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Damn sorry you going through that. Best to just focus on you and avoid any thoughts of her.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/23 06:49 AM
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Yea the child should know the reality at some point. Don’t get me wrong I’m not advocating he do one or the other, I’m just saying it ain’t easy to just get up and walk out of that child’s life there is a lot at play here. I say this because I ended up doing a DNA test and I had to ask myself what if my 4 year old wasn’t mine, what then. At that moment it was no longer about me, but about my son. (He ended up being mine)
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/23 11:23 PM
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I think in a year or so from the divorce he will have much different thoughts on the matter of fighting to be in the life of another man’s child. The best of these ex-wives won’t make it easy on a man to be in his actual child’s life without extorting the father some how. Imagine what this piece of work is capable of. I wonder is she playing the victim card and doing the emotional panic shuffle knowing her actions are coming home to roost.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/23 09:54 PM
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Absolute and sad truth he has to face. His life will be greatly impacted in a negative way by choosing to raise another man’s child and in the long run when she finds another sucker to suckle on he will more than likely be pushed out for good. It’s never a good idea trying to stick around in this kind of situation and it’s not even feasible just prolonging pain because sooner or later you will be pushed away.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/23 09:45 PM
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The saddest thing is the best course of action is to walk away. You’ll more than likely will pay a heavy price for sticking around for those children and eventually the sperm donors will one day come along to leech onto those children and you’ll be Nothing more than a place holder with nothing to show for at the end.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/23 09:35 PM
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It’s easier said than done when you actually raised the kid all those years. Remember it’s got nothing to do with you but everything to do with the damage and pain you would be causing that innocent child. Just imagine you would be subjecting an even greater pain to that 4 year old always wondering why his father abandoned him, why his father never loved him…. The broad is an absolute monster and I would be ecstatic if a meteor came crashing down on her.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/23 09:25 PM
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Very sobering
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/23 12:01 AM
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I don’t see how it benefits you. Do you want public recognition of your relationship, because that doesn’t really mean much in the present world. Really don’t see how a legal marriage benefits a man.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 07:08 PM
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The government needs to stay out of the marriage business all together. Let the churches, mosques and synagogues deal with them.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 07:04 PM
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There better when they’re girlfriends anyways… marriage just ruins a good thing.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 07:01 PM
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God bless you man…. Couldn’t have said it better. Complete sham. The real question is why get the state involved in your relationship in the first place. No to robbery, no to financial slavery, no to leeches with coochies trying to latch on and suck the literal life out of a hard working man. Let freedom ring let freedom ring!!
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 06:55 PM
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“What marriage had been turned into has a ton of flaws” That is very true, Marriage in the modern world is ruined by the laws and legislations surrounding it. It went from two people being committed to each other and helping each other get farther than they could on their own; to one party being incentivized to jump ship at the slightest bump with a large payoff and cushioned landing and the other trying to hang on for dear life knowing the odds are stacked against them. I know better than to ev…
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 06:44 PM
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They’re not doing you any favors and are there for no reason other than to outnumber you and pressure you for her to get as much gains as possible. So why hurt yourself and give them benefits. If it’s over and you know it, do only what’s in your best interest so not half step. No matter what happens you will be the bad guy in the end.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/23 10:30 AM
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There is a reason why women push for marriage and men are reluctant. They gain you lose
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/23 07:54 AM
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Date the SAHM Have flings with the independent type
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/23 06:21 PM
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She initiated the divorce. We got a 4 year old son together. He good I got him in some private pre-k I pay for out of pocket. First day of school I got him a marvel Spider-Man backpack, lunchbox and water bottle, Spider-Man sneakers, marvel shirts and a bunch of new pants. He spends half the week in day care the other half with me, my siblings or my parents. She gets him nights and weekends. She has to work all these hours so she can’t really see him between 8-6 Monday-Friday. Most of the ordeal…
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/23 12:11 AM
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I was always big on the SIL80 especially the rocket bunny kits. Still stand behind the RB26DETT so that’s where I stand with Nismo…I Also had a 7MGTE Supra in high school all blacked out boosted the living daylights out of it and greddy Ssqv bov. Once again I’M BACK… my love of hobbies is back.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/23 11:39 PM
