OkReality9244 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Women are awful in relationships; Men need to be given more advice for it Yes	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/11/25 03:30 PM
1	Women are awful in relationships; Men need to be given more advice for it I believe people are just people. We are complex and full of emotion that is what makes us human. And I recognize your sarcasm but the irony is, yes I do think all humans are angry. Everyone gets angry and it is a valid emotion. Now I don’t think that anger is an excuse to be violent or hurt people but there is nothing wrong with the emotion itself. Anyone who is so uncomfortable with feeling emotions or the people in their lives feeling emotions should honestly try going to therapy so they can …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/25 03:15 PM
6	Women are awful in relationships; Men need to be given more advice for it How do you create abundance? I fundamentally disagree that as a society at large women are seen as good - I think they are usually seen as just people. And that woman being “emotional” is “playing the victim” I think that does happen some of the time but there is also nothing wrong with being emotional, all humans are emotional. So on these points we can just agree to disagree.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/25 07:54 AM
8	Women are awful in relationships; Men need to be given more advice for it Sure if you have only ever seen negative relationships through out your life it can be hard. I would say to answer your question on how a guy can learn to respect himself is by finding real friends he can talk to about his relationship with, attending therapy, engaging in activities that make him feel good about himself. I am wondering what your solution to this problem is? I also hope that you consider that not all women are like the ones you’ve described above. In my experience these situation…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/25 07:35 AM
19	Women are awful in relationships; Men need to be given more advice for it Yeah to an extent I agree with you, you cannot control how other people treat you. However you can control how you respond to it. If your partner is truly making your life miserable and especially if they are verbally or physically abusing you, you should leave the relationship. Staying because “you finally got the girl” does show a low level of self respect and confidence.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/25 06:51 AM
24	Women are awful in relationships; Men need to be given more advice for it Because if you are being treated poorly in a relationship the way the op describes self respect would be ending the relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/25 06:26 AM
1	Women associating the male loneliness epidemic with violence is just a smoke screen, and tactic use to shame men back into adhering to traditional masculinity. So in terms of the trades there is a lot of sexism that happens in them which discourages women from entering them, I agree this is getting better but it still discourages a lot of women from obtaining these types of jobs. In regards to there being no advantage for men this is easily disproven when looking at a career such as education. Majority of teachers are women however, the majority of admin staff and above are men. There are many factors that lead to this - inherent professional bias towa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/25 08:38 PM
3	Women associating the male loneliness epidemic with violence is just a smoke screen, and tactic use to shame men back into adhering to traditional masculinity. These situations have nuance, it is not all or nothing. Women are obtaining higher education more than men now, while at the same time there is still a significant amount of workplace discrimination specifically in male dominated fields - most trades, engineering, medicine (other than nursing) etc. Furthermore, discrimination affects different women to different degrees, women of colour are less likely to obtain high paying jobs, and are at higher risk of violence, medical neglect leading to lif…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/25 06:15 AM
8	Marriage Is Clearly Illogical for Men Given The Statistics Do you have proof of this “truth” or is it simply another anecdote?	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/25 02:09 PM
12	Marriage Is Clearly Illogical for Men Given The Statistics You literally said marriages only work if the man is a better human. If you believe this is the case in your marriage you are looking down on your wife	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/25 02:03 PM
6	Marriage Is Clearly Illogical for Men Given The Statistics Umm if the woman makes more money the man wouldn’t lose all his money. You do realize that splitting assets in a divorce doesn’t just mean every man no matter the circumstances must give up half his pay cheque and women get everything. Splitting assets would be like splitting the sale of the house that the couple purchased together or one person buying the other out. Alimony really only takes place where there is a large financial discrepancy and where I live can only happen for a maximum of 3 y…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/25 02:02 PM
9	Feminists are just mad at TRP men for gaming the system that Feminism created What does the woman do during the divorce that drive a man to suicide? Is he responsible for reaching out to resources (family, friends, mental health supports) or is it solely the woman’s fault because she divorces him? Or is it about alimony/child support? Do men not have a say in getting married? If women should not marry them in the first place because there is the chance that one day they may divorce why is that responsibility not on men as well? Did she force him to get married? Men’s ment…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/25 04:20 AM
0	What are some negative habits/ traits that are commonly attributed to women that you actually feel is valid ? Just out of curiosity what is female psychology vs. Male psychology?	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/25 10:16 PM
2	How can a man not feel worse when he realizes that his girlfriend/wife behaves more restrictedly and less passionately with him than with her past partners? That’s your decision. I personally believe that people can grow and change and just because someone did something once does not mean they will do it again. Someone who had little respect for themselves at one point in their life has the ability to gain respect for themselves and not participate in damaging behaviours anymore.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/25 05:43 AM
4	How can a man not feel worse when he realizes that his girlfriend/wife behaves more restrictedly and less passionately with him than with her past partners? Okay fair enough. I admit it can effect our perceptions and preferences but I think it’s unfair to say it effects us all in the same way, and that the way it affects us is a negative one. For example, maybe a woman has been with a lot of men who haven’t shown her respect during sex and she matured and learned she deserved better then that and her new partner does show her respect. That woman would most likely view her partner in a very positive light because of this - potentially an even more po…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/25 05:37 AM
4	How can a man not feel worse when he realizes that his girlfriend/wife behaves more restrictedly and less passionately with him than with her past partners? How does it effect how she sees you? Do your previous sexual encounters effect how you are her?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/25 05:30 AM
5	How can a man not feel worse when he realizes that his girlfriend/wife behaves more restrictedly and less passionately with him than with her past partners? Why?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/25 05:22 AM
7	What's wrong with taking care of your kid? This is actually a great way to look at this issue. I do think that women who choose to be in the child’s life do need to step up and parent. I also believe there is a difference in giving a child up for adoption when they are born versus when they are 10, for example. I believe this because of the impact on the child. In terms of men, I totally understand that men want the choice to not have children and have access to the same choice that women have (in places where women have that choice). Th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/25 05:17 AM
4	How can a man not feel worse when he realizes that his girlfriend/wife behaves more restrictedly and less passionately with him than with her past partners? I mean if she’s making those types of posts on Reddit or any other social media then she’s not a very nice person and you deserve better then that. Yeah I’d she is choosing to have sex with you there is nothing to realistically be insecure about! No matter who the guy is if she is making that decision it’s because she wants to have sex with him. That’s exactly my point. It does not matter who or what she has done previously because she is choosing to have sex with him now.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/25 05:06 AM
5	All long-term relationships require the man to do whatever the woman wants After reading through your comments it sounds like it could be a couple of issues you are facing which are working in conjunction with one another. The type of women you are attracting/attracted to. If the common issue you are facing have to do with her wanting more access to your money or wanting more gifts etc… that could be a compatibility issue. On the other end maybe you could improve on your ability to compromise. Painting the house could be something to bend on a bit if it doesn’t really …	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/25 05:02 AM
