reading - /u/HornsOfApathy’s 1st year of OYS Background - 30yo, 5’10, 163lbs, with SO 8 years, no kids. Standard story. Sex life/intimacy deteriorated over the last few years. I tried upping Nice Guy tactics to no avail. I frequented /r/relationships (nothing worked), /r/deadbedrooms (just a load of people whining), and eventually came across MRP and read NMMNG. I’d previously only ever heard of a Nice Guy in the context of fedora-wearing incel memes on Reddi…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 09:12 PM
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