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Ive been with one. Yeah, they held out for a relationship and not sex. But you know what the side effect of waiting for actual committment does to a woman with high or even just regular libido? I dont think I need to spell it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 06:09 PM
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Thats why you talk and initiate physical touch thats subtly sexual in nature during the getting to know phase. Gauge their libido, basically. There are lots of high libido women who only have sex in relationships, and theyre pretty rabid about it too because theyve been holding out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 04:26 PM
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Yes. Theyre the women I also wanna fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 02:59 PM
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Well, if the woman is the same as the man I described, then intimacy happens in a relationship because thats what both wants. There is no "quick" or "waiting" since it happens after exclusivity, meaning theres already a built in "waiting" time, making the woman the man wants for a GF and who he wants to fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 03:46 AM
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Those things can be in one woman if the man in question never did casual or was previously promiscuous despite being high libido, and if they can find a woman similar to them as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 08:19 PM
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At least we almost always have a high and consistent sexual desire across all our partners unlike y'all.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 04:46 AM
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I do. And I think women align or reject narratives when it suits them, and that they love to do mental gymnastics to justify why their sexual desire is selective. And often are highest with the wrong typed of people or randos.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 05:44 PM
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They sure like to put themselves there when it suits them lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 05:37 PM
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Couldve fooled me, seeing how things often are. And sure, not all. But most, I feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:47 PM
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Right, though I feel like a long ass vetting time would detract most, but I guess some play the long game.. Well, the guys after just have to deal with the baggage then.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:46 PM
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So... I guess they cant say no?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:14 PM
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Why'd they have to go through assholes first though? And why does the assholes get a buffet while the ones after get limited servings?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 01:51 PM
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And yet, they hit and yall let them hit. Doesnt make sense lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 06:37 PM
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Sure. Thats her right, but its a privilege to be accepted for those changes. Lots of men wouldnt want a woman like that. Lots of women Im sure have gotten burned and dumped by men they supposedly "cared about" after how they moved got put out in the open. You think their future husband doesnt care? Lots do. Why settle with a woman like that. Thats why more and more men are preferring to be hookups than husbands. If these men value sex as the peak of physical intimacy, and if more women are just …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 04:16 PM
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Yeah, "good impression". When the hookup material gets the better end of the deal than the husband material. Thats the implication of what women mean by "good impression". Hence, "how women move". And why hookup material is slowly being considered better than husband material.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 03:22 PM
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"Better impression". Thank god most guys are waking up to how most women move and have been moving.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 02:51 PM
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Finally. I hope hookup culture becomes less prevalent in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 02:42 PM
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They still get laid though, and you call them losers yet yall would still sleep with them. How does that even work lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 02:21 PM
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We dont make it our entire personality like yall do, nor do we have an entire movement for that then do the exact thing in the meme.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 08:08 AM
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We're not out in the streets and so butthurt about it though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 05:07 AM
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Not a misogynst? Lolol.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 01:37 PM
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It is important to me personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 12:34 PM
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Because when men talk about vagina dimensions and tightness, women strongly assert that vaginas are always tight and small and that the problem always lies with the smol D.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 03:33 AM
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Average is just the middle ground, doesnt mean the middle ground cant lean towards small.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 03:22 AM
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Im not talking about whats true for every single woman on the planet. Im talking about women not throwing the "not a monolith" reply when its a statement that fits yalls narrative.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 06:16 PM
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Yall are perfectly fine letting other women speak for you when it fits yalls narrative though.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 03:20 PM
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Well, lots of those women loved the acts though. So long as it wasnt with their partner. If their partner liked doing those acts, I feel he has a right to be upset.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 07:29 PM
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It was definitely on the rougher side of things, with some degredation stuff in other comments/posts.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 07:11 PM
