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This kind of reads like a RP man wrote it.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/26 11:00 PM
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Yeah, I advised to drop him, lol. I can see giving him 1-2 more dates but I think she will realize the issues on the first date are signs of who he is.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/26 05:45 PM
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I’m just saying his behavior on the first couple dates was indicative of the type of guy he was. We went out for about 2 months total. Back then an older, married friend told me it was a big red flag if the guy didn’t pay on the first date, and I’ve come to agree. I’m now older and married myself :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/26 11:11 PM
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Exactly. To me this is a sign of cheapness. I’d steer clear.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/26 10:21 PM
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I’d drop him. I experienced something similar once with a guy. He seemed great otherwise at first but ultimately I learned this behavior was indicative of him not investing, being cheap, etc. The guy I experienced this with let me drive him home, would take me up on “splitting the bill,” etc. I was 28 and he was 32. He was cheap. Also not taking dating seriously. He’s now 39 and still single - go figure. When I asked my dad about the situation I dealt with, he said he would find it totally emasc…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/26 08:38 PM
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The point I was trying to get across was you should do something to boost weight loss if that would make you feel more confident. I’m not you, so I don’t know what would work best for you. Lots of products out there that can help as well as diet & fitness regimens.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/26 11:35 PM
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I said you could also do something else to boost the weight loss.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/26 01:39 PM
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I’m about your size: 5’8” and 136 lbs currently. Used to hover around 130-135. I have a toddler and am trying to conceive currently. If I wasn’t TTC, I’d honestly try GLP-1 to try to get down to 125-130. Similar to you, while I look good, I’m not content with my size. It’s your life - you only live once. Even if you look good, if you want to look hotter (in your opinion), I say go for it. Go on a GLP-1 or do something else to really boost the weight loss, and make the effort to get down to a wei…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/26 06:40 PM
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You’re probably safe since it was during your period and it was just pre-ejaculate.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/26 12:54 PM
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You’re good. I’m glad you’re thinking about it. I know girls who don’t think about it until about 35. You’ve got time but try to get it done by 30.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/26 03:54 PM
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More guys are right leaning than you think once you tell them you are. Some are truly very liberal, but on dating apps I met a few conservative men, including my husband. They didn’t typically lead with it but either already did lean right or were moderate and could become more right leaning with a woman who leaned that way.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/26 12:07 PM
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I mean, you’re already married. Be grateful.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/26 02:22 AM
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What country is this?
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/25 02:12 AM
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How far of a distance is it?
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/25 05:14 AM
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Those prone to relationship anxiety, overthinking, and/or OCD might. Or people who are just excited and want to talk. Your blanket statements are not true or helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/25 11:34 PM
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Again, this is bad advice for a lot of people. A lot of people get anxiety about relationships, and the types of things you are saying can be very triggering for those kinds of people.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/25 10:33 PM
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I caution against taking this advice, OP.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/25 08:57 PM
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You should look up Sheryl Paul Finn….she is a therapist who discusses relationship anxiety and anxiety over transitions. Lots of guidance for situations like yours. Her teachings plus those in the book I just read by Lori Gottlieb - “Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough” - make me think you should stay with him. I’m not hearing anything that’s super red flag. Plus, candidly, you’re in your thirties. It’ll only get harder to meet guys from here on out. The good ones around your ag…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/25 08:57 PM
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Mixed on this. A lot of men aren’t great planners for things like dates. However, the fact that he isn’t planning himself could also mean he’s not investing in you and doesn’t really care that much. If it annoys you this much already, it might be a bad sign that you two aren’t a match. However, maybe if he is a good enough guy in other respects, this issue can be dealt with.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/25 01:25 PM
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You seem to have your head on straight - good for you. My biggest tip is to go for older guys - late 20s - early 30s. You’re right that most guys your age aren’t worth your time. Older guys will want to settle down sooner and will be more respectful.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/25 08:37 PM
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The only item of concern is #4. Guys don’t actually care if you’re really successful or educated - many like this a lot actually. The issues usually arise when women in your shoes decide they need a man who makes more than them, which can be very hard to find. Lastly, I’d advise to get moving sooner rather than later when it comes to intentionally dating. It only gets harder as you get older. You’re early 30s, so you still have time to meet someone good quality and have kids with him. By mid 30s…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/25 04:08 PM
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I’m not single but I love this idea! Wish this had been a thing when I was single! I was in nun mode with no guide. Best of luck, ladies.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/25 05:55 AM
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You had your tubes removed or you have them?
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/25 02:29 PM
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You’re in a tough spot. I’d be mad. Hopefully none of the photos were too sexual or anything. Maybe he can at least sort of claim he “liked” them for other reasons.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/25 03:15 AM
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Could you say you’d like to take it slow for religious reasons, etc., but not outright say that you’re waiting for marriage? Just say you’d like to hold off on physical intimacy for now / take it slow. That at least buys you time for how to discuss it more in depth.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/25 05:48 AM
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I’d bring it up to him. Are the likes recent? That’s relevant. Sorry you’re going through this.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/25 05:43 AM
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You ask great questions. Just know that it’s difficult to navigate. Lots of gray area where you are right now. You seem like a smart, thoughtful person - best of luck.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/25 02:45 AM
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Whatever. As I said, men’s pasts count, too. This stuff doesn’t even usually come up. Kinda weird if it does, minus something like social media being the tell.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/25 01:38 PM
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No, I'm not blue pilled, feminist, or liberal. I'm also a married mother. Sexual baggage is gross no matter who it is - many women (like me) hate this on men, too. Still, I think if it's your personal sexual baggage, you can overcome it. Give it a few months or so of having a better mindset and not giving into pressure or temptation, and you will be such a different person / will hardly remember past experiences. IMO what sucks is if you can see photos or otherwise know details about your signif…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/25 05:09 PM
