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The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago, the second best time is now. I was 24 when I started trying to date again after getting out of a relationship that started in high school. Tons of growing pains as I had never dated as an adult. But eventually I figured it out and found an awesome girl.
/r/seduction27/12/18 01:08 PM
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I was in your shoes this past year. I bet I went out with almost 100 girls. Occasionally a second date, but not often. I was the problem. I was the common denominator. You are the problem. You are the common denominator. You need to reflect on these dates and try to actually improve yourself. Good looks will get your foot in the door, but they wont get you second dates and beyond. Be honest with yourself, no excuses please. You are doing something wrong. Change it. I was too stubborn to make cha…
/r/seduction24/12/18 03:43 PM
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The voice recording part was cringe. I couldn't imagine a girl liking that. Maybe a phone call, but not a recording on your voice via text...
/r/seduction24/12/18 03:31 PM
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The turning point in my dating life occurred a few months ago. I removed myself from the seduction community because I felt like I was starting to act robotic with women. There is no such thing thing as a one size fits all method to dating/seduction. My success sky rocketed once I decided to just be myself and use my intuition. I dont have "rules" or a "playbook". I'm simply myself. I started doing things that seddit shuns because I was being myself. I would set up the next date during the curre…
/r/seduction19/12/18 02:51 PM
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Agreed. Wtf can you do with 365 numbers? That's just spray and pray. Focus on quality. 10 numbers to start. Aim for 10 dates. Of those 10, if you like any of them, pursue a second date and beyond. After 3 or so dates, you will likely have sex. Perhaps you'll meet someone really great. My success skyrocketed after I started focusing on quality over quantity.
/r/seduction12/12/18 08:02 PM
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Dont gloss over the most important part. She has a boyfriend. You being nice didn't change anything. I'm a "nice guy" and it works for me because it's genuine and authentic. Just be yourself.
/r/seduction12/12/18 07:50 PM
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Sounds like a dream...oh wait. After hooking up with 25 girls in the last 15 months, here I am with absolutely nothing to show for it besides meaningless sex. I want a connection. Sex with a connection is much more fulfilling and pleasurable to me. Since having this realization, I've changed my antics, and the results followed. I've been exclusively dating one girl for about a month now, and it's been great.
/r/seduction12/12/18 07:46 PM
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She's a bitch. Forget about her and her shallow move. Don't post her number anywhere. Be a man and move on. Don't stoop down to her level, or you're no better than her.
/r/seduction12/12/18 07:21 PM
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I've been looking for you on here lol. I'm Smooth21 reincarnated. Took about 8 months off from the seduction community to do some soul searching. Deleted Smooth and I'm back, but only to give advice. How have you been? How about your dating life?
/r/seduction04/12/18 03:35 PM
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Text her in a day or two and just ask her out again. Skip the small talk. No response - next
/r/seduction04/12/18 03:32 PM
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When I used tinder, I would try to super like girls that I believed are attainable. That's my protip. That 10/10 gets super liked 1000 times per day, but your super like will really stick out to that 7/10 cutie that teaches 4th graders.
/r/seduction04/12/18 03:26 PM
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She's just a random girl. You're essentially just trying to "slide into her DMs" She signed up for the event, not to meet you. Give the girl her money back and then ask her out.
/r/seduction04/12/18 03:21 PM
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My second date with the girl I've been seeing for about a month now was Moes followed by a distillery. Distillery was a fun experience. I wanted to do something that we both had never done before. Trivia night at a bar is a fun date. Work together, communicate, compete. Down the road, having her over for a home cooked meal is fun and romantic.
/r/seduction04/12/18 03:10 PM
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Remember this. Women don't prefer nice guys or assholes specifically. They prefer authentic guys. I'm a nice guy, but that's just who I am. And girls like it because they know that I'm not just acting nice. You just have to know when to flip the switch. Take control in the bedroom. Be decisive. Lead.
/r/seduction02/12/18 01:04 PM
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No it won't come off like that. It's all about how you do it. Just be confident. When you order the tickets, just pay. Dont put thought into it.
/r/seduction02/12/18 01:00 PM
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No. Just be prepared for the inevitable "Where are your friends?" question that girls frequently ask.
/r/seduction01/12/18 11:35 PM
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I think whoever suggested the date should pay. I'm assuming you asked her to the movie??
/r/seduction01/12/18 11:31 PM
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I did a few hours ago. But I also did last week. She was ready after the 3rd date, but she was on her period, so we waited until the 4th date. She's also coming over Monday.
/r/seduction01/12/18 04:18 AM
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I've never met a girl that likes me that doesnt text back relatively quickly. It's 2018, if I dont text you back within 15 minutes, it's because i dont care about what you think of me. Our phones are glued to us. Move on
/r/seduction30/11/18 06:38 PM
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How many dates have you been on with this? If you hardly know her, just be wary that the pictures may be used to make an ex jealous. I've never been asked for a picture on a date and I've gone out with at least 100 girls.