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There are comments and posts I read where women dont do certain sex acts with their partners because theyre more comfortable doing it with someone they dont have emotional attachment to. Thats a valid scenario for a man to be upset IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 06:35 PM
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Maybe 7. It depends on the age.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 07:59 PM
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Around 5.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 07:54 PM
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Successful, ambitious, is her own person with her own goals and social circle, and never slept around or engaged in casual sex setups. IMO. They should be one if they wanna find a life partner I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 01:44 PM
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Most people I know personally are at a 1 or 2, all in LTRs. Both previous and ongoing. Most people people I know know are also around that ballpark, and were in our late 20s/early 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 05:30 AM
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I think so too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 05:08 AM
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Personally, I think they should just ignore the women they dont like. Woman who learned through bad experiences? Ignore. Dudes would have better chances focusing on women that fit their preferences rather than going after all women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 07:38 PM
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Drive to fight doesnt really guarantee nor fully negate the hesitation to get hit anywhere from the chest up from someone with a considerable strength advantage. 3 v 1 in an open area isnt good odds, but its winnable IMO. An MMA fighter is no average person though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 03:34 PM
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Im no fighter, but the threat of pain from someone generally considerably stronger than you is enough to make someone hesitate to make a move, even if youve got an ally or two. Terrain makes a difference too. In an open area, I see the man winning in multiple ways. In a closed area, yeah I see jumping him as viable. But I wouldnt discount the strength gap and getting 1 clean hits in during the chaos to even things out. Not saying its gonna be easy, the possibility of a nut shot ending it is very…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 03:08 PM
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Why would they adjust when that course of action gets the best results?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 07:32 PM
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Id like to think of it as a specialist vs a jack of all trades.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 07:03 AM
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Well, dont we all? There exists women of my preference without being religious or overly devout though. If absolute degenerates can exist, something as tame as women I want surely do. Abundance may vary.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 08:20 PM
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Nope. Not religious at all, and not seeking exclusively religious women. She could have a religion I guess, just not those overly devout ones hahaha.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 08:15 PM
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Never sounds too absolute IMO, in a world where upwards of a billion people exist. If thats your worldview, its cool. Ive got mine too. Im just not keen on putting words that imply any sort of absoluteness in it. I prefer it to have some sort of wiggle room for deviation and variation.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 08:11 PM
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Im not really worried about how promiscuity relates to cheating and all that. Just a matter of how I view sexual intimacy and how I want my partner to view it as well. Marriage depends on the people who enter it. Personally, marriage seems great from what Ive seen from people I know. Yours is probs the opposite though.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 08:02 PM
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None. Get curious and tempted at times, but I want a woman who never had casual sex so Im tryna be the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 07:28 PM
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You dont need good looks to have friends, like what? Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 06:26 PM
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Or that youre not actually attractive and theyre blowing air up his ass. Empty compliments.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 01:35 PM
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True. Theyll never move from slut to wife material though, personally speaking.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 10:18 AM
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Yes. And why is the automatic assumption that the man isnt improving and the woman is inexperienced?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 10:27 PM
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I aint staying with a woman who has someone else on her mind thats associated with great sex, not just good/ok/satisfying sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 08:01 PM
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I mean, Im not arguing with you. She should get to experience her best sex if she stumbles upon it before me, but if she doesnt consider me her best after a considerable amount of time then Im out. Isnt your point that she should be able to?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 07:54 PM
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She can, but Im gonna go look for another woman who will have her best with me. And if I never find her, lifes still cool w/o a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 07:49 PM
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Guess we all have loopholes for our behaviors.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 04:45 PM
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Doesnt that fit the definition?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 01:28 PM
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Dont you sleep around though? Or am I confusing you for some other Redditor.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 07:36 AM
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See, this is why I dont date women who had a hoe phase. It avoids instances like this. Keeps things standardized and fair-ish. And also why I would ask in the hypothetical scenario her reasons if she wouldnt hookup with me and ask her to be truthful. Lying is misrepresentation IMO. Does your BF even know youve hooked up before?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 10:01 AM
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Thats why Im gonna ask lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 09:48 AM
