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Depends on age, quality of character, and what the guy is looking for.
/r/ExRedPill28/05/24 09:26 PM
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As a woman, when I see an Alpha Chad, I think he’s a closet case with way bigger “issues” than being gay. I’ll still watch my drink around him, but not as much as some entitled kid from family money because low key, I just feel like I’m not his type. And not because of who I am. Rather, I think his interests lie elsewhere. Cough cough.
/r/ExRedPill25/05/24 12:09 AM
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It’s less about whether or not you have a job and more about what you’re trying your do to change that. I’ve dated men who were unemployed or underemployed but they needed to have a dream and a realistic plan to keep them getting after it. Applying for undesirable jobs while also being proactive about networking and gaining the skills to make their dream job more attainable. Aimlessness is for the Himbos. Desirable women can’t afford to be aimless either. People like other people who have a plan…
/r/ExRedPill24/05/24 11:46 PM
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This is the most emotionally attractive post I’ve ever seen on this sub. I bet your wife is crazy about you and probably thinks you’re a 10. Guys, this is what women have been trying to explain to you exhaustively on here. For free. In our spare time. I hope that some of you can understand it now that a man who gets laid and isn’t some secretly homosexual Giga Chad has taken the time to explain it to you, too. Women want partership. If you have OP’s level of self-awareness, you’ll probably luck …
/r/ExRedPill24/05/24 11:40 PM
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So many of these online theories about human behavior are just people improperly understanding the theory and posting about it flippantly like a meme. A lot of these things become untethered from their true meaning quickly.
/r/ExRedPill08/05/24 06:42 PM
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Do you have ADHD? Feeling paranoia about how you are perceived is pretty common in ADHD.
/r/ExRedPill08/05/24 06:40 PM
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I meant that regarding body types and physical looks within the context of the conversations you’ve been having all over this forum.
/r/ExRedPill02/05/24 12:36 AM
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Of course looks/attraction play a role, but one woman/man’s 10 is not another woman/man’s 10. For that reason, I don’t think “leagues” exist outside of financials or status, and even that changes from case to case.
/r/ExRedPill02/05/24 12:24 AM
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Heartbreak can also really help you figure out what your priorities are if you choose to take the right lessons from it after the initial sting. There was nothing like heartache in terms of me really honing in on my values versus “oh, I dunno, I just want to meet a guy who is career driven, really hot, great in bed, and like a Golden Retriever.” Ultimately where I landed after a few major heartbreaks were “he has to be interested in my life and what matters to me, he has to be willing to talk th…
/r/ExRedPill01/05/24 10:27 PM
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I don’t think that what men think is attractive in other men is what women find attractive in men and that’s the point I see a lot of people on here struggle with.
/r/ExRedPill01/05/24 10:11 PM
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Regarding your last paragraph, unless you live in a major city, most men cannot socially or financially afford the ramifications of being predatory. Words gets around fast. A person who has honed their skills at manipulation is still a person who is going to go mask off at some point. Fuck around and do that enough and will affect every corner of your life. You’ll lose friends, it will hurt your professional reputation, and those two things suffering will hurt almost every other area of your lif…
/r/ExRedPill01/05/24 09:56 PM
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Not to mention that I have not met one woman in my life who does that. Lol. Mention dating disappointments? Sure. The only people I see online every day not doing anything to change their situation are morbidly obese people who claim they’re desperate to lose weight but won’t go on a walk and men like this, who have made being a sexless loser with a bad personality their cross to bear in life.
/r/ExRedPill01/05/24 09:46 PM
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He likes to argue with women.
/r/ExRedPill01/05/24 09:44 PM
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In the time it took you to write this, you could have plucked your unibrow or pick out a TedTalk to watch. You waste your time here like a dog with a bone asking the same shit over and over and not accepting the answers instead of like, DOING SOMETHING WITH YOUR LIFE!! Make yourself better!!! Watch a comedy and see if you can identify what’s funny so you can be funnier. Talk about ANYTHING ELSE online. Go for a walk. Volunteer. Do one thing with your life that women find to be an attractive qual…
/r/ExRedPill01/05/24 09:40 PM
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Wow, yes! And even the “league” thing and 1-10 rating thing are so high school. This isn’t how grown women think and those things certainly aren’t a determining factor in who we date and marry.
