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The original comment is clearly a troll attempting to trigger because they never responded to the questions and gave very vague answers. They think their clever by giving no substance to their comments and not answering any questions. They were on their hourly power trip because it makes them feel good. Yes I interpreted as “Why should Asexuals be dating” and corrected them. How have you interpreted it?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 05:20 AM
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Then what did you mean? Because you never answered any questions, you purposely dodged them. This question was purposely dodged.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 05:11 AM
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I get that - but he should trust her and be secure and confident, not insecure
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 05:10 AM
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It’s already been said a dozen times, it’s your choice if you choose to ignore the correct information. What part of not all Asexuals are not the same does make sense? What part of Asexuality is a spectrum, do you not understand? What part of “Asexuality literally means lack of sexual attraction” do you not grasp? Go to r/Asexuality r/Asexual and have it out with them if you are so hellbent on your incorrect views. Best of luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 05:08 AM
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There is a difference between why Asexuals don’t date and shouldn’t date. The original comment said “why would an Asexual even be dating” - nothing indicating that they don’t date, rather they shouldn’t be dating. Hence my question. Because the common misconception is that all Asexuals are sex repulsed or have no libido. Which is not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 10:59 PM
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That doesn’t mean Asexuals shouldn’t be dating though.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 10:35 PM
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I’m really sorry you feel that way, let me help you to understand a few things that you can simply Google or search here on Reddit. Like I said, there are plenty of Asexuals who are not sex repulsed and are actually kinky bastards. Your view of Asexuality isn’t correct. Asexuality is a spectrum from sex negative/repulsed to sex positive/horny and kinky bastards. Asexuality literally just means “lack of asexual attraction”. Here are the Subreddits to help you ask the questions you want answered: …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 10:27 PM
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I’m sorry, what does your comment have to do with being Asexual? Like I said, there are plenty of Asexuals who are not sex repulsed and are actually kinky bastards. Your view of Asexuality isn’t correct. Asexuality is a spectrum from sex negative/repulsed to sex positive/horny and kinky bastards. Asexuality literally just means “lack of asexual attraction”.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 10:26 PM
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Then what exactly is the reason why you think Asexuals shouldn’t be dating? This question was purposely dodged.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 10:17 PM
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Why not? Not all of us are sex repulsed, maybe get yourself on the Asexual subreddits and broaden your horizons. This question was purposely dodged.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 10:06 PM
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What I see at my age and in my demographic is men getting fucked over by biting off more they can chew financially. Which is causing stress, anxiety and therefore depression and mental health issues. I live in a affluent area where houses near the best schools are half million and the ones in the gated community are three/four times as much. Some are forced to do this because their “ladies who lunch” wives and themselves want the big house, the cars, the holidays, the designer clothes, the jewel…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 06:19 PM
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Maybe like a lot of people, they don’t read your profile.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 02:44 PM
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You keep looking for that right person that aligns with what you want. Don’t expect anything. I could say to you, what are those women supposed to when they are told upfront that you’re not looking for anything serious? Are they meant to carry on talking to you? Why? Whats the purpose? How is that going to work? Don’t you see that it’s both your wasted time and energy? Why should someone prioritise you when you are not what they are looking for?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 02:42 PM
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So if a guy unmatched with a girl because she asks too many questions, but the guy never gives feedback of this to her? It happens with women too. I was going to say this earlier but I wanted to know your solutions first. FDS tell women “if a guy brings up sex, don’t respond to him, he needs to recognise and learn that it wasn’t appropriate or acceptable and he needs to apologise”. That is their solution. To set a boundary and give the guy another chance as he is “designed to seek sex and can’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 12:05 PM
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You can’t force someone to be compatible with you and be in a relationship with you. I wish you the best of luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 12:03 PM
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This type of woman. What is their solution? And what solution is there for the men?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 09:51 AM
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So what is the solution?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 09:40 AM
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Why does anyone need to act like they are trying?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 09:38 AM
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Of course it is, and you’ll know because she will be attentive with her messages and put effort in at the time. You have to understand and accept that a lot of it is “in the moment” kind of things, which isn’t right but I also see this with the opposite sex. Same with the date, the key is don’t expect anything and you won’t get hurt, feel embarrassed when you thought it was going well but she decided to not proceed. I know it hurts, it happens to all genders and all sexualities. Just enjoy the m…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 09:37 AM