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Your post/commentary says you slept with your husband on the first date, so I don’t think you should be advising on this topic whatsoever, lol.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/25 10:23 PM
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For the record I’m not even talking about sex, but still kissing and what not that I didn’t want to happen. I don’t agree with you. Men can take responsibility for themselves as well. They aren’t animals. When you’re a young girl and truly don’t know how entitled men’s brains work and are accustomed to receiving respect from men, it isn’t your fault for allowing yourself to be alone in a room with a man.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/25 05:48 PM
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Nice cop out. I don’t think my grandpa or any men my grandma went out with before him were doing that to my her. Social norms have changed for the worse. Men also watch porn and then don’t understand women IRL. Pretty sure you can figure out how to be respectful to women and not pressure them.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/25 02:41 PM
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Then men should stop pressuring women. I doubt these drunk women who regret the encounters initiated them. A lot of universities consider it sexual assault if the woman is under the influence, like it or not.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/25 12:53 AM
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Let me guess - you’re a man commenting in the women’s sub.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/25 12:52 AM
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Men pressure us so much. In my case, I would be totally not expecting it when a guy would start pressuring me. Lots of girls are like that - just bc you’re drinking and alone in a room shouldn’t mean anything sexual is going to happen, but to men it does. Society also heavily pushes the hookup culture thing. You’re fine. Don’t dwell on it. If it makes you feel better, any of these guys you go out with likely have similar pasts (unfortunately). It’s a generational thing.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/25 12:51 AM
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Forget about body count. I’d also say they barely counted if you were drunk. Once you’ve been away from that lifestyle for a while, your mind resets and it’s a very distant part of your past. Body count is a much more complex topic than it’s usually treated. Don’t worry - forgive yourself - don’t be ashamed - move forward
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/25 08:32 PM
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Very similar. I’m glad it only took me 2.5 months to figure him out, too. The move to another city helped bring it to a close. I genuinely feel bad for a girl he dated a year out so ago who went on trips with him and posted lots of pics - she def seemed to think it was going somewhere. Wonder if he’ll ever settle down. Now that he’s done with residencies and fellowships, maybe. I actually think he is very insecure deep down, but why I think that is a different conversation.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/25 05:07 AM
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Yes, now that I think about it, I went out with a guy like you describe from the apps. I went out with a guy for about 2.5 months, and he was just like what you described - good on paper but actually a player just wasting girls’ time. He was a 31 or 32 year old doctor who was a chief resident at a local hospital. I was 28, for reference. He was 6’3” and good looking. On paper, he looked good as 31/32 seemed old enough to want to settle down. I also naively thought if he was a doctor, he was prob…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/25 01:22 PM
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I agree but there are exceptions, as you noted. Two examples below relating to this topic. My husband is 6’4” and is partner at a hedge fund/high frequency trading firm. I met him on an app when he was 33. He had just gotten the app and I was the only girl he met up with on it. From 29-32, he had been dating a different girl who he says he never saw a future with (she fought tooth and nail every time he would try to break up with her, which is why the relationship lasted so long, according to hi…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/25 08:17 PM
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100%. I don’t think it’s a red flag if a guy is late 20s or early 30s and single. If he’s 40, I’m wondering why he’s single, but not the age range you indicated. At 40, there are some acceptable reasons a guy could be single, as well. Also, the longer a man pursues education, the later he will settle down, generally speaking.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/25 12:29 AM
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Definitely date the HVM men. I’d advise prioritizing them to fellow students. Why wouldn’t you?
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/25 08:36 PM
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Yup. It’s important. Young women would be wise to focus on fitness and physical appearance in general so they are poised to find a good mate.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/25 07:48 PM
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Bless these women...I could never. (We also joked that our wedding spurred some of these 3 years + dating couples to get engaged because a few got engaged about 6 months after our wedding)
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/25 05:07 PM
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Haha this comment is funny and interesting. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/25 12:08 PM
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Haha to your second paragraph - agree! My husband and I got engaged 1 year - 1.5 years into dating. Seemed most of the people we knew dated for at least 3 years if not 4 or 5 before deciding… I’ll never understand or relate to wanting to do that.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/25 12:05 PM
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Agree. This is my general thought, as well. My husband seems to somewhat agree. However, regarding the girls men do not propose to (the ones who allow themselves to be used as practice), my husband says the problem is the girl herself and not necessarily the stage of life the guy is in. I think he believes that even if that same girl had met the guy once he was ready to settle down, he still wouldn’t propose to her. I feel mixed on that. I will say that the types of girls men date before they se…
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/25 05:52 AM
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So you’re in a relationship? Do you see it leading to marriage? 26 isn’t old. If you want to lose weight, put your mind to it and do it. Candidly when I read your post I’m reading a lot of excuses and negativity. Having only 2 friends is completely normal. Your hobbies sound nice, too. You also have a job (are you unhappy with it?). If there’s something in your life you’re unhappy about, then change it. Losing weight can make everything better, so maybe start there.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/25 12:51 PM
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Great post. When I was dating, I also generally was looking for guys 30+. Often guys aren’t thinking about marriage until that age. For some women, their path is meeting the guy in college or shortly after, so I suppose they’d date younger than 30. Some of the best advice I got when it came to vetting, however, was to date older (my husband is only 4.5 years older, but still).
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/25 04:59 AM
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This is a good question. Others can advise more than I can. I wouldn’t view the dogs and dealbreaker for this guy. However, I probably would voice your concerns about the younger, hyper dog to him.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/25 11:07 AM
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General advice for someone your age - get yourself out there as much as possible to meet guys. Use dating apps/websites, ask friends to introduce you, check out other towns/cities, extend dating app radius, etc. It is a numbers game. You still have time, but honestly it’s going to get harder soon. While you’re still in your 20s, I’d try to meet someone. You’ll soon begin noticing that all the good guys have been snatched up. Try to find someone while there are still some decent options out there…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/25 10:09 PM
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I live in northern US, and I'm considered a young mom by many - I had my son at 32, just shy of 33! lol. Just miscarried at 34, so now I'm looking at my second (hopefully) being born when I'm 35. I wish I had gotten started earlier, too. I didn't feel like anyone educated me on the biological clock - I began reading about it myself around 30. There should be more education on that, IMO - from parents, doctors, teachers...I don't know - someone. I had always wanted to have 3 or 4 kids, but now it…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/25 10:05 PM
