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With 10% of cis het men, 100% of gay and trans men, and 100% of nonbinary ppl, we would still have plenty of tube steak to ride and dudes to procreate with.
/r/MensRights03/01/24 07:22 PM
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No, literally, you are not smart enough to understand that when women say this we are either (a) referring to men exactly like those on this thread 100% of you AND ALSO (b) being hyperbolic about the rest of men who are borderline idiots. That leaves about 10% of men we are absolutely fine with keeping alive.
/r/MensRights03/01/24 07:21 PM
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You all are so obtuse. People don’t mean this literally, they mean it like “society doesn’t need like you men, specifically, in this specific subreddit.”
/r/MensRights02/01/24 12:18 AM
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Dudes, woman here! I largely agree with this argument. But imagine (and most people don’t) what we may be missing. Like, “what happens right below the line of excellence” in the bell curve? Look at the line in athletics where the best women start to knock off the second tier men. That’s all well and good, but what about in every area of society? I personally know two CrossFit champion women who are stronger than 98% of the men I know. I know an NCAA pole vault woman who took a man’s spot in high…
/r/MensRights14/12/22 11:06 PM
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Younger Dude, woman here: This is sexual harassment. Period. Use your phone and blow these bitches up. You AND this poor kid do not deserve to be humiliated. Period. No one does. I had to take on all the mean girls in high school over an EMO trench coat dude in my school and they wouldn’t stop. When they found his “kill list” in his locker and searched his house, guess whose name wasn’t on it. Mine. Dude still was expelled for making the kill list in the time of Columbine, but stand up for him a…
/r/MensRights14/12/22 03:43 PM
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My disabled man friends with wives and kids would spit on you.
/r/MensRights12/12/22 04:42 PM
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And she fucking tried everything to her dying day. Everything. She died a fucking hero of survival, making it this far after being abandoned by her fuck head mom and abused by her sick ass uncle. What’s your excuse? A few extra lbs and some male pattern baldness? Or the ED?
/r/MensRights12/12/22 04:41 PM
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I don’t like systemic bullshit when it gets down to the nitty gritty. You can do 100 FREE things today to make your life happier, and instead you’re scrolling this thread wallowing in your tiny violin, demonizing “all women” when one who was abused and traumatized as much as you finally ended it and left an 11-year old kid behind.
/r/MensRights12/12/22 04:40 PM
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And I never said you could fix systemic issues. You can’t even seem to be tough enough to get off your ass and try to be a better version of your own damn self for benefit if YOUR OWN LIFE and happiness. No one is putting you in charge of fixing systemic fuck all any time soon. I doubt you have enough maturity to fix a tire, much less support a life partner through GRIEF AND TRAUMA.
/r/MensRights12/12/22 04:39 PM
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I have said it to many women. It’s my JOB to train white women to be less toxic. I am literally a conflict/resolution specialist dealing with man babies and woman babies chalked full of entitlement leaking from the massive chips on y’all’s shoulders.
/r/MensRights12/12/22 04:37 PM
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My friend just died of suicide last night. She was a 53 year old woman, victim of sexual assault, a high ranking career, a husband, a daughter. And she had been open about her pain, struggles, a champion of suicide prevention. She was OPEN about it, and the disease still won. So, you could keep sitting on Reddit whining, eventually going the route of hopelessness like my friend, or you could do everyone a fucking favor and stop whining, delete Reddit and join a gym, read a book, do a media detox…
/r/MensRights12/12/22 04:28 PM
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What makes you unattractive? Are you obese? A burn victim? Lazy? Cruel? Have Ted Cruz specific malady? Have a micro penis? You aren’t specific enough to make a clear statistical model of why you are repulsive.
/r/MensRights12/12/22 02:15 AM
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Ahhhh. You seek to have something you can’t have. That’s called “oppression”. And also “life.” I can’t have babies. I can’t get a corporate job because I was a housewife and freelancer for 15 years. I can’t leave my zip code because of my legal custody arrangement. I seek and can’t have many things, too. Maybe change what you seek. I have had to.