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So you’d rather not listen and take notes? You’d rather not challenge and just give a backhanded comment instead. That is your choice to stay where you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 08:59 AM
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And that’s what I meant, then they were not compatible and that is that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 08:51 AM
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That’s fine. It just means they dodged a bullet (if you like) or the truth is, they just weren’t compatible and that’s, that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 08:25 AM
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My answer is, I don’t know. And I’m like you, I don’t believe in it either. But it’s not unheard of on the subreddits and forums. I can understand in a way, if someone mentally stimulates you it can be a turn on, it can be exciting but there is no way I personally would sleep with that person no matter how much they were into me, how well we got on and the energy was there etc The reason being is that I’ve watched this happen to my friends (of all genders and sexualities) since my early teens an…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 03:11 AM
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Well I have waited that long and I’ve had less than a handful of sexual relationships from it. It is possible if a guy is genuine and has authentic interest in you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 02:45 AM
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I think too many emotionally unavailable people are using dating apps to fill a social void in their lives, they are lonely but aren’t using other resources or looking within themselves to solve their problems. Hence the “Flaking, lack of interest, always having to lead the interactions and conversations” As a woman, if I have to lead the interactions and the conversations entirely by myself, I can tell he is not interested and I match his energy. I do believe men should lead when it comes to da…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 02:27 AM
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It depends but I can tell you from an Asexuals point of view. You have to remember that Asexuality is a spectrum, lots of terminologies for different sexualities that fall under “lack of sexual attraction”. Some of us are sex repulsed, some are sex neutral/indifferent and others are sex positive. I’ve heard that FDS are coping Demisexuals and they tell women “3 months”. If a guy can’t be a gentleman and wait kind of thing, then he has no value or respect for you. I’ve yet to meet a FDS woman tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 02:24 AM
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This is how Asexuals get treated too. Some people think they have the power to suddenly change the way your brain is lacking sexual attraction. It doesn’t work that way. Then they get upset when they’ve sent you a dick pic and haven’t responded to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 02:17 AM
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That’s good those who were after one thing unmatched themselves. I’d rather do it earlier on then waste my time and energy. You are bang on about the guys not knowing how to not make everything about sex, either they are blissfully unaware or they shoot their shot anyways. Again, I’d rather have them show their true selves early on. And I’m not using any apps since 2021 I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 02:15 AM
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A mask. A façade. A lot of them slip. As humans have more to lose in real life than online.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 08:48 PM
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I think it might be a “get the older ladies on my side” kind of thing, maybe even approval - but then my mind wonders to “what kind of approval and why?” It could be manipulation or it could be he is a genuine gentleman - depends on how he does it - is he sweet to the mothers and aunties because he has respect and authentic interest or is he trying to sweet talk them into taking his side for the future; “oh he would never do that, he adores you”.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 08:42 PM
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I also flirt with straighten women, gay men, gay women (etc) - I’m not gay myself. When do I do this? At work. I work behind a bar. I flirt with my colleagues and the regular guests. People who I feel safe with. They know I wouldn’t ever escalate things because they know the boundary is that I’m not that kind of person - not because of my Asexuality. As you said there are different levels of flirting and when the energy is right - everyone is in a good mood, they are in a playful mood that is th…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 07:46 PM
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It’s about balance, as this post says women aren’t your therapists - it’s true, it does wear us down eventually - as it would for a man who had a whiney girlfriend who cried all the time at every single little thing. It happens. That doesn’t mean all women don’t want to know your problems, I do - I want to know how to help (if I can), I’d rather my male friend/partner/brother talks to me then opts for suicide as their only choice/last resort. But I/we cannot solve everything - especially instant…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 08:12 AM
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I am sorry you went through that, it seems like there is a mentality with certain people. I can’t help but think a lot of people are sheep (in the sense that they all follow each others behaviour) and can’t think for themselves. It blows my mind how people can’t think outside their box. It is good that you recognise and can differentiate because that is what is worrying, when someone can’t recognise and differentiate to then go ahead and blame all. It’s emotionally and mentally better to sit on …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 07:10 AM
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I have sympathy for you going through that, but what takes me aback is that your use of language, surely you realise it’s not all women that do this. These are silly immature school girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 06:34 AM