6	How can a man not feel worse when he realizes that his girlfriend/wife behaves more restrictedly and less passionately with him than with her past partners? Is she telling you you’re not as impressive? If so she sounds like a bitch and nobody should put up with that. Or are you assuming she is thinking that because she has had sex previously? If it’s the latter then that does sound like insecurity and maybe that person should work on their self esteem.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/25 04:30 AM
–	Why do women compliment each other even when it's obvious the reality is different? This whole rant is lacking emotional intelligence. Yes sometimes tough love is necessary, but a key part of tough love is the love. Meaning you already have a relationship with this person, you are not doing it behind their back, and you are genuinely saying something to help them not because you want to bring women down a peg, gossip or any other reason somebody may trash talk another persons appearance.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/12/24 02:28 AM
–	Why do women compliment each other even when it's obvious the reality is different? How do you know that self improvement will come from mean comments and not give that person more insecurities and self doubt which often do not help us with self improvement? Also what exactly do you yourself gain from being mean? How does someone improving themselves benefit you in the slightest?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/24 07:08 PM
2	Do you think men are less attentive? Do you think this woman was wrong to decline her engagement due to her bf’s plan? Umm yeah. The only part of the wedding a guy has no say in is the dress.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/24 03:50 PM
7	Do you think men are less attentive? Do you think this woman was wrong to decline her engagement due to her bf’s plan? In my opinion both the proposal and wedding should be joint decisions. Whoever is proposing ultimately decides how it is done but they absolutely should take into account what their partner likes/wants and what they like/want. As for the wedding both should have equal say in planning the wedding	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/24 06:17 AM
8	How would you feel if the guy you're dating was much more romantically/sexually enthusiastic with his ex-girlfriend? The person in this situation could try therapy. This could help them work through the emotional investment to determine if this relationship is the relationship they want, can help them understand it is never a waste to have invested and leave if it no longer or never did work for them, and build the confidence to know that no matter what they are worth more then what they are receiving and will be okay on their own whether or not they find someone else	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/11/24 06:07 AM
1	Reddit is misandrist to an absurd degree. Not the person you are replying to but want to give my two cents. You can separate the fortunate from the unfortunate by making opportunities available to the unfortunate such as setting aside a certain number of seats for female students in male dominated industries, having more scholarships for marginalized communities and low income areas where the children would not have access to university or college otherwise, allowing for lower grade entries for students from marginalized backgrounds and…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/24 08:06 AM
1	Finances should not be forced to be divided during a divorce It is the way it is to unite and protect the individuals who have agreed to get married. For example, one partner works one stays home to raise the children and does not earn an income. They get divorced, the stay at home parent now has a years long gap in their resume and is unable to find work that provides a wage to care for themselves and their children, working parent pays child support if they have less then 50% custody (it’s not about time spent but the cost associated with raising childr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/24 07:53 PM
1	Redpill's agenda is all about rewiring nice guys to stop being the safety net for women Fair enough, luckily we don’t know each other! I feel the same way about you	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/10/24 02:03 PM
0	Redpill's agenda is all about rewiring nice guys to stop being the safety net for women Here’s a wild take, have you ever tried speaking to a woman? Maybe they know more about themselves then “red pilled” men do	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/10/24 06:06 AM
1	How would you react if your son was accused of SA, and he denied it? Sexually assaulted. I got the statistic from the organization that helps victims of sexual assault in my city. I work for this organization and know these statistics off the top of my head. I could look up a statistic that is more representative of all of North America if you would like.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/10/24 03:47 PM
3	How would you react if your son was accused of SA, and he denied it? This is actually not true as more then 80% of women have been sexually assaulted in their lifetime and more then 30% of men (I personally believe this number is higher but statistics are off on it because men are unfortunately less likely to come forward and most of this 30% is from childhood). It’s very common and it is very damaging to the person experiencing the trauma. Anyone can commit sexual assault and anyone can be sexually assaulted.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/10/24 06:13 AM
4	You can have everything working in your favor as a guy and be the better catch but the woman will still have the upper hand and likely flake Oh I didn’t get that at all from OPs post. I mean he did say women will flake at some point. But I don’t know if he means flake on a date last minute or end things cause they weren’t feeling it. Both women and men do toxic shit and no one likes being called out on it, so I don’t see that as a woman problem but a people problem.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/10/24 07:56 PM
8	You can have everything working in your favor as a guy and be the better catch but the woman will still have the upper hand and likely flake I’m honestly confused on what women should do to solve this issue and be held accountable? Should they date men they aren’t attracted to? I think most women admit that women get more matches on dating apps then men do, therefore acknowledging their privilege in dating. But I don’t see how not wanting to date someone you don’t like/aren’t attracted to makes women snow flakes who don’t want to be held accountable for their actions?	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/10/24 07:46 PM
1	Women's "double burden" and "second shift" is a hoax - and data disprove it Okay dude, this is why arguing with you is pointless. According to you men bring value with money, women don’t. And women doing unpaid labour is not valuable because there’s no dollar amount on it. I’m done with this. Good luck in your future and please offer my condolences to your poor wife/ future wife, she’s in for a hell of a marriage if you ever get married/are married.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/10/24 03:12 AM
1	Women's "double burden" and "second shift" is a hoax - and data disprove it So if women’s labour is for themselves and men therefore does not count towards something she does for men, wouldn’t that be the same for men who spend the money they make on themselves and their partners? Not to mention once again a majority of women work, therefore contribute financially. If the fact that they do not make as much money as there partners excludes this fact as being something they do for their partners wouldn’t the same logic conclude that because women do more domestic duties d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/10/24 02:57 AM
1	Women's "double burden" and "second shift" is a hoax - and data disprove it You seriously are a weirdo.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/24 11:28 PM
1	Women's "double burden" and "second shift" is a hoax - and data disprove it Hmm interesting I don’t really enjoy baby formula. It’s clear to me you don’t have children or if you do you don’t shop for the children. This may be a shocker to you but some kids can be quite picky and it’s still important they eat. Also variety isn’t what’s causing obesity 🙄 You are a weirdo if you think women don’t contribute more then their sexual organs. How about the fact that women also work in a majority of households, and the fact that as the data above shows contribute the same if not…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/24 05:08 PM
1	Women's "double burden" and "second shift" is a hoax - and data disprove it So you are sprinting through the grocery store 😂 that sounds hilarious. I would hate to shop in the same grocery store as you and be trampled by the weirdo sprinting through the store. It is more work, remembering everyone’s wants. Making sure you have a breakfast lunch and dinner everyone will like. Snacks for the kids etc.. on my own I get stuff to meal prep one meal for dinner for the week one lunch for the week and usually don’t eat breakfast, that is much easier to shop for. Either way the …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/24 01:36 PM
