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| 1 | Every Man Can be in the Top 20% to WomenThe only one who can give you the facts is whoever you're attracted to or thinking about... Sometimes that's how we get our answers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 07:28 AM |
| 1 | Every Man Can be in the Top 20% to WomenWell, there you go. You had to try first, and you were capable of being wrong. It's still important for young people to go through that before or instead of doom, spiraling, and whining. Now, eventually we all find times to whine - some of us more than others. I do get that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 01:49 AM |
| 1 | Every Man Can be in the Top 20% to WomenWhen I was 15 I just didn't ask them out because I already knew the answer. It really isn't that difficult. Oh bullshit. This is exactly the problem with pill spaces and talking about things you can't change like they are the only important factor. You can't tell what it's like to be available for someone romantically if you don't even try it when you're young and you like someone for the first couple of times. That's how we find out where we fit in, how socialization works for our personalities… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 01:43 AM |
| 1 | Every Man Can be in the Top 20% to WomenNo one wants to listen to another short dude whine about dating. That's what reddit is for. Well... I... I mean, I get that, actually? I've been there. I don't tell the people in my life about my really difficult situations. I won't even tell Reddit sometimes, not on this account anyway. But here is my point - when you are 15 and you like a few girls, surely you're going to ask your friends about that and your family before you land in these toxic spaces and resort to whining? It's not venting s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 01:31 AM |
| 1 | Every Man Can be in the Top 20% to WomenIt's not unimportant to the men who made that choice. I don't like erasing people. And I don't like when I'm told that I need to be the one to encourage and discourage and look at stats population of men from their own very personal choices - none of which have to do with me as a married woman, although my first love was probably about 5'7'' at his tallest. I'm a big fan of minding the business that pays me. And like I said before somewhere in this related thread, I am a big fan of looking at th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 01:18 AM |
| 1 | Every Man Can be in the Top 20% to WomenLmao you asked me to tell you what the stats mean - and I'm saying they have 2 lopsided sides. You never asked me to make other people's decisions for them - because you know you can't. But I am telling all folks to hopefully find a peaceful way to live with whatever they do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 01:08 AM |
| 1 | Every Man Can be in the Top 20% to WomenI'm sure they have. But not all the time. That's the other side of the stat. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 12:12 AM |
| 1 | Every Man Can be in the Top 20% to WomenYou know your experience better than I do, but there are men who are that height and good looking and strong and successful and not single. Your situation is more than one thing, and it is more than any internet stranger can comprehend. It is your own. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/25 11:40 PM |
| 1 | Every Man Can be in the Top 20% to Women"Blind?" Well, not quite. Definitely look at the whole picture. But what I'm definitely saying is that internet strangers or stats on one immutable trait are the exact opposite of the source to go to for a complete picture of anything. You don't use statistics to determine doom, or I would argue even to adjust. You have to actually look at yourself as a full person to make any adjustments and even use your own experiences and judgments and advice of people close to you. You have to get out there… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/25 11:21 PM |
| 1 | Every Man Can be in the Top 20% to WomenTate isn't about stats and/or any sort of respect. I'm not even looking at or disputing said facts. I am asking why You are so interested in women's commentary on these stats or attractions, as if that's helpful to anyone. In fact it is harmful - stats are not always 100 or 0. Leave room for some nuance. I'm literally not even sure what question is being asked of me! And for any question, I certainly don't speak for all women or to all men. There are exceptions. And there are ways in which I am … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/25 10:54 PM |
| 1 | Every Man Can be in the Top 20% to WomenSub 5? Is that a technical objective measure? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/25 10:47 PM |
| 1 | Every Man Can be in the Top 20% to WomenHere you are speaking for women and me now. But women are the problem, OK | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/25 10:42 PM |
| 1 | Every Man Can be in the Top 20% to WomenMy solution not to talk over the people having a problem? My solution to not tell them "sorry luck isn't in your side! Nothing else to add!" You missed a crucial part of what I said. Shorter men haven't asked for my input or my sympathies. They never asked me to speak on their struggles. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/25 10:35 PM |
| 1 | Every Man Can be in the Top 20% to WomenNah but that's the thing. You don't have men saying "This is hard for me because I'm literally below 5'5''. I feel these ways and this is what I experience." If it was that, I could respect it. Instead, I see much more average dudes online talking about it like y'all know just as much as I do. This isn't my issue, or likely yours. We don't need to be telling other people statistics. Let them figure out their lives for the most part. It's different by country, location, and yes - numbers. If ther… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/25 09:57 PM |
| -1 | Every Man Can be in the Top 20% to WomenI barely know any men under that height. And I also barely know any men that wanted to be pursued by a woman, at least not back in the day when I was dating new people. It makes them feel "put on the spot" when the woman makes a direct move. So no, more relevant. Someone who is 5'4'' cannot change their height. Women actively pursuing a man is not how most relationships start, either. ETA: I guess the only helpful way this "groundbreaking information" can be used is to encourage men under 5'5'' … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/25 09:45 PM |
| -3 | Every Man Can be in the Top 20% to WomenEh? Is all that men say "hey that's an advantage"? Or do they say that women ALL go for the TOP 20% even if they don't DESERVE him and also that guy doesn't HAVE to or WANT to commit to someone equal so he ruins dating for everyone else? Congratulations, being tall and healthy-looking or even movie star level handsome can be a good thing especially if you go after movie star type women for yourself. The Hell are the majority of men on the internet, or women, going to do about it? Nothing. It's n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/25 09:21 PM |
| 12 | Beware of people who give you sob stories that explain that everyone else is the problem.A lot of the time you're not wrong. But sometimes? People online get the bad luck. Maybe even one in a million back luck. We have a lot more than a million people on the planet now. And/or sometimes maybe these people are super freaking young and they just THINK that 'it's over' at 20 or 22 lol. Also, especially if we are talking about the young crowd, parents have responsibilities in this. If their own family is their biggest bad experience that makes them hate marriage or something, like damn,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/25 07:29 PM |
| 7 | The passport bros are saving these women you’re just too privileged to see itI find it interesting that you mentioned the burden that trad women carry of having to cook, clean and rear children, but did not mention the burden that trad men carry of having to support the family financially. The other commenter absolutely mentioned this already! They said that might work as reciprocation back in their home country, but it absolutely doesn't work when a working woman takes him to a new country because that now also falls on her, which you in fact seem to ignore. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/25 06:44 AM |
| 1 | Attracting women and being a good partner require different skillsetsI don't agree. It is very possible to enjoy going out to the ballet as a family, enjoy family pool parties, and baseball games. People do those things as family all the time - both the parents and the cool aunt/uncle. It doesn't have to be restrictive. Allow me to clarify further with examples: it is important to enjoy having some group of friends/family, be capable of handling client and/or management meetings well without burning out super fast, and not be a stick in the mud about activities w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/25 12:43 AM |
| 1 | Attracting women and being a good partner require different skillsetsThrow the feminist book in the garbage where it belongs I have this president instead of Kamala Harris lmfao. Can't take you seriously on that as much as I wish I could. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/25 12:24 AM |
| 2 | Attracting women and being a good partner require different skillsetsYou have to be able to attend your child's events, have fun with it, and set an example for then. Plus your spouse's family and work events - or even just continuing fun friendly social events because that's also a fun thing people do. It helps in committed adult relationships. Group vacations, socializing on cruises or in foreign travels. These things can be real advantages - but at a bare minimum to teach your children to be social and to better advocate for their best interest in extracurricu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/25 12:23 AM |
| 1 | It is not a parent’s job to teach their kids how to get laid.Literally. Just focus on relationship stuff and the sex stuff will come in due time! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/25 10:39 PM |
| 9 | Becoming a single mother by choice using a sperm donor is actually insane and it would rightfully be seen as insane if it was men who did itI upvoted this so fast I became The Flash | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/25 04:14 PM |
| 1 | How did RP help you?Exactly. Those who aren't jealous won't see it as a good thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/25 02:28 PM |
| 4 | Attracting women and being a good partner require different skillsetsBeing able to go out and enjoy activities socially and get along with others will absolutely help any parent with their children in a marriage/committed family. Same skill set. Even in a committed relationship, women appreciate that you take care of your health/looks. Same skill set. Having a job to afford all those things and keep connections - same skill set that both a new lover and a wife will appreciate, but differently. I think that society puts more pressure on men for a higher paying job… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/25 12:55 PM |
| 1 | How did RP help you?I mean, don't they? People are social and will try to find someone - normally men with certain traits will have comparable women with similar or complementary traits. Those people exists, although I will agree meeting numbers of people in general is harder now than it was when I was born. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/25 12:42 PM |
| 1 | How did RP help you?Every time a man tries to brag to me, I just think he's pathetic. If the sex was basically good, which you're right it normally is, it's your lack of commitment or other poor choices and personality that keeps driving them away. We are all equals here. Women don't like ran through men either. I surely don't. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/25 12:40 PM |
| 1 | How did RP help you?Short end of the stick isn't the same as "not a single person would ever want you or has ever wanted you and you can't turn anyone down ever." The population is about 50/50, yeah people are almost all going to have options in theory even if those options may be fewer or have certain traits and quirks. The tricky part is finding out what your options are and meeting them and even maybe the luck/judgment to match up lifestyle wise with what your typical tribe might also want. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/25 10:50 AM |
| 1 | How did RP help you?The social/sexual hierarchy? Bro what? No, the computer science guy who refuses to drop his standards to a similar junkie is still higher than the group of junkies who get together sometimes - even if he hasn't found the right person yet, some of whom eventually might actually find her. I acknowledge there are people who cant even get that. Does this not feel a little presumptuous of you? I would never presume to know that much about anyone's social or sexual life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/25 10:39 AM |
| 1 | How did RP help you?First of all, I am not single but I am childless right now. I am not denying my privilege - I am lucky my husband found me. There have probably been good people to be lonely, and that's a tragedy, but also in order to be this successful I absolutely had to learn about myself and what I want. I had to be a good person and exercise self-control and work hard and learn to compromise. If I were just unlucky OR I wasn't able to do those things because of my life choices, I would be better off celibat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/25 10:26 AM |
| 1 | How did RP help you?Money will impact social life and invite people you wouldnt want in your life. Cmon now youre making it easy. No money doesn't do that. People do that. You can have money put away and people don't even have to know about it. You can't have sex on your own! only having the option of having sex is way better than nothing at all. I have literally only ever turned that down, and while that may soothe the ego in some sense, it doesn't stop a person from having very genuine feelings of loneliness and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/25 10:05 AM |
| 0 | How did RP help you?Money literally does not equal sex that's a wildly inaccurate comparison that goes directly into my perception it must be all about ego for some people. Sex with other people comes with diseases, responsibilities, and sometimes children. Sex with other people will impact your whole social life and invite people to your home - and not in the positive way that money will always just increase opportunity. I am not trying to moralize any failures, have you read my comments? I'm saying sex for a few … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/25 09:37 AM |
| 1 | Why do you guys pretend getting successfull with woman is a easy task?It's not so much easy - adulting isn't easy - but it is something most of us are born in a situation where our best interest is served by putting in the work. The juice usually is worth the squeeze to get a good job, keep up your appearance, and socialize with others respectfully and meaningfully. Usually. Not all of us are born asocial or with a trust fund or something like that. Most of us are regular folks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 08:00 PM |
| 3 | Most women want to be the primary caregiver for their kids despite complaining about it.You said that's what alimony is for, so I thought we were speaking generally. Sorry. Like is it not a thing that men choose a wife asking her specifically to be a SAHM for his reasons, then he cheats or otherwise acts shitty, and then the wife leaves? Because I'm pretty sure that's a thing and that's why I'm not every staying at home. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 07:35 PM |
| 5 | Most women want to be the primary caregiver for their kids despite complaining about it.You think every stay at home mom absolutely insists on that? So men aren't more attached to traditional women? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 07:27 PM |
| 2 | How did RP help you?And yet these women and babies are still dead, obviously. It's a cold, bard fact. Just because you intended less harm at first doesn't mean it didn't happen - multiple times over, in fact. Hospitals have whole legal departments which would know this sort of thing if you were right, no? Are you arguing with me now that these immoral women should be having and raising fully formed babies? Some moral advancement you got there. Let's get back to keeping it simple: do not sleep with women if you do n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 07:01 PM |
| 1 | How did RP help you?But you DID say that abortion is one reason that women are not equal and men are second class citizens. That's literally what you said. I’m used to women being incapable of defending their position Oh I will gladly defend the position that you should not sleep with women you don't see as equals, but many other people including husbands and fathers of dead women or girls have explained exactly why abortion needs to be a legal right. You were raised most likely by an adult woman. I can tell what y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 06:46 PM |
| 4 | What do women like about going out on a date?You don't want us to answer with a response about getting dolled up and seeing new things? Honestly feeling pretty, valued, relaxed, and served good food like royalty is a fucking valid feeling to enjoy when going out. Some of the same things we enjoy going out with friends - although feeling pretty in a 'we are actually attracted to each other' way and feeling valued in a 'we can see maybe making a family together and retiring together' kind of way is usually more specific to dating. Going out … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 06:41 PM |
| 11 | What do women like about going out on a date?Honestly feeling pretty, valued, relaxed, and served good food like royalty is a fucking valid feeling to enjoy when going out. Some of the same things we enjoy going out with friends - although feeling pretty in a 'we are actually attracted to each other' way and feeling valued in a 'we can see maybe making a family together and retiring together' kind of way is usually more specific to dating. Going out in a sharp suit looking good with a hot chick and being served good food is nice for men, t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 06:37 PM |
| -1 | How did RP help you?Why? Why is bad sex worse than no sex? As a woman, I would never. Would be better to be single. Is it an ego thing? Especially when "a lot of unsuccessful" men don't do the basic adult things that lead to healthy relationships that can facilitate a good sex life, this theory that such men have a painful envy for the mid men so much ain't clicking for me. These aren't men with problems in their body or ability - I know many who act like they could care less. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 06:29 PM |
| 3 | How did RP help you?ou don’t work that hard to refute things unless you’re afraid they’re right. It's a whole ass field of study. You can't just discount her because she believes women deserve rights lmfao. There were going to be people to disagree with him and take a different direction - especially in such a subjective thing that basically is a part of philosophy. They’re pampered, privileged, and would crumble in a world that treats them like men and not upper class citizens. I'm not interested in speaking with … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 06:22 PM |
| 0 | How did RP help you?No I haven't studied moral development by some classification systems. You brought it up out of nowhere. Sounds like both systems ARE, well, made up. Why don't you cite the studies for this in-depth research as to where women fit in, besides telling me what the man claims with no data? Perhaps men rarely make it past as well. We all know plenty who haven't made it to a good moral place, that's for sure. None of it is an excuse to take on an equal adult relationship where you think you're superio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 06:10 PM |
| 1 | How did RP help you?That's not a source, that's a classification system with no data shown in said system among groups. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 05:26 PM |
| 1 | How did RP help you?There's no reason to compromise in a flat-out opposing situation like that. Just be single. The complementary parts aren't worth it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 02:57 PM |
| 1 | How did RP help you?How strange. What matters? What needs to be kept away from women? Because if I didn't take at least half the responsibility in my marriage, that wouldn't be good at all. I think I greatly disagree with you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 02:51 PM |
| 1 | How did RP help you?No I completely agree. I think you can't force them. They'll never agree with you, clearly they don't want to. So why are you of the belief that this same male/female nature where they don't want what you want can ever be naturally complementary and useful and healthy? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 02:49 PM |
| 0 | How did RP help you?You can't compare yourself to some asshole's very honestly mid highlight reel. If his personality is that bad, he's going to have problems in real life at some point soon. A person can't escape their own self. Their "doing better with women" might often be an awkward night or 2 with some validation-seeking lady, but you don't even see that part either. And that's one major reason why I never did nor do I recommend doing charity for guys who ain't husband material. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 02:48 PM |
| 2 | How did RP help you?Omg, if it's so mutual, wouldn't you be able to come to an honest and candid agreement together instead of avoiding the opposite space? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 02:44 PM |
| 2 | How did RP help you?You mean if you can lie and deceive about the cheating and whatnot? Wouldn't that be YOUR OWN decline and not much different from times in the past? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 02:42 PM |
| 5 | Why do men want to go to places with hot women if these hot women will reject them?Lmao how do you know the difference between 3 and 4? If you're just casually clubbing, you can't tell if they're there for validation or for, like, you as a person. That's kind of why I never was into that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/25 01:45 AM |
| 1 | Reading dating profile bios doesn't make sense if you're a manThat is a somewhat decent explanation, I supposed, if someone's profile said that's what they were looking for casual. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/25 02:47 PM |
| 1 | Reading dating profile bios doesn't make sense if you're a manWell, maybe the person they are talking to HAS had the risky sex. Or maybe the one person wants to get to know them maybe for a serious relationship and/or to trust them with no condom, to trust them with sharing whatever other k!ink$ they enjoy or something. There are a lot of valid reasons to not jump right into sex talk with someone you just messaged or met. Particularly in online dating, a quick scan of their profile is literally available to see if they answered something to the effect of "… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/25 01:31 PM |
| 2 | Women Prioritize Validation Over Resolution — and That’s a ProblemAdults normally don't feel unheard for no reason, but sure if you're dealing with a very specific case, go for it. Normally silly things like eggplant or birthday plans for someone else's birthday in one instance don't cause relationship strife. If they do, you might need to reevaluate something or other. It is important for her and you both to be able to take no for an answer sometimes. It is important to realize that what your partner says may have weight greater than "oh it's just her feels, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/25 01:26 PM |
| 6 | Women Prioritize Validation Over Resolution — and That’s a ProblemThey fail to set boundaries with their wife, they let their wife walk all over them, then they have sex with the first woman who shows them that women don’t have to be that way. Awww what about that internal locus of control? Haha Even when someone is the aggrieved party and has no part in the problem in the relationship, that person still has to communicate in a way that encourages solutions rather than mere validation of the negatives. If the issue is too great, they could break up or the part… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/25 05:19 AM |
| 3 | Reading dating profile bios doesn't make sense if you're a manI am not someone who believes hookups are generally the most healthy, and I definitely don't do them nor did I ever. I guess I can see why it would matter less, but then if all the apps were just about hookups and women were OK with this, they wouldn't care about people knowing who they are or having a better conversation, right? The original post is talking about the complaints - not situations where it would be expected to not talk much. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/25 05:07 AM |
