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| -1 | Women in their twenties: Would you be okay with a 10-year age gap?Big age gap marriages are much more likely to result in a divorce though Correlation =/= causation Larger age gaps are far more common among those going into second and third marriages. Those with histories of divorce and remarriage are far more likely to divorce again. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/23 06:13 AM |
| 2 | Women in their twenties: Would you be okay with a 10-year age gap?Women in their 30s look great! I'm 24 myself. While I agree that plenty of 30-year-olds look great, the question becomes how much longer they'll stay attractive. A 22-year-old will, on average, be attractive for 10 years more than a 32-year-old, for instance. It makes sense to marry a younger girl, especially if you want kids with her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/23 06:08 AM |
| 1 | What's the appeal of the bad boy?Some of us were raised by broken men so chaos feels most normal and natural. We have an instinct to care-take with them. This is interesting - I've heard this from quite a few women before, and I definitely noticed that it's women who grew up in unstable conditions who are more attracted to the bad boy archetype - they're attracted to what they grew up with. I grew in in the nice church boy environment - church every Sunday, prayer daily, 6 siblings (all who married early) - I am very attracted … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/22 06:03 PM |
| 1 | What's the appeal of the bad boy?He is exciting and fun. It's not about picking genes, it's about how he makes her feel. Making her forget about the genes and the consequences. Sounds like the female equivalent of the bad boy is kind of like a flirty woman who is a tease - she gets close to you and isn't afraid to flaunt her body. You know you shouldn't do it, but the taboo just makes you want it more. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/22 05:55 PM |
| 1 | What's the appeal of the bad boy?following all the rules gets you “game night with the church group”. As someone who grew up in the church, I can definitely see what you mean here. Playing it safe does get boring and repetitive. Low-risk = boring but stable. High-risk = exciting but unstable. Most people, I think, ultimately want something in the middle. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/22 05:49 PM |
| 1 | Promiscuity has little to do with looks in both men and women.If you're guy is very desirable he is more likely to cheat than a guy who is not It comes more so down to values & whether you desire promiscuity to begin with. Low-class men cheat just as much as upper class men. Ultimately, anyone can cheat if they want to. The difference with the attractive guy is that the girl is more likely to be the one getting flirty with you first. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/22 05:52 PM |
| 1 | Promiscuity has little to do with looks in both men and women.that a woman who has casual sex chooses her partners in a different way than men do. Tinder certainly indicates that to be true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/22 05:40 PM |
| 1 | Her education and income matter, and will matter even more in the future.I'm a guy making six figures in his mid-twenties. I think education and income are a plus, but I ultimately prioritize looks. I don't need something I already have. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/22 02:50 PM |
| 1 | The redpill isn't about harming women - it's about saving men from being taken advantage of.Done. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/22 04:35 PM |
| 1 | The redpill isn't about harming women - it's about saving men from being taken advantage of.And why would you even marry someone who is not attracted to you? It's not about her not being attracted to you. It's about the grass is greener on the other side syndrome - her feeling like she could have done better. Even the least attractive women I know who are married always feel like they are a hot commodity and could have done so much better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/22 04:35 PM |
| 1 | The redpill isn't about harming women - it's about saving men from being taken advantage of."if i do everything right, a hot girl needs to be granted to me" It's not necessarily "hot girl" - but if guys do everything right, putting effort into being socially confident, physically fit, and exceling in their careers, you would, at the very least, want a girl you find physically attractive. That's a very low standard for a guy who has his shit together. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/22 04:33 PM |
| 1 | The redpill isn't about harming women - it's about saving men from being taken advantage of.None of that bullshit is required to learn the redflags of a bad partner The problem is that a lot of guys don't necessarily have the options to exclude red flag women - they have to take whatever they can get. Every guy wants a low baggage woman, but those are in very limited supply. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/22 04:30 PM |
| 1 | The redpill isn't about harming women - it's about saving men from being taken advantage of.Can we restore? I wrote this at night before going to bed & wasn't aware I needed to comment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/22 04:24 PM |
| 1 | Sleeping with as many woman as possible is a low-status man's goal.Donald Trump isn't the norm among billionaires - this is why he is so popular with the average man - he does exactly what these men fantasize about. The vast majority of billionaires are married, living monogamous sex lives, and have children. Now, cheating on your spouse 10+ years into a marriage is NOT polygamous - when I say polygamous, I mean guys who sleep with dozens of women a year - that is atypical among highly educated, high income men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/22 12:46 AM |
| 1 | Sleeping with as many woman as possible is a low-status man's goal.Jeff Bezos Bezos isn't promiscuous. This guy entered a long-term relationship with his gf after his divorce -- not plowing through dozens of women. But musicians are in the same category as athletes - many grow up in low-income households, in cultures which pedestalize male promiscuity. Intelligent, educated, high-income men typically aren't promiscuous. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/22 12:36 AM |
