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Octellius/r/askMRP13/02/20 12:17 AM
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OP, this is better than what I would have said, better because this poster took the answer from the basics I would have provided and highlighted something I get wrong myself. The mental war in my head that rarely subsides. Turn it off. I'll add on what I can, and perhaps it help you, if not, then writing this out helps me ;). When you have a plan, and you are executing the plan there is no decision to be made, no pro\con on every action. It's in line with the goal. Do it. Fail a set that might h…
/r/askMRP02/11/20 01:19 AM
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No. It makes no sense, and I can't even force myself to understand your perspective. You're waffling and DEERing. I found that the point of STFU is to stop you justifying yourself to the world. It's a step towards making yourself your mental point of origin. So, first up stop undermining your mental progress by making two mistakes: 1) Making excuses, in your life and to us. 2) Doing things that you need excuses for. You will not get the physical<>psychological feedback loop going by bodyweight e…
/r/askMRP28/10/20 11:18 PM
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My simple addition; Be the kind of father that my son would like to like himself. Be the kind of man that my daughter will judge her interests by. This will either work or not work for them, but the outcome is focused on my actions.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 09:07 AM
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Still think its the right thing to do. Ive mentioned it a few times that mrp should leave behind liferafts that a dedicated person would figure out. Thats how i got here. I never posted there, but did fine a post by as person that was like mrp 1 year on type posts. "How i saved my marriage by extreme ownership and hard work". Dont list mrp as the answer as such, just recap steels guide, and link to a few sidebar resources. Astute readers wanting more will work out how to find mrp from there. Las…
/r/askMRP09/10/20 07:25 AM
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It's kind of sad you didn't work this one out yourself. 1) Read the archives. Just about every problem anyone has has been had before by legions of former AFC's. Mmmm, thats the whole list. Everything you need to know is already here and nobody is REALLY all that interested in your specific circumstances except you. Unless of course you're a guy with the bat shit crazy chick stories. I love those. Not to be an asshole, but this stuff is really simple. Work out how you would live your life as a p…
/r/askMRP09/10/20 12:10 AM
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I solved the money problem pre MRP and it did me well. Here is how I did it: Her accounts: -Personal + Family. At the same bank. She can move cash between then as necessary. If she shortchanges the family food to buy shoes then that's what she does. I push the 'right amount' of cash in to each account, weekly with a scheduled payment. I never comment on ANYTHING she spends the cash on. She can happily drain both accounts every week and never have to care about savings. You can imagine why. All w…
/r/askMRP08/10/20 11:58 PM
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If you are going to delay lifting diet the fuck out of yourself. No gainz to fret over. Get on PSMF and stay on it until you are around 12-14bf%.
/r/askMRP07/10/20 05:17 AM
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I do this too, but it comes in two forms: In one case I will relish the adversity of doing something hard for the sake of accomplishing it. For example I used to do ultra distance cycling events, 24 hour MTB events and the like. It;s a real test of willpower to not quit at 3am, at 5deg in the mud and rain in a forest by yourself, exhausted. Once that idea gets in to my head that suffering=???I Proved Something???. I get to talk about it, it turns in to validation seeking and the next time I do s…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 12:49 AM
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I have to admit, I'd love a bit of this myself these days. It looks so familiar lol Best bangs I ever has was when my wife decided I was having an affair. She was close (the woman at work was giving me very strong IOI's), but I did nothing except for reap the rewards. I'm thinking that to a certain extent you are getting buried in paydirt and failing to see the gold nuggets as the dirt is suffocating you. Just tell her that every time she makes an accusation you're going to rail her even harder.…
/r/askMRP02/10/20 02:18 AM
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Hang on. You have been competing in basketball for 25 years. Assuming you don't count little league as 'competitive', this implies you are old. You have no assets. Rent. no cash or stocks or anything to separate just cards and car loans. Your wife looks to you for leadership, and probably anxious all the time. You say bipolar, so she is probably rolling through waves of depression to go along with the crazy. Have you considered the possibility that you just suck? I'm not being an asshole here. I…
/r/askMRP02/10/20 02:01 AM
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If you are expecting failures on bench add dips or close grip bench press or skull crushes on one non bench day, and floor presses on the other. Drop the weight 20%, concentrate on form, increase reps to double, then retest the old problem. Approach the workout well hydrated and rested and well slept. Stronglifts is not very long, but if you are getting sloppy due to weakness add an intra drink and do a fuckton of conditioning. No rest in a set. Only pause long enough to grab a breath. If you ne…
/r/askMRP02/10/20 01:17 AM
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I'm not talking for the sub here, but I would say that reading too much will reduce your clarity. You need to read a few books to get your head right. Then return to them and their idea's again to pick up on what you missed the first time. The more you read, the less you'll absorb. If you are really this far in, just start posting a OYS in r/marriedredpill for fine tuning. In terms of your problem I think I have an idea of what you are asking for because it's a pothole I hit. If you dread her th…
/r/askMRP01/10/20 07:00 AM
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Oh boy. When new people arrive here there is usually something that they already do well, and a whole bunch that they get wrong. Unless you are successful business owner\professional that ripped and fit you're starting on zero. Of all of the places to start, you started at 'Married Red Pill' you here is the basic start point: You need to be someone worth desiring, and worth respecting. The path to get there can be in two directions. You can pretend to be someone worthy, and just emulate all the …
/r/askMRP01/10/20 05:53 AM
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OP is a WOTSM savant. He has been doing this a whole month bro! IMO, this guy seems the same as the last one that I copped some shit for calling out a few months ago. Some new guy turns up, uses a bunch of in-group jagon. Paints a picture of how awesome he has his shit nailed. Things to think about: Why bother posting this? My guess he, like the last guy, read a bunch of shit, made up or positioned his story to appeal to the group. Why? Validation seeking. What kind of person hides from the grou…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 05:03 AM
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OP is a competitor in survivor. I liked that challenge where people would stand on a post in the hot sun for hours. Jesus, the usual deadbedroom is boring compared to this. I love it.