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Hypothetically? Id ask the reason why. Maybe thered be no guy shed hookup with, even hypothetically. Great. But the opposite of that wouldnt be so great.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 06:22 PM
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Where? If the question was presented then yeah I would want her to consider me as such in a hypothetical what if scenario. Where tf is the hypocrisy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 06:00 PM
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This is why I avoid women who hookup. I aint getting put on a possibly lower tier than another guy. And in a hypothetical scenario with said woman Id also want her to consider me hookup material, despite us not partaking in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 05:24 PM
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If a woman who has emotional attachment to me wont have sex with me and she does with guys she doesnt, then she aint gonna be my woman to begin with. This is exactly why lots of guys prefer their women to express love physically.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 03:12 AM
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Well, lying bout sexual history matters to me. She better hide that well if she lies.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 05:50 PM
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STDs can come from anywhere even from committed partners so Im not concerned bout that in this context. Idk if its moral, but I aint getting with women who have casual. I never did despite getting offers, and Id want a woman whose the same. It shows she views sex as intimate only shared with their BF. Idc if she gets tested every possible timeframe and uses a condom each time. She aint a potential partner candidate to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 05:49 PM
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Well, guess even things kept secret matter then.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 05:45 PM
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Eh, dont really care. If they need to hide it, then Id just assume theyre promiscuous. If they lie well time will tell, or others might during the vetting phase.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 05:43 PM
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Because Im the one evaluating whether the woman is gonna be a compatible partner to me or not? Hence Im deciding her value as a partner to me. Idc what others think of her, if shes gonna be my GF then my opinion is all that matters. And hey, sucks you got cheated on. Nobody deserves that. But I gotta stand my ground on this one. I decide the value of a woman as a partner if shes gonna be with me, as she does decide my value to her. And for what its worth, I dont ask for body counts. I ask whethe…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 04:20 PM
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Well, if theyre gonna lie they better keep that under wraps like Fort Knox. Asking around about her might also uncover truths theyd rather not say so thats a viable option. But sure, lie about it. And women who dont want men with history like that should dig deep and dig well to avoid those dudes. You may not care, but not everybody cares about the same things. And to me, it may not define your value as a human, but it does as a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 03:32 PM
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Because our sexual views dont align? Thats important to me so that plays an important role in if theyre worthwhile or not. Doesnt really have to make sense to you, Im just sayin be honest at the very least.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 01:11 PM
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Nah modern times is great, though Im sure the 50s were bangin too. Promiscuous women may have increased a lot, but there are still lotsa women who arent. Theres even some kinda rise in anti-casual mentality nowadays from the current gens. So Im in good company. A worthwhile partner isnt easy to find anyways, but when you do its great lol. Gotta sift through the ones who arent first.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 12:33 PM
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Eyy good riddance to them as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 12:26 PM
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The reason for me is I just dont want someone promiscuous who treats sex or relationships like a throwaway. This comes in the form of casual sex or a string of STRs.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 12:24 PM
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Just respond with the truth lol. Imma just excuse myself after anyways if theyre promiscuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 12:22 PM
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Very true. Keeps me from having to filter these women ouf myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 12:21 PM
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That makes them a shit partner if they have to lie about a known dealbreaker of their SO. Shaming culture be damned, give them the agency to decide .
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 12:19 PM
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I wouldnt be hurt, Id just find another woman whose sexual views align with my own.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 12:17 PM
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Nothing matters so long as nobody finds out by that logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 12:16 PM
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Why does it sound like that youre advocating for guys to lower their standards just so their dating pool gets bigger? Youre in the minority of guys who dates hookers and webcam models so its no wonder your net is so wide. You basically have minimal filters applied it seems.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 07:27 AM
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Whats wrong with making your dating pool smaller? Youd think that gets you better, albeit lesser, results. Women who sleep or slept around just isnt appealing to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 07:08 AM
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Guess I have slight but hypothetical one then. It wouldnt be insulting to me for a woman to want a relationship rather than a hookup. Id have an issue if she didnt consider me someone shed hookup with if she was still doing so.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 05:25 PM
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Wasnt tryna argue though. Youd rather my comment be argumentative?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 03:33 PM
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Reasonanble POV. Still wouldnt date low n woman with a history of "trying" casual sex. Sucks cus the women who fit this description were attractive to.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 03:15 PM
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Thats certainly true. Not the kind of woman for me though.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 02:15 PM
