Ojayliving Archive

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1	Why 'be yourself' hasn't been working out for you... Nice, I believe that people have trouble being themselves because they are trying to be themselves. Which does not make any sense since it is BEing yourself not DOing yourself :) As soon as you stop trying to be yourself as the phrase implies, you actually start being yourself since you are removing the doing part and are left with the being part. Same thing with finding out who you are... Stop looking and you will get closer to the truth ;)	/r/seduction	12/05/16 01:29 PM
3	I don't know what to do... Read this http://www.ojayliving.com/how-to-increase-your-self-esteem/ By core confidence you mean self esteem aka self image... The reason you are getting anxiety and resistance to make that move is because conciosly or unconsciously you do not see your self as the type of person who does that sort of thing... What you have to do is make the right desions/take right action aka blow through that barrier that is holding you back regardless of it being successful or not successful (the outcome does…	/r/seduction	10/04/16 04:42 PM
1	What is it called when you're building your rep instead of cold approaching? Lol... Its called just being social and socialising	/r/seduction	04/04/16 06:19 PM
1	Social Conditioning and Negative thoughts Glad you liked it :)	/r/seduction	03/04/16 09:17 PM
2	Obsessing over a girl, dying inside Honestly my man, the best advice I can give you is to go out and have sex/deeply connect with atleast 3 new girls :)... You are falling into oneitis and that is okay... All us guys have been under this spell with a certain girl in the past and I promise you if you go out and have sex/deeply connect with 3 new girls you will stop obsessing over her and funny enough this will keep her attracted to you longterm... Girls pick up on the subtleties in your communications with them, it will pop out eve…	/r/seduction	28/03/16 11:37 AM
1	Social Conditioning and Negative thoughts Yh man meditation really helps, I do it everyday, I would get on it! Tons of other benefits to it too just give the benefits of meditation a Google, a great quote I like is "meditation over medication" :) ... Yh my man I've read that these days the average attention span of a human is 7 seconds! Developments of technology like social media have a lot to do with our ADHD attention spans and they play a role on our self absorbed society too... I agree with you our world is completely over stimulat…	/r/seduction	27/03/16 06:21 AM
1	Please help, tried to go today to clubs, failed three times Ok so basically you have 2 main minds in your brain, your logical mind and your emotional mind... What you are experiencing is called "cognitive dissonance", basically logically you know nothing bad is going to happen and you want to do it but... On a emotional level you disagree with this and it is causing you to self sabatage and not follow through, you follow this? I recommend reading a book called "the chimp paradox" by Steven peters this will help you understand this concept and also explai…	/r/seduction	27/03/16 06:14 AM
2	Social Conditioning and Negative thoughts Glad you like the line :) it is very true man... You could run around the street naked and shore people might notice and care for a second but 10 minutes later MAX they have completely forgotten and are back to thinking about themselves and their own lives :) it is just human nature...	/r/seduction	27/03/16 05:52 AM
1	Please help, tried to go today to clubs, failed three times Nothing is wrong with you my man :) It's normal, this is very new to you and it is going to be overwhelming at first been their done that, it's that first part of just letting go and jumping in that is the toughest! Just baby step it and don't give up! You will reach a point where you will get so fed up that you will just be like f*ck it and you will just take jump in and take action trust me... I had a similar story at the start just keep persisting you got this, once you let go and just do it …	/r/seduction	27/03/16 05:43 AM
1	Please help, tried to go today to clubs, failed three times That's awesome! Very refreshing to hear... I can tell you have good intentions which is so important man, your intent is good... You just want to meet some new people, connect and have a good time... You are not one of these freaks that just wanna get a lay and take value instead of offering it... Respect. Honestly my man you are going to have to baby step it, your putting a lot of pressure on yourself and it is a completely new and over stimulating enviroment for you... I would go to the club a…	/r/seduction	27/03/16 05:33 AM
3	Social Conditioning and Negative thoughts Number 1) you know the right answer deep down on the inside... Take action anyway push through that resistance you are experiencing... I get it my man everyone experiences this when they first start, you need to get confident at approaching and confidence=competence aka you have to keep repeating it to get confident in your abilities at doing this... The only way to do this is to barrel through and take action anyway, cold approach is a skill set if you are not naturally good at approaching peop…	/r/seduction	27/03/16 05:18 AM