/r/seduction30/11/18 06:33 PM
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Smart idea. It's the "normal" way to text. Come back a few hours later or the next day when you have something worth saying. Dragging on a dead conversation is a turn off
/r/seduction30/11/18 06:28 PM
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Activities are a smart idea. I took a girl to a trivia night earlier this month for a first date. 2.5 hour date, with laughter, and built in excuses to break the touch barrier (high fives, fist bumps, etc) Here I am a few weeks later, our 5th date is tonight.
/r/seduction30/11/18 06:25 PM
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It depends on personality and chemistry. I can comfortably talk to a date for 30-45 mins before things start to get stale. But if I have a connection with a girl, I can easily talk to her for hours on end. If the girl is having fun, the conversation won't get dull because she will help keep it going too.
/r/seduction30/11/18 06:22 PM
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The girl I'm talking to now was NOT "looking for anything" about a month ago. Now we have gone out 4 times, shes coming over Friday and Monday. And I'm meeting all of her friends the following weekend for her bday celebration. Sometimes people just hit it off. Actions speak louder than words. Edit: also....cuffing szn is here boys
/r/seduction28/11/18 04:40 PM
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When you referred to yourself as a kissless virgin, I cringed a bit. Is it a fact? Yeah. But it reads as you putting yourself down in a demeaning way. Nobody wants to have a pity party for you. My guess is that you have zero self confidence. Girls sniff that out from a mile away. You need to love yourself before you can expect someone to love you back. 11 months ago, I wrote out my goals for 2018. One of my goals was to "meet someone special" I updated my goal in May to read "Be independently ha…
/r/seduction28/11/18 04:28 PM
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It happens to everyone. I think it's human nature. Girls do it all the time too. I've done it twice in the last 2 months myself. Four dates with each girls. Had sex. Then a few days later texted them telling them that I didnt feel a connection with them. Third time is the charm for me this Fall. 4 dates, had sex, and I'm still very interested and it's mutual. Cuffing season is in full effect.
/r/seduction28/11/18 04:01 PM
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You have a fully functioning tounge and fingers right? On Friday I had sex with the girl i really like for the first time. Guess what? I couldn't stay hard. I could barely even get hard. But you know what I did? I made her cum with my tounge. Eventually I was able to maintain an erection long enough to do doggy style (easiest position for me when I'm having erection issues) Afterwards, I was like "sorry about that. It happens to me when I'm nervous " To my surprise she was very happy and said th…
/r/seduction27/11/18 06:22 PM
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She wants more attention. Give it to her or she will seek the attention elsewhere
/r/seduction27/11/18 06:16 PM
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Move on Edit: 90% of the bar numbers/encounters I have dont result in a text back. It's very common. Trust me, if she was interested, she would have responded. Girls will bend over backwards when they truly like a guy. Accepting this fact has simplified my dating life.
/r/seduction27/11/18 06:03 PM
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Lol good point. My son would probably end up being like 6'6!
/r/seduction14/11/18 04:41 PM
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I guess this place was bar of a two floor bar with loud music than a club. People weren't grinding. I have gone the clubs before though. If you're dancing with a girl, she normal faces away from you and you put your hands on her hips. You move to the rhythm of the song. If you're dancing alone or with friends, just try to stay loose. Basically listen to the music and move your body. Remember I am a terrible dancer. I sway back and forth and move me feet. Moving your arms a bit in front of you. J…
/r/seduction14/11/18 12:55 AM
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I definitely wanted to try, but after I introduced my friend, he was hitting it off with the other girl, so at the point it was out of my control. I'm not even mad at my friend. I was with the hotter girl. I got the "first pick" and he was left with the other girl. He's thankful
/r/seduction13/11/18 08:25 PM
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When I go out I see tons of ugly girls. Grouped together, not getting approached at all. Occasionally I'll talk to the ugly girls, and it makes their day. I'm very shy, so talking to ugly sometimes helps get the ball rolling for me
/r/seduction13/11/18 08:08 PM
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I asked the girl that I slept with after the fact, and she said something like "I dont think we would have had a threesome. It could ruin our friendship. We have kissed each other though "
/r/seduction13/11/18 08:01 PM
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This seems like it's really holding you down. Have you ever considered paying a hooker just to get this monkey off your back? Or just go out and talk to girls at a bar/club. Ugly girls get so little attention that I would imagine it is very easy.
/r/seduction13/11/18 07:59 PM
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You know who doesn't get laid? Thirsty guys that act like they want to get laid. You generally have to take a girl on a date first. Act like you are genuinely interested in her. Maybe 5 times I've gotten laid on tinder by just asking a girl a girl to come over. The other 16 girls I had sex with this year were after a date. 3 girls were bar pickups.