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I dont think women should only be limited to hookups and casual if theyve ever dabbled in it. Men and others like me wont consider them for a relationship though.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 02:11 PM
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I dont think everyone is inconsistent. A lot are though, but Im not gonna guarantee that. I agree with your argument regarding people who do casual and insist that sex is special. I dont believe them too, personally. I woudlnt date a woman who can have sex with some rando or fwb. I dont, but women seem to get upset, or at least get argumentative, that men have an aversion to women who engage in casual, or make relationship material wait while letting some hookup hit immediately.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 06:51 PM
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If waiting before having sex was always the womans way of doing things, then fine. But if she has had a history of not waiting, then made me wait, Im not staying around for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 06:05 PM
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Agree with this 100%.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 06:21 AM
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I dont do casual sex. I think women who do and who do a lot of it are ran through. I dont really care if its insulting to them or not. Theyre not my target market anyways. And plenty of women who call other women ran through. Not lacking in my target market too.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 06:17 AM
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What if theyre just being descriptive of these women?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 06:09 AM
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Double digits.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 06:08 AM
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This is why going for women who dont hookup solves this problem. They feel genuine desire for you, but refrain from sex outside of relationships out of personal choice. Women who hookup and make BF material men wait are whats got these dudes all up in a bunch.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 10:06 AM
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Previous generations always find what the current gen does as weird. Personally, I think the current gen knowing exactly what they want and asking the uncomfortable stuff is cool. May not widen their dating pool, but isnt that the point?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 10:00 AM
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Well, whether its most ppl or not, doesnt matter. Im ruling out promiscuous women. Ive done so twice already anyways. I dont think Im a prude. I love sex. Just wanna have it in a relationship with a like-minded woman. Youre free to hold that opinion though. Doesnt really mean anything to me. Ive an opinion of you too, just the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 07:41 PM
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Yeah. I get the initial pushback to be honest, but IMO the end result is reaaallyy beneficial.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 10:05 AM
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Just because its normal doesnt mean anything to me. I dont want a promiscuous woman. Also, I thought promiscuity wasnt a "most ppl" thing? Or are women not in agreement with each other on this thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 10:04 AM
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Maybe imposed is too strong a word. But I think the concept is the same. Yeah I can leave, but if I dont Im still being made to wait. Its the principle I guess. Im not gonna wait if she didnt make everyone wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 10:00 AM
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I actually prefer women waiting for committment before having sex. Thats how I do it. The problem lies when thats imposed on me and not to others before.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 06:16 AM
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I kinda think men need to be more intentional with their style. Ive been that dude who could care less what I wear, and I still am at times, but Im pleasantly surprised how good it makes me feel once I started dressing relatively better. Its not over the top and borderline metrosexual, but definitely better than plain jeans and a shirt. Ex partners' styling tips helped as well. Makes for a great bonding experience. Wearing better clothes and being conscious of what we wear as men on occasion ain…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 11:49 AM
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I mean when one doesnt tend to sleep around casually.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 04:18 PM
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Must be hard to date there if you lean the other side of the spectrum.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 03:48 PM
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This is what I do. I just filter out promiscuous women from my dating pool. Its annoying though. Seems like promiscuous women outnumber those who arent as the year goes by.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 01:51 PM
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Im a man and I agree. Your partner has to consider you at least around an 8 physically. I dont wanna be seen purely as the personality pick.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 04:18 AM
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I would drop her immediately. Im cool with waiting until were official, thats how I go about it too personally despite being a high libido dude. But Im not cool with casual setups and hookups being part of my partners history. Shows her attitude towards sexual intimacy. Also, having that setup shows shes possibly put sex in 2 categories. One where Ive gotta prove Im somehow relstionship material to share that activity with her, which is a higher bar. While the other gets some arbitrary and shall…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 03:45 AM
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I think if guys en masse actively try to seek out girls who dont engage in casual sex, theyd avoid this kind of dilemma.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 07:40 AM
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Yup. Plus, she would have to live everyday with the fact that if I knew I never would have committed to her. That must suck a lot that your relationship is a farce.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 08:09 PM
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Theyd have to lie in order to do that. And what does that make them? A liar, and I believe thats not good trait in a partner either.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 08:02 PM
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My bad. I guess the more apt wording would be "This is why I enter exclusive relationships only with women who have no hsitory nor interest in casual sex".
