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| 10 | [deleted by user]I read your first few lines and thought I don't think she was interested. I mean when you first asked her out, she didn't really accept. She was coy and her joke was a way of deflecting. I think she was scared then to tell you. Women do get scared; maybe she's a bit unsure or she's got someone else in her mind or maybe she's really studious. I know I get scared sometimes to say no and just hope he forgets me because most guys flake anyway. She didn't give you a definite answer in the first place… | /r/seduction | 04/10/21 04:25 AM |
| 93 | [deleted by user]I'm going to give you an upvote because I was feeling shit and reading this post made me feel a bit better. If you're single I hope you find the right person. If you're not, lucky girl. :) I think too many times, when some people are in pursuit of something, they lose sight of the end goal or stop enjoying the ride. And it becomes an all encompassing chore that becomes laborious and becomes something else. Sometimes when I read some of the posts here, I worry if these are genuine people with gen… | /r/seduction | 04/10/21 04:12 AM |
| 1 | What’s your biggest piece of sex advice?every woman and every man is different. what works for one person won't for another. I guess the best advice to learn is to read about meaningful sex (yes not porn) and to ask your partner when you have sex with her or him. Open communication is probably the best thing you can do and you also have to accept that sometimes, sex is messy and you make mistakes. It's not always a perfect fit and it's not about showing off but about enjoyment for both parties. | /r/seduction | 03/10/21 07:10 PM |
| 4 | [deleted by user]nope, it's not that i dont' like it. I honestly don't really like nor hate it. I just think it's inaccurate and misleading. That's my beef! I think it gives a very narrow minded and misleading view of the male-female dynamics, condenses complex relationships between men and women in to meaningless words that fuel misogyny and gives young impressionable men wrong ideas. | /r/seduction | 03/10/21 07:03 PM |
| 20 | [deleted by user]loll i think i agree with you! read this and though wtf! Worse than one of those meaningless instagram posts with quotes. :) | /r/seduction | 03/10/21 06:36 PM |
| 23 | [deleted by user]Are you also an average guy or do you consider yourself above average? I guess everyone else has said it; do it but do it right. Meaning as long as they’re aware that it’s casual and you have absolutely no interest in pursuing anything more, that’s ok. Just don’t tell them you consider them sub-par! However, seeing as you consider them below good looking, there’s a chance they might also think the same about you! Women are starting to think more like men these days; ie they can also rate you bas… | /r/seduction | 28/09/21 11:56 PM |
| 6 | I went out alone for the first time, and came off as a creep...I read your story and actually thought it was a bit creepy. Look, if you were checking her out whilst she was talking to other guys, alternating between talking to her friends and talking to guys, and then making out with some guys and then back chatting to her friends, it wasn't a 5 minute "checking her out". You were probably staring for a while and her group noticed. They might have commented in their group and thought you were weird and it was creeping them out. By the time you started danci… | /r/seduction | 26/09/21 12:27 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Not me! I always date down. If a guy has a job, is decent, makes me laugh, good chance he doesn’t find me attractive. Or maybe I’m just butt ugly! | /r/seduction | 24/09/21 12:56 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Uh aren't you just an average normal guy? I mean, I thought all men liked attractive women. And all men like pretty or beautiful women. I don't think your chances are bad; women generally date beneath them whilst men date above them. It's the rule of the game. There are exceptions where wealth and fame are concerned. Look at all the hot male celebs; they only date models and other actors. The females are more likely to settle with average guys or non-actors because women in general value other c… | /r/seduction | 24/09/21 10:07 AM |
| 3 | If you want to date 9's and 10's, daygame is the way.Emma Watson is also incredibly intelligent and funny, from interviews I see of her. Looking good is one thing but unfortunately the men who were too scared to approach her may have reduced her to a number. Kinda sad I guess. | /r/seduction | 18/09/21 01:04 PM |
| 2 | If you want to date 9's and 10's, daygame is the way.I think that women in general do like a confident man. But if you rate women by their looks only, you'll also likely to meet with disappointment eventually.... but I guess that's life. Men aim above and women aim below when it comes to looks? | /r/seduction | 18/09/21 01:01 PM |
