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| 3 | Wanting to talk politics vs wanting to be willfully ignorantI stay somewhat in top of news because I live in part of the world where it affects my daily life but I have a similar situation as you I just don't enjoy discussing it because I feel like a male buddy when we get into it Even if it starts playfully With time I realised that though as couple we r really good in relationship communication, buywe have different style of communication when it comes to topics like that He likes to wrestle with such topics. He's not so patient and open and flexible t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/26 05:32 PM |
| 2 | Spoiling Him & Being SpoiledHe doesn’t have a problem with when I don’t cook, it’s my feeling of anxiety. My hubs has a chronic gastritis so 9 times out of 10 if he will have to eat something out afterwards he’ll have health complications I’m trying to deal with my anxiety just by letting g go of control and leaving something for life to take care of My hubs is conscripted into army, so there’s irregular schedule that makes it hard for him to cook himself I’m not sure I understood about coaching and changing him. I’m not r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/25 06:37 AM |
| 2 | I want to escape my body sometimes..Wow, if u feel like this everytime after any type of of sex, I’m afraid it’s only a Therapist that can help, I’m sorry, not something a forum can do | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/12/25 09:32 PM |
| 2 | I want to escape my body sometimes..Have you worked with a sex therapist specifically ? If a therapist talks with u like a friend it’s a bad therapist I was objectified a lot because I was curvy from early on, what helped was getting together with my then boyfriend. Now I’m not scared anymore because it kinda turned around I use this, now I chase, and u can make me feel good and I’m selfish and enjoy it. It’s probably just copying but what helps my psyche is positioning me into that scary person who desired me. Now I’m thr bad gir… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/12/25 02:17 PM |
| 3 | Spoiling Him & Being SpoiledSounds good. Where I found I started to have a problem is on certain days just not cook or prep anything for him. I started feeling anxiety and guilt and it took me time do this “letting down” kind of For me it’s like addiction because you get such good feeling when that person shoes appreciation Maybe u could advise me how u handle it? | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/25 11:52 PM |
| 2 | F (25) another rantI'm a bit confused about the choice of sub. It is very unlikely you will find here the woman you assign the question to, so we’re just discussing what others do and “how it should be” People make their choices. It's not new to use bodis to gain money. Whatever they want to call it I really dont care Family life is not for everyone, it's hardships sometimes, it's sacrifice. If some woman would be happy living like this, I would not vote to put her in handcuffs for this It's the same for abortion … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/25 10:29 PM |
| 1 | Partner weight gain as a way of stabilizing sex life?He was more insecure about his body, less sex with him on top, and more effort to get me ready. He also noticed that it took me significantly more time to warm up | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/25 07:16 PM |
| 1 | Partner weight gain as a way of stabilizing sex life?I had a history with my hubs gaining weight. It’s true, it totally affects the bedroom. Well I started hitting the gym, dropped a few kg and was wearing tight clothes at home, flaunting how good I look. . At first he was joking that he’s a Shrek next to me, but eventually I feel like he got a bit “threatened” by how men look at me. He got in shape, lost 12 kgs, I’m very proud of him | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/25 07:06 PM |
| 2 | My therapist suggested I stop managing my husband to cure my anxiety. We are trying a Captain First Mate dynamic to prepare for kids but letting go is harder than I thoughtI was in some situations were husband led and unfortunately his decisions put us in harder situation. You know what, nobody died. He analyzed it, we talked about it and he used that as a learning experience I used to be extremely scared of hubby losing job, and when he did once I just learned that omg word doesn’t crash in that moment Anxiety is anticipating what could go wrong. What helped me is see it happen, and it was just gone There’s a lot of shame and guilt in relation to making a mistake… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/25 11:19 AM |
| 3 | Am I delusional or do you just know?For me in depends on whether u already live together :) Dating going around in beautiful places is nice enjoy it, don't think too much yet I believe the true fit checks starts with living together. Chores, seeing each other when u r tired etc | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/25 11:10 AM |
| 3 | Met someone magically. Life wants to shake things upWhen you're with him and he talks about his loss do you feel like u need to give him energy? Or your energy is being taken away from u? My hubs is in very difficult situation right now, and he's processing it. When he talks about his problems I now know he mostly just needs me to listen and validate his emotions Before I used to dive deep down into his “emotions or state, make it my active business to cheer up his mood etc. He communicatefd to me that when his upset he wants to come to me and be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/25 11:07 AM |
| 0 | Career women, do you regret it ?How old r u ? Do you have/dedicate any time to meeting people as of now ? If you meet someone, does your workload allow for dates and relationship? | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/12/25 01:07 PM |