/r/askMRP08/09/20 10:29 AM
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Well you gave me a chuckle there. She was an 8. Ask yourself why the fuck was she single? Because the last guy probably has a wrecked car and a restraining order against him. He started off nice, but is like, just a jerk now. Wake the fuck up. She never was an 8. She was just temporarily hot. Now you see the real creature inside and you came here for advice on how to 'purge her demons'. Ship her off to her parents with a note that says "try again". Next. FUCKING OR... knock her up and make some …
/r/askMRP08/09/20 10:25 AM
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Easy. Work out and idealised model of what you want life to look like, what you look like. Now you have a goal. How do you get there? Lift, then sidebar. If you dont do the work, talking to us wont help you and will just piss people off. Do an accounting of what you screwed up in life, how to fix it and put it in your OYS0 post. Be accountable for progress.
/r/askMRP08/09/20 10:08 AM
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MRP should consider occational subtle raids there. Propaganda for lack of a better term. I only kept looking until I found rollo, mrp, etc due to one guy. This one guy wrote a "How I fixed my marriage, 1 year later" post. It looked like so much effort when I was a DB lurker, but looking back it was the thread of hope I needed, and followed. Now in hindsight it was almost certain he came here first.
/r/askMRP08/09/20 10:03 AM
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The rational male year one posts. Read them OP. Thevperson with the power in the relationship is the one who needs the other the least. For me this was the key. Take control of your health. Build muscle, drop fat. Take control of all money and bills. At least everything you earn. Control your personality. Take control of every aspect of your life as if you are not married or going to be not married. The sidebar gives you the tools, but living in a state of not needing your wife for anything is m…
/r/askMRP08/09/20 09:54 AM
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Research shibari. Its not about the knots, its about the fluid movements. Never react to a mistake, dont bother making it look perfect. Her experince depends on your leadership and confidence. Firm hold, she isnt really going to try and get out. She will just enjoy the basic feeling of constriction. Tips.. when moving the rooe over her skin remember you are on in a yacht race. Move naturally at human speed esp when pulling through longer sections. Practice your double column tie alone. You need …
/r/askMRP25/08/20 10:15 AM
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Problem is, if you have to explicitly tell her that sex is non negotiable then youll get drip fed. Sex comes from desire. Drip feed sex is a rudamentary minimal effort to obtain your compliance in paying her bills. I expect she sees you as a nice guy betabux provider. Chances of her seeking or getting strange will be off the charts. Only chance i see is to scare the pants off her with a ruthless sdlow motion dump. She has to submit to your non acceptance of this. Even then youll be on thin ice o…
/r/askMRP25/08/20 09:38 AM
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When you are no longer content with the mediocrity that they live. You are no longer the nice dependable work horse they found useful to use. Sounds like a crisis, just not for the person improving.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/20 04:50 AM
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Come on you two. JFC. You're acting as if this guy has low T and it's not his bloody fault. Most dudes walk around eating, drinking and bathing in weird chemical cocktails and get tested and poof, low T, not my fault. Just go pop some pills, rub on gel or get the Dr's office to pin you for the rest of your life because you are somehow broken. Lets not wonder why, let not take responsibility for Low T, just get pinned. This whole debat reminds me of fatties claiming that they can eat at a calory …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/20 02:35 AM
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Farmers carry. Incidental shrugs+grip strength+core Never had a DL hand opening problem since I added them too.
/r/askMRP31/07/20 09:20 AM
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I spent some years managing a team and am now an independent contractor in IT. Here is my advice. Solicit feedback. Do EXACTLY what the guy keeping you in a job wants, even if it's stupid or not best for the company (in your opinion). Always give the client what they want and you get paid. What about your ideas. Really nobody cares right now as you are getting managed out. Once you have the feedback, do it, report in successes. Take problems to others for help, bosses see success. When you are o…
/r/askMRP31/07/20 09:17 AM
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This is exactly what OYS is for. It'll be extra beneficial for you as the crowd will call out out when you slacken off. Religious weekly OYS is what I'd suggest. Also, consider reading atomic habits.
