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I sincerely hope that he’s just doing this to appease his wife, but then again, he’s always been the type of relative that only talks to you when he wants something from you
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/26 07:54 PM
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In a way it’s the same, I feel very free, and am enjoying the clean slate, being able to choose things for myself for the first time in my life has been incredibly satisfying, but yeah I have definitely found that most of the people I’ve been around in my life have only really valued me for my usefulness (my ex, my former friends, and my family unfortunately) luckily I have been able to meet some new people, including slowly growing a relationship with a new woman that doesn’t really ask me for …
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/26 07:45 PM
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Definitely, he’s already blocked, and he won’t be borrowing any more of my tools or calling me at random hours to ask why his car won’t start.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/26 04:23 PM
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It is what it is I suppose, this divorce has definitely taught me that most of the “friends” and family members we are in contact with honestly are just in it for themselves. They’re okay with asking for help organizing their garages, working on their house, or fixing their car, but the second you could use someone to just talk to or a hand moving a little bit of furniture and some boxes, they act like you’re a villain
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/26 04:22 PM
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They were the ones that told me about the affair which is the surprising thing about all this, I guess they care more about maintaining their friendship with her than the hell that woman put me through
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/26 03:44 PM
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Thank god no kids
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/26 03:42 PM
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They were the ones that told me that she cheated, that was the surprising thing about it, I can’t imagine being so willing to continue being friends with someone like that, my ex is a known manufacturer of lies, half truths, and overall manipulation. She was such an expert at DARVO, she made me believe that everything was my fault, including my boundaries and my feelings about her continuing to try and open up our relationship
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/26 03:41 PM
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Yeah, I’m hoping to try again at some point, I really enjoyed having a life partner, no idea if I’d do a legal marriage again or not, but I still appreciated having someone to give companionship, and someone that I can cook for and share my art projects and stuff with. Once I’m rebuilt and healed I’ll try again, I’m only 29
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 12:27 AM
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Yeah, it made the divorce process simpler at least, but it’s also got a rough side to it too because we had this whole future planned and I was trying so hard to get ready to be a father for when the time came, now I’m rethinking everything, career, what I want out of life, and if I even want to be a dad, whole identity collapsed pretty much
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 02:01 PM
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I had a very similar experience, met my ex wife just before Covid, we spent most of the lockdown together, moved into a rental house together, I was so happy with her, I proposed, we got married, bought a house that had a lot of family history for her, I worked hard to renovate it for her, we had a wonderful anniversary earlier last year, had some fun times during our last summer and fall together, then boom out of nowhere on December 9, I want a divorce, no option for counseling, no second chan…
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 01:09 PM
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Yeah, I know it definitely could be worse, honestly I think I’m just being impatient, honestly hasn’t been that long into the process. It should work out, got a little bit of a game plan with some room to pivot if I need to
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/26 02:03 PM
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Eh, to be honest It may have been a rumor and now I’ll never know for sure
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/26 04:25 PM
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Blocking her everywhere when we are done, we don’t have kids
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/26 07:17 AM
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Yeah, we both agreed to never speak again once this is done
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/26 01:29 AM
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She did, at times I was for sure but I know she was too, we’re all a little selfish sometimes, hell I supported both of us while she finished nursing school and still cooked and cleaned so that she could focus on her schoolwork, and maybe I wasn’t the best at being there emotionally, but at the end of the day I would have crawled over 10 miles of broken glass for that woman if she needed it
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/26 01:27 AM
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You’re right, the past is the past, I know I gotta do better for myself and my next relationship, and just focus on building a healthier, better me, can’t let myself play the victim
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/26 01:12 AM
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Yeah, honestly our first screaming match in general. we both were really bad at just bottling up problems, and the communication sucked, we both had issues with resentment and compromise
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/26 11:56 PM
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Yeah I’ve learned the hard way that it doesn’t matter how much workload that you take on for a woman, she still will only care about how she feels, and also that they don’t care about sacrificing my needs for hers
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/26 11:43 PM
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Yeah I ain’t proud
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/26 11:31 PM
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Yeah, I can’t believe I stooped that low
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/26 11:30 PM
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Good advice, yeah I’ve started by practicing saying no to my family on things I don’t want to do (still over explaining a little)
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/26 08:00 PM
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Good advice, things are still a little rough financially and time wise with the divorce still going on, but I think a good place to start would be going on some of the trips I’ve been wanting to do for so long
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/26 03:18 PM
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I’m too soon after my divorce to even consider seriously dating or marriage, but honestly he probably needs to heal more to fully trust again, because for me at least, I feel completely betrayed, especially since I gave up so much of myself for my marriage and she still left, it’s a kind of sting that can really leave a man with serious trust issues
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/26 05:07 PM
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That’s true, gotta keep the void filled while time helps heal the wound
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/26 02:22 PM
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Not a bad idea, one of the dogs we had together passed away soon after separation, so maybe replacing the dog will help in regaining some of the normo
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/26 02:21 PM
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Yeah, for now just been focusing on work and my family
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/26 05:33 PM
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