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You are describing what some women may want. Then that type of woman could a sheep following a herd with no personality to think for herself and should be avoided. I am really sorry to hear you are choosing to cope with your situation instead of choosing to change it. Best of luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 08:08 AM
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Yeah, it’s so sad to see. If only they would choose to change their situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 08:07 AM
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What I don’t understand is, there are no genuine bros helping bros, it’s all a competition and for what? The chance she might find you attractive and go with you? Let go of the things you cannot control. Jealousy is unattractive. Be humble, have a healthy ego. Be your genuine self once you’ve found yourself. Be consistent. Make sure you do what you’ve said you’re gonna do. You’ll be judged on how you treat others. Go to therapy and learn how to be your genuine self (now this is the part where yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 07:44 AM
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So, sexual attraction doesn’t work for me and a lot of others. But apparently Demisexuals and Sapiosexuals (the ones who don’t sleep around and are careful about getting into relationships) are the ones most mentally ill according to some folk on this sub. And I date them because of who they are as a person. Is he genuinely himself? How does he treat others? Is he consistent? Does his actions meet his words? The above is what a turn on is for someone like me (a sex positive Asexual). That is wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 06:53 AM
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I’m a Millennial (35) and this has always been the case specifically where I grew up (England). This isn’t new to me and my school friends. They’ve always done this. Amber Turner did this to Dan Edger on TV from 2017. There have been other reality TV “stars” that have done this too. They have the mentality that sex equals a relationship, that role playing as perfect wifey material gets them what they want. I agree that some women (not all) see a man that they like the look of and try to manipula…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 09:36 AM
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If certain women think like that - then I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 02:14 PM
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Those types of women need therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 01:20 PM
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And if her father left or was never there in the first place? Still her fault right? Not wasting our time, best of luck mate!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 01:17 PM
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So is a woman not responsible for herself? Doesn’t that contradict your views on her body count and such…?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 01:11 PM
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Well no, they are not. They aren’t responsible for me in any aspect of my life. And you dodged the simple question.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 12:59 PM
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Are men responsible for how women feel? Don’t just downvote for me asking a question, speak your mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 10:47 AM
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You must be one of those I’m talking about then? Otherwise you wouldn’t respond like that. Note that I said some.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 08:38 AM
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This! I get taking caution, but judging way before you’ve even had a conversation (such as “I bet she’s had 30 men”, “I bet I’m too short”) is crippling insecure and sets you up for failure inside your head.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 07:22 AM
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What’s dating like in undeveloped countries? Also, I’ve had experience with Australian men; some are absolute slime balls - no joke. So after spending a time in Australian myself, I’m really not surprised.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 07:10 AM
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Guess mine 🤗
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 07:56 PM
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How is he?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 05:01 PM
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In my experience watching my friends on dating apps closely (reading their messages/interactions) it’s because a lot of men don’t want to put in the effort and/or use dating apps shopping for sex. We are in England if demographics matter. I just wonder for those who are looking for a serious relationship, why not go on a dating course? Such things exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 09:49 AM
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Actions speak louder than words. Always have. If you are saying X, Y and Z then do X, Y and Z.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 08:24 AM
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Nah I’m good - I prefer a low budget “initial meet” with someone off a dating app or from the internet (which I don’t do). If there’s a connection then great, let’s go on a proper date with an activity and a meal. In the past I’ve paid for desserts and drinks when it comes to a meal date. I don’t believe in lumping the bill on the guy, I would rather see him more often than not (if there is a connection). I couldn’t care less if it was McDonalds as long as I was fed (with my own money).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 02:27 PM
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If you are the right person for them to change for, yes - I’ve seen it. I’ve seen a serial cheater to all his previous girlfriends since 16 find someone - and to everyone’s knowledge - not cheat but settle down with her. And how do we know he’s not cheating? Well we don’t, but his behaviour and attitude has changed, he has respect for her in the way that he talks about her and doesn’t go out clubbing anymore. Before that he wouldn’t be the nicest guy to his girlfriends behind their backs and sla…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 06:28 AM
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Do you follow WheatWaffles? Because people often get the looks scoreboard wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 08:01 AM