| 1 | Should I ask her why she refuses to have with me or just leave it alone?So you want sex and she doesn't? Well if it's not for you then break up! I get the opposite; a lot of men just want sex and not be seen in public with me so I often feel like a sex doll (I've stopped dating now and just can't be bothered). I would love to just spend time with a guy, eating, drinking & going out public! Oh well, maybe pigs will fly too. Make up your mind what you want; if all you want is hookups, go find someone who will do that with you. No one knows what is going through her he… | /r/seduction | 17/09/21 08:52 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]I was like you when I was younger. Always felt ugly. Still do. Keep your chin up - I think you look great and maybe you still haven't met the right guy who appreciates you :) I was that chick who guys always shoved aside to get to the hot chick next to me at the bar. Men ignored me coz I'm too short and busty. Still feel that way sometimes but I'm pretty used to it now and made my peace with it. But I hope it's not like that for you. | /r/seduction | 16/09/21 10:43 AM |
| 11 | How does anyone deal with one word responses?I think some people are bad at texting (eg me) or just not interested. I get this with men too! And I often lose interest if it's too one sided. If it's early on, it might mean she's a bad texter. But if it continues, she's losing interest. I know that sometimes I get really annoyed when i get asked so many questions over text. I'm like, "ask me out. Stop interrogating me!". I once had a guy who wanted to know all the countries I have visited, my favourite country, my family details etc. He aske… | /r/seduction | 16/09/21 12:33 AM |
| 9 | To whom it may concern: PLEASE stop bitching about your heightI agree. I'm short and I date short men. I actually don't like guys being too tall as I feel it looks silly standing next to one. I also often sense that tall men prefer tall women; for one thing they never see me! I'm quite short at 153cm and the last guy I went out with was probably 156cm? He was quite short but he had multiple girlfriends before me, played rugby, was athletic but unemployed and living with his parents. His height didn't bother him and he had confidence. I don't pick guys base… | /r/seduction | 10/09/21 08:31 PM |
| 16 | Where’s the best place to meet high value women?Lol I’d like to know the answer too! I am female, have my own place, can afford small luxuries, decent job that pays, good circle of friends, enjoy exercise, loves animals, likes to laugh at myself, gives to charity and does volunteer work…. Im told im intelligent, kind, compassionate, thoughtful and I try to be decent to my fellow human beings. Non-single male friends often marvel that I’m not attached since I’m not a bad person! I figured maybe I’m just butt ugly and old so no one wants me but… | /r/seduction | 10/09/21 02:06 AM |
| 1 | Having a really hard time in a foreign country - don’t know what to do.Thank you! It’s a nice thing to say! I’m happy to dm a non vulgar pic if you’re curious. But I’m nothing special! 😂 I just laugh at myself a lot I think. | /r/seduction | 07/09/21 04:09 AM |
| 3 | What kind of (non sexual) skills impress women?I’m a woman so not sure if my opinion counts. Sense of humour; there are so many British comedians I find utterly sexy because of their wit. Look up David Mitchell, Richard Ayoade, Miles Jupp, Chris Barrie, John Oliver, Adam Hill (he’s aussie) etc. They aren’t just witty, they have strong women next to them and they’re supportive of their partners. But I don’t represent all women. Once I get to know a guy, I care that he’s also considerate and a thoughtful person. Skills wise? I like gaming and … | /r/seduction | 07/09/21 04:04 AM |
| 2 | Having a really hard time in a foreign country - don’t know what to do.I’m racially Chinese but I grew up here. I don’t have issues here with work or anything. I do quite well in my job, got my own place, have good friends and am relatively fit and a decent body. Just an absolute failure when it comes to dating! I have a self depreciating sort of humour I guess. Fun fact: despite so much screen time, I have perfect vision and am the only one in the family who doesn’t wear glasses. I’m also pretty stacked (the opposite of my mum and sis who were more the typical sle… | /r/seduction | 06/09/21 11:52 AM |
| 4 | Having a really hard time in a foreign country - don’t know what to do.Exactly! I was kinda making a joke about me being unattractive. It's pretty much the whole of Australia! I guess I'm just super ugly! The men here don't really find me attractive. Someone did remind me recently that us ugly chicks have no problems getting hookups and he'd rather be me than him. | /r/seduction | 06/09/21 11:18 AM |
| 2 | Having a really hard time in a foreign country - don’t know what to do.Lol no I just meant me. Don’t know why but I’m not the kind of girl guys want to be seen in public with. They mostly just want to come to my place, hookup and leave. I can never get a guy to meet outside for a drink or chat. Unless it’s in a dark park (had that). I figured anyone who isn’t ashamed to be seen with me gets bonus points.,, French guys don't seem to mind me. That's why I rarely date. | /r/seduction | 06/09/21 10:53 AM |