/r/ExRedPill01/05/24 09:28 PM
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I feel like we should stop giving these people advice because most of them want to argue instead of actually mentally processing what’s being said to them.
/r/ExRedPill01/05/24 09:26 PM
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Because you’re “over” discussing the person that they love? You’re jealous of them getting a chick’s number? You literally cannot be happy for them? Simply because you think you’re too ugly? You’re not as ugly as you think. You most likely don’t have their experiences because women can immediately sniff out that your personality fucking sucks.
/r/ExRedPill01/05/24 09:23 PM
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What a lot of the red pill guys don’t even understand with their gym pics and stuff is that women have no interest in that. They’re thinking of what gay men find attractive. Red pill guys are basically gay men who lack all of the struggle and inherent goodness many, many gay men have. That’s why women love to be friends with gay men, by the way. They’re good people, funny, and one thing you can be sure of: they’re not secretly trying to fuck you.
/r/ExRedPill01/05/24 09:20 PM
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Not to mention that a lot of those red pill bros don’t even live the life they’re promoting. It’s a grift and some guys are just weak-willed enough to buy in to it.
/r/ExRedPill01/05/24 09:16 PM
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It’s actually really easy! Stop talking to them all together because they are not your friends because you’re actually not really a friend to them!
/r/ExRedPill01/05/24 09:12 PM
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A pity party
/r/ExRedPill01/05/24 09:05 PM
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Also, a lot of younger people especially are not dating for keeps. So odds are, unless you’re both being 100% honest about your intentions, you’re going to see a lot of people who are looking for a relationship wind up getting hurt by someone who wants to hit it and quit it. A lot of people also just don’t know what they want. They think they want a partner, but once they’re in it, they realize it’s not for them. Also, maybe his hot female friends have shitty or annoying/needy personalities.
/r/ExRedPill01/05/24 09:04 PM
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Not to mention that probably a good % of “women” who took that OKCupid test were just people catfishing. Quite literally gay guys and people just generally like fucking with people.
/r/ExRedPill01/05/24 08:59 PM
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Are you swapping photos with them via DM? How do you know they’re these conventionally attractive men? I don’t think you’re understanding that being attractive as a person is a whole 360° thing. You have to be humble yet confident. Interesting because you like to learn and have hobbies. A sense of humor.
/r/ExRedPill01/05/24 08:54 PM
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I have met so many traditionally handsome men that I can immediately tell have dysfunctional personalities. It dries a lady up real quick.
/r/ExRedPill01/05/24 08:50 PM
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Any good looks a man with an incel mindset are immediately wiped away by the fact that they have an incel mindset. Women are intuitive. Just because you don’t look like an incel or walk or talk like one doesn’t mean we can’t clock you within 5 minutes of conversation.
/r/ExRedPill01/05/24 08:48 PM
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Women date men who have attractive personalities. Thats what women who are seriously dating for a real relationship are looking for.
/r/ExRedPill01/05/24 08:46 PM
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Maybe don’t be so precious about these things. They’re a person on Reddit who probably simplified their thought because they were done shitting and needed to wipe their ass. Is it the most delicate phrasing? No. But did you understand what they meant?
/r/ExRedPill01/05/24 08:43 PM
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Yeah, you have an easier time in life when you’re attractive in the sense that you might get a free smoothie or a bartender will give you your first drink free. Maybe people are nicer to you when you need help at the grocery store. That kind of thing. The fact is, the guy people REALLY are the jovial guys you can tell are charming and have a unique personality. I’ve fallen for so many strangers in just a second because I’m like, “damn, you can tell he’s the funniest person at every party. His at…
/r/ExRedPill01/05/24 08:41 PM
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Thanks
/r/ExRedPill01/05/24 08:36 PM
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The whole “I’m ugly 😢” thing is so fucking unattractive, too. That’s a loser attitude. Women like men who have confidence. Fake it til you make it. Say affirmations. Get a hair cut. Go to a beauty consultant (many men do this) and get tips on how to maximize your natural looks. It’s like saying, “I have no friends.” That’s not a good way to make people want to be around you. It makes you sound like a loser. Literally pretend you have friends and a social life if you have to. Nothing crazy, but d…
/r/ExRedPill01/05/24 08:35 PM
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It it goes the other way. They want to OWN you and think EVERYONE wants to OWN you as much as they do. I’ve had some male friends do this to me even though dating was never on the table on my end, and you start to feel like they’re stalking you or could really hurt you physically. It’s like a Lifetime movie.