| 7 | Women Prioritize Validation Over Resolution — and That’s a ProblemIf you don't understand why your partner feels like their communication isn't getting through the first time, their frustration will not likely go away and you'll keep hearing something similar to nagging. If you don't understand why your partner sees a problem and is looking for a solution, then you can't offer adult input like several possible choices and innovative ideas. It's often better to listen and understand before you go off making choices. If the issue was really simple as "there is o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/25 05:04 AM |
| 1 | Reading dating profile bios doesn't make sense if you're a manGod that's crazy. Is everyone stupid now? It's kind of a valid complaint tbh. If online dating was mostly that, I can't see why anyone uses it! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/25 04:47 AM |
| 3 | Reading dating profile bios doesn't make sense if you're a manThen that's a lil gross honestly. It takes 3 months to get tested for STD's properly. He's the gender who actually won't know if she's pregnant after the fact unless he bothers to check in. And he's doing all that? For 1 night? Where he also similarly is going to know that little about her sexual tastes and vice versa? It's just personally I don't get or like anything about that, sorry. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/25 04:47 AM |
| 5 | Reading dating profile bios doesn't make sense if you're a manRight? No one is looking for a pen pal, but maybe a husband eventually? Or even someone who can take the 3 months celibate to properly test for diseases and be safe? Like OMG. But this is just another reason why I say I don't get online dating. Like people you meet - meet people you like. Touch grass. Maybe connect in person over more than photos and letters, if you can? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/25 11:12 PM |
| 27 | Reading dating profile bios doesn't make sense if you're a manIf you DO match, don't message without giving a read of something about her first. What if you see a dealbreaker? And that's not even how to have a conversation. You can't just open up with "you are a woman - want sex?" I realize this sounds like a strawman, but you see men on this app act like they are "saving time" by getting to things that quickly. No, if you spoke to every woman ever like that - you'd be likely to end up in the worst possible situation for yourself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/25 08:24 PM |
| 1 | Lonely guys just dont like people but hate the feeling isolation brings.Thank you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/25 06:56 PM |
| 1 | Lonely guys just dont like people but hate the feeling isolation brings.How do you feel about these people you desire? Have you ever felt any desire that goes beyond short-term physical, or beyond your genetic legacy? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/25 06:54 PM |
| 1 | Lonely guys just dont like people but hate the feeling isolation brings.Not everyone is into it. Especially young and inexperienced people - I know it took me a long time to get comfortable with the idea for a lot of reasons. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/25 06:52 PM |
| 0 | Lonely guys just dont like people but hate the feeling isolation brings.They only want to be touched sexually though. It is clear. After long enough and the "new relationship energy" stops they'll stop holding hands and shit, they might not talk as much, and their fiance will be like "really after all this you want to just have sex?" Or worse, they'll openly say they don't want to live with a woman or share dinner with her daily or retire with her, but he insists that "the sex is the best part" and it's just better to be FWB without all the "bad parts of a relations… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/25 06:49 PM |
| 1 | Lonely guys just dont like people but hate the feeling isolation brings.Very interesting... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/25 06:44 PM |
| 3 | Lonely guys just dont like people but hate the feeling isolation brings.Interesting... I wonder if this also has something to do with people later in life who struggle with non-sexual affection or other types of social connection. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/25 06:43 PM |
| -2 | Lonely guys just dont like people but hate the feeling isolation brings.Loneliness is something all people deal with. But like, that's part of the reason why it usually isn't supposed to be lifelong. If it's a chronic problem not being addressed and everyone else is suffering for it, then yes, that kind of makes someone a bad person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/25 06:42 PM |
| 4 | Lonely guys just dont like people but hate the feeling isolation brings.Were you like this to your sisters, mother, or caregiver when you were small? Sometimes it could be a brain difference thing, but yes, touch hunger is a thing for most people's brains and a way to comfort each other with a pat on the back or something. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/25 06:38 PM |
| 7 | Lonely guys just dont like people but hate the feeling isolation brings.Did you have a father who hugged you, wrestled with you, played football with you? That might be it. We all have different hang-ups or something, but yes most people like to feel close. Boys/men on sports teams always do this stuff. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/25 06:35 PM |
| 7 | Lonely guys just dont like people but hate the feeling isolation brings.I have seen so many intelligent and at a minimum decent looking men squander away their youth with party girls and not wanting to work a meaningful job or go to college. I worked in the chain/fast food restaurant industry. So I met some low socioeconomic status people, particularly the men were single (at least frequently single) even if they were young fathers or occasionally sleeping around. They rarely socialized outside of drugs/alcohol and sex. It seemed like a lonely life to me! They defin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/25 06:33 PM |
| 2 | A lot of men on here are incapable of being reasonable partners in the modern day and age, regardless of looks, because they can't see a difference between sex and financial freedomYeah HR is actually designed to prevent nepotism. And yes lawsuits should be protected against. If there are questions, it's probably for a good reason and not as frivolous as you say. I've heard things men say, and no, my very male father wouldn't be OK with those things being said around his daughters or other women from his church or something. So why be worse to your coworkers? Don't. Maybe women ARE more professional if this is such a problem for men. Guarantee you we aren't gonna talk abou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 11:19 PM |
| 5 | A lot of men on here are incapable of being reasonable partners in the modern day and age, regardless of looks, because they can't see a difference between sex and financial freedomIt's not a joke. Do you even know what HR does? And that when you follow the rules you actually don't get in trouble? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 07:19 PM |
| 2 | A lot of men on here are incapable of being reasonable partners in the modern day and age, regardless of looks, because they can't see a difference between sex and financial freedomHR exists for really good reasons even for cis straight white men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 07:05 PM |
| 2 | A lot of men on here are incapable of being reasonable partners in the modern day and age, regardless of looks, because they can't see a difference between sex and financial freedomHahaha I find this so hard to believe. That's gross. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 06:23 PM |
| 1 | Not everyone needs to play the field, but everyone must have a "young" romance first.Well then it sounds like we agree on most of that. I just don't agree that women of similar age all want to focus on kids immediately like that. I suppose it's a consideration, but fairly understandable and not the most impossible to work around. Lots of people are child free these days. Getting a vasectomy puts you ahead on the market lmfao. God this world is crazy. I digress... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 04:27 PM |
| 8 | A lot of men on here are incapable of being reasonable partners in the modern day and age, regardless of looks, because they can't see a difference between sex and financial freedom........ The F? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 03:46 PM |
| 4 | Maybe you are the Fox?you know why they look so depleted and unhealthy? because the literally choose heroin over food, they eat raw spaghetti or nothing at all so they can buy more heroine Yes I do know that. But it's unhealthy and not attractive. Also causes skin issues. Overall not Chadly. so the grapes are sour Right. Factually sour. Not that they can't be gotten especially for a short moment. But they are sour and not worth what's given, to me and apparently to many others. Your few cases don't seem to disprove t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 02:23 PM |
| 6 | Maybe you are the Fox?Because the grapes are sour? But regardless, her0in junkies are very physically depleted and unhealthy. If that's your version of Chad in any reality, I say you've probably got some rethinking to do. I think mechanics can be good men and good looking (maybe even eventually financially successful) and there's nothing wrong with that, but if she was generous and he was disloyal or a user, he's the one in the wrong and takes value/joy/time/money away from the people in his life at least at that poi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 02:05 PM |
| 7 | Maybe you are the Fox?I.... Don't even know where to begin. And those women are the fox in your scenario? Those grapes sound pretty sour! It sounds like we actually agree these women are approached by lesser men, only you happen to choose the example or two where some of the lower men weren't rejected immediately. In high school, I made a friend and considered a boy who I never should have spoken to. It does happen. People learn. Some quicker than others. I live in reality, if you're going to be hostile and discount … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 01:53 PM |
| 6 | A lot of men on here are incapable of being reasonable partners in the modern day and age, regardless of looks, because they can't see a difference between sex and financial freedomWhat feminine cultural norms are harmful to men in the workplace? Also. What sexual harassment policies allegedly go overboard? I feel like my father would support all of these policies for his female children without hesitation. When he started hiring women, he was happy to treat them as what they are and keep them comfortable because he's like a good person. I feel like this is a good thing for men even if they don't have female family members they care about if only because it gives them prac… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 01:49 PM |
| -1 | A lot of men on here are incapable of being reasonable partners in the modern day and age, regardless of looks, because they can't see a difference between sex and financial freedomStats don’t lie, why so many more guys are single than women. I am not sure people know what the word single means anymore... Is there a lot of LGBT population or are people poly now? That's the only way this makes sense. We have a roughly equal gender population. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 01:45 PM |
| 7 | Maybe you are the Fox?I have never met a woman working at McDonald's in her mom's cellar who isn't turning down someone worse (disloyal, substance abuse problem, baby mamas, doesn't wash dishes, something like that). That's the thing about men. While they don't seem particularly flattered and actually feel more pressured when a woman puts them on the spot directly, the worst of them absolutely do not fear intimately approaching a woman they might have fun with. If he ain't asking out one woman directly, he's nonstop … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 01:42 PM |
| 0 | How attractive are the men who cold approach you?I saw this post before and really wanted to think about it before answering. So here's my response after some thought. The men (or mostly boys when I was young and single, as it's normally obvious now I'm married) who cool or cold approached me were usually fairly good looking and light hearted, usually funny and brooding in a way. They actually do have a punk style personality type in common now that I think of it. But are they ATTRACTIVE? Back in my single days some of them were teens, as expe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 01:10 PM |
| -1 | Not everyone needs to play the field, but everyone must have a "young" romance first.That's interesting and maybe even valid, but then what? Wait until you're up to 40 for kids? With whomst, some 20 something you lady who... Never had a fun maximizing adult relationship before you? At that point - sure have a fun relationship and keep it together based on all on the accountability of your own reasons and personality and commitments or float around. Nur don't even consider children - the time for that has passed. And very few men should be in this position - even at 25 you can ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 01:00 PM |
| – | The avêrage man has no reason to promote womên’s rightseliminates the possibility of childhood stability for most people including me. Are you saying your parents are still not together and weren't throughout at least part of your childhood? And that you blame your mother's freedom? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 11:50 AM |
| 2 | Women don't view sex the same way men do (referring to previous post).Sex is connective, dynamic and important even to me as a woman. If he physically can't because we are long distance or whatever other medical reasons, I don't feel like we have a lack of affection and when the physical barrier goes away we can easily show each other that love again. Because the affection was always there. Sending notes, if we are nearby holding hands/cuddling, gifts, words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time. And those things in a way I would regularly not do for my be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/25 12:41 PM |
| 5 | The only criteria to loving a man.The last thing to expect is for your partner to just be OK without explanation - it was a super fun thing to do they thought you both enjoyed over probably a long time! Now if you can't stand to talk to them about certain things that's fair, but they won't be happy about it and eventually other things will change. Maybe even everything. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/25 08:18 AM |
| 5 | The only criteria to loving a man.Oh this is the thing. If it was all great sex for a good while, but later there's a sudden or vastly increasing problem your partner doesn't even bring up or otherwise look at fixing while remaining open about it with you, that's a breakdown of big proportions. It's like if a person stops their favorite hobbies without a word or stops coming to Sunday family dinner weekly. Changing routines doesn't happen overnight for no reason. Shit's cooked and without being addressed everyone is not headed i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/25 08:03 AM |
| 1 | The only criteria to loving a man.Hmm I would personally say that's the practical way to have sex is when you have a distinguished relationship, yes, but there are others who agree otherwise with a "special friend" or a not so special flavor of the week. Know which kind of person you're talking to if you find someone of interest. Furthermore, romantic relationships are often practically distinguished by things like parenthood, medical power of attorney, or financial/domestic/other daily lifestyle choices. Gotta think about those… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/25 07:58 AM |
| 6 | The only criteria to loving a man.If you're not asexual then your mind shouldn't even be thinking about "what about after sugery?". Your mind should be focused on spending as much time in bed with him as possible. .............................. You know people's minds still work right after or even before they fuck, right? People have so much fun talking and sleeping together that they might get married, and those tough conversations about having kids (which happens from sex) or the future need to be had because of life conseque… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/25 07:53 AM |
| 7 | The only criteria to loving a man.Say a couple has 3 kids. That's at least 4 years maybe spread out a bit maybe not, give or take, where you CAN have sex on occasion outside the 6+ week waiting period, but your young child(ren) will be demanding AF. That takes patience for both people in the relationship. It won't happen often with surgery, so it will be uncomfortable for both people and unexpected and hard to tell how a partner may react, but with a lifelong relationship it will likely happen to each partner at least one time. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/25 07:44 AM |
| 1 | Women say rejection is apart of life but I feel as if they don’t experience it enough to really understand how demoralizing it is.I do think meeting people and having options can be good. There are good men and women. I met mine at University like you said. And I wish there was acknowledgement that men get to choose the time they bring these things up - as a good thing, not an obligation. It seems they are more comfortable this way from my view! I mean I absolutely appreciate my husband and all other men who genuinely respected me and cared about me, especially romantically. My husband by far the most, of course. But he do… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/25 10:49 PM |
| 2 | Women say rejection is apart of life but I feel as if they don’t experience it enough to really understand how demoralizing it is.What do you think makes a woman unattractive? A woman's nose, cheeks, eyes, or slight wrinkles and gray hair is considered huge enough for men to comment on. They'll comment online when a woman has one pimple and you know damn well makeup cannot cover that type of thing well. I could never master makeup. Of course I find my husband attractive, but it wasn't easy for an attractive man or myself (hopefully at leave attractive to him) to date. Didn't really have to do with gender. Imagine this: the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/25 10:19 PM |
| 1 | Women say rejection is apart of life but I feel as if they don’t experience it enough to really understand how demoralizing it is.Globally? I think suicide, military draft, paternity fraud obviously. That was easy. But also not my point. It's pretty people. Pretty people have dating easy. Less attractive women and men will struggle. But both groups absolutely struggle relatively equally - dating in a monogamous majority is close enough to a 50/50 game! Men actually have more partners on average than women lifelong. So... It's not that I don't believe men have struggles. And they do have dating struggles. It's just... Why w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/25 08:22 PM |
| -2 | Women say rejection is apart of life but I feel as if they don’t experience it enough to really understand how demoralizing it is.Suffering Olympic games aren't support - although I guess in your head you can think that your problems are whatever you want to think they are. Unless you have known and had empathy for a lot of women as much as you have men, you can't objectively say that women's experience aren't exactly as common and serious as we think. They are, after all, our experiences. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/25 07:58 PM |
| 4 | Women say rejection is apart of life but I feel as if they don’t experience it enough to really understand how demoralizing it is.With some logical reasoning we can tell that everybody has problems, that's about it. Neither side has SUCH worse problems that both can't be discussed with merit. It's honestly worth distrusting anyone who wants to compare like this openly instead of focusing on whatever topic is at hand. Of course that kind of discussion is not productive or needed. But anyway, also you have people in your life not on the internet. A mother, sister, coworkers, women, maybe a love or two in your history. Discou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/25 12:24 PM |
| – | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵University | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/25 07:09 PM |
| 1 | "Just talk to women as people" and its even worse when you realize they genuinely like you as a person, yet none of them sees you "that way"I completely understand that. Like, if you are interested based on her looks, you might even ask casual small talk questions and find out she is single. Probably wouldn't go on long car rides alone with her without mentioning romance and trying to kiss her. I get all that, but surely you can start out simple and stuff before diving into "let's go out of our way to meet one-on-one to even talk with each other." Like, friendly, but not strictly a friend? And an acquaintance if it doesn't work out … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/25 04:32 PM |
| 1 | "Just talk to women as people" and its even worse when you realize they genuinely like you as a person, yet none of them sees you "that way"It works both ways, right? I'm confused. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/25 09:50 AM |
| 2 | "Just talk to women as people" and its even worse when you realize they genuinely like you as a person, yet none of them sees you "that way"I get that you wouldn't go out of your way, but aren't there women at your work you consider friendly and don't hate talking to? Maybe women from school or church or hobby groups? I would think this happens much more often than you approaching a woman romantically. I am surprised this isn't how you naturally met most of your crushes. That's how I met people. I didn't have to go out of my way. I just... Liked men sometimes. And then I was like "oh shit, I really like this one" and I was mad about… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/25 09:22 AM |
| 3 | "Just talk to women as people" and its even worse when you realize they genuinely like you as a person, yet none of them sees you "that way"If you do not know anything about her besides she is hot: why would you ever ask her out on a date?! You shouldn't. Don't do that. It is a waste of time and a risk. Make her acquaintance as a person first to see if you even like her and want to date her. I really would have thought this came naturally. Do y'all honestly want to be dating a woman and wasting your time when you don't know shit about who she is? I would hope not! But there's no reason to wait too long once you actually know you lik… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/25 09:17 AM |
| 2 | "Just talk to women as people" and its even worse when you realize they genuinely like you as a person, yet none of them sees you "that way"If I was to design a perfect scenario for a couple, I would have group hangouts and very few (possibly 1 or 2 max) 1:1 hangouts before they actually admit they are attracted to each other. Knowing each other before just deciding "I'm gonna date this good looking person" seems pretty random, impulsive and risky. But not being able to admit your feelings for each other for too long is going to create drama. People don't like drama. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/25 09:14 AM |
| -2 | "Just talk to women as people" and its even worse when you realize they genuinely like you as a person, yet none of them sees you "that way"her attraction level decides what dynamic it is, not yours as a guy. What a strange thing to say on the internet. I assure you that, when a woman is actively dating, men's attraction to her will absolutely impact her dynamics and dating life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/25 09:10 AM |
| 5 | How do you have so much confidence or ego?I don't think I have confidence or an ego. I have a life. Goals to reach and things to get done. Sometimes I succeed, and sometimes I don't. Comparing to other people doesn't change that. I choose to find the good where I can for myself in my life. I am literally the main character in my life. Of course, any people in my life are also their one main character, including men. I find that most adult men have also mastered this skill. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/25 09:01 AM |
| 2 | Women, how do you feel about normalizing male nudity, or men wearing revealing clothing?Yes, I disagree. Like I said, it might not matter who is doing the stripping. A lot of couples might even trade off that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/25 02:08 PM |
| 2 | Women, how do you feel about normalizing male nudity, or men wearing revealing clothing?Ok so if I simply go to a club and see a woman dance naked, what is the equivalent my wife would be allowed to do? Anything related to that, just like you wouldn't be any less or more guilty if you danced naked for another woman. In fact, usually without money in the equation, people would usually do that together for each other as an intimate thing. If I went to a club and got a lap dance, what is the equivalent? Anything related to that unless the two of you worked out some kind of financial o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/25 02:05 PM |
| 1 | Women, how do you feel about normalizing male nudity, or men wearing revealing clothing?Both are roughly equivalent. You're sharing the same type of experience. Doesn't matter which side of the experience you're on. Except maybe the money portion makes a difference to some people? Unless you are strictly technically IN the club not getting or giving dances or whatever. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/25 02:01 PM |