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For what it’s worth, 37 with young children is the norm or even “ahead” where I live. You aren’t behind at all. I know several women your age and older currently trying to conceive kids with no success. Another woman did successfully conceive, in her 40s, by using donor eggs. I also know women older than you who still haven’t found the right guy. I totally get what you’re saying and I have those thoughts myself - wish I had gotten my life started earlier. Thought you might appreciate hearing tha…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/25 12:01 PM
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Good for you. I like this life in theory, but in reality I’m way too lazy / not suited for it.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/25 08:21 PM
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Does he post photos of you to his IG? You say he has posted her recently. TBH the age difference is the main reason I’m saying to move on from him. He won’t be ready to marry anytime soon. He’s still sowing his wild oats most likely and building his career.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/25 09:30 PM
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This sounds like a troll post. On the off chance it’s not, my advice is to break up with him.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/25 06:26 PM
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Yes. Maybe the fact he financially provides for her prevents him from feeling financially ready to begin his own family. I feel bad for him that he has to deal with this (taking care of his mom), but OP dodged a bullet - it’s really not fun when your husband has a needy, dependent single mom (financially and emotionally). If she can find someone who doesn’t have this baggage, that would be much better.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/25 10:33 PM
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I was actually thinking the same thing. I think it was good of the guy to break it off - many in his shoes wouldn’t. They would just lead her on for years. This girl is still young enough to find someone great. He did her a favor. (Not saying he’s some amazing guy, but this is actually nicer than staying with her while knowing it likely will go nowhere.)
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/25 10:29 PM
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I feel you, and we have all been there, but there is no point in wondering whether you guys could get back together. I’ve been that person who is straight forward and says I’m not ready for a relationship. Trust me - if a person says that (or something similar), they mean it. He isn’t ready for marriage. Maybe he will never be. It doesn’t really matter because, regardless, you’re moving on. Go on dates. Have fun. Be intentional with your choices of who to date.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/25 10:27 PM
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Men who come from money definitely gravitate toward rich women (either self made or who come from money). Men who are new money are more open-minded, and so are their families. Guys who come from money have families with certain expectations for the kinds of women they bring home.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/25 05:32 AM
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Yup. I remember being told this over the years when I was single, but I still thought a dorky doctor would be OK. Well, I dated what I thought was that once (briefly - couple months), and he definitely was flirting with/talking to other girls (I’m a good social media stalker, lol, which is mostly how I found out). He was a total player, and it came as a surprise because my read on him was awkward and dorky. The reality is, doctor is a profession known by everyone (unlike some white collar jobs),…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/24 03:36 PM
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Agree. I’d caution against pursuing doctors.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/24 02:59 PM
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100%. I am in these circles, and frequently the wives aren’t that beautiful. They are educated, successful, and/or come from good families, though.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/24 02:58 PM
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What other means of social mobility do you recommend women focus on? Also, I could be wrong, but some of these details make it look like you’re speaking from a specific cultural/ethnic perspective. Worth noting.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/24 04:29 PM
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Did you have this live-in help in the US? That’s much more common among the wealthy in certain other countries.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/24 04:24 PM
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I skimmed through. It’s possible he will propose, but I wouldn’t bet on it. Many women get it in their heads that the guy is about to propose when really he isn’t thinking about it at all.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/24 03:35 AM
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Source for men saying that?
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/24 07:55 PM
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Completely agree. People who date for years because the man needs more time to "get to know" the woman or figure out if he wants to marry her are kidding themselves. Both parties typically know within 3 months.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/24 06:24 PM
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Agree. I think there’s also something to the concept that after a certain age, people get set in their ways and can’t meld with another as easily. It definitely seems as though some of the 35+ single people I know have some quirky tendencies, very specific preferences, etc. That’s part of why they remain single.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/24 08:39 AM
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A lot of it is your generation / age / age group. Maybe go for guys who are older than you. Or just wait it out the best you can. Keep your standards. Don’t become a hookup girl.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/24 12:21 AM
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Now that I think about it, you’re right. The women I know who found someone good who was 40+ found a divorced man. This doesn’t even necessarily apply to “older” women since sometimes those women find someone younger. If he’s in his 40s and hasn’t been married, though, there’s likely a reason.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/24 05:31 AM
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Interesting points. I suppose my husband’s timeline tracks - he was 33 when we met. I was 28. He has a graduate degree, which he had just completed earlier in the same year I met him. He earned it while working full time. We married at 35 and 30. He had dated a girl seriously for ~3 years from 28 to 32. Learned about her through FB. Had I known them when they were dating, I would have assumed they would marry judging by the FB pics/activities. He says he never even considered marrying her. She w…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/24 05:05 AM
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I find the same to be true. I often disagree with the comments about how men don't care what you do, how much money you make, etc. Personal anecdote: I'm friends with a couple where the woman is very plain looking but is a doctor, and the man is educated, successful, and good looking, plus comes from an extremely wealthy real estate family. Most would say he could have had his pick of women, and visually they look a little mismatched. I think he was very attracted by the fact she went to med sch…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/24 06:23 PM
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This is an excellent post. I have made many observations on this topic myself. People don't really talk about it - you're right. I'll share one anecdote on this topic. The most beautiful girl I've ever personally known (we were in the same sorority in college) wound up with a very wealthy (but very shady) businessman/entrepreneur. He's in the news sometimes and dated famous models before her. He's a multimillionaire for sure - had been getting close to billionaire status, but due to some legal i…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/24 05:46 PM
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If the amount you wear works for you, keep it up. Nothing wrong with light makeup. That's better in a lot of ways. I just enjoy makeup, lol. I always wear some eyeliner, eyeshadow, and concealer if I'm going to work or somewhere where I'd like to look nice. If I have enough time, which I usually do, I like to wear contour/bronzer, blush, lipliner, and fill in my brows.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/24 04:40 PM
