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| 22 | Guy here asking questionsThe problem I have with patriarchy is that you're taking the people who are actually the problem - the people who actually have power to prosecute rape/DV, the power to legislate, the power to set pay policies, the power to set leave policies, the power to send big cultural messages - then you lump in every random joe average who has no power at all with them. Why? Men get killed by cops all the time for the crime of being mentally ill in public. Is that one of those big powerful men, the guy ge… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/06/25 07:45 PM |
| 103 | How short sighted could they be?Someone took the valid concept of codependence (someone incapable of regulating their own emotions to the level an adult normally would) and decided this must be some specific man disease. It impacts both men and women, and it generally results from growing up in an emotionally neglectful, abusive, or otherwise dysfunctional household. But that doesn't fit the nice clean us vs. them narrative, so instead we get "ugh men". | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/06/25 07:25 PM |
| 2 | Talking to Left Wingers on Reddit is such a frustrationYou can engage in this kind of deflection or you can take what I said as an indication of how people currently feel about the left (which has about a 34% approval rating amongst the general public) and figure out what kind of message would be helpful. Saying that I'm bad and trying to prop up a bad system is not going to move the needle in your favor with anyone. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/06/25 06:54 PM |
| 30 | "Secure" menIDK, I think it's just women wishing for their version of a bimbo that will do everything they like and nothing they dislike, serve as a punching bag for their frustrations, etc and men are just as eager to do whatever is the "thing" today as women are. If enough men/women said playing the kazoo was really sexy, people would go blasting kazoos at the opposite sex. The reason many men are very easily manipulated by this has less to do with women having any magic powers and everything to do with h… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/06/25 06:25 PM |
| 101 | "Secure" menI'd love to ask them - why is catcalling a problem then? Why don't women just read The Four Agreements over and over until THEY become black-belts of boundaries and learn not to take those comments that they find disgusting or hurtful seriously? Why is being approached by a man you're not interested in a problem? Just boundaries your way out of it like I'm supposed to. The famous merry-go-round of "taking it personally": Feminist: "All men are terrible" Man: "I don't like that" Feminist: "Well w… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/06/25 04:01 PM |
| 27 | Why men don't follow feminism (as a male feminist)Because in this brand of "woman good man bad" feminism, a woman's personal anecdotes about how all the significant men in her family were terrible to her to the point that she is literally incapable of caring about any man is not proof she was hurt and needs recovery (the correct answer that literally any competent therapist would give), it's proof that men are inherently terrible. The groups are just collective justified resentment and the ideology enables it. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/06/25 03:49 PM |
| 2 | Why men don't follow feminism (as a male feminist)It's like when people talk about "true" communism or "true" capitalism. As far as I can tell, in practice, feminism means "women get to do all the stuff men do" and it's basically seen as a group for women to boost one another. I have no issue with that, I want everyone to have all the opportunities they can. I want everyone to have all educational, professional, occupational routes open to them. But feminism in practice isn't this high-minded thing about truly pulling down the broken system, it… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 27/06/25 03:43 PM |
| 36 | Double standards and false narratives regarding male and female subs.Because women get it both ways - they can simultaneously be "the future" and "RAWR power feminism women can be Navy SEALs" but also still be powerless victims who couldn't possibly hurt anyone (cuz man stronger!) and it's sexist not to get sick leave for PMS. We are simultaneously useless and have nothing to offer, yet we allegedly hold every lever of power. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/06/25 02:58 PM |
| 13 | Talking to Left Wingers on Reddit is such a frustrationIt's secular Catholicism - all of the same hierarchy and shame and need for salvation, just swap the bible with a stack of "studies" proving who the real victims are per the high council of sociology professors. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/06/25 02:51 PM |