/r/askMRP31/07/20 09:00 AM
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I also tried something new yesterday that helped. I used to force my legs out on the way up. But it was more useful on the way down as it put my knees over my toes on the way up. It's much harder pushing outwards coming up than setting up beforehand. Also been taking fish oil and glutamine for past two months. Zero pain yesterday.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/20 08:46 AM
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Also on 531+bbb. For my squat knee I did two things beyond the agile8 routine. On squat day I do an extra warmup. Standing, pull your foot up behind your back, toe up, then lean back on to the wall and pin it there for 30-60 seconds Second, I found a reference to spreading the floor that made sense. Imagine trying to tear a big sheet of paper you are standing on by pushing your feet apart. Especially when coming back up.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/20 09:45 AM
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Missions and Gifts I'll tell you what I discovered in hopes that it might help you work out what path to follow. My concept of a 'mission' might be flawed, or not, but what I do know is that when I had the realisation as to what it was it made 100% total sense and had been sitting in front of me the whole time. Many people have missions about what they want to 'be', and for some reason I, like you, could never work out what I wanted to be, other that 'a man who gets what he wants'. That’s not re…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/20 12:49 AM
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lesbian bedroom death 133k hits for "lesbian bed death". Seems rare but not made up. Never heard of it either. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lesbian_bed_death
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/20 11:48 PM
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OYS10 Physical Still on the PSMF diet. Had one refeed day (added about 800cal of carbs for one day) and found it changed my mood significantly to the better. Last week was a slog. Daily weight just bounced between 86.7 and 87.3kg all week long. I did the refeed to reset my lipids (apparently its useful, idk) and went back to basics in eating. Tinnedt una, salad, etc. In the past two days I’m back on to the daily drops. Sticking to 180P, 10C, 10-20F, and I’ve upped fat burners and caffeine intake…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/20 05:21 AM
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A family friend works as a professional arbiter, mostly in the corp space though. I didn't know there was even an alternative to dedicated adversarial lawyers. He used to partner in this countries top firm and semi retired to help negotiations go smoothly for a living, point is, he actually is a lawyer, but is specalised in looking for balanced outcomes. Maybe look around for something like that in your area? I've always assumed I'd go in that direction if my breakup was not adversarial. With ki…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/20 04:33 AM
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In Australia I found a place that runs it at $1800 a year. Prepaid or $2200AUD month by month. Problem is, once you are on TRT you cannot get off it and not have T plummet and lose muscle mass. Double edged sword. Once you are a customer you have to stay a customer.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/20 05:46 AM
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https://anabolicmen.com/how-to-increase-testosterone-levels-naturally/ Big part of increasing T is not simply getting a high ng\dl score. You need bioavailable T. SHBG and Armotase are the enemies that are either converting T to estrogen(aromatase) or binding and nullifying it(SHBG). The DR was considering an Aromatase inhibitor. I would go with this before TRT at this point. It'll help rid you of excess estrogen which supports your existing fat levels (and the fat support estrogen levels, so it…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/20 05:43 AM
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r/PSMF I post there from time to time. Longer form results are posted over there. Short form in my OYS. DEXA told me I had 16.9kg of fat and was at 18.2% BF. I set a goal to lose half of the fat, 8kg, then get back to bulking. So far in I've lost 6.6kg in 28 days. So in pounds averaging half a pound loss per day. In this period I ate around 200g P, and <20g C&F each per day. My lifts have suffered a bit, but I have recently started getting new 1RM highs on about 800-1000cal a day. (Zero cheat me…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/20 04:11 AM
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What did happen? I tried to search through comment history, but my skills were not up to the task. Pre MRP by about 9 months I was still trying to fix deadbedroom. I noticed some signs inside of her that suggested should would like a D\s relationship. I tried to become the 'Dominant' with no frame and zero credibility. I LARP'ed and pushed forwards and then focused on 'her required changes'. Trying thing after thing to get her in to 'her role'. Looking back now it seems comical. If anything I lo…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/20 04:56 AM
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When I read about horns saying something about working out that his wife is an asset to his mission it sounded like hamstering. Context : Where I am today I can see what you are talking about. I also remember what you wrote with a lot of clarity and hoped that I would bridge the gap myself at some point. I just had to set it aside however as I had a job to do. However when you are in the anger phase it looks more like "finding reasons to set aside the anger". For me, the anger phase was an excel…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/20 04:35 AM
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"I also know that I had some pretty awesome raw material 15 years" Obvious caution on that sentence. Building her to be what you want is a road of despair unless your SMV is much higher and passive dread is pervasive. This is where I started MRP from. She was not what I wanted, I tried to rebuild her and clearly it didn't work...LOL. Others will have a good philisophical statement here. Your are the focus, etc. If you have a machiavellian personality you'll work out how to organise a series of u…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/20 06:07 AM