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 07:47 PM
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Id assume conversations on various topics arise as you both get to know each other in thr dating phase.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 07:36 PM
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This is why I date women who have no history nor interest in casual sex. Eliminates this factor entirely.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 07:19 PM
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The person I replied to specifically stated she needed more time for sex with a romsntic partner than a hookup. Do you share the sentiment or no?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 08:20 PM
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If you dont really hold the same views of "waiting" as the comment I replied to, then I dont get the point of your comment? It doesnt apply to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 08:06 PM
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There are. Idk why but there are. Chris Browns got hella female fans. And there are most likely lotsa Chris Browns types who arent famous who have women lining up despite their negative qualities. May not be most women, but their numbers arent scarce thats foe sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 08:01 PM
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The usual. Cheaters, abusers, liars. Idk why you want me to list them down when youve most likely got an idea what they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 07:53 PM
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Staying and or wanting red flag men. Either these flags were visible from the get go or not. Not blaming them for staying or not leaving early, just dont want the baggage personally. Theres a couple more I could give probably, but you get the idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 07:41 PM
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Both. Men make brain dead decisions as well when it comes to women. AITAH and the Overreacting subs got a lot. Well, the ones that are likely real anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 07:34 PM
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The only reason I guess it bothers me is I gotta wade through a lotta women with a history of bad decisions and hookups to find a potential partner. Wouldnt call it being angry though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 07:13 PM
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Why the difference in timeframes with sex between the two men?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 06:47 PM
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I dont think I can infer anything just from a quick, passing observation. What I do think is how some of these dudes get women waayy out of their league. Its probably either dudes got personality, money or their in some form of transactional setup.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 06:28 PM
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I for one am glad that my generation is setting a new standard in engaging in less hookups to ho hookups. More pool of women to be potential partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 12:42 PM
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Maybe because men put sex higher on the things they value in both casual and a relationship. Sex is one of the, arguably if not the highest, higher forms of physical intimacy. The most vulnerable for sure. Youre naked and alon with another person after all. So if they get that from a hookup faster than they get it in a relationship, they feel that the hookup material bears more desirable results. And it trumps most emotional intimacy as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 12:40 PM
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1st sentence assumes she let every man wait around similar timeframes. 2nd sentence is no I didnt because I dont do casual sex. My answer was based on the hypothetical scenario where I am engaging in sex outside relationships. And if I did, I would ask for a hookup. And if I did and I was looking for a relationship, I would ask how long she usually waits before shes comfortable with sex, and if she applies that timeframe with all men she dates with intent to LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 12:34 PM
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Well, if the woman generally has sex early on pretty quickly with most guys I dont see the problem with that. It shows consistency. Its the other scenario where guys get riled up.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 07:04 AM
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Im not really coming at it from just the looks perspective. Sex is very evidently important to guys. Personally, I dont engage in casual sex but I do see where thesr guys come from. Like, sex is makes yall physically vulnerable and stuff. But a guy you wouldnt wanna hang out outside the bedroom has an expedited timetablr than the supposedly potential partner guy? Seems weird to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 06:49 AM
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So they arent interested in chad but get naked ang physically vulnerable with them anyways off the bat? Yet the guy she sees as a potential partner doesnt get the same energy in the sexual department?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 06:26 AM
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Yeah, I honestly think men should just leave if they felt disrespected with being held to those standards. You can be disappointed it didnt work out, but drop the grudged I guess. Ive personally walked away a couple of times too. Not because I felt disrespected, just knew they werent the type of women I wanted in a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 06:09 AM
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As a man, I also would never date a woman whos had casual sex. Not because I find it disgusting, probably because as a man my libido overrides that mindset. But I personally want a woman who views sex as something done with a partner, so I mold myself into that same standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 06:05 AM
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I guess thats maybe privelege going way too far. Or just straight up hating. No denying lots of commenters here go full on rabid. But personally, I also wouldnt date women like the ones were talking about. Wouldnt date women with history of casual sex in general. Wouldnt cuss them out though.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 05:57 AM
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Idk bout other men but everybody is allowed learn to and grow. Its our right. Problem is, no one is entitled to give us a chance after weve done our character development. Acceptance is a privelege.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 05:51 AM
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Im ok with no sex until shes comfortable for a substantial period of time. Im not ok if she let some dude hit within the day or some other time range that I personally feel isnt right for me. If thats the case, Im looking for another woman. No time for inconsistent sexual behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 05:20 AM