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Blame social media, magazines, TV, film etc for making people compete in looks. Have you heard of a TikToker called Connor Pranky? I don’t know if that’s his real name. https://masculineempowerment.podia.com/newsletters/eyJfcmFpbHMiOnsibWVzc2FnZSI6Ik1UWTFORFUzTXc9PSIsImV4cCI6bnVsbCwicHVyIjoibmV3c2xldHRlciJ9fQ==--f59d175be71f14aa039f2fc1674ab9e495eb443c4c027f13363c3f3f90292d7c/preview?untrackable=true He’s around the same age as you. He talks about game being the most important. Now I wonder, is …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 07:35 AM
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Try wearing some cologne.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 06:09 AM
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Wait. So you tell me on another post to “look up the term ‘Gold Star’ term/slang if you don’t believe me because it’s on the LBGT Wikipedia” And now you’re telling me Allosexual and Demisexual don’t exist. Please. Those identifies are also on the LGBT Wikipedia. Demisexual has existed since 2006 on AVEN. You are an Allosexual if you are not Asexual. That is the scientific and psychological term. That is how Asexuals identify you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 05:22 AM
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Running circles around men? Sorry I haven’t heard that term before, can you explain that. What I think you’re trying to say is, most women aren’t sexually attracted that often until they’ve got to know a person? That usually is called an emotional connection and is completely normal; the amount of times Allosexuals (opposites of Asexual, “normal” people who experience sexual attraction quickly on the spot) tell Demisexuals what normal is in terms of an emotional connection but don’t grasp that D…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 05:17 AM
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How is this relevant?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 05:11 AM
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Get away with what exactly? Let me reword this first half for you because OP doesn’t get the definition of Asexual at all. But you did good explaining the first half. “I think a lot of men believe women are asexual because the women they’re around are not sexually attracted towards them.”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 05:07 AM
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That is NOT what Asexual means. Google it. As you clearly wouldn’t know if you was speaking to an actual Asexual right now - who has given you the definition of Asexuality before you posted this reply.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 04:25 AM
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What you are describing in your very short post doesn’t make her Asexual. Asexuality is a spectrum for one; and two, Asexual literally just means lack of sexual attraction. I’d also like to see a link. Edit: “I don't even like having sex. I'm honestly pretty asexual," she told The Skinny Confidential. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QsGCxw5fjQU (24 mins and 30 seconds). Please tell the full story and not just your narrative. It has not made her Asexual, she’s just realised her sexuality. She rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 03:57 AM
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Knowing all of this it’s simply impossible for her to treat every man she dates the same. The only women who have the same standards for every man she encounters or dates are traditional, religious women. You forgot the Asexual community. Maybe make a post in those subreddits too and ask. Asexuals no matter of where they fall on the spectrum, their gender, their sexuality, if they are religious or not, if they are traditional or not, or where they are in life or how they feel will always treat p…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 02:59 AM
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Maybe they don’t need them or they are not aware of what’s out there. Maybe they are afraid to try it. I’ve recommended Ice Lady both online and offline face to face with trusted guests. It’s expensive but good quality. Maybe the price puts people off. I will say that there is a new electrical toy/stroker for men and I would of expected Lovense to be the first to manufacture it. But they are late to produce one.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 02:24 AM
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I’ve never heard of a man owning a fleshlight being called a pervert. And I just want to point out that fleshlight is vastly different from your description of a FuckMaster 5000. If I’m honest and playing DA, I think owning a full size doll is what might throw a person to thinking the owner is a raging pervert. Peoples imaginations run away with them; what are they doing to that doll, is it abusive? Why do they need a doll? What kind of doll is it? Is it going to become an collection of dolls, i…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 02:11 AM
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So my ex partner, whom I share children with and we have a good co-parenting relationship. He is the one with the stable income, where as I’m on a zero hour contract in the hospitality industry where you are not guaranteed work or the same hours every week. He has always earned 40%-45% (sometimes more) then I did/do. Therefore he always paid the rent, bills, a few hours child care so the kids can socialise and learn at nursery, basic food shopping which included cleaning products for the house a…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 02:04 PM
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This “logic” …so say for example a 30+ old man is attracted to 20-23 year old women and happened to marry a 20-23 year old woman. Hear me out. Many years have passed she’s now 30-33 and he’s 40+. He’s still attracted to 20-23 year olds, always has been the entire time he has been married. He now feels he has “settled”. Where does the cycle end? Because feelings come and go. Or are you saying “No, that’s now how it works because he is now married”? I don’t think you can speak for every man. This …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 01:26 PM
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There was never an expectation to have sex early on Tell that to guys on dating apps. I’ve seen conversations (as I don’t use dating apps) where the conversation is pleasant and then maybe a day or so later, before they’ve even met for a date - the guy is talking about sex - “needing to test out the goods before they commit”.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 08:06 AM