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Family and friends saying I seem much happier is something I’ve noticed.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/23 11:32 PM
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Back in the day I had CBR 929 stunt setup with DnD exhaust, 12 o’clock bar, high chair wheelie indented tank, rear hand brake setup under clutch, throttle adjuster control between handles, 70t sprocket, glossy black paint job, metallic purple cage and rims, and some custom made decals on fairings and tank. And an S2000 repainted glossy black from silverstone. High compression pistons, skunk 2 header, skunk2 intake manifold, stage 3 clutch, and short shifter sitting in the middle of a red interio…
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/23 11:08 PM
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Yea, that’s my take on the situation. I have no business involving myself in her new found “greener pasture”. Changed my emails, removed her and her family from FB, changed my number and never looked back. Only info I get is from my mother who lives in the same town as her and tells me she called from the hospital again. My reply is she should call her brother.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/23 10:49 PM
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Facts, but there doesn’t appear to be any quarrel to stand your ground. He would need to be as emotionless as her for that to work. There was no contention.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/23 10:00 PM
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Damn, he lost his late 20s and much of his 30s. What a robbery
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/23 09:56 PM
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Facts… I hope the lad fares well after this life changing experience.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/23 09:35 PM
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I’m debating between a mk4 Supra, Datsun 280z, 60-70 mustang or 60s impala as my new toy… I just do me
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/23 06:20 AM
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I’m dating a woman 15 years younger than her. She working at a warehouse after the guys in her DM turned out to be zeros….. hahahahahha…. The craziest part is she trying everything to get me to communicate with her, but I put up a solid wall of block and ignore… life is great!!!
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/23 06:17 AM
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It Is
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/23 06:14 AM
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Years ago I came to the realization that most of these women can’t even cook… We suppose to make money and do all this shit but many of them can’t even cook a decent meal. It’s disgusting.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 07:03 AM
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You absolutely right… the moment you take your eyes off the money you lose everything…
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 07:01 AM
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We setup from the jump out here in the states… fairytales and honest relationships and families and shit… marriage is a thing of convenience. And the more these women feel like they don’t need you financially, why keep you around when they can try out all the new d**** on the block… man I was so much better dating and moving on.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 06:57 AM
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Man I should have just focused on my financial come up and not get involved with these lunatics. I got plenty of P**** when I was single focusing on my life and working out.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 05:44 AM
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It’s just dumb
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 05:41 AM
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They’re crazy, and your problem will be solved once you stop trying to put logical or reason into why she is doing what she is doing. Just take her actions for what they are. Mine also started out with a similar narrative: she told Me one day I was needy because I called her 3 times a week. She filed multiple protection orders and claimed I would never leave her alone and she does not want me and tried to paint an image of some LifeTime Channel creep. I was working out of state during all this a…
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 05:06 AM
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Hahahahahahhaha
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 01:47 AM
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That’s some bullshit…
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/23 01:48 AM
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“Would you cross the street if there was a 50% chance of getting hit by a car” lmao
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/23 03:04 AM
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They have entire forums for women and how to take steps to screw over the soon to be ex-husband. In my situation I found in my ex old phone almost 8 months of research of how to get a protection order and how that would help her in divorce court… etc…
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/23 04:39 PM
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Damn I was shocked when something similar happened to me… I guess this is their one trick. Definitely record everything get a camera installed somewhere hidden…
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/23 05:50 AM
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Really significant coming from you, Reddits own Armchair Psychologist. You literally go around on posts diagnosing people you have never encountered. Your significant diagnosis are based on what? I’m sure someone can eventually diagnose you the more we see of your baseless attacks and assumptions of another person you know nothing about. Go ahead let’s get another significant diagnoses from you. So far I’m a fool who has never experienced abuse, what’s my diagnoses oh significant Armchair Psycho…
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/23 04:56 AM
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You’re in the fog of this situation. See how it plays out and try not to make decisions based on acute emotions.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/23 04:36 AM