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ISTFU I don't know about you, but when I have seething rage boiling below the surface I can accomplish amazing things. I cultivated it. (Probably unhealthy, seek advice from you medical care professional, blah, blah. ). What it allowed however was an almost myopic focus on the things that would give me the most advantage. Prepare me for after. For me that was lifting. Learning about testosterone optimisation. Controlling my diet like the coach of a russian gymnastic team. Every rep was a big fat…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/20 04:18 AM
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He drew first blood.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/20 04:02 AM
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In my anger phase it help me to just say "no, this relationship is terminal" set a date for my self improvement goals to be ready with the highest SMV possible for the inevitable. When I read about horns saying something about working out that his wife is an asset to his mission it sounded like hamstering. I forged on with the assumption of 9 months and I'm out. MRP however suggests that you are best to use your wife to at least sharpen your sword. Practice kino, cocky funny, try out mood change…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/20 04:01 AM
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Software development is a refinement of human thought in to a structured language. In that world there exists something called 'design patterns'. I found that while they were invented to solve software problems they are actually generic ways humans solve problems, and only happen apply to SD as it's a very cerebral activity and people have bothers working this stuff out. I then take those idea, and apply them back in to the world like a set of prebuild solutions looking for problems to apply to.…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/20 03:41 AM
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OYS9 Mental From OYS8 “u\SorcererKing challenged me to know myself better. His simple question was like dropping a disease on a city.” I spent around 6 hours dissecting some events from my younger years to understand how I ended up as a half-man in adulthood. Repercussions, honest analysis and solution. A story of bullet points, setting the scene up to OYS0. Want to point out that I don’t feel sorry for myself. Early days · Mother was a child when I was conceived. Had to wait until she was 18 ju…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/20 03:29 AM
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You seem to just behind me on the trail. What worked for me was to set aside the wife for a while. After 15 years chances are she isn't going anywhere soon. Concentrate on getting your own wins. I did physical, lifting and weight loss. Find happiness away from here and you might well stop needing her actions or reactions to define your own happiness. Do you like your wife "right now"? Each moment you'll answer differently. That's the landscape of emotions. If it were me I would suggest parking t…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/20 09:53 AM
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1hour, 5mins average, including about 10 mins of ball rolling and stretching. Timing is heavily dependent on rest interval. To get a good idea of 5/3/1 everyone will say buy the book, I did, but the articles on tnation are just as good as Jim spilled 90% of the beans there. Best of luck!
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/20 09:32 AM
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I'll second 5/3/1. Bench, Squat, Dead, OHP. 4 days a week, each day has strong focus on that main lift. I use BBB sets after the main, so I do 11 sets of that main movement. Assistance lifts are up to you, but generally compound on the main lift. I do pullovers on bench day. I do farmers carry on both lower leg days. OHP is do dips. I probably need to add pulling movement back in later on. It'll work slow. You only have one set in the day when you actually push yourself, but not to failure. Each…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/20 06:18 AM
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OYS8 Physical 48M 86.5kg, 183cm, ~13%BF Fat loss. Still on PSMF. I’m now down 6.4kg, 1.8kg for the week. (Last dexa said I had 16.9 in total). Excel tells me my BF should be about 13.2%. +\- 2% ish depending on how much muscle I put on since the last dexa. Visually the dadbod is gone and I’m now fine tuning. Stomach is really starting to flatten out, in particular first thing in the morning. Shoulder muscles and bones are more distinct as are individual quad muscles. Traps no longer look like a …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/20 05:03 AM
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Fair warning. I started reading it very early, maybe 1-2 months in and realised it wasn't for me at that point. I realised I had more fundamental problems to fix. My take on that book is that I'll revisit it when I start getting to a "whats next" point because all the obvious work is done. It was listed as advanced reading. YMMV.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/20 06:06 AM
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I had to read you posting history to work out what you were looking for in an answer. It could have been either you wanting to make a point that what I wrote was pointless in my own improvement and a waste of time writing and yours for reading it(true), or deeper, that you wanted to see if I would admit to possibly looking for validation from the group, even inverse validation by me having to defend my position(possibly true) or whether I would consider jealousy of someone elses success as a rea…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/20 05:42 AM
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I took the conversation with weakandsensitive offline as I decided that continuing the conversation above was not beneficial. My overall point is that I think this is a fabrication. A single post, single use burner account, with no involvement after post, seemingly no involvement with MRP such as OYS, even though he called himself OYS man and uses in-group terminology. Simple problems with nice clean solutions. The storyline is nice and linear, loaded with 100% of what you want to hear. As menti…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/20 07:08 AM