| 11 | Talking to Left Wingers on Reddit is such a frustrationFar too many people on the left have the same cringe AF "government please be my daddy and make everything perfect for me" views that crazy MAGAs have. Gabor Mate in the book "The Myth of Normal" has a whole chapter about how generally, people with emotional neglect end up holding these really strong political views because they essentially want "society" to be this replacement family that will make everything safe in the way their parents/families were supposed to. IMO this is exactly why lefti… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/06/25 02:49 PM |
| 7 | (The Guardian) MankeepingShe's discovered nothing. This is just codependency, and anyone can do it to anyone. There's a whole 12-step program for it. All this does is single out one particular direction (man codependent on woman) as if its a new discovery. I suspect the reason they don't want to call it codependency is because then you'd have to confront the fact that (1) codependency is generally a result of growing up in an addicted or otherwise dysfunctional home, and then that blows up the whole clean "victim vs. op… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/06/25 03:36 PM |
| 23 | I asked trans men about their thoughts on masculinity. They feel bad for teenage boysYou can't be an advocate with an asterisk. Either care about my problems and give some unequivocal defenses or proposals or just go away. Can you imagine taking this tact in the opposite direction? "Everyone knows women are dumb and weak and naggy and cause all of the problems in the known world BUT I guess some of them should be allowed to have rights so they can better serve my personal interests" would not be a terribly inspiring piece, yet this is the default for this kind of male-facing fem… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/06/25 09:15 PM |
| 2 | Equity or equal victimhood?IF anything, I expected more support for this position on this sub. One of the most infuriating things about so much left leaning "activism" these days is that it's just this endless appeal to an authority figure that clearly either does not exist or does not care. It's like someone decided Lisa Simpson was the best role model for social change. How many millions of words of whining, how many screeches of indignation, how many tears of hopelessness have been spilled during the great Awokening of… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/06/25 06:25 PM |
| 4 | Equity or equal victimhood?This seems like a lot of effort to put the author down and virtually no effort to engage with the ideas put forth. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/06/25 04:40 PM |
| 4 | Equity or equal victimhood?100%. I was terrorized by my mom and failed by my mopey drunk dad. It would be very easy for me to sit in justified resentment about how she was mean (she was), how the system failed me so many ways (it did), and in some ways, sure, if I were to not do so well in life, it would be somewhat expected given my background. But what has motivated me more than anything else is a desire not to become her - not to have really good excuses to do the same behaviors, but to change. My mom and dad both made… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/06/25 04:37 PM |
| 7 | The Lie About MisandryI’d like to see something in the mental health section, if possible, about the high incidence of police violence toward men experiencing mental health issues. Women get labeled hysterical and dismissed, men get labeled violent and dealt with. That to me is one of the most direct examples I personally experienced that I do NOT count to this society- if you break down, we might just literally send some goons to wipe you out. Or if we think it’s appropriate we’ll beat you and sedate you and detain … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 15/06/25 03:03 PM |
| 18 | "Women are overrepresented as victims of violence, violence against women is just much more often domestic violence, it is hidden"I often feel like women can have this mentality of "tee hee when I do it, it can't possibly be serious, I'm only a woman and he's a man." But the problem is while you want to do this "oh I'm just a girl" thing when convenient, you are still an authority figure to your kids (if you have them). When my mom would go into banshee mode and start screaming and freaking out at everyone, or when she'd threaten us with the belt, or when she'd hit my dad while he was passed out drunk, etc - no matter how … | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 12/06/25 03:05 PM |
| 1 | Men don’t know how to talk about their feelings.The answer to 99% of the posts there is "leave your boyfriend who clearly hates you, seek therapy for your trauma" and instead they just go deeper and deeper down the resentment Rabbit hole. They'd rather suffer and get the victim points for it. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 10/06/25 10:38 PM |
| 8 | Blatantly UntrueThe notion you can somehow "scientifically" determine who the victims are in the world is exactly where they jumped the shark. It became a secular catholicism with the bible replaced by "studies" - all of the thought police BS, my feelings should carry the weight of law BS, it's fine if bad things happen to you because you're an oppressor (ie heathen) - all of that BS has followed. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 10/06/25 08:00 PM |