/r/MensRights11/12/22 07:39 PM
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Or are you trying to say that you are a Black obese trans teen? Then, yes, most cis het able bodied white women with a normal BMI will not find you attractive. That’s nature.
/r/MensRights11/12/22 07:19 PM
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Who cares how women see you? That’s your choice to give a fuck. Women don’t matter. Men don’t matter. You clearly see yourself as a person who cannot exists without opposition, without being at a disadvantage, without being a victim. We are all victims of something in society. You, having never been in the body of an obese teenager or a Black trans woman or a burn victim or a quadriplegic, can’t say much about your rejection except you haven’t met enough women.
/r/MensRights11/12/22 07:18 PM
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It’s because you’re whining. Unless you’re disabled, have substance use disorder, mentally ill, or are being actively abused or incarcerated, then you are sitting around telling me all the things that “won’t work because you tried before.” I say, “that’s old evidence and now you sound whiny and hopeless.” Quit. Try something. And if you do and come back and prove me wrong, I’ll be empathetic again. But now I’m frustrated with the whiny baby attitude.
/r/MensRights11/12/22 06:25 PM
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The worlds smallest violin, it really needs an audience! 😂
/r/MensRights11/12/22 06:19 PM
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I don’t live in “what if” land. I live in reality. And as I mentioned, I know and honor my privilege and power and use it for good. You can’t get laid because your body isn’t perfect? Sad. Go walk around a wal-mart and see all of the bodies in all of the shapes and sizes in couples and I bet a lot of the men and women are affectionate and getting laid. You also can’t get laid if you aren’t AT the gym looking for other humans to work out with. Join a group fitness class and see how many nice, out…
/r/MensRights11/12/22 05:51 PM
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Ummmm. What makes you think that if you have a partner now you would be able to get a “better” one? You sound like you’re already cheating/shopping. It’s fairly easy to find a mistress/lover who can give you all the positives and none of the drama and make you believe that the grass is greener. It’s VERY difficult to find another good human being - flaws and all - to share your life with. If you don’t want to be with your current partner, leave them. Be alone. But don’t use your relationship as …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 05:07 PM
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Yep. I’m not refuting that. You’re in a group who believes your value is somehow tied to being “given it” or validated by others. I don’t tie my own value to anything other than my performance against my own personal moral compass and my personal, financial, sexual, fitness, health, and learning goals. So, I’m quite a 🦄 who is priceless. And with that attitude, I get a lot of amazing people who want to play and talk and learn with me. So, perk up, buttercup. You have to be proud of yourself, you…
/r/MensRights11/12/22 05:02 PM
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She’s seeking a knight in shining armor to pursue her, so she’s not seeking an equal partner. She’s ISO a “simp” or a sugar daddy. Tell her to grow up, take care of her own shit, and then an equal partner will appear in her life. Otherwise she’s just repeating the cycle of selling herself on the “romantic marriage” inequality market.
/r/MensRights11/12/22 04:26 PM
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People who want relationships and monogamy should be intentionally trying out playing the field and ENM and alone time and being in therapy for a year, and then try out platonic friendships for six months. People who want a harem of men and women to fuck should try it for a year and then only seek out platonic friendships for six months. After that 18 months, you’ll know what you want, need, and offer yourself AND potential partners. You’ll have a full life with lots of friendships.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 04:19 PM
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I believe you are in the “tiny group” of people who are limiting yourself by saying “no one cares.” You are the minority, and you don’t see it. So you’ll remain in isolation - with the hyper feminists at the opposite end of the spectrum. While the rest of us muddle along understanding that “most women” were raised with toxic misandry and “most men” were raised with toxic misogyny - but those same “most people” are just trying to find love and connection in a society that is designed for controve…
/r/MensRights11/12/22 04:08 PM
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I don’t believe in “no one” “all” “everyone” “always” or “never.” So I guess we disagree.