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Got it. Yes, if you know the issues are unsolvable, then ignore and don’t waste time/energy. Typically when someone reaches out out of the blue like that, it’s for the reasons you listed. Heck, I did that to guys back when I was still dating. It wasn’t the nicest thing to do, but it happened. Boredom, wanting an ego boost, having seen a photo where they looked good, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/24 04:28 PM
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I agree with your interpretation. I am a bit curious about what he said and how things previously ended, however.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/24 04:06 PM
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Law is great because there are a lot of jobs with good work-life balance in the field. Some require a law degree while some view it as nice to have but not essential. For example, I work in the insurance industry where I make a great salary, and have great work-life balance (9-5 job with no billable hours). Like you, I have a law degree, and my husband makes enough that I don’t have to work. You could always put in a couple years at the prestigious firm and then have the flexibility to go in-hou…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/24 03:57 PM
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Why is a thread by this title even allowed on this sub?
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/24 02:58 PM
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OK, well, the comment of mine you were responding to wasn’t discussing the Jewish legal code - I was asking OP if converting would be enough for her.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 07:49 PM
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Respectfully, I know Jewish women who won’t consider a guy if his mother isn’t Jewish. So, some Jewish women do care about blood.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 04:34 PM
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Is converting enough for you or is he disqualified for not having Jewish blood?
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/24 07:05 PM
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The most important thing is weight loss. Download the Lose It! app to count calories and record daily weight, follow weight loss subreddits and social media accounts, etc. You should do jumping jacks and jogging in addition to walking to get that heart rate up. Of course, strength exercise is great, too. Healthy eating, healthy cooking, and exercising can become some of your hobbies in the process.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/24 03:33 AM
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He likes you to a degree but wouldn’t marry you and doesn’t want a relationship with you.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/24 04:07 PM
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100%. Not surprised, actually. Block him. Don’t waste any time/energy. Trust me. TBH I’ve also been in his position and know how he probably feels - it isn’t worth talking to him when you could be out meeting the one.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/24 04:02 PM
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“OK, thanks.”
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/24 03:33 AM
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This same scenario happened on 90 Day Fiancé UK.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/24 03:48 AM
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Sounds exactly like my friend until she finally did pull the trigger. Like, exactly the same scenario. Her ex also has a great job, great family, and great personality in addition to good looks. As I mentioned, if anything, he was the one settling for her. She would talk crap about him and I’m pretty sure was cheating on him while still married. She definitely had some inappropriate friendships with other men and went out without her wedding ring frequently. Once they were separated, she dated a…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/24 09:07 PM
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Yeah, maybe it’s cultural. For me I wasn’t seriously dating until I knew I wanted to get married and have kids soon. At that point, men who couldn’t pay for me on dates were not worth my time. I’ll also add that the one instance a guy took me up on my offer to split the bill, it turned out to be a symptom of a larger problem. He wasn’t taking dating seriously, he was cheap, he wasn’t that nice, etc. We went out for about 2 months.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/24 12:43 PM
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In the case of a $10 pizza for a date at home, is he asking the woman to pay $5 of that? In your example of your sister, did he pay for her meals when dating?
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/24 12:22 PM
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Thank you for confirming my ideas on this. A friend of mine got divorced about a year ago following a 6-9 month separation, essentially because she thought she could upgrade. None of her family or friends agreed with her decision. Her ex-husband was very kind and a great catch - when I first met her, I actually had been impressed that she had married him. He was a little “out of her league,” to be rather blunt. Anyway, this friend was in for a rude awakening when the dating market wasn’t as good…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/24 06:39 AM
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You said this isn’t a hard stop sign, but IMO it is: Never paying for you on dates or otherwise. It means he isn’t invested, he isn’t generous / he’s cheap, he can’t provide, or he doesn’t know social norms. None of these are good qualities.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/24 04:49 AM
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Do it after his exams. You don’t have to do it in person. You are young and have time to find someone new. Odd that his circle doesn’t know about you.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/24 11:59 AM
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Your post history is all over the place - recently divorced, having a baby, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/24 01:42 AM
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I skimmed. Saw his description. He’s a no. I’d elaborate but I have nothing PC to say, lol.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/24 04:40 PM
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She never said he was in his 30s.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/24 04:27 PM
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I wonder why he is still single. It’s a little odd to me that you don’t know if you two are boyfriend-girlfriend or exclusive. He could have a habit of stringing girls along and not ultimately committing. You probably should bring up engagement and your desired timeline. Maybe ask him what his desired timeline for those things would be first to see what he says, and then say your timeline and have a conversation. Sounds like you kind of already did that, though. You could say that with his talk …
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/24 02:57 PM
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Over the past couple days, I’ve read posts by you saying you’re 31, 32, and now 33.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/24 12:00 AM
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Completely agree. I know a couple girls in that category. It gets to be really slim pickings once you’re in your late 30s. Many single women that age wish they had snagged someone decent when the decent guys were still available. Also, if the issue is that this specific guy is a little chubby, he can always lose the weight. That’s not nearly as bad of a problem as her not being attracted to his face.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 04:24 AM
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You might be interested in the books and advice by Sheryl Paul. She counsels on relationship anxiety and advises staying in relationships that may be “boring” but are safe. Additionally, if you want to get married and have kids, I’d strongly consider staying with him. Dating generally gets harder the older you get - the pool of guys gets whittled down, and you are competing against younger women. Your biological clock is ticking if you plan to have children. It sounds like you found someone who …
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/24 08:34 PM
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Hi, FYI I have been reading your comments lately. You’ve got some wise words! You and I could have a great conversation about RPW things. I agree with many of your views. :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/24 06:13 PM
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My now-husband had a nice place he lived in, which he took good care of. The guys I had gone out with around the same time had messy apartments they didn’t plan on living in for long. He had also been at his job a long time and made a good living.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/24 09:05 PM
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Search for people willing to teach cooking lessons in your area, such as nutritionists.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/24 08:29 PM
1