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"Why do you think this should be harder?" By 'this' I'm going to assume you mean MRP. So, I don't think MRP 'should' be harder, I have experienced that it just is. Changing mental models, rebuilding physicality, reestablishing social networks, learning how to guide a teenage boy so that he doesn't turn in to what I was. Trying to work out what being a Rp fatgher even means when you have a daughter. Having the mental focus to keep all this on track and optimised and progressing at a speed that is…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/20 03:43 AM
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:| If this is real, and your path was so smooth then I wish you the best of luck keeping it this way. The whole thing however read as if it was an infomercial selling a simple 12 step plan to success all you needed was some stock imagery of smiling diverse happy people and a PC compliant mission statement to go to market. Good on you. You started from a good place and made your life slightly better. Congrats. I would suggest that if you started this after 20 years of marriage, a few kids and a c…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/20 06:00 AM
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If by "several", I mean "two", then I fulfilled this one. It's pathetic, but I just feel like I'll come across as begging/nagging. This can be a tough one. What just worked for me was to actually stop caring for a while. Not exactly Monk Mode. I actually just stopped even initiating and concentrated for 3 months on myself, in the gym mostly. I mean it still happened, but for a while it felt like I had to initiate to see 'where I was with her', the rejection would then be an invalidation of my ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/20 06:42 AM
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My advice. Get a lacross ball and roll circles on your glutes. If it ffeels bruised then you just found your lower back problem. I say this from 20 years of lower back problems. Now, the second I get a single grumble from my lowe back I drop the ball on the carpet and roll it out. Further. I also found that my hip flexors were VERY tight. Used the ball on them too by trapping the ball between my hip and a wall and rolling from back to front. Lastly, I found the reason for each knot forming was t…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/20 05:47 AM
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If I am looking for signs of my actions leading her, I am still using her actions as a end goal of my actions. I did this. It caused more problems than it solved. When I workout in the gym, I like charts, stats, back data. Immediate reinforcing feedback. I CAN DO THIS NEW whatever. Problem with the wife is that at best she will be a lagging indicator. Lagging by how much? Well how long exactly does the 1000 foot rope take to snap tight? There is no number. The only way I found around this proble…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/20 02:13 AM
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Back Problems: More of the same. Last entry on this subject. I have had lower back issues for most of my life and kept on going to a Dr about them. No, no spinal problems they would all say. It;s all muscular. At which point I breathed a sigh of relief and did nothing. Until I could simply not DL any more as it scared the crap out of me. I felt like a twig under load about to snap at any moment. Then I met some random dude in the gym sitting on a small ball. He was heavy with muscle but every da…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/20 01:55 AM
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Kind thanks. Vry much appreviated. What will I say next time? Good suggestion. I need to be faster with this stuff. As with everything "practice make permanent", so I better start practising more of what I want to be normal.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/20 01:39 AM
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I did hold off on starting OYS early on and needed a shove and often skipped weeks or months between posts. The primary reason for that was there were things I needed to fix(mental and physical). They were rudimentary, well described and there was little value for anyone to read more victim pukes and face plants from a butthurt rambo who wanted a pat on the back for taking baby steps in the right direction. In some ways you are right that I protected my underbelly early on by not wanting the spo…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/20 01:31 AM
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OYS7 Physical More weight loss stuff. Staying the course with PSMF. This is mean to be an ‘extreme’ diet but to be honest it’s pretty workable and pretty effective and sees to have very low downsides for me(rarely even hungry, no light-headedness that others have reported on). Just finished deadlifts about 2 hours ago and was 1kg off my 1RM PR. So, the initial dip in overall strength is subsiding. I’ve dropped BBB sets, they would not have been building muscle anyway. My 5/3/1 program is not slo…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/20 06:42 AM
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I'm one of the guys from the MRP sub, just poking around to get alternative perspectives. I can tell you what HE should be doing, and possibly how to bring it about. The captain doesn't need to micromanage, he can delegate, then check in on what is being delegated. Generally some parameters need to be set and checked on. For a holiday that might include budget, lists of countries one the itinerary (some might have adverse geopolitical\political\religious complications that present risks he doesn…
/r/RedPillWives10/06/20 03:57 AM
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OYS6 Physical Been on the cut for just over 2 weeks. First two weeks I dutifully tracked calories and lost weight in line with expectations. I was targeting 500 and getting about 470 averaged over a week. Eating family means and counting calories is hard to control portions of, so I always over estimate what I eat in the spreadsheets so my averaged daily deficit is probably higher than 470. With that said while researching exactly how much strength loss is normal I came across something called P…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/20 01:52 AM
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Wow, this guy went from askmrp post to deleted user in 2 days.