| 7 | Women, how do you feel about normalizing male nudity, or men wearing revealing clothing?Learn to not leer at other women for your own gratification and get dances from them if you wouldn't want your wife to do the same. At least, whilst in that relationship. She should be able to do the same shit and why would you be mad? You did it to someone else's wife or gf and that was all cool right? All while you were with yours? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/25 01:54 PM |
| 9 | Women, how do you feel about normalizing male nudity, or men wearing revealing clothing?Hahahaha! Yes! Ffs or learn to just not. It shouldn't be that difficult. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/25 01:51 PM |
| 6 | Women, how do you feel about normalizing male nudity, or men wearing revealing clothing?It's only controversial if you go to the nude beach and strip clubs yourself, but you'd never take your wife. Probably also the type of dude who makes people at nude beaches uncomfortable - it's not generally supposed to be about leering and sexualizing everyone. There are plenty of families and/or older people just relaxing at nude or topless beaches. Don't be creepy if you go there. Anyway, back to the point - do not have a double standard. If you go out and you see the hint of cleavage from a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/25 01:48 PM |
| 5 | Why do you think that women seem to believe that "leagues don't exist" more than men do?You are probably of very similar attractiveness as a lot of women you know in a totally average way, as people tend to be average. Of course you're gonna get with one of them lol. Men all the time say "of course you're average looking and you expect your husband to tell you you're so special and gorgeous" when complaining about women in another sense. But as soon as they're complaining about a newer couple, it's no longer "we are all mostly average people with some flaws," it becomes a whole dif… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/25 07:10 PM |
| 1 | Why do you think that women seem to believe that "leagues don't exist" more than men do?It's as a lot of other comments said. "Leagues" comes across as objective, and the vast majority of women are somewhat "average" based on objective measure just like men are also somewhat "average." Anyone who works so outside that scheme an outlier. The general rule happens to be going for other perfectly normal people who happen to have other things in common with you. That's how it works for most of us, and how we imagine it works for many others. An average woman that your friend is dating r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/25 07:08 PM |
| 1 | Why do women have issue with shoes inserters when they paint a whole different face?I'm seriously considering getting lifts just for that sake. I am a bit of an oddball. I know the statistics that taller men will get consideration for more positions. But I'm a short woman. I literally don't have the same lived experience, yet I know that height matters and I even understand an appreciation for a tall man seeming statuesque. I only brought up insecurity because that's the only reason I'd ever care. One of the most attractive men I know is like 5'7'' maybe? Wear lifts, don't. Go … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/25 03:16 AM |
| 1 | Why do women have issue with shoes inserters when they paint a whole different face?No I mean I get that some women are wearing makeup at work and on occasions, but enough for it to be a dating issue? No, in my line of work which I don't want doxxed, I don't see it in the majority of time. At the mall or whatever, many women also do not wear it. Also I live in a warm climate where the vibe is just... Casual and beachy? I knew women spent a lot. Even if I wore some for the holidays once a year I'd spend a fortune compared to what I like to spend, so the dollar value also doesn't… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/25 03:12 AM |
| 2 | If men only want you sexually and not romantically, that is a personality issueOriginal commenter said "It's never a personality. It's always how she's choosing men." I think sometimes it is personality, but we don't see these women too often in life because we avoid terrible people in general. The women we see who have a failed relationship or two are only a part of our lives because they were good enough people to matter for us. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/25 02:04 AM |
| 1 | The same women who would call out men for body-shaming or slut-shaming use sexuality as a weapon the moment their pride takes a hitThere are half decent men that will pick up the pieces. Usually these men aren't the mostly wealthy of men but they can be decent. These are just usually not the guys women like as much. I'm sure you heard of them before they are referred to as the nice guys. Hahahaha you must be kidding. He's either not half-decent, or he's looking for someone with similar good qualities to what he has decently. That is how it generally works the vast majority of the time. A guy waiting around to save someone w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/25 09:00 PM |
| 1 | The same women who would call out men for body-shaming or slut-shaming use sexuality as a weapon the moment their pride takes a hitWould still have no problem attracting new men. ... So like a 4th or 5th+ baby daddy who leaves? And this isn't accountability? This is a good thing? I really think you are out of touch. As a woman, I always knew there's no way I'd get a half decent man with any of those things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/25 08:02 PM |
| 1 | The same women who would call out men for body-shaming or slut-shaming use sexuality as a weapon the moment their pride takes a hitThere are men that do indeed not enjoy women very much outside of sex. So they wouldn't enjoy life with one because theres more to life than just sex. That's aromantic, or at least not romantic with women, and it's important for folks to reflect on what that actually means instead of taking risks and saying lies that will come back around to bite everyone involved. Some women will say "just see a sex worker," I won't because there are many reasons I don't believe in that. But I do think men who … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/25 03:27 PM |
| 1 | The same women who would call out men for body-shaming or slut-shaming use sexuality as a weapon the moment their pride takes a hitEven still they can still find the fat and nasty sexually appealing. Some men are like that but just get online to bash them. That's not what nasty means. Nasty is not appealing. And I'm not going to stalk men's profiles when they already have said all women are unappealing to see if they have contradicted themselves before. A whole thread open to the positives and negatives will have men who say "AWALT, I would never enjoy life with a woman" and someone saying "you seem aromantic or ace" appare… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/25 12:21 PM |
| 1 | The same women who would call out men for body-shaming or slut-shaming use sexuality as a weapon the moment their pride takes a hitAs long as they don't like men sexually then they are straight like it or not. So that statement was just untrue that's why i called it out. Ace people exist. Men that get online and say all women they see are fat and nasty do exist. I literally just say I believe they are telling the truth... Even if they don't seem comfortable with admitting what that actually means about how they "identify." Unless of course its a unhappy relationship or marriage, they aren't saying that their partner isn't o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/25 04:49 AM |
| 1 | The same women who would call out men for body-shaming or slut-shaming use sexuality as a weapon the moment their pride takes a hitSOME women can be terrible people. Men can even be attracted to terrible people romantically as well as sexually. But if they say all women are boring or do not interest them, which has been said, we can take that as face value as their feelings romantically. Women aren't a monolith to critique. Some women will interest a man who swings that way. That's literally how it happens. If you are aromatic or ace, that is fine. This is the only valid reason I have seen to bring up the things OP is conce… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/25 01:29 AM |
| 2 | Why do women have issue with shoes inserters when they paint a whole different face?No. I assure you I am a nerd. And the other women around me who also often don't wear makeup in the hot weather are much more beautiful. But we all do this normally... It's not so odd. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 10:55 PM |
| 0 | The same women who would call out men for body-shaming or slut-shaming use sexuality as a weapon the moment their pride takes a hitOk guess you don't want to talk. Everyone else sees I didn't call anyone gay, so... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 07:22 PM |
| 0 | The same women who would call out men for body-shaming or slut-shaming use sexuality as a weapon the moment their pride takes a hit"if you don't find at least a few women hot and cool, you probably are just not into that" Is the polar opposite of "if you haven't tried it, give it a chance anyway, surely you like it." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 06:01 PM |
| 0 | The same women who would call out men for body-shaming or slut-shaming use sexuality as a weapon the moment their pride takes a hitBut men who just talk online about how terrible women are are clearly not straight. They may be ace. Society may tell them it's been more normal to be straight. But if you're salty enough to where you've never believed in a good or hot woman... You ain't into women, at least. And men need to know that. If they're acting like they don't, someone may tell them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 05:38 PM |
| 0 | LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADYou should've been socializing in school and college to start. How old are you and what are you doing? Maybe a church? Some couples meet at work but there's details to that for sure lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 04:42 PM |
| 2 | The same women who would call out men for body-shaming or slut-shaming use sexuality as a weapon the moment their pride takes a hityour response is to imply a man critical of women must be gay. I didn't say gay. I said men who say AWALT and go extreme with their criticisms of women are literally stating they don't have that positive interest in women. They could be ace. Your ciriticism is not quite that extreme, for example. But I've seen criticisms on this internet that are! Way more than I've seen unhinged women unable to take a rejection. And when women do that, they are wrong. Does not erase the actual progressive work … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 02:31 PM |
| 1 | The same women who would call out men for body-shaming or slut-shaming use sexuality as a weapon the moment their pride takes a hitAWALT is a thing. Coined by men, actually. I'm pointing it out because when men talk about AWALT that's usually when I see met get called out for not wanting women as much as they say they do. Cases where women react badly to getting rejected are fringe cases, and not what I usually see online. If it makes OP feel.any better, I know not all women are angels. Not all women are progressive. But women sure are the ones in a majority who will advocate for better healthcare for me, for example, and t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 02:21 PM |
| 1 | The same women who would call out men for body-shaming or slut-shaming use sexuality as a weapon the moment their pride takes a hitOP never said they were the ones that don't like any women. They sort of try to lump women together based on what the think about "out gender as a whole" and "how we can't handle rejection," but he still might like women overall and be having a bad day or something. If he doesn't, he might be aromatic. Not gay. I think a lot of men might be aromantic or homoromantic and still lust after some women. OP is not one of the ones who gets online and says all women are dumpy and fat and gross, though I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 02:16 PM |
| 6 | The same women who would call out men for body-shaming or slut-shaming use sexuality as a weapon the moment their pride takes a hitLook, I don't lose sleep over men on the internet who have preconceived notions about women. It really does nothing to my pride. I can't emphasize enough how as an adult not under 25, I have much bigger problems and standards. But also... Facts are facts. If you think all women are dumpy and ugly, if you don't like talking to women, you may just not romantically and/or sexually like women. That's how romantic and sexual attraction works. This is not a joking matter. If you aren't into women, tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 01:51 PM |
| 1 | If there are women's issues men collectively don't have empathy/sympathy for, how do you deal with that?But now it will get worse, obviously. Those people want to go against the common health of women in at least one way. Their motives for wanting to fix the other issues must be different, even. How can you just see one of the huge problems and not care? It's so wrong. I will never agree with those morals. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 01:39 PM |
| 1 | If there are women's issues men collectively don't have empathy/sympathy for, how do you deal with that?, it does not follow that one could have a moral issue with contraceptives, that I may disagree with, while at the same time wanting maternal health outcomes to improve. Yes it does follow. Taking away options that have been prescribed by healthcare providers to do good for no reason is not caring about maternal health. Your "moral opinions" end with your own body, and if a lot of healthcare providers disagree, you probably are wrong. This is coming from a woman who gets treatment for entirely o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 01:33 PM |
| – | If there are women's issues men collectively don't have empathy/sympathy for, how do you deal with that?A part of society is talking about it. We are close to 50/50 on those who care and don't. More don't care about it than I would expect. The South Carolina law in consideration may even ban some daily oral contraceptive pills. Sure I could be more specific, but there are more examples than just that. This is also an important reason for maternal.mortalort increases. Ob/gyns are great and they've done a lot of good. I had a male one who physically hurt me, and I had to withdraw consent for the pro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 01:24 PM |
| – | Why do women have issue with shoes inserters when they paint a whole different face?Nerd women exist... I find it interesting that YOU care. Why is it so important to say that all women wear makeup? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 01:15 PM |
| 7 | The idea that sexually successful men don't share our complaints about modern dating is a complete fantasy.Oh? Then why do you make a point about your friend not settling down? And disloyalty? Lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 12:59 PM |
| – | If there are women's issues men collectively don't have empathy/sympathy for, how do you deal with that?And yet the death rate is increasing from what it is previously. The reasons are legal and obvious. That's the point I'm making. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 12:57 PM |
| – | If there are women's issues men collectively don't have empathy/sympathy for, how do you deal with that?Healthcare laws and deaths. Articles from big publications and Jessica Valenti with her newsletter talk about it. The clear reasons are out there being discussed. I mentioned 2 states. If it doesn't apply to your culture or your group, I think that's great, really. I'm just going on things I've seen near me (without fixing myself). All of the US has had an average rate of deaths increase when it already started off greater than the developed world, so that stood out to me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 12:51 PM |
| – | If there are women's issues men collectively don't have empathy/sympathy for, how do you deal with that?There have been increasing articles about women dying from preventable deaths in recent years, and you think it should increase for people to care. I guess? Proving my point for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 12:47 PM |
| – | If there are women's issues men collectively don't have empathy/sympathy for, how do you deal with that?But it does seem odd to frame this as men broadly choosing to disregard women’s health. Especially given the two party system since you mentioned voting - no one will like everything either candidate is doing. Do you think evangelicals like how trump gas like 6 kids across 3 women, including the current first lady who has nudes published? I think a certain group of people is uneducated about it, but in the year of our Lord 2025, I can't give them a pass anymore. Conservative sisters and mothers … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 12:46 PM |
| – | Why do women have issue with shoes inserters when they paint a whole different face?I don't even wash my face nightly, pal lmao. Take seats. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 12:41 PM |
| – | If there are women's issues men collectively don't have empathy/sympathy for, how do you deal with that?Data isn't being collected anymore in Texas, last I heard, actually. Women are talking about it. Some reasons are abundantly clear, and yet nothing is being done about it. In fact, there's a South Carolina bill in consideration which would make everything so much worse. That's why I say many people aren't caring these days, at least much less. So is the rate of suicides among men. Can I use this to show that society doesn't give a damn about men's health, The argument had been made this way, yes… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 12:38 PM |
| 1 | Why do women have issue with shoes inserters when they paint a whole different face?I usually see my husband without shoes at all. He is secure. That's what matters. I also don't care if women wear heels, makeup or whatever. Good for them if they want to dress up sometimes or even a lot with their lifestyle. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 12:34 PM |
| 2 | Why do women have issue with shoes inserters when they paint a whole different face?I have work like gloss before, but no, not regularly. How is that so hard to believe? You don't see women outside like this? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 12:30 PM |
| 1 | Why do women have issue with shoes inserters when they paint a whole different face?Most dress shoes for a dude has a heel of one to two inches, do you look down at a dude for that? Absolutely not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 12:29 PM |
| 1 | Women tend to be all about mental health awareness, yet practice a zero tolerance policy for socially awkward menSounds like a pretty odd study. Also I don't know many diagnosed women. Yes it's kind of difficult to address. And perceived attractiveness? How would that have been done? That's what I mean when I say odd. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 12:29 PM |
| – | If there are women's issues men collectively don't have empathy/sympathy for, how do you deal with that?I'm talking about very recent changes and how maternal deaths have gone up. Another person made points about history and the positive changes throughout. That's great, but in the last years deaths have increased especially in my country, and you're mad about insurance? Do you cover your wife or daughters? No? Then your insurance will never have to actually cover these procedures and it's all contract fluff. The amount of comments on here alone that women's deaths don't matter as much as I say...… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 12:27 PM |
| 5 | Why do women have issue with shoes inserters when they paint a whole different face?Imagine if 1 in 3 men wore lifts. Especially if concentrated in certain working environments, I can see how this might cause a difference in the way overall height is seen/expected. As a woman, I have a problem with a daily routine being that time-consuming. Lifts don't take a long time to deal with. As long as the man in my life didn't start to internalize this and have it cause problems in his life or our life, no I would not care. I would not accuse him of being fake or whatever. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 08:04 AM |
| – | If there are women's issues men collectively don't have empathy/sympathy for, how do you deal with that?A lot of society does not give a shit about women's healthcare, and maternal mortality. A lot of these people are men. I vote a certain way with this in mind. I have considered career choices and activism with this in mind. I will do some of that later on in life when I am done with my current career goal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 07:59 AM |
| -1 | Why do women have issue with shoes inserters when they paint a whole different face?Women buy makeup for occasions and it is expensive in revenue. In real life, do you see most women wearing makeup this often? It's like a dude who wears inserts with his dress shoes occasionally. Probably not going to be such a deep issue that women are ever going to consciously have an opinion on that for him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 07:54 AM |
| 3 | Why do women have issue with shoes inserters when they paint a whole different face?Do women even wear makeup this often anymore? I don't wear makeup, and I don't have a problem with shoe inserts. But I didn't used to go actively looking for men who wear them, either. Didn't simp for them online. Never dated a man who did wear them, though I dated some great men who did well for themselves. If someone is in high society, they might feel a different set of expectations and that's OK. As long as it's not an actual insecurity that impacts their ability to do activities or trust th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 07:44 AM |
| 1 | Women tend to be all about mental health awareness, yet practice a zero tolerance policy for socially awkward menNeed source. Don't autistic women get assaulted a lot? Aren't they bullied throughout their young years as well? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 07:26 AM |
| 1 | Chasing casual sex for men is more about ego than pleasure.If you went out to women specifically and said this to them only, of course you'd be biased and out of line. If you just made assumptions about a woman who had like 2 boyfriends/partners, you'd be wrong. If you have like 30 partners yourself, wrong. But if you're like me and you had one partner, no I would not find it odd for you to avoid dating women who hook up often, for example. Nor would I find it odd if you were to say to other people "Damn, i don't think that juice is worth the squeeze, y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 07:25 AM |
| 2 | Many women are confused about the "Male loneliness epidemic"The service industry arrogance is a wild accusation to me. I've never met a half-decent woman who could forgive a man being mean to a service worker. Hell. My sister thought her questionable guy was sleeping with the bartender! Are you speaking about very wealthy circles, perhaps? Yes people accept more of a looking down on others mentality in high society, but that probably also includes partners who would be faithful. I do think some women underestimate red flags of a different sort, thinking … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 01:43 AM |
| 1 | Chasing casual sex for men is more about ego than pleasure.I think men physically enjoy sex but the reason they keep seeking it out in a specific way is often tied to a lot of psychological things or lifestyle things and it's not like a literal animal. Even men are not animals. Yes I do want to make that point. But sure the sex is good, I guess? I'm not sure I understand YOUR point. Men can also have complex thoughts and psychological issues or social issues. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 01:00 AM |
| 3 | Question for women: How can a man who's not able to get casual sex, pursue a serious relationship with a woman who did have casual sex with other men?It's insulting when anyone who knows a woman well enough to be aware that she is looking for a serious relationship thinks they know better so therefore they can and should convince her to take the risks she doesn't want to take and the arrangement she doesn't want for the other person's benefit. I'm not talking about men who catch a woman in the club twerking - I'm talking about a situation like mine used to be where I very clearly did not want that, and a man or boy had every reason to notice … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 12:52 AM |
| 2 | Question for women: How can a man who's not able to get casual sex, pursue a serious relationship with a woman who did have casual sex with other men?Of course a good number of people do. A good number of people also don't, and those people like me aren't lying. The average number of partners is pretty low in my country/culture, so statistics would show not too often! It's great that some people have a choice to differ, but that good group of people who differ doesn't mean women like me are lying when they talk about our thought processes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 12:46 AM |