/r/MensRights10/12/22 07:33 PM
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No. They scream and yell and throw your ass out in a hot second. If they even let you move in with them.
/r/MensRights10/12/22 06:11 PM
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So? At least Black and brown women are bestselling authors and getting the word out about this topic in general. Especially since white women are the ones who benefit most. Men’s Rights can’t get on a bestseller list outside of an echo chamber. They’re making headway, and I don’t see the same kind of acceptance. The question is how to change people. And this coalitions tactics aren’t really effective.
/r/MensRights10/12/22 06:05 PM
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Adderall has been recommended! I’ll ask my person about that, too. It’s hard to know if anxiety or ADHD cause the symptoms. But the symptoms are wicked so anything that helps is welcome.
/r/MensRights09/12/22 08:36 PM
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I’m trying them (again) next weekend. The first time my SSRI blocked them. I’ve halved the dose and am going to see if it works. If not I’ll do a full taper and try again in Feb. problem is my anxiety does start peaking when I go off the SSRI.
/r/MensRights09/12/22 08:29 PM
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I just joined a gym recently and meet with the trainer next week for a HIIT/boxing combo intro session!!!!
/r/MensRights09/12/22 08:26 PM
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Lol
/r/MensRights09/12/22 04:55 PM
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Read this book and every time the author says “racist” just add “and sexist” and you’ll see that YOU ARE RIGHT: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/669854/white-women-by-regina-jackson-and-saira-rao/ Black and brown women are building an army to take down Karen and her bullshit white lady entitlement and sweetness. Join in.
/r/MensRights09/12/22 04:39 PM
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Tell me more. I don’t see it as gendered advice at all. I see it as useful to any human - and I preach it to men who treat me like a queen and women who worship me like a sister goddess. So I’m not sure why I would, with so much overwhelming evidence that it works in practice, agree with you. Tell me more.
/r/MensRights09/12/22 02:35 PM
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Dudes, woman here! This thread is full of gems. But the people who nailed it from the woman’s perspective offered the best advice: AVOID MARRIAGE BUILD A LIFE FULL OF PLATONIC FRIENDS OF ALL GENDERS I absolutely cannot stress how much I miss having a big group of male platonic friends. In high school, we were all on the track team and everyone was mostly friends (with some hookups and breakups), when I was in college my boyfriend’s frat house admitted me as a “house brat” so I could sleep over m…
/r/MensRights09/12/22 02:31 PM
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Lol. Yes. I’ve been needing to chill since birth. THC has saved me from spontaneous combustion and literally clawing out peoples eyes.
/r/MensRights09/12/22 02:20 PM
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Agreed. All of that isn’t moral, it’s sexist, controlling, and a way to pedestal women. Either we want equality or we want a sexist society and have to accept the consequences. We don’t get both because if we take take take, that means others are getting shit on.
/r/MensRights09/12/22 02:17 PM
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Also, I love that movie.
/r/MensRights09/12/22 02:16 PM
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Lol. And this is why I got gloriously fucked in the ass hard this morning with at least three mind blowing orgasms - after having a beautiful dinner with two incredible, successful platonic men acquaintances who bought me dinner - and then coming home to my faithful, masculine, and absolutely hot lover, giving him a blow job, drinking $100 bottle of wine, and now basking in the glory of my good advice. The men I help treat me like a queen. So, my advice is working for them. Sorry you don’t find …
/r/MensRights09/12/22 02:14 PM
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Yep. It’s called “lack of accountability structure.” There are easy ways to nail people to the cross when they do this, but for some reason the victims of betrayal AND the perpetrators prefer to keep the humiliation private. Cockroaches hide in the dark. Abusers hide in the dark. Cheaters hide in the dark. I like to being my favorite toys to play. Magnifying glass. And the sun. 😈
/r/MensRights09/12/22 02:10 PM
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Here is where we differ: I believe that drowning people in honey is more effective than combat. I’ve been able to break a number of white men and women of their biases and toxic attitudes. But it takes constant training. Most people don’t want to push themselves that hard. It’s easier when we are challenged and our feelings are hurt by guilt or shame to shoot the messenger and hide in a community echo chamber.