/r/askMRP01/06/20 12:59 AM
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OK, so do it. You move in after a month or two of watching you fart, belch and leave to bathroom smelling like shit, eating 'her' food, using 'her' things you notice she is making unreasonable demands, like, "your turn to wash up" . You think, screw this, I'm heading out, go find some 5/10 and bring her back to dread 'your' territory. She gets moody and locks herself in her room, next day, tears, screaming and crazy blubbering about how she never thought you were like this. Now you are moving ou…
/r/askMRP30/05/20 12:55 AM
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OYS 5 Physical Training Plan = 5/3/1, Currently at Cycle 4. Without a dexa scan I have to rely on the scales, checking belly boat in the mirror and keeping trac of my muscle volume increases by feel. Chest, Tri’s, Traps and Hams are growing well. My biggest concern however is BF. Last scan was 18.2%, but I’m certainly higher than that now. Total weight increased by 4kg in 3 months. With that I’m going to start my first properly planned cut. This will be difficult on 5/3/1 which at heart is a lin…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/20 05:00 AM
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OYS 4 Long time since last post due to OPSEC of lockdown. This will be quick too with a workout starting in 30 mins. 48, 183cm, Wife 47, Married 23Y, Kids 16F, 12M Physical No scans available so no idea about BF and LBM. I have increased by 4 kg in 3 months and put of a lot of muscle. Started Jim Wendlers 5/3/1 with BBB. I really liked the way the cycles worked in concept and it’s working well in practice. Assistance work is a mix of whatever I need the most. If I have the energy I always finish…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/20 01:59 AM
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Get into the work you did - it will be much more valuable for dudes here. Your post doesn't mention much about work, just reading, dating, learning, and a lot of startling insights creating "engineered serendipity." This is a very good point and one of the things I struggled with early on. I didn't find MRP for months after I started looking for a solution. What I wanted was a checklist or benchmark or something so I could measure myself and work out what needed to be improved. I found theration…
/r/askMRP13/05/20 04:55 AM
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You will never do better. There. Why? Because you got what you got based on who you are, an underachiever. So even if you leave her you just find another girl to disappoint. Want women to be disgusted by you? Just be a slovenly, lazy, underachieving, underwhelming weakling. So, what can you change? Other people or yourself? I have a serious question for you. If you had a daughter would you think she has done well to date someone like her dad? No? If you had a son, would you suggest he follow you…
/r/askMRP06/05/20 08:07 AM
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I'm 48, not far off. Had trouble making gains. Did all kinds of things to get my T up (see my history for details) but still plateaued at weakling lifts. I kept trying new things, looking for the crack in that door holding me back. Then this last set of changes started working, I haven't changed anything. I've put on 4kg in 2 months and can now feel muscle where fat used to be. Until the dexa place reopens I can't find out my new body comp to see what that is exactly. Big things I changed: Start…
/r/askMRP01/05/20 02:12 AM
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No. It's a good question though, most of the things I consider as preps are subtle. Low debt, good income, cash stockpiled as a buffer for job loss. Skills in growing food and owning land outright in a trust. Staying aware of threats and risks, and having a sane measured response. Food stocks can be spun up quickly if you buy early and have no financial impediments. About the only 'crazy' thing I do is keep 100-200kg total of rice, sugar and wheat grain. About half is consumed, the rest rotated …
/r/askMRP17/03/20 09:20 AM
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I don't understand how anybody could remain in a relationship with zero sex for such long stretches. I'll give you a guide. You get lazy, fat and weak and most importantly never even consider that the difference between the guys getting the goods and yourself was not impossible to change. Just accepted that "they are jacked, you are not". No further consideration. Then once you absorb how unattractive you are 'in comparison' everything else stops mattering, be it teeth, or clothing, or whatever.…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 03:54 AM
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20 years. Twenty years. TWENTY. YEARS. Just for clarification, my definition of deadbedroom is dripfeed and it hasn't always been dripfeed. This was a few times that I managed to benefit from insane amounts of dread. Once a HB9 decided she was going to have a crack at me, but never really learnt how to produce this long term. The point you were emphasizing remains. 24 years of mostly dripfeed. Everything SBIII wrote was true, in particular: "You got fat, lazy and turned into a grumpy fuck who do…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 03:39 AM
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Marriage used to work as women had no safety net so AWALT couldn't get out of pandoras box. If you provided universal basic income to 'all women' do you think there would be any families left after 50 years? Males are the backbone of all society. Everything you see from where you sit was designed and build by males. Walk down a street, look at the cars, building, phone and electricity lines and remember that emotion and feelz didn't build that. Men, building value, building society. We built the…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/20 04:30 AM
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Burn it to the ground as soon as you hear the fatal words ILYBINILWY. It makes you wonder. What would happen if we just started throwing those words around just to mess with female hamsters.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/20 04:17 AM
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Thanks for writing this. Your "probably never know" comment is the black seed that still sits in the pit of my stomach. Every time I start to let my head tell me to celebrate my success so far it helps me stay leveled. Here is my little contribution to the ILYBINILWY conversation... I now barely recall the ILYBINILWY speech a bit beforehand, maybe a few months. I'm unsure if it was those words, but was very similar, "You are like a brother \ friend. I don't feel anything for you. We're like best…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/20 04:15 AM
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I might be a little different to most. I've spent the past decade as a doomer\prepper. Offgrid farm(available, I don't live there), 4-9 months of food depending on our level of eating. Did the bulk of our buying in Jan, but already had a quarter ton of grains\rice\sugar stored. Big vege patch, freezers packed with around a square meter of meat (bagged, and tightly packed). Spares of everything. My home gym is arriving in pieces this and last week. ​ Some thoughts: Prebuy your protein. Whey and c…
/r/askMRP16/03/20 01:43 AM
