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I have 2 kids and one 18 year old with her. 50/50 custody of my two youngest. By the way, I’m saying it cost me <$600 to do the paperwork, calculations, filing fees, documents, notary, etc. no lawyers were needed. I am paying her monthly alimony and child support and I split everything (assets/debts) in half, but I was able to buy her out and I kept my house. 🏡
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/24 01:13 AM
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You know how much money I spent on my divorce? <$600 and a few nights of researching 😉 you don’t need a lawyer when you do your own homework and figure out all the loopholes.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/24 12:20 AM
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You have several options: 1. Deferral of sale with agreement. 2. Refinancing/HELOC 3. Order to sell from court 4. You buy her out 5. She buys you out Do not do what she is suggesting. It a very bad deal for you.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 12:43 AM
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Stay away from bars. That’s not were you meet quality women. Just your next ex wife.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 12:25 AM
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Wrong, both assets and debts are divided in a divorce. But correct, you should manage your own budget as a functional adult.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 12:19 AM
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I recommend reading (or hearing) the book “don’t believe everything you think” and “the subtle art of not giving a fck” trust me. It will help you realize that how you see your life and thoughts are all that matters. Good luck 🍀
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 08:01 PM
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“Finding herself” another word for leaving a faithful man who has provided for her during her entire life. Pathetic. She was just influenced by others to look for something she has had her entire life. Good luck! 😂
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/24 11:06 PM
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It no longer matters “what she wants” You leave your house it will be extremely difficult to regain your throne in your home. It’s not impossible, I made that mistake but I had to employ a tactic that I’m not proud of. It was necessary, but I had no other choice. DO NOT LEAVE YOUR HOME.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/24 11:10 PM
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Short answer: about 98%… Yes.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 03:41 PM
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Just take a look at male praying mantises and male black widows. 😐
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 10:18 PM
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Superman complex
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 10:16 PM
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This is one of the best responses / advice I have read in a while. 🤜🤛
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 09:34 PM
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It seems he is very immature, unstable and wants a friend/mother instead of a wife. He needs time to face his demons and deep rooted issues. If you two are meant to be together, you can give it another chance a couple of years after the divorce. Right now, I believe you (or anyone) are not helping him. Good luck, both of you need time off.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 06:22 AM
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Don’t do it. I bought her out. I kept my house. For the kids and for their education. Depending on the size of the house, she won’t be able to keep up with the maintenance, utilities and repairs. Either you keep it, or sell it.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 05:51 AM
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She wants you to stay put while she and the lawyer figure out how to take advantage of you. It’s over. She is just trying to buy time. I suggest you agree with the divorce and go talk to the lawyer with her. If she refuses, then my suspicions are correct. I also suspect that she is already talking to someone and she talks to him during her “long commute”. Put an audio recording device in her car to confirm this. But, pretty much, I’m sorry to tell you, but there is little you can do now. Lawyer …
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 05:39 AM
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File for a divorce. Go through the process. Get over it. Live a happy life.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 06:10 PM
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She sounds like a spoiled child 😅
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 12:26 AM
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You are infatuated with her. Your happiness, purpose and thoughts don’t belong to anyone but yourself. You are in desperate need of some therapy and introspection.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 09:49 PM
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Read “the subtle art of not giving a f*ck”
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/24 08:49 PM
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Expectations are the root of all failures.
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/24 08:46 PM
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I recommend you look at all your previous relationships and identify things that you did wrong, things that you regret, things that you would have done differently and apply them to this relationship. That way you have a healthy relationship and you are your best self. Good luck! 🍀
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 05:53 PM
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Threats are usually made by those who are desperate. Evidence is required in court. Wishful thinking does not equal reality or the law. It’s time for you to go on the offensive and cover your bases.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 06:11 PM
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It has been said that pain and fear are the most powerful motivations
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 05:26 PM
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What is it that you’re looking for in these women you speak of?