| 1 | Chasing casual sex for men is more about ego than pleasure.I do think everybody would choose to have more magic sex with no risks or strings attached - women, too. We aren't so different. You keep saying it, but I don't see it specified. I think consenting adults do have brains and recognize consequences. Perhaps men just have fewer turn-offs and higher acceptable risks particularly when single? I would believe that as a general rule, but they gotta accept any consequences just like women do. Even with abortion, whoa gotta do the surgery or medicine and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 08:10 PM |
| 14 | Slut shamers - would you be happier under strict Sharia Law where casual sex and imodesty are illegal?For adult men - mostly yes. As an impressionable teenager - I guarantee some of the guys who called me slurs when I was a virgin and they didn't know it still would have gone out and tried to get laid easily. They were assholes. Hopefully they grew out of it, but still it started me being very careful who I wanted to be with. Men who talk about other people in those ways are not cool. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 08:05 PM |
| 1 | Chasing casual sex for men is more about ego than pleasure.I said the desire for sex doesn't have to be with a new random woman. You said, but for at least some men it does because man brain and women don't go through that as often. Are both types of drive just supposed to be higher in men? And how is it different when one man decides to marry? Can you turn a hoe into a husband? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 07:57 PM |
| 1 | Chasing casual sex for men is more about ego than pleasure.Is it a higher sex drive in general or a higher sex drive for random new women? You've said both, but they aren't the same thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 07:51 PM |
| 1 | Chasing casual sex for men is more about ego than pleasure.You and I both agree men will have sex with their wives for a long time. So yeah. It would make sense that men like... Sex. Regardless of with new or old partner. Unless the details of these relationships are concealed. I don't have much personal experience to tell. But men definitely seem concerned they'll still be the ones wanting it more. That's coming from them, not me. Not arrogance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 07:46 PM |
| 2 | Many women are confused about the "Male loneliness epidemic"Silly perspective. I've seen women with ugly men to me. But even if I didn't, I'd say I get it! And I would never trust them more than a handsome man. What are the obvious signs you think women miss in handsome men? I'm going to think if any woman I know has ever overlooked it. Or what if I'm overlooking it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 07:23 PM |
| 1 | Chasing casual sex for men is more about ego than pleasure.So then it's not that "men don't cheat" meaning "men are t happy." It's "men can't even get laid" but their wives if course want them all to themselves, so clearly they can in fact get laid. It's definitely not so simple like you say. Sex feels good, but not because of it being with a new person. People who like sex like sex. And sometimes they like people so much they keep them around, and their whole life becomes better that way. Isn't that simple? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 07:20 PM |
| 2 | Chasing casual sex for men is more about ego than pleasure.Well "a few men" that sleep around certainly may have ego problems and crave validation. They're not like those other men, so why assume it's a "man thing"? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Chasing casual sex for men is more about ego than pleasure.Actually I was specifically told when I was younger that any time I directly said I liked a boy it was becoming "too much" for him to handle. I didn't want to be that, so I let them decide on their own. When I met a few who knew what they wanted, I realized how much I liked it and how much better it worked out for all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 06:51 PM |
| 2 | Chasing casual sex for men is more about ego than pleasure.You are saying men really crave novelty - especially with "different women." Nothing to misinterpret, that's what you said about men. And that is fine, but if that's what men wanted, I would be out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 06:46 PM |
| 2 | Many women are confused about the "Male loneliness epidemic"Well that's what I'm saying. Even with my ego being separated from the situation, I look at these men with other women, and I'm like "yeah no he ain't cute." I assume maybe she has a different type and they communicate very well and have shared goals. When they do, hey, good for them! And if the dude it bad it's like, no matter what he looks like, get rid of him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 06:42 PM |
| 1 | Chasing casual sex for men is more about ego than pleasure.As to the point about men's sex drive being higher: that's not how I always saw it. I thought men pursued ungettable women for a chase because the ones who pursue them seem pushy and desperate to them. At least that was my experience when I was young, and I didn't want to ever be that way, so I learned to let men decide if and when they were interested first. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 06:32 PM |
| 2 | Chasing casual sex for men is more about ego than pleasure.I am saying if all men openly craved novelty more than monogamy and a lifelong partner, I wouldn't be married like I am now and I would, in fact, be a nun. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 06:31 PM |
| 1 | Chasing casual sex for men is more about ego than pleasure.Women think about sex. With men. But it's fairly doable for us to channel those thoughts elsewhere when we aren't truly interested in a particular man. We meet new men. Would you say the big difference is you think that's more difficult for a man to focus on one woman at a time? I'm a married woman. I don't know about most men or not. I have no experience in some ways outside of my husband and I have no brothers. I can't change my outlook based on men being "wired different." That's not how it w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 06:15 PM |
| 1 | Chasing casual sex for men is more about ego than pleasure.I don't know, did you have a point that's not pedantic? A poor decision doesn't make a poor/bad person. We all judge some things. My attitude towards that is not to be negative towards others. In a place like this, pointing out the consequences of decisions needs to happen where young people or people with little experience are talking about it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 06:01 PM |
| 2 | Chasing casual sex for men is more about ego than pleasure.I can recognize decisions for what they are and still not judge. Also some people do have fun and it isn't a poor decision. But also... you've seen reality. Poor decisions happen. We gotta call them that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 04:54 PM |
| 4 | Chasing casual sex for men is more about ego than pleasure.Why enjoy sex "with a new person" instead of just freaking enjoying sex?!?! You may not get validation from a woman's status, or even from a marriage. But there's some reason why for some men 10 or 20 women isn't enough "new experiences." For a woman who does that, the statistics are clear. Idk maybe men who do that really are also frequently abused? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 04:53 PM |
| 2 | Chasing casual sex for men is more about ego than pleasure.you can definitely It had consequences. While many people do it, it is not a lasting lifestyle. Even if a given student does meet their spouse in lets say 3rd year, that still leaves 3 years of casual dating they could have done. Maybe one of those years he had a girlfriend. In the summers, internships. Finals times. The amount of average lifetime partners is not very high. And that's for good reason. I am stating facts. It's not about judging. I'm point out consequences. Hell, I'm the one who D… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 04:34 PM |
| 6 | Chasing casual sex for men is more about ego than pleasure.Imagine you are at a buffet and you want to try a lot of different foods and desserts... that's a good analogy for how they feel. You get full. You leave. I'm not even saying maybe being with a few different people when you're very young is the worst. But when you see a man who goes to a buffet daily and gains 200 lbs, he has some issues. For the men that can't and don't stop, the issue is often validation. And that's to say nothing of what I would tell my son: that women are not food, that he i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 04:29 PM |
| 2 | Chasing casual sex for men is more about ego than pleasure.I'm saying both people with and without who get off. People in relationships still have solo time every now and then. Successful people have sexual needs and responses. The ones who are overly ego-centric can be identified only by what they do after the fact - in this case, they boast or complain online. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 04:15 PM |
| 3 | Chasing casual sex for men is more about ego than pleasure.College people aren't "not ready for a relationship." I met my husband in college. I think it's not the worst to maybe have a fling or two, maybe, but if you haven't met a single one of those pretty ladies that you like to keep around for longer you probably have some other issues already. I would argue it's the best time to consider a lasting relationship because of how easy it is to meet new people compared to later in life. The pretty young ladies in college aren't there to party. They want t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 04:13 PM |
| 2 | Chasing casual sex for men is more about ego than pleasure.Even people in relationships sometimes have alone time. Sexual needs are a thing, and looking at good looking people is a thing, but not a result of not having sex. Happens even to people who get busy. The different lies in what happens after. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 04:06 PM |
| 3 | I Don’t Think Women Actually Know What Emotional Intelligence IsYes some women do break up over that. Often before having children. Kind of hard to tell when he's been really reasonable in the dating phase and you were waiting to love together for marriage because you believe in commitment to those you invite into your lifelong plans. It's crazy that this is even still a discussion, though. Surely it goes without saying that adults need to do chores sometimes for the upkeep of the house and people who are capable of contributing should try as hard as everyon… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 04:02 PM |
| 2 | Chasing casual sex for men is more about ego than pleasure.No, they get on the internet and complain because getting off didn't fill the hole in their soul. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 03:52 PM |
| 2 | I Don’t Think Women Actually Know What Emotional Intelligence IsThe emotionally intelligent thing to do would be to talk about these things in depth and work on them earlier on any relationship. The man would have to participate. And a man who is so absolutely lazy that he hasn't had his own "I felt like cleaning day" in too long is not fit for those types of discussions. Not mature. It shouldn't be difficult. Not all people need it laid out on a calendar. The effort to talk about that isn't necessary. It's OK, I guess, unless your partner has already proved… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 03:51 PM |
| 3 | Chasing casual sex for men is more about ego than pleasure.You're not wrong. This also applies to women saying personality matters - it does, and so does attraction, who is to say which is more important? You can't have a relationship without both! But it isn't failed men who are upset on all fronts that prove sex isn't the main motive. It's "successful" men. Men who have been with 30+ chicks, and get plenty of sex, but they still only seek that casual sex. They can't enjoy sex with someone they like more. They need new validation like their ego depends… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 03:48 PM |
| 9 | Chasing casual sex for men is more about ego than pleasure.But you can have sex with someone you like though. Imagine going through 30 women and not one worked out? Then you didn't like the sex/them. You like constant new validation. And if you keep chasing after more and more validation once you've clearly gotten it, you might be unhealthy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 03:43 PM |
| 6 | I Don’t Think Women Actually Know What Emotional Intelligence IsIf you aren't good with following the other person's schedule, you are absolutely free to communicate and make a different plan. But you really should expect problems if you never feel like cleaning, especially things like dishes and the toilet that might get dirty very often and because of you. It's a daily thing when the dishes are dirty- not a special schedule, unless there is one for a reason. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Women tend to be all about mental health awareness, yet practice a zero tolerance policy for socially awkward menOP sounds like they did that? To me they sound like they barely lay attention at all. Those who learn even a little bit don't get insulted for no reason. I am awkward myself, but not to the point where I can't have friendships and things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 03:27 PM |
| 2 | Many women are confused about the "Male loneliness epidemic"I assure you hobosexual men are usually quite scrawny, unkempt, and the majority of women don't want them. Attractiveness is a spectrum. Sure there are some very old, gross bald men at the absolute bottom of the barrel who choose a very specific arrangement with their money and a woman. Sure there are some good looking men who get away with things - again from a specific arrangement with a specific type of woman. Most people are in the middle and they find other people in the middle. People well… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 02:51 PM |
| 2 | Women tend to be all about mental health awareness, yet practice a zero tolerance policy for socially awkward menAwkward men do a lot better than you think. There is no zero awkwardness policy. Awkwardness is inevitable. It's zero tolerance for men who refuse to learn or are too incompetent to observe and try after a certain age. There is this subreddit and a bunch of other ones dedicated to how to get to know know people and be polite when dating. Just a little bit of effort and understanding and personal thought put into that really is usually enough. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 02:44 PM |
| 1 | If men only want you sexually and not romantically, that is a personality issueWomen don't do that though. It's mentally unhealthy. The healthy men you know don't do that either. It may even not be so bad to seek out novelty for a couple of years, but eventually that becomes literally not novel anymore. You would start to look at other things like a family, traveling with a partner you actually like, community building in one space. Maybe several of those things at different times. Sex with someone who is "new" can't actually keep being new forever once you've done it too … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 01:18 PM |
| 0 | If men only want you sexually and not romantically, that is a personality issueIt means he's not "objectively desirable" like you said in the last comment. They don't get played because he can or because he's hot. It's him choosing to do that, and anyone with one woman who will accept them can technically play a woman. Doesn't make them attractive to most women. But of course some men will do it more often. Oddly enough it makes them more broken because why would you keep doing the same thing over and over again for novelty? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 12:33 PM |
| 2 | Many women are confused about the "Male loneliness epidemic"I've definitely seen a woman played by a man I wouldn't touch with a 50 ft pole. People working fast food have all sorts of drama playing each other in the kitchen. You literally don't need to be rich or whatever you think. And some of us avoid men with a history of playing with women. Those men aren't lonely enough, there should be more avoiding of any man who would do that. We can at least try, but we won't see them all. How are we supposed to know you're not the tall good looking asshole rath… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 11:44 AM |
| 8 | If some women don't want a nice guy, they must want a mean guy.A woman can want nice AND smart, or nice AND healthy, or nice AND sociable and principled. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 11:39 AM |
| 1 | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵Wait what? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 11:22 AM |
| – | Why Are Consensual Orgasms Seen As Rare To Women, But Non-Consensual Orgasms As “A Normal Process?”You are looking for articles about solving an unnatural problem, then. Not articles about female pleasure. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 10:29 AM |
| 3 | Society actively mitigates biological disadvantages for women, but systemically entrenches them for men.Also, what responsibility do women have? To have sex or not to have sex? Both can literally end up in death. Men have no such threat either way. It is not comparable. Society needs men to take more responsibility for who they sleep with and for the next generation. The lower birth rate is a sign of women doing the responsible thing that's good for society. When girl's and women's lives are not valued as a primary responsibility, when men are not interested in raising children, whatever stops mor… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 10:27 AM |
| 4 | Society actively mitigates biological disadvantages for women, but systemically entrenches them for men.Men are the sex that says this. Biologically, women are the ones who can die from wanted and planned pregnancies when a legal system holds that type of thing up. We all decided that's bad for society. Men haven't been listening for some reason when we tell them their promiscuity is also bad for society. Look around this sub. Women are much more likely to say we can and do choose celibacy over casual. More men as if they "are not the selectors," whatever that means. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 10:19 AM |
| – | Why Are Consensual Orgasms Seen As Rare To Women, But Non-Consensual Orgasms As “A Normal Process?”there is barely (definitely a way more accurate word than none. I apologize) any evidence women actually physically enjoy it, even if there’s clitoral stimulation. ......................................... Almost non-porn research or articles about pleasure would show evidence. A relationship or relationships would very likely show evidence. It's not polite dinner conversation for strangers, but it's the truth and it's out there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 10:14 AM |
| 4 | Question for women: How can a man who's not able to get casual sex, pursue a serious relationship with a woman who did have casual sex with other men?Oh boy guy. You need to listen. All people aren't doing casual stuff. I, a woman, am not. I don't know why it's more difficult for you than anyone else because I would never want to do such a thing, and I don't get why you'd want to. That's as honest as it gets. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 10:09 AM |
| 13 | Question for women: How can a man who's not able to get casual sex, pursue a serious relationship with a woman who did have casual sex with other men?I am not the person you were talking to before, but: You've also lost those other connections. As a 'serious' style woman, a man trying to just casually sleep with me when he has dated serious women in the past is an insult and I would not appreciate that mindset. I could see a lot that would inhibit your ability to keep a real relationship. As for casual sex, I cannot give any 'full picture' except the reasons I see why it wouldn't work for me and I know that about myself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 10:07 AM |
| 1 | If men only want you sexually and not romantically, that is a personality issueBut I still received interest from that direction regardless of my personality and my choices. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 12:19 AM |
| 1 | If men only want you sexually and not romantically, that is a personality issueI can't say too much, but opinions on military are mixed. You stand out there being not military, and that MIGHT be an advantage for you in some ways. Bite your lip at her. Flex your eyebrows at her across the bar when she looks at you. If there's one that you really click with, say out loud she is beautiful. Ask if they're dating someone though, because they might be actually. Don't spend the entire evening talking with one woman without ever asking that. Trust me lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 11:01 PM |
| 0 | If men only want you sexually and not romantically, that is a personality issueThe typical slutshaming you see online. Bragging about conquests like men own women with their man parts. It's weird, gross, cringey, backwards. It's just not right. The man did a slutty thing just as much as the woman did. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 10:49 PM |
| 1 | If men only want you sexually and not romantically, that is a personality issueOther women tried and failed. I'm married now to a man who absolutely didn't. But when I was single, looking back, the casual intentions when I were you get were expressed by men who were clearly wrong for me. Impatient, addicted, risk-taking. I ended up only ever being with my husband, so I'm kinda off-put by dudes who are too promiscuous anyway. Especially after seeing them be so rude to their equivalent woman. I ain't got no respect for them - even as someone who's not looking for a new roman… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 10:42 PM |
| 2 | If men only want you sexually and not romantically, that is a personality issue................. Go to the base bar. And no, no women don't IMHO. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 10:19 PM |
| 1 | If men only want you sexually and not romantically, that is a personality issueEver been to a bar on a military base? The women there do not travel in packs. Also, I wouldn't be too hesitant to talk to women in groups. Never know when one of them might actually like you and you like them. As long as you're not rude about it, I would think a lot less of them if they were rude! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 10:14 PM |
| 1 | If men only want you sexually and not romantically, that is a personality issueWith women, you have a lot more control over what kind of night you have. Interesting. When you phrase it this way, I understand what you mean when some men say women are the selectors. But then again, I am not sure I believe you. This is one reason why I let men make the direct approach and why things go so sideways if he takes the wrong route. If he hits me with wanting casual, I don't actually think I have much control to change his mind. It's not like you can start talking about your hopes a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 10:02 PM |
| 1 | If men only want you sexually and not romantically, that is a personality issueNo idea where I’d go to find women with a similar level of education who are actually looking for a partner I suspect that's what changed. And I'm truly sorry for that. Our society has done us so dirty, especially since... Well, since about that time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 09:58 PM |
| 1 | If men only want you sexually and not romantically, that is a personality issueMy advice is to meet real life women, then. Find out for yourself. You'll find some people like your mom and sister, some women who are not so great, and hopefully some women you might really get along with. Your mom was right to tell you a lot of women can be good. Don't go in expecting the bar to be very low. Expect her to be a good person, but verify that by actually being proactive in the relationship and seeing who the people in your life are. Not OLD. If you're still young, and I hope you … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 09:50 PM |
| 2 | If men only want you sexually and not romantically, that is a personality issueSome women do have bad personalities, though. I just avoid them like the plague and they don't pass the survivorship bias test in my brain. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 09:39 PM |
| 3 | If men only want you sexually and not romantically, that is a personality issueI realized more and more about who I wanted you up until I was about 23 (late bloomer). It definitely changed over time, especially a lot when I was very young. Some boys or men grew and changed with that to be more adult. Some did not. People definitely change through adolescence, but if a guy is 35 chasing young women for fun... Don't think the right lady is gonna change him! But a lot of who I am stayed the same. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 09:38 PM |