2	Women's "double burden" and "second shift" is a hoax - and data disprove it Are you sprinting through the grocery store picking up items like it’s a marathon? But you admit that it’s still work, that’s good cause that’s all I’m arguing. Your whole “men tough women weak so men better at everything” argument is honestly just laughable so I will not be responding to anymore of that. Just glad we agree that grocery shopping is labour.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/24 01:48 AM
3	Women's "double burden" and "second shift" is a hoax - and data disprove it I mean I guess, except that it’s more groceries meaning it takes more time. Either way whether it’s for one or for four it’s still work.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/10/24 06:34 PM
12	Women's "double burden" and "second shift" is a hoax - and data disprove it Do you enjoy grocery shopping for a family of 4? Do you not consider grocery shopping work? What about the budgeting and meal planning that takes place before the grocery shopping? Is that not work either?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/10/24 02:29 PM
8	Feminists talk about a glass ceiling preventing women from being President. I think that's BS Did you ever ask her if she experienced any of this? It could be that you simply do not notice it. And as others have said just because it doesn’t happen to one woman doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/09/24 09:06 PM
3	Paternity test is not fidelity test Those hospital standards are true for every hospital in North America, else where is a different story. I’m terms of paternity test to determine if the baby was switched in the hospital a maternity test with the mother would be just as effective in figuring this out.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/09/24 09:05 PM
1	The fight for Equality has become a weapon to sideline most men You’ve come in with no sources or numbers! I’ve read your comments and they are just your opinion, almost no fact! You have no counter for the actual facts I’m bringing. And I’ve said nothing about men at all, but somehow I’m a misandrist? Seems odd!	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/09/24 12:53 AM
1	The fight for Equality has become a weapon to sideline most men When I look it up it says the average is 15k. Yes it can be as long as 12k but in certain places like New York it can be anywhere from 35k - 50k. Plus you yourself said it’s 15k, but when that doesn’t work for you anymore all of a sudden it’s lower? Come on man I’m not that stupid. https://www.statista.com/statistics/718084/average-number-of-own-children-per-family/#:~:text=The%20typical%20American%20picture%20of,18%20per%20family%20in%201960. The average family has 1.9 children under the age of…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/09/24 12:37 AM
1	The fight for Equality has become a weapon to sideline most men When I look it up it says the average is 15k. Yes it can be as long as 12k but in certain places like New York it can be anywhere from 35k - 50k. Plus you yourself said it’s 15k, but when that doesn’t work for you anymore all of a sudden it’s lower? Come on man I’m not that stupid. https://www.statista.com/statistics/718084/average-number-of-own-children-per-family/#:~:text=The%20typical%20American%20picture%20of,18%20per%20family%20in%201960. The average family has 1.9 children under the age of…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/09/24 12:37 AM
2	The fight for Equality has become a weapon to sideline most men Okay let’s do some quick math and see if this is actually feasible for most families. The average household income in the US is $63,000 per year. The average private school tuition is 15k a year The average family has 2 children So 15x2 is nearly half the household income. And that doesn’t account for uniforms, books, the required electronics etc. Not to mention most people have mortgages, bills, groceries, car payments etc. So no it is not feasible for many families.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/09/24 12:08 AM
–	The fight for Equality has become a weapon to sideline most men I totally get that! I think a big factor that finances plays into is what you’ve said a secure lifestyle. If you yourself can afford a certain lifestyle it makes sense that you want a partner who can contribute to that not take away from it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/09/24 10:58 PM
1	The fight for Equality has become a weapon to sideline most men Where do you get your information from? I’m the US 37.9 million people live below the poverty line, that’s almost 12% of the population. And that doesn’t count the families that live just slightly above it, which if you know anything about income statistics would be around 15-20%. That’s as of 2022, and those numbers are climbing every year due to a poor economy and high cost of living. So no most families could not afford 13k a year per child for private education. My friend you are showing you…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/09/24 10:57 PM
–	The fight for Equality has become a weapon to sideline most men That’s totally fair! Everyone has a right to decide what their deal breakers are. I personally don’t equate the ability to make money with being a masculine man but to each their own.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/09/24 10:39 PM
1	The fight for Equality has become a weapon to sideline most men This is based on the assumption that people will for who their own quality of life (paying more in taxes) to support government institutions. It’s very clear when election time comes that people want both more and better services while simultaneously having less taxes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/09/24 10:28 PM
1	The fight for Equality has become a weapon to sideline most men I had no idea the vast majority of people were setting wages of mostly government funded jobs! I could have sworn that was the small amount of politicians, but I guess you proved me wrong 🙄. And the people who support paying female dominated industries their worth apparently are the minority? Weird I could have sworn progress was being made because of people advocating for themselves and support from others. It’s so weird cause I’ve spent the last 6 years learning about the history, the statisti…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/09/24 09:50 PM
–	The fight for Equality has become a weapon to sideline most men What percentage of hires are diversity hires? I would think that percentage is pretty small, considering the amount of women in male dominated industries is quite low, and it’s comical to suggest that all of that small number were not hired based on their own merit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/09/24 09:45 PM
2	The fight for Equality has become a weapon to sideline most men I think that most if not all of what you e said is silly and not based on fact. If you can provide some data to show how women haven’t earned their opportunities, or on teachers IQs, or that the “vast majority of people” believe men are more important then women, then maybe we can talk. But you don’t have those sources because they don’t exist. This is all your feelings none of it based on fact. Silly man 😋	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/09/24 05:08 PM
–	The fight for Equality has become a weapon to sideline most men Do you have any sources to back up that claim? From what I know/have learned men often have more opportunities, male dominated fields are higher paying and have a huge barrier to entry for women, often being hostile environments for them. And female dominated industries still promote men more then women, it’s a phenomenon known as the glass elevator, shoots them way to the top.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/09/24 03:14 PM
–	The fight for Equality has become a weapon to sideline most men Sorry women weren’t able to earn a wage. Is that better? Also since women entering the workforce their work has been undervalued, female dominated industries such as teaching, social work, nursing have always been underpaid. Women are equally important. It’s weird you think they are not. I can see there is no common ground we will come to because I believe women are equal, deserve the same opportunities and rights as men, and have the right to have preferences in dating just like men do.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/09/24 02:45 PM
–	The fight for Equality has become a weapon to sideline most men I don’t think that that is human nature, I think it’s more a response to societal situations. Historically women weren’t able to work therefore a man’s income was an important factor. I think that it takes time for our expectations around these things to catch up where we are with society. I do think that many women probably want a partner who earns around the same as them, but I think it’s a minority of women who insist he needs to make more. Either way I don’t really understand the problem wit…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/09/24 02:33 PM
–	The fight for Equality has become a weapon to sideline most men Are there any links? I would be interested to verify these studies. I also will say the OKcupid studies that were done only hold so much weight because it was only done on active members of OKcupid, that’s a relatively small sample size. Secondly I wonder if there are any current day studies, the newest date you have is 2017 which is 7 years ago makes me wonder if anything has changed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/09/24 02:18 PM