| 4 | Having a really hard time in a foreign country - don’t know what to do.I catch quite a few French guys; not sure how but there's a few in Aust. They're an interesting bunch. The ones I know don't seem to mind being seen in public with me unlike the Aussie men. But I only know one from Paris and the others from the various other cities. I have a few female french friends too (though they all live abroad). Another thing to consider: um I could be wrong, but the french, ie the Parisians are not the friendliest of the lot... I find the people in other cities much frien… | /r/seduction | 06/09/21 09:54 AM |
| 1 | Seduction vs Escorts?girls get lots of matches but they're dodgy; i was on another group where they ask people about creepy experiences and I started listing them. then i realised they were pretty creepy! I've been stalked, abused, had the dodgiest of men matched with me and it took me a while to realise that I needed to look after myself more. Occasionally I do meet someone who respects me and for that I reward them. I'm not talking taking me out, drink, food etc but just common sense and respect. I guess what I'm … | /r/seduction | 05/09/21 09:00 AM |
| 1 | Seduction vs Escorts?actually they're not all hot probably not the way you think. but they seem to do well (not just with me though they could be boasting). believe me, hot is relative. if you're thinking of tall guys with 6 packs, think again! i don't really have a high selection; if someone makes me laugh, i tend to like him. but when i first started tinder, i put up with a lot of shit. i had guys who'd just show up for 30 mins, expecting a bj or handjob. i felt like a blow up sex doll. now i've stopped that. i'm … | /r/seduction | 05/09/21 07:24 AM |
| 0 | Seduction vs Escorts?nah, aussie men are too cheap to pay... ! :) and also sex in australia is super easy. i know lots of guys who just have plenty of sex coz the women's standards aren't high and they treat us like shit. i made the mistake of putting up with a lot of it last year when I was naive and new to tinder. | /r/seduction | 05/09/21 06:19 AM |
| 2 | "I'll let you know" makes me see redThese are some really good responses. When I see that "I'll let you know." message I usually get annoyed and angry and never know how to respond. I end up ignoring them as I just assume they're not interested. And if it's an online chat, that's when I unmatch. I don't even respond. But it's good to get a perspective and undestand :) | /r/seduction | 04/09/21 11:57 AM |
| 2 | Woman taking lead?Theoretically no it shouldn’t! Unfortunately I don’t get any responses anymore…. | /r/seduction | 29/08/21 08:10 PM |
| 4 | Woman taking lead?Good on you! I used to do it when I was younger. I think guys like a cute young thing taking the lead. Unfortunately now it doesn’t work anymore. Guess I lost it! | /r/seduction | 29/08/21 01:07 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]It's also the same at work.... a lot of newer buildings have end of trip facilities, ie showers, lockers etc for employees. If you want to put your stuff in a locker, use your employee card to swipe etc. I worked at a european bank (french one) and they also used my same card that accessed the building to access the floors and my computer. You need the card to exit too so it's hard to leave it in the office! | /r/seduction | 26/08/21 09:03 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]all over australia. like say fitness first. you get a membership card when you sign up and it's also the card to access any locker. If you swipe it, you'll lock the locker and the locker can only be opened with your card (or the admin card). Also when you get to the gym, you swipe to indicate you're checking in! i got in trouble recently during the covid outbreak coz I lost my card and it was swiped at the gym when someone covid positive was there. I had to prove I wasn't so I didn't need to qua… | /r/seduction | 26/08/21 08:57 PM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]sorry by alpha males, I mean there’s a lot of investment bankers and lawyers at the gym. They’re the sort who makes lotsa money, probably drive some European car, went to private school and probably look for a young hot model looking gf ( or already date one or are married to them or are dating equally hot men!). Most are assertive or the type to get what they want at work. I kinda laughed it up off; I actually was asking him about equipment whilst he was drinking water and on a break from his s… | /r/seduction | 26/08/21 11:32 AM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]😷maybe I’m ugly and guys only want hot young chicks with big butts chatting them up. I’m told, don’t disturb a man at the gym coz he’s in the serious training mode at the gym. My gym has a lot of men (it’s in the financial district) and a lot of alpha males. Probably only 10-20% are women and they work damn hard and look good! I guess I just look like shit compared to them (they’re always in tiny sports bras and very tight yoga pants etc, so I’m so envious of their tiny boobs and firm butts- I a… | /r/seduction | 26/08/21 11:09 AM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]You tried and impressed her so yeah keep chatting! Though… what kind of gym needs a lock? I mean for the lockers???? Don’t they just use swipe cards tied to your membership? Lol I was trying to work out what lock you were referring to. Also man, I wish this works with men too so I’m jealous. The last time I talked to a guy at the gym, I ran off. Told my Irish mate later and he laughed (one of my male besties is Irish) telling me Irish people aren’t scary. Now I never talk to any guy at the gym u… | /r/seduction | 26/08/21 10:53 AM |