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A lot of the manosphere vids start off with a guy pointing at the camera and saying the viewer is to blame for being a loser. Tate does it all the time. Because they want you to buy their “products” or “services”.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 11:55 AM
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A lot of people are using dating apps as a way to feel validated, feel “wanted”, for attention. Those who are seeking a relationship get burnt out by those people who are just using the apps to make themselves feel better because X, Y and/or Z is missing from their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 08:52 AM
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More people need to recognise that they are not emotionally available for dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 08:46 AM
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Some of you must really hate your mothers.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 06:18 PM
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I’m sorry this happened to you. Her boyfriend is cripplingly insecure and he was jealous and threatened by you. Next it will be your mutual (both male and female) friends too. He is controlling and manipulative, no one behaves like that if they are secure. She needs to realise that - maybe her female friends can help her realise that one day. Be there for her when she realises she was a fool to put a relationship before friendship. If it happens again, then know she wasn’t a good friend after al…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 11:01 AM
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Don’t worry about it, it’s happened and it’s now on the past. Move forward and learn from it; which you have! It’s her loss. You’ve gained some knowledge and experience. I am sorry that happened to you. Some people are cripplingly introverted (although it may not seem that way above the surface) and don’t know how to deal with things face to face.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 08:46 AM
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I know you’re looking for an explanation, it’s something we can’t really give you - because we are not her and we don’t know her, we don’t know her situation. Just give people the benefit of the doubt and shake it off. Maybe she did start seeing someone just before the first Sunday and didn’t know how to tell you, maybe she forgot about Sunday. Life also happens; such as her being unwell. You did nothing wrong. I would of personally waited a little as you seemed a bit too eager; at every opportu…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 08:35 AM
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I’m no “Tiger Mum” or a show off mum. I am basically just a mum; get the kids up for school and go to work kind of mum. But yeah, sadly little immature beings on the internet think they can say nasty things about it through assumption. My assumption is that they have issues with their own mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 06:00 AM
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When I looked it up last year, that is what comes up. Look for 2021 articles. https://thetrulycharming.com/high-value-man/ https://socialandmentalhealth.com/12-qualities-of-high-value-person/ https://blog.amphy.com/23-traits-of-a-high-value-man/ Maybe it’s you that is wrong and it’s your opinion and not the correct definition because of who you follow, who you listen to and what you choose to believe because you’re none the wiser when you started hearing the words “HVM” in 2022 or 2023. It’s rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 05:47 AM
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But at least you are doing something. And to be fair, you don’t need to be “messed up” for therapy. There are plenty of male therapists who are aware of what’s going on in this part of the world when it comes to dating. It just helps you unlock the tools you need to become more confident, have a healthy ego and healthy self esteem. After that comes being content and then happiness. Things like that shine and attract.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 04:48 PM
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This is why women or maybe people like yourself push for therapy to help improve. You have to start somewhere and there is no shame in getting a little help or a healthy push in the right direction. I really wish they’d do it and stick it out for 6 months or so. It’ll be a massive eye opener to them. But they don’t want to listen, they just sit there and stew in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 04:29 PM
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Who aren’t like that; surely if something isn’t working for you - you try other things instead of pointing and blaming someone else. I’ve known people fake it (personality, self esteem, confidence etc) and then eventually it becomes second nature without a second thought to correct yourself. You’re tricking your brain into things.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 04:12 PM
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Exactly! But you’ll be surprised!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 04:03 PM
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What makes a HVM is guy who is secure mentally and emotionally, has a healthy ego, he’s humble, he treats everyone like humans; he treats people with respect. Admits when he’s wrong, is able to converse and debate amicably. Has purpose, passion and drive. Nothing more and nothing less. A HVM is not about status or wealth as it’s lead to be believed. Our planet can have tons of wealthy men and men with status in the world - but that doesn’t mean they will be emotionally intelligent and mentally w…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 02:55 PM
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I’ve had kids. I’m shelved apparently according to some and I really couldn’t care less. In those eyes I’ve done my duty to humanity by reproducing and now my goal is to raise my kids properly, which is exactly what I’m doing without a worry. Except, they still try and weaponise this out of spite, because they are hurting that I’m getting on with life. I’m secure and I don’t need to worry about sexual or romantic relationships because it doesn’t benefit my children or me to waste time and energy…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 01:02 PM