| 1 | Blatantly UntrueThis kind of semantic BS is only ever used to dismiss people. Someone will talk about a real problem they have or be vulnerable about how they're feeling, then someone else says "Oh, well actually, it is impossible for you to experience that because the high council of gender studies professors says you aren't a VICTIM brand victim, womp womp." | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 10/06/25 07:55 PM |
| 1 | The Economist: The stunning decline of the preference for having boys [full article in comments]It feels like things always land in the same place: men have only hurt feelings to fear, but women have to fear for their lives, physical safety is more important than emotional safety so shucks lads, too bad. Women have it worse is just eternally baked into Maslow’s hierarchy. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 08/06/25 05:55 PM |
| 12 | A genuine question (no hate please )And I can see why your beliefs make sense from your lived experience. It's a big interlocking trauma cycle, not just through generations but across society. Yep, I attend a really lovely support group that has been super helpful (Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families). It's open to everyone, though there are specific meetings for men, women, LGBT etc focuses if people want that. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 06/06/25 07:33 PM |
| 1 | "I don't hate men, I hate the patriarchy" What are some things you think of when you hear this statement from feminist?There's nothing deeper to it than dismissal. That person doesn't want to hear my problems so they say a bunch of things that feel true to them that make it okay to ignore, or even outright disdain, my vulnerability as a man. So much of it rests on nothing deeper than "because I said so" or "because this authority figure said so." The only difference between catholicism and feminism is a change in message. All the same "you're bad unless you suffer your way out of it in a way only I, an annointed… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 06/06/25 04:25 PM |
| 3 | In the presidential elections in Poland, just like in the United States, the conservative candidate won due to male voters. It seems like a pattern, and liberal / left political forces need to start doing something about it.We as humans are not very creative and mostly just copy what's been done before. "No, the problem with your hierarchy is that the BAD people were on top. We have done a study to determine who the good people are, and now we'll have a just world with all of the GOOD people on top." | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 06/06/25 04:16 PM |
| 2 | In the presidential elections in Poland, just like in the United States, the conservative candidate won due to male voters. It seems like a pattern, and liberal / left political forces need to start doing something about it.Leftists love to share that LBJ quote about giving white men someone to look down on so they feel important and how it makes them easy to exploit, then they turn around and give themselves someone to look down on so they feel important. But they're the REAL good guys, the high council of gender studies professors said so, so when they do it, its fine! | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 06/06/25 04:13 PM |
| 1 | male PUA "gurus" are banned from many countries now, meanwhile this is a hyped up new bestsellerNew red flag just dropped! | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 06/06/25 04:10 PM |
| 38 | A genuine question (no hate please )I don't want to downplay the realism of your fears. But just think how it feels, day in and day out, to know people see you as this threat to be avoided. Like sure, maybe this is just how it has to be and this is the cost I have to bear. But it just fucking sucks. I have pain too, I have vulnerability too, and that fear that women has often turns into a justified resentment of me, gaslighting, dismissal. Many of us feel absolutely resented and despised by our moms as burdens (bell hooks writes n… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 06/06/25 04:05 PM |
| 2 | I've never heard any man complain about the "male loneliness epidemic" yet feminists cannot shut up about how they "don't care."They project all of their own trauma on to it. To me its all very obvious they had a shitty dad and they leap into attacking that strawman. Like the sane responses to the men's mental health stuff would be "let's try to get more male teachers with a scholarship program or a hiring goal, let's try to make therapy more available, let's figure out how to get men engaged in the community." They, with no basis, claim "oh they want WOMEN to fix it and its all about sex!!!" Like first of all, y'all are… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 06/06/25 03:28 PM |