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I dunno if this is an unpopular opinion, but Im glad that our generation and those after us are having significantly less casual sex than previous gens. As a man that filters out women who have had casual sex, its great to have a bigger pool of potential partners. And what you said is true. Just as women wanna be proud of the husband they have, men as well wanna have a wife they can be proud of. Wives with no... unsavory past indiscretions.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 05:39 AM
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People who exclusively have sex within a relationship are not a minority where Im from. Just putting that out there. That depends depending on the place where youre at.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 05:23 AM
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So in a purely sexual contest, the red flag guys have the upper hand due to traits inherent to them. Well, that sucks lol. But I see what youre trying to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 08:23 PM
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I agree. Guys wanna be more than the "good" guy to their woman. Also explains why theres such a pushback towards the "bf/husband" material term. Its kinda confusing as well why women always have their best sex with a red flag person, and that its like a general rule the best man will never be the best sex. Weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 05:36 AM
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Care to share your takes on these screenshots?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 04:48 AM
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You got a deep bag man hahaha.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 06:56 PM
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Dudes snarky and annoying af.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 06:55 PM
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Where do you get these man.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 06:52 PM
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Wonder why I never see women comment under your comment in these threads.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 06:52 PM
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Pick mes becuase theyre probably the minority of women who are ok with it. Pick mes are usually in the minority of any opinion women in general dont genrally hold.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 08:58 PM
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Hey, I see that. But if Im being honest thats still cherry picking in my opinion. Most guys go on PornHub to get their fix. Its mostly big names and verified amateurs there. Theyre sanitized as fuck. So its mostly what youd call "ethical". Most guys arent tryna dig the internet for low budget gonzo stuff. Cmon now. I hope you also see where guys are coming from when theyre hesitant to use toys on women. At least, phallic shaped toys. Especially the outrageous ones. The "unethical" equivalent in …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 08:42 PM
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Yeah. But were talking about porn in general. Mainstream porn, which men consume for the content. Theres a lot of unethical shady stuff in every mainstream thing. Gaming industry overworks staff, but isnt even a talking point 9.9/10 times. For most dudes. Its just mainstream porn. Your typical big name pornstar. It generally isnt that deep, unless youre intentionally cherry picking thr bad stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 08:34 PM
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Sure. But porn is a huge umbrella. Cant just label what dudes watch as unethical just cause its porn. Its may not be a small number, but it most probably isnt the majority of mainstrean porn anyway. Just like how movies have "snuff" films, and abusive tendecies towards the crew, but we dont call that unethical. Idk, kinda seems like cherrypicking to me. Also, some of the dildo sizes out there seems "unethical" too if you ask me. Or rather, fucking outrageous. Id see why dudes are hesitant to eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 08:28 PM
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I guess OPs point is that a lot of women shame men for watching porn, but expect men to generally be ok with using her toys on her even if the guy isnt all that enthusiastic about the idea. And if he makes that lack of enthusiasm known, theyre called insecure and dont care about her pleasure or whatever. I think watching porn shouldnt be seen as "bad", same as with toys I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 08:22 PM
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Yeah, whats all this talk about ethics? Its just getting off using different sources.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 08:16 PM
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Exactly. Problematic behaviors arent really guaranteed hindrances in having a good life. In fact, you could argue it might even get you farther in life. Look at politicians for instance lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 09:05 PM
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This applies to even actual problematic behaviors. Being a douche doesnt always actively hinder any aspect of your life. Not tryna argue though.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 08:56 PM
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Desirable? Makes it look like youre "safe" but "boring" enough to not be with any of them. Thats like a 0/10 FG%. Doesnt make you look desirable at all if theyre all platonic or you got rejected by them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 07:46 AM
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Have a hoe/wild phase.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 06:28 AM
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Beggar mentality fucks up a lot of dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 06:22 AM
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Id be out. I dont date women who are into casual sex, especially those who fuck around within their immediate social circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 05:40 AM
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So long as its just a vibrator, then its fine. It wouldnt be me bringing it up though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 07:49 PM
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This particular redditor is exactly like that. Contrarian to the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 03:47 AM
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Idk. Whats your criteria for calling those who hang out here as having no lives? So basically everyday is a Sunday for you. Those you call having no lives might also just be lazy and chronically online as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 08:06 PM
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It is crazy. Normal people with lives dont comment 60 times on Reddit everyday lol. Ironic.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 07:55 PM