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I’ve seen women do the exact same thing, expecting a relationship to solve all their problems - but continuously make those same mistakes over and over. 6 months of regular weekly therapy doesn’t take that long out of anyone’s life to better yourself whether you’ve come out of a break up or you’ve never been in a relationship. Therapy is about changing the way you think, taking responsibility for how you feel and changing your behaviour. But they refuse to do so because they are lazy and expect …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 03:20 AM
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Pot. Kettle. Black. Time to swallow your own pill. Assumptions get you nowhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 08:21 PM
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And men have been conditioned through childhood by being shouted at and threatened by their male role models that stuff is only serious when someone raises their voice or makes demands.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 06:37 PM
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Mate. I’m asexual. I lack sexual attraction. Height makes no difference either. Stop diverting the blame and take responsibility for how you feel. Because at the end of the day you’re the one that feels like this and isn’t willing to do anything about it; you’re expecting others to. Get off the dating apps because it’s not helping you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 06:29 PM
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It’s not all about it looks. There are some really good looking average guys on Reddit but they are crippling insecure and it lets them down massively. It’s about insecurity and being all well rounded mentally and emotionally. Getting into a relationship doesn’t solve these problems. Your cup should be full - not empty or half full. You need to learn to let go and be secure, stop blaming others and understand you feel the way you feel because you let yourself feel that way. Take responsibility o…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 05:27 PM
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Easy, and I know from experience of meeting “fake” Demis - it doesn’t bother me. “FDS” follows similar, they teach women to not put out for X amount of months/weeks. Everyone is different, there is no rule in Demisexuality of how long it takes you to put out with someone, but most people want to wait X amount of time and that is usually 2-3 months on average apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 11:09 AM
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This is why so many women are demisexual or in some cases, force themselves to be demisexual or follow demisexuality to change their behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 09:04 AM
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I can vouch for this with a personal experience. I was domestically abused by the father of my child who had issues with his homosexuality. He took it out on me. He has misogynistic views that have been recognised by not only the criminal court but the family court too. He used me as an incubator to have a child and then tried to remove that child from their mother by coercive control and psychological abuse. It’s taken 10+ years and she’s 12 now, the only contact he has is weekly at a contact c…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 09:02 PM
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There are a few comments on here from men (I think) who say 5ft 2 is too small and they prefer 5ft 6 and above etc So it’s definitely a thing and I’m not bothered by it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 07:45 PM
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I’m 5ft 2, I once was getting along really with a guy in our early 20s who was 6ft 4 (more or less, I can’t really remember) we were introduced by friends at a meal. It wasn’t a blind date or anything, this was just one of those rare occasions where you seem to click with someone new face to face. Suddenly half way through us having a verbal conversation we are having across the table, he randomly realises - and blurts out - that he couldn’t date someone of my height because he would find the he…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 07:39 PM
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Exactly this. Having known a person due to time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 03:31 PM
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This is what my brain doesn’t compute due to Asexuality; the lack of sexual attraction. Since a teenager, I see a lot of relationships starting off with sex, but they soon realise they aren’t compatible; the woman is attached and the guy (depending on how he feels) either goes along with it, maybe he goes along with it for a little while or a long while or maybe he cheats or he doesn’t and cuts her off. He is then the “bad guy” either way. Women think sex equal relationships. It doesn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 03:26 PM
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Unprovable. Please don’t take this the wrong way, but I guess you need to know those types of women - because the OC was spot on. See my previous comments before stumbling upon this.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 03:21 PM
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That is also an insecurity for women. My female friends (30s and up) think that if they don’t look aesthetically pleasing, young, fit etc that he will lose his desire for her and she’s burnt years of her emotions and taking care of her man - only for him to cheat or leave her to fuck younger woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 03:16 PM
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Ah I’m different. If I want an orgasm outside of a relationship I’ll achieve that myself without using anyone else. I know the difference between someone else and giving myself an orgasm. Giving yourself an orgasm can be repetitive and boring, but it’s a quick fix to solve the problem and my libido isn’t consistent enough outside of a relationship - so it doesn’t bother me. Hooking up with someone is more of a moral thing as well as self confidence thing for me; it’s not worth wasting time over …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 02:54 PM
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Because a secure person doesn’t need to be deceptive and dishonest in the first place. That’s the point. What you are talking about is your own personal insecurities. And on that note, I can now see the type of person who I’m conversing with. I’m secure enough to walk away. I wish you the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 12:55 PM