| 3 | Social media hit upYou got a good point there! I personally hate being approached by random guys on Insta. Always attract the creepy and weird. I tend to respond better if I’ve met them in person. Plus the people who approach other women on Insta on the news here tend to be sex crazed footballers. They use it to pick up young nubile chicks and it always ends badly because the wife/gf finds out, it ends up in the news and more often, than not, it also becomes rape and sexual harassment. So I think my perception is … | /r/seduction | 26/08/21 02:43 AM |
| 5 | How to KEEP a guy seduced?Does he know you're his first? Do you want a relationship or you're keen to keep it on a FWB or just hookup basis? If it's just sex, men generally don't turn it down regardless of who it is! I just think it's risky to screw a workmate... But I would also be cautious; I mean most men (that I've met) can have sex without developing the same connection or feelings you might have. But maybe he already liked you as a person and enjoys your company then it's great. I would keep your options open and n… | /r/seduction | 24/08/21 02:34 PM |
| 1 | Why are men so persistent?Oh wow I’m honestly sorry to hear this. I have never experienced this in my life except at one type of beach. But it isn’t severe to the point that men are coming up to me all the time. I’m pretty much ignored in most day to day stuff. Even if I walked into a bar alone, which I do, I would be ignored. There are certain types of men and certain cultures where I do find it’s a bit more prevalent but it hasn’t been to the point of me feeling threatened or intimated. | /r/seduction | 23/08/21 07:15 AM |
| 1 | Why are men so persistent?Is it a particular country? Are you able to say or not? I don’t want any personal details that breaks the rules. I’m just so utterly stunned. In Australia, most people don’t get bothered. It’s very unusual to chat up random people you don’t know. Most young people I know are also not as social. Like even at uni. Because everything is very geared towards online people don’t meet in person as much. That is not to say that I don’t believe you! I was just so shocked. I can walk down the streets of E… | /r/seduction | 23/08/21 07:04 AM |
| 3 | Why are men so persistent?Is this in the US or Europe? I'm curious. I've never seen nor experienced it in my life in Australia. People just don't go up and approach random women or other people. However, when I'm at a nude beach, I do get a few much older men approach me and I do get irritated because I just want to swim and nap. Younger men/anyone under 50 will never approach me. | /r/seduction | 23/08/21 12:45 AM |
| 2 | How to get a girl to meetup or interested in you when dming her on instagram?It could be a good sign! Look if you didn't say anything creepy, disrespectful, then I'm sure it's ok. If she's willing to chat, just go with it and next time you see her IRL, talk to her. | /r/seduction | 21/08/21 07:02 PM |
| 1 | How to get a girl to meetup or interested in you when dming her on instagram?I don't know. I'm an older lady so maybe to a 20 something year old it's ok. Also depends if she knows who you are! If you're not her friend on Insta, the message doesn't show up automatically... you can still unsend. I'd just ignore it, unsend it and try the direct approach. But don't take my word for it! Maybe for her it's the norm. Alternatively maybe she has tonnes of other guys DM-ing her if she's very attractive and you're just one of many and don't stand out. Sometimes the best approach i… | /r/seduction | 21/08/21 06:53 PM |
| 4 | How to get a girl to meetup or interested in you when dming her on instagram?I agree with this! As a woman, I do get a fair few creepy insta messages. Not saying you're creepy but more guys than woman I know use insta to pick up chicks. It's always the guys who use it and I've never heard a woman say to me "I met a guy on insta". But maybe it's generational and it's the thing you use in your teens and 20s. If you see her in real life, just ask her out. FYI the stories I hear of men and women meeting up on insta tend to show up in the news; usually a stupid football playe… | /r/seduction | 21/08/21 06:12 PM |
| 5 | Should I try harder, or is she just not interested?Women's perspective here but not necessarily representative of every other woman: I thought you were too indirect! I have actually had guys suggest things like these and I get really confused. I'd be thinking internally, is he keen? If not, why doesn't he ask me out? Pick a place and time, get my number, set a date etc. Not last minute. Sometimes I respond with yes I'd like to grab that drink etc or coffee but no invitation ever comes and I think, it was just a meaningless flirt and he was never… | /r/seduction | 21/08/21 05:51 PM |
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