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Her favorite thing on this sub is the irony after all. Its ironic she calls those who hang out in this sub as having no lives when shes basically here everyday.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 07:54 PM
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Its her right to want change if its genuine. People tend not to be though and abuse that loophole in Christianity to be "cleansed" and "forgiven" just like that. But oh well. Happy for people like her, but I still wont date a former hoe. Aint now way.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 08:05 PM
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Nothing to do with your points. I was just commenting on the methods women use to take accountability, specifically therapy and self help books. Cus to reach that point where theyd need those just to cope their decision making woulda definitely have taken a nose dive at some point. Before or during the relationahip. Feel free to ignore me and my comment though.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 11:07 AM
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I wouldnt wanna date a woman who needed therapy to recover from a past relationship. What kinda decision making is that to get to that point, from the vetting process to when youre already in the relationship getting shit on.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 10:55 AM
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During those first 5 years of meh sex did you also have thoughts of leaving or did that start during the last 5?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 04:36 AM
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Great sex seems to make women stay longer in a failing relationship than being a good partner whos meh or less than meh at sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 10:32 AM
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Dude willingly married this woman who I assume showed signs of not wanting him from the very beginning. Were just seeing now what has always been their relationship from the start. I have no sympathy for dudes this desperate theyd get with a woman like her.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 03:50 PM
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The ideal kind of woman if you ask me. Dudes with issues concerning different standards between casual and committed should just pour all their effort into finding women who never had casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 11:04 AM
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This is why I dont date women who have engaged in casual sex. Automatically avoids most of these "casual vs committed" standards when it comes to sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 11:02 AM
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I think theyre trying to create a world view that makes their reality easier to swallow.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 01:37 PM
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I think most women are def having lots of sex. Just that taht happens in a monogamous relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 01:19 PM
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Really? Cus you go on any sub here on Reddit and more than half of them will say that any form of the "exclusivity" talk needs to happen before anything is official. Now I dont adhere to that strictly, but a 2nd date I feel is kinda too early IMO to be exclusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 03:35 PM
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I think multi dating is everywhere, though degree may vary deoending on where it is. And about the second dare thing, I think youd find a lot of pushback on that in here. I dont date multiple people at a time personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 10:46 AM
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Totally agree with what you said.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 04:43 AM
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Well, thats their problem. Im framing my preferences against my definitions based on the circumstance of their answers. Simple. And thats yall. That aint me. Im good with what I consider casual or not, ex or not. And I expect nothing less, doesnt mean I wont define it against my definition and then consider if I should take it further or its time to move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 03:37 PM
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Only neurotic people create dialogue trees and try to steer conversation in that direction intentionally. And like I said idk how and when, but it def will before the exclusivity talk. Its not theoretical, I just dont have a set and structured method to apply it. Its just vibes. And I agree. Thats why theres no well laid out plan. Just what I wanna achieve. You dont necessarily need a plan to say "I wanna win a boxing match". You just gotta punch your way to a win.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 01:55 PM
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Idk. But like I said, def before having a convo on if we're exclusive. I'll let the interaction take us to where the topics can be interjected. I get the vibe that youre fishing for an answer so you can start your tirade of snarky comments. Youre baiting me hella hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 01:41 PM
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Idk. I dont plan out a convo in my head beforehand.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 01:27 PM
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Most likely not on the first but def before getting serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 01:16 PM
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If thats how you go about it. As for me, it doesnt have to be immediately after we both go exclusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 11:39 AM
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Yep. Sex outside a relationship. I dont worry about other meanings aside that one. Complicates things. Not exclusive but dating? Casual sex. Not an ex. Thats what it means to me. You cant give a precise number on committed relationships? Not my problem. Thats why my definition for casual and exes are simple. No complications.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 06:28 AM
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I dont ask n counts cus women could just lie about the number. I ask how many exes theyve had, then if they had casual sex before. If they didnt, the # of exes is the possible n count. If yes, you could probably conjure up an approximate depending on your biases. For me, I just dont date women who engage in casual.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 03:46 AM
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Wouldnt want a woman who engage in such activities, so I dont do it as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 09:53 AM
