Odd-Bar5781 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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-1	Why are women surprised that men ask mostly for physical intimacy only, when emotional vulnerability quite often results in judgement, ridiculing, or rejection? The ability to perform emotional labor doesn't have anything to do with sex or gender. Men are equally capable. Unfortunatley, our patriarchal society has socialized men to believe that any emotion (aside from anger) equates to weakness so most male children are never taught to identify and manage emotions in themselves or others. This is one such instance where the patriarchal social construct has harmed men tremendously. Emotions are going to happen no matter what and eventually any person is …	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/24 03:35 AM
1	The “men get other men, that’s why we don’t trust men with our women” and “women are unfairly judging men” dichotomy If a man cannot be friends with a woman without hoping they will eventually have sex than that man does not see that woman as an actual person just sex parts. Do you only hang out with other guys because you are hoping you can fuck them one day? Your sisters, mothers, grandmothers, etc? Can your potential mate spend time with other women without it "disrespecting" you? Why? Why could she have female freinds without disrespecting you but not male friends? Why?	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/24 10:30 PM
2	Why are women surprised that men ask mostly for physical intimacy only, when emotional vulnerability quite often results in judgement, ridiculing, or rejection? Women want the same. But my friend doesn't have a job, drinks himself to oblivion every night, his house is filthy beyond belief, etc, etc We have so much fun together but there is no way in hell I'd ever live with all that We'd hate each other in a week.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/24 10:08 PM
-1	Why are women surprised that men ask mostly for physical intimacy only, when emotional vulnerability quite often results in judgement, ridiculing, or rejection? You don't understand what emotional labor is in the slightest. What you are describing is masking. Masking is absolutely mentally exhausting but it has nothing to do with emotional labor.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/24 10:03 PM
1	The “men get other men, that’s why we don’t trust men with our women” and “women are unfairly judging men” dichotomy If ya'll started seeing women as actual people instead of just bangmaids our entire society would transform and none of this shit would be a problem. You absolutely misread my comment.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/24 09:58 PM
1	The “men get other men, that’s why we don’t trust men with our women” and “women are unfairly judging men” dichotomy I think you misread my comment. But anyway, if you cannot trust your partner to have friends of the opposite sex without cheating then it's a shitty relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/24 10:04 AM
-5	Why are women surprised that men ask mostly for physical intimacy only, when emotional vulnerability quite often results in judgement, ridiculing, or rejection? It is actually. If you are repressing your emotions you are not dealing with them hence, no emotional labor. Emotional labor means being able to feel, identify and manage emotions	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/24 10:01 AM
1	Lonely/single women are often disrespected or falsely accused of things Some people just are not good at dating. Being neurodivergent doesn't help. It can be very difficult for many of us to even pick up on when someone is flirting with us. It's not always about being too picky	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/24 09:24 AM
1	The “men get other men, that’s why we don’t trust men with our women” and “women are unfairly judging men” dichotomy It's not disrespect. A lot of women would genuinely like to have male friends that actually respect them as people. They want to believe that their male friends actually like spending time with them. Sadly, it seems that it just isn't possible in reality because men only value women as potential fucks. That's the wild part.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/24 08:38 AM
1	Why are women surprised that men ask mostly for physical intimacy only, when emotional vulnerability quite often results in judgement, ridiculing, or rejection? Where did you hear about "top tier men"? Can you give a definition?	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/24 07:59 AM
3	Why are women surprised that men ask mostly for physical intimacy only, when emotional vulnerability quite often results in judgement, ridiculing, or rejection? None of what you said is actually true. Ranking people that way is also super gross. But keep believing it if it makes you feel better.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/24 07:28 AM
3	Why are women surprised that men ask mostly for physical intimacy only, when emotional vulnerability quite often results in judgement, ridiculing, or rejection? I agree 100%. I LOVE my besy guy friend to pieces but would never, ever be in a romantic realtionship with him. The stuff I find tolerable to hilarious as a friend would not fly with a romantic partner	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/24 07:07 AM
3	Why are women surprised that men ask mostly for physical intimacy only, when emotional vulnerability quite often results in judgement, ridiculing, or rejection? NGL, I am so tired of hearing guys on Reddit talking about the top 10% tier of men. WTF does that even mean? By who's criteria? It's just straight up BS. A friend at I were looking through her matches on a dating app. The guys she thought were attractive I found completely unappealing and vice versa. She likes the professional looking, well-groomed, fit and trim guys. I do not find them attractive at all. I like bearded dad-bod type guys with tattoos, etc. She finds them gross. You guys online r…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/24 06:53 AM
0	Why are women surprised that men ask mostly for physical intimacy only, when emotional vulnerability quite often results in judgement, ridiculing, or rejection? That's not emotional labor that's repression.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/24 06:41 AM