/r/MensRights09/12/22 02:08 PM
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I have a few friends from India and one from Pakistan who also have a tilted attraction to white women. They are certain it’s because of centuries of brainwashing to believe that white women and white men (the royals) were to be idolized. You’ve been trained by movies, magazines, porn, pop culture, and the Queen herself to worship us. It’s not too late to rewire your brain, but the sad part is that Asian and Indian women act a lot like who’re women now anyway, so why?
/r/MensRights09/12/22 02:06 PM
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Dialogue. Sticking it out when you disagree and talking about shared understanding to find where exactly you diverge in agreement. Isolation is a major cultural problem. Womanism is from Black culture. As a white woman, I am not a “womanist.” It basically formed as a way to point out that feminism is toxic, racist, sexist, elitist, and a distraction where white women got more toys from all the society - taking things from white men and Black women - and acted like we were doing it for “all woman…
/r/MensRights09/12/22 02:02 PM
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100% accurate. And I teach people about metabias. Metabias is the human’s bias about their own biases. In order to become overall less biased, you need a neutral third party challenging your biases. I do conflict resolution work a lot in corporate settings. People usually get into oppositional conversation where both people want to be “right” and “win.” I approach dialogue like, “wait, where do we share understanding and where do we start to diverge in our own opinions?” And at that divergence w…
/r/MensRights09/12/22 01:55 PM
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No one is held morally accountable, and when you can, all people loathe it. Men are held to public shaming forms of accountability. Women largely are not because women cry (fawn) and trigger a cultural protective response of the helpless princess. This evasion of accountability, hiding behind white men and throwing them under the bus, is how I define “mainstream white cis female culture,” with the caveat that it applies accurately only to white women, but doesn’t apply as seamlessly/overlapping …
/r/MensRights09/12/22 12:13 AM
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There you go! I had the statistic wrong! As a woman, walking around thinking that I’m seven times more likely to be murdered by a man who I am intimate with is freaky. Also, I know it didn’t used to be that way! I study history and sociology! Why do you think I am so alarmed! My question is how to fix it. And the ways many of you communicate are hard to separate the resentment/axe-to-grind energy from the knowledge. The tension is palpable. Your pain is palpable. But this idea of isolate, circle…
/r/MensRights09/12/22 12:05 AM
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I hate entitlement. Hate it.
/r/MensRights08/12/22 10:23 PM
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But the reality we are facing with regard to communication is this: men are at a disadvantage now because everything is weighted toward the written or verbal. We have banned physical communication from playgrounds to marital beds. We are a society of the touch deprived. Compounding that is women are scared of men because we know that women are killed by men at much higher rates than the reverse. The perception of violence spilling into our brains is poisoning us against one another.
/r/MensRights08/12/22 10:20 PM
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Fight Club is one of my favorite movies for this reason. My dad even made me go shoot things when I got too stressed out and bullied by the mean girls. Women need to build our physical communication skills, too. We got the hugs and touches and cuddles down, but we need to bring the angry orgasms, punching bags, and mama bear energy too. Which is why I hope BDSM play becomes more mainstream. You can communicate so intimately cross-gender when you agree to subvert the “norms” but agree to also pla…
/r/MensRights08/12/22 10:13 PM
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Ah!! We define it differently, yes. I believe the word I use for what you are speaking of is a type of “physical communication” that largely shows up in people with XY chromosomes. Yes. That I don’t define as violence at all. That’s just communication that many XX people don’t relate to or understand, so we try to control.