| 3 | Bad friends or products of liberal dating culture?Well if you want long term relationship you need to speak to people who are already married. If all of them are single, how cna they advise u I have both married and single girlfriends in their 30s, their attitude and advice couldn't be more different. People can't advice on staff they're not living daily I still enjoy talking to them even thogih I'm married because I sometimes crave that feeling of being free and I genuily respect them. We just don't question each other life choices But have to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/25 11:28 AM |
| 6 | Feeling invisible to good menYou keep saying that people keep flirting with you. You might just be very attractive, and people feel playful around you, like flirting is natural around you. Does it make you uncomfortable? I know people who’s always playfully hint, but it’s part of the social game Not all people you happen to pass in life are what you attract. People around you mostly are defined by circumstances. Like people on dating apps might be looking for short-term not necessary because you “attract” that. I worked thr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/25 04:24 PM |
| 1 | Girls, I fumbled so hard. Don’t do what I did…Aww you got it girl Funny thing is I shared what is my daily struggle, I don’t feel in no way I already beat this instinct, still getting there Oh yes, I grew up very religious, it totally played into it and added to the fire 😁 Good luck 🍀 As I wrote in other comment, my goal is to get comfortable with observing men who are uncomfortable and not engaging to get them comfort uninvited It’s total torture for me haha 😆 I guess I still need more therapy for it | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/25 06:16 AM |
| 2 | Girls, I fumbled so hard. Don’t do what I did…Yea my mom too. She had 3 under 7 at one point 🫣😅 I can catch myself forgetting to brush teeth when really overwhelmed and on auto-pilot. Funny I never associated this state with my mom exactly until now just in general “focusing on people around me more than myself” But now that u said it, totally checks out 😳 | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/25 05:20 AM |
| 1 | I literally just need some clarityI’m sorry I don’t have specific answers for you. I was taught by me therapists to stop and think and then start leading question to - and then what ? > chain, until you get to all the why’s. Again therapist would be very helpful Instead of task of seeking out red-flags you can concentrate on your feelings next to him, and start asking yourself, how do you feel truly, and what are your expectations With the first guy, you mentioned you saying to him you’re not looking for relationship or somethin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/25 08:22 AM |
| 1 | Girls, I fumbled so hard. Don’t do what I did…😘😘 thank you, I draw inspiration from other comments so much. Sisterhood of “un-mothering man” 🤪, well if it has to be out without the “un” part… hmmm I guess sisterhood of becoming an obeserver of man get uncomfortable and do nothing to fix it 😁😂😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/25 08:09 AM |
| 3 | Girls, I fumbled so hard. Don’t do what I did…I’m coming to terms in life that.. I don’t believe that my advice or idea is that one thing people are lacking to change their life. If I just said and helped them. That I just need to give it to them and then their life will change It’s tempting to be a “problem-solver” I think It’s always that persons own agency Yes I also get frustrated when I don’t like solutions I hear, but..they’re working out their own life lessons If I’m asked for solution, I will give an opinion but not a flat out plan … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/25 08:00 AM |
| 3 | I literally just need some clarityIf you’re dealing with something for the first time how do you expect yourself to know everything It’s a learning experience. I’m sorry your fiends are not good with emotions and helping you express and figure it out. If possible please get a therapist I wish somebody told me this sooner. It’s good to engage in relationships to learn. It’s not a score sheet where it has to be perfect so you wait for only perfect You will also need to learn. As long as you make conclusions ( and your friends are … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/25 07:12 AM |
| 3 | Girls, I fumbled so hard. Don’t do what I did…We can be unaware of toxic patterns we picked up. It’s tough to break them From a side it seems dumb for somebody who doesn’t have that experience but believe it’s not like we had anybody in our lives point out and say - hey girl this is unhelpful Almost all woman in my family repeat those patterns, so they can’t help me. I learned to be aware of it only when sharing apartment with girl who was brought up as a younger child, spoiled in a good way by her dad This is where I saw what u need. And a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/25 07:03 AM |
| 4 | Girls, I fumbled so hard. Don’t do what I did…God yes. I can relate to that. Just so itching to offer up advice when listening to problems I had to train myself just to listen. I would count sheep just get my mind of coming up with solutions) It works though :) unless I’m specifically asked for advice | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/25 06:57 AM |
| 22 | Girls, I fumbled so hard. Don’t do what I did…Hey gal. I’m just like you, and I make those mistakes. But. It’s not irreversible, believe I know. Once I realized it, I made an effort everyday to stop myself when I feel I’m starting to baby my husband It works, the smelly garbage in the kitchen that just stays there, the lack of clean clothes, and telling him when it stinks.. What I tell myself is I have the same hardware of my grandmother, who babied my grandpa to point of helplessness, she lost respect for him I’m an older sister too But I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/25 06:43 AM |