–	The fight for Equality has become a weapon to sideline most men I wonder how many successful women really won’t date men who don’t make more then them. That could be the case, it could be the other way around where men feel emasculated by their partner making more then them. It could also be that both of those situations are a minority and most people don’t care all that much as long as you have a job you are passionate about. Would be interesting to see some statistics. Either way I don’t think that this “problem” is what’s contributing to relationship issu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/09/24 02:06 PM
2	Even if the percentage of dangerous men is low, the chance of meeting him is high At least you are consistent	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/09/24 06:30 PM
5	Even if the percentage of dangerous men is low, the chance of meeting him is high Do you say the same thing when men get abused? What about when men get taken advantage of for their money? Or do you only victim blame women?	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/09/24 06:21 PM
2	Women: What is the truth about men's hobbies and quirkiness? I totally understand that, I’m sorry you are struggling with this right now. I know how lonely it can feel. I hope some of the comments here can help a bit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/09/24 01:45 PM
8	Women: What is the truth about men's hobbies and quirkiness? I agree it’s strange. I know I would feel pretty alone if my partner tuned out me talking about my interest or clearly didn’t care. I don’t have an answer for you because I don’t think it’s about changing who you are, what you like or settling for someone who doesn’t make you feel good and like you can be your whole self. The only thing I have noticed with both men and women I know is that those who are autistic or deeply identify with their neurodivergence (nothing wrong with either obviously) …	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/09/24 02:23 AM
1	Pro Life Men; if it were possible, would you raise the child alone Okay that makes a lot of sense. I agree with everything you said. Hopefully we can get there as a society and more people like you advocate for this problem that men face. Thanks for your response!	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/24 09:35 PM
1	Pro Life Men; if it were possible, would you raise the child alone Just out of curiosity how do men get more reproductive rights without infringing on women’s bodily autonomy? Not against men having these rights just wondering if you have any ideas on how and what kind of rights that looks like?	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/24 06:59 PM
3	Q4W: Do you hold your female friends accountable for how they treat good men in a relationship? Absolutely I hold my friends accountable for how they treat people, their bfs/husbands included. I want to surround myself with positive people who lift each other up, and when I see a friend treating someone poorly I talk to them about it. I don’t necessarily cut them off right away but depending on the situation I let them know that I don’t agree with their actions. I had a friend cheat on her partner, he is a great guy, when that was going on and I found out about it I told her it was wrong a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/24 03:37 AM
1	Paternity Test vs. Escape Fund A secret* escape fund is acceptable to me when one partner is displaying signs of abuse whether that be financial, emotional, or physical. I agree with a lot of the people on here that three separate accounts is just good financial advice, but I also agree with OPs comments that generally those accounts shouldn’t be a secret. On the same page as that; I think it’s fair to ask for a paternity test if your partner has cheated in the recent past, you’ve found other proof they’ve been cheating or yo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/24 03:15 AM
15	Lack of ‘Enthusiastic Consent’ is not Sufficient for Sexual Assault I agree asking in a non-threatening way isn’t coercion. Whining and asking multiple times/acting out, bitter or angry about not having sex I think is coercion. I think the sticky part of your scenario is the idea that the night would go more smoothly if he just gives in. This assumes that he has not relented in the past and has had negative consequences because of that. I would say that would be considered coercion. It’s the unspoken “if you don’t have sex with me I’m going to make you feel bad/…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/09/24 04:21 PM
0	Why is there such a significant disconnect between what many women say they want in a man and what they actually pursue? One of what posts? When I say short I’m talking 5’6 or shorter	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/09/24 02:00 PM
1	Why is there such a significant disconnect between what many women say they want in a man and what they actually pursue? I don’t know if you’ve ever been able to browse on of those groups but there are so many men on there that are not conventionally attractive. Lots of older, balding, short men. There are lots of conventionally attractive guys as well but I would say in the group I browse every once in a while it’s probably 60/40 attractive to not conventionally attractive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/09/24 04:41 AM
24	The me too movement was a moral panic that fundamentally overreached and caused new issues for regular men Teaching consent is condescending and ineffective? I don’t know the national statistics but I do know for the province I live in (I’m Canadian) and 45% of sexual assaults happen between teenagers aged 14-17. That is mostly a lack of education on consent/seeing that behaviour at home. Men get assaulted as well; and similarly to women being assaulted, often the perpetrator states it was a miscommunication, if that is to be believed then consent is very important to teach. How to stand up for yours…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/09/24 02:33 AM
3	Every woman is a gold digger… Did you know that 1 in 4 women will experience sexual assault in North America alone. This is much more common then “things that can happen, like dinosaurs”. Just because the women in your life haven’t confided in you about it doesn’t mean it hasn’t happened. And if it hasn’t happened to them, that’s so good, but it also doesn’t make it uncommon.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/09/24 09:20 PM
8	Declining birth rates can't be solved by government programs because beta males won't benefit from it That’s the most absurd thing I’ve ever heard. Where is your source on the 10 times more funding? If that is true it would be pretty easy to find. And right above this someone commented with actual sources proof of the opposite.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/08/24 02:43 PM
1	Debate: Men are forced to support women other than the ones that love them; the opposite is not true. Hutterite communities in Canada are sovereign citizens, as well as Mennonite’s and other communities of the sort. Quora is not a good place to seek information. So it would take to long to accurately look into why women only pay 43% of taxes, which apparently isn’t enough, so instead we will just say they “under pay” and are only paying for themselves. This is absurd. Who do you think set up the system in which women had to fight for the right to work and pay taxes? Guess what it wasn’t women? Y…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/24 09:55 PM
2	Debate: Men are forced to support women other than the ones that love them; the opposite is not true. There’s this cool thing called becoming a sovereign citizen in Canada. I’m sure there is something similar in the us. Don’t consent to your government taking taxes from you? Cool apply to be a sovereign citizen and you don’t have to pay taxes anymore, but you also have no access to government funded programs nor can you work within the government. Another option for you, go live in the woods where you will never have to see a woman again. And if you do you can get on all fours gollum style and h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/08/24 02:30 PM
3	At point would you acknowledge a man's efforts are sufficient and the environment he is in is the issue? Lol if this is true that makes all men desperate, and a John? But what if I pay for dinner when me and my bf go out and then we go home and have sex now he’s the prostitute and I’m the John? I swore it was just a relationship based on trust, love and respect but I guess one of us is always paying for sex. Wait what if we just watch tv don’t spend any money and then have sex? Who’s the prostitute in this situation? I’m so confused lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/08/24 07:59 PM
4	Civil marriage should be harder to obtain But even if these people didn’t get married they would still break up and if they had kids there would still be collateral damage. How does making it harder to get married stop any of those things?	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/24 06:36 AM
1	You have heard about "Not like other Girls". Can we talk about "Not Like other boys"? Abuse is quite common in the industry, there are more dangers then just death. I’m not back tracking it is up to her. I would be concerned in the same way as I would if I had a child that was a miner, farmer, firefighter, police officer or any other career that has dangers associated with it. Your lack of education on the subject does not mean I’m back pedalling. I can tell you exactly how I would handle it. I would ask them questions about it, I would ask how they are protecting themself, I wou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/24 02:32 AM
