OkAbbreviations7449 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
202	Don’t become a stepdad when you already have kids, and don’t get remarried again.		OkAbbreviations7449	/r/Divorce_Men	01/02/25 11:04 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	I had my 1st post divorce hook up Don’t overthink it and just have fun, and don’t really think much at all about this person other than this is some fun. That Gatekeeper book is fantastic. Dr. Shawn Smith is an authority in the space. You’re the gatekeeper, you’re the one that determines where this goes. Think about your bigger goals, have some fun and go after what you really need in life.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/01/25 12:47 PM
4	So what happens after separating but can’t break up? Just relax now, don’t rush to do anything, just lay back and take the time out if you’re in the space. Don’t get riled up or upset about anything. Just take a deep breath and relax and don’t make any decisions now. Let this rest a little bit.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/01/25 02:24 AM
2	What made you cut ties with your children from your first marriage? This is where it really matters, who you marry. I feel you man, I’m going through the same thing.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/01/25 12:10 AM
2	What made you cut ties with your children from your first marriage? Also, my own dad had kids from his first marriage that turned out to be terrible. Three terrible boys. I saw this firsthand in my family. One time when I was nine years old, they stole my mom‘s station wagon and I couldn’t go deliver my newspapers. My dad cut ties with them mostly, he’d visit them, but they never came around. They all turned out really bad.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/01/25 12:04 AM
0	What made you cut ties with your children from your first marriage? Despite the problems having my kid was the best thing that’s ever happened to me. And it’s been mostly great. And technically, I could have more kids. As much as I complain, having a happy family is still an ideal for me.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/01/25 12:02 AM
1	What made you cut ties with your children from your first marriage? Old enough to where I could remarry someone with no kids and start a new family, I’m in great shape, I’m doing pretty well, actually the best I’ve done in the last 10 years. Divorced over 10 years. It gets harder and harder to deal with my ex, she’s become exactly the opposite of what I would ever want to marry. If I had a window into who she became when I was 25, I would’ve never gone through with the marriage.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/01/25 11:59 PM
2	What made you cut ties with your children from your first marriage? Once your kid turns 18, and they have their own life, and they start to make their own stupid decisions, and their mom is of no support and a total narcissist, you have to decide to go and enjoy your life. I’m just about there. After trying for the last five years to be as involved as I can be, and getting the door slammed in my face 95% of the time. Once they get old enough, and they don’t reach out or initiate any contact, you have to decide whether your life is worth living somewhere else to …	/r/Divorce_Men	14/01/25 11:56 PM
6	How do you guys get along with your ex’s boyfriend/husband? Especially if you have kids, how has that been? They are usually dorks and weirdos. Luckily mine has scared all of them away. In a few months, it won’t matter because I will be free.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/01/25 01:00 PM
1	Men recovering from Divorce Don’t rush out and get a serious girlfriend. Don’t even get a exclusive girlfriend. Get a bunch of experience dating a lot of other women. Don’t lock yourself down with another woman. Learn how to be completely autonomous and live on your own, and find that success first. Wait a very long time before you get into a serious relationship. Let your kids grow up with you in their life. As soon as you bring another woman into your life… You’ll spend far less time with your kids. If you want to stop b…	/r/Divorce_Men	12/01/25 08:01 PM
1	Lost interest in women No. I still look about the same, and I don’t date as young. The apps don’t work like they used to.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/01/25 06:08 AM
2	Need some advice from yall. I find myself very angry in general cursing alot getting mad at people Completely go away from this situation, if you have no kids, you’ve lucked out, you’ve actually won the divorce lottery. Just get your car and drive away and start a life somewhere else away from all of this mess. For the anger, you need to get a therapist. Whether it’s a phone therapist or in person. And you need to read books on it, and you need to acknowledge this part of your behavior as a giant flaw. You need to look at anger like you look at alcoholism. You need to learn how to manage it. …	/r/Divorce_Men	11/01/25 11:54 PM