| 2 | If men only want you sexually and not romantically, that is a personality issueWomen’s sexual strategy is to lead with their pussy a lot of times but that gets them burned easily. I'm sorry. But I cannot help but think of what your family is like when you post things like this. Like... Do you know women? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 09:31 PM |
| 1 | If men only want you sexually and not romantically, that is a personality issueHer "picker" is part of her personality so my point still stands. Is it? The men she knows aren't all chosen. I had men who wanted me for sex but perhaps not a serious relationship. Guess who I didn't pick? Them. Still happened to meet them and hear out their request, though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 09:30 PM |
| 1 | If men only want you sexually and not romantically, that is a personality issueSometimes women don't read the room and use hookup approaches on serious people and use serious approaches on hookup only people. Men, too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 09:27 PM |
| 1 | If men only want you sexually and not romantically, that is a personality issueI would hope people see each other as the same if they are that close. And I've definitely known other women to sleep with men who I'd not want. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 09:26 PM |
| 2 | How exactly is the average Basic Bob supposed to "choose better" in terms of MARRIAGE?I get that. Especially if you try to make small talk but it just doesn't go deeper, that's not all on you. You were trying to be open at one point. Not everyone can be that close. I am close-ish to pretty few people, but I'll have fun with others. The ones that seem to understand are few and far between. If you get a sense that a beautiful woman is that way once you start talking to her, well, I think that's something really valuable. I think that's the start of romance if she's not any of those… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 07:50 PM |
| 3 | No, women do not make it "obvious" they're into youLegit, I haven't been to NYC yet, but LA had the absolute most whack people taking public transportation. Way worse than the other major cities I have been in. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 07:38 PM |
| 2 | How exactly is the average Basic Bob supposed to "choose better" in terms of MARRIAGE?It's just a crazy way to socialize seeing half the population as inferior and/or not fit for friendship... Getting to know people with an openness is really helpful for romance as well as other things in life. Helps keep us sane. Good for mental health to have groups, be open to different kinds of hobbies, hear different perspectives that might help you understand a more attractive future partner. There can be a threshold for you, if you want to think of it as a priority that's fine. I just don'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 07:35 PM |
| 5 | Women are allowed to accept they're not attractive.Thank you for this lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 07:25 PM |
| 1 | How exactly is the average Basic Bob supposed to "choose better" in terms of MARRIAGE?I mean, I get it if you chose to go sit down next to a girl at the lunch table just because she was one of the prettiest girls in school. Especially at that age, we are all going crazy with new feelings and we don't know shit. But it's wild to me you'd be willing to spend money on her or God forbid try to get lucky with her if she was boring as Hell when you spoke to her, or irresponsible or rude or any other number of qualities that surely you know can ruin a pairing. There's not one reason for… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 07:24 PM |
| 1 | How exactly is the average Basic Bob supposed to "choose better" in terms of MARRIAGE?.............. Have you never spoken to a girl at school and did a project with her and ate lunch with her and liked her for, like, who she is? Because that's HELLA wild but the way men online be talking sometimes I think that's their life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 07:14 PM |
| 1 | How exactly is the average Basic Bob supposed to "choose better" in terms of MARRIAGE?You can talk to her to see if you even like her first. If meeting a new lady in groups doesn't go anywhere for a month maybe or you ask and she says no, then yeah, you're just friends. And that doesn't have to be a bad thing. You would have met MANY women in these groups, in the city, on campus, etc. You're time wouldn't be wasted. More of a waste to plan coffee with one woman in particular and have it go nowhere. How are men so pressed about wasting time with women they can't even know they lik… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 07:09 PM |
| 5 | Women are allowed to accept they're not attractive.I think there's a difference between just not noticing someone and noticing someone and then thinking "yikes - I don't want to introduce them to my friends any longer." But, of course, people can decide to be one or either of those things. Maybe sometimes they don't decide, they just are like that for some part of the population. It IS allowed, but it's different. Let's not pretend men won't sleep with 'sluts.' Men are the biggest sluts in my experience. Female slits very much aren't invisible t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 07:01 PM |
| 1 | How exactly is the average Basic Bob supposed to "choose better" in terms of MARRIAGE?Yeah. You can talk to new people. But there are a lot of circumstances where a coffee meet one-on-one isn't the best place to do so. Talk to them BEFORE you date them. Don't call it dating while you're just meeting them. Don't ask them to go out of their way to meet you far away for a short time, don't minimize your meeting to a quick chance to look at her in person, and if she's hot and cool don't switch up last minute to say "actually you were hot so we can upgrade this coffee date to a new pl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 06:48 PM |
| 1 | I think many women actually think it’s immoral to NOT be hypergamous...... You were using an example of a thing not happening? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 05:32 PM |
| 2 | I think many women actually think it’s immoral to NOT be hypergamousThe friend of HIS saw me with HIM. We weren't set up. We knew each other. She told him to get with me, like it wasn't even his idea. Now he's married to me. The purpose should be two people who want to be together and who like each other. I hope he does, but normally if you already know the girlwoman, t's your choice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 04:36 PM |
| 1 | Is hiring escorts as unethical as some people make it out to be?My take is that a woman who can't sell sex because of the law is much less oppressed than the girl who is addicted on the streets selling to live and the John's who pay her and hurt her worse. Those John's are who the law needs to be after. Plus I'd never, ever pay for sex, so those that do are just in a different realm from me. It isn't a perfect system, but nothing ever is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 03:43 PM |
| 3 | No, women do not make it "obvious" they're into youAm woman. Am not feral to any "sexy" man except perhaps my husband in private now that I know him and we are together in life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 03:16 PM |
| 3 | No, women do not make it "obvious" they're into youLots of guys get attention, buddy. And lot of women aren't feral. Life ain't black and white. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 03:14 PM |
| 3 | No, women do not make it "obvious" they're into youAHA so she's not sucking on her fingers. Yeah women can flirt like that. Some women are very confident. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 03:13 PM |
| 3 | No, women do not make it "obvious" they're into youYou could probably Google search images of women doing weird shit. But that doesn't actually mean you're gonna see women IRL doing that. And it most certainly doesn't have anything to do with a strange man in a bus. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 03:10 PM |
| 3 | No, women do not make it "obvious" they're into youNo need. I live life off the internet. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 03:09 PM |
| 5 | No, women do not make it "obvious" they're into youLMAO no one believes this | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 03:08 PM |
| 6 | I think many women actually think it’s immoral to NOT be hypergamousMy husband asked out a friend of his from shortly before me. I wasn't surprised hearing this. She was pretty, he was single. What surprised me was hearing that SHE told HIM to ask ME out. Yes, I do want to be at least as special as other people in his life - man or woman. Yes, if he had the idea and the courage on his own to try to be with someone else, I would hope the same is true of him with me. Fuck, yes this is sort of hard for me still. Anyway, I have happy times with my husband. It's not … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 02:37 PM |
| -1 | No, women do not make it "obvious" they're into youA lot of men do the swiping thing, and the non-desperate non-losers (or in my definition men usually men with little self-control, introspection, and life experience) who don't will look at the profile and message a matching woman first in a way that makes it obvious they are looking for real connection, if they were swiping for something more real. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 02:28 PM |
| 7 | No, women do not make it "obvious" they're into youI will admit to having given dumb compliments before, and smiling. But I'm not gonna touch a man just because he's cool and looks good. Every woman has her preferences and quirks I guess. and "carelessly" letting their breasts brush all over a man.* Loll umm wait what?!?! At least some women don't do anything like that until you've been dating a while. Also maybe OP is a nice church guy who wouldn't be looking for that either, so those women who would stay away from him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 02:23 PM |
| 3 | No, women do not make it "obvious" they're into youIt's a gray area or a spectrum of some kind. Take dating apps, for example. Woman matches with man. Gives him a chance and clearly shows she is open, but she also knows he probably swiped right on everything that showed up for him because that's what men do. So it's true that she pursued a man and it's also not true at the same time. Not everything is black and white. Even the same women will change their views on certain men and on dating over time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 02:20 PM |
| 4 | No, women do not make it "obvious" they're into youWhat do you mean by feral? I am considered quite prim and proper, but I also don't see other women being shameless. My circle is filled with good women I love very much, by the way. Anyway, I do think most women will look at a man, linger near him, and I've seen "eyes made" between people. It doesn't always happen when a woman is into a man because maybe some men won't notice and do it back or the two people will be so engrossed in a good conversation that the other subject doesn't come up. If s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 02:11 PM |
| 1 | How exactly is the average Basic Bob supposed to "choose better" in terms of MARRIAGE?But why would you even waste your time at all dating someone you don't know? Get to know them first. FaceTime, a group party, something friendly not with romantic pressure. Men say coffee dates are low pressure - but isn't it A LOT of pressure driving somewhere to meet someone you don't know to spend half that time trying to impress them? This is coming from my suburban mindset, though. If I was in NYC, I would not mind making a couple of new connections at the coffee stand on the corner. There … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 01:46 PM |
| 4 | Is hiring escorts as unethical as some people make it out to be?It's illegal where I am. Dude would be a criminal. Broke the law for sex. It becomes a matter of law, less private. I suppose I wouldn't want every stranger to tell me their history on it, but I would want to know just as much as I would want to see and STD test. There are some things you share with partners. If you were into a fetish for a length of time, you probably enjoy it and will be likely to bring it up in the future with someone to whom you are close. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 11:01 AM |
| 4 | Is hiring escorts as unethical as some people make it out to be?sex trafficking is the only reason that sex work exists. It's one reason. It enables the industry due to demand. Why would any man want to be associated with that in any way? Also, if a man did want to be associated with that kind of thing, what would he need a woman's understanding for? He doesn't care for them as people, and whatever he thinks he wants from them he gets outside of a relationship anyway. alive and well and full of happily employed men and women who would love your business so l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 10:56 AM |
| 0 | How exactly is the average Basic Bob supposed to "choose better" in terms of MARRIAGE?Do you have any idea how quickly fresh spinach and berries go bad? Chicken needs to be frozen or cooked in like 2 days. Takes time to thaw, too. There's emergency extra food, but I don't think people like to eat canned and frozen things every time they meet a new person and they don't mesh well. I know some men don't plan their meals like I do, but surely they know how many meals they are planning to eat out in a week or not? Surely they are competent enough to plan their activities a day in adv… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 10:45 AM |
| 1 | How exactly is the average Basic Bob supposed to "choose better" in terms of MARRIAGE?If the coffee date is great, they can totally be the one proposing to continue with a dinner. ONE day in advance. If the both of them can't plan their couple of hours it less together ONE day in advance, well, I don't know about all other women but for me I really like to have plans. Normally, I would go for a slice of pizza. I would not have wanted to be the one to suggest it, though, to a man who is asking a zillion other women out for generic caffeine and hasn't thought about the date with me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 10:07 AM |
| 1 | How exactly is the average Basic Bob supposed to "choose better" in terms of MARRIAGE?I'm saying she's asking to mess up her food plans if she makes plans with a man who "might or might not" want to eat after a coffee. And that would make me have second thoughts personally if I was ever asked. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 10:32 PM |
| 1 | Why is sex a nontradeable ?If women decided that they were willing enough to sell sex for money, and men decided they prefer the willing women, trafficking would not be a pervasive theme in history. It happens for a reason. That is how we know women are not all willing to do this, and it's a worldwide problem that men have been trying to force the issue anyway. Is that making sense? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 07:59 PM |
| 1 | What do we think about coffee dates?Frozen yogurt is better than coffee because maybe I like yogurt on a personal level haha. Don't really like coffee. Low price is fine. Yogurt would spoil everyone's meal. Do you not want to eat with her? Guess that might be fine for squeezing meeting someone new into your schedule when you're young and don't know people very well. Especially if you are convenient and close by. Personally, I like a slice of pizza better than anything. Real food/nutrition and I won't be hungry later. You could may… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 07:42 PM |
| 1 | Why is sex a nontradeable ?I'm someone who learns from history. And I am civil. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 07:34 PM |
| 1 | Why is sex a nontradeable ?There's technology that exactly allows for this. The rest of this is nonsense. And some of that technology uses an extra pair of hands. Since people don't get sick from it or kidnapped or held at gunpoint or shot up with drugs over it, I'm not objecting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 07:34 PM |
| 1 | Why is sex a nontradeable ?Who are you to say what women want to have sex for? I'm the person who explained to you what women have had to be trafficked and forced to do throughout history. When you have something to say about that, I'm all ears. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 07:32 PM |
| 1 | Why is sex a nontradeable ?McDonald's hardly ever has disease spread. They have stayed in business. Sex spreads worse disease even consensually. More than 1/10th of the population! Not the same as McDonald's at all. No one benefits? One person gets money. The other person received a service. Do you argue the same about the massage industry? No one benefits there? People can't massage themselves on the back. People CAN do the other thing for themselves. And even if they can't, an accommodation might be helpful when it does… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 07:15 PM |
| 1 | Why is sex a nontradeable ?The difference is one spreads public disease. The difference is, for McDonald's, consumers are able to eat. For sex work, no one benefits except for through sadism. The difference is how two people just working at McDonald's equally could never require one to pay the other. A woman having her fair share fun would not think to take money for sex whereas no McDonald's worker would ever think about showing up for no money. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 06:51 PM |
| 5 | Why is sex a nontradeable ?It's not so much that she's ALWAYS being coerced. It's about the majority of women who are - because one woman who wants a Gucci bag instead of bread for her child is not enough volume of sex for the absolute multitude of men who would be OK with it. Because how does the man know which woman is which? How does the law know which woman is which? We don't know, so it shouldn't be legal to buy. When someone tries to buy your little sister or niece or daughter, we must be able to do something about … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 06:43 PM |
| 2 | How exactly is the average Basic Bob supposed to "choose better" in terms of MARRIAGE?Coffee is not a mutual interest - for me - to bond over and enjoy romantically. Maybe the board games could be fun. And the nearby element means it could be a casual meeting as 'friends' to find more common ground for more sure romance and closeness. That's essentially my issue with it, too. It's not about the price. I'd probably go 20 minutes for a similarly priced slice of pizza, if I was decently sure the guy really liked me and I liked him enough to talk. No issue with that. Plus I would kno… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 06:22 PM |
| 0 | How exactly is the average Basic Bob supposed to "choose better" in terms of MARRIAGE?I mean, I don't like coffee, but when I was younger I was happy to meet a friendly person at my college campus at this cute cute cafe with tea, board games, and even wine. Food next door. I do not, however, think a woman with a full time job should be driving 20 minutes for pricey Starbucks coffee and WiFi though, for a guy who is trying to gauge if she is doable in person. People say you could always go somewhere different later if you actually like them and do find them doable, but what if he … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 05:38 PM |
| – | Attraction is the first thing women have to sacrificeIf we all feel about the same as each other, what good does it do to say "actually I don't want to fuck you all that much" to the person you are... Trying to fuck? It's not like you have to correct them that women like balding men. It was not sensible what you said about that, by the way. They know. I do agree, the difference is that more women don't say the negative shit for no reason. Of course we focus on the positive. And those men who don't also try to be positive with their partners will a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 05:01 PM |
| 1 | Removing access to abortion and birth control won’t make women want dependable average men more -- it’ll make them avoid men altogetherIn this day and age with guns, especially in the US, not so much on the capability. Women might have slightly more access to children, but the effect of postpartum psychosis is also greater. Well evidently everyone else does, at least more so than they do men. Out of touch. You haven't responded about healthcare and education. It's really not evident at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 09:02 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: What lie that a man tells you to get into a relationship/into your pants, would be seen as the biggest betrayal?Large difference between "yeah I had 5 boyfriends before I met you" or even "I hooked up a few times in my early 20's" and "I want you to be a cuckold." Although, with my very limited experience, I understand why men come to the conclusion both things are somewhat related. My partner has a bigger past than me, and sometimes I think i could see him wanting things that I don't. I trust him though, like it's my job. I did make that vow, we are married. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 08:34 AM |
| – | Removing access to abortion and birth control won’t make women want dependable average men more -- it’ll make them avoid men altogetherno it doesn’t matter if it was a partner or not actually. Yikes. it does. Who exactly do you think values these women, if not even partners? Who in society values? I would look up your claims and see if it's mainly gang violence you're talking about why men would ever get killed like that when clearly they are valued in all the other ways I stated and it's not the people who know them killing them, but I am a little busy rn. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 08:17 AM |
| 5 | Q4W: What lie that a man tells you to get into a relationship/into your pants, would be seen as the biggest betrayal?lying about where you work, faking confidence, baggage etc). Lying about the way he treated women in his own past would have made me more livid. Faking confidence is just smart. That doesn't make me mad lol. These are such funny examples. And where he works? I mean, yes that might make me mad because I'm not trying to hook up I'm trying to have a relationship and now we are starting on lies instead of getting to know you and your colleagues and our plan for our future. Women are more relatable t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 08:15 AM |
| 5 | Q4W: What lie that a man tells you to get into a relationship/into your pants, would be seen as the biggest betrayal?So the same as a woman's biggest betrayal, then? Lying about monogamy and taking risks big enough for both of you to get sick and turning the initial testing you can do into anything but a guarantee. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 08:01 AM |
| -1 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAIt's not the extreme version of 100%, and usually it correlates with how well someone knows a person, but people's views definitely tend to come out in their personal choices - especially extreme and biased views will come out. Often, things can happen quickly, epecially with men on here who say "I want a woman to have a specific kind of raw desire for me," that shows up in your life. You try to get into her pants on the first date and/or take stupid risks. You probably don't bother to get STD t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 07:57 AM |
| – | Removing access to abortion and birth control won’t make women want dependable average men more -- it’ll make them avoid men altogetherHealthcare? Education? What are you on about women being more valued than men? Are you saying this because women often get compensated for labor in the family and fight less often in wars? They're still murdered. Pregnant women are murdered by their own partners as a main cause of death. You're objectively not right, it's the opposite. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 07:48 AM |
| 1 | Being a 20+ year old virgin is reasonably seen as a red flag for a potential mate and that is not virgin shamingFactor in modern conveniences and social problems of the information age, and I absolutely believe that a good portion of men are handicapping their own chances at happiness with a woman. Maybe it's more often the guy who had one or 2 failed young relationships/hookups and decided "women aren't worth it" until his mom stopped taking care of him and his hairline receded. Sometimes it could be a total virgin. Especially when they get online and talk about how women are the ones who don't know our … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 07:39 AM |
| 1 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAThe most obvious and specific answer you're looking for is banned to discuss here, but no, not all dangerous or misogynistic men or all red flags are bad looking. I have 100% turned down men who look good for their views. I guarantee you've seen it happen before. I will say, the men who come out and hit on me with the expectation I will say yes are not usually "hateful" of women. I consider their views flawed and dangerous for me in other ways. Misogyny shows up in doing acts that are destructiv… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 07:32 AM |
| 1 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SASOME abuse potential. And it's not "intuiting," it is observing. Actions over time definitely become a reflection of a hateful person, and women can see this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 07:22 AM |