| 1 | How I (M33) can best support my gf (F26) through workplace harassmentAhh I see, we are a little backwards in Eastern Europe ourselves 😅 so when it comes to physical protection we don't mind the overpower part. When it comes to harassment even at work it becomes business of my bf, husband, friend, uncle 😅😁 though younger generation is already not like me, I'm ‘95ver Sincerely good luck to you, u guess I dont had a good reply If the guy have seen you, I have no idea what he's playing | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/25 11:08 AM |
| 1 | How I (M33) can best support my gf (F26) through workplace harassmentShe can “put a ring on a right finger” and “announce engagement” with just jewelry Or for you to pick her up from work a few times, making sure to make eye contact with guy in question Men are scared of other man kinda If I ever get any comments, I always reply with like, oh yes my man is very lucky and he knows it I think I even said something like my man is into boxing and he loves it 😆 when I didn’t even have a boyfriend Maybe it’s not correct advice because it’s not her just kinda standing u… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/25 09:33 AM |
| 0 | Loved, spoiled, and left. My 10-Month rollercoaster relationshipWith his journal entries - you dodged a bullet girl. With him taking big gestured without commitment, the gestures don’t mean much | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/25 06:09 AM |
| 2 | Investments in beauty that make the biggest impact?Hair treatments like keratin to make it glossy | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/25 06:07 AM |
| 2 | How to raise my value as a woman with pastWell, I never told my now husband he was my first kiss at 25. And I knew I would never tell anybody about such bad lack of experience because it will affect mg self-esteem as positioning as woman , I mean you can just not tell, or say lower number. Why not?) you know men , they only copy how you carry yourself, if you show you are to be adored they will ) | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/25 08:43 AM |
| 2 | I feel unattracted to my husband who earns less than meI didn’t realize posts are monitored and reviewed. on whether they are good advice or no here . Surprised What is the problem with them being seen unless author will report them ? It is a difficult situation and I could relate to it as a woman. Happy to learn more myself | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/07/25 09:49 AM |
| 2 | Not being "that" special girlFirsts are rarely special for most people It’s awkward, oftentimes short and nothing like movies | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/25 08:59 PM |
| 2 | How do women who wants to marry the 1st guy they’ve been with sexually date?You mentioned a first to marry It takes time to gain experience in relationships. Confidence to look around after 1rst, working that emotional iq to réalise you are not just getting together with first person who “validated” your attractives or is it a codependent relationship or no. As for me, it’s hard to have enough experience and relationships if you only had one. Not a big pool to learn more I don’t say you need 3 or 10. But one is risky to put all your bets on, plus you would put enormous … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/25 08:36 PM |
| 3 | Trust IssuesTherapy. Please have at least few sessions to talk it out Just better looks won’t solve it, there can be always someone more attractive around, not loosing you shit around them is paramount to Goff relationship Is it possible you might be putting your bf a bit on a pedestal? Like he’s perfect. Do you guys live together ? Have you seen him beeing annoying, lazy, nitpicky etc? It seems like he’s such a “prize” The way I handle it is I know my man has flows, which I accept, and it’s not like he can… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/25 04:58 AM |
| 2 | Finally understand when men say "I don't know why women wear/do their make up like [xyz]. It's not attractive"!!!I have a straight ( has a gf) male colleague at work who started doing nail polish. I don’t like and try to ignore it, but I think it more has to do that in my head it’s coded as female I wouldn’t say anything to him, he does what he wants, it’s just my knee-jerk reaction to look away My husbands hates very visible obvious makeup because he’s very touchy with my face But believe when I do a very good makeup that gives me a fresher look he sure loves it I just learned with him he likes foundation… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/25 04:49 AM |
| 5 | I need some relationship advice. I am the issue, I am very masculine.It seems like a depression, rather than a relationship problem first When chemistry in brain is off, it seems like nothing can be done. After sweating and exercising, it always feel mentally better You might need that exercise for your mental health first. It also seems you have issues with suppressing anger, with how victimezed you describe you feel. Kickboxing is great but seems you need a lot more of it It takes a lot of anger to shrug off circumstances that put us down, and it’s not necessar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/25 06:29 PM |
| 1 | Hi 31(F) and I'm pleading for some advice for myself and my relationship. Finding it difficult to get past some things that are making me feel a bit defeated 😕I think it’s enough to just not make it your point to argue every single thing I would not call myself submissive necessarily, I just 1. Don’t have energy to argue 2. I rather we do it his way and he deals with consequences then arguing we do it my way I grew up with younger brothers. Telling them how to do staff always made me feel like a mommy. I hated that feeling, and I feel the same when telling my hubby how to do things when he didn’t ask As for shyness. I too am shy. What helps me is just… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/25 07:51 AM |