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I agree with you. And my brain cannot comprehend why there is one rule that applies to one man and not to another. But that’s because I am the way I am due to my own experiences and choices. The only explanations that pop up in my head is that maybe these women thought they were going to lock down a “bad guy”. Or maybe she has realised her mistakes with relationships in the past and wants to make effort to change in order to find someone. Is she/he/they allowed to do that? Of course I believe th…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 12:37 PM
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You’ve taken something and ran with it to a completely different location on the map. I’m talking about being psychologically, emotionally and mentally secure as our own individual selves before venturing into any type of relationship. A woman also needs to make sure she is secure in herself before starting a relationship. She cannot expect her partner to carry every single little thing. Both need to know and communicate exactly what they want in their individual life. The aim is to reach their …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 12:24 PM
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No no no. He needs to be secure in himself first - before getting into a relationship. He needs to consistently remain secure in himself; basically maintaining confidence and self-esteem - not being insecure. And yes, men have no problem of putting women’s at ease, what is a man’s goal? Of course he will say and do what he needs to do to reach his goal.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 11:59 AM
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It may seem that women have endless sexual options but have you thought about this: Where I come from (Essex in England - where it’s known that the women are easy) women here still think that having sex early on from a man (now especially from on a dating app) leads to a long-term relationship. They think if they put out early and do certain sexual acts it will lock down the guy. From my personal experience of women I know; who cannot control themselves must be extremely lonely, codependent and/…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 11:56 AM
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I’m hoping we can have a civil conversation about this as people tend to fly off the handle (I’m not accusing you of such a thing). In my world (I’m from Essex in England), my female friends think putting out early will result in a proper relationship. This is the norm here and we are in our 30s-40s now and they are still doing it, they are not learning and that’s on themselves. What about Demisexuals though? What if she’s got a low body count and never put out to anyone early but is been accuse…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 11:25 AM
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What’s RP?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 11:15 AM
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You have described “The Only Way Is Essex” perfectly. It’s a reality TV show where the drama within the groups of friends has already happened, the TV production just bring them all together to cause upset in order recreate the scene for filming/entertainment purposes. I stg some of the women on there have done sexual things they’d never do and hence one of the reasons why they are so attached and behave the way that they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 05:17 PM
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I am happier single. I don’t mind it at all. I put my kids first. Maybe my sexuality has something to do with that, maybe not. I still have needs every few months, I just deal with them appropriately without anyone. Dad gets them 50/50. He has no desire to date either. It is a shame we split up, but it was what was best for us as a family. We still hang out together and have dinner as a family, help each other out, just can’t live with one another or maintain a romantic and sexual relationship. …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 09:43 PM
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As a woman, I’ve met other women who weren’t overweight, didn’t drink or smoke, or do drugs or have bad skin or below average looking - and are complete delusional psychos and act desperate. Attractive men and women can also be nut jobs you know.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 01:08 PM
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You know that 1 & 2 on the attractive scale are considered to have facial deformities that cannot be corrected by plastic surgery…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 11:49 AM
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Some girls do this, because they are desperate as the OP said. Whether that means desperate to feel validated or have attention or just to feel included and go on a date. Or desperate for a boyfriend and want to get on with life’s milestones like their peers.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 07:00 AM
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I would say it depends on the Love Language YOU require. I require Acts of Service now and again, I find that attractive as hell and I struggle with attraction! I don’t require it all the time but when someone goes out of their way to do something for me - especially when things are on top of me - I return the favour. See it as building blocks and you each take a turn in placing a block to build a tower. You only skip a turn when one of you is unwell or having a bad time. You support each other,…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 12:27 PM
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I wonder if this is a regional thing because here in the U.K. my friends do your version of “a pick me girl” and still end up with no boyfriend. What you become is a “foster girlfriend”, if that. They have to show some interest and incentive - because if you do it all for them… come on now. Wake up. I’m a happily single Demisexual, so SOME of the “FDS” has always been that for r/Demisexuality NATURALLY. We wait a while before sex, it differs on time. We don’t give out blowjobs, unless committed …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 10:54 AM
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A High Value Man is humble and is emotionally secure. He wouldn’t need “options”. He’d be content with himself until the right partner came along.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 06:29 PM
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That none of you are really ready to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 06:27 PM
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Aromantic… /r/asexual is also a possibility
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 03:24 PM
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