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Just feels to me like the time and effort to build a connection isnt proportionate. Nothing against women who are like this, but Im asking ASAP and if she is Im moving on to the next one.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 06:32 AM
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I may not be in the dating market now, but I hope theres a lot more like you for similarly oriented guys like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 06:26 AM
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I think its ok though I have avoided women like this when I was dating. It gives me the impression that shes not interested in giving me the same time and effort in building rapport and connection that Im giving her. Im a 1 is to 1 guy, even before all this exclusivity talk technicality is laid out, and I prefer a woman thats the same. Theyre worth the effort anyways, even if it doesnt work.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 06:21 AM
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Damn.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 06:48 AM
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Im not saying it aint a compliment to you, but you cant force someone to accept what they think is an insult to them. Just like how some jokes offend people because its not a joke, or a good joke, to them. Maybe its a bad compliment then
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 04:16 PM
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Maybe because its not a compliment to your intended audience? Intent doesnt negate how the receiver interprets it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 07:56 AM
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Over the course of getting to know them. Could happen all in 1 convo or spread out over days. If you did, then Id have filtered out women who I wouldnt wanna be with anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 07:37 AM
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If she doesnt answer, then on to the next one until I find someone whos upfront and go from there. And I agree with the other users comment. Husband material aint a compliment when the woman has a history of sleeping around. Its not a certain schedule, more like if she lets them hit only when theyre in a committed relationship or not. But Imma benl honest and say that if given she had sex with her ex faster than with me and both had been in committed relationships, Id feel some typa way too.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 06:41 AM
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Maybe they want the women who've always preferred men like or close to them? It might give the impression of "this is who I should date" rather than "this is who I want to date".
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 06:43 AM
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Im just saying that not every "___ dick" term is meant to be a compliment. Im not pointing any fingers here.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 06:01 PM
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Small/pencil dick doesnt feel positive to me haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 03:15 PM
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You got the link to this comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 03:38 PM
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I addressed that point in my initial comment, so I get that perspective. I agree. Its how men and women view things differently in general because of lived experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 08:03 AM
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I know. But men prioritize the physical more in general compare to women. Thats why most men would be more bummed out to hear they are "lesser" in some physical aspect, especially if theyre "lesser" compared to hookup guy. Thats just the man's POV on husband vs hookup material anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 04:21 AM
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Guess its because men value sex more than women while women value the intangibles more than sex. If women engage in sex with hookup guy, then its basically giving the signal to husband material that the thing he values most physically is just a throwaway to this potential partner. That hookup guy doesnt need to jump hoops to obtain the husband material's perceived highest form of physical intimacy. Its probably because women are seen sexually often so it diluted their percieved value of physical…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 02:46 PM
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I guess guys just value bring valued physically more than those other non tangible traits you mentioned. Its like hearing "He may have been hotter, but youre all these other things too" and thst doesnt fly with most guys. I dont necessarily have the same opinion as OP, but I would admit Id be more bummed out hearing my partner doest find me as physically attractive as her ONS. I probably wouldnt even blink if she said I was less sociable or charming.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 02:32 PM
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Or maybe these guys get bitter because theyre struggling and there are guys who do the complete of opposite of what women advise here ("dont be insert negative behavior here) but still be successful with women. Also, when women "want" good guys its often because they know its whats right in a relationship. Its a choice. When women desire a not so good guy its often because of some primal response. Not a choice, but an urge.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 05:51 AM
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Isnt it common sense that physical attraction comes first when its someone new, other factors come second?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 09:53 AM
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True, depending on the reason it softens the blow. Would I rather get rocked or knocked out in a fight? On god Id rather get rocked ma G.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 08:13 AM
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Id rather women not fuck me cus Im too big than women not fuck me cus Im inadequate.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 08:08 AM
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So true. Sure, a few women arent comfortable with a big D, but that doesnt stop a lot of women from making it seem like a big D is a blessing/bonus/cherry on top/jackpot kind of thing when getting a man. Youre called blessed if you got that size for crying out loud.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 08:07 AM
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80% sounds great to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 04:15 AM
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It doesnt work as an "approach" because you both arent expecting feelings to escalate into a relationship when you enter a genuine friendship. Its a just happens kind of thing. It fails as an approach because youre inogranically trying to create something from a completely different thing IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 01:53 PM
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