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| 2 | As a man, how do I get get my spouse to listen about my troubled past?The best way I know is to learn Nonviolent Communication. The problem is it is a skill that takes practice to develop. To get someone to listen to something that is hard for them to hear, takes listening to them first about what is going on for them when they hear what you have to say. Once they are calm then you can ask if they are ready to hear what you have to say. Then they are much more likely to be present for you. Upset people won't listen to things that upset them. | /r/MensRights | 23/12/24 01:12 PM |
| 3 | Are there any good male right books out there?Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. | /r/MensRights | 05/05/24 09:45 PM |
| 1 | What are some things you started to do that helped with your mental health?Learn Nonviolent Communication. It's doing your own therapy so you don't need a therapist. | /r/MensRights | 16/02/24 04:34 AM |
| 10 | Got into a quarrel with a feminist about dangers of generalisation.Just try getting anyone who generalizes to give specifics. Hardly anyone can make the shift to speaking in specifics. It pretty much blows their mind. | /r/MensRights | 22/12/23 03:08 PM |
| 10 | Men In Relationships/ Married Men, Advice to Younger guys?If you want to improve communication, conflict resolution skills and be more self aware - learn Nonviolent Communication. It has helped me and countless others. It's a very simple process but not easy. It requires unlearning a lot of the dysfunctional things you have been taught by society. | /r/MensRights | 16/12/23 09:04 PM |
| 6 | I'm a woman, and I'm angry. I'm coming to the source to ask for advice and insight.I volunteer in a prison. One of the exercises the men do is to look at how long it took to make and process the decision that landed them in prison. Usually it is only seconds. I teach Nonviolent Communication and a common theme is, "If I had known Nonviolent Communication back then, I wouldn't have made the choice that lead to me being here." My point her is to work with people if you can before they make the bad decisions, instead of trying to repair bad decisions. This is challenging for me a… | /r/MensRights | 16/12/23 03:25 PM |
| 1 | What keeps you going in Life?Are you looking for clarity about what might motivate you? I find living according to my values and being okay when I am not perfect, helps keep me in a positive state. | /r/MensRights | 12/12/23 05:05 PM |
| 1 | What keeps you going in Life?Are you wanting meaning and purpose? | /r/MensRights | 12/12/23 02:28 PM |
| 1 | Former male feminists. What was your wake up call?Thanks for responding. Makes sense the more dry, the less incentive to skew the data. Also if you depend on the results for quality of a product, you would want quality research. | /r/MensRights | 29/11/23 11:06 PM |
| 3 | Former male feminists. What was your wake up call?Do any studies of any subject hold up to this scrutiny? Even in "pure" science there is a lot of bias and preconceived beliefs. The majority of psychological studies, which I am guessing ones about feminism would fall under, did not hold up when repeated by another researcher. Follow the money is the biggest hint. If they don't get the "right" result, they lose future funding. | /r/MensRights | 29/11/23 02:06 PM |
| 2 | Men shouldn't stop saying "not all men" until a lot more women are comfortable saying itPeople like to use shortcuts for the way they think. unfortunately when they put these shortcuts into words, it comes out as generalizations. Most people have no problem saying their shortcuts, but they don't like hearing them, especially when it is negative stuff about a group they belong to. | /r/MensRights | 02/11/23 06:35 PM |
| -3 | Women telling men to express “emoshions” is cringe and possibly dangerous for the societal standing of a Man.The problem is the lack of skill in being able to express emotions in a healthy way. The other end of this is the lack of skill in being able to listen to emotions in a healthy way. Most people when they claim to be expressing emotions are actually expressing their thoughts. These thoughts have emotions behind them, but the emotions are usually not clearly expressed. It's also important the setting in which emotions are expressed. Also when negative emotions are expressed, it works best when you… | /r/MensRights | 31/10/23 11:46 AM |
| 25 | Women have as much of a singular and one track minded approach to what they want from relationships as they SAY men do.I find this interesting. In general women say they want commitment. I read a study, a long time ago and don't remember which one, that women are more often the first ones to get bored in a relationship. So they want commitment but are the first to be unhappy being in a committed relationship. | /r/MensRights | 25/10/23 12:57 PM |
| 1 | Manipulated by a female counselorMost therapists are trained in pathology based ideology. This is the study of what's wrong with people so they can fix them. I prefer Nonviolent Communication which is based on the study of people with healthy communication patterns. This includes how a person talks to themselves, which is the basis of most mental health issues. Most therapists have a really hard time doing just the basics of Nonviolent Communication, which in my opinion and many others, is what therapists should be doing. The c… | /r/MensRights | 13/10/23 11:24 PM |