Using the cheapies from Amazon worked best for me. I gradually learned what point in my cycle were my most fertile days. Additionally, a great way to tell if you’re fertile is by paying attention to cervical mucous.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/24 08:25 PM
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They will date you but will they ultimately marry you or just waste 3-5 years of your life?
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/24 05:12 PM
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Completely agree. It took me just over a year to conceive my child at 31-32 years old. I wouldn’t try to plan too precisely - it often takes time to get pregnant.
/r/RedPillWives11/09/23 10:16 AM
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Great comment. Very similar experience here. Pelvic floor dilators and pelvic floor physical therapy did wonders for me. The dilators are key - the PT isn’t necessary for everyone. OP, I commented earlier about getting a dilator set and using it every other day or so, but using dilators before intercourse like this commenter advises is very helpful, too. Lots of lube. Long, deep breaths (inhale for 3 seconds, exhale for 3). Lots of communication with your partner so you feel assured he will pull…
/r/RedPillWives03/08/23 07:09 AM
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Use pelvic floor dilators. They have done wonders for me. You can find sets of them on Amazon. Start with the smallest size dilator. Put lubricant on it and hold it inside of you for a few minutes. Once that size is comfortable/totally painless (after a few sessions or maybe even on your first try), try the next bigger size. Continue that process until the biggest one comfortably fits in you. Use the dilators every other day or every few days. Use them before intercourse, too. Relax the vagina b…
/r/RedPillWives03/08/23 07:04 AM
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Why is he seeing a therapist? They often cause more harm than good. He should stop. Also, he cheated on you, yet he’s the one who’s hurt? I am sorry you’re dealing with this. I hope you two are able to heal and reconnect.
/r/RedPillWives03/08/23 06:57 AM
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Look into therapist Sheryl Paul’s work on her Conscious Transitions website. She does a lot of work on relationship anxiety. I’ve taken a course from her and read one of her books. Good luck.
/r/RedPillWives03/03/23 05:48 AM
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Thank you for this. I hesitated posting because I knew it could come off as judgmental or something. I’m just genuinely curious. My SIL looks like she could be somewhat pretty if she tried, and her behavior and mannerisms are fairly feminine. So, I don’t get why she dresses like a boy. She wears men’s suits to formal events and men’s clothing in general. She is a people pleaser who tries hard to get along with everyone, which may be relevant. I had a colleague once who was the same way. She was …
/r/RedPillWives24/10/22 07:05 PM
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Why do you think some women choose to dress in men’s clothes? My SIL does this. She isn’t trans, but she wears all men’s clothes, keeps her hair short, etc. She’s in her mid-thirties and is a lesbian. I get the feeling she likes being seen as quirky. Part of me thinks she dresses this way to escape the pressure from her family to follow a traditional life path for a woman or to look pretty. She’s removing herself from the race by being the quirky girl who dresses like a guy. She doesn’t have to …
/r/RedPillWives24/10/22 06:10 AM
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Have to admit, I dress and look fairly conservative. I don’t dye my hair. However, I used to wear a lot of black (not gothic - just chic).
/r/RedPillWives30/09/22 03:50 AM
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I can’t stand most of the American left.
/r/RedPillWives25/08/22 11:44 PM
1