1	You have heard about "Not like other Girls". Can we talk about "Not Like other boys"? It’s the most extreme version because it is not sex for purely enjoyment. Extreme does not mean bad. It simply means the most or among the most intense in comparison to other things similar. I do fully support sex work and sex workers, with that being said we can not deny the dangers of that work. If I had a daughter participating in sex work I would have concerns for her safety and health. But at the end of the day I would support and love my child no matter what their career was or who they sl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/24 01:54 AM
2	You have heard about "Not like other Girls". Can we talk about "Not Like other boys"? It would be her choice. My feelings on it don’t really matter it’s not my body nor my life. With that being said you did really take it to the most extreme version. Somebody enjoying having sex and therefore having lots of it does not equate to being a porn star. Either way the facts remain every adult has the right to live their life the way they choose and sex work is still work and isn’t more shameful then other types of work.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/24 01:49 AM
1	You have heard about "Not like other Girls". Can we talk about "Not Like other boys"? I get the reaction but I don’t think it’s actually true. Most men aren’t perverts, some men are perverts and so are some women. Men are more commonly found to be perverts because of the power they have in society, especially historically, that allows them to act on their perversions. This is changing and we can see that when looking at media and the shift in reaction to teachers who are women engaging in sexual activity with their students. Previously this was not taken as seriously as the rever…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/24 11:36 PM
3	You have heard about "Not like other Girls". Can we talk about "Not Like other boys"? Anyone who thinks they have the right to decide what their children’s sexual experiences will be is a weirdo. But super good logic my dude! Really proved me wrong 😂	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/24 11:24 PM
7	You have heard about "Not like other Girls". Can we talk about "Not Like other boys"? Woah man, it’s not his choice what his daughter does with her body. There is no “allow” once your child is old enough.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/24 11:14 PM
7	You have heard about "Not like other Girls". Can we talk about "Not Like other boys"? I feel the same, that’s the only one I disagree with. But also the brackets following “most men are pigs/pervs” the “oh and you’re not?” Is weird because I don’t agree most men are pigs and perverts	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/24 10:36 PM
10	Marriage is not a requirement anymore and you don’t need to do it if you’re not fully committed to the whole thing Prepare for the worst hope for the best. You don’t know what the furtive will bring and it is better and cheaper to decide on the details of the finances in the event of a divorce while you care and love about each other. The alternative is paying lawyers thousands more dollars to fight with each other after you’ve fallen out of love and potentially hold resentment against one another.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/24 05:10 PM
3	At what point is the lack of experience becomes a red flag and what to do about it? I stand by honesty, if he’s honest about why he’s not experienced then I would see that as respectful and vulnerable which I find attractive. Might turn off some women but those aren’t the women for him.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/24 06:00 PM
1	If there is "someone for everyone out there" how do so many men struggle to find one (1) woman that likes them back? Have you ever considered that I won’t fuck a man who would fuck a chicken sandwich or car exhaust? Those aren’t the men I’m flirting with	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/24 05:57 PM
2	If there is "someone for everyone out there" how do so many men struggle to find one (1) woman that likes them back? Weird cause I’m in a happy relationship with an amazing guy and you’re single advertising you are looking on your Reddit flair. I’m pretty sure it’s you who is desperate. Sis.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/24 05:55 PM
2	If there is "someone for everyone out there" how do so many men struggle to find one (1) woman that likes them back? Did you ever consider that I liked these men for more then their dicks or their money? Dick maybe abundant but I don’t like just any dick. I want men with good character, who are sweet and genuine and kind. When I meet men that I like meaning their personality I am going to flirt with them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/24 05:51 PM
2	If there is "someone for everyone out there" how do so many men struggle to find one (1) woman that likes them back? How?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/24 05:47 PM
2	If there is "someone for everyone out there" how do so many men struggle to find one (1) woman that likes them back? Maybe that’s just you though? Maybe that’s just the women you interact with? I’ve flirted with many men first because I liked them. Sometimes I got turned down, sometimes we hooked up, and sometimes we dated for while. From what I’ve seen both online and in real life my experience is much more normal then yours.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/24 05:46 PM
2	If there is "someone for everyone out there" how do so many men struggle to find one (1) woman that likes them back? But women who just flirt aren’t desperate? Just the ones who do it a little too intensely?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/24 05:43 PM
3	If there is "someone for everyone out there" how do so many men struggle to find one (1) woman that likes them back? Wow I love how women always are either desperate or have ulterior motives like stealing all your hard earned money. This explains why your flair says looking for gf not I have a gf.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/24 05:36 PM
5	If there is "someone for everyone out there" how do so many men struggle to find one (1) woman that likes them back? You crazy man! Men on this sub cry that “women never initiate/ flirt / go up to men in bars etc..” but then there’s also men who claim women who do these things are manipulative! Between your comments and flair I’m guessing you’re a troll lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/24 05:32 PM
1	Passport bros are a symptom of a problem men did not create What an awful thing to say.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/24 01:31 PM
–	"Men need to treat us like human beings " is deceptive Your last sentence is the opposite of what I said though. I don’t expect to be treated a certain way, meaning every man I walk past doesn’t have to look me in the eye and smile, and neither do I. I do not treat men differently then I want to be treated.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/24 10:48 PM
0	Short version: Men are not slobs. Husbands are not slobs. Yes I agree with this. It’s not a lazy men epidemic. I think this problem comes down more to societal expectation and collective views on work, chores, and child rearing that has not caught up to where we are actually at in society.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/24 04:36 PM
0	Short version: Men are not slobs. Husbands are not slobs. No it obviously can’t be 50/50 across the board. It will change and should often within the context of a relationship. You have a busy week at work I pick up the slack on the housework and vice versa. And many relationships are moving this way. It’s also becoming less and less true that men are the breadwinners, there are increasingly more relationships where women out-earn their partners. Statistically even in the relationships where women are the bread winners they still contribute on average …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/24 04:34 PM
1	Short version: Men are not slobs. Husbands are not slobs. Absolutely it does, every relationship is unique and I personally believe it’s very rare for relationship breakdowns to only happen on one side	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/24 04:28 PM
2	Short version: Men are not slobs. Husbands are not slobs. Woah I didn’t say anything about cheating? Obviously anyone can cheat regardless of gender.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/24 03:49 PM
0	Short version: Men are not slobs. Husbands are not slobs. Obviously it’s not only men to blame. Relationships break down for a lot of reasons and it’s often two sided. But we can’t ignore the division of labour either and how this affects both genders in more traditional relationships. It’s not an attack on men to say in traditional relationships generally women do more of the home care, child rearing, and meal preparation even when both parties are working, which can be a factor in the breakdown of some relationships.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/24 03:43 PM
1	Short version: Men are not slobs. Husbands are not slobs. I mean sure, but I don’t get the point of bringing that up here?	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/24 03:25 PM
