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grow up and date somebody else. enjoy the single life for a while. it's great.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/23 06:20 PM
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and they stay together even if it is clear feelings will not come back and they are both sad. You're making a ton of assumptions that are pretty far from the truth. When long term relationships start going sour it's not like everything becomes salt of the earth over night. Usually you have fleeting beautiful moments that remind you why you fell in love in the first place, and it confuses you. Most of the time people waver back and fourth over months. Marriages are rarely so cleanly cut. More-ove…
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/23 05:57 PM
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yes I was friends with them while they were married and while I was married.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/23 07:45 PM
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You're wrong. This is what depression looks like. what your saying is not how it really is. I am friends with several married men.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/23 06:15 PM
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damn buddy you should see a therapist because that is one very negative world view. you know people exist outside of your current circle that value completely different things than what you've seen right??
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/23 05:23 PM
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obviously you need professional help... All i can offer is some kind words. Bad times are temporary and they won't last forever. You're in a bad time now and If you survive you will be glad you did NOT kill yourself now. suicide is never the answer. Take baby steps to improve your problems.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/23 08:14 PM
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divorce her. she's fucking crazy.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 06:37 PM
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50 phone calls in 20 minutes!
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/23 06:49 PM
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Listen here bub. If you're already in divorce proceedings and you're having disagreements about such clear and cut things then you can kiss your opportunity for an uncontested divorce goodbye. If it hasn't come already it's probably not going to come now. If you don't hire an attorney at all then the process will move slowly and be miserable and stressful. If you hire an attorney now and claim it's uncontested the attorney is going to gladly take your ~1000$ and laugh all the way to the bank whi…
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/23 01:03 AM
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what was the most upsetting for me was not the sex but rather the good moments we used to have. there was a time when my ex wife would run me a warm bath and rub my shoulders when I got sick. We used to go on dates. she looked so nice, and we could be goofy with each other.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/23 07:23 AM
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yea thats my one major new rule after my recent divorce. i won't be bullied or coerced into getting married sooner than I am ready ever again. we should be in a relationship/living together for years before that happens.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 05:17 PM
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not just women. any caregiver situation is extremely hard on a marriage and honestly it is difficult to find fault in people who do not want to be a caregiver for their partner.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/23 11:54 PM
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it's not undisputed and wont be undisputed at this rate. also dont pay her back for 6 years of rent (wtf?)
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/23 04:35 PM
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same. first hookup after the divorce and there was a pretty imposing empty feeling during the act. I did my best to take care of her but I was struggling to enjoy it.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/23 12:22 AM
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I tried to reconcile at her request for like 6 months and it just resulted in a bigger and longer dumpster fire. so the answer is I didnt really want to reconcile but I was open to new perspectives and the possibility of change. I also value hard work and effort and it seemed like she was willing to do that with me. -> gave it a real good attempt -> made everything worse.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/23 12:53 AM
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they always seem to miss the mark. when my ex wife wanted to get back with me she was all like, "I'll be more sexy, I'll lose weight, I'll clean everything, rub your back, and be a good wife" like.... this is 2022... I don't value that stuff and it's not the reason I asked for divorce... The marriage would work out if you forget about all of that other random 1950s style crap and actually listen to me..... stop suffocating me with your controlling behavior.... take your meds so your mood is half…
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/23 05:06 PM
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I could not agree more. I went on a few dates just a month or two after my divorce. FTR i did not really feel "alone" immediatley following my divorce. I actually really enjoyed the peace and quiet because my ex wife was like a never ending train wreck who was always in hysterics. she was also emotionally abusive and controlling so having the days roll by without the daily stressful phone calls was AWESOME. I just felt bored so I figured a date might be fun. I was up front with the fact that I d…
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/23 01:32 AM
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yup. married a woman. got dragged into a million things i didnt want to do. got divorced and was suckered into spending tens of thousands of dollars more to help her. I finally cut her off and i wish i did it sooner.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/23 05:33 PM
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I have no flippin idea. I'm only 30 so I dont have much experience either.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/23 04:14 AM
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i am in this exact situation and I feel the same. I think the fact that the negativity has sank to the bottom and the good vibes have resurfaced is the nail in the coffin. I like loving life....
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/23 03:03 AM
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hate to be all negative but i doubt she will change unless she hits rock bottom. some people dont change even when they hit rock bottom by the way. mental health issues are real and hard but treatment is effective. step 1 is exercise and anti-depressants.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/23 08:03 AM
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you gotta look out for you first man.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/22 10:02 PM
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I dont think she is an evil person, I just dont think she was the right person for me. I want her to be happy and healthy but I needed a life where I was not hammeraging resources to keep her afloat. And she wasn't disabled or anything she was just extremely needy and controlling. there were many other and more alarming issues with the marriage. I decided enough was enough.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/22 12:39 AM
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i gave her the the I love you but im not in love with you speech and i initiated divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/22 12:29 AM
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heard that. I thought I landed the jackpot with my ex wife. She is/was attractive and seemed to geniunely like me.... Even to this day she seems to genuinely like me even though the marriage is over. But, she was also kind of psychotic, was threatened by every woman in my life, would stalk me constantly, and would lose her shit if i so much as glanced at another woman. damn near drove me mad.
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/22 08:24 AM
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honestly once I initiated divorce I havent really seen her family much, but I heard my neice was upset about it. :shrug: there were lots of other, serious issues with the marriage, but for some reason it was a big deal for me to consider the fact that if I ever have children with this woman... she would probably treat me like that in front of my own children too. the thought disgusted me so thoroughly that I decided I would never have children with this woman. things went down hill from there. w…
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/22 07:15 PM
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my ex wife openly berated me in front of her family
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/22 05:40 PM
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my ex wife had a history of berating and de-masculating me. but for some reason this was 100x worse when she did in front of the young people in the family. i have a young niece... she is 12. my wife's side of the family struggles to keep men around so there are a lot of fatherless children. I tried very hard to lead by example and be a good father figure for the family. I take care of myself... exercise regularly and have a good job. I keep myself busy with projects. I loved being around the ki…
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/22 09:02 PM
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same here. when we were married all I ever heard was: you're lazy, you dont care about me, you dont love me, you're cheating, you never clean. now that we're divorced all I ever hear is: I want you back, life is hard without you, i can't pay my rent by myself, i love you, i'm surprised your apartment is so clean. fuck off. the reality is she never trusted me, and wished I was somebody else. the second I'm gone she realizes what she lost.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/22 04:19 AM
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