1	Lost interest in women Fewer matches. You can barely get a match now. And you can have a profile where you look really good and have great pictures. It’s almost impossible to match with somebody and go on a date these days. In 2014 it was insane, it was too much. I went on hundreds of dates. Now it’s almost impossible. I have good photos	/r/Divorce_Men	11/01/25 04:38 AM
4	Stbx wife told me our child was attacked by her bf's dog while she was at his house I’ll say it; its terrible advice	/r/Divorce_Men	28/12/24 02:06 AM
3	Lost interest in women The apps are mostly garbage now. 2012-2018 were the hey day for dating apps. If I were serious about finding a GF I’d be out multiple nights a week and doing all sorts of social stuff, every week.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/12/24 11:05 PM
2	Lost interest in women I live in a huge city and from 2012-2019 all I did was go on multiple dates per week. Some days I would go on 2-3 dates. I bartended part time too. I was a knucklehead. The dating apps back then were way better too	/r/Divorce_Men	27/12/24 11:00 PM
10	Stbx wife told me our child was attacked by her bf's dog while she was at his house Call your lawyer and make sure you leave an urgent voicemail. Report it to the court. This is pure negligence. Boyfriend sounds like a real gem. Let me guess, mama loved him.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/12/24 08:45 PM
26	Lost interest in women I needed female validation when I got divorced. I waited a year to get on the dating market. But once I did, I went crazy and I dated hundreds of women. I’ve been 10 years divorced. I had at least three long-term relationships with women that just wanted to get married. Me being in my early 40s and them in their early and mid 30s. Talk about a disaster lol. Both of my parents died in the last few years. I’ve had no desire to chase women, all I wanna do is work, play golf and play guitar.I’m not …	/r/Divorce_Men	25/12/24 04:09 PM
3	Christmas without the kids Don’t go to the family event if it’s too much to handle today. Is it healthier to stand in front of your family and explain all of your problems on Christmas Day? Just realize that this is totally temporary. This may be one or two Christmases without your kids. But are you a consistent dad and are you consistently in their life? You’ll be fine man, this is temporary. Get your divorce over with and get the best agreement and get on with life. Take care of yourself today and don’t get drunk :-)	/r/Divorce_Men	25/12/24 04:06 PM
1	Who else is enjoying holidays without family drama? We talked	/r/Divorce_Men	25/12/24 02:45 PM
3	Who else is enjoying holidays without family drama? That’s me! Very peaceful day, my daughter and I had Thanksgiving and an early Christmas this weekend. She got dragged off with my ex again, because my ex has this tradition of flying multiple times and seeing multiple people in different cities over Christmas. So the entire time we were married, we would fly to her stepmom‘s house, then fly to her sister‘s house on Christmas Day, then fly home. She’s been doing that entire life as a sad Step kid. I don’t think my ex has ever spent a Christmas at…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/12/24 05:38 AM
9	Really going through it right now. This is all temporary. You have to keep that in mind. Focus on your job and your health. Everything else is secondary right now. Focus less on your kids right now. Do you actually need them 50% of the time, why do you have to have them 50%? You need to survive, this is your survival. These kids will be happy having their dad with a long lifespan, not somebody that burns out and falls off a cliff because you have to force 50% and you’ve left nothing for yourself.. Focus on your health, your sleep…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/12/24 11:49 PM
2	Wife having an affair for over a year Go outside get your car, start it up and drive away as fast as you can, and never come back. That’s literally all you need to do here.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/12/24 01:13 PM
4	High net worth 25mn+ Divorce help I’m having trouble believing someone so successful with so much money doesn’t know that they need to hire a lawyer	/r/Divorce_Men	20/12/24 01:10 PM
4	Tough decision. I'm living in Florida close to my little son. I lost my job 2 months ago and I'm working as a package delivery driver right now ($40k). I got an offer to work in IT but I would have to move to Austin, TX. It pays more ($58k) and I hope that it could start a career in tech. You could easily find a job like that anywhere in Florida I was offered a chief marketing officer position four states away when my daughter was eight years old, for a company that I help found, that went from zero dollars to over $100 million and over 1000 employees. I turned that job down to stay near my daughter.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/12/24 01:07 PM