| 1 | Only 12% of women are between the ages of 20-24 which means the dream that redpill is selling is bullshitWhy not | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/22 07:16 PM |
| 1 | Only 12% of women are between the ages of 20-24 which means the dream that redpill is selling is bullshitAs per the CDC, 25% of 18-22-year-olds are virgins. If you restrict your search to more conservative circles (i.e., avoiding hookup apps and bars), that figure is undoubtedly higher. It's perfectly realistic for a late twenties to early thirties male to take a virgin girl. https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nhsr/nhsr104.pdf | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/22 05:57 PM |
| 1 | If age gaps are wrong because of a "power imbalance," the same is true for income gaps.You can always find women complaining about age gaps but never about income gaps - income gaps benefit women, while age gaps do not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/22 08:50 PM |
| 1 | Men are not looking for a virgin as some women here claim, but rather they are looking for characteristics we often associate with virginsMen understand that marrying a virgin times are over. Men are usually very realistic. It's very realistic to marry a virgin woman if it's a dealbreaker, especially if you're in a religious community. As per the CDC (linked below), a quarter of 18 - 22 year old females are virgins. Fewer women (and men) are having sex in high school than ever before (also sourced below). Now, if you avoid places like bars and tinder, places known for hookups, the virgin percentage is higher - this is just among t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/22 02:01 AM |
| 1 | It makes sense for purity culture to focus on sexual purity in women over men.So if secular girls approach religious men for sex? Much less likely to happen. And historically, due to men's far higher sex drives, women were the ones who were rightfully seen as the bigger culprit for those who engaged in premarital sex. It's like the relationship between a drug dealer and a drug addict - the addict cannot control himself. You cannot shame a guy out of sex if a girl goes all over you and starts kissing you - it's too late. Men's sex drives are too high to resist if it gets t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/22 08:52 PM |
| 1 | It makes sense for purity culture to focus on sexual purity in women over men.Do you really think promiscuity now is at the same levels as 100 years ago - when purity culture was predominant? Of course shaming works. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/22 08:08 PM |
| 1 | It makes sense for purity culture to focus on sexual purity in women over men.I mean, I thought this sub was already familiar with these arguments, but an average-looking woman can go on tinder, and there will be dozens of guys willing to hookup with her in the same day. It may take weeks for an average-looking guy to get matches leading to sex. It's easier for the girl to lose her virginity, which is why women need to be further shamed to maintain purity culture. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/22 07:54 PM |
| 1 | It makes sense for purity culture to focus on sexual purity in women over men.Again, religions and cultures which practice purity culture are a minority within a broadly secular culture (I'm speaking in the West) - they have no influence over the greater secular culture. A woman is more likely to get enticed by a secular man if she is not heavily shamed for her sexuality. I will say that even in more conservative religious countries (Islamic countries), there is still a considerable sum of people who are not devout - the non-religious men will still be hitting on the reli… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/22 07:38 PM |
| 1 | It makes sense for purity culture to focus on sexual purity in women over men.If men are the ones initiating sex then it makes more sense for the focus to be on them being pure. This is incorrect logic because most of society is not guided by purity culture, meaning secular men will still be approaching religious girls for sex. The religious girls need to be further shamed for their sexuality or else they will eventually succumb to the advances of one of these men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/22 07:29 PM |
| 1 | Why are most divorces initiated by women?they'll usually keep the woman around anyway for the side benefits like child care and domestic labor. Why isn't the same effect observed in non-marital unions? Men and women dissolve non-marital unions at the same rate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/22 01:15 PM |
| 1 | Do you view sex as an equal exchange between the man and woman?For bars and and apps, of course, but when it comes to hooking up with coworkers, the guy from your college class, or just a friend of friend, I don't see why that matters for simply engaging in casual sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/22 02:34 AM |
| 1 | Do you view sex as an equal exchange between the man and woman?That’s getting to know each other Why does getting to know the other person matter for casual sex? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/22 02:28 AM |
| 1 | Why are most divorces initiated by women?What are your thoughts on a prenup - can this counter the effect of the financial incentive for women to divorce? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/22 01:02 AM |
| 1 | Why are most divorces initiated by women?I would imagine that college-educated woman have incomes on par to their husbands - why do you think 90% of them initiate the divorce if there is little financial incentive for them to do so? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/22 12:53 AM |
| 1 | What's the male equivalent of a promiscuous woman?Most men want a woman who has some experience and talent Nah, at the very best, they are indifferent, but I've never met a man who prefers his wife to have been banged by other dudes - sounds like a cuckold fetish. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/22 05:03 PM |
