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Be careful with overinflating the importance of virginity too. I grew up religious but didn’t set good boundaries and let my boyfriend pressure me to keep going further. I felt so much shame for losing my virginity at age 18, and was shunned by my church community, that I rationalized marrying him to avoid “increasing my n-count” and feeling like I had already lost too much value to find a man who treated me well. So now I’m 36 and divorced and not only regret losing my virginity to him, but I a…
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/19 09:30 PM
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Check out the intermittent fasting sub Reddit if you are interested in learning more and search for posts there of people with PCOS or insulin resistance. I’ve dropped from 186 pounds to 153 in the past year using intermittent fasting.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/19 08:36 PM
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You’re welcome. Be kind to yourself and heal! It takes a lot of strength to escape and I’m proud of you for getting out!
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/19 10:48 PM
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Thank you for sharing your story, and happy birthday! I’m so sorry you have been through that experience and wish you much success in your new life! I know I had an instant sense of peace when I got my first apartment away from my ex and I wouldn’t trade that feeling for the world
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/19 10:34 PM
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Thank you. Those are good points to consider. I’ve had this mindset that I have to be WITH someone to do any of those things. I’ll work on undoing that mentality and try to make plans with girl friends or even go alone. I recently forced myself to go to a restaurant alone for the first time and it wasn’t as bad as I expected. Maybe I’ll take myself to the movies or a museum next!
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/19 05:44 PM
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I write code for database analytics/ business intelligence. My previous company had more women than men, but I suspect that’s because they paid lower than the market rate. The company provided more flexibility in schedules and work from home to make up for the lower pay though. There was definitely some gossip and pettiness and personality conflicts with the female developers, but more directed towards each other than towards the men. I’ve also been to a few meetups of the local chapter of Women…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/19 04:09 PM
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That’s really good advice. I’m glad you’re enjoying your single life. Spot on about the “Ive had a crush on you since childhood” men - that’s exactly what my just-ended relationship started out with.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/19 01:58 PM
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Congratulations on your wedding!!! Thank you for the encouragement. Do you mind if I ask how long you spent on monk mode, and how you knew you were ready to date again?
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/19 01:08 PM
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That’s tough to vet for. I’ve read the side bar / wiki on vetting, but in my circumstances I’m not sure how and where to begin looking for the right sort of man when it’s time.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/19 11:54 AM
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I guess I might want that at some point, but right now I’m not ready for a new relationship, and don’t trust my own ability to select/ vet a good strong decent male role model. I suppose it’s relevant to mention that my kids are all girls. They also have a good relationship with my dad and my brother, who are good role models. What are your suggestions to improve SMV? I’m at a healthy weight, go to the salon regularly to maintain blonde hair and waxed eyebrows, dress conservatively but flatterin…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/19 11:53 AM
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I definitely do; and they’re awesome little people that are doing well and I’m so proud of. unfortunately their dad still has partial custody. I’ve been in court trying to get his time reduced, but it’s not that easy. So I have plenty of non-kid time available to date, although I wouldn’t introduce someone to the kids for quite some time. The first post-divorce relationship I never introduced to them. The recent one I thought was going to last, and I introduced them after six months. If there’s …
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/19 02:23 AM
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Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/19 01:39 AM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/19 01:37 AM
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That’s extraordinarily unhelpful and completely untrue on every point. Yes, there are police records documenting his behavior, as well as multiple hospitalizations for his mental issues. You’re right that there were some ok years in the marriage, when he was relatively calm, but only as long as I had no friends, didn’t leave the home, and provided good food and daily sex. What I “did wrong” was decide I wasn’t ok with that doormat life forever and I wanted to work outside the home and go back to…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/19 01:19 AM
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Thanks, that’s a good point, I actually quit drinking completely during this time as well, but maybe I can have a glass of wine with a friend or go to a movie or something
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/19 11:17 PM
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Thank you for sharing. I stumbled onto this sub in similar circumstances (taking a break 2 months ago, officially broke up about 2 weeks ago) and was trying desperately to save the relationship, but now I’m focused on personal growth and discovering a lot of areas I can improve in. Would you say any of the paid coaching programs on the sites you linked to are worthwhile?
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/19 01:43 AM
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Prayer, change your attitude, belief that you will succeed, an abundance mindset, dress in a more flattering way
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/19 01:11 AM
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I just finished reading that last night! It’s almost convincing enough to make me believe in god again!
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/19 11:31 PM
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