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If you are going to use external validation perhaps find a source where the giver can see that there is not anything in it for them.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/20 08:06 AM
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I’m about as flexible as a brick wall. I had the same problem. In fact I haven't been in the gym since monday (it's friday here). 2 days ago while looking for a solution to my 'lower back problem' I came across the Agile 8, while looking over the 5/3/1 program. Worked from home for a few days and tried out a few of the 8 moves. The changes in the last 3 days are night and day. I'm more limber now than I have even been in my life, and I've only been doing half of the moves, mostly foam rolling IT…
/r/askMRP06/03/20 04:40 AM
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Just wanted to share something with you. When I started with RP (I had not found MRP until much later) I found the 12 stages of dread, pretty much first. I decided I was going to fly through the stages to 'make her do what I want so I can get the sex I want'. I actively looked for way to manufacture dread artificially. It's only 4-5 months later but I have to say that RP is half mindset. Dread is what you create passively as a result of executing your new set of values on personal standards alon…
/r/askMRP05/03/20 02:07 AM
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I don't. How many of us got here however is by not having the frame to enforce our standards, and having never openly stated them. We were mostly hoping for the best and for the person we married to be a decent human being with an ethical standard similar to our own, so that we didn't have to set boundaries in the first place. The mere existence of having to set that boundary means your probably picked the wrong partner already (and also that society is slipping). The guys here will tell you tha…
/r/askMRP05/03/20 01:39 AM
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the wife - she had bad opsec and saw first hand what that means from her conversations with her friends and the guy. OP, I'm with JameisBong, but in particular if I were in your shoes I would start play acting the personality that you think will get you through this with the most intact. First up, I would tell her how upset you are with her behavior in a way that looks like you are the supplicating beta she thinks of you. If you dwell on that a bit it'll steel your resolve to do this all perfect…
/r/askMRP05/03/20 01:19 AM
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Consider reading atomic habits. The things you are failing to change need to be a core part of every day. Don't just 'lift'. The gym is the keystone to every day. Everything is arranged around it. Everything you eat is preparing you for that moment. Non gym days are recovery for the next workout. Add the new habits in layers. If you need more sleep identify what you keep doing that prevents you from going to bed and find a way to nullify it. Maybe set an alarm to get ready for bed, or maybe the …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 01:50 AM
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LARPing.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 01:42 AM
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OYS2 48, 183cm, Wife 47, Married 23Y, Kids 16F, 12M *********** SINCE LAST UPDATE Physical Loads of back muscled pulled in trying to push out new PB's on deads. Have spent a reasonable amount of time reading up on technique and getting form checks with PT. AFTER is pulled lower back last week, healed and fulled mid back this week. With that said, I increase squat PB by 5kg on last set of an 8,8,6,6,4,4 set and felt good doing it. Concentrating on other lifts while my back recovers.It doesn;t see…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 01:16 AM
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I just went through a relationship phase like yours after nearly killing the puppy before RP due to deadbedroom. So I just focused on lifting, diet mission, work and reduced contact with her. This bought me time to get my head in order and reduce my opportunities for a retarded rambo outburst. The secondary benefit was that it increased my scarcity and she started being more pleasant to be around.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/20 10:59 AM
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Maybe looking in to preventing shbg from binding your T. My T is at 470ish but free is 26. https://anabolicmen.com/how-to-lower-shbg-naturally/ Then stop draining the T into estrogen https://anabolicmen.com/lower-estrogen/ I do just about everything on both lists. For supplements 3000iu vitamin d, 1000 vitamin e, 100mg Zinc, 10mg boron, 500mag plus a bunch of lifestyle changes. Free T is all that matters so my strategy was to start optimising shbg first, estrogen and aromatase inhibiters next th…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/20 09:57 AM
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because her validation keeps me stuck in her frame more than anything else. This is especially poignant for me right now. I've had an awesome week, hopefully not to my detriment. Blood test came in telling me I had mostly fixed by free T. Bioscan came back showing I had both lost weight and gained muscle, two months in a row, with consistent numbers. Two PT's in the gym commented on how much I've changed and how much my form has improved. Inched my squat pb up by another 5kg. Riding high on that…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/20 05:44 AM
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I’d like to thank you and the other regulars here for your patience and thoughtful consideration. I sometimes hope that stands like MRP right here is what turns the tide. It may feel like an impossible tsunami to hold back but each of us that ends up reformed would hopefully become a localised example of what works, and that would have to be powerful in itself in a world of broken men. Many of us have sons, and we want with all our hearts to set them up with both the right frame of mind and a wo…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/20 04:45 AM
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Low T is NO excuse, it's just an obstacle to overcome. I'm 48 and started at 97kg about 4-5 months back with a total T under 100. Now 88.4kg, body scan yesterday says over the past 3 weeks I dropped 1.1kg fat AND put on 0.7kg of lean mass, two months in a row now. I started at 27%BF, now I'm testing at 18.4%, 19.4% on Feb 3rd and 20.8% 16th Dec. Three months about I was complaining about not making gains and about not losing enough weight, so I changed things. Blood test from about a week back s…
/r/askMRP26/02/20 05:59 AM
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Since nobody commented, I'll tack on my own. This is written for anyone who is trying to optimise their T and bodies. Don't bother reading if you are on TRT, it'll probably make you shake your head as to how hard this is without it. Bloodworks came back in. Key observations: (converted from mols to decilitres as that's what you guys use.) Total T was 374, which is pretty bland. SHBG was 19. Test results said normal range was 15-57, so that very comforting as a lot of what I do above is aimed dir…
/r/askMRP20/02/20 05:49 AM
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Agreed. What occurred to me early on that was pivotal was coming to terms with how successfully I could run my life WITHOUT a woman in it. From that starting point I could start thinking about what's acceptable and what's not.