1	Dating apps and social media give women an extreme power imbalance in relationships They need to have an above average personality to the person their dating. People are different and like different things. An example is I really don’t enjoy talking about sports, so I am not attracted to most guys who are really really into sports. My friend thinks it’s kinda hot when a guy goes on and on about sports. Or my boyfriend is an introvert who would rather stay home and play video games then go out on the weekend. I like this about him, I like staying in and playing video games too. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/24 02:53 PM
–	"Men need to treat us like human beings " is deceptive I do most of what you’ve asked. I have many friends who I am not attracted to but I love them and I enjoy listening to them talk about their lives. Do I make eye contact with every single man I ever come across when I’m out in the world, no, but I don’t expect that from random men either. But that’s not something I see as treating someone as a human being. It’s about context if I’m in the grocery store alone I’m not paying attention to the other people I’m just shopping, if I’m starting a new jo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/24 02:43 PM
1	Dating apps and social media give women an extreme power imbalance in relationships I know for me no amount of “good looks” can make up for a shit personality. Why is it a problem that positive qualities are a must have in a relationship? It also goes both ways, yes attractive people generally have more room to be kind a crappy and still find partners. But this applies to both men’s and women not just men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/24 05:57 AM
–	"Men need to treat us like human beings " is deceptive By respect I personally mean I don’t want to be treated like an object. I don’t want to be stared at when I work out, I don’t want to be ridiculed for not having sex with someone even if I’ve chosen to go on a date with them. I don’t want my only value in a mama life to be my sexual appeal to them. I want to be seen as a whole complex person. I want to be heard and listened to, I want my hobbies and interests to be appreciated by my partner. Now obviously not every man acts this way, the men I c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/24 05:34 AM
7	Virtually 0 women get in trouble for sexual misconduct This is definitely a problem although one that I think is improving. The hope is to dispel toxic beliefs that men can’t face sexual assault, and or have negative feelings about sexual encounters they’ve had. There unfortunately is no justice for men or women who have been assaulted unless the victim reports the crime so reducing stigma around it encourages more men to speak about their experiences. Where I do see change is the amount of men who are coming forward is rising where I live, and ther…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 09:16 PM
–	q4w: what is your desired outcome of your relationship before entering a relationship? Marriage yes, but again if one or both of us is unhappy in the relationship beyond repair I am okay with divorce. Kids no. I am in a relationship and my partner and I have decided not to have kids. If I was single I would be open to kids.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 06:22 PM
–	q4w: what is your desired outcome of your relationship before entering a relationship? My desired outcome is to be in a happy, healthy, loving relationship for as long as we are both happy. That’s all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 05:39 PM
2	Doesn't it seem counter-intuitive that women are generally against "red pilled" mentalities? But I haven’t seen any gaslighting? What comments have been gaslighting you? People who disagree with you aren’t just gaslighting you. And there are a ton of cohesive comments that use logical reasoning.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 04:12 PM
5	Doesn't it seem counter-intuitive that women are generally against "red pilled" mentalities? Lots of people have answered the question including many women. This is just the answer you like because there is no accountability. Women have told why women don’t like red pill mentality but you ignore them and claim they are gaslighting you instead of actually trying to understand what they are saying.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 04:09 PM
1	CMV: if he doesn't fight for you when you break up, he's not the one Cool so you have no point? Cause I addressed what you said	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 02:28 PM
1	CMV: if he doesn't fight for you when you break up, he's not the one You don’t know that she doesn’t know and again if she doesn’t she does have the responsibility to talk to him about it. He very well could be going on his day not realizing his partner feels this way. Lots of people need to practice communication. Can you explain how breaking up with someone as a test for how much they are into you is better communication then “hey I’ve been feeling a little overlooked lately, maybe we can talk about it and work on ways that we can better show each other our lov…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 02:27 PM
2	CMV: if he doesn't fight for you when you break up, he's not the one I mean no is no. It sounds like the kind of man she wants is someone who ignores no. “I will do better give me another chance” isn’t better, if you can do better how come you didn’t do better before this, how come you didn’t demonstrate progress on the issue, maybe I don’t want to wait for you to do better it is too much of a problem now. As others have said though, you play stupid games you win stupid prizes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 02:19 PM
1	CMV: if he doesn't fight for you when you break up, he's not the one I didn’t think that’s what he was trying to communicate at all. He said it should be clear to her how he feels about her. Not clear to you. And hopefully if it’s not clear to her they can talk about like adults	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 02:15 PM
1	Why are male celebrities so succesful when it comes to attracting young women with a massive age gap? Yeah that’s fair, I imagine it’s both to extent. Our conditioning, the other people around us, and some we come by naturally.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 02:00 PM
1	Are men the employer or employee of relationships? I hear you, dating is a rough game for lots of folks. I’m glad you are happy! 😊	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 06:47 AM
1	Are men the employer or employee of relationships? Here’s my thing, the odds may be against you being happily married forever, but they aren’t against you being happily in a relationship for a while. Relationships are hard work with lots of listening, empathy and compromise. The point I was originally making wasn’t that every marriage works or lasts , clearly this is not true. What I am saying is if you aren’t being treated right in your relationship leave it. There’s better out there, you may find someone who loves you in a way that makes you f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 06:36 AM
1	Are men the employer or employee of relationships? Again you have no way of know the dynamics of those couples. For all you know the majority of the 50% getting divorced are all in transactional relationships and the other 50% are average people in average relationships. And again just because people divorce doesn’t mean they were never happy in their relationships (also many of them were probably average and managed to find people to marry them). There’s waaay more average in this world then “chads” and most of them have been in or are currentl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 06:24 AM
7	CMV: the gas lighting needs to stop This guys asked for actionable advice, every comment of a women giving the vague “improve yourself advice” is gaslighting him according to the comments. And then someone gives him some actionable advice from their interpretation of him from the post he made (the only data we have to go on) and she’s wrong too? What kind of advice do you think OP wants?	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 06:04 AM
3	CMV: the gas lighting needs to stop How do you want to see this issue improved on?	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 05:54 AM
1	CMV: if he doesn't fight for you when you break up, he's not the one You’re not in a relationship with him, I assume, so why would you?	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 05:48 AM
1	What positions on here do you believe are fringe or not representative of the real world? I think the thing is tall isn’t that important. Some people really value it, lots care a lot less. Maybe you need to diversify your social group, try new things or engage in your hobbies in different places with different people. You sound like a nice guy you’ll find your person eventually! It takes time and dating is not easy for most people. Just keep being you and you’ll attract the right people	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 05:36 AM
1	What positions on here do you believe are fringe or not representative of the real world? Whatever makes you you! Your personality, hobbies, interests, passions! It’s attractive to see someone passionate about something, it’s interesting to listen to someone’s interests! You won’t attract every person this way and some maybe many even might find this stuff boring about you but why would you want to be with someone who finds your passions boring? The right people will be attracted to it!	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 05:34 AM