| 5 | Having to seriously consider selling my house because of property taxes and child supportAre you puzzled? Do you want things to make sense? Do you want justice? | /r/MensRights | 12/10/23 12:49 PM |
| 2 | How to Break Through a Wall of Silence & Denial..?How to Break Through a Wall of Silence & Denial..? If you want to get someone to listen to you, listen to them fully without judgment, argument or justification. Once they have been fully heard, it might take a while, then ask if it is okay to share you experience. If they react to what you say, go back to listening again. Then ask if they would be willing to listen to you without interruption until you let them know you are done. When done ask them to reflect your important points. Let them kno… | /r/MensRights | 10/10/23 07:36 PM |
| 1 | The mental health crisis among men is the only one where the solution always seems to be “men need to change,” whereas the solution to every other groups mental health crisis is “everyone else needs to change around them.”The only thing that works is for the person with the issues to change. At first they will need support. If they could do it on their own they would have already. I have little control over how the world is. I have lots of control over how I am. But if I am not aware of my options, it's as if they don't exist. What I recommend is learning Nonviolent Communication. It was developed by a psychologist who didn't like traditional psychotherapy. His peers didn't like him teaching self help to people t… | /r/MensRights | 01/10/23 01:31 PM |
| 4 | Domestic abuse isn’t only by menI wonder what the statistics would be if we could know the absolute truth. The other thing I am curious about is how many times men who hit women were first taunted verbally. I am not saying it is okay to use physical violence. I see a big difference between someone who is abusive and someone who is provoked. | /r/MensRights | 27/09/23 03:59 PM |
| 1 | What is the root cause of the male supression of emotions?We are taught by society to think in an unhealthy way. Judging people as right or wrong, good or bad. Society uses punishment and rewards in an attempt to control behavior. Good people deserve rewards, bad people deserve punishment. Look up "learned helplessness," if you want a detailed explanation on what causes depression. | /r/MensRights | 27/09/23 02:02 PM |
| 14 | When did “fragile male ego” become the number 1 most used feminist insult?When someone diagnoses what's wrong with you, it says more about them, than it does about you. | /r/MensRights | 26/09/23 05:28 PM |
| 10 | As a woman, how can I be more aware of men and their needs?Here's my example of the difference between conversation styles. I will be using stereotypes here for simplicity’s sake. I don’t believe them to be always true. Background: A wife is bored and wants to go dancing. Indirect communication: Wife - You don’t love me anymore. Husband: Yes, I do! Wife: You never take me dancing anymore. Husband: Do you want to go dancing? Wife: Well no. Not unless you do. Husband: Okay, let’s go dancing. Wife: I don’t want you to just because I brought it up. I want y… | /r/MensRights | 25/09/23 03:44 PM |
| 16 | As a woman, how can I be more aware of men and their needs?Waffling is something to avoid. if you say you will do something that affects others and then change your mind, my guess is most people don't like it. What I am referring to with being direct, is if you want something, ask for it directly, you would be surprised how much better it works. I don't know of many people who like knowing you want something to be different, but you don't say what you want. Then worst of all, is being told the guess of what you do want is wrong when it was made with the… | /r/MensRights | 24/09/23 11:56 PM |
| 73 | As a woman, how can I be more aware of men and their needs?Be direct in your communication. Listen without interruptions. Acknowledge what was said without making it about you. | /r/MensRights | 24/09/23 11:25 PM |
| 1 | Ever since false allegations I've been a prude.I'm confused and want to understand. Would you explain where you see an ultimatum? | /r/MensRights | 24/09/23 09:56 PM |
| 1 | Ever since false allegations I've been a prude.Is safety is more important than relationship for now? | /r/MensRights | 24/09/23 11:25 AM |
| 1 | Ever since false allegations I've been a prude.Anything that helps you feel better is great. Unless you get to the root of the problem though, anything that triggers a memory will bring you down again. | /r/MensRights | 23/09/23 02:06 PM |
| 1 | Ever since false allegations I've been a prude.Restorative Justice has many variations. What I am familiar with is using Nonviolent Communication for the Restorative Justice process.. I am not familiar with CBT, but I think there are some similarities. | /r/MensRights | 22/09/23 08:33 PM |
| 1 | Ever since false allegations I've been a prude.The best thing I know of is to do restorative justice work. You would have someone role play her part. The role player would hear you out and acknowledge your experience. | /r/MensRights | 22/09/23 07:50 PM |
| 1 | I’m a young guy in my mid 20s. What is some advice you have for someone like me to try and navigate this modern world? (I live in the West)Learn Nonviolent Communication. | /r/MensRights | 15/09/23 12:47 PM |
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