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The guy came on here because he is going through something and is in the midst of whatever he is dealing with and we have the armchair psychologist of the year diagnosing someone you don’t know. You’re going as far as specific diagnosis “cluster b”. You need to be diagnosed if this is your behavior. What this person needs is to not react in this type of situation and especially when it’s not uncommon for pregnant women to have hormonal imbalances that affect their mood and behavior.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/23 04:05 AM
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Defend yourself, there is no excuse for that. This is the normal pattern of events in my case. And no evidence does not deter them trying to pull these disgusting behaviors.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 02:43 PM
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Ignore and give space… she is 39 weeks pregnant and they are psychotic at best during this time. If she really wants the divorce there ain’t much you can do to stop it from happening, but if she is going through a psychotic episode due to being 39 weeks pregnant and you did nothing to contribute to her actions what did you lose. She will be back to normal and the whole thing will be a stain on her pregnancy memory. My cousin had his wife move out half way through pregnancy and refused to talk to…
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 11:52 AM
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Yea this bunch is the worst place to bring this issue to. The reality is NOTHING you can do but give it time. My mother used to do this every few years or so to my father. He just ignored her and sometimes just left until she came back to her sanity. They’ve been married for 40+ years and are both retired with 7 children and 3 grand children.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 11:39 AM
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Dude, she is 39 weeks pregnant. And stop wasting your time with these loony toons and their need to diagnose her. Nothing you can do but ride it out and hope things get better unless you want to actively destroy your family.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 11:35 AM
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Go to the gym, quit smoking and than go to the gym again and again. Before you know it you’ll be feeling like you did before the bad times even showed up on the horizon. Beyond that sitting in a truck or car for days on end is itself destructive let alone what you are dealing with. Maybe plan on changing careers since the markets are dumb slow right now in the freight industry. A sure way you really prove her right and come out worse is by isolating yourself, or picking up vices or ramping them …
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/23 10:54 AM
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Either do local or get off the OTR. That will solve your biggest hurdle.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/23 10:46 AM
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It’s really troubling when you have to think about some random guy being around your child. It’s painful and very unsettling.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/23 11:35 PM
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Damn what a heartless animal. Sorry you went through that.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/23 11:33 PM
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Shit happens, I’m sure many of us have done worse during the early and mid stages of divorce. Sometimes emotions get the best of you.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/23 11:32 PM
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Mine got me spending unnecessary money on attorneys when I offered her more than State allotted child support. She plays the victim card. She had child support set prior to the never ending divorce process and magistrate set it at $90 a week when I offered her $1500 a month outside of court for one 2 year old child. She is losing the house and fought me tooth and nail to prevent 50/50 custody even when I agreed to work around her work schedule to have my son. She conveniently leaves him at my mo…
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/23 05:44 AM
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By your 3rd sentence you should have ran for the exit.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/23 12:25 PM
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With all the chaos you described, know you made the right decision. Someone like that can’t be helped or reformed easily if there is any hope to begin with. You did yourself a big favor.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/23 12:23 PM
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Sounds like you got out in the nick of time
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/23 12:18 PM
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That was the prelude to my divorce. I came back from work and was no longer allowed into my home or allowed to have contact with my son who was suffering bad health during those days. He was 3 years old. In my case I had recently got her her a new phone and the old one was sitting around and I got a look into it. She was planning for divorce 8 months prior and Protection Orders was what was advised to get the upper hand. She checked out of that marriage a long time ago.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/23 12:28 AM
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First and foremost don’t drink, it only detracts. Second if you began feeling this way with her than it’s better you focus on yourself and hit the gym and be a better you. Don’t think in the past and rekindle your dreams you had when it was you not any one else.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/23 04:57 AM
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Definitely give up the alcohol or any vices and spend a routine amount of time in the gym. That has greatly helped me out. Didn’t change the circumstances but I look at things with a level head and accept reality. At the end of the day you’ll become a better person for yourself and overcome these hard moments in your life.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/23 10:27 AM
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This is a reality that awaits most of us, especially if cared deeply about her prior to the divorce. Mine will be finalized on Valentine’s Day. That’s the date the court sent me. But, tonight I sit alone and accept the reality ahead of me. That some other guy will be around my son. It’s life and we can’t dwell on things out of our control. Much luck to you and your healing.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/23 05:24 AM
