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| 3 | One year out. I’m doing all the “right” things but it still hurts like hellThe other commenter's advice on becoming a version of yourself that you enjoy spending time with alone is spot on. It's a process, so cut yourself some slack and make the timeline malleable. Also, you should probably re-evaluate what constitutes a "full life". The 60/40 split of quiet contemplation and recovery to socialization you described sounds pretty decent to me (and on par with any historical precedent). If that feels insufficient, it could have more to do with a desire to distract yourse… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/26 10:03 PM |
| 1 | Wife left, got pregnant, now wants to come home.“(I have 3 [kids] from a previous marriage)” | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/06/26 03:52 PM |
| 4 | Wife left, got pregnant, now wants to come home.So your kids are understandably expressing reservations but your stance is that you need to put your second wife before your children and your opinions on the matter trump everything. Get a grip, man. You’re going to end up in a situation where your ex bails again and your kids lose their respect for you in the process. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/06/26 03:06 PM |
| 2 | D-DaySomething that helped me mentally was rather than having an internal struggle with whose version of "our story" was the objective truth and pushing back on the statements I felt were unfair, I instead accepted we each own a version of our narrative to do with as we please that doesn't require the validation of the other. My ex has definitely twisted our nearly 15 year history into something I don't recognize (and makes her decision easier to live with), but I refuse to do the same. I try to rema… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/05/26 09:45 PM |
| 5 | Shifting processingI know seven months seems like a decent chunk of time, but relative to the profound degree of change, it's a pretty brief period. Would you tell an amputee, "come on, it's been more than half a year, aren't you used to having only one arm yet?" The catalyst may be a brief event, but the subsequent re-defining of yourself can be a long journey. It sounds like you've made quality progress during that span. Stay the course, trust the process. Remember that you're re-building, and it takes time to s… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/05/26 05:03 PM |
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