| 23 | Why is it that whenever men try to open up about serious issues mental health, loneliness, systemic struggles the conversation always gets hijacked or derailed with blame, deflection, or “women have it worse”? Where are the spaces for honest, empathetic discussion?Because it ain’t what they want. They are entitled to safety and we are obligated to provide it. The idea that we also have feelings and want safety then introduces some level of guilt, so they go “ugh a REAL man doesn’t get scared.” IDK it’s like how we all know cows are in terrible factories but they show commercials where the cows are happy and chilling on a big meadow in the sunset. They want the results from the factory farm and the good vibes of the big happy meadow. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/05/25 05:34 PM |
| 21 | Why is it that whenever men try to open up about serious issues mental health, loneliness, systemic struggles the conversation always gets hijacked or derailed with blame, deflection, or “women have it worse”? Where are the spaces for honest, empathetic discussion?I’ve seen women complaining about it being called “the men’s loneliness epidemic” because women are lonely too… like go start your own thing then? If you’re adamant that men have to fix men’s loneliness problems, then what do you need from me to fix your woman loneliness? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/05/25 05:29 PM |
| 18 | As a male survivor of child/early adulthood abuse, I'm supposed to just pretend that there isn't a huge, sexist discrepancy in services for males vs femalesThere’s a support group that was a breath of fresh air for me and finally gave me hope: Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families I go to both mixed and men’s only meetings there- it has really really made my life better, and the focus is 1000% on the shit that happened to you and not your demographics. I feel your frustration deeply. Two really stark examples: In middle school I made the mistake of revealing that I was really frustrated at home by my dad’s severe drinking and my m… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/05/25 01:14 PM |
| 16 | Why is it that whenever men try to open up about serious issues mental health, loneliness, systemic struggles the conversation always gets hijacked or derailed with blame, deflection, or “women have it worse”? Where are the spaces for honest, empathetic discussion?It’s not specifically focused on gender, however, I attend a support group for people with adverse childhoods (emotional neglect, trauma, substance addicted parents, etc) and we have mens meetings that have been a great opportunity for me to explore things like my terrible relationship with my mom, my hate of my dad for being a drunk, etc. Adult Children of Alcoholic And Dysfunctional Families Specific to your concern is the “rule against crosstalk”- basically, you get your time to talk about wh… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/05/25 01:05 PM |
| 10 | Why are you opposed to feminism?This is 100% it. There’s the theoretical version where pulling apart all the BS our system puts on men is part of it too, then there’s the “women are always right” version we all actually deal with IRL. It’s a movement that is fine to stereotype me as violent or predatory because women don’t feel safe. Their model says women are entitled to ever more safety and men should take on however much pain and shame it takes. I’m supposed to provide that out of some sense of crushing guilt. Sorry, not in… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 24/05/25 02:41 PM |
| 22 | The mockery of male lonelinessIt’s no different than my mom, she needed to be Queen Victim, so no one else could be suffering. Everyone else’s problems were made up or a sign they weren’t real men. You try to tell them “it’s not as simple as just suddenly making better choices, there’s all this trauma and neglect toward boys behind it” and they just gaslight you. Nope they treated my brother so much better than me, nah that’s all made up, your mom was probably right to treat you like that. Meanwhile when they bitch about the… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/05/25 01:37 PM |
| 2 | Invalidating men’s issues is counterproductive to feminism.Even deeper is that emotional neglect is basically a lack of being parented. That’s thousands of hours of missing guidance and lived experiences. It’s questions like “who am I” and “what do I even want in life.” In my experience, mental health does not want to touch that kind of thing. They want to be mechanics and fix some kind of specific dysfunction. But the issue is that we don’t even have the fucking car. You can’t CBT your way into life having meaning. And there are some therapists that wi… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/05/25 04:49 AM |
| 2 | Invalidating men’s issues is counterproductive to feminism.It’s so funny that the same leftists who can see how poorly the “bootstraps! Make better choices!!! Don’t be bad!!! Try harder!!!” mentality works for all kinds of other issues (crime, poverty, substance abuse) but is often the first and only mentality they apply to men’s suffering. The best you get is a blanket “go to therapy” which is basically just a statement that there’s no social problem, you just have a personal mental failing. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 19/05/25 06:01 PM |
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