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There’s also this place called a gym… and the more time you spend there the better.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/23 12:17 AM
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It will pass took me time too, but remember all the things she did to cause this.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/23 06:26 AM
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Na, just go back to a better version of who you were before she sucked the life out of you. After it all ended I traveled to turkey, Italy, Switzerland, France, Belgium, Netherlands, Luxembourg, Germany, and Austria . Enrolled to get a masters in Chemical Engineering. Went back to gym. She on welfare now. Just do you, and always ask yourself what did you love about the person that drive you to divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/23 06:23 AM
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Most victims are men in marriages involving children. I can’t imagine a father wanting to go throw what I’m going through.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 03:45 AM
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100% scientifically and practically proven fact is what you have stated my friend
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 03:43 AM
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Yea it’s no longer an hourly or daily battle but it’s weekly for me now… time heals all wounds… lol I’m waiting for it to months than years and never
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 03:42 AM
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100% fact
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 03:39 AM
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That’s the reality, just know you tried and she showed you who she is. You’ll eventually find someone that is on the same page with you, not playing some manipulative game with you.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 03:38 AM
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Your lucky, I still have nostalgia from time to time, but quickly remind myself how much of a trash she treated me and recover
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 03:33 AM
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You doing that isn’t the real problem. But I guess men should have no feelings, we’re just some robots moving along on this plane
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 03:31 AM
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Never in front of her or anyone she knows… do that with a very close friend or family member or therapist, but never in front of her. Worst thing ever. Very oddly though I have a friend that been married for 20 years and it seems to work for him, but I think that’s is an exception to the reality.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 03:22 AM
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Very true, it can go either way. Mine just marked me further down after 6 years and a 3 year old son. Pretty much sent her packing when I tried everything to fix our marriage including the breaking down. But, what her response was has forever changed me, she was ruthless and just used it as a means to put me under her thumb. Sad part is I went through a lot in life and many lost loved ones and never made myself that vulnerable to anyone including my own parents or siblings and she used it to try…
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 03:18 AM
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Worst thing I ever did, all it did was be less to her.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 03:13 AM
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The reality is you can always just do the religious ceremony and skip the legal part. Most outside cultures do that. That way she gains very little from divorce to protect themselves from the legal headache of the civil union. When you sign up for the civil union you sign up for all the legalities of the state to get in between ya’ll.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 03:10 AM
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This is the best way… she in it to be with you or she got to go
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 03:04 AM
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This is also true
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 03:03 AM
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That’s a fact…
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 03:03 AM
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From the court that issued the CS ruling. Once you hit that magical number in arrears that warrants jail time and you return to American Soil.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/23 05:12 AM
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From the court that issued the child support ruling. The minute you return to the USA and you have reached whatever magical number in child support arrears that it takes to get arrested.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/23 05:10 AM
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That’s a fact, you’ll be in jail the moment you land or shortly after.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/23 03:51 AM
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I know I this one female (she drove him off because of her relentless nagging) her ex-husband left the country to avoid paying child support. He’s been gone 10 years and only problem is if he sets foot on American soil he going to jail.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/23 03:46 AM
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Hahahahahahaha… Amen to that…. Get this Garbage out of here
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/23 03:27 AM
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Amen to that
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/23 02:53 AM
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Man, ain’t that the truth. Most days I’m happy being alone and than those few times I feel that loneliness kick in. Gym is definitely your best friend. I returned to jogging after not jogging for years. It really does boost your mood.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/23 02:52 AM
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I just bought it on audibles will check it out over the weekend
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/23 02:44 AM
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I don’t believe so, just takes time some longer than others. But, you have to accept it didn’t workout and just try to rebuild