| – | What hints do you give your partners that you wish they’d notice more over verbal communication?I meant it should be visually obvious when we get a hair update usually. And we definitely look good at least partly for our partner if we have one. We enjoy compliments from them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 07:20 AM |
| 0 | What hints do you give your partners that you wish they’d notice more over verbal communication?How are you supposed to know and automatically care that she went to the salon? That's her domain. ........ BRO. It's obvious. It's MEANT to be visual. Say it fuckin looks good. If it doesn't, she's going to be thinking "The Hell did I pay for? Do I need to find a new stylist or a new style?" Or she wonders if it does look good, and you don't say "you look great," why you don't see and make her feel good about her efforts and taste and pleasant appearance. Except if she keeps the same style for … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 12:44 AM |
| 1 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SALike, risky for spreading diseases not socially acceptable, or like having a hard day and being in a bad mood unacceptable? Because dudes having a beer and taking a load off after a hard day at work is about the most socially acceptable thing I can think of. It's only if you yell a lot and/or shut out your family entirely for days that it becomes an issue. I would argue it's dangerous, yeah, but men don't hide that shut from women - they can't. The yelling at them and shutting them out affects t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 12:34 AM |
| 1 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SASome men hide things very well. When those things are bad enough, and they fear consequences. This is me speaking from experience as an old hag, by the way. Others don't care to hide things, and the younger a woman or a relationship is, the less a man will have to work to hide details. Forced to hide emotions is an interesting take. I never understood. I don't have brothers or anything. The only things men even have to hide, as far as I can see, are the dangerous things. And I've always hoped th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 12:27 AM |
| 0 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAHoly shit. I read the thing. She literally says she noticed inconsistencies. Do you really think women are so stupid or blind? Actually don't answer that, it probably would violate the rules here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 12:11 AM |
| 1 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAA year is nothing. And he is still seen. Imagine not being able to keep someone around for longer than that to know you just because your beliefs are so hateful. And btw, I imagine she "snooped" for a reason. People don't do things for no reason. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 12:09 AM |
| -1 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAOver the long term? I mean, yes, your beliefs will impact your daily life. You'll get seen by the people who know you well enough even if you don't say specific things out loud. Actions speak louder than words. Even the act of trying to hook up fast is possible a sign in itself, although those random women you hit on may not see enough to know WHY you are behaving irrationally and dangerously. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 12:05 AM |
| 0 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SANot all bad people have the same signs or ways of being bad. Some signs are obvious and some aren't. The non-obvious bad relationships also might be less painful for longer, leading to a better chance at more time invested. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/25 12:03 AM |
| 1 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SAHmm, that would only apply if women were truly in average more helpful and better options than men. Which would mean telling women to "choose better" when the average men are worse is basically advocating for a male loneliness epidemic. Is that what we are on now? I'm for that before I'm for women suffering with bad men, though I don't feel like there's a reason why men would be considered inferior on average. And most men agree! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 11:59 PM |
| 1 | "Choosing better" arguments should also apply to men who get falsely accused, get cheated on, get rejected, if we're going to apply to female victims of violence and SABeing an incel would also mean being celibate and repulsive - and therefore basically immune from the worst of accusations or consequences of relationships with something. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 11:55 PM |
| 1 | Being a 20+ year old virgin is reasonably seen as a red flag for a potential mate and that is not virgin shamingI had a first love who rejected me, too. He's a good man. I wonder too often why he can't be my friend anymore (He probably finds it weird to be around a married woman who once had such a romantic connection with him. At least that's what I tell myself. That's what a good man would do.) He wanted me to move on and be happy. He would not be moved by glory or human works. He is on much better terms with God than I am. But I do want my husband, truly. He is also a good man, in his own way. He belie… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 10:48 PM |
| -1 | Being a 20+ year old virgin is reasonably seen as a red flag for a potential mate and that is not virgin shamingExactly. If you were a virgin because you were a priest and you had a choice but you picked me and left the clergy. Do you know how hot that would be?!?! What's not hot is when a guy just doesn't try or can't figure out how to treat women until he's way old - and even worse if he doesn't understand that waiting way longer will cause other changes in his plans. I'm not even talking 25 maybe because someone in his family was sick or he grew up poor and he had to work too hard overtime to get anywh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 10:40 PM |
| 0 | Being a 20+ year old virgin is reasonably seen as a red flag for a potential mate and that is not virgin shamingI wasn't thinking like a hookup, as I expect more effort than that and I would never have done a hookup. I feel like, in a relationship where he's supposed to try and make me feel wanted and feel pleasure, it might be more obvious that he's inexperienced. But yeah! I can see how this would maybe not even be noticed in the context you're talking about! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 10:32 PM |
| 2 | Being a 20+ year old virgin is reasonably seen as a red flag for a potential mate and that is not virgin shamingOkay so I guess since it doesn't take practice at all there shouldn't be any preference for experienced guys versus guys who are virgins. I would have preferred a virgin when I was one! Would definitely prefer a low N guy. I feel like there's an intimidation factor for virgin guys going into their first time that is eliminated if they just get an escort beforehand. You don't have to have sex in your teen years. You don't have to be a model. Sometimes perfectly normal people are attracted to each… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 10:29 PM |
| – | older women are easier to manipulate than younger womenOh. This is a great point. If a 30 year old gets with a bad man and has his baby and gets stuck in a worse financial situation, well she had a lot of time to prepare and she has experience and we're not as worried about her getting out of it. If a 19 year old gets baby trapped with a man or drops out of school... We are all more worried about the situation just based on her age and life knowledge alone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 07:12 PM |
| – | older women are easier to manipulate than younger womenWhy am I getting downvoted? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 04:59 PM |
| 2 | Being a 20+ year old virgin is reasonably seen as a red flag for a potential mate and that is not virgin shaming"okay my pp goes in this hole" gives you a little reassurance that you're not going to stick something where it doesn't belong. ............................. That objectively doesn't take practice with a human. And you're not supposed to just be sticking it in. Have you ever been with someone YOU are attracted to and love? You're supposed to do the stuff for her first, get a good look around and let her guide you. You'll see where things are and she'll guide it for you as you're kinda the one wi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 04:36 PM |
| – | older women are easier to manipulate than younger womenThings like holes in family walls, juvenile records from 4 years ago, long but not too long periods of no contact. A 19 year old will think "idk what's going on with their family right now, and I'm not a part of it yet, I don't need to be up his arse every 5 seconds." When in reality, the guy who seems very kind to you for 6 months or more really might not have grown as much as you think and may be responsible for more than you think during his little space. That's why it's called a red flag - i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 04:33 PM |
| – | older women are easier to manipulate than younger womenYounger women don't "have infinitely better options than older women." They are grown adults. They know where they stand. They, at least most of them, want someone young and fun or someone to build with from very little. They do not want the older, rich guy you think is "better." He's not an option. He's got things like kids, baggage, all-day meetings, and a home that she can't ever make her own. Life has phases. Older women are looking for different things, which I guess seems "better" if that … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 04:18 PM |
| 3 | Being a 20+ year old virgin is reasonably seen as a red flag for a potential mate and that is not virgin shamingThis assumes confidence is a problem, and escorts probably aren't the best most objective source of showing you what works well for a woman anatomically. How is an escort supposed to help with confidence? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 03:55 PM |
| 1 | How Much of Your Needs Should Be Communicated Directly - and How Much Should Be Understood?I suppose that is what people say. My husband is much more resistant to routine changes than I am, just in my experience. We talk like reasonable people and come to agreements on big new changes, though. Life changes happen in waves throughout a marriage, like you said maybe with having a baby. We have ended up agreeing because we know how to communicate when it is necessary. I would say sooner is usually better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 02:55 AM |
| 2 | Why do so many women say their low sex drive in marriage was due to lack of emotional attunement & burden of household chores, yet immediately start enjoying CASUAL SEX after divorce with men they share no emotional connection or household chores with?Nobody wants to be the pumpkin :) The pumpkin is a symbol. A suggestion. An idea representing interchangeable parts. Of course, a couple should be on the same page and have some compatible traits. Ideas should match in a way. However, once people get down to actions that can make a family, nobody wants to be interchangeable to their family. People want their full experiences and features to be seen and accepted. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 02:12 AM |
| 2 | How Much of Your Needs Should Be Communicated Directly - and How Much Should Be Understood?As you get ready to permanently choose a life partner, you should know things like: the love languages are a complete full picture the lifestyle you realistically plan to have and how to achieve it in a way that is roughly equitable and stable for the whole partnership/family reproductive science/anatomy managing practical adult/household tasks basic social and communication skills any triggers or quirks of your own and how to manage You can talk over time about the specifics. It evolves to get … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/25 01:28 AM |
| – | Q4W: Why do you want to marry and date men, given that the majority of women are not attracted to the male body?Uh. My husband is hot to me. There are definitely other good looking men. Very good looking, in fact. You just gotta be attracted to and compatible with the singular one you're actually with. Helps knowing where a pregnancy came from and helps prevent the spread of disease, too. 10/10 recommend doing it this way. Instead of dating an interchangeable set of people, date individuals in the hopes of finding YOUR individual for life. Personally, I am attracted to masculine traits. My husband is cons… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 10:25 PM |
| 2 | Being a 20+ year old virgin is reasonably seen as a red flag for a potential mate and that is not virgin shamingOk but at the same time, don’t underestimate or undersell the importance of their sexual and romantic desires. Fair | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 10:05 PM |
| 1 | Being a 20+ year old virgin is reasonably seen as a red flag for a potential mate and that is not virgin shamingFeelings? Sure. Violence or backwards policies? Different story. I am human. I have some feelings myself. Wallowing in the negative for too long is not something that helps me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 09:38 PM |
| 2 | Being a 20+ year old virgin is reasonably seen as a red flag for a potential mate and that is not virgin shamingI don't actually know you. I've known people who call themselves ugly and autistic who are great people and I can see them dating in the right circumstance. I've met other people who I actually think are really unfortunate looking personally. I am an internet stranger. I would much prefer to see you happy and successful and not lonely versus the alternative, because that's not good for any human. The issue is, I am nowhere near close enough to you to recommend any things that might help you conn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 09:11 PM |
| 2 | Why do so many women say their low sex drive in marriage was due to lack of emotional attunement & burden of household chores, yet immediately start enjoying CASUAL SEX after divorce with men they share no emotional connection or household chores with?So a loveless bedroom is one without drama. I enjoy a good story (but not one of disharmony between me and my husband). It can get my attention and my time for a while. And that does help. But also I am attracted to him and sex itself is enjoyable for me. We bond over many different things. Much of it also isn't just a story or the story created: it's the result. If you talk about kissing me and don't do it, we got a problem. Talk about working hard or taking me to Paris or having the family we … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 09:01 PM |
| 2 | Why do so many women say their low sex drive in marriage was due to lack of emotional attunement & burden of household chores, yet immediately start enjoying CASUAL SEX after divorce with men they share no emotional connection or household chores with?Ain't no way these men on the interwebs are making enough to "provide" for a divorced woman. Also ain't no way she happily spent several years pleading with a man who she never found really attractive Also based on the average number of partners women have (especially in the US), they aren't in fact trading in for sex with a new Chad every week just because maybe they theoretically can. Nothing about that seems valid. The fact that men would even say this is crazy to me. You had this much distru… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 08:55 PM |
| 1 | Why do so many women say their low sex drive in marriage was due to lack of emotional attunement & burden of household chores, yet immediately start enjoying CASUAL SEX after divorce with men they share no emotional connection or household chores with?Very rarely, honestly. Just in my experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 08:50 PM |
| 1 | Why do so many women say their low sex drive in marriage was due to lack of emotional attunement & burden of household chores, yet immediately start enjoying CASUAL SEX after divorce with men they share no emotional connection or household chores with?Awww but I thought women were supposed to be kind and trusting and open? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 08:40 PM |
| 0 | Being a 20+ year old virgin is reasonably seen as a red flag for a potential mate and that is not virgin shamingThis is it. If you never asked out a woman or you never bothered with one who would say yes or you literally have an obvious issue, that's a problem that left you lonely. But if you were waiting for marriage and your engagement recently blew up, there's nothing wrong with just the fact you never had sex (in my opinion). Some people don't even mesh with that. Others might. Side note: with smaller communities and earlier "adulthood" milestones, pairing up early was easier and healthier. Now, peopl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 08:15 PM |
| 1 | The worst thing about modern expectations is that women roles and social duties have been eased while men roles and social duties have increased or stayed sameGenerally speaking, money and bitches are the reward. Lmao what a way to put it. But I'm not gonna tell you off for it. I always tell my female friend to get out and get some bitches, so I can't be a hypocrite. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 03:48 PM |
| 35 | The worst thing about modern expectations is that women roles and social duties have been eased while men roles and social duties have increased or stayed sameWell the point is I want to have my cake and eat it to. So it's not about women's expectations or yours getting better or worse. It's that you literally never want to be told no. Respectfully, you're an adult. You will hear no from men and women and family and even children. You will not always get what you want. You are the most privileged if you don't get that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 03:46 PM |
| 1 | What do u like the most about your significant otherAnd sometimes the pull is too strong for your will power and you are drawn to be sexually attracted. That's not how it works, for me. I have a brain. If a man is not a fit for me, I move on. Hell, a really good and gentle man won't even make it difficult or push. Being social. Being capable of being social. And being great at being social does not mean that you have to want it or like it or find it fulfilling or etc Most people are social in the sense that their mental health is a lot better whe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 02:52 PM |
| 1 | What do u like the most about your significant otherBeing uplifted in a group is nice. Plenty of men feel it, too. Some men get lonely, and not in a sexual way. Perhaps some women don't, as well. People can be different. The majority of people are somewhat social. I do for myself. I want for myself. And I don’t need to use anybody or need anyone to do anything for me But it can be a want, not a need. Or maybe it is a need, solitary confinement is torture after all. I definitely have standards for myself that I make sure I contribute or do on my e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 11:22 AM |
| 2 | What do u like the most about your significant otherYou've never been sexually attracted to someone who is a good friend? I can certainly understand how that impacts what you want. Personally, for me, I've never maintained a sexual interest in someone who was not good to me. I move on to better options with less risk of disaster. I, too, have my own wants. What do you think of when you say you enjoy someone's personality and their place in your life in a nonsexual way? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 10:37 AM |
| 1 | What do u like the most about your significant otherI enjoy talking with several friends on a regular basis, and my husband. I have a desire for that the same way I have a desire for sexuality. It is not a need - if there's no consent or it's not working somehow, I can find a way to survive on my own. When I get to have fun and feel taken care of by those close to me, I do appreciate it. I still would be single and celibate if all of the good-looking men were headaches to me. I might even say I would be sacrificing the benefits I get due to my hu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 10:34 AM |
| 3 | What do u like the most about your significant otherWhat the Hell did you think it meant? And you called in Machiavellian. Literally. Attraction is one thing. There have been a few interesting guys in my life. There are things that make my middle school love "special," too. I was interested in him at one point. We like personalities the same shallow way we like other people's looks. Some of my platonic friends have really great personalities I like. it didn't work out with the romantic interests of the past, and now my husband and I do a lot more… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 10:23 AM |
| 1 | What do u like the most about your significant other"I enjoy sexual access given to me by attractive people who are capable of giving it. This is real, and doesn't benefit me at all, as opposed to those Machiavellian people who appreciate the access, generosity, and other mutual sharing given by people gifted in ways of intelligence and those who share hobbies or interests or goals that are rarer than sex." - Literally you. And it makes no sense unless you assume that people don't give back emotional, mental, or partnership enthusiasm and results… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 10:02 AM |
| 4 | What do u like the most about your significant otherThat's not ALL you said. You also essentially literally said it wasn't good for someone to admire your good qualities, if they were planning on being a part of your life that benefitted and appreciate those things. As if there's something wrong with that. Which is pretty sad if you think about it, and not even something you seem to have a deeper point about more than lamentations. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 08:29 AM |
| 3 | What do u like the most about your significant otherNo, you don't see anything. Apparently you didn't even see when I admitted that plenty of things about my husband have benefitted me. Please take your comments elsewhere. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 08:00 AM |
| 1 | Men who dated "experienced" women, how do you deal with the fact that your partner likely hooked up with guys hotter than you?Oh, no, I realize some men are like that. But it is shameful, and far below what I consider the bare minimum, especially for a man. They don't tolerate it from us, now do they? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 07:48 AM |
| 2 | What do u like the most about your significant otherThis is an actual text I sent him the other day: "And for the record that one leader is an asshole and you're clearly leadership material yourself and you're shiny and I am proud of you. Also you are fun, interesting, and loved." You probably don't get more than half the context to that message, and you certainly don't get how we benefitted each other in the last 7+ years of marriage in a way where we both contributed. It's not even like I could ask you to imagine it. We met with very little. We… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 03:20 AM |
| 3 | Men who dated "experienced" women, how do you deal with the fact that your partner likely hooked up with guys hotter than you?Sure it's valid in either way. But personally? As a woman who has not had casual sex? I literally think a promiscuous man would be happier in an open relationship with the most promiscuous woman rather than dealing with how I would handle him when he looked in another woman's direction. Anybody can be valid alone or with someone similarly compatible, but too big a difference will cause problems eventually if someone tries it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 02:30 AM |
| 2 | Men who dated "experienced" women, how do you deal with the fact that your partner likely hooked up with guys hotter than you?Not sure how this is relevant. Well, if someone is seeking out new people they aren't attracted to and don't like for quick sex just because it makes them feel better than living their life, that's what would make me concerned about their happiness in a long term relationship much more than "oh no, they experienced someone good looking before." A lot of guys have casual sex just to try it and lower their standards in order to do it. Do you hear how this sounds? If I said I was doing this as a wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 01:55 AM |
| 1 | Men who dated "experienced" women, how do you deal with the fact that your partner likely hooked up with guys hotter than you?I never used dating apps. You're right, I find that a casual scenario isn't worth it. I didn't even have to try it. Met people in person. The problem is that a lot of men had to lower their standards in order to achieve that body count Ain't no way I'm believing he wasn't attracted to them. He wanted to do that for some reason. I mean, maybe the validation seeking really was very desperate, but that's a whole other issue and not one lesser than the fact that someone maybe has been with an attrac… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 01:41 AM |