I have a friend who asks me what I will be wearing to virtually anything we do. I genuinely wonder why she does this. I find it kind of annoying. Anyone know where this comes from? Examples: On Sunday we are going to a brunch and matinee theatre show with a handful of girls from the Junior League. She asked me on Monday what I’ll be wearing. For a Junior League meeting that had business casual dress code, she texted asking what I would be wearing. For the Junior League Annual Gala and Kentucky D…
/r/RedPillWives20/08/22 02:16 PM
1

I think it's supposed to be a place where we discuss things that aren't RPW per se, but are things many RPW do share beliefs on. For example, conservative politics. I'm not sure, but that's the impression I get. I do think this prompt should be reworded for clarity.
/r/RedPillWives19/08/22 03:42 PM
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Agree
/r/RedPillWives18/08/22 11:10 PM
1

Yes, and I would argue that many women’s sexuality does allow for it. Women have “sexier” bodies, etc., than men. It is easy to find women sexy. Lots of lesbian women begin dating women for non-sexual reasons, it seems like, though. Women in general don’t get as aroused by physical features as men do. I think for many lesbian women, being with a woman feels similar to being with a man, at least at first. They are friends and then things get sexual. Maybe women are easier for them to click with t…
/r/RedPillWives16/08/22 05:39 PM
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Yes, and I would argue that many women’s sexuality does allow for it. Women have “sexier” bodies, etc., than men. It is easy to find women sexy. Lots of lesbian women begin dating women for non-sexual reasons, it seems like, though. Women in general don’t get as aroused by physical features as men do. I think for many lesbian women, being with a woman feels similar to being with a man, at least at first. They are friends and then things get sexual. Maybe women are easier for them to click with t…
/r/RedPillWives16/08/22 05:38 PM
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Your second paragraph - I think I have said those exact words myself before. Needless to say, I completely agree. I don’t know any lesbian women, either. The women in same-sex relationships I know consider themselves bisexual (not sure of the exact terminology they use, but they are open to “all” genders). In fact, many used to date/marry men. I hate to say it, but it’s often less attractive women who make the switch to dating/marrying other women. Like you, I wonder about the longevity of these…
/r/RedPillWives11/08/22 06:14 PM
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A lot of people fall victim to it. Why so many women are increasingly choosing same-sex relationships is a related topic.
/r/RedPillWives11/08/22 05:52 PM
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Interesting read all-around about why many feminists want to get rid of the family: https://www.eviemagazine.com/post/why-modern-feminism-wants-to-get-rid-of-the-family
/r/RedPillWives11/08/22 04:37 PM
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https://twitter.com/Rothmus/status/1544918434848428032?s=20&t=ClsVR73ik4traT3bgTL8aw If true, this is funny.
/r/RedPillWives11/08/22 03:34 PM
0