/r/MensRights08/12/22 10:11 PM
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The witness stand is a powerful place. If you can figure out how to get you, two colleagues who would go to bat for you, and HR in the room with her and say, “This is what I understand happened, can you tell me your side?” She won’t do it. But if you can trick her into that setting, she likely will trip up. Ask for very specific details, like who was she speaking with at the time, did she hear your apology. People hide behind HR, but cockroaches hide in the dark. Get her on a witness stand, do n…
/r/MensRights08/12/22 10:08 PM
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Hmmm. I can’t justify an act of violence except as defense from a crime. So it’s hard to think of one. I suppose I would joke about Dextering someone - we all do that - in a private space. A good rant is great for the soul. It’s why I love stand up comedy. I think the act of violence I committed most in the past was “outing” people for being liars and cheaters. It was so cruel to them and their partners, and I regret doing it. I also was the other woman about a million times as a mistress, so th…
/r/MensRights08/12/22 09:53 PM
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Being raised in male spaces almost exclusively as a girl, men rarely called one another out for their moral transgressions. They didn’t want to disrupt solidarity, even if the offender was being racist, boorish, sexist, or an outright piece of shit. (Note: this was in the 80s and 90s, and so much has changed, so I honestly don’t know what is going on now!). So I’m not policing, but wondering if you and OP have a set of values you follow to be accountable to our higher moral calling.
/r/MensRights08/12/22 09:45 PM
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Let me reframe, do you plan to attend and be in spaces where violence’s is condoned or would you speak up and be a person who condemns violence in any space?
/r/MensRights08/12/22 09:44 PM
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Then maybe we should abolish marriage entirely? It allows extreme entitlement when one person decides to take advantage of that blank check. I’ve seen it happen to both parties - less in recent years - but we need some rules for being accountable. Marriage doesn’t offer them. Religion seems dead in our society. We still have laws, so thats where my mind goes.
/r/MensRights08/12/22 09:42 PM
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This is how we feel when men say “I was just joking.” Equally infuriating.
/r/MensRights08/12/22 09:40 PM
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This is how we feel when men say “I was just joking.” Equally infuriating.
/r/MensRights08/12/22 09:40 PM
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I love this so hard!!!!!!!!!! Yay for you! We all need platonic mixed gender friend groups!!!! Most women have them, men? Do you?
/r/MensRights08/12/22 09:39 PM
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It’s a sign that your brand, like Elon’s Twitter, is losing social brand equity. You’ve turned off too many people to recover. It’s time to rethink strategy. Since when did we forget that “divide and conquer” is how the powerful remain in power?
/r/MensRights08/12/22 09:37 PM
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Male empowerment is a funny term. Lol. Like “sky clouds.”
/r/MensRights08/12/22 09:35 PM
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As long as those spaces are not discussion violence against others to “recapture” some archaic sense of “true manhood” and restrictive gender roles from the dark ages, the BEST EVER THING you can do is fill your life with platonic male and female friendships.
/r/MensRights08/12/22 09:35 PM
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Dudes, woman here! My professional job is holding wealthy business executives accountable, and I can statistically say that NO ONE is good at being held accountable. Women cry, name call, act like princesses, white lady tears, walk out of meetings, gossip, manipulate, lie, and weasel. White women hate being called Karen’s because WE ARE. Men threaten, name call, act like they KNOW everything because they took one class in college 30 years ago about it, do so much cherry picking of outlier statis…
/r/MensRights08/12/22 09:33 PM
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This is what Black boys and men have been saying for years as you cross the street to avoid them, don’t pick them up in your taxi, call the cops when they’re checking into their AirBNB. They were the first super predators, and white and brown men are next. What are you going to do about it but complain? The reason this continues is simple: WOMEN ARE SEVEN TIMES as likely to be MURDERED BY A ROMANTIC PARTNER OR MALE FRIEND than men. 45% of all homicides of women are at the hands of abusive father…
/r/MensRights08/12/22 09:27 PM
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But that took 40 years of being alive and divorced and cheated on and dating 100 different men in six years to figure out. Lol
/r/MensRights08/12/22 09:18 PM
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Yep. Full transparency doesn’t mean the details. It also means being transparent that you need privacy. The problem is when the blurred line of “lying by omission” comes in with betrayal and infidelity. I always respect privacy as long as my partners commit to not betraying my trust. And I am very clear on what that is: humiliating me by dating or fucking someone and telling others you’re cheating before telling your therapist and me. Easy. You get to fuck someone one time. I get to know first o…
/r/MensRights08/12/22 09:18 PM
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Feminism is dying. It’s racist. Start looking at Black women leading womanism. You’ll see they are on the right track - embracing joy, sisterhood, the men in their lives with all the problems and pains but doubling down on it anyway, body positivity, sexual liberation, relationship anarchy. We’ve known for a long time that feminism is just white women’s way of consolidating power for themselves and our children using white male “privilege” to do it. We work you so you protect us. Duh.