/r/ExRedPill01/05/24 08:27 PM
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If I’m being completely blunt, he’s not even interested in being friends with these women and just waiting in the wings like a fucking creep. It sounds predatory. Heads up, OP: Women will date ugly dudes, but they will not date a guy who is a creep. They probably like you as a friend for one reason or another, but they suspect you’re kind of a creep. Since most men struggle with misogyny, many women are naturally going to be their friends even though they’re aware of their funky mindset. Good fr…
/r/ExRedPill01/05/24 08:24 PM
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I think his brain is broken.
/r/ExRedPill01/05/24 08:13 PM
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Women get played by ugly guys too. Men get played by attractive women and unattractive women. Good looks is not what creates a shitty man. Your whole mindset is wrong.
/r/ExRedPill01/05/24 08:11 PM
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I don’t care about being appropriate. I’m giving OP information they can follow up with their shrink about. I’ve asked my therapists flat out “do you think I have ____?” There are people on this website who are posting pictures of themselves fucking their wives’ ear gage holes. This isn’t a “positive responses dating advice” forum. It’s for people who are trying to deprogram themselves from rape culture and propaganda sold to them by people like Andrew Tate.
/r/ExRedPill30/04/24 03:01 AM
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Most people don’t tell you they’re only using you for money, ya dingbat.
/r/ExRedPill30/04/24 12:08 AM
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Yes. Or if you’re only being friendly to them because you have romantic interest, don’t pretend it’s for any other reason. Sack up and ask someone out.
/r/ExRedPill29/04/24 11:53 PM
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Yes. They pretended that they were interested me as a friend while they secretly harbored sexual/romantic interest in me and once they started to realize that it was probably never going to happen (meaning me not naturally falling in love with them eventually) they pulled trig and confessed that they’d secretly liked me the whole time and what I was naturally assuming was friendship energy was actually just a guy breaking his back to try and make me like him.
/r/ExRedPill29/04/24 09:54 PM
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Therapists often do not tell people with Cluster Bs that they have one because they don’t think the person is going to have a good reaction to it. Many quit the client altogether.
/r/ExRedPill29/04/24 07:31 PM
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His therapist would tell him if he has nice guy syndrome. He is probably incredibly stubborn/dense and cannot implement tools that you’re supposed to gain in therapy or he’s said something(s) that’s revealed him to have a cluster b personality. I promise you, a good therapist will tell you pretty much anything you need to hear unless they think it’s unsafe for them or the client to say it outloud. A big part of being a therapist is hitting your clients with some hard truths. If his therapist sai…
/r/ExRedPill29/04/24 02:52 AM
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A good therapist actually would tell you if you were not making yourself an attractive potential partner. A good therapist will tell you to your face that you have poor hygiene or presentation, or if you need to try being more open to methods like X, Y, or Z. If they’re not telling you, it’s probably because they sense something is wrong with you on a grander scale (like a cluster B personality disorder) or that’s unhealthy about your approach to the point that they do not think the responsible …
/r/ExRedPill29/04/24 02:44 AM
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He probably thinks that women are attracted to what gay men are attracted to. Muscles, big jaw, et c. Women want a guy who wears clean clothes, has a good personality, a conversationalist, funny, et c. That has been beat in to men’s heads a million times but they still think it’s about looking good in Armani Exchange t-shirt. Edit: Also, he should consider how many weirdos coast in friend groups because they are friends with one of the homies. Being vaguely socially cool is not something adult w…
/r/ExRedPill29/04/24 02:34 AM
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You need to ask a good female friend, preferably one in a relationship or where it’s completely friendzoned, what is keeping you from meeting women you like and getting them to stick around. A truly blunt friend will just tell you that you’re going after girls who aren’t interested and were never going to be interested, that your vibes are off, or you have a hygiene problem. One thing I’m not seeing people point out is how blatantly obvious it is to a woman when you have ulterior motives or are …
/r/ExRedPill29/04/24 02:24 AM
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Because sometimes that can be a deceptive role in people’s interest in each other. Money and power can override all other levels of physical and emotional attraction, especially in the short term. That goes both ways. I’ve seen my rich, powerful friends of both sexes be essentially exploited for their financial and social situations by someone who probably wasn’t really that in to them. For the most part, for people with healthy minds who are in a position to be dating someone, attraction is fle…
/r/ExRedPill29/04/24 02:01 AM
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No? As a woman, I am drawn to people who are funny, confident, interesting, interested in something (like a hobby), and make me feel good. I’ve dated men WAY above my “league” and men who are objectively unattractive. Yes, having a good job and being able to be treated to dinners and stuff is fun, but I’d rather be broke in a trailer laughing my ass off with someone who makes me feel safe and is a genuinely GOOD man who shows consideration to myself and others. I mean that. My SO and I were dead…
/r/ExRedPill29/04/24 01:41 AM
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You have not dealt with your issues if this is how you approach dating.