5	Traditional relationships are not the nightmare for women that people make them out to be. I think the problem is men had the choice to leave if they wanted but women couldn’t. Nothing wrong with a man working and a woman staying home if that’s the relationship that both parties agree on. But historically it was a major power imbalance for women because they had no access to money therefore no agency to leave. Even in serious cases where abuse was taking place many women had to stick it out because there were no other options. This can still happen but there is generally more help ava…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 05:22 AM
3	Why are male celebrities so succesful when it comes to attracting young women with a massive age gap? I don’t disagree with this. Personality is a huge factor, looks are important, money can be important (more for some less for others) but financial literacy and security is attractive in both men and women in my opinion, status maybe important for some and not others. But I feel if you add in hobbies and interests you’ve just described everything that makes a person who they are. What else are you really supposed to base attraction off of?	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 05:00 AM
4	CMV: if he doesn't fight for you when you break up, he's not the one Strong disagree. Does he show his commitment for you in a relationship? Cool he’s committed. This type of test is immature and people with self respect will be sad of course if you end the relationship, may want to talk about why or look for some closure but generally will respect your right to leave. Don’t do this.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 04:55 AM
-1	CMV: the gas lighting needs to stop It’s really silly to me that men get mad on here that women want a partner they are attracted to but feel totally cool saying that they want partner they are attracted to. Isn’t this a double standard. Women shouldn’t want to be attracted to their partners but men have the right to have preferences.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 04:35 AM
1	Are men the employer or employee of relationships? Okay… so find replace for men’s attractiveness. Everything else I said still stands. Whether it’s attractiveness, wealth or status. You have no way of knowing how happy couples are that you don’t know.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 12:58 AM
1	Sex cannot simultaneously be a privilege for women while also having negative social and physical consequences. I do think it is a privilege that many (not all) women have relatively easy access to sex. But just because something is a privilege doesn’t mean there aren’t drawbacks (whether fair or not). For example driving a car is a privilege but the draw backs of it are you have to pay for and maintain a car. Positives of sex are - pleasure (if you are not receiving pleasure from sex I would suggest speaking to a dr. Could be a medical issue, or finding better people to have sex with) connection, love, i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 11:06 PM
2	"Even if I Got a Girlfriend, She'll Always Want Someone Else" - Is This An Example of Low Self Esteem/Insecurity? You find it hard to believe that men cheat? Talk about bias. Anyone of any gender cheats. It’s not a gender issue it’s a people issue.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 10:05 PM
2	Are men the employer or employee of relationships? Haha I’m sure! And memes are always true!	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 08:15 PM
1	Are men the employer or employee of relationships? Of course they aren’t are real. Extreme stories can be fake. But women like sex is not an extreme take, why do you think sex toy companies market to women. If women hated sex vibrators, dildos etc.. would not exist	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 08:14 PM
2	"Even if I Got a Girlfriend, She'll Always Want Someone Else" - Is This An Example of Low Self Esteem/Insecurity? “Men would behave the same way if they had the same leverage as women when it comes to dating” Men DO behave the same way. And not just the top “chads”	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 07:07 PM
2	Are men the employer or employee of relationships? There some truth to that absolutely! Women also hold the toxic idea that men shouldn’t show emotion in that way and it does lead to men feeling like they can’t show their emotions in healthy ways which leads to resentment and being bitter. It’s a complex issue for sure. My stance on it is women need to do better and men need to do better. We are all complex humans who deserve empathy and understanding and there’s not nearly enough of it in this world. The “gender wars” don’t help the problems bu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 06:56 PM
7	The overwhelming majority of people bitching about or even paying attention to “age gap” relationships are undesirable women and virtue signaling men It makes young women uncomfortable. I’ve worked in the service industry before and the people most likely to touch inappropriately or try to engage you in inappropriate conversation are older men who find you attractive. It makes young women uncomfortable especially when they are just trying to live their lives and don’t want to be touched by older men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 06:46 PM
1	Are men the employer or employee of relationships? My friends who are men are quite vulnerable with me. They have discussed when they’ve been hurt by women with me. And they’ve had some pretty shitty encounters with some pretty shitty women. But they understand that it was that woman not every woman. And I’m general think of women and treat women as people. I’m not into the toxic idea that men shouldn’t cry or feel sad, hurt etc… I’ve been a shoulder for many of my guy friends and it’s never made me look at any of them differently, I would say i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 06:36 PM
1	Are men the employer or employee of relationships? Yeah and how do you know whether or not the couples who don’t fit the hot woman and Chad stereotypes are happy? We can talk about divorce rates but that doesn’t differentiate between the transactional relationships that are often discussed here and every other relationship. The former, I would assume doesn’t end in happily ever after super often but I don’t have any source to back that up so I can’t confidently make that claim. But the reality is relationships are hard and lots do fail but that …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 06:33 PM
2	Are men the employer or employee of relationships? There may be some truth in that in the very beginning of dating. Although to be anecdotal, I have not seen this. Myself and my friends have dated many average men, and I would say that most of us are average women. But once in a serious relationship both men and women need more then being pleasant and average looking. It takes work on both ends, compromise, empathy, compassion, love. Those should be staples and then you get more personal for me that looks like passion in their hobbies or career,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 04:01 PM
-1	Are men the employer or employee of relationships? You mean the state of bitter men. The men I know who struggle with women have some complex similar to the red pill guys on here. The average men I know who do well with women don’t carry that same contempt for women, have friends who are women, and treat women like people.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 03:50 PM
2	Are men the employer or employee of relationships? Haha this is my favourite thing about this sub! Anytime someone makes a point that’s not super red pill the red pillers come out screaming liar. 😂 I’m a woman, I’m in a relationship with a man and I love sex. I even…. Masturbate gasp* all the time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 03:12 PM
1	Are men the employer or employee of relationships? What is the value that all women can provide versus the value women look for in men?	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 03:09 PM
3	Are men the employer or employee of relationships? Isn’t it ironic that these “average” men who can’t get any women can’t use introspection either. The case for me is that I’ve always liked the nerdy introvert guy, I’ve dated lots of them. I’ve been broken up with by some, I’ve been rejected by some. But these guys were not the guys who always had women around them or talking to women all the time. Some of them struggled with women more then others. But I’m below 35 and I’m in a serious relationship with a guy who many would consider average. It…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 03:07 PM
2	Are men the employer or employee of relationships? I can see how family courts would’ve been considered an issue in the past and maybe still is in other countries but in North America this is not the case anymore. About 90% of custody cases are dealt with privately outside of the courts, the other 10% are overwhelming shared custody. I don’t understand how the rest women hold systemic power? The top earning degrees are still held by men despite women having a large presence in universities Women struggle to receive promotions in male dominated f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 03:02 PM