/r/askMRP15/02/20 03:52 AM
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I'll take tard as an improvement over faggot that most others get, haha Irrespective, for my own benefit I'll do this anyway. During the test I'll initiate daily up to a hard no. Right now I back off and sulk at the hint of her being less than 100% interested. I also turn up in the mood with zero gaming and Kino and get butthurn on rejections, so I often fail to even initiate. Sure, tell me I eat crayons. In 2 weeks the test will be over and I'll be in a better place.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/20 03:33 AM
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Agreed. Not quitting or anything even close, I posted what I do in askmrp. I got bloods done again today. Got all markers done except aromatase. My next round of tweaking will be based on these results. That said, I'm keeping my ears open to other ways around the problem, other than direct importation or cotton oil cooking. For now I guess I stay on hard mode.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/20 03:21 AM
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I started shibari about a year back, pre redpill just trying to spice things up due to deadbedroom. For me rigging is more about the technical side though of course it does turn me on as well. She loves it though so I used it as a way to get what I want, which led to me pushing her towards it so I can get what I want. Since I've had a big problem with covert contracts. I decided to take horns example for a while and just give it as a gift. This was more about me fixing me. Further, since I took …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/20 03:12 AM
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OYS1 48, Wife 47, Married 23Y, Kids 16F, 12M 88.8kg, 183cm, BF 19.4% ​ Physical (Start Mid-Feb concluding Mid-April).PT on board, new program is getting created. Success = 1 full set at 5 reps. • Bench + 10kg, result = 70kg (Progress = +0kg) • Dead + 30kg, result = 130kg (Progress = +0kg) • Squat + 20kg, result =120kg (Progress = +0kg) • OHP +10kg , result = 50kg (Progress = +0kg) • Increased focus on form on all four, in particular deads as I’m probably bulging my back as I get lower back pain.…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/20 12:43 AM
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It’s important to remember this woman is not your enemy. and " or avoid her scorn. " from above. Thanks. For many guys, myself included 20 years of trench warfare later this is one of the hardest mental battles. If I do X, am I rewarding her past transgressions or defying my past weakness that allowed it, to cutting a new path, or is valentines day best renamed beta day. I feel like a need a vacation from my own mind. I might do something very non conformative just to mix things up.
/r/askMRP12/02/20 11:23 PM
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OYS0 48, Wife 47, Married 23Y, Girl 16, Boy 12 Physical \ Diet History is an atrocious diet of mostly junk food, I’m lucky to not be morbidly obese or have diabetes 88.8kg, (Starting from 97kg, 7kg came off in the first 3 weeks, then I sat on 90kg for 3 months until last scan.) 19.4%BF, from idk, a lot higher, in dec/19 it was 21.9%. Lean mass increased by 0.6kg and dropped 1.7kg fat as of last week. Not exactly success, my cut was a disaster for lifts. I have a PT, who tailors a program to my g…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/20 06:01 AM
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You're probably right. Nmmng and wisnifg taught me that my dependence on being right and never being called out as wrong is a weakness. In the past this created in me a need for perfection or deering. I'm thin skinned an prickly, faggot shit. I did write up an oys0 post, twice and both times I decided that I knew exactly what would be said because my situation is so bog standard. I see every second newb with the same problems. Started as BP beta, turned to deadbedroom. Lift and sidebar. Low T in…
/r/askMRP08/02/20 10:03 PM
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The more established guys will have fun answering your question because it's been asked again and again for years. ​ They are correct, the information IS there, but it's not in the form that an absolute beginner can absorb. I'm what 4ish months in and keenly remember the mix of anger and giddy excitement when I came across the 12 steps of dread. Finally an action plan with concrete steps. Even MMSL is not really a solution. It has a bunch of useful tips but it depends on where you are starting a…
/r/askMRP06/02/20 05:56 AM
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I'm only a few months ahead of you in some ways, maybe further ahead in others. Don't be in a rush to alpha up in a month. That was my mistake. You are going to need to lift for months. Learn about the 1000 foot rope. Just read, and make the gym like a religion. Nothing causes me to miss a workout. Keep an eye on how your wife reacts, it's not the goal but a good litmus test. Mine has started buying me big jars of Nutella and offers me chocolate daily. They just sit there in the pantry. I see th…
/r/askMRP07/01/20 11:13 PM
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My setup is almost exactly the same as Mark above, only I implemented it after 10 years together. I was tired of the way she managed money and used credit cards and there never been a single dollar spare for anything. No holiday for years as every cent was spend every week. First thing I did was take over the investments. Similar to a 401k for americans I started managing that directly, and caused us to lose nothing during the GFC. By luck mostly, but if I did nothing we would have lost about ha…
/r/askMRP07/01/20 10:46 PM
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Don't back down. There are a lot of us, lurking beneath the covers not posting, just observing the guys (like you here) running around like a flak target saying all the same things as whats in the archives. This forum probably what you have been looking for your whole life. That missing part of yourself that never felt right. I've been lurking myself, lifting and doing my best to STFU and observing myself, introspecting on why I get so pissy when the wife says X or Y which is disrespectful then …
/r/askMRP07/01/20 05:13 AM
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