| 1 | I dislike the idea that a glow up to be prettier then other people, is a very bad thing.A word ranking just throws me off, but I do understand you get perceived in a different way when looking groomed and well cared for Especially by man. Sometimes I’m joking they get a bit cautious around such girl, and it’s cute to watch :) I guess I would say, for me it’s about how I get treated, and it’s just about knowing the social game and making it work for you. Not using it is like swimming opposite the steam, just why But I really don’t like the comparison part or ranking. People of men t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/25 09:54 AM |
| 8 | How to walk more femininely and develop more feminine mannerisms?Just two words - dance classes It will do it for you, no need to engineer anything :) Changes your posture, how u move your hips etc | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/25 07:36 PM |
| 2 | oneitis, self esteem, moving onMmm I started investing time into learning what makes me look great, exercising..and then I guess I started attracting more attention and dates And after being asked out I felt that I’m not interested in people not interested in me It was Pilates, running and dancing especially Dancing make helped me get that anger out, like how dare he 😁 after I took belly dancing and knew what it’s like having eyes on me while I dance by men, I couldn’t care less about guy not giving me attention I deserve | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/25 04:38 PM |
| 5 | oneitis, self esteem, moving onI think the fact you only slept together and haven’t done more is the reason he still held on to his mystery in your eyes. I’ve been there, couldn’t get over a guy for damn 3 years because I only seen him from a far. We get really attached to “what might have been”, its hell of a drug) What helped me was investing more time in myself and realizing I need to start going on dates. Also getting angry at him and doing kind of revenge glow up If you lived together, and you saw him scratching his ball… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/25 04:48 AM |
| 1 | Please help what does it mean to be a red pill woman?Bless your heart, good luck ☺️ | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/25 03:20 PM |
| 6 | Please help what does it mean to be a red pill woman?I’ve been in this sub for a few months I lean conservative but open minded I was looking for a forum where woman would share questions about relationships, so far I don’t know how but almost every question I can relate too. When I hit 25 I felt very betrayed by my upbringing because I was told to chase good grades and work. My hormones hit and I didn’t care about work that much anymore. At that time I réalised that good man to start family with are almost all taken at this point ( I’m in Eastern… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/25 05:48 AM |
| 6 | Is it normal to not be 100% attracted to your partner?I have never met anymore 100 percent fitted for my life or perfect Dunno gal. Did you have a lot of options go choose from when you met him ? I feel like .. look around and see other options, anything realistic ? If you have a type for a macho, likes always very very masculine, can you imagine daily life with him ? He could prone to control, more aggressive or stubborn than this one … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/25 06:01 PM |
| 12 | How do I inspire my boyfriend?Two jobs is stressful. If he’s looking for escapism he’s not coping well. I mean all weekend playing escapism. And all weekend - he’d certainly not ok with current situation Maybe you guys need to have a conversation about it. If he has no resource outside of work it’s not worth it My husband is motivated to get in shape when I flaunt my shape to him. He also gets jealous that somebody will snatch this gal with great body from him. For men anger is good motivator. I wear tight staff at home, no … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/25 07:53 AM |
| 7 | Did I Ruin my Chances of settling down with a High Value Man?You can give it a try and see, and consider it testing ) I made it my goal to not talk about work,ambitions, me leading teams at home. Anything beside that, because then I feel like a bro😁 I tell him about my beauty appointments, and yoga, so he hears I spend money on that. I also don’t try to demostrate I’m smarter all the time, I feel like it’s older sister behaviour I don’t tell my partner about my monetary promotions. As for degrees, it’s pretty hot to be so smart :) It just depends how u ca… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/25 10:02 AM |
| 2 | Need advice for supporting my husband through his health problemsI don’t have answers in terms of medical advice, but I was there where partner had a mental issue. It was very difficult What I was told helped and it works but it is still a contant effort from me I stopped offering any advice. hinting, offering up ideas. Just listened and tried to not get consumed by it I consciously tried to focus on myself when I knows be had no resource to share with me It was tough, but time passed, and he started to bring up ideas on how to handle situation and went to do… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/25 07:24 PM |
| 7 | navigating beauty as currency when you’re just okayYou sound a bit younger You don’t need to be very pretty or popular to get with somebody. You don’t have to be liked by all men, just one, since you can only have a relationship with one at a time :) When I look around I have girlfriends who all look very different, and have very different things on which relationship gets build. Looks only matter in high school:) Relationships are also routine, you see each other in unflattering angles, and get used that somebody will see you as u are In terms … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/25 07:16 PM |
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