1	Are men the employer or employee of relationships? No of course not, find a partner who values you. Empathetic, kind women exist who care more about looks and money. Be genuine and you get genuine people back, don’t put other peoples appearance on a pedestal and you’ll find people who don’t care as much about looks. There are millions of couples in this world you can’t seriously believe that all of those millions are the absolute best looking wealthiest men out there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 02:54 PM
0	Are men the employer or employee of relationships? How can you confidently say that? You don’t even know me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 02:51 PM
1	Are men the employer or employee of relationships? What a bizarre thing to say. I have lots of guy friends they are varying attractiveness, jobs, hobbies etc.. I would say that my partner is a pretty average guy. He’s 5’7”, I think he’s handsome but I’ve heard people disagree, he’s in school, doesn’t have a lot of money. If he listened to this sub he would probably think I was going to leave him the second I found someone “better”. But he’s confident and knows that there’s no one “better” for me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 02:50 PM
-5	Are men the employer or employee of relationships? I don’t know about that. I know many average men who have many options	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 05:23 AM
0	Are men the employer or employee of relationships? So doesn’t the analogy break down right there. We can’t ascribe women employers and men employees in relationships if both are easily replaceable. There are women who don’t have very many options just as there are men and vice versa.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 05:21 AM
-2	Are men the employer or employee of relationships? But can’t women also easily be replaced?	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 05:18 AM
2	Are men the employer or employee of relationships? What systemic power? I’ve also never felt I’m the gatekeeper of sex or relationships. I’ve been broken up with by men I’ve really liked. I’ve been rejected for sex with men I thought were attractive. I’ve seen both of these happen to all my friends.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 05:17 AM
6	Are men the employer or employee of relationships? Women should add value to men’s lives as well. Value is not always monetary. Does he or she make you laugh, give you love, make you feel special. No matter gender everyone deserves these things in a relationship	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 05:16 AM
9	Are men the employer or employee of relationships? Women don’t hate sex. I am a woman and I love having sex. I have many friends who are women and oh my do they rave about their sex lives.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 05:14 AM
8	Are men the employer or employee of relationships? If this is the case for you you should leave that relationship. Both people should get something out of the relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 05:13 AM
–	Dating apps and social media give women an extreme power imbalance in relationships Yeah of course that happens. I don’t deny that being attractive gives a lot of advantage in dating I’m just saying that being average or below is not the only reason some men struggle with dating. Myself and many women I know have dated many men that this sub would say are the types of guys to not get a lot of dates. what makes them appealing to women is that they are genuine, kind, passionate etc.. in fact my current partner is 5’7” and is verging bald and he has been with more women than I’ve …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/24 12:20 AM
–	Dating apps and social media give women an extreme power imbalance in relationships Look at you pulling statistics out of your ass. More men in America are overweight then women. And it’s actually more like 30% of women are overweight in America. https://www.niddk.nih.gov/health-information/health-statistics/overweight-obesity#:~:text=Adults,-Age%2Dadjusted%20percentage&text=the%20above%20table-,Nearly%201%20in%203%20adults%20(30.7%25)%20are%20overweight.,obesity%20(including%20severe%20obesity). I’d love to see your source but you probably don’t have one	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/24 08:45 PM
–	Dating apps and social media give women an extreme power imbalance in relationships Your poor child.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/24 08:42 PM
3	Dating apps and social media give women an extreme power imbalance in relationships You’re a douche and also wrong	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/24 07:51 PM
2	Dating apps and social media give women an extreme power imbalance in relationships It’s ridiculous. It sounds like you are stuck in the 50s my guy. Have fun never learning and never finding a woman to date you ✌️	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/24 07:50 PM
6	Dating apps and social media give women an extreme power imbalance in relationships You are blanket statement if women as if we are not complex human beings. You can’t say women are “cowards” because so many women aren’t and participate in the same “fighting as men” and there are men who are cowardly too. It’s ridicule and you have no proof of any of it. You are bitter that women see through your “nice guy” facade and don’t want to date you but instead of looking inwards and seeing why that may be you just blame women and dating apps.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/24 07:47 PM
3	Dating apps and social media give women an extreme power imbalance in relationships Not every woman is a liar. And men lie too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/24 07:45 PM
3	Dating apps and social media give women an extreme power imbalance in relationships Do you have proof of this? I know sooo many people who don’t have sex within the first 3 dates. Most of my friends who are women have slept with between 2-6 people and a majority of them have been long term partners. So don’t give me “everyone I know does this so it’s true” bullshit cause I can bring anecdotal evidence right back to you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/24 07:39 PM
10	Dating apps and social media give women an extreme power imbalance in relationships Oh trust me women can tell when a man is a misogynist douche. You are saying the quiet part out loud here but I guarantee if you feel these things you don’t treat women all that nicely in person	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/24 07:37 PM
–	Dating apps and social media give women an extreme power imbalance in relationships This is why you struggle on dating apps. It’s not women, it’s not the “chads” it’s you. I have never met a women who would date a man who says shit like that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/24 07:34 PM
11	Dating apps and social media give women an extreme power imbalance in relationships I didn’t know that if you had sex in the first 6 months that means starting with sex. If that’s the standard fine then yes a lot of relationships “start with sex”. But to take your original statement at face value some relationships start as hooking up and some relationships do not start that way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/24 07:33 PM
–	Dating apps and social media give women an extreme power imbalance in relationships I feel like the problem isn’t that dating apps. It’s that men who speak like you want to sleep/date women yet speak about them in such a derogatory manner. No self respecting woman would choose to be with someone who speaks like this about them. That’s why these men can’t find dates not because they are “ugly”	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/24 07:23 PM
–	Dating apps and social media give women an extreme power imbalance in relationships Do you have proof of this?	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/24 07:05 PM
–	Women who have been promiscuous in the past, how do you expect men to take you serious? Oh my you are not a nice person! I imagine someone with this attitude would have trouble finding a partner regardless of their past	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/24 04:06 AM
1	A question on consent culture? I explained to you what red looks like to ME. So can you describe what people now a days in your culture means to you versus the ideal utopian way people should act to you? Your inability to coherently explain anything shows you have no depth of understanding on this topic	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/24 02:46 AM
1	A question on consent culture? I have not. And if I did I would say don’t say no unless you mean no because if you say no to me I will stop	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/24 02:15 AM
2	A question on consent culture? Red is a bright warm colour to me, I would say it is hot often but sometimes more dull. Reminds me of a flower often or maybe fire. There I just described what the colour red looks like to me. Now describe what people today are to you	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/24 02:08 AM
7	Calling men who you disagree with "Weird" is A Toxic Femininity But but weird is not a term to only describe men. And they didn’t even say men in their comment. Men can be weird, women can be weird, children can be weird, hell my cats are weird. And your obsession with the mongo guy is weird lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/24 01:20 AM
0	Passport bros are a symptom of a problem men did not create This is why PPB have a bad name. Because in your list of unattractive attributes is feminist. Yes how dare a woman think she is equal to a man. Awful.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/24 12:43 AM