| – | Why do so many women say their low sex drive in marriage was due to lack of emotional attunement & burden of household chores, yet immediately start enjoying CASUAL SEX after divorce with men they share no emotional connection or household chores with?You can listen to the words coming out of her mouth, ask her questions, go on dates. Cuddle a lot, kiss her and touch her bum. Continue to build a connection with the ways you used to. Go on occasional trips if you can. Treat her like a lady you like, care about, and find attractive. You can clean up after yourself, do your own laundry and dishes. Thats what a brand new person does. A married person won't exactly be brand new, though. You'll need to share all the communication about mundane task… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 01:36 AM |
| 2 | Men who dated "experienced" women, how do you deal with the fact that your partner likely hooked up with guys hotter than you?I think it WOULD be "easy" for a woman to do that if that were somehow a sole objective, but no I don't think that problem is as common as what online men might fear. Don't men have more partners on average than women do? That's what I find. I mean, in the very same sentence you say women look for this less. It's not as if most men never find it. Actually, you have inspired me to ask a question. Thank you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 12:43 AM |
| 0 | Q4W: Do you think most men are just not good enough/worthy of dating/marriage in the modern world?Model type women who might be 5'11'' or more, super desirable, and making good money can and will find people with those traits if that's what they're into. It actually makes sense in a way because shorter men sometimes get insecure, and men with too much less or more money may not match lifestyles. Doesn't even come across as shallow. Well, I suppose talking about manhood size is very crass, but our President has had some very crass things to say about women, so everyone can find a match I gues… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 12:21 AM |
| 0 | Q4W: Do you think most men are just not good enough/worthy of dating/marriage in the modern world?:-) thanks, I try to be helpful and realistic | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 12:04 AM |
| 6 | Q4W: Do you think most men are just not good enough/worthy of dating/marriage in the modern world?Too many men don't live up to the bar of being able to budget and maintain a safe, clean living environment on their own without a mom or a partner. Also, meet the bar of respecting and caring for the women you sleep with. Think about the basic well-being of those who would be tied to you as family. Forget about luxury, height, and looks. Start from the ground up, and in particular ask yourself if demanding a certain amount of kids and a stay-at-home partner or maybe even a working maid and a ro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/25 10:55 PM |
| 3 | Removing access to abortion and birth control won’t make women want dependable average men more -- it’ll make them avoid men altogetherBut to answer your question: it's not "making things better for women." It's just "they and the innocent children who are half men get better healthcare protections for themselves/their mother." Women aren't asking for handouts. They're asking for rights. I just pointed out: things weren't getting better for women. We were all having less kids partly because things were messed up for all of us. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/25 01:01 AM |
| 2 | Removing access to abortion and birth control won’t make women want dependable average men more -- it’ll make them avoid men altogetherIf men can make things worse, why do you think a supermajority of men especially working with women couldn't make significant more positive changes? How do you figure that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/25 12:31 AM |
| 1 | Do women have guys they want to fuck but not want to date?Oh I agree. Building confidence in dating is a tough thing and you can't really show weakness on any side. Not sure why you'd think trying an app is a good place to try "faking it until you make it," as an older already married woman I wouldn't recommend it for whatever that's worth. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 06:23 PM |
| – | Do women have guys they want to fuck but not want to date?If they just post natural pictures and download a dating app they will get tons of guys to shower them with attention. On an app? Where they will also receive gross pictures and invites to coffee dates from someone who never knew them? That's a waste of time. If no one in person ever showed affection and appreciation, that makes someone feel kinda bad for women just as much as men. We are not complex nuanced beings when it comes to sex. It takes very little to interest us sexually. So if a guy d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 05:53 PM |
| – | Do women have guys they want to fuck but not want to date?The consequences. Men have diseases. Some women get pregnant when they don't intend to or with the wrong man altogether. The fact that many casual male partners are total assholes who will act like you're the shameful one for being with them unironically. If they were competent, kind, intelligent, committed, and attractive enough, I'd date them for real. I assume if they could see the same were true about me, they'd want to have a relationship for real. There would be very little keeping grown, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 04:36 PM |
| 1 | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵Attractive people do exist. Even commonly known ones, but most people don't actually get with those people. There are plenty of people who don't have casual sex, and of the ones who do jump in, sometimes they realize there was actually a lot more needed. Whenever this topic gets brought up it's always "just do more chores bro!" Failing to pull your weight around the house actually is insulting and rude. Sometimes that happens. However, anyone - man or woman - is doing their fair share, the disco… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 04:22 PM |
| – | Do women have guys they want to fuck but not want to date?None of that stuff you are talking about emotionally matters to guys in order to receive sexual pleasure. Yes, I realize this, but doesn't it matter enough in general life satisfaction? Because I feel like it should. Especially if you only desire sex about the same amount that you desire a kiss. Both are similar in that they are expressions of mutual affection and care, but there are some physical differences, obviously. We kissed when we were getting to know each other as people. We did more wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 04:15 PM |
| – | Do women have guys they want to fuck but not want to date?Thank you for letting other women know lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 02:56 PM |
| – | Do women have guys they want to fuck but not want to date?Women just don't desire it in the first place which creates a lot of leverage for them. This isn't true. Sex is nice to do with someone you love just like kissing, for men and for women. It's no more pleasurable than relieving your own needs if you don't care about your partner. normally it is the guy desiring sex in the context of a marriage far more than the woman. I've been married for over 7 years and you're flat out wrong. All the other factors of respect, regret, shame etc don't matter to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 02:52 PM |
| 5 | Removing access to abortion and birth control won’t make women want dependable average men more -- it’ll make them avoid men altogetherI was about to say that you're trying to dismantle a whole working system because exceptions aren't being made for you and you have to do your part. But that's really not even true, is it? The birth rate and rates of sex have been going down already for a while before Roe was overturned. The system wasn't working. Enough of you got selfish and mad that you became too close to a majority. You just did not understand why the system was failing - income inequality and lack of support for parents. L… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 02:43 PM |
| 3 | Removing access to abortion and birth control won’t make women want dependable average men more -- it’ll make them avoid men altogetherIt's not even lack of perfect circumstance. It's flat out cruel and making the worst of situations that are already very bad, like unavoidable pregnancy complications. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 02:32 PM |
| 4 | Removing access to abortion and birth control won’t make women want dependable average men more -- it’ll make them avoid men altogetherThe pros have been outweighing the cons for a long time in my opinion. Not sure why y'all are meeting all the wrong type of people, but my friends and I really don't like deadbeats and haven't made exceptions for the good looking ones. My one and only could do deadbeat things right now and he'd all of a sudden be pushed out the door (if I could prove it). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 02:30 PM |
| 10 | Removing access to abortion and birth control won’t make women want dependable average men more -- it’ll make them avoid men altogether"* Women aren’t men. They’re not wired to pursue sex at any cost. If sex becomes dangerous or costly, many will just opt out. Full stop. " I know this wasn't your main point, but it just kinda struck me here. Let's not let men off the hook too easily. "Not all men" (lol) are hoes who will sleep with the most dangerous woman out there. Not all men lose their minds over sex, and men in general really ought to be held to that standard. They have responsibilities for risk management as consenting ad… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 12:28 PM |
| 1 | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵But people DO need that. Failing to listen to your wife or do a good portion of the things you used to do - being a roommate instead of a partner - is pretty fucking hurtful. Or the worse stuff can even be the reason for emotional disconnection. Whoever told you that doesn't count as emotional disconnection? Because it does. That's literally what being rude, hurtful, and shitty causes. That's literally the thing. Idk if you just think people choose the first person that looks good to sleep with,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 12:05 PM |
| 1 | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵You admitted how your wife changing and behaving in disconnected waves could even change your own desire. You expect this to be different for women? It's not. This argument where you're suddenly saying "no because reasons" makes no sense. If that's all you've got, I guess the conversation is over. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 11:35 AM |
| 1 | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵Yes it does. Lack of emotional connection (or emotional disconnection) can kill desire in a marriage. The image says that's a lie, but it's not. Don't be shitty to your spouse. Don't neglect your spouse, and still expect sex - or any relationship, really. Now, I will say, it would be odd if your spouse just keeps saying "but I feel disconnected to you" for a whole year and they're not working on that or attending couple's therapy and they still somehow want to stay married, but they never want t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 10:36 AM |
| 1 | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵So if your wife cheats on you and behaved disconnected, if she trashed you to your friends and family, or if, suddenly, she behaved like a shit. You're still gonna wanna fuck her? I am not asking if you'll think she's hot or think about doing it. Because that's not the same thing. Would you still want to fuck her? Beg for it? No? Because there's a big difference between initial sexual attraction and wanting to actually make love to someone - which is what some people do sexually, by the way. And… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 04:23 AM |
| 1 | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵I've never seen this so I'll try to be polite by not commenting too much on it. I try to dig into what I see a little deeper. If my friend is breaking rules, why? If my friend is dating someone they're not attracted to, why? I'm genuinely concerned about the people I interact with. There would be more to the story for me to speak about - if I saw that. You just made me think of something interesting though. Different set of rules, right? But the guys who are less attractive are still given a cha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 04:11 AM |
| 5 | Do women have guys they want to fuck but not want to date?I mean, it IS like kissing? The threshold for liking someone, being attracted to them, and bothering to find out what they like enough to even get there applies? Right? But I'm not even talking about that. Men are easier to please physically - they can relatively easily do more of the work with less intensive prep for male-female sex. But do you WANT to sleep with someone who you don't respect and who doesn't respect themselves or you? Do you WANT to wake up in a few months and get an "I'm pregn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 03:31 AM |
| 1 | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵..... And what? They think they'll never be the ones to receive the bad end of trauma somehow, so they might as well also get away with it? That's pretty dark. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 01:41 AM |
| 2 | Do women have guys they want to fuck but not want to date?Sure it helps, if you know the long answer as to what it means in your particular situation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 09:23 PM |
| 6 | Do women have guys they want to fuck but not want to date?But that advice is also given to men who are already in relationships, as if all problems are instantly boiled down to the woman's whims and the problem couldn't possibly be something deeper the man needs to work on. I mean, yes absolutely take care of yourself and learn to be personable when meeting new people. Absolutely expect that to have some impact on your dating life as a younger, less experienced man. It absolutely can apply. Even the "don't be unattractive" can technically apply in long… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 02:36 AM |
| 3 | Do women have guys they want to fuck but not want to date?I simply have witnessed other people’s mental, physical and financial decline as a result of participating in casual sex especially when it comes to women. Why mainly women? Do you not know many men? Or is there some sort of bias where you don't possibly relate men's failures to their often impulsive sexual decisions on at least an equal level to women? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/25 11:48 PM |
| 1 | Do women have guys they want to fuck but not want to date?Men and women are not the same when it comes to sex, desires and consequences. Not one-on-one the same, but both genders suffer and need to be responsible for their sexual actions. Like when men need to pay child support just to even begin to help raise the next generation. Or when a deadbeat dad's children have feelings about his shitty behavior towards their mother and themselves. Both genders desire enthusiasm and effort in the bedroom, even if it may look a bit different on each side or in e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/25 11:46 PM |
| 1 | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵"Men aren't lonely enough" has a certain symmetry to it, but nah. Men aren't TRAUMATIZED enough. Until a man actually uses his brain to see risks in meeting up with someone alone for a first meeting, I guess he's not traumatized enough. Until they realize that it's worth getting to know someone through a friend of a friend before pushing her into some coffee date 20 minutes away because they have absolutely nothing to lose spending time with a wonderful strange women, I guess they aren't traumat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/25 10:22 PM |
| 20 | Do women have guys they want to fuck but not want to date?Single me knew men I find very attractive physically or even in other ways, but they are romantically not a fit for me so I have never wanted to do things like that with them because I have a brain that processes actions with the future consequences in mind. This is why when men say things like "do you want to fuck these men" or "attraction is the only thing that matters: be attractive and don't be unattractive," I don't understand what the Hell they're talking about. There are men I have turned… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/25 10:14 PM |
| 1 | The idea that women don't enjoy sex, comes from male sexuality being demonize in society.But you'd save time if you figure it out by talking like normal people first. Why focus on a romantic connection before you even get to that point where you know you feel that way about them? It's disingenuous and shallow. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/25 01:04 PM |
| 1 | The idea that women don't enjoy sex, comes from male sexuality being demonize in society."Men women know" includes men women have started dating. A 20 minute drive one way still a lot of work for meeting one man who isn't friendly and conversational to you prior to the meeting. Yes, people DO date that far apart if they meet someone they can actually talk to who seems compatible. It's worth the effort for those of us who were suburban. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/25 10:50 AM |
| 1 | The idea that women don't enjoy sex, comes from male sexuality being demonize in society.Nah, but you need to have a friendly rapport and sort of know how to converse with someone for the dates to go well. If this person is so great, why aren't they friendly towards you on a few occasions and able to express themselves about a few key things before you go on a date just for them? Long-term relationship is a lot of a concept to put on somebody who just might be a good looking friend. You have to see that they're open to checking compatibility on deeper things - and not just "oh we'll… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/25 06:25 PM |
| 1 | The idea that women don't enjoy sex, comes from male sexuality being demonize in society.I completely disagree. Do you really think men want to waste money wining and dining me before we even have a few facetimes or group activities and can act friendly with each other? That's wild. Dating is for going deeper - talking about original family, extra past work and social stories, soon after you can get onto how many kids you'd like to have, retirement plans, vacations together, cooking together. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/25 06:01 PM |
| 1 | The idea that women don't enjoy sex, comes from male sexuality being demonize in society.You can't decide to entirely be closed off around someone and expect to know if you like each other to go on a more open date. It doesn't work that day. I don't know about your experiences, but I myself know that even dating can be slightly awkward and it seems to me like it's pretty common for all people to accept it. Inferring someone is smart and kind - if you even get that far - is a good starting point, but that's not enough to know if you should date someone. A little bit of compatibility … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/25 05:33 PM |
| 1 | The idea that women don't enjoy sex, comes from male sexuality being demonize in society.You and I must disagree. There's a certain amount of charisma or sociability that allows someone to get to know people - friendships OR dating. Can't even know a man is smart, kind, or whatnot if they're not personable. It is a part of personality to have a base level of charisma, but that's not as high as you think. Do you online date? That might be how we differ. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/25 05:01 PM |
| 1 | The idea that women don't enjoy sex, comes from male sexuality being demonize in society.Only applies in the beginning stages. I promise, 2 years down the line, the compatible views and the person inside matters the most. It's easy for some of us to get confused about men who want to know "what matters the most for a romantic connection" when quite often they only mean getting a date or two. And yes, charisma matters there. But what is your opinion on a woman's perspective? That it's all hormones and fun? That we don't truly think about our future and our compatibility with the date… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/25 04:47 PM |
| 6 | The idea that women don't enjoy sex, comes from male sexuality being demonize in society.Why would a man want a woman or women to come across badly? Is this a gender war now? Why do men even continue talking about being "shallow" and wanting "hot babes" themselves? After women have repeatedly said "Okay we hear you, you want to be attracted to the person you are dating or partnered with, that was always a given. You can politely let some women know you feel that way about them without being rude to the other women you're not into personally." Having a certain person or people you li… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/25 02:18 AM |
| 3 | The idea that women don't enjoy sex, comes from male sexuality being demonize in society.Online? On this forum? No matter how you look... Some of the shit said is a huge turn-off. Looks can never play a big enough role to override that. Looks have broken up relationships before, by the response of both genders. So has sexism and all sorts of other emotional or social incompatibilities. Deal breakers come in many shapes and sizes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/25 01:45 AM |
| 3 | The idea that women don't enjoy sex, comes from male sexuality being demonize in society.Obviously "bad" can be a relative term. Obviously, things like effort and enthusiasm matter. But can men HURT from it the same ways women can? That's comparatively rare. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/25 01:37 AM |
| 3 | The idea that women don't enjoy sex, comes from male sexuality being demonize in society.I've had women tell me about their past partners that sucked in bed. Husbands included. They just most likely won't tell them that to their faces. My conjecture includes hookups as well. It's funny watching women trying to work strapons, lol! And those men are ex's who also may have either genuinely sucked or equally humiliated the woman. Especially if the women aren't cruel to current, meaningful partners. Or sometimes women are mean, yeah. I think that one of the areas where men put in more wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/25 09:24 PM |
| 5 | The idea that women don't enjoy sex, comes from male sexuality being demonize in society.Women don't do that to boyfriends or real partners. I am not deflecting, I'm telling the truth. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/25 09:11 PM |
| 7 | The idea that women don't enjoy sex, comes from male sexuality being demonize in society.My guy. If a woman has turned around and said a man was no good, after he showed her a good time in the way you described, how much did he have to degrade and humiliate her for her to start talking trash? I promise you we DO NOT go saying our long term relationship partners who put in effort are no good. What world are you living in? Holy shit. I think you made me realize something. This is why "hookup material" guys get crapped on all the time for their lack of skill and effort. It's because th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/25 09:05 PM |
| 2 | Does virgin-shaming exist?When I was 17, I was dumped by a boy younger than me because I was considered a prude virgin not wanting to do acts with him very quickly. At least he wasn't insulting about it, I guess? Then, after he dumped me, I was called a c*m dumpster by others who didn't know. Yes, all kinds of shaming exists. Try to interact politely with other polite people. That's all we can do. I guarantee you, as a woman, it's just as difficult for me to find someone with compatible views about sex. Some people just … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/25 04:37 PM |
| 6 | If he told you about number of his relationship?I would think he's insecure, which isn't good. Imagine if I thought never having been in a relationship meant I was unwanted. Men would call me desperate, no? Back when I was dating, I was pretty inexperienced. I valued quality over quantity. This is a sign maybe that guy who lied to me doesn't feel the same way. Mistakes happen, maybe. But the point is: it could get awkward when he really doesn't know how to initiate intimate or romantic things with me when he supposedly already did that with o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/25 06:29 PM |
| 11 | CMV: Men frequently lose in life if they are too empathetic towards women and female issuesLiterally.... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/25 09:20 PM |
| 12 | Do you think not using recreational drugs and alcohol can be a barrier to pursuing recreational sex?I'm a married woman. Love the man I married. We can't procreate. So are you telling me we recreationally fuckin? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/25 12:57 AM |
| – | Were the men you've dated whom you approached first more physically attractive than the men you've dated who approached you?I dated when I was younger. Didn't have a problem meeting boys or young men. That's the most convenient time for most people to do such. I learned pretty quickly that boys/men got scared off from girls/women who appeared impatient with them, and that patience was important for me personally too. Yeah, learned that by the time I became a teenager. Already had and lost my first love (I never even kissed him, but he was a good altar boy who became a good man. I tried to be as patient with him as he… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/25 10:42 PM |