/r/ExRedPill29/04/24 01:33 AM
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Let me rephrase it for you: You are not responsible enough to be in a relationship right now. Perhaps looks wise this person is “in your league” but they can offer something you cannot because you’re still thinking in “leagues” and scales of 1 to 10. That’s not how real life works. You are not romantically interested in her. It sounds like you have strong friend feelings, but do not grasp that a relationship is a commitment to the responsibility for another person’s feelings. That was the first …
/r/ExRedPill29/04/24 01:32 AM
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Infatuation will literally blind you. When you’re intoxicated by someone’s vibe, you look past the stuff like a weird mole on their face or fat in the wrong places. In fact, you grow to love them. I’ve dated some world class uggos and I only realized it after and it was because they deeply wounded me in some way and the things my mind naturally ignored were suddenly in 20/20.
/r/ExRedPill29/04/24 01:22 AM
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Go to therapy. I see you’re posting on “exiting incel” as well. If you were really deep in the incel/toxic red pill culture, you need to literally deprogram yourself and heal. You cannot use this girl’s mind, body, and time to heal what the propaganda has done to your brain. People that aren’t being paid for their work are not meant to fix you in your adult years. That’s a YOU responsibility. Break up with her as kindly as possible, get a job or pick up extra hours, and start talking to someone …
/r/ExRedPill29/04/24 01:17 AM
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You need to grow up and be honest with yourself. I wouldn’t expect someone who is model material to date me but I also wouldn’t date a troll with bad hygiene and a terrible attitude. You’re not attracting people “in your league” because you are not changing your league by having a better personality. Work on your charm and how you treat others. A genuinely great guy will attract pretty women. I’ve dated plenty of guys who were physically beneath me on paper but they really made me laugh and were…
/r/ExRedPill29/04/24 01:11 AM
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Yeah. Under no terms do you say that to her. Lie. Say you’re failing a class and don’t have time to date. Tell her your gay. Whatever. You sound really young (may I ask how old?) and you can severely mess with a person by saying something like that when the ACTUAL truth is that you rushed into a relationship because you don’t what a relationship entails. There’s no reason to tell her that, because unless she’s 300lbs and 5’1”, this is probably just your preference and not something that will bar…
/r/ExRedPill29/04/24 01:05 AM
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The other question is “is it fair to her?” And sorry, no. I don’t agree about being honest about not being attracted to her. He was irresponsible for pulling the trigger on a relationship with someone who he didn’t have the fundamentals with. There’s no reason this young woman should have a complex about her looks with someone who has seen her naked. This is his problem, not hers, and it shouldn’t leave her feeling any other way. “I feel like we were better as friends. I like you so much that I …
/r/ExRedPill28/04/24 07:01 PM
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Oh no. You made things romantic with one of the homies. I don’t think it’s shallow unless you only like girls who look identical. Most people like to be seen as attractive to their SO. Typically, that’s the only person you NEED to give you that validation. You sound slightly repulsed by her. Looking at her is fine except for when you’re having sex? To the point that you find sex difficult? I would be devastated if I found out my SO felt that way. Tell her that you like her a lot but something fe…
/r/ExRedPill28/04/24 06:55 PM
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