/r/MensRights08/12/22 09:14 PM
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This is accurate. As a woman who is a former feminist and a now follower of womanism and believer in humanism, mixing the groups isn’t good. Too many people on both sides quickly get triggered, defensive, name-call, straw man, ad hominem, etc. Add to the problem that we tend to consume only media and news that reaffirms our held beliefs, and it’s hard to nudge hearts or minds. The best way is to commit to a shared dialogues with someone different like Plato’s Universitas. When two - or a few - e…
/r/MensRights08/12/22 09:11 PM
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Question 1: When the use of legacy gendered terms has better vocabulary, maybe the semantics and etymology won’t be so triggering. Instead of wondering when THEY might stop using it as a pejorative, figure out what word your movement would like to use that women can also identify with. I use “unconditional love, generosity, empathy, and grace” to describe a society that is what I aspire to. Both patriarchy and matriarchy can have those, too. But often patriarchy and matriarchy are both expressed…
/r/MensRights08/12/22 09:07 PM
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How many of you have been falsely accused?
/r/MensRights08/12/22 08:59 PM
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It’s a cycle. We see it as a macro or micro, but it’s all the same cycle where we are lonely and afraid. We seek companionship and protection. And in the modern context with secularism, lack of local social “third places,” lack of engagement with local governments and neighborhoods, less bumping elbows on commutes or in the office, less time together to build empathy - and less reason since everyone prefers yelling and being right and defending - means we are largely alone. I ask my clients, asi…
/r/MensRights08/12/22 08:51 PM
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Get a vasectomy. They’re reversible. I cannot wait for the male pill. Someone please.
/r/MensRights08/12/22 08:13 PM
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Omg! Hilarious. I know one of these who is legitimately a multimillionaire and is a total simp. She gets whatever she wants (second wife) even a new designer baby, and never touches him, doesn’t work on anything except spending their money, and even gave him the silent treatment for two weeks because she had a yeast infection she was accusing him of being an STI. When the test result came back negative, she didn’t even apologize. And he knows. He just “likes being married” and doesn’t want to di…
/r/MensRights08/12/22 08:07 PM
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Ask, I agree with the “in love” bullshit. I feel like so much of our society is stunted by the puritanical views on sex. We are so massively depressed that we explode after a time. Or shut down and become hardened and dead inside. E’rebody needs to go masturbate and chill, bask in the glow of those endorphins and praise God that we are living in this miracle where we can find such powerful pleasure, peace, and safety.
/r/MensRights08/12/22 02:09 PM
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Perception is what I’m talking about. How our laws and norms are shaped. I’m not talking about how they should be. The OP asked why men move out and it’s because: women have been financially marginalized through to the modern era, with tides shifting in the last 50 years (https://www.nerdwallet.com/article/credit-cards/women-credit-decades-70s) men kill women partners/spouses at SEVEN time the rate that women kill men partners/spouses (https://bjs.ojp.gov/content/pub/pdf/fvv.pdf) so the laws are…
/r/MensRights08/12/22 02:03 PM
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https://www.nerdwallet.com/article/credit-cards/women-credit-decades-70s
/r/MensRights08/12/22 01:58 PM
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What is a simp? Also, on a different thread someone is being “not all men” and on another thread a man said, “all you people want is to sit home and get paid to raise kids.” I think I’ll ignore both. It’s too hard to have conversations with people who aren’t curious about the solutions and only want to argue about the present or past. At any rate, I so appreciate the dialogue. I will be following your comments.