/r/seduction13/11/18 07:54 PM
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I live in an area where you have to drive everywhere. First dates are always with two separate cars. I just ask them if they want to come over and watch a movie. It's clunky, but all I can do. I text them my address and then we drive separately 10-20 minutes to my place. Second dates: I ask them to meet me at my place or I pick them up, either way, i try to ensure that the date ends at my place. Third "date" and beyond: I just ask them to come over. Occasionally go out still of course because yo…
/r/seduction13/11/18 04:45 PM
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I get hit on or approached occasionally when I go out. I dont have girls fawning over me, but maybe half the time I go out, I get hit on. I brought a girl home on Saturday from a club. She initiated contact by asking me to take a picture of her and her friend. Then they asked me to dance, and then play darts. I got a free ride home from a sober girl (her). And then I F closed at my place I consider myself to be an 8.
/r/seduction13/11/18 04:36 PM
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....if a girl wont give you her number, she doesn't want to talk to you. Don't hold your breathe waiting for her to text you, you'll turn blue.
/r/seduction13/11/18 04:30 PM
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That's so nasty that it just might work lol. I'll give it a try when we go out friday!
/r/seduction13/11/18 03:19 PM
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I always struggle with putting "high value" women on a pedestal. I am talking to two girls, and I treat them differently and act differently, and I know it's wrong. Girl A: Medical student - 23, smart, pretty, down to earth. Shes blond, with blue eyes, and about 5'7. Thankfully, I havent outwardly put her on a pedestal, but internally I have. I plan fun and interesting dates for us because i really want to make a good impression. I also second guess myself more than I'd like to admit. Girl B: Un…
/r/seduction13/11/18 02:08 PM
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Reading between the lines, you got laid more because you were in college, so you had more options readily available. IG has never gotten me laid. Occasionally a girl will ask me for my IG. I always assume they want to confirm that I have some level of social proof. I only have 186 followers, so I dont think my IG does me any favors, but my pictures are solid. I only post about 4 pictures per year.
/r/seduction13/11/18 01:51 PM
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Haha thanks. Slightly buzzed. That definitely helped. I'm so bad at dancing and I always feel like I look awkward
/r/seduction12/11/18 10:45 PM
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For starters: none of these girls are yours. They very well could be sleeping with other girls or at least going on dates. There is absolutely nothing wrong with what you're doing though. I wouldn't worry too much. If you truly care about girl 3, and could see yourself with her, you could consider cutting off the other two girls. I'm currently seeing two girls. They are both aware that I am seeing other girls and they are fine with it...for now. But it wont always be that way. I've been talking …
/r/seduction12/11/18 08:15 PM
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That would make you a good man. If she's ok with that, then it's a green light
/r/seduction12/11/18 07:49 PM
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It's a futile effort. I don't even do it anymore. If I send 100 DMs, i might get 5 responses. And never met a girl from a DM.
/r/seduction12/11/18 07:40 PM
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Avoid. I doubt a virgin would want to be FWBs. It means a lot to some people, especially woman. I took a virgin's virginity last year, and I felt like an asshole. We hung out for like a month, but I realized I couldn't see myself with her. She told me that she felt used. That hit me pretty hard. To this day, I vow to never take a virginity again. I'm 25 fwiw
/r/seduction12/11/18 07:34 PM
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True love is better by a long shot. Sex is better with love. Sex without love is fun, but after hooking up with 23 girls since last September and having absolutely NOTHING to show for it, but a notch on my belt, I want more. I want a meaningful relationship. I had a good run, but it just isnt fulfilling
/r/seduction06/11/18 07:19 PM
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You're on the right track, but exactly opposite of the reality. Losing attraction isnt because someone is unattainable, it's because they are too attainable. Most times when a girl loses interest in me, it's because I am clearly over invested in her. I currently have a girl that really likes me. I am not over invested in her, and shes honestly so into me. I dont worry about what will happen, and I continue to see other girls. She feels like she has to work for my time and attention, and I think …
/r/seduction06/11/18 07:10 PM
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I normally ask the girl back to my place to watch a movie after the first date. As for the second date and beyond, I make going to my place part of the plan. I frame the date as "grab a drink and then watch a movie" or "come over and I'll make dinner" Occasionally I wait until the 3rd date to make my apartment part of the date. After 2 or 3 dates, I just ask them to come over
/r/seduction06/11/18 06:57 PM
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Can't you add her on snap chat? Good chance her name is her handle
/r/seduction06/11/18 06:39 PM
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He's right. No such thing as the "right moment" Just shoot your shot I was in a similar situation on Sunday. First date - coffee. I ask her to come over to watch a movie, she agrees. We are on my couch, cuddling a little, but she isn't even looking in my direction. After debating in my head on what to do, I think "fuck it" then i put my hand on the side of her face, point her towards me, and kiss her. This lead to topless making out. She left after 4 hours of hanging because she had to work. 40 …
/r/seduction06/11/18 06:30 PM
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Move on. I often get hung up on a girl too. When a girl actually likes you, she will bend over backwards for you. I used to think that was a load of crap, but I'm experiencing it first hand right now.
/r/seduction06/11/18 06:20 PM
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