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 04:55 PM
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Your success is proof that a lot of guys need to hear to convince themselves that it gets better. Thank you and I hope to read comments like yours more often.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 03:53 AM
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Try meditation. Stop overthinking. Thinking is your problem right now. Find a place far away from people where you can close your eyes and just focus on breathing. Let go of all the weight and pressure you feel. Start with 30 min, then try it for a whole hour. But at least 30 min. Once you do this for a couple of days, then write down 3 short term achievable goals to do that week. Then focus all your energy and thoughts on doing them. Ignore every distraction (yes even her) until you complete th…
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 03:45 AM
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Catch yourself tapping into these thoughts that cause you to feel down. What’s happening is thoughts turn into thinking, thinking turns into emotions. Replace those thoughts from the beginning, to avoid thinking about the loss and consequently feeling down. It all starts with you.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 12:12 AM
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Step 1 - Stop Thinking Step 2 - Stop Thinking Step 3 - Stop Thinking Step 4 - If you’re still thinking, go back to Step 1. Step 5 - Access other thoughts. Replace those original thoughts with other thoughts about bettering and improving yourself. Not her, not the next one, not your friends, not games, not alcohol, not drugs. Step 6 - Understand and accept that thinking about those thoughts triggered those feelings. Step 7 - Read books, workout, walk, meditate, listen to uplifting and calming mus…
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 10:39 PM
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Don’t hate her. You’re on the right path. Nothing good comes from overthinking or dwelling in the past. I strongly recommend you read or listen to the book “Don’t believe everything you think” by Joseph Nguyyen. Let me know if you need to talk, you’re not alone in this sh!t.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 10:00 PM
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You’ve met plenty of rational, logical women… but you were never in a relationship with them. These tools of manipulation and victimhood that women typically use is a result of them not having physical strength or economic dominance over you.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 08:37 PM
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We appreciate the “rant”. It’s good to let it out, it’s healthy. You don’t need to keep it inside. We are here for you. One thing you need to understand, is that women are not like men, and men are not like women. Don’t expect her to be logical, don’t expect her to be introspective, don’t expect her to be responsible for her actions or apologize. That’s typical men behavior. We assess, contemplate and seek for meaning even if we have to find faults or cracks in our armor. We know it’s hard and w…
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 08:18 PM
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I like the fact that you are moving on, but I sense a lot of resentment, anger and frustration in you. Just like you let her go, also let those feelings go. It’s like a poison that you don’t need in your life. Think of it this way, you are comfortable in your own skin, you are better off without her, your kids are smart enough to see you as the good parent. What else do you want? Remember that you can’t change other people or dictate their actions, feelings of remorse/appreciation. Instead of f*…
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 08:09 PM
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You owe it to yourself to move on. Find your purpose in a life where you focus on finding peace on how you spend your time. Time is your most valuable, non refundable asset. Figure out a way to not care what she does, what she thinks, what she says… and especially… what she needs. It does not concern you. I had to remind myself so many times that the livelihood and wellbeing of my ex was no longer my responsibility. So I understand where you’re coming from. She is not your daughter, she is no lo…
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 04:35 AM
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It seems like she realized what it was to be without a man like you providing for her. We need more information to help you, but only you know if she is part of your heaven on earth or part of your hell on earth. Don’t torture yourself, let go if she does not bring you peace. You’re not a “stupid fool”, you are a good man that is being taken advantage of.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 04:24 AM
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You are on the correct path. I’m proud of you and wish you the best!