/r/MensRights08/12/22 12:47 PM
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You can always assume that the group of “play the game” is probably between 60-80% of all until proven otherwise. And I would say that that group also includes the people who never even stop for a second and think, “Maybe life and relationships could be different.” They’re still trying to do the picket fence thing without knowing they’re walking into a living hell.
/r/MensRights07/12/22 09:41 PM
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This is all still true. Women are miserable, too. My book on the topic is depressing. I find it so wild that the person we are supposed to live our lives with in full transparent love are the ones we can’t say, “Yo! I want to be fucked in the ass and I need you to deal with your mommy issues.” We just do passive aggressive bullshit until that grinding halt period. I stayed in my marriage for purely economic reasons because I was taught to marry for purely economic reasons - like a pre-romantic-e…
/r/MensRights07/12/22 09:39 PM
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Nothing is “wrong” with it, but like Valentine’s Day, it’s doing nothing but hardening divides and reinforcing stereotypes. Seems like a waste of time. And for man-loving women (or human-loving people), I hate to see our most precious gifts wasted. I agree everyone wants and needs validation. It wasn’t an insult, but an affirmative statement. So, we agree there. I’m wondering FROM WHOM, if not women? Other men? More men? Policymakers? Lawmakers? Pop culture? That’s my legitimate question. I am n…
/r/MensRights07/12/22 07:52 PM
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So my comments are about what men are defending (I.e. you may have already tried 100 things that didn’t work and you’re pissed that you’re trying so fucking hard), and what are women defending (same problem! So fucking tired). But as a sociologist, everyone is trying the same tired old 20 ideas, 5 different ways and ending up in the same cycle.
/r/MensRights07/12/22 07:39 PM
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And that is where I study: everyone wants more love and sex and connection, not less, so why are feminists attacking men and burning bras and Shit and why are men opting out? Well, they can’t take it anymore so they go negative. I’m trying to work on research and experiments where we tip people toward the positive. Women toward wanting to fuck as much as men do, men toward wanting to be safe emotionally and physically as much as women do. It’s hard! We are all so traumatized.
/r/MensRights07/12/22 07:36 PM
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So the issue is that the majority of women are found in your bullet points and they are dating a majority of men who are still playing the game. So, the question is how do we get the majority of women to change and the majority of men to change - both in ways that foster more communication, sex, and true familial love?
/r/MensRights07/12/22 07:34 PM
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So my questions to you are “where are most men” in your groups listed above. In my data, most men are in the “playing the game” category. In any of those three subcategories.
/r/MensRights07/12/22 07:32 PM
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Omg! This is great. Let me think on it but the first three bullet points are CLASSIC toxic feminism (mostly led by white women. Not sure if people of color are getting this as bad, but I study the majority, so YES! Agree.). The second set of bullets are what sociologist call outliers. They’re the ones who go viral, so until the dataset becomes valid by numbers (%of people that would shift the bell curve to an average), then we can’t actually focus on them. They’re off the curve, so putting atten…
/r/MensRights07/12/22 07:31 PM
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Also We need BOTH more men talking about their feelings AND more people cutting men slack (including other men, btw. We don’t call you pussies, your buddies do.). We can walk and chew gum at the same time. Or maybe you would prefer to be limited to one approach to heal a major societal problem?