1	There is too much RP content based primarily around righteous indignation that doesn't truly accomplish anything. You'd be surprised dude. I once had a mad crush on some guy living in a nursing home that had spina bifida. I agree that you have more obstacles than most. And that sucks ass. But what are the good things about who you are as a person? What are you interested in? What are you good at? What brings you joy? How do you attempt to connect with other people?	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/24 10:06 AM
2	There is too much RP content based primarily around righteous indignation that doesn't truly accomplish anything. We're talking about young men that have lost hope and blame women for not responding positively to them. I am trying to help in that respect. But most of what you said is true. At this point in our society, most people don't have any money so that one needs to come off the list. The RP/BP crap is terrifying and isn't helping anyone.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/24 05:29 AM
1	There is too much RP content based primarily around righteous indignation that doesn't truly accomplish anything. I understand the disaffected part. But the extreme swing to red/black pill narritives is the exact opposite of what will help. I don't think women aren't doing that. They are just going their own way. It seems that today in every area of society people are becoming more and more divided. And idk that it's a personal failing for either gender. It's a huge societal shift that will take time for all people to adjust to. What someone has to offer is based on them as an individual. Emotional intellig…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/24 05:23 AM
2	There is too much RP content based primarily around righteous indignation that doesn't truly accomplish anything. I wasn't necessarily saying that average men expect supermodels, I was asking. But yes, women always have had more options then men when it comes to dating. It has always been that way. But having more options for dating does not equal happy relationships. Most single women I know 30 and older have mostly given up on the idea of finding their forever partner. I believe because men have no idea what women actually want and women are tired of ahving to settle. This is so much more of a complicated…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/24 04:35 AM
0	There is too much RP content based primarily around righteous indignation that doesn't truly accomplish anything. That's why I suggest older women as allies. I sure as shit had no idea what I wanted or needed when I was a younger woman. I also had zero understading of men. I let some good guys go and stayed way to long with some POS dudes. Are these "average or not exceptioanlly attractive" guys trying to date model-type women? Or are they willing to date average women? I do frequently see men have unrealistic expectations as to their choice of beauty standards. I blame porn and social media. and now these …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/24 04:06 AM
1	There is too much RP content based primarily around righteous indignation that doesn't truly accomplish anything. Not at all. There are absolutely radical feminists who feel that way but most want to improve society for EVERYONE. There are a lot of descussions in feminist groups that talk about the issues men face, ponder the causes and look towards solutions.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/24 11:56 PM
2	There is too much RP content based primarily around righteous indignation that doesn't truly accomplish anything. Happy is relative. Are your expectations realist? It's not a lost cause unless you're dead. Don't give up dude. Self-improvement is internal. Self awareness is key to internal growth. Going to the gym is good for increasing physical and mental health but you'd be surprised at how many women prefer a dad-bod type.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/24 11:52 PM
3	There is too much RP content based primarily around righteous indignation that doesn't truly accomplish anything. But the thing is that most women are not taking the victim stance. They just aren't engaging with men as much. I think that the biggest societal issue for young men today is that they are confused. They get told one set of things from older men and another set of things from women of all ages. What they are being told and taught are contradictory. My best advice to young men is to make friends with older women in a completely non-sexual way. Talk to them and LISTEN to what they say. Most older g…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/24 11:47 PM
1	"Men need to treat us like human beings " is deceptive Most women want men to desire them for the things that make them unique (hobbies, interest, skills, ideals, etc). It's insanely disappointing when you think you found an interesting guy that you can share your passions with only to find out that all he cares about is what you look like. It's not jealousy of other women (although that is definately a thing) it's the desire to be seen as a worthwhile person. Being called beautiful isn't terrible but I'd much rather be called intelligent, fun, inte…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/24 11:12 PM
1	"Men need to treat us like human beings " is deceptive Okay, so if you are dating a new woman how long before you expect sex? Would you date an "average" looking woman? Do you look for women that share your interests or women that are "hot"? What kind of affection do you give that is treated with contempt? How long into cuddling or a massage do you try a boob grab or similiar?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/24 11:02 PM
3	"Men need to treat us like human beings " is deceptive It's not hard. When a woman says something don't automatically think that she is wrong and needs to be corrected. Don't expect women to be your maid. Don't judge us based on our outward appearance only. Don't think of us in terms of being fuckable. Understand that we are not helpless idiots. Try being actual friends with women that are not going to have sex with you. Listen. Hear us. Consider what we say. Cook your own damned meals, wash your own clothes, make your own doctors appointments. If y…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/24 10:26 PM