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 04:03 AM
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Let her go. She was never yours. You weren’t “replaced” even though it’s very easy to think that way. She will have to live with what she did and the fact that she let you go. You are now free. Treasure that, it’s a blessing to no longer be with someone that does not appreciate you.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 04:01 AM
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Just like you wouldn’t find a wife at a bar, don’t expect to find a well rounded, stable and kind woman in these apps. Also, think about the stats, women in apps are flooded with messages and “likes” and men highly outnumber women on apps. Odds are not in your favor. That being said, if you are patient and persistent and not easily frustrated, you CAN find someone worth while. And it will consume a lot of time. Like someone else suggested, it’s a lot better to encounter a woman in a social, phys…
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 03:46 AM
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Took the words right out of my mouth.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 03:39 AM
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Get into systems integration and industrial automation industry. Plenty of room to grow and make good money.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 12:38 AM
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I once read a book called “Raising Cane” and there was a sentence that read “the man is responsible for the emotional state of his family.” This quote has stayed with me my entire life. You have to be the rock for your children. Remind them that they are in your team and that they are your priority. Acknowledge their feelings but provide them the tools necessary to cope with this difficult stage in their lives. Be honest, direct and loving. Eventually, they will make sense out if it all and reme…
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 12:34 AM
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You are doing good. Now when you look back, learn how you could’ve done better as a man in a relationship and think “knowing what I know now, how could I be a better partner” and use that towards your new relationship. Set boundaries, be honest with yourself and with your new partner. There should be non negotiables and priorities established from the beginning. I wish you the best in your journey towards happiness and peace.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 12:26 AM
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You’re very welcome. I recommend you read or hear these two books that helped me: “the subtle art of not giving a f*ck” and “don’t believe everything you think.” These books will help center you and provide you with the tools necessary to regain your focus and commitment towards yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 12:08 AM
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Explain to your child that this was a mutual agreement between you and his mother and that he had nothing to do with it. Say that you tried your best but you both realized that things would be better this way. Tell him that you love him and that his mother loves him. That you will always be part of his life and that nothing and no one will ever come between your relationship with him. That he is your priority and that you will always be there for him, no matter what. The kid needs reassurance, l…
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/24 12:04 AM
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You have two options but be wise in your decision. Option 1 - You show up. Make sure you are cordial, respectful to everyone and broadcast happiness. You look your best and glow a fresh and clear vibe. Keep your head up and be assertive and confident. And remember, you are not doing this for her or the judge, you are doing it for yourself. Option 2 - You don’t go. If you still have feelings of remorse, guilt or revenge. Do not go. These feelings will show. You will take a step back in your perso…
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 11:55 PM
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Advice: What you are engaging in is what we call an open marriage. It’s fine now, everyone does what they are supposed to do. Everyone is busy and works together. But like everything in life, it’s not forever. She is 10 years younger you say. Women’s minds and bodies work differently than man’s. She will end up wanting to nurture and feel needed/wanted as soon as your child becomes more independent, then she will be actively looking for a partner and find one. She will then ask for a divorce and…
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 09:37 PM
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The valuable tools these books provide are incredible. Once you remember and are aware how your thoughts and memories work, you can retake control over your thinking, feelings and replace them with nothing to go back to your natural state of wonder, bliss and curiosity. By choosing not to give a fck, you free yourself from overthinking, worry, anxiety, loss, depression and reliving the past that caused you pain. You embrace the pain, you thank and welcome it, then you let it go. It’s liberating.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 08:19 PM
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Awesome! I’m very happy for you. I also just finished reading “Don’t believe everything you think” and I’m half way through “the Monk who sold his Ferrari”
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 08:12 PM
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I recommend every guy in here reads “the subtle art of not giving a fck” it did wonders for me and I’m grateful it came at the final stage of my divorce. Give it a shot! It’s also available in audiable.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/24 08:04 PM
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Think of it this way, if your son was involved in this situation, what would you advise him for his long term emotional state. Now think about it this way. If your daughter was the wife, what advice would you give her for her long term emotional state. Take yourself out of the equation, it makes you detach your own fcked up feelings/insecurities/traumas from the situation. There is no room for a healthy relationship between your ex and yourself at its current state. The fracture is deep. Trust i…
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 09:06 PM
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It’s not based on logic or self preservation principles. It’s weakness and insecurity. It’s emotional baggage and lack of self worth.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 03:33 AM
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Not worth it… but if you do. Prenup is the way to go.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 04:10 AM
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Nailed it
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 04:08 AM
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Upgrade? Lmfaooo
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 03:32 AM
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Brother, this is a blessing in disguise. Trust me. Also out of a 16 year marriage. I’m not gonna lie, I struggled for a couple of months. She moved to a tiny apartment, I kept the house. 50/50 custody. She also started to see a young guy at her work. She just started working again and I paid for all her education and even helped her with her homework. She ended the relationship with her work buddy then started to see another guy she meet at Verizon when I got phones for the kids. Now I believe t…
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 02:12 AM
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If you do this, your next relationship will be more fulfilling and peaceful. You won’t get that same hit of adrenaline caused by conflict, but you will be happy. Trust me.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 10:12 PM
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Move on, it’s best for both of you. Study your mistakes and her’s. Lean from them. Build a new standard from this experience. How you want to treat your partner and how you want your partner to treat you. Don’t compromise, set your standards and move on. It’s the same way with everything. You figured out how not to hit a nail with a hammer. Now you’re more careful and better at it (hopefully)
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 10:08 PM
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