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/23 02:25 AM
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A narcissist is what she is and I’m guessing she wanted me to never move on from the nightmare of her. I’m glad it’s over with and I’m rebuilding my life and beginning to find interest in things I used to enjoy before she came along. Go to my gym, put money in savings, and adjusting to this single life. She was recently diagnosed with chronic lower back pain and needs surgery from what she told my family as I’ve been in Europe for a few months.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/23 11:31 PM
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Good luck man
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/23 11:11 PM
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Yep she’s with another man. Focus on protecting your money and future in that court room. She gone man, and when her new lust relationship falls apart don’t take her back. Move on and always protect yourself and don’t take on other peoples responsibilities. The father of those kids most likely never wanted to lose his family either.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/23 11:07 PM
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Unfortunately mine has no remorse and continues the endless war she is waging, even though I haven’t said a word to her in over 6 months.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/22 04:13 PM
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Sounds like the monster I found myself in bed with. No remorse, never wrong, and no accountability for her actions. We often hear people throw around the word narcissist but you’ll know what one is when you can’t explain how much pain they cause and how devoid they are of feeling anything outside of anger. I’m towards the end of my divorce process and I still can’t make sense of how she is angry and bitter after she single handedly destroyed our family. My life has improved tremendously without …
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/22 05:45 AM
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What you should do is revisit what drove you to divorce. Then remember she is that person. I have to do that every so often when I get feelings of nostalgia. We often times lie to ourselves and sugar coat the reality. Some spouses are devoid of empathy and can’t register the harm they do to you in pursuit of that greener grass on the other side. They do not deserve a re-try. You do not deserve to incur more hurt and carry the baggage of the previous betrayal. This is truly a lesson best learned …
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/22 04:59 AM
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You in for a lot of unnecessary pain being that close to her. Just move on with your life and stick to your time with your kids. Your essentially helping her get boyfriend time in. Why??? Why be so involved in her life. As long as you this involved in her life you’ll never really move on.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/22 09:10 PM
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The real question is can you do anything to change her. You can’t. You should be in the child’s life and give him pointers, beyond that she is and will be who she is.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/22 12:25 AM
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I did end up going through the divorce. Have had a peaceful 5 months. Go to the gym at least 4-5 days a week. Saving money and she now gets child support court ordered. Best part was it ended up being less than half what I was willing to give her to take care of our son. I told her what the state required would be far less and if she went that route that’s what she would get and that’s what I pay. She’s always going by my mothers house crying she is a single mother and doesn’t have money, but sh…
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/22 05:51 AM
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See if you can request the court to consolidate this to save time, tax payer money, courts time and prevent further loss which will impact your ability to provide support to kids… etc.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/22 03:56 AM
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Mine did this to drag me in and out of court and never agreed to what she proposed. They have their own online forums on how to do this.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/22 03:54 AM
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If it’s some BS claims you can easily disprove I went there myself and dealt with it. (Disclaimer I’ve had success In the past as a self litigant/ pro se in business contractual cases) but being semi articulate and having your facts in order will suffice)
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/22 03:53 AM
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You need to find a better lawyer. Why would you be spending this kind of money. I wasted a few thousand fighting BS Protection from Abuse claims. Sometimes it’s best to prepare a written letter explaining your side and read it to judge and I put in there I was going to use Strava app to record all my movements. The lawyer did nothing for me and that solved all my problems. I did not contact her prior or after and had the court order email communication for visitation. Block all avenues she can c…
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/22 03:45 AM
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These are facts I shit you not whenever I hear a woman say that, I know she sabotaged her marriage for something senseless.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/22 01:00 AM
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Congrats even though it’s sad what happened, but at least you can live a stable and hopeful life. I’m in the initial stages of divorce right now with someone I did everything for. I put her through school I literally worked to take care of her and our son. All she was able to do was burn through my money, insult, belittle and constant silent treatment. I’ve always been someone known to be quick to stand up for myself or others, but some how she was able to turn me into someone that constantly se…
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/21 05:11 PM
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I really hope you moved on because there ain’t anything there for you.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/21 10:15 AM
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