| 1 | In certain cases husband material is better than hookup materialHey, if the people you're close to have never been hurt by you, yes that's very important. Way better than being a bad time. I know there are times when good things have to come to an end, even if they didn't turn super bad. That happens. I just try my best in my own life to not have that happen. I find that the odds of 200 good things coming and going are... Astronomical. Haha, sorry. But... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/25 07:08 PM |
| 1 | In certain cases husband material is better than hookup materialNot to e-brag or anything, but i have been with quite some women (almost 200, yes i kept track but that is another story). Trust me, it wasn't taken that way. I think most people want to be with loved ones from lows to highs. That was part of my wedding vows. So long as he keeps his vows and tries to be a good person, I'm there. I find it strange to run away for a low time. After all, you can't run away from yourself. Just fun, relaxing and cool vibes. Yeah that isn't how a single woman has ever… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/25 06:59 PM |
| 1 | In certain cases husband material is better than hookup materialWell i can't have sex by myself now can i? ................... The perks are those, whilst not having to deal with the downsides of a relationship. I enjoy the relationship I have with the love of my life. And I might even have had issues in our life. Downsides to my life exist as they do to yours, but I am glad he's much more than a friend. Moreso, I find that male "friends" who want access to me without responsibility are very unlikely to be safe, kind, and fun. They might even leave me with c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/25 06:44 PM |
| 2 | In certain cases husband material is better than hookup materiali am now only getting and giving the perks. I thought we discussed that? I thought you didn't need a woman for a happy life or money? You're okay without the perks, not that you have them already? No protection is 100%, and I have seen lives ruined when it fails. I absolutely agree that single life can be happy. I believe celibate life can be happy. I believe some people maybe haven't, or won't, find the right person. I just think to act like you are choosing this perfect life with all the perks… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/25 06:25 PM |
| 1 | In certain cases husband material is better than hookup materialI was one of those women who valued purity and commitment. The thought of that double standard about teenage boys and prostitutes frankly angers me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/25 05:58 PM |
| 2 | In certain cases husband material is better than hookup materialSo, having to pump gas in your lady's car a few times is a downside, but the very act that spreads diseases and could get you all that responsibility of a child is NOT a downside? This is 2025. Not 1925. The women you date have fun now because they are taking care of themselves. When they are 80, they will have paid off a house and maybe an investment property and have their own pension (my own personal goals, anyway, these would be the goals if you chose a smart woman). You are working, too, I … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/25 05:55 PM |
| -1 | In certain cases husband material is better than hookup materialIf you actively lived your every week going to catholic mass and confession and praying and learning how to provide for your future wife and children, this would make sense that things are going the way they're supposed to be going. Otherwise? Well, there might be a scenario or two, but I'm not super familiar. I'm more the family type myself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/25 05:38 PM |
| 2 | In certain cases husband material is better than hookup materialI can kind of see this. Like if I met a guy who I knew would be a terrible father and life partner, I would imagine him thinking being a husband is some sort of insult and I would imagine him getting called easy, but I wouldn't be the one caught saying I condone hooking up with that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/25 05:34 PM |
| -3 | In certain cases husband material is better than hookup materialYes, sleeping with many women validates me. But it doesn't though. Virgin men are much better, or at least men who aren't hoes. I gain nothing by knowing a man lied to and manipulated up to hundreds of women previously, abandoning the women and their possible future children afterward for furthering his delusions of control and insecurity. I gain nothing by knowing this man never had an interest in maintaining the type of intimacy that leads to repeat customers. If a young man wants to be looked… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/25 05:30 PM |
| 1 | CMV: it's underhanded for men to keep their assets in their mother's name in case of a breakupI didn't know (much) about that part because obviously that part is only included in the most dore of circumstances. I'm aware of the trend of having some sort of privacy and independence and cushion. That I've seen, years ago in fact. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/25 12:43 AM |
| 1 | CMV: it's underhanded for men to keep their assets in their mother's name in case of a breakupIf you NEED to make excuses for where your money is going... I mean, yes that's a potential safety issue and having funds like that is generally a normal and healthy thing. It's just in my case I work for it and my husband is fine with me being independent and having the same normal amount of cash he has. This "trend" is not just randomly telling women to lie for no reason about what they've spent. It is, in fact, about safety and hopefully it only rarely.comes to that. Separated savings with th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/25 12:34 AM |
| 1 | CMV: it's underhanded for men to keep their assets in their mother's name in case of a breakupI've seen this. Nor so much "cash" (physical) or secret. Sometimes people recommend it be a secret, and I can see why logically but it's not necessary in every situation where finances are already plenty separate and there's independence which I very much believe there should be. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/25 12:20 AM |
| 0 | CMV: it's underhanded for men to keep their assets in their mother's name in case of a breakupWho has cash nowadays? I thought we were talking about separate accounts with funds which is what most people have. There are financial investigators for this thing and I'm not one so I can't tell you how they work. I assume there are ways to be very good at hiding it. Of course it's possible. Never said it wasn't, but that's not the purpose of a typical rainy day fund. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/25 12:16 AM |
| -2 | CMV: it's underhanded for men to keep their assets in their mother's name in case of a breakupYeah that's not a rainy day fund. My rainy day fund is a small amount my husband TOLD ME to set aside away from his access just as he set aside the same for himself. It would come in handy if he pulled some crazy shit, but yet also having money in multiple accounts protects against higher-impact fraud for us as a whole now that we are earning enough to save. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/25 04:45 PM |
| 14 | There's nothing wrong with men not caring as much about the "work and school" of the women they date.Many women DO act like it's a part of you, one part. I promise. Perhaps I could turn that assumption around you and say that men should care because they should care about all parts of a woman at least enough to ask about these things and be supportive. If you have children one day, you should want their mother to be able to give them sound advice on education and maybe even able to take care of those children should something tragic happen to you. No, I guess you can't expect a woman who has mi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/25 04:42 PM |
| -7 | CMV: it's underhanded for men to keep their assets in their mother's name in case of a breakupNot the same thing. Why? Because it's not gendered. Firstly, having 10k tucked away in an account is something that might eventually benefit the whole family if needed in an emergency versus assets no one can touch, for one thing. Secondly, men don't need property worth 300k+ for safety. Most actually don't even have that, and they are safe enough. Most importantly, though, I'm going to repeat what I said first. Women have assets, too, now. Men's 'net worth' is not always higher than the women t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/25 04:25 PM |
| -2 | CMV: it's underhanded for men to keep their assets in their mother's name in case of a breakupRainy day accounts are generally disclosed in divorce proceedings as required by law, and aren't worth upwards of 300K like most homes these days are. Not the same thing. Weird to actively want your spouse to not be contributing and entitled to at least a joint home throughout decades of marriage and maybe kids, but I have to say it's at least more defensible than saying "no you can't have 5000 in an account that only you can touch." I understand that some assets might genuinely be from before a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/25 04:19 PM |
| – | Men are losers if they can’t get a date. Women are losers that can’t get a man to commitWild take. Women need to cultivate themselves, too, to be seen as beautiful, fun, charming, and self-sufficient enough to not be a burden for a man looking for a family. Believe it or not, there are men who don't look at women like pretty butterfly accessories - though even that beauty alone takes cultivation. There are men who see women as people that will contribute to a whole family of their own one day. Do men who post things like this just not have a bunch of female cousins, sisters, or eve… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/25 01:20 PM |
| – | Men having it harder in dating can be true even if dating is a risky, possibly painful and messy thing.And that's how you tell the difference in how men see women based on how a man is treating you. It is observed in behavior. I do think older folks with more experience start full-on relationships potentially including sex faster usually - they have the experience to know more of what they're looking for faster, and they know they don't have time to waste, but at the same time an older man might also be better at fake caring in the early stages. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/25 01:18 AM |
| 1 | Why would a woman want to get married even though men overwhelmingly reap the benefits at the expense of women?Perhaps at a young age I could see this if a coffee shop was right around the corner and people liked coffee/pastries. A lot of adults drive more and date further apart, someone would have to commute and I'm more of a slice of pizza person. Also, if I already met the man and we flirted at a party, I'm more likely to want to wear a dress and have a meeting longer than 30 minutes to progressive things. I know a cute coffee place that also has wine and board games, which would be acceptable for lon… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/25 01:15 AM |
| – | Men having it harder in dating can be true even if dating is a risky, possibly painful and messy thing.And there’s not really a clear way to tell if a random guy “just wants sex”. So this isn't true exactly, at least in my previous experience dating at a younger age. There are young men who want to wait and take it slow when they can tell that a young woman is looking for something more serious. The ones who just want sex will usually bail very fast or at least the attention will be off/on and superficial. I had a pretty easy time telling. Dating later in life when people have a lot more experien… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/25 01:11 AM |
| 1 | Why would a woman want to get married even though men overwhelmingly reap the benefits at the expense of women?My apartment in Cali was indeed overpriced but had a free cabana and pool where you could reserve and invite people for a get together! That's so much better than "would you like to get coffee 20 minutes from your house one early Saturday morning when you normally sleep in?" Groups, people, groups. Could be anywhere, but a potluck at someone's 'home base' is cool to me. If I were single and a new acquaintance wanted to do something like this, that would be the absolute lowest pressure thing and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/25 01:02 AM |
| 1 | The Plummeting Birthrate Is Only Really Going To Only Affect Feminist Women.It's not about men, or decentering men as you put it. It's about the future the children have - perhaps female children. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/25 01:54 PM |
| -1 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceI mean. Yes I'm sure some women aren't great partners? I'm sure it's enough that every person dating encounters that. Same as men, I know. I'm not quite sure how certain narcissistic thinking works - half the time they don't even know themselves. I do get one thing: if you've already been spending a lot of time, they're going to assume it's been of good quality for you unless you've said different. They'll assume you like them if you're always around and you risk getting them pregnant or somethi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 11:47 PM |
| -1 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceSpending time does usually involve hosting, listening, of course showing affection, and other things. Like you said. You've known women to do that. I'm unsure why there would be others who didn't. When I was single, I used to cut things off way before things get to that point with men/boys who didn't understand that relationships work both ways. Started with them pushing for intimacy usually. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 11:38 PM |
| -1 | A large amount of women who want LTRs don’t actually like them in practiceas if I’m supposed to be flattered by that Wait... You're not? The exclusive loyalty and investment of their time and attention just to you? Presumably the listening and getting to know you and good quality talks which eventually may lead to other love languages (knowing each other's preferences and being willing to go all in on all the loving things)? That's not good? Well if that's the case, I'm not sure you'd ever be convinced of a woman wanting a type of relationship you don't. You talk of "… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 11:01 PM |
| 2 | Why would a woman want to get married even though men overwhelmingly reap the benefits at the expense of women?I keep thinking... Wtf do you mean coffee dates or arcades for a low-stakes initial meeting? That's what parties are for - group parties! Low pressure, you can mingle with several people and talk as long as you want but also be free to leave! Have group meets as friends! Getting dressed up to meet ONE person you barely know... And there ain't even food... Rather do a potluck with friends who have things in common. That's got to be the way. Right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 09:17 PM |
| 1 | Why would a woman want to get married even though men overwhelmingly reap the benefits at the expense of women?A few or even two a month is a pretty good chance if it's consistent and the person has been already vetting, I think. None in months? Much tougher. Especially if you consider the reason for not getting enough dates - if the location and the context of where a person spends there time is all wrong. That can be the biggest difficulty. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 08:58 PM |
| 2 | Why would a woman want to get married even though men overwhelmingly reap the benefits at the expense of women?I like the cut of your jib lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 08:37 PM |
| 1 | Why would a woman want to get married even though men overwhelmingly reap the benefits at the expense of women?Is a few dates a month not enough for a man to find a real life partner by the time you are 25, 26? Or is that not the goal for the men in your scenarios? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 08:36 PM |
| 1 | Passport bros, porn, OF, age gap relationships, prostitution and sex robots are all ethical. The only reason why (many) women oppose them is due to threat of intrasexual competitionIt's as I said before. There are clients who try to avoid protection for that sort of activity. And there have been women who "consented." This could potentially cause a public health crisis. And I realize that's not necessarily always going to be the case, but when we start supporting good and healthy choices and especially by punishing those who are violent - which has been many - usually I hope better things can happen. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/25 08:00 PM |
| 1 | Passport bros, porn, OF, age gap relationships, prostitution and sex robots are all ethical. The only reason why (many) women oppose them is due to threat of intrasexual competitionWell what were the workers in parliament fighting for? You're the one who stated it. Historically there have been beatings, harassment, and lack of biological protections. One woman I read about was kicked out of her housing. Those might be some issues. Goes to the motives of common clients which creates an inherently unethical, unequal, environment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/25 05:09 PM |
| 1 | Passport bros, porn, OF, age gap relationships, prostitution and sex robots are all ethical. The only reason why (many) women oppose them is due to threat of intrasexual competitionWhat you've described is people making an attempt to fix what I imagine are serious existing problems. That doesn't negate the fact that polite society and respect is not enough, on its own, for sex workers to have good basic working conditions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/25 04:49 PM |
| 1 | Passport bros, porn, OF, age gap relationships, prostitution and sex robots are all ethical. The only reason why (many) women oppose them is due to threat of intrasexual competitionI agree that sex work is stigmatized in many parts of the world. I made it clear that I think it should be glorified, not stigmatized. But that's simply never going to happen, and you might want to consider some of the possible reasons why. Personally, I think there's a reason why capitalists talk about not mixing business with pleasure as one tends to be adversarial and the other tends to be collaborative. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/25 04:31 PM |
| 1 | Passport bros, porn, OF, age gap relationships, prostitution and sex robots are all ethical. The only reason why (many) women oppose them is due to threat of intrasexual competitionYes, you are human and are a valuable part of society. Some women do want to devote their lives to men's sexual gratification, and they should be seen as valuable and celebrated for doing this. If you are not one of them, you don't have to participate in it, no one is forcing you. What is your issue with this? Yeah you're not living in reality. Human trafficking is a real and horrible thing, especially in countries where women don't have economic support/freedom/liberty. It is not separate to wi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/25 03:57 PM |
| – | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵A lot of guys do the push/pull thing naturally through teasing their wives and not making themselves too available/not being afraid to piss her off, but these concepts are foreign to the dudes I’m speaking about. That's strange. No. I've not seen a happily married man do that. I don't get it lol, sorry! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/25 03:50 PM |
| 1 | Passport bros, porn, OF, age gap relationships, prostitution and sex robots are all ethical. The only reason why (many) women oppose them is due to threat of intrasexual competitionAlso, you seem to be ignoring that they provide a valuable service (sexual gratification) to society. To men, almost entirely, you mean, at the expense of women's physical health and well-being. When a road worker or a soldier dies for their country, they are a public servant who is mourned or a hero. When a construction worker dies building a hospital, we all do what we can to make things safer but we know that we need hospitals and we appreciate it. If your mother provides a service to men, th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/25 09:43 AM |
| 1 | Passport bros, porn, OF, age gap relationships, prostitution and sex robots are all ethical. The only reason why (many) women oppose them is due to threat of intrasexual competitionI just explained to you in another comment why there might be a gendered divide. It is your gender who is OK purchasing the unthinkable. It is women, much more often, who are purchased. The men I know in person who were purchased for this purpose are equally haunted. We know the place where we might end up if we capitulate to such conditions. We know what might happen to our woman loved ones, that at least some of them would never want it, and we want the system to handle such a dispute in a cou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/25 03:22 AM |
| 1 | Passport bros, porn, OF, age gap relationships, prostitution and sex robots are all ethical. The only reason why (many) women oppose them is due to threat of intrasexual competitionPlenty of women enjoy pleasuring men for money, and plenty of men enjoy getting pleasured for money. Don't assume everyone is like you. Really think about what you gendered here... And the fact that women DON'T at large want this. It truly isn't personal to me. It's a matter of vast majority and people with women family members in their lives know this. Don't assume everyone is like you. Yes. I know this. There will be a few who deal much differently. However, most of my loved ones and your love… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/25 03:12 AM |
| 1 | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵Push/pull is normal in a relationship? What does that mean and how do you figure? I mean, you have to discuss things every now and then, but the perfect parts are the fun parts. Life gets in the way sure, but saying no when you could've before said yes JUST so you can argue is so silly, right? But then again, I also can't imagine an intimately dead marriage for a long time for no good reason. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/25 01:34 AM |
| 2 | Do men have an incentive to be 100% honest when dating?That's a very important thing to lie about. Imagine you were a virgin and serious about a woman and she lied to YOU about this. Empathy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/25 01:32 AM |
| – | Most common reasons for divorce according divorce attorneys. Does this match your experience?Lobster too buttery and steak too juicy, my guy? Lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/25 01:27 AM |
| 1 | A lot of you have really conflicting values. What are your core preferences?I mean, the question was asked here? Basically NONE of the complainers can be seen in this thread saying an opposite preference? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/25 01:19 AM |
| 1 | A lot of you have really conflicting values. What are your core preferences?Y'all getting paid maternity leave?!?!?! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/25 01:18 AM |
| 0 | Passport bros, porn, OF, age gap relationships, prostitution and sex robots are all ethical. The only reason why (many) women oppose them is due to threat of intrasexual competitionYou already know why. If you have ever cared for a female family member and you imagine them in this position having their bodies bought by someone who can provide survival to your family through the purchase, you already know why that's a disgrace. Assault is illegal for a reason. People don't generally want to base their intimate acts on anything other than care and connection, but even if some rare woman wanted such a transaction, wouldn't any man want to not choose the partner who demands mo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/25 12:47 AM |
| -1 | Passport bros, porn, OF, age gap relationships, prostitution and sex robots are all ethical. The only reason why (many) women oppose them is due to threat of intrasexual competitionMy bro. Can someone pay your daughter/mother/sister/niece to disgrace her? No? Of course not. Thread closed, come off your nonsense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/25 11:33 PM |
| 2 | It’s not creepy for men to want to sleep with or date their friendsIt's not creepy to have feelings for a friend who's a really great person. It's creepy to call someone a "friend with benefits" when you're nice to them just for your own, usually one-sided benefit. I noticed you said 'sleep with OR date.' Watching your so-called 'friend' become a single mother to your own child when you never even dated them? Sorry to say, not gentlemanly behavior or fatherly behavior. Sex has risks. It's not nothing. Do it with people you care about. Don't do it because of a f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/25 11:29 PM |
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