Here is one that had me laughing
/r/RedPillWives07/08/22 05:56 PM
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Wow I love this. Is this new? Just yesterday I was saying to my husband I wished I had more right-leaning female friends IRL to share shitposts with.
/r/RedPillWives06/08/22 02:30 PM
1

I appreciate your thoughts, thanks. My instinct was the same. Why is he lying to me? He has lied before, too. They’re always dumb lies. Really alarming that he can so easily lie to me.
/r/RedPillWives15/03/22 12:56 PM
1

Thank you for this advice.
/r/RedPillWives10/03/22 04:53 PM
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Husband made an interesting revelation to me today. Months ago, I went to a holiday dinner with my husband and his small team at work. I thought everything went well. I was annoyed that we had gone to a really loud bar afterward, which I hadn’t anticipated doing, but whatever - not a big deal. I also had been on a doctor-mandated anti-inflammatory cleanse at the time, and the restaurant his boss took us to literally only served pizza (no healthy beverages either, with his boss pressuring us all …
/r/RedPillWives09/03/22 06:42 PM
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Well, she is “flaunting” that she is well-educated and intelligent, both of which are desirable for parenting. TBH I had a hard time getting through your comment above due to the terrible grammar. You don’t present as very well-spoken or educated. Many believe “mothering ability” (and fathering ability, for that matter) includes the ability to communicate in an intelligent manner.
/r/RedPillWives28/02/22 07:15 PM
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Haven’t watched the video. I think she still has time to find a great guy. She likely will make more than him, at least for now, but she is young enough to find someone. I really don’t observe men IRL being turned off by successful women. Men like financially successful women. The issue is that many women who are financially successful don’t also have a feminine personality type or care to have children.
/r/RedPillWives28/02/22 05:54 PM
1

That’s actually a misconception. There is no scientific evidence that implantation spotting exists. Spotting can occur during a cycle that produces a pregnancy, but more often than not, spotting indicates no pregnancy. The rising and falling levels of progesterone and estrogen can cause spotting in a cycle that results in a pregnancy, just as they would in any cycle, but implantation is not the cause of this event.
/r/RedPillWives14/02/22 09:54 PM
1