/r/MensRights07/12/22 02:52 PM
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I’ve hosted orgies and put wild crazy feminists in the same room as trump voting white Gen Xers and they all fucked happily because they trusted that I chose good humans after a lot of conversation so I could get past all the labels and connect people in fun and pleasure. So I know from study, profession, and experience that you’re doing yourself no favors by being on the men’s rights thread. You are in the echo chamber. By being here, you automatically give women a reason to call you out as pat…
/r/MensRights07/12/22 02:50 PM
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Yes, in a general sociological construct. But in your own lives? Is this true about the women you know and love? Or have you unilaterally judged all women like feminists have judged all men and prefer to suppose and generalize instead of go outside and collect your own data from real life women? I’ve done it the latter way, and it’s why I love men and women so much. The statistics and laws and culture norms are only used to control us. The feminists and men’s rights “groups” are designed to keep…
/r/MensRights07/12/22 02:48 PM
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Dudes, woman here! This is normal today because when divorce was first exploding on to the scene in the 1970s, women still were housewives. They didn’t have jobs, income, couldn’t get a lease, couldn’t get a credit card. They were also home with the kids all day, so she would have to move her and the kids because the dad was working. Fast forward to current era, and it is statistically shown that the majority of married women still do more than 60 percent of the house work, family management, ap…
/r/MensRights07/12/22 02:40 PM
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Dudes, woman here! This is normal today because when divorce was first exploding on to the scene in the 1970s, women still were housewives. They didn’t have jobs, income, couldn’t get a lease, couldn’t get a credit card. They were also home with the kids all day, so she would have to move her and the kids because the dad was working. Fast forward to current era, and it is statistically shown that the majority of married women still do more than 60 percent of the house work, family management, ap…
/r/MensRights07/12/22 02:40 PM
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So, this statement is what a women would cry cry cry “Not All Men” about. Do you understand why a woman would say that in response to your comment? I’m not saying it, but when I showed it to three classic Karen feminists they started howling in laughter and chanting “uh, huh, right not me, not all men.” If you want me to explain why women would respond this way, I can. It cuts to the core of my advice. Let me know.
/r/MensRights07/12/22 02:30 PM
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Not empathy, perspective. To understand and fight back, you have to know how the other side thinks intimately. That means trying to seek empathy from the women you trust, and seeking information from those you don’t in the way of observation and careful dialogue. How do you think women have all of this control? We’ve been watching, studying, manipulating, tweaking, and slowly changing society since the romantic era. You’re being too self-absorbed and missing the big picture - yes, all of this wh…
/r/MensRights07/12/22 02:27 PM
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Dudes, woman here. If you take gender out of the equation and accept that anyone can be a rapist or abuser, then understand that more women are murdered at the hands of men, then you see how the Justice system was built. The police in their entirety were formed to protect men’s property and women’s bodies (as we didn’t have property back then, we were property). So, the system has not caught up in the protection of men’s bodies from violent women. That is going to take a lot of social and legal …
/r/MensRights07/12/22 01:55 PM
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Dudes, woman here. The double standard is reinforced when you ask Reddit and not (a) your sisters, mothers, aunties, and cousins who are women (b) you’re best woman friend (c) your wife (d) a qualified coach, psychologist, therapist, or LCSW. You have an echo chamber over here. Be vulnerable and ask the women who love you unconditionally - your moms, your sisters - we want you to be cared for and healed. And the society and the pressure you feel - that’s not coming from just women. That’s coming…
/r/MensRights07/12/22 01:21 PM
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Dudes, woman here. The answer is so simple it is staring you in your sexy faces. get off Reddit go to your paid off houses and your gyms with your hot bods read a bestseller or watch an Oscar winning film or learn painting or take a cooking class (ie become interesting) re-enter the world as an interesting, well rounded person who isn’t only interested in their bodies, their money, their sex frequency, and current events/sports. You are being used for a meal because you’re showing up juicy and t…
/r/MensRights07/12/22 12:51 PM
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Dudes, woman here. The discussion about “men’s rights” and counter protests is confusing. I’m a man-loving, woman. Totally love you people, like, so much. But I am very confused about this group and thread. What is your goal, in terms of culture, policy change, law change? What are the specific objectives of this. I don’t understand. Are there universal experiences in your lives that make it so you’re banding together under a banner of Men’s Rights? As an observation around changing hearts and m…
/r/MensRights07/12/22 12:45 PM
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