| 1 | Political polarization is a big factor in women and men being less compatible these daysMy church is part of a large association of churches which organize coordinated youth events which are, more or less, intended for dating. That's how most of us meet our future spouses. I'm not a fan of dating in your home church unless you are certain she likes you and would say yes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/22 12:44 AM |
| 1 | Both men and women care about the future when they are looking for a long term partner...Not quite. Promiscuity is associated with positive attributes in men - confidence, high-income, good looks, etc. There are few, if any, positive attributes associated with female promiscuity. So a promiscuous man is unlikely to ever struggle to find a marital partner. Its correlation with negative future behavior (cheating & divorce) is also far lower in men than it is for women. Indeed, promiscuity among females accounted for almost twice as much variance in infidelity (r 2 = .45) as it did for… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/22 12:17 AM |
| 1 | Both men and women care about the future when they are looking for a long term partner...The fact that men look at the past to assess women is why there is a cultural push to abolish the past as a metric to predict future behavior. "The Past is the past," - you've probably heard this said numerous times. Society is geared towards maximizing benefits for women by encouraging self-sacrifice behavior in men. That is, men who willingly go against their own self-interest to benefit women. Examples include: Men who marry promiscuous women. Men who marry single moms. Men who marry ugly wom… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/22 11:46 PM |
| 1 | Political polarization is a big factor in women and men being less compatible these daysYour intersectional analysis is wrong. Upper middle class white people vote conservative more often than low-income white people. You are conflating income with college education. Had you said high school-educated white people are more conservative than college-educated white people, that would have been correct. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/22 10:37 PM |
| 1 | Political polarization is a big factor in women and men being less compatible these daysI don't bother dating outside my conservative church (which has more young females than young males), so there is never really an issue with value misalignment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/22 10:31 PM |
| 1 | There's nothing wrong with valuing something in a partner that you do not possess.I attend church weekly, but in the church, I go on my phone, I open my eyes during prayer to look around, and you will never see me singing - but I'm attracted to the opposite of that - the most pious girls, those who are clearly really into it. The pastor's daughter (who is attractive but unfortunately too young for me) really liked me despite knowing this. I don't think it's necessarily the most pious girls wanting the most pious guys. The women typically want a little bit of a rebel, while gu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/22 09:45 PM |
| 1 | There's nothing wrong with valuing something in a partner that you do not possess.I'm very active in my church. The men, unless they're very desperate, place high emphasis on female virginity - it's usually a dealbreaker. It is a matter of non-virgin girls being perceived as dirty, used up, etc. For the women, it's more of a preference that he hasn't slept around, not usually a dealbreaker. "How can our relationship be special if he's had these experiences with other girls? What if I'm not pretty enough for him?" I think that's the key difference - it's a turnoff for a lot of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/22 09:35 PM |
| 1 | There's nothing wrong with valuing something in a partner that you do not possess.promiscuity criteria is that it smacks of hypocrisy The difference is that men value chaste women far more than vice versa. That's where the "hypocrisy" emerges from. If women placed as much emphasis on chaste men as men do onto women, the hypocrisy gap would close, but there is no biological incentive for women to do so. "Men look at her past. Women look at his future." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/22 09:00 PM |
| 1 | There's nothing wrong with valuing something in a partner that you do not possess.non virgin men expecting virginal women is some sexist shit Is it sexist the other way around - a virgin woman valuing an experienced man? Or what about a non-virgin women valuing a virgin guy? You rarely hear about the latter, indicating that men and women simply value different things in a partner, in which case you are the sexist one for deeming female preferences acceptable while dismissing male preferences as sexist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/22 08:48 PM |
| 1 | "Women like assholes" is a projection. Men are the ones deliberately putting up with "asshole women".After browsing this subreddit for some time and seeing all the generalizations people make about both genders, I realized these CMV posts are mostly a false dichotomy. To address your CMV, there are guys who genuinely value the good girls (I exclusively date within my church and am only attracted to religious girls for relationships), while there are other guys who want something in the middle, and then there are the guys who value the "bad" slutty girl who swears and does cocaine. Generally, I … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/22 08:37 PM |
| 1 | PPD has become the gender wars arena, especially when it comes to the sexual history of women.Where the debate is, is how many men actually believe this way. Men here think that it's a lot of men. Women here think that it's not so many men and that most of those men are probably not that attractive, anyway. I come from a pretty devout religious community, and the expectation is that the girl will be a virgin (and the guy too, but for the men, it's more of a dealbreaker, while for the woman, it's a preference), but I realize this doesn't apply to the general public. Typically, there is mo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/22 05:44 PM |
| 1 | Unlimited sex partners prior to marriageThis is incel-tier thought. No one is okay with unlimited sexual partners prior to marriage. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/22 03:05 PM |
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