Yeah, I’ve always noticed the sluttiest girls are average to ugly. For the reasons you said.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 03:17 AM
1

I’m like the girl in the comic. I just get turned on by a guy wanting me. I fantasize about myself. So, I cannot help.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 11:50 PM
1

Agree. I don’t think it’s a red flag. I love when guys have no social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 11:47 PM
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Haha a good amount of women have this mentality. They’d probably be a good fit for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 11:46 PM
0

My instinct is that uglier people have worse behavior. Insecurity is the cause of a lot of bad behavior. It honestly seems like ugly men cheat more often - harder for them to turn down an opportunity because historically they haven’t gotten many. Harder for ugly people to resist positive attention for how they look or attraction from another.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 11:37 PM
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I don’t think many would disagree with the statement in your subject line.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 09:47 PM
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He has more, plus he had very serious long term relationships. I only had short term casual dating situations when I wasn’t yet pursuing marriage - nothing that lasted more than about 2 months. I can tell quickly whether a relationship is worth my time. He had one ex for a few years, and there are many photos of that relationship. He had other exes (also photographed), too.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 03:58 PM
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Lol I’m a woman and I feel at least as much if not more disgust than my husband about his exes. His brilliant self left tons of social media pics up with exes, so I have a lot more intel. Makes me gag and caused huge issues early in our relationship. To this day it causes issues and makes me less attracted to him than I would be otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 02:25 PM
2

Many women hate high n-counts too. I don’t think there is a difference between the sexes with regard to this. The difference is that historically men were able to voice these opinions, vote, and make the laws, whereas women weren’t. Women were treated more like possessions who stayed at home with the kids. I truly don’t think high n-counts bother men any more than women, at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 02:22 PM
1

Church, dating apps (hit or miss, but you can find out by asking questions early on)
/r/RedPillWives09/02/22 05:46 PM
1

This reminds me that I have met some fairly like-minded women through the volunteer organization Junior League. Perhaps you could find a chapter local to you.
/r/RedPillWives04/02/22 06:49 PM
1

I agree. A lot of men take whatever they can get. Women are much more discerning. My husband talks about how lots of women “trap” men, and that many of his friends have been trapped while he has warded off attempts to be trapped. By trap he means a girl gets a guy to live with her, gets pregnant, or does other similar things that make it hard for the guy to get away. I counter this by saying the guy isn’t selective enough on the front end - if he was, he wouldn’t get into that mess. Women won’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 02:31 PM
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Thanks. In relationships at least, I find men tend to prefer more together time than women. That’s the experience of my friends and I, at least. We like doing things alone and want our space, whereas our husbands want to be with us all the time. I also tend to think men function better in groups and are more “pack animals” than women are. Part of that is men’s ability to connect over more surface-level topics like sports.
/r/RedPillWives03/02/22 05:48 PM
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I actually have always thought men were more suited to having a lot of friends and existing in a group. Many female friendships aren’t very healthy or natural - it seems to me women are more suited to just spending time with their husbands. In reality it’s probably mostly an individual issue and not as based in gender. Some men and some women prefer to always exist within a friend group, and some are more solitary.
/r/RedPillWives03/02/22 04:38 PM
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Also interested in answers lol. It’s hard. Most women I know are not red pill or conservative or anything I am. I just suffer through the things they say that I really don’t agree with and avoid saying many RP things, because otherwise I basically wouldn’t have friends.
/r/RedPillWives03/02/22 04:22 PM
3

Spotting isn’t a pregnancy symptom. Even if conception is successful, you still need to wait for implantation to know if you are pregnant. Implantation happens about 8-9 days after ovulation. Also, there are only about 3 days a month you are actually capable of successfully conceiving.
/r/RedPillWives22/01/22 11:39 PM
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Thinking about unlived lives. Thinking about a guy I was friends with/starting to date right before I met my husband. Looked him up online recently and saw some photos, which got me wondering about him. I miss my life back then (different city), and I regret the way things transpired between us. I am not saying that I wish I would have married him (most likely not), but I clicked with him and liked having him as a friend in that city. I cut ties rather ungracefully once I met my husband.
/r/RedPillWives22/01/22 10:55 PM
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FWIW, you really aren’t pregnant until the embryo implants and then, a few days later, if you miss your next period. Spotting, if anything, more signals that you aren’t pregnant. It’s not a normal symptom of pregnancy. You will have no idea if you are pregnant until ~2 weeks after ovulation. Did you have sex during your fertile window? Even if you did, there is less than 30% chance you could have gotten pregnant.
/r